DATING TIPS FROM AN ORTHODOX JEWISH WOMAN

[@Yehonatan613]

Also, when you get to know someone's neshama & see the beauty of their neshama, more often than not, their physical appearance becomes more attractive by default, in psychology there's a similar concept called "the mere exposure effect". When fall in love with a person's neshama, they become physically beautiful to you too, it grows on the person.

[@JustKate43]

100 percent. Date with your mind! I figured this out 5 years ago. If we get intimate with someone first before knowing them and commitment made, it could turn out to be a disaster. Two become one flesh, if it’s the wrong one, it’s like the tearing apart of the flesh afterwards. That’s why breakups are so painful. Thanks for this wisdom. B’H

[@DA-ln5kz]

You are a very wise lady and an excellent teacher!

[@mujinya-il4lr]

I have loved your teaching

[@savantchops]

Liel is wise way beyond her years !

[@philemon1]

This is the wisest video on dating I've watched in a while. Thank you! I feel that I have "felt" my beshert's soul for two years. I am a therapist, thus I am familiar with projection, but what I feel is different. Is that even possible?!

[@emunahashem]

Thankyou so much! I’m happy you think so ❤️ For sure, could definitely be! May God bless you to find the right one for you at the best time for you, and May you have a most beautiful marriage as well 🥰

[@surilevy2079]

You are terrific!

[@Yehonatan613]

There's an aveyra crisis & a tuma crisis. Teshuva, Dveykut to Hashem is THE only answer to ALL our problems.

[@mujinya-il4lr]

Thank you so much for your advice

[@beneficentbeatri]

Liel! Thank you so much for this video. I am so grateful to be able to learn so much from you and your videos! I am a Noahide and do not live close to a jewish community/know many jews personally but I know that the truths and wisdom that Hashem bestows upon you as His chosen people are the only TRUTH. All the answers that me and everyone on our earth are sreking for in this world is in His Torah! I live surrounded by people who gets hurt and falls into the destructive habits of dating, but personally I have always searched for more. What I have found learning from you and the Jewish people my soul knows holds the ultimate truth! Thank you so much and I am taking these words of wisdom to heart! Please keep making your videos, you are truly changing lives! ❤

[@KinatHashem]

What a stunning comment, God bless you

[@emunahashem]

Hello beautiful!! This is one of the most touching messages I’ve ever received. Thankyou so so much. Baruch HaShem for specials souls like you who see the truth and pursue it. You are one of a kind and give the Creator of the world such pride and joy. May all righteous gentiles follow in this path. Thankyou for taking the time to write me. It truly made my day. Inspires me to keep going. May HaShem bless you immensely always, and May your journey to finding your soulmate be filled with pure sweetness and clarity. May God always protect you. Much love and gratitude to you. Thankyou for your encouraging message. Truly means the world to me.

[@beneficentbeatri]

@@emunahashem ah Baruch Hashem! Thank you for these beautiful blessings!

[@raeraearae]

I would describe myself as a liberal Christian, and have for some time now, but lately God has stirred a love for the Jewish faith. I still would describe myself as liberal in some senses, but this free world is so confusing and full of lies - the grass is definitely not greener that side! I’ve been led to read the book of Jeremiah where many times God uses Jeremiah to warn Kings etal. about the priests and prophets - how they kept lying and only told the people what they wanted to hear. Thank you for sharing truth my friend, in a world full of lies and false prophets. You explain why certain practices that I would usually disagree with are actually really important. Thank you 🙏🏻

[@emunahashem]

Thankyou for your message! Great way to put it, “the free world is full of lies and the grass is definitely not greener on that side”. 100% agree. Following Gods path May come with resistance, but it’s the only true fulfillment. And yes! Jeremiah warned constantly but no one listened :( As king Soloman says, “there’s nothing new under the sun”. Throughout all of time, humanity repeats the same story just in a slightly different scene. I’m happy to have helped 🤗 God bless you

[@Yehonatan613]

חזק וברוך, May Hashem bless the blesser.

[@Yehonatan613]

Everything is taluy on teshuva & specifically on the man doing teshuva like it says at the end of tikun 14 of tikunei zohar that if the man brings healing to himself through teshuva, then mida keneged mida Hashem gives the man his true soulmate who heals his neshama

[@happy.proverbs.reader]

The two strongest forces outside of G-d that builds cosmic attraction is honesty and positivity. I’ve met people who married late because they were positive at a surface level but not at a social tolerance and outsider fringe empathy level. Total positivity leads to marriage. I was late in dating cause I had difficulty forgiving adversaries but now I’m in a stable chastity bond with a man.

[@debbiefiuza]

Your voice is so clear. Thank you

[@emunahashem]

Thankyou so much debbie 🤗 I appreciate it bH

[@sergenilchian4543]

Most excellent perspective 100 ! :) Thank you for your video -quite a nice gift!

[@emunahashem]

Thankyou so much! I’m happy to hear that, appreciate the message 🤗

[@Yehonatan613]

Aveyrot, klippot & kitrugim are the ONLY things holding us back from our true soulmates. Therefore teshuva, conquering y'hara tefila & torah are THE ONLY remedy.

[@emunahashem]

AMEN, exactly. Our change (teshuva) is the only thing that will make a change

[@Yehonatan613]

​@@emunahashem amen

[@ericthomasanderson5025]

thank you, that was amazing!

[@MrGavriel1982]

Mitzvah Gedolah L'hiot B'simcha Tamid !!

[@Yehonatan613]

A lot of shadchanim & even rabbonim say to settle, but the neshama just knows

[@emunahashem]

Yes, older people tell you to stop looking for the perfect person, and i always want to tell them, we all know we're not perfect and we are not looking for the perfect person but we will not settle, which they very much pressure you into

[@Yehonatan613]

You also don't want to do that to your future spouse & future children, being with someone you don't genuinely respect/admire or share the same values with will lead to a lot of not good things

[@emunahashem]

For sure, there's a reason so many marriages are broken today. There's not connection of the mind. Especially without torah and HaShem, there is no higher purpose which should be the main drive behind a good marriage

[@Yehonatan613]

@@emunahashem amen. May Hashem send you your true ben-zug at the right time whom together you will build a mini beit hamikdash a place for Him with tzadikim tzadkaniot talmidei chachamim in love with Hashem

[@Rory-nn3og]

Thank you so much for your video! You have such a beautiful soul. Could you maybe do a video on how we can know if they are the right one? Also, do you think it is possible to already have met your soulmate but that one or both are not ready yet and need to do the work, and then get married?

[@emunahashem]

Thankyou so much for your message bH! Yess!! That’s a great idea! I’ll definitely make a video on that Godwilling. And for sure! One of my friends who recently got married had gone on a date with her now husband 3 years ago but they didn’t like each other then. 2.5 years later they met at an event again, and tried to go out again,and this time it worked out and now they’re married. Most definitely many times it could be that we met the one but one or both weren’t ready yet. It also happens that God waits till you’re both ready to meet for the first time even.

[@FeminineRose]

❤❤❤

[@Yehonatan613]

This video is very hashgacha pratit for me

[@emunahashem]

Im glad BH. Many people have come to me and messaged me for advice on this lately, i thought id make a video.

[@gpk7683]

Oh to have been born a Jew. I will share your video with my family.

[@leratommutle6139]

I'm a Christian but I'm watching this. I don't feel like I'm settling. I have met Christian guys who bore me to death. Now I have met someone whom I have chemistry etc but he's Muslim, we aren't even dating.

[@socialdiving2305]

And what abot for those non believers?

[@emunahashem]

Become believers. Most times it’s the false beliefs systems about the Creator that you are taught that I don’t believe in either. “The god you don’t believe in I don’t believe in either”. Build a bond with the true Source. Seek the truth. For a healthy abundant relationship with a spouse, there needs to be something greater at play. Without that Higher power, a peaceful purposeful marriage is very difficult.

[@socialdiving2305]

@@emunahashem well, i found that language more relevant than those from old books. There really is something "higher" or "wieder" then man

[@Yehonatan613]

People give advice from the [spiritual] place in which they stand. Someone who isn't in love with Hashem/is distant from Hashem, will not give pure advice, the opposite, they will give advice from a place of tuma and advice that causes distance from Hashem. Not for nothing Dovid HaMelech opens tehilim with "praiseworthy is the person who doesn't go in the advice of reshaim". Just like the milk of a nonkosher animal, is also not kosher "כל היוצא מהטמא, טמא" Same with ppl's advice. With all due respect to grandpa asur on all levels to listen or give validity to his eitza. The more kedusha, the more person mekaven to Hashem's truth, hence Deuteronomy 17:10 "from that place" bc the kedusha of har haBayit caused them always to be mekaven to the emet.

[@MrsJeann1]

🤍

[@bigdog4166]

Idk seems like a modern woman thought process problem. Unless your shadchan has showed some guys to you who are clearly not on your level in terms of hashkafa or are complete opposite to you and you've gone out with them okay then it makes some sense ( I'm not talking about them aligning with a laundry list of qualities and if they don't no date) I notice a lot of girls go on one date and say no to a second for a minor problem. The main concern is this idea of "not settling" many people want mr or mrs perfect and if theres just one thing for example their height or their income or a litany of other things they say they're not bashert. It most likely explains the shidduch crisis women trying to get men who every other woman wants and then they end up with no husband if a guy is good you really should not be thinking "I could get someone better". Sadly like a lot of BT girls they take on the mitzvahs without the mindset. I believe a lot of the things you have said come from western feminist ideologies not congruent with being an eshes chayil. Ultimately from what ive seen in this video you should listen to the people and most likely women around you telling you these things you don't agree with (minus what your grandfather said) this is just my observation if you have a response please feel free to explain maybe my observations were incorrect.

[@emunahashem]

My definition of settling is giving up your non negotiables and red flags to “just get married”. I see it a lot. Ofc we cannot be overly picky. No one expects to find the perfect person, that simply doesn’t exist. I think I mentioned that. But when it comes to choosing the one you will Godwilling spend the rest of your life with, we should not give up the things that mean most to us, mainly bc it’s those exact things that cause shalom bayit issues in the future. I see it clear as day with couples. The things they didn’t agree on while dating become much more major when kids come into the picture and create strife. I hope that clarifies my stance. I try to align all that I say with Torah. I don’t believe it’s “a feminist value” nor that I keep the mitzvos without the mindset. Really, I’m very traditional in my values. An eshit chayil above all else knows her worth as a bat melech, and won’t settle for anything less than what the daughter of the King should have. We shouldn’t be picky, and care about the things that don’t matter. But what I’m talking about is the core values that we each have, we should never settle in those. And to think that way, I believe is the farthest thing from a feminist ideology, which on the contrary promotes women not knowing their true worth and giving up traditional Torah values. I hope that cleared up my position.

[@bigdog4166]

​@@emunahashemIt did, thank you for your detailed response and explanation.

[@personanongrata7976]

Except the Lord keep the city....