Day in the life of a loner with no friends in university. (this sucks)

[@Adastralxng]

If this comment gets 100 likes, my GF will truly agree to marry me in Florida. 💍♡ GF’s Name: Ceana M. Kureekattil 🌹♥️

[@Marifilms]

@@Adastralxng guys like it up. 😃

[@N0N.o]

Wasn't the last pinned comment something different

[@Ramses-j6w]

"yo babe if i get 100 likes on this comment will u marry me"

[@D3STRUCTOR_]

This is so weird. On the internet I always see so many people in the same situation like me, sad, alone, insolated and cannot socially connect but when I go outside, go to school or go to the gym I have never in my life have seen a person with the same problem as me. Everybody has friends and friends groups/big social circle.

[@nick_nt7574]

It's like, unless you already had joined a clique from many years ago, it's so hard to join or form a bond with someone who's unwilling to accept new people in their lives. You'd have to be in a groove with them to continue with life, otherwise you're just searching for a connection, to be seen and heard.

[@AustinTheWeenieTickler]

There's a lot of us out there, we're just hidden.

[@wannabeactress9256]

@AustinTheWeenieTicklerwhere y’all at homies???😫

[@klpigbighh]

Lmao right

[@soupdrinker]

Because loners are so unnoticed, we are almost invisible and you don't even know

[@bigbrungus5284]

People say university is your best shot at making long-lasting friends but if that's true then we're well and truly cooked. I'm now on my fourth year and I've spoken to and gotten along well with other students over the years but it's so hard to find genuine friendship beyond the classroom or lab. At my school the terms last 10 weeks and it's hard to get to know people on a personal level. Also past your sophomore year it's almost impossible to find friends or partners since everyone else has already found their own groups. Idk if anyone else has had this experience but I really wanted to share

[@Mens-Wisdom]

Unfortunately not true. Your graduation will be the last time you see any of them.

[@bigotes20random86]

Bro woke up and chose to speak facts

[@irishkk88]

Ive never heard that. It's not true at all. Im 36, I and almost everyone i know went to college. Not a single one of us maintain contact with college friends. They're temporary. Think about it- everyone either goes back home or onto another college to continue studying. No one LIVES at college forever.

[@Dennisthe-g3m]

join a frat bud

[@smegma-ih5ds]

​@@irishkk88what about your school friends

[@Funkylover-sl7ew]

how come in the 90s aproaching people was cool nowadays aproaching people seems like a crime lol where did we go wrong

[@RedpillRealist17]

Idk

[@emptyhad2571]

Social media plays a large factor.

[@caffeineseraphim]

Social media and stuff

[@my.ceiling.is.ugly..]

it's not a crime it's called being an introvert

[@subliminalmindfuck454]

@@my.ceiling.is.ugly..lol there’s a difference between being an introvert and actually socially awkward. The dude in the video seems more socially awkward. You can be an introvert and not socially anxious.

[@Tetra_Elementra]

It's insanely hard to do assignments/homework when you're lonely. Or isolating yourself at home without friends outside school

[@Tetra_Elementra]

Im really isolated and have 0 friends

[@1qmik]

​@@Tetra_Elementrasame bro

[@engineer44-s6n]

it hits me hard cuz no one help you .same situation where are you from and which university do you study

[@Tetra_Elementra]

@@engineer44-s6n I go to college in Denmark. I'm only 17 years old. I'm just horrible at keeping in touch and initiating conversations etc. I'm an NPC!

[@yung_Latios]

I dropped out. I was just wasting my time

[@ThisTooShallPassYEP]

I am also in uni, sitting alone, eating alone, walking alone. It is what it is. Loved the video ❤ lonely gang united!!! :)

[@ziliflax4689]

same here, i try to meet new people but it's just not convincing that almost anyone I attempt to approach has an earbud on and it makes me second guess. Maybe remove your earbuds when you're in public to be more approachable😅

[@ADPax]

your KZbin handle is literally the name of a music track I play, just to get over this feeling. "This Too Shall Pass" by Scott Buckley.

[@reginafisher9919]

It's fine, because most people are crazy anyway, no one needs enemies.

[@reginafisher9919]

Half the people in America are absolutely insane anyway we just found that out. You're probably better off alone. Most people just want something from you.

[@Yurimeri999]

People watch you like a complete loser 😂😂😂😂

[@knotknight514]

everyone saying "just talk to people lmao" like, it isn't that easy. Maybe for you it is, but for me it's not. My brain is constantly telling me that no one would want me around and that I would just make their day worse if I tried to actually like, hangout with people. I literally can't ever talk to someone, they have to approach me first.

[@omni-galachu9684]

Facts

[@otacon6566]

@knotknight514 You have to shut that voice up. No one is saying that to you. You're saying that to yourself & it's gotten to that ugly point where you believe that voice. You have to push out of that zone & just say hi to someone. It'll be difficult at first, but it's no different than a work out. It gets easier but you have to keep doing it, even just a little. That voice is just low-self esteem built up over time due to something in the past & whatever that is it's not you as a person. It's an experience you had. It's unfortunate & not fair at all, but life isn't ever going to be fair. The good news about that is you're not alone. Everyone, including myself, has something like that in their past. You have to be your own coach & realize everyone your around has things going on & they're just better at hiding it. That's all. You can do this. Take sometime to remember what you love & hobbies you enjoy & find someone that likes those same things. If you can't I promise you'll find someone that is sharing that same isolated life-style & you can be that person to help get them out of it just by simply making a phone call & saying hi & asking how their day is. People want this. No matter what you think they want this. GOD Bless. You're not as alone you think. You're going to make it.

[@azubruh8787]

Real. If somebody got business with me, they speak to me. I won't approach nobody anymore

[@alexbeck8564]

Just ask people how they are doing. Works in almost any case. It helped me a ton. Trust me it really works. If you are sitting next to someone at school or even elsewhere just ask "Hey, hello how are you doing?"

[@MTC-hy6ig]

Then tell it to shush. I know what that feeling is but please dont let that control you, most people are really chill and wouldn't mind talking to you. Take it from me, dont worry about a thing.

[@heavymetal1ization]

Start rock climbing. It's the perfect hobby for socially inept nerds, speaking from experience. You can show up, climb by yourself and then go home until you work up the courage to talk to the person climbing the same route as you some day. It's seriously so free, made all of my friends from uni from rock climbing and I still talk to a lot of them today. I don't even climb anymore. Your uni probably has a club, seriously give it some consideration

[@naylisyazwina6836]

Bruh this is how you die faster

[@naylisyazwina6836]

Why men die:

[@heavymetal1ization]

@@naylisyazwina6836 You're thinking of outdoor climbing, indoor is perfectly safe. There were also a bunch of women there

[@arachnid4910]

We’re full sorry

[@snailbert147]

Wait that's crazy my uni has a rock climbing club and I joined it for the same reason 😮

[@XXIII_Kal]

Being lonely/alone is so upsetting. I’m a 2nd year and I have 0 friends at my uni. I’m so lonely and isolated now. Doesn’t help no one tries to talk to me either at uni. Most people already have their groups established and so it’s honestly too late for me. Doesn’t help idk how to talk to people and I have social phobia. University really sucks because of the loneliness and how alone I am. Makes me want to drop out ngl.

[@june5831]

Everyone made friends on the first day of school, that's usually how you make friends where I live in any school environment, even at university. Even I managed to get a group of four people to be friends with. As the semesters went by, my group disbanded. Two friends gave up, I failed several subjects and to make up for it I lost contact with the other two, they continued with the same class and I had to attend classes in a totally different schedule. And I never made friends with anyone again.

[@otacon6566]

@XXIII_Kal Friendships are very similar to dating. Sometimes you have to be the one the one that makes the move to say hi. It's not to late for you either. It never will be. Take some time to honestly remember what hobbies you love & be open to try new things. You need to build up some confidence & one of the best ways you can do that is by knowing & loving who you are. You are a person just like the rest of us & I promise you're not alone in this. Even the people you see in those groups I promise they go home & feel the same way you do because they only get to talk to those friends when you see them talk to them. The times they do go out are not as much as you think. Social phobia is difficult because in a way you are, let's admit it, essentially attempting to read minds of others without being aware of it. "They won't/don't like me, they think I'm stupid, etc." Or it's garbage self talk, "I'm not smart, I don't have the nicest close, etc." Or it's a mix between both. The first one. Stop "reading minds." If you walked up to someone & said, "you don't like me." I guarantee you there going to think that's wierd & maybe even feel sorry for you. Right? You're talking to a complete stranger who doesn't know you & isn't thinking about you & there you are saying what "there thinking" which is a lie you made up in the first place to yourself & then projected it onto others. You & I both know that's insane. You need to have self esteem in the fact you are a person & you're not any different than others. You have opportunities left & right to bring you to the table. You need to act confident & happy & say hi to just a few people. Walk up to them & just ask how they're doing. If you meet that one person that says, "what are talking to for?" That says more about their trash socialization skills than yours. That's a person who has way to big of an ego. You don't need them. I believe in you. You can do this. GOD Bless.

[@gaza7489]

My advice join a group or club like band also go to office hours as a stem major I would have done so much better in my courses if I had just went to the professor. It might feel awkward or uncomfortable to do this but believe me your professors and your peers will respect you for it even if you sound like an idiot. Remember you are not a island and you need people to support you throughout live Good luck and don’t give up.

[@xxjoeyladxx]

You might hate it, but we love you. You're awesome. At 25, I've struggled with loneliness for a long time. I haven't had a GF yet, but keep going. I believe there's a better time when all of our dreams come true.

[@EvilBard666]

Its over bro

[@AverageBando]

@@EvilBard666 man shut

[@jayveexd]

@@EvilBard666 😂😂😂😂

[@EvilBard666]

@@jayveexd his coping is just pathetic man...

[@TriplePJ]

​@@EvilBard666With a name like yours, it's easy to see what kind of person you are. Only weak people put others down.

[@YourAgentDoge]

This video is basically my life in a nutshell. Especially that "I know I'll be homeless in a few years" fitting accurate description for my future lol.

[@brandongaribaldi8365]

Didn't connect with anybody at my University either

[@JohnStevens5118]

theeraaaapppyyyyyyyy

[@carlmaster9690]

You're better off! Most people at universities in the Western World are full of themselves and think their something they aren't! Don't get roped in!

[@yung_Latios]

@BritishGovernment1815 Therapy's a scam

[@Afton_of_2006]

Neither did I

[@matt815]

@@JohnStevens5118 What?

[@Kkrgss]

My life but I’m in highscool

[@ValentinoKing-x9e]

hi im a big fan of u

[@ValentinoKing-x9e]

hehe

[@terrariagaminggaming]

meow

[@Marifilms]

@@Kkrgss got inspired by ur vid to make my own version. Hope you don’t mind :)

[@Archimedes-v2o]

I thought it would get better in college.. I suppose I’ll be alone forever

[@IsaacFoster..]

I had friends but they were all fake. So choose to stay alone. Its sucks but better than having those "friends"

[@Solarstretch-x2c]

Same. There were people that always used to act nice towards me, only to make me pay for their snacks and for their friends' too. I really hate letting people take advantage of me just to have at least someone. Good thing I realised that they're not worth it. I'm not worth it. Being alone is at least better than that. I don't have problems being alone, but society does. You're always expected to have at least one friend. But reality is different.

[@IsaacFoster..]

@@Solarstretch-x2c Never listen to those who tell you that you "need" a friend. Sure, having someone you can get along with is awesome, but you shouldn't depend on friendships to be happy. One can never be truly happy unless he can be happy on his own; those who emotionally depend on others are modern slaves, cogs in the current society's conflicting structure. I'm glad you're aware and experienced about this and I'm sorry if I rambled too much but, be safe out there friend.

[@Solarstretch-x2c]

@@IsaacFoster.. Thank you so much. You literally couldn't say it any better. It's sad, but true. We shouldn't depend on others, because eventually it's going to hurt.

[@RamblinEvilJug]

Bros sadmaxxing?

[@waydevanniekerk7886]

I was fortunate enough to actually have a group to hang with in my university years. I would have been a loner just like you, and to be honest there were times when I was sitting alone, but if not for an extremely extroverted individual in my first year, I met a group of amazing people who respected my awkwardness and were chill with me being around. We had nothing in common, and most of the time i kept to myself but they allowed me to feel involved or wanted. They were funny and kind, and even though I don't see them as often after graduating, I still respect and appreciate their kindness and support. Im truly grateful for them

[@quinnnermoo]

goofy ahh tip as a fellow loner: ppl get curious about the stuff you pull out of your bag. it tells them about your personality, and letting ppl see whats in there is a super subtle way to be more approachable.

[@quinnnermoo]

also if you ever see someone wearing merch or like with a waterbottle sticker of one of your interests, ask em about it, its a great way to find someone to yap with.

[@WHYISEVERYHANDLEALREADYTAKEN9]

Omg this is such a good tip

[@user272-28]

My university experience was the same as yours. I got a stable job now, all my co workers are old and I can’t relate to them at all. Life only gets worse, and I just learned to accept loneliness.

[@Markovka137]

I relate too!

[@ham5483]

Ive worked around old people my whole life, it sucks

[@snailbert147]

Brother it gets better. Keep your head up and work on your confidence friend ❤

[@liamcraddock9539]

Doesn't exactly sound like a solution.

[@user272-28]

@ life only gets better if you take action. I haven’t been doing a lot of action in the past years. I’m currently working in my confidence and working out, saving my money up too. I’ll see how my life goes.

[@masch_123]

0:35 literally join them. just go up and say "hey can i play"? why would they say no? and if they for some reason do say no, so what? you can just move on and try again. keep at it and u will find friends

[@justanothermortal1373]

Even if you play with them a while, there is no guarantee that they will want to keep staying friends with you. I socialise with people at uni all the time, but none of them ever stick. I don't want one-day friendships. I want people who want to meet me often and check up on me. I am sick of just being friendly to people who aren't interested in interacting with me again. You are best friends with them for one day and they forget you the next even when you'd like to see them again. Loneliness sucks. I just want to go home.

[@yeknomism]

yeah lol, thats how most introverted/lonely people become more confident, i can kinda understand why people don’t wanna do it though

[@ayuwoki762]

​@@justanothermortal1373It's totally acceptable the way you're thinking. But, the thing is, the author of the video is just commenting on how others will think he's weird and his preference on staying away from social interaction. One thing is that you don't have friends, and the other is that you are keeping yourself away from making any social interaction. I DO not have friends, but I don't have the insecurity to speak to other people; I don't like them? They don't like me? Who cares. If I do it, the problem is not if I'm insecure, the problem is just that, I simply can't get along with most of the people. And that's ok.

[@bxrcode4898]

You don't know people.

[@MasterporkyMinch]

I mean I’m not athletic so I probably wouldn’t join besides people would judge me for being so pathetic looking I’m not taking that chance .

[@ZanIsTheMan21]

Hey man, I just got out of college and randomly met the girl of my dreams a couple weeks ago. I honestly thought for the longest time love doesn’t exist. But you know what, it actually does and I’m so blessed for it! I know it will happen to you someday man! Keep the faith!

[@marcowulliampopirers2216]

i don't want to bring you down but don't get too attached and excited about her it's only been a couple of weeks you barely know her

[@ZanIsTheMan21]

@ man I’ve known her for almost three months now and trust me we both have our own lives.

[@NANA-kd7yg]

Going go uni is a very positive step in your life. You will make friends, don't force it. Let it happen, naturally.

[@jesusgarciatorres9975]

I mean , this guy think he IS weird and dont join to the group of guys playing with the ball for that , he need to forced It.

[@DeOngezelligGarnaal]

This is the sad reality for 60% to 80% of men in the west.

[@slazeblaze319]

60% that’s way too low

[@mosfet_737]

yeah I'd be miserable too if I had a 40 minute commute

[@vaishnavivaish2554]

This hits home. Im in university, staying away from my home and i dont seem to fit in anywhere i feel like people are just tolerating me for the sake of it. I have breakfast, lunch and dinner alone. My roommate shifted to another room as well and she didn't even tell me why and its pretty lonely. Theres no point in getting good grades and stuff when youre just lonely deep down 😔😔

[@Y2k90s]

Bro congrats on your midterm! I scored a 96 on mine recently!! Please talk to at least one person you are not as wired as you think!❤

[@taiyochan8015]

I’m a loner at uni and I really love it, I only focus on studying in lectures and in my free time i just walk around following cats or chill at the library reading a book or watching something, it’s really calm and peaceful, of course there are times when I feel too self conscious because I’m alone but it’s alright I’m used to it now so it’s not as bad, if you don’t plan on trying to make friends you can try to accept and enjoy being alone and find new stuff to do by yourself as a plan b, that’s just my personal experience and recommendation though

[@ImEmpath]

Your videos are like therapy for me it’s like a coping mechanism thank you so much Mari ❤ i can relate to you im 22 and i have no friends people are so judgemental i don’t blame you for not talking to anyone because i feel the same too and you don’t have too talk to anyone people are so rude most of the time anyways

[@realSaintJules]

I’m in a very similar situation but in the Army. After high school I lived as a shut-in only leaving my apartment to work or for groceries until I was 25 when I enlisted. It’s hard for me to socialize because I kinda just… forgot how to, I guess. Doesn’t help that I don’t understand people in this generation either.

[@Solarstretch-x2c]

This is literally my everyday school routine, and it's been like this FOR YEARS.

[@Pixelkris-g8i]

You're so chill bro 👌🏻🛹

[@AliKhan-zx4mn]

The world is more evil than good.... Actually did great on sole assignments.....I got low and fails in group assignments because their sections were utter crap. Your life is peaceful.....I kinda do that at work....but yh a laugh with someone makes me lift my mood.

[@TheMotherOfBambi]

Look I cannot make any assumptions about anyone's situation so take what im about to say with a grain of salt but I used to be like that too in uni, always sitting alone, always going to the back of the class, always leaving as soon as the lecture was over and honestly it was like a defense mechanism to avoid being rejected. If im the one isolating myself then its not that nobody wants to be my friend, its my choice. I fear that if you want friends, you're going to have to put yourself through that horribly awkward ordeal of Trying or just saying Hey, and not isolating yourself. I found saying hi to other loners was a good way to go because they're probably also looking for friendly people but dont know how to approach them. Believe me when I say i get it, I was one of you, and even now I love my own company and only seek other people if they're worth my time and effort and social battery...but you never know if there's someone out there who could be your friend unless you "put yourself out there" even a little bit..

[@kirankalshoven3574]

As a university student with a social circle of close friends and wholesome connections. You’ve just got to put yourself out there more, go to more socials, let people get used to you being around; approaching people isn’t a crime, if they think you’re weird then they’re not the friends for you, but it’s all about not giving up and continuing to put yourself out there and acknowledging people, even if it’s just a simple smile and hello. I used to be shy but then I learnt there’s no shame inviting yourself to socials and including yourself in things. I hope this helps 🙏🏽🧡

[@coolgainz9307]

Yeah true, I recently went to an event and I didn’t know anybody and I was scared so I was like you know what lemme approach some new people which I did and made 4 new friends but now I’m kinda close with one of my friends who is a girl who lives in the same dorm as me, it’s all about trusting God and letting God give you strength

[@sebestein09]

yeah same here , on my first day on uni i went to talk to a former classmate from middle that ended up with me , then i met some people from my groups and from there we just talked and got to know each other. it's not hard if you're a normal person and dont act weird

[@giganticmoon]

i used to be lonely too, but honestly, truly, embrace your quirks. it makes you unique, and if there’s nobody who enjoys what you enjoy, then branch out

[@KaterinUA5]

Ironically, as I grow up, I learned to be a lone wolf. Sure, you can have loyal and caring friends. But I also learned that people like to be with people who know their purpose and way in life. Also, the most important question to ask while looking in the mirror is "could you be your best friend". So keep the progress, the best days are those not wasted

[@Smartacus420]

Bro im 31 now but when I went to college I spent my breaks in a bathroom sat on a toilet on my phone cus I had nobody to chill with or anything to do and was too embarassed to be seen alone. I barely slept at night either, so a lot of the time id put a hoody on the tank and sit backwards on the toilet so i could sleep. It sucked, but life gets better. And there are positives. I can live and be happy without any human contact. I learned to live off of internal validation. I feel like im happier than most because of it.

[@piero3572]

As you grow older you just feel the need to keep your energy to yourself and avoid interactions as time goes by

[@uhhuh5934]

Well we're in this together! I just started uni at 25, an old man compared to the rest of em', Yeah forming connections is as difficult for me as ever, I just don't get what they want from me. There's a few people hovering around me but I don't feel much for them. I can befriend people at first but then I get lazy/reclusive until they give up on me.

[@serenasommer9541]

If you want friends, I'd honestly recommend going to a campus event that seems interesting or a club of something you're into. I'd look for people you find interesting, maybe just one person or maybe two people together. Could always start with a compliment like saying you like their shirt or something. Eventually you'll find someone to get the ball rolling with. I hope this can help you.

[@SasketWoodsman]

Yo dude, I'm a film major too and this is my every day as well. I even commute to school on a one-wheel (similar to an electric skateboard). Got a laugh at the "going to be homeless in four years" joke because that is real asf. Feels like I just go to college for no reason sometimes, especially this semester since I only really have one film class and we don't do many things relating to the field (group film projects and such). It's also really hard to find people to talk to and be friends with, especially when no one else is actively looking to make new friends or has similar interests to me. It's tough out there and I hope things get better for all of us going through this.

[@Marifilms]

@@SasketWoodsman oh that’s awesome. I actually saw someone riding a unicycle today haha. But yeah same for me I’m only taking studies courses, next semester I’m taking production classes, I think then it’ll be easier to make friends. Thanks for sharing!

[@mlmj1994]

I’m solidarity. I can relate. I pray you get blessed with a true friend.

[@bondedmetal2000]

The fact this is in a university is worse. I figured the people in a university would be a lot more welcoming than that. I go to community college and it makes me reconsider living

[@jjjjjjjjjm9473]

I hope you can find friends soon; I was in the same situation for so long that I began to normalize it… I wouldn’t talk to anyone, no one would talk to me; I was quiet to the point where people were actually scared to approach me because of my social awkwardness; I ended up dropping out of college and it was only after a while that I realized the extreme isolation played a huge part in my giving up; if anyone is going through the same: I truly hope you can get out of this situation soon

[@Luciaimparato9390]

Don't feel bad, I'm a Loner! Maybe God has you set apart for a reason, Mari! Thanks for sharing! Blessings!

[@moneymakinmitch8130]

you are not a loner. God loves you and is always with you ❤

[@Luciaimparato9390]

@moneymakinmitch8130 Amen , that's right, All I need is Jesus! He's enough for me!

[@ludovicorighi5854]

Stay strong, boy! Nowadays it's so difficult to make friends, but NEVER EVER give up! Try to know more people in different places, not only at university but also in your neighborhood, at parks, practice some team sports and so on... I had to struggle to have some friends some years ago and finally I've found a few, really open-hearted ones! Just be a nice person and keep on fighting, I'll say some prayers for you 🙏❤️ a hug from Italy

[@theia1653]

University is very different than high school or community college, especially if you're not popular to begin with, and it's not like how it's romanticized in TV shows that are always centered on the popular kids from high school. These aren't people you grew up with and see each other almost everyday, or even from your community, they are from all over the state and country and even internationally all with different schedules. Most people form their core social circles and cliques in the first week. If you're an introvert, you will have a very hard time and if you take your studies seriously, you won't have much time to get to know anyone cause you will be too tired and just want to rest or leave campus in your free time.

[@PixieeSG]

Loving this comment section. I relate to you all. Feels like I'm less alone in my loneliness, because it's become our loneliness :) I struggle a lot to make friends, or even talk to anyone at uni. Break time is especially awkward, 'cause most people have found their groups already, and those who haven't just resort to scrolling on social media. People don't seem talk anymore... And I can't help becoming like one of them, because my social skills are terrible 🙃 Anyway, thank you for making this video ❤ it's comforting to know I'm not the only one struggling with this

[@freeckotreecko]

I just completed my uni studies. I do have friends but they're those kind friends which you'd call 'advantage taking ones'... Very competitive, never helped anytime regarding studies so in return I stopped too. Because in the end, I have learned, you're on your own and you're the only one who can help yourself the best.

[@tailsfan10]

Damn, this sounds like me without friends. I know socializing sucks (and people 90% of the time) but I really hope you'll find a good group of people who actually like you for who you are. Otherwise, it's okay to focus on your own wellbeing. You're doing great so far!

[@weirdface1846]

its very hard to do that... i wish i had a social circle like the main characters of sailor moon, saint seiya and fairy tale

[@piccalillipit9211]

*THIS WAS ME UNTIL I WAS 17* walking to 6th form school one day I decided I was sick of it, I was sick of being alone and shy and I was going to do something about it. I just started to smile at people and talk to them - and they talked back and smiled back and I had friends and 30 years of a very busy fulfilling life. Im alone again at 54, but this is my decision now, I know I can be an extrovert - but I need some time just now... If you are lonely - just smile at people, I promise they WILL smile back...!!!

[@ingreed4154]

0:37 you can try join them, asking won't kill you, if anything the worst that can happen is them telling you 'no, bud' you take your skateboard and you weeee~ somewhere else. Learn to be rejected too. That's when you can see where you belong after. It's part of life.

[@SocksFCGameArchives]

I related to this back in first and second year of uni. Now I'm in third year and I've got a few good friends there. What I did was just sit by someone else who was on his own at the back of a lecture, ask if the seat is taken and just sit and talk about whatever, then ask for socials if you think you had a good interaction or wait until you've had a few more interactions. It's a lot easier talking to people who are in the same boat as you, believe me, look for people who you think seem alright or if they're on their own. From there you can build a decent enough friend group. But it can feel hard, sometimes you have to really push yourself, I hate that feeling but it was honestly worth it in the end

[@ice8348]

So this was me all the way through college. Once I got out of school, I was able to meet people and life became good. My advice is to honestly just talk to many different people as often as possible. It's really hard but eventually you will meet someone you vibe with, and they'll invite you to hang out with *their* friends, who you might vibe with even more, and it just evolves from there. Best of luck. College socializing sucks.

[@embracinglogic1744]

I don't even know what is the purpose of university. It is a complete waste of time...and I spent more than 10 years in that wasteland.

[@truthhammer69]

The purpose is to socialize and learn social skills most of all. But not everyone can do that. Depends on a person and uni.

[@truthhammer69]

The purpose is to socialize and learn social skills most of all. But not everyone can do that. Depends on a person and uni.

[@1qmik]

Fr, i can't even end highschool, I'm 18, i can't do this shit

[@yung_Latios]

Exactly it's a waste of time and money. You could get a masters and still be jobless

[@gsrain591]

10 years??? holy sht, what did you studied?

[@LisaLoveme-i4i]

There alone people on the table i see, they easy to approach and make simple conversation about how uni and they going to be happy to find someone like them

[@CycloneCordVHS]

This was along the lines of what my college experience looked like. I've been a loner for a long time to the point where I actually enjoyed it.

[@narabarbosa1979]

Some people are lonely and awkward, but cooler...enjoy your cool ass board, and keep pushing on, boy! One day you'll miss these days...Solitude is not bad at all when you learn to enjoy it

[@Krukbuk]

I was like the same guy bro! Always went with board and explored the city after school cruising downtown

[@Justauri-asdfghjkl]

Damn this just broke my heart a little. This was me in college. Joined a million clubs, tried over and over again to make friends. Just never really happened for me

[@dannyhernandez265]

I’m 24 and made no friends in university no girlfriends, no “college experience” like they show in the movies. I was depressed by this, but I don’t care anymore. Nothing I can do about it sadly. But it still bothers me somewhat admiringly.

[@thisissupposedtobeanonymous]

I only had a single year in HS (Junior) with a few “shallow” friendships and lots of acquaintances, the rest were mostly very lonely or at most 4 acquaintances. Ironically, the only person who treated me well was one that I rarely talked to in our Junior year friend group. We ended on a good note after she graduated, but I stopped talking to her because I knew she had friends and felt that I would be a burden to keep contacting her. I haven’t finished my first year of university yet, but I’ve literally made zero acquaintances and zero friendships. I’m due to transfer to another school either right before Sophomore or Junior year, Sophomore would be my best bet at making friends but it’s almost certainly going to be before Junior year. I don’t know what to expect of my future anymore.

[@phamihan1]

life doesn't revolve around school there's so much more after you graduate, i hope you are okay and the most important thing you need to do is get your school works done🥰 but i hope one day you finally found your people😢 you dont have to be popular to be happy❤️

[@drplushieshow111]

Man if I even decided to go to university I would’ve been your friend just like that I too have issues with social anxiety so I really understand the pain you have there man

[@liamcraddock9539]

I struggled with this. I was really lonely and my mental health was terrible in Sixth Form too so I just put all my effort into school. I got decent grades but it ruined my mental health and made me very socially inexperienced. I was pressured towards Uni but I just ended up dropping out after 3 years of trying to pull my grades out of the nosedive they were in. I only had one friend but lost contact with her. Plus this was during the Covid years which just made it feel even more like insanity.

[@chair2980]

You will never be alone, The Lord is with you and He loves you very much ❤️❤️❤️

[@slyofwar3661]

The more I learn about society the more terrified I become of social situations and other people in general

[@mariokujo384]

Got this video as a college student on my first semester, so this feels like a personal attack 💀 For what it's worth, though, your life seems pretty chill. We're constantly told that you need to be hanging out with friends and searching for love at all times in order to live a fulfilling life, but there's nothing wrong with you because you haven't found people you could fw yet. As somebody who's been in this situation in high school as well, let me give you some advice: if you wanna find friends, try to get to know people in your classes. You're a film student, so maybe try to get to know other film students and work on projects with them. Try joining a club in something you're interested with so you can enjoy your hobby with others. And another thing: if you find an opportunity to get to know people, take it. Even if worst comes to worst and they don't want you around, at least you can be more confident in yourself since you were brave enough to take that shot, even if it didn't work out for you. Good luck, man! I'm sure you'll find the right people!

[@carlenger9707]

Brother, I get it. Even though I know people, I still find it so hard to connect with them. My parents and everyone I know that is their age talk about how they are still in touch with all their old college buddies and whatnot, but I have zero interest in maintaining a relationship with any of these people after college.

[@achequisde]

Looks like you are living the life to me! Am living in a third world country and… yeah, you know how it goes. Actually no matter where you live loneliness is scary, am on the verge on moving out from my abusive household and am scarred shitless, but however goes for anyone reading this comment, life itself has a value beyond friends, money, and such. Keep up the good work!

[@mithrasabyss2765]

I’m 31 and have been alone my whole life. Single since COVID hit as well. It’s actually very liberating, because most people aren’t interested in actual connection, they’re just bored and have nothing better to do. No one needs to deal with people who genuinely don’t care, better to be alone.

[@glenntabbert1693]

Old Milennial here, when I was in Uni I joined an anime club. I wasn’t even into anime all that much, but after a while the people whom I thought were wacky actually turned out to be pretty cool and some remain good friends to this day. I also branched out into other clubs, became a club officer, and eventually leading to getting a girlfriend and tutoring Japanese Exchange students in English. I had a lot of fun memories and though I was a weird awkward Christian school kid, my experiences there were unforgettable. So just walk into a college club you might enjoy, sit down, embrace being the silent awkward dork for a day. Do it enough times and eventually you and some other silent awkward dork will start talking and WOAH YOU JUST MADE A FRIEND!!

[@MaskMajor]

Was in the same situation as you back when i started college, then i decided to move near people and somehow got into conversation with a guy and that conversation attracted a few more guys! Fast forward 2 years, now we are a group of 5 !! Dont give up man, make as many connections as you can!

[@akaviral5476]

I went through my uni time with friends until the pandemic hit my last two years. They all disappeared by then. I'm now several years out of uni and desperately alone. It's so isolating living in today's age. I wish I could go back to middle school and redo everything. I've messed up so much.

[@soulbounddoll1826]

Hm I feel you. Keep up the good work assignment wise atleast. If being lonely bothers you... Hm, possibly see if there are any councilors you can talk to about any groups of any kind you can join. Maybe something like a study group, idk. As for me. Its just life. I read random web stories, listen to nice music and ambience, try to get along with others and play life like I do video games. Well atleast I try, I get the feeling of isolation though.

[@MattWalton-Scott]

You’ll find your people. College is not the end of life. Once you find your thing you’ll meet people who are similar to you

[@Unordinary-lg4yt]

I would say… there’s a high likelihood once you hit 30+ it becomes easy to strike up conversations. You feel like that elder dropping knowledge bombs. More accurately, you tend to care less as you are less impressionable, idealistically entrenched overall.

[@maedetheone]

Do you have an easier time talking to people older than you? I've been like this pretty much my whole life, never really enjoyed interacting with my fellow students, still don't feel like I'm any good with people younger than about 30. Young people feel very stand-off'ish and judgemental to me, always have. One option: Get involved with a volunteer organisation around where you are, something that you are passionate about, say nature conservation, something where the social aspect is not necessarily front-and-center in the activities that they do. You'd still have opportunities to meet and get to know others who share the same passion, but no pressure to do so, all while doing something worthwhile and being allowed to feel good about yourself afterward. 💚

[@missmaitefrancesca]

you hit the nail on the head with this vid & the comment section is hitting too 😭 we’re all really in the same boat fr.

[@wulfric4755]

Fact is, making friends does require effort and discomfort. I've felt this way before, like everyone already has friends and don't want to spend time with new people but you have to just keep putting yourself out there. It takes courage but even just sitting next to people you think look cool in a lecture can work. If you're worried you won't know what to say just be honest and say you feel like you want to get to know more people. They'll ask you about yourself if they're nice and as long as you also take interest in them and aren't a dick then that's a good way to find friends. You may not gel with the first few people you do this with but eventually there's bound to be people you can relate to. Don't give up to a defeatist mindset and stay true to yourself. I hope this comment is helpful to anyone who feels stuck in life :)

[@MDE128]

This was me in college from 2019-2024. I'm glad I graduated in June 2024. I did make one friend along the way.

[@silentautisticdragon-kp9sw]

It is a hundred times harder to make friends in college than it is in high school. I pretty much know no one at my college, but I knew EVERYONE in school.

[@JK-gw9jb]

Had a double-take moment scrolling through my feed because I know the thumbnail like the back of my hand lol. Hey bro, I know you probably won't read this but I graduated from SFSU 10 years ago (making me feel old af lmao). SFSU is a commuter school and people typically go from class to class then straight home/work, so if you don't make an effort to make friends, it's going to be a tough and lonely 4 years. Join a few clubs and put yourself out there/network, I've realized how much that matters more than doing course work soon after I graduated and regret making as many connections as I should have (still love and appreciate the ones I did make though). Take it from someone who just works all day now and burns all energy to even socialize, it's A LOT harder to make friends once you graduate. University is the perfect opportunity to grow and break out of your shell. Dont waste it, people would love to be in your situation. People are WAY friendlier than you think, don't sweat it. (: Good luck, brother.

[@julianvazquez5281]

I have close friends outside of college but when I was in college, i had spoken to few people but only in group assignments. I didn’t made any friends and I was always alone lol I’m honestly okay with that, I guess cause I was scared to make a bad friends, so I guarded myself and focus on work.

[@zypexx48]

Honestly loneliness can be either a curse or a blessing

[@BobMarley-li6cu]

These are the days you'll remember man peaceful

[@truthhammer69]

I studied in 2 unies in china in one I had mates(still couldn't get laid cause all the girls that i was attracted to were taken and the ones that were attracted to me were unattractive). IN the second i found it very hard to socialize. I remember I was talking to this russian chick who was attracted to me, but i didn't have enough social skills/energy to navigate it in the right direction. She said "I haven't seen you live university life. Have s*x and friends." That's how i knew that they live completely different lives. Then I straight up said "ok, lets do it". And she was like "noo it doesn't work like that, thats cheesy etc."I ealized I don't have the emotional energy to play complex social games that mating rituals consist of. And i just paid for it a couple times a year. My only regret is that i didn't do it earlier and regularly.

[@yung_Latios]

You're better than me. I just dropped out and accepted being a wagie. College is just as miserable of an experience as high school is

[@leianahope4831]

I wish you the best I love you and I've been there too and still am, but people unsuspecting love us more than we know and may you push forward in positivity and find and follow what you need ❤

[@RichardLofty]

Bro just come up to literally anyone you like. Odds are on your 2nd-3rd try you will have a friend for life.

[@paulmoreno6279]

You're an awesome and amazing and beautiful guy. How's this possible??

[@justathought274]

I get it. Too awesome and an introvert. Not pushing himself which is wise. I’m guessing film school can be like acting school. Lots of egos and idiots and pick me types. Things may change but smart to do his own thing and show up. I’m learning at a much older age to stay away from negativity and dysfunction or at least to navigate it. I’m sick of toxic bullying behaviour and women who smell weakness and prey on it.

[@1qmik]

People don't care about you, even if you're handsome or pretty, if you don't have social skills you're cooked as I am

[@kkrock_]

@@1qmik REAL

[@kennethc.2921]

I graduated at this college. You should join a club related to your major to make friends. Also, just to note I wouldn't do film as a major. Find something that's more in demand; check bureau of labor statistics and indeed to see the job market in this field because you'll regret it if you can't find a job after graduating. If you do stay in this major, I would hope you have a strong portfolio because creative fields are always so competitive.

[@toastedavocado299]

I also go to this school rn. It’s hard to make friends here.

[@HJ-oo8ph]

I feel you, bro. I’m in my second year of community college (last year before I transfer to a university for my bachelor’s) and I can’t help but feel a little defeated over how I haven’t made a single friend yet. It’s hard to explain, it’s just like I physically can’t will myself to talk to people spontaneously, but natural interactions never happen because everybody just keeps to themselves. You got this man, keep up your work, and I hope good things (and people!) come your way soon

[@darknessking2024]

Everyone can appreciate differences, even when they are rare

[@Spz751]

“Il be your friend” are an unheard of language I’ve heard in my life your not alone brother imagine this is me in my future lonely but hey at least you won’t have friends that will back stab you it’d better to have friends that hate you and back stab then having non you don’t wanna feel pain.

[@BlackbladeYT]

Socializing in University can be a huge struggle. Have you looked into clubs and organizations on campus? What about social events like fairs and stuff? I don’t want to imply you haven’t done enough or anything because sometimes it’s just that caustic an environment, I’m just trying to think of possible solutions to meet new faces and connect with people.

[@ItsJavaJawa]

Throughout high school i had many friends, but they weren't permanent. I did have 3 others who were but i never got their numbers except for one. Despite the fact that i can contact him, i just can't bring myself to text him or tell him what the other's numbers are to get in contact with them (he had their numbers)

[@professional.commentator]

When I was in college, I made a few friends during freshman year, but after that it was borderline impossible. Everyone started moving in different directions with their majors and stuff. In high school, I remember being able to make friends during all 4 years without an issue. College is just isolating in general.

[@RedpillRealist17]

Im a loner too same situation in life. I can say yeah life is lonely but. At least I can take care of myself and take care of what's actually important.

[@jehdbrbjeirodofjdjebeebbsnaka]

I have so much homework I don’t even have time to feel lonely.

[@wenndied]

ngl heres some advice: if u really want friends, start by taking baby steps. Say hi to random people as u pass by and compliment them. Focus on making people feel good and create a positive and welcoming aura around yourself. Eventually the friends and popularity will come to u

[@wild_hoof]

I can relate to this so much. 3 years of online studying , then war , displacement and another 1,5 years of online studying. I went to the college and am already in the 2nd year , during that time i made 0 friends lol. Some people say "Just get out of your comfort zone" "Just start talking to people" this doesn't work just like that in most situations , no matter how hard you try

[@damnedifidonut]

I used to be like you, except 1. i was a nerd, so i sat at the front and took the best notes, so people had to ask me for those notes 2. I was a great group member/leader who actively participated in group assignments 3. I always had extra supplies and was eager to give them out if anyone was in need, so people thought i was kind 4. Due to group assignments, we needed to form online group chats, and as such i would have my group members socials, enabling me to see their stories. If i viewed their stories and saw something I liked (e.g, a hobby, a book I'd read before, etc,) I'd reply to their story/status In other words, in order to have friends, you must first of all WANT friends. Let's be honest, you're getting views from "loser-core content". If you were popular/had friends, you would lose your subscribers, hence you deliberately isolate yourself, further continuing the cycle of loneliness. That's my theory. Am i right?

[@Vrochillguy]

i inspire to be like you give me tips so i dont become elliot roger

[@TheDogSlog]

I did a lot of this too, I was in a couple orgs and had some friends in University but it’s all very fleeting. I had stronger connections with people I talked less to in high school, who I still keep in touch with, versus people in my same field and dorms in college. Idk if it’s a newer Gen Z thing but I feel everyone just straddles along their own direction with friends they’ve already made now without allowing new people in to be permanently in their lives.

[@ZeroCloudsZeroSkies]

thats how you end up getting used by other people