Deadbeat Mom Forcing Kid to Pay Rent

[@Dixon_Cider407]

$500 for rent, pretty much anywhere in America is reasonable as all outdoors. 19 year old still has to respect basic rules of the house but can't be treated like a child anymore by the parent either in my opinion

[@BlazeofGlory256]

I think its a culture thing maybe? I wouldnt charge my kids rent when they turn 18 if they want to stay at my house. They can leave and get their own place, but I would not ask for rent for my own children. But everyone has different prespectives and upbringing.

[@thedarpside9480]

love to see how controversial money is in every single family dynamic, such a vast amount of opinions

[@adh2298]

Paying rent at 19 is perfectly reasonable, paying $500 in rent at 19 is completely unreasonable when ur still living at home. While u are legally a grown adult, most ppl at 18-22 are still making minimum wage or just a few dollars above that. They are no longer children anymore but nor are they yet able to take care of themselves. The middle ground is to charge them $200 - $250 so that they learn how to be responsible without being it being a heavy weight on their shoulders.

[@lkhguycrazy]

a middle ground would be to have a child pay their own bills

[@adh2298]

@@lkhguycrazyLast I checked 19 year olds aren’t children smart guy. 🤦🏾‍♂️ And even if they were, what bills would they have in their name if they’re still living in their parent’s house genius? Half of them still don’t even have cars to drive so what bills are u referring to? 🤨

[@lkhguycrazy]

@adh2298 you live your life purposely dense, but I'll expand on my point. If you, as a parent, want to teach your child (last time I check, your offspring is your child forever) about financial responsibility, a good middle ground is to start putting bills in their name. Small bills like a cellphone plan, music streaming platforms, or groceries for the week are a good compromise rather than charging them to live with you. "Hello, sweet child of mine. I love you so much that now it costs you $250 to live with me," A1 parenting right there (that's sarcasm)

[@adh2298]

⁠​⁠@@lkhguycrazy So essentially what ur is the right move is to treat grown ass adults like they’re still children by having them pay the smallest, cheapest bills possible as if they shouldn’t have already been doing that at 16, 17, and 18. And u sayI’m the dense one? Lol ok buddy. Most teenagers already have themselves a part time job by the time they’re 16 / 17 which means they should already be paying their own phone bill, they should already be paying for their own streaming services that they decided to sign up for. Neither one of those things are necessities required by the parent. The only thing a parent is required to pay for is food, clothing, and shelter for a period not lasting more than 18 years. Your cellphone bill is your responsibility, that’s why it’s called YOUR cellphone, YOUR streaming service that YOU signed up for is YOUR responsibility (provided u have a job) These are things that should’ve already been taught at 16, 17, and 18 NOT 19 when they’re fully grown and should be out the house genius. And since they are fully grown, I as a parent no longer need to let them stay under my roof for free, so yes I will charge u for the food u eat, the electricity, and the water u use because u are now inconveniencing me by still being here past 18. Luckily, I’m only charging u half or in some cases EVEN LESS than half of what u would normally get charged for ur own place genius.

[@jacobbojac420]

If u want the kid to move out why take their money? You’re prolonging the expenses when the mom could also get a smaller crib not having to house anyone.

[@waynesmith7746]

The issue depends on the context. The kid in college? Yeah it’s unreasonable. If the kid is in trade school trying to get trained up? Yeah it’s unreasonable. I also believe if the kid is legitimately saving money to get somewhere like for a small business or a condo then I’m gonna let it be put on hold for those things to get set up.

[@randomperson2540]

When I was 16 I instantly got a job to help my mom with the bills, that was always my intention so any time she needed money she can take it from my account, I’m pretty cheap and chill so I always had enough money for rent. To me this should be the standard for all kids before they turn 18 unless they already have a plan for adult that doesn’t sound dumb. If you’re 18 and not in college you paying rent to whatever is accurate to the house bill. It’s interesting how this isn’t universal

[@lkhguycrazy]

a child shouldnt be a parent's personal piggy bank; of course the flip side also applies, but it's a parent's resposibility to care for their child. it sounds like you grew up in extreme poverty so you have a skewed view of the world, but you should strive to create a better world rather than dragging people into yours

[@RIPToriyamaDBZ]

​@@lkhguycrazyThe problem is an 18 yr old isn't a child.

[@kbis2cold]

No 16 year old should be willingly or unwillingly helping their mom with bills. It's sad that you think that should be the norm. Also, turning 18 doesn't magically make someone an adult. Think about it... most people turn 18 before graduating high school. Throwing them out the house to fend for themselves should not be the norm and most really successful people don't do that to their kids. That's a poverty mindset and actually selfish of parents.

[@randomperson2540]

@@lkhguycrazy I see what you’re coming from, and the kid shouldn’t be losing all of his money. But if we are poor which I feel like it’s the case for most people there just no way going around it. It also does teach your kid financial responsibility to learn how to save (of course the parents should pay back there kids if they can).

[@waynesmith7746]

@@randomperson2540if a patent could survive 18 yrs no financial assistance from there kids they can survive another couple. The majority of people are not so broke in America they need they kids assistance

[@bballhornetsallday23]

Paying rent is more than reasonable. However once I start paying rent the parent child dynamic is over this is OUR place and I know for a fact dudes mom not gone like that

[@weirddeck4193]

At 19 I was aying alot more than 500 at my moms house granted some of that was going to a phone bill, personally I would be saving that money I recieved from my kid to then give it back when they went on their own so that they learn responsability and that money didn't get blown on nonsense.

[@neverleft7494]

Been paying rent since I’ve been 16 , currently 19 and can’t move out cause of this shitty price on apartments , been paying 600 a month for a min now but my plan is to find some sort of career that can lead me into living comfortable somewhere

[@KadeemLiburd]

When its family I don't agree but calling your mom a deadbeat because of that is crazy

[@ShinyRaequaza]

I don’t understand how it makes no sense to them. If the parent were paying rent before them, they probably can pay it without them. Them partially or fully refunding them is just showing the difference between doing business with mom and dad, and business with Joe who works at the property management company. It’s not necessary but if the parents choose to do it… what’s the problem?

[@philipayres1542]

$500 a month at 19, WHILE LIVING WITH PARENTS MIND YOU, is absolutely unreasonable today. Don’t preach financial responsibility to your kids when you drain their bank

[@RIPToriyamaDBZ]

You can get paid $14 an hour. If you work 80 hours in a week that's $2240 a month. You could definitely afford $500 of that.

[@waynesmith7746]

@@RIPToriyamaDBZworking 80 hrs a week is literally killing you and gonna guaranteed cause chronic health issues

[@jacobholley6181]

@@RIPToriyamaDBZwho paying 14 dollars a hour for a 19 year old with no college experience?? Minimum wage in my state is 7.95, even if you say McDonald’s or retailers they ain’t giving you 40 let alone 30 hours a week. 😂

[@digglesworths6255]

⁠@@RIPToriyamaDBZ depends on rate and hours in my state I got friends that make less than 10 (I make 12 currently at 18). Also some jobs like mine don’t give u guaranteed amount of hours for example some weeks I get 24 and some I get 32(my max cus I go to trade school). The situation definitely matters

[@jamariohiggins815]

It really depends, he’s most likely no longer in high school and has a lot more free time. Unless he’s going to school and staying home. However honestly that’s not that hard. Unless he has major expenses like a kid it shouldn’t be too difficult. I do agree it’s crazy but idk if you chose to stay home you have to live with certain rules.

[@landynruben8028]

I’m 17 and my birthday is on feb 7 I’m a junior in hs and my mom says I have to pay 1 3rd of the rent once I’m 18 or I have to move out and i have no where to go so 500 doesn’t sound that bad

[@kbis2cold]

Yeah but your situation does sound bad. You are still in high school. You shouldn't have to pay rent anywhere

[@damingonwax]

400 every 2 weeks. I could go and get my own spot but I mean I really don't want to tbh. Already left before, and like y'all side, life cost more than 800 a month gang 2:44 and yes we do have people like that here in Hattiesburg, Mississippi

[@tresama6993]

Damn did the kid in question make the title?😭😭

[@ieatpotatosalad535]

Why would I save my kids rent money so when they move out they have more help? Why be a parent if you are willing to help your children when they need you? Saving money helps their future and yall worried about “the real world” making them pay rent is the point that gives them the real world why would you let them struggle once they made it. Unless you need that money too it’s stupid to not give your kids a leg up when stepping out into the world

[@tazmanianjay2374]

Gonna be real at 19 ya parents should be letting you build of them to go out in the real world 500 is crazy not gonna lie my mom told me I better take advantage still helped her but she set me up to have a better life when I finally moved out

[@theexpertbc1175]

I would need to know how much money the kid is making per month. If he's making 600 per month after taxes and he's paying 500 in rent then i get it but he should pay something

[@KodexKat]

Soft ass society nowadays think paying for your keep is unreasonable? 19 you should have a job or be in school you can’t just stay there rent free

[@lkhguycrazy]

That's a backwards way of thinking

[@KodexKat]

@ how? You think 19 year olds should just sit in your house doing nothing? Either you go to school or you’re working. It’s not that hard to understand a grown adult needs to do something with their life

[@Ether_Liner_Ado_Edem]

​@lkhguycrazy not really. If you're not in college or having a job at nearly 20 still living with your parents whats the point? You're just a freeloader atp

[@lkhguycrazy]

@ who said the child HAS to do nothing? did I say that; i don't think i did. i said your way of thinking is backwards because charging someone you claim to love to live with you is stupid.

[@KodexKat]

@@lkhguycrazy if the 19 year old adult isn’t working or going to school then wtf are they doing? Food cost money, electricity cost money, water cost money and they’re using it without doing anything. Just because you charge you’re GROWN ADULT children to live in your household doesn’t mean you don’t love them. Are you a kid? Can you not comprehend this topic? Anything outside of work or school that the 19 year old would be doing COST MONEY TO DO. If my 19 year old wants to stay at my house that’s fine with me but I’m gonna need you to show me you are doing something in society like school or work. $500 is cheap compared to having to live on their own so both sides win.

[@sqweeps.03]

I pay 400 a month

[@blackandy973]

My family’s house was already paid off but where I lived 750 was the minimum to be someone’s 2nd roommate so 500 is easy work and I don’t have to cook either 😂😂

[@CozyKenji]

$500 a month bro lucky I pay 350 every week😂 A month is enough time to put some to the side def if you under ya moms