Dealing With a Deadbeat Dad

[@jeremiah1844]

As a man I take pride in being a father. It really irritates me when a grown ass man bring up step-kids as a defense to not taking care of your child 🤦🏾‍♂️embarrassing

[@misterbee66]

Exactly, you have an obligation to your biological children first.

[@novavega7394]

Amen

[@papalegbasson2447]

The mothers who blocked their child from knowing their fathers because of nonpayment only hurts the child. Although my dad was the same my mom never kept my dad away.

[@roxeaguebryan7629]

@@papalegbasson2447 you had a real mom. Shout out to her

[@heathernichols7472]

@@papalegbasson2447 and it didn't sound like the mom in this case kept him away either. She stated he couldn't even be bothered to send a birthday card once a year.

[@renea228]

My daughters "father" Has not seen her since she was 8 months old, she's almost 13 now. I feel this ladies pain so much.

[@tom11zz884]

Your daughter will be just fine. I would advise she get that " Postive male role model advice" from a male in your family, possibly your uncle, grandpa, or even pastor in the community

[@angelah7094]

Just to clarify the plaintiff said the defendant hasn't seen the child since she was 17 months old... 😉

[@renea228]

@@angelah7094 I understand that. I was just commenting my own personal experiences...

[@renea228]

@@tom11zz884 My daughter had my father in her life until he passed in 2021. They were inseparable.

[@angelah7094]

@@renea228 oh okay my bad... Yeah I'm sorry for you... I have a similar situation with my almost 14 year old daughter as well... But im good with just keeping her to myself from the start... 😏

[@naturalbluti6823]

That man is taking care of another man's child without worrying about his oldest...sad! I couldn't be with a man that does little to nothing with his child

[@mzfancy4767]

I'm with u on this. I can't see how women become girlfriends and enjoy the male figure helping with their children but not encouraging the guy to be a father to their own children.

[@PastorNickcanody]

I believe he said that the other kid is his. I’m not sure where THE OTHE MANS CHILD- comes in at

[@Cliffmartin7002]

That was his child

[@iamocube]

A father not paying child support sets Judge Mathis off really quickly.

[@GoinHam10Four]

As it should. Men need to hold other men accountable for being a sad excuse.

[@meganlynn3097]

As it should! These men are abandoning their kids

[@christiandilday7543]

It sets off anyone

[@k9.p]

Sure do!

[@Dinerokid-rh5tu]

@@christiandilday7543 Exactly that makes any judge upset. I've seen judge Maybelline get on deadbeat fathers. I've seen Judge Alex and Judge Joe Brown get on deadbeat fathers. I've seen Judge Judy get on deadbeat fathers. I've even seen judge jeanine pirro get on deadbeat father just ignorant as she was. I've seen Judge Christina Perez get on deadbeat fathers. So yeah apparent that doesn't look after their child that makes everyone upset.

[@tjneverdefeated4394]

Having other kids is never an excuse for emotionally, physically, and financially neglecting one. This man is a deadbeat.

[@knightclassic1]

I'm Shocked that this Deadbeat Dad is white. Very Shocked.

[@tjneverdefeated4394]

@@knightclassic1 I’m not and I’m not sure why you are. They come in all races, shapes, colors, sizes.

[@Mafia1977]

​@@tjneverdefeated4394 She unloaded at the end! I'm sure she would have said more but for the cameras being there. I don't blame her!

[@tjneverdefeated4394]

@@Mafia1977 yep and I don’t blame her either!

[@imrichbtch1995]

When your partner is toxic it is

[@ZumbaZINJPanda]

How dare he bring up his new family and child as a defense. He does seasonal work to get paid under the table. He is triflin.

[@Baddestchik911]

So nine years he have been clean and not once did he try to find his daughter or pay support. He had no interest in being a father.

[@Proverbspsalms]

And she’s weak. She got herself in this mess. Now coming with the fake tears

[@Baddestchik911]

@@Proverbspsalms mess how? Weren't they married

[@Proverbspsalms]

@@Baddestchik911 is this not the one she was warned was no good? Yet she wanted him anyway. If this is the one, yes it’s her fault

[@Baddestchik911]

@@Proverbspsalms it is not her fault he is a bad father. That speaks to his character.

[@Proverbspsalms]

@@Baddestchik911 ok. You’re very slow. So if you walk into oncoming traffic and get popped, it’s not your fault. It’s the cars fault that you’re an idiot 😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@alishagarnett5733]

he's a total failure as a dad

[@the4cqueen148]

Her family & friends warned her about him & yet she STILL married him and had a baby with him, she should've made better choices, i feel sorry for the kid, i bet she shits on his name everyday around the kid. This is messy all around.

[@Proverbspsalms]

@@the4cqueen148 exactly!

[@Proverbspsalms]

And she’s weak!

[@crylittlesister6377]

As a human being really

[@topnotch3112]

Running from child support

[@karenk3458]

I understand her pain it's painful 💔 😢

[@Proverbspsalms]

Well, she was warned. She knew. Just like she knew how to turn those tears on and off

[@stumack9755]

She brought it on herself. Now the child.

[@sachelleb4930]

​​@@Proverbspsalms You took the words right out of my mouth😅 When JM told her she need counseling she turned off the tears. She wants pitty to win not his suggestion of counseling 🤔

[@Proverbspsalms]

@@sachelleb4930 🤣😂😂😂😂

[@deetheefoodie]

I can’t stand men that take care of other folks kids and not their own…… or just take care of the kids he lives with and the other kids get scraps.

[@Proverbspsalms]

She could have avoided all of this. She’s weak, and a fraud. Turning those tears off and on

[@MultiCdk]

@@Proverbspsalms how so? I’m interested. 🤔

[@afropowa1598]

This is the Judge that I like to see. No corny jokes, no "I am still a thug" type of talks, etc. Just straight to the point serious type of Judge!

[@Remnant.Garments7]

This was a horrible ruling

[@chuck9380]

I work everyday n it’s hard for me to go on vacation but yet this guy can afford to move around from town to town with no money supposedly

[@mitzithompson6585]

I know thats right. Its been years since I've had a vacation 😠

[@sereneamani1713]

@@mitzithompson6585 The life he described is not a "vacation"

[@sereneamani1713]

Moving around from town to town working menial jobs is not a vacation and the word "afford" doesn't fit that lifestyle. It means sleeping wherever you can (bus stations, abandoned buildings, cars, etc.).It's called being homeless. Not taking up for him, because he needs to try to do better.

[@TawaniaP]

Mom is justified in her anger and hurt but her daughter needs to know her father. If he wants to see her he has the right. They need to have their own relationship.

[@destiny3007]

Right. Money does not justify keeping the child away. She just got to learn from this and move forward.

[@veravera862]

He has a right but it’s not her obligation to make it happen.

[@taylorchristina2539]

Vera Vera Great comment. Some don't see it this way!!

[@laurena5335]

@@veravera862 very True💯👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@tidey4]

She needs therapy and to let go of that anger. I couldn’t imagine keeping that in for that long.

[@BumbleBee-ic1sd]

$40? Omg

[@rodheadz92]

Take her to court she basically said she not letting you see your kid

[@stumack9755]

he doesn't want to see the kid.

[@Donna-qt1ot]

Rod Headz, I don't believe that he has ever tried to see his daughter.

[@Janedoe-22]

I would be so embarrassed if I was him. I can just feel the embarrassment

[@WarGrowlmon18]

If he really cared about it that much he would've gone to court about it a very long time ago

[@camarojai6832]

I stand by letting the child decide. Keep your feelings and opinions to yourself. As long as the other parent is being safe and responsible with the child they should have a relationship. If the parent isn’t meeting standards the child will be able to make their own decisions

[@papalegbasson2447]

Although I think his reason was for moving around was to avoid garnishment(DEAD BEAT) the mother isn't right with allowing her bitterness to get in the way from her daughter knowing her dad. Especially since she has other siblings.(SMH)

[@shannonbrice8012]

if he keeps moving around the country so much how is he seeing his daughter? If he can't pay child support we know that he is not paying to fly back to see his child.

[@Kolistwaky9161]

She will always wants to know her dad no matter what. Grand father can never replace the dad. She may even blames the mother for not seeing her dad.

[@Janovea]

He moving around, can’t hold a job, and hasn’t denied growing weed, after 9 years he’d just piss her off and then they’re would just be disappointment, (speaking from experience)

[@UnleashTheKhaos]

The daughter definitely needs to know of her father however it’s his responsibility to make it happen not the mom. My father was a heroin addicted. My mom never tore him down in front of me but she didn’t hide who he was she let him be useless all on his own and I formed my own opinion of him… my opinion was he was weak, lack self control, and was sucking up valuable resources and when he passed he did the planet a favor. Moral of the story is let your kids form their own opinions about their parents and whatever it is that’s what it is. Period..

[@Ellewow06]

If a father wants to see his child, he should be able to see his child regardless of how slighted the mother feels about him not paying or about the failed relationship. Even if you think he won't come through, call his bluff, hold him to it. If he fails to follow through, that's on him, but you as mom, you don't stop him from being there. This is what I don't like about child support. She did all that complaining about him not doing anything for his child just to fall back and say the child doesn't need him. Which is it lady?

[@iarrived-sb2zr]

Agreed… but a lot of men don’t know that they can easily obtain visitation rights. There is a difference between child support and visitation. He could have been went to court and had visitation rights to see his kid.

[@TheSolitary1]

Mom is not the issue so stop twisting the narrative. That is ignorant

[@tom11zz884]

PREACH IT.

[@wadilotus]

This is a case where neither party is likeable or trustworthy. That said, they each have responsibility to the child. Dude needs to pay his child support and the woman needs to let him see his child

[@Donna-qt1ot]

wadilotus, what did you find so offensive about the plaintiff? I'm at a loss on that point.

[@nettricegaskins1871]

I remember having to go to therapy when my mother let my father see me.

[@y_e_i8213]

What’s gonna happen when the plaintiffs father dies? Let that girl make her own decision to see her dad. She’ll see if he’s legit really quick .. but why hasn’t the defendant found a man since? Seems like she just has some anger that she won’t let go of.

[@lexington2139]

I mean if he wants to see his kid let him

[@bluemetaphor]

I never understood WHY women did that!!! The kid doesn't understand the logistics, they need TIME AND MEMORIES!!!

[@mordakie3805]

its been 10 yrs he just saying that for the cameras

[@caramama1731]

@@mordakie3805 I really believe that! Normally I'd say the same thing.."let him see his child" but for some reason I feel like he doesn't make much effort. I see it in his body language and in his excuses!

[@mordakie3805]

@@caramama1731 cara my father moved on also new family new kids and only wanted to rekindle when he got cancer

[@neisci]

This woman is completely out of her mind. She chose him to procreate with,and as she said many tried to warn her but she wouldn't listen. She made her own bad; she needs to step back and let the girl have her own relationship with her father beyond her bitter self. He needs to step up on child support and as he said, start legal proceedings.

[@NKAB4]

I agree no matter how my daughter dad was &nd wasn’t…I still let her get her own perception needless to say she doesn’t fool with him I only pray their relationship gets better…without him knowing where I live catch a flight &nd stay at a hotel bt you CANNOT COME TO MY HOUSE!!!…

[@neisci]

@@moniquebrown7738 We all bear the consequences of our decisions that's life. Healing can only take place when we look at ourselves in the mirror and accept the part we played in situations. As for abuse I don't normally comment on it, as it is my opinion that those who have been/are in that type of situation should seek professional help. Congratulations on getting out, some men and women sometimes do not live long enough to get to that stage.

[@neisci]

@@NKAB4 You were the bigger person which is not easy and whatever issues they face down the road, they'll have to find a way, together, whatever path it leads. He better stay out of your home lol.

[@tatianadaniel3569]

@@moniquebrown7738 She found out he was a meth addict ONE MONTH into a relationship.

[@ThatOneBitch69]

@@tatianadaniel3569 it was one month after they got married

[@jlywi7171]

She should let him see her daughter…. Kids need their dad in their life

[@keishannadean7955]

She don’t need him so why are you asking for his money 🤦🏽‍♀️ she cried in front of the judge but got pissed when he said he’s going to get legal help to see his daughter!!! Really believe all of this is because he has another child

[@kingoffarts8352]

I think she means she doesn't need his money to live off of. I think she means she needs his money for child support,not to go on vacations,and shopping sprees. She wants him to provide for her child not her own personal needs/wants.

[@lovemii3kids]

Miss you did not make that child alone. She is not just your daughter

[@matthewprice9792]

How is she doing so great with her daughter but begging for child support, makes no sense at all she's just real bitter

[@Proverbspsalms]

Exactly

[@shellmac1383]

If he sincerely wants to be in their daughter's life the mother should allow it. Marijuana is not a big issue.

[@Auntietaevia]

Man when she said she go the best father figure she will ever have and it's her father I felt that so much. My kids father doesn't see them and haven't since I dont know when. I felt her pain.

[@Proverbspsalms]

She brought this on herself. She was warned. Now here she comes with the tears

[@the4cqueen148]

She knew exactly what the situation was with that man, why in heavens name would she have a baby with him? You can't turn a Meth addict into Ward Cleaver. Best thing that could happen is for him to stay out of the kids life but the plaintiff has a part in making this mess too. Be careful who you have babies with.

[@blkbutterfly58ify]

Agreed! 💯

[@tom11zz884]

Thank you. The 1st real comment on here that actually puts accountability on the woman for a change.

[@jacobestevez7570]

seems like the plaintiff is still stuck on the defendant

[@DayanaLashaee]

Understand mothers anger but the daughter still needs to know her REAL father !! Women … I swear

[@nettricegaskins1871]

I saw my real father and had to go see a therapist because of it.

[@DayanaLashaee]

@@nettricegaskins1871 good for you.. at least you know.

[@dollarperlike4087]

Get legal help sir, she doesn’t make that call.

[@bigfizzy85]

YO THAT RESPONSE HE HIT HER WITH WAS POWERFUL AND JAW DROPPIN..... HER: 'WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO OFFER HER?????' HIM: .....A FATHER!!!!! LIKE DAMN💪💪💪💪💪

[@beazdakid1988]

True. I agree with judge Mathis for making him pay child support. But women gotta get out of there feelings. That child needs HER dad. Not yours. And if he is trying to see his child. She should let him. Now if he doing negative things that’s has to get cleaned up first. But she should allow him to see his kid.

[@bigfizzy85]

@@beazdakid1988 PREEAACHHH!!!!!

[@themadmillionaire]

I’m confused, if she doesn’t need her father and he has nothing to offer why is she in so much rage? Let the daughter be the judge of that so that she doesn’t resent.

[@K_Cole0128]

That woman is crazy and in pain. She should’ve taken the offer for therapy.

[@dariellecofield8279]

Doyle be looking at them folks like they’re crazy 😂😂😂

[@JazzyJeffRealTalk]

Regardless how the mother feels she can’t make that decision for her daughter about seeing her father. She’s depriving her daughter of that relationship because of her own anger towards him. It only hurts the child

[@beazdakid1988]

I agree 100% she’s speaking for her herself not her daughter. Allow her daughter to see what kinda man he is.

[@Felicia_The_Creative]

Him not paying child support does not give her the right to keep him from his children. If he is a bad person I understand. What is wrong with humans?

[@leyahruizdeloreto6420]

I understand she's pissed and why, but the daughter still needs contact with dad. Forgiveness.

[@the4cqueen148]

But she knew that he was a junkie before she married him, her friends & family warned her; yet, she still had a baby with him. The only innocent person in this relationship is the child. Smdh

[@Baddestchik911]

Not necessarily. He didn't care about the child. He is all for the new child and step child and the wife.

[@Baddestchik911]

If he wanted a relationship with his daughter he would have made the effort and contact her and keep in communication with her.

[@Donna-qt1ot]

I let my daughter see her "father". He broke her heart and her spirit too many times to count. Does a child deserve that shit in their lives, just because he was the sperm donor? This deadbeat had nine years sobriety and NEVER tried to get visits w/her in all that time? He was too busy with his new family. He didn't care until the child support case in the here and now. Forgiveness is not given lightly or easily when your child pays the price everyday.

[@lracquel9738]

If this man was that pressed to see his daughter he would have been took this mom to court. When you have set visitation you don't need to ask the mom when you can see the kid because the date would already be set by the judge . Also this woman is a single mom everyday of her life so yea seems pretty fresh to me. Speaking as someone who was a single mom the issue is the benefit of having excuses. When you are the primary/sole parent involved you don't get the luxury of saying "this happen, or I had this come up which is why I can't (insert whatever failure here)" You always have to be ON and make sh*t happen, when you are actively parenting. You don't get to use the excuse of "I'm already doing blah blah blah" kids don't care!

[@AuthorJanaeMarie]

Damn right! I'm so tired of men saying baby mothers are bitter. No they're mad as hell! When you go to court for visitation rights and the other parent DOES NOT show up NOT once BUT twice!!! What does that say? What does that mean! They don't care if they get rights! You do everything, you are on 24/7. There is no room for excuses. Don't tell my child you'll come by for her birthday then on the day of come up with a damn lie. Why do men get off so easily when it comes to parenting? Damn shame. I definitely agree with you!

[@stardrasmith6654]

She said she was strong she tried to try the emotional tears

[@cupofchi_]

Definitely let the daughter have the opportunity to build a relationship with him.

[@WarGrowlmon18]

Doyle at the end there: "you go girl!!!"

[@tatianadaniel3569]

😑The plaintiff is evil. She purposely keeps that man away from THEIR child then got the nerve to come into court crying talking about how he hasn't been there. She's just.....🙄

[@misunderstood136]

He didnt care before when he put his child in harms way. So i dont blame her! Hes a deadbeat!

[@tatianadaniel3569]

@@misunderstood136 He purposely left because he was a drug addiction and didn't want his child in his environment. He's back and wants to be a good dad now that he's healthy and she wants to make it difficult. She's the deadbeat now. Edit: ...*drug addict

[@kingoffarts8352]

He was probably in jail.

[@briasworld8]

SHE CHOSE him & knew how he was BEFORE getting with him so...no ma'am. No sympathy.

[@lisavee4670]

One of the best after court segments I've seen 👏!!! The defendant got some of her pain out, I hope she takes the judge up on going to a therapist 😊

[@chelseaneal1045]

She needs to give him a chance even if it's 10yrs later it's never too late to have a father in your life

[@bigplanner]

“How not to hold a job “ daaamnnn 🔥🔥

[@Jsarmy87124]

His taking care of another man kid 😮 And not his own daughter 😢

[@Janovea]

The quick ruling and the affirmation of a judge in front of millions of people gave her the strength she always had to go off on him at the end, you can tell this woman hasn’t cursed in a while until she did at this dead beat

[@mielissa100ify]

Doyle at the end 90% of the time looks like he hates this part of the job lol

[@carltonwomble4790]

Well, I am at a loss for words. No one can defend what he’s done, and Judge Mathis and his ex-wife were absolutely right about everything. The only comment that I can make in his favor is that I applaud him for showing up to court and admitting his faults. I think it’s admirable that he’s turned his life around, but - 🤷🏿

[@stumack9755]

Y did u have a child w/ a drug addict? The child doesn't deserve that. He moved a lot cuz his pay was garnished. Once he was tracked down & has to pay he moves on. I've seen this many x's. Doyle looking @ him up & down w/ disgust in the end.

[@bristroyer1723]

Damn, girl! Tell him!

[@TexasBorn_TexasRaised]

Doyle at the end 😂😂. Looks like a cartoon character. Something that's easy to draw type of fellow

[@nicharr7796]

She’s been waiting to say this!

[@ghostcollins2127]

It be Doyle facial expression at the end for me😂😂😂

[@Hazel.Eyed.Gemini]

She did all that crying to Judge Mathis about him not being in his daughters life and how hard it is . Then at the end she flipped the entire script. Now she doesn't want him in his daughters life because she's doing fine. Men, get snipped until you are ready. Really ready for a family

[@kirstyackah9853]

An absent father is better than a flakey one

[@the4cqueen148]

@@kirstyackah9853 🎯🎯🎯

[@Baddestchik911]

The end part

[@Baddestchik911]

@@kirstyackah9853 actually not being a father until you're ready is better than both of those.

[@Longpipejang]

Snipped? I ain't no dog. Tf wrong with you

[@Kolistwaky9161]

She is angryyy

[@latoyas191]

She needs to take it down a notch. She's bitter.

[@mrcwatimean2]

Damn she singing like Brittney

[@warriorqueen8285]

😩😭😂🎤

[@diofiglio1]

As a man who's seen other ppl's paperwork.....I find it sad when dudes complain about under $100 a month like the system is unfair to them 😂😂😂😂

[@marlaysiasimmons8806]

NOT THE GUARD SIZING HIM UP AT THE END

[@avatar9103]

She crushed him at the end. Savage

[@mindlessmeful]

Every daughter needs her dad..

[@laurenbogans357]

The child support and he not paying that what makes you think he's going to pay this 😲

[@AylanaL3]

Ohhhh baby she got him together at the end .

[@tratrazy1633]

She wanted a child with him even though she KNEW HE WAS ON DOPE and ppl warned her 🤔 wooooow 😳 unbelievable.

[@Proverbspsalms]

Right!

[@kaviaabston9585]

Yes he needs to do a better job of taking care of his child financially, but that gives her no rights to keep him from seeing his child. The mother seems really bitter, and her feelings should have nothing to do with him having a relationship with his daughter 🙄

[@dantemiles4809]

He must have only owed 37cent for the John Elway memorabilia 😂

[@myday32]

Wow she’s wrong she needs to know her father and that’s not her decision to make! He is sad and so is she.

[@Amy-ej2px]

The thought of not having the means to take care of myself frightens me. I don't see how all of these deadbeat dads work YEARS without a job to care for themselves or their children. Women, don't enable these "men" by supporting them.

[@nannynewsviews542]

Please let her see her father......he needs to provide for his child and every way

[@jasonr.9863]

I believe she still has feelings for this man..

[@msarmstrong410]

Poor Doyle, lol. He just looks like 'well damn'

[@mywifiiscoolerthanyours]

I was sold until that last after the verdict rant, idk if that’s pain of emotion but judge identified at the beginning that she appears still heartbroken, so with that and her seemingly inability to reason is cause for me to believe it’s hasn’t always been based on the best interest of the child. quite sad 😢

[@mr.culturefreedom2073]

She chose him in spite of her family warning her.

[@Valencia5_11]

Whew Sis said a mouthful at the end 🤭

[@serenelane]

She's frustrated that her child's father is a deadbeat and JM suggests that she get counseling. SMH. He's just all over the place these days.

[@MyName123.]

$40 a month for child support and he's complaining? 🙄 is he getting paid CASH? he's moving around the country to avoid $40 monthly?

[@Kimberly-dh7zy]

She has the right to be angry he’s horrible

[@CurlyHeadKasia]

How dare you have more kids & not see your first born! If the mom doesn’t let you see your child, you take her to court instead of complaining about it

[@Baddestchik911]

So he pays for his new child and a step child but forget the firstborn, she gets the "best he can," she got to survive off he will see what he "can do."

[@antares3097]

Drug's have destroyed this country...

[@Kingvon908]

When she cursed an said sorry after 😂

[@ItsBobbyBlTCH]

I’ll never understand, especially being a man, on how you can make the children but feel as if you don’t need to support them. Absolutely shellfish and destructive. Despicable excuses for a man. Disgusting.

[@Mimi-pt4fo]

Coming to court is her therapy

[@lauraalston8012]

When the judge order him to take drug test monthly! He won’t be so “” more legal action!

[@highlander666]

mom wasn't f - ing around in post case segment

[@jerrypearce5920]

You go judge Mathis 👍✌️

[@sly_tendencies87]

DUDES A BOOM

[@amandabarrett2472]

Mother is JUST as immature

[@gianalogan8957]

And she said it all she has her father that never walked out on her that will never walk out on her daughter

[@fierceflava]

She told him 💪

[@Nurse_Nash]

People stay getting warned and not listening 🙄

[@georgemason4921]

Doyal had that oh wow look on his face.

[@dawniipoo322]

How can you bring a child in this world and not care for him/her smh

[@celinesbubyvelez761]

She downgraded that man about not being a father but tells him at the end her daughter doesn’t need him 🤔 so why are you in court