Dealing with loss and grief: Losing my mom

I lost my mother and best friend in 2011. At the age of only 57, my mother Maureen passed way from a chronic illness. It was one of, if not the most difficult times in my life. In this video, I share my experience and talk about different things I learned along the way. I made this video with the hopes that someone who needs a little support, may find something helpful in it. If you know anyone who may want to see this video, please share it with them.
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[@peacelovingmusicwarrior5823]

I have just lost my mother, im a 38 year old male.She was 59.The pain is something you don't know of until it happens.God bless you all.

[@Gabriel-er8pp]

I lost my mum a month ago. Life just feels empty and joyless now. God bless you all who are suffering the loss of a loved one and ease your suffering.

[@stephcat7187]

I lost my mom 6 days ago. Sleeping is hard, waking up is harder. I was very close to my mother and I helped take care of her for the last 10 years of her life. She was only 50. Her funeral service is tomorrow. Not sure how I'm going to handle it. I feel so sad, so useless. I just want the pain to stop. I miss her so much.

[@YouReallyMadHuh]

Caltor, you don't know how much your post helped me. I lost my mother two days ago to cancer and been a nervous wreck since. While I am glad she is no longer suffering the fact she is not here anymore tears me into pieces. I can't even sleep.

[@Luvnluk278]

I am dealing with the same situation, my mother passed away on 16 th September, we are falling apart The Pain is just unbearable Why did god take her away? Maa i miss u so much 😞😞

[@ABJ_007]

I lost my mom too 10 days ago. She too was 50

[@ere5763]

Andrew Benedict help me life sucks since.my mom died

[@amandaclark2278]

Lost my Mama July 25th...Never felt such loss...such pain...Sending hugs and love to all everyone missing their Mom's....

[@cpmffeilberg4970]

My condolences to all of us who have lost our moms. Mom just died in January 2019. We never get over it. I'm struggling through my year of firsts without mom and struggling is what we do. My advice to all of us is to stay true to ourselves and not let anyone tell you how to grieve. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. God bless you and may He comfort you.

[@chop3625]

This helps, thank you. It’s just so hard🥲

[@G5GoinAirborneTV]

Just lost my mom yesterday in my arms from stage 4 breast cancer. She was literally my only family.

[@gybx4094]

Your life is now her life. Your life is precious and you are the part of your Mom that lives on.

[@adrisancho90]

Thanks for sharing your story. I lost my mom almost one month ago, and I am the only child. She was 56 years old, and passed away to a bronchopneumonia. It is and will be the worst thing that ever happened to me. I miss her so much!

[@OneHourShower]

Adriana Sancho you're welcome Adriana. You know the way you say it reminds me of the way I would say it. I remember thinking ' if they watch me get through this, it will show others that it's possible '

[@BigIronBickle]

Adriana I just lost my mom a week ago. The pain is unbearable.

[@MKO3090]

I lost my mother quite suddenly to an aneurysm and a heart attack earlier this month. One second she was 110% alive, the next she was gone. Thank you for the advice. It has been incredibly difficult, but I will always love my mother. If that means grief will always accompany my journey, so be it. She deserves to always be remembered and honored in that way. I love you mom.

[@maryanduuru1604]

I can relate to your loss cause I lost my mum in the exact same way am grieving as it’s hard and it’s lonely

[@jyotsanadang7203]

@@maryanduuru1604 even i lost my angel mum suddenly due to heart failure a month back. its v v hard

[@bigreed43]

They are taking my mom of life support in the morning at 9:00. Kind of fitting that I will be the only one from the family there...it always was just her and me. Words cant describe how I will miss her.

[@OneHourShower]

bigreed43 hey bigreed-- wondering how you're doing. We have a community right here in these comments that's ready to talk and help. We are stronger together and that's for sure. Any news to report ? Good news?

[@arielsarino2823]

I just found this channel while searching for support. I lost my mother today after a sudden cardiac arrest caused by electrolyte imbalance due to severe dehydration. She was 94 and my rock. She also suffered from dementia which seemed to worsen after my dad passed just over 2 years ago. It was just the two of us at home, however my sister was only 30 minutes away and came at least once a week to help bathe her and gave me some relief from care. It was a shock to me as she literally died in my arms. I know it's been only a few hours since we lost her but the pain is unbearable. I keep crying uncontrollably and I'm not sure where to start to heal. Your video has given me some answers but I know I have lots more grieving to come. I love you mom and you will never be forgotten, you will always be a part of me.

[@bleonaberisha7526]

I lost my mom at 57 also she died from lunge cancer im 17 years old and an only child it happened 9months ago but i just still can get over and i cry everynight...!😭😭😔😔😔

[@Grnys-wf1rs]

R.I.P. Marsha Kay...Im sorry for dropping you're calls...😥

[@ayooluwaodefemi9108]

Thanks for this video. I lost my mum 2 days ago at the age of 57. She would have been 58 in December. I wish I spent all the time with her, I am 21 and I'm grateful for the memories. I will forever cherish them

[@AlexandraJM2000]

I hope you’ve found peace now 💖

[@adrianmccalla8653]

I miss my mom like crazy😓😭😭 It's been five going six years now

[@jmbonanno]

I lost my mother this year on mother's day. She fought for 14 years brain cancer. Unfortunately it had spreaded to lungs and stomach too. During 10 months, she suffered lying on a bed. During those 10 months, she lost the movements of her arms and legs, she could not move anymore. Gradually lost consciousness. I stood by her side for those months. I was her daughter and nurse. Sometimes was to hard to see her passing through this painful situation. I was very grateful when she passed away, because her pain over. I miss her. I always remember her fondly.

[@jennyd5728]

My mom died 8 days ago from liver cancer. I also feel a sense of comfort in thinking the fact my mom is not suffering anymore. But it hurts so much. I missed her so much.

[@nelsoncappas8139]

Thank you. I recently loss my mother. Your video has giving me an idea on how better to cope with my moms passing. Hope everyone else going thru something like this find your video helpful.😀

[@biolaria]

This actually helped. I have lost my mom 5 years ago for a stroke. I'm the only child and mom raised me by herself...so....it was and it still is the most painfull thing ever happened in my life. I also have the same feelings you have...it's so frustrating that she's not here anymore..I have so many things to tell her. Thanks for this video btw

[@mediaiweb]

I lost my Mum in 1981 and I still cried yesterday especially when I see someone that looks like me hugging their mother. I tried hiding it because I'm a grown man plus u don't want to feel ashamed in front of your friends ever since she passed, I felt all alone till this day. I don't think time heals anything, it's been 30 somehow years now and the pain still lingers .. I can't afford therapy so I just do the best I can to keep it in ... I don't know, I just feel like nobody cares and for some reason, I find my self constantly fighting for my well being to this day.

[@ReadySetCapture]

Sending love to you 🙏🏼♥️

[@kimtil]

My mother is the best mother. She is very lovely, beautiful ,and she spent much time to cook for us even when she was sick. She wrote a letter for me very often it was so touching. I lost her 2 days ago. She was only 60 years old. I love her so much for my life.

[@lawmaster07]

I lost my Mum in February 2019 I was grieving badly for the first few days my Family is checking up on me and I on them. It’s like a network of help we all give each other support. That’s what we all need

[@Peaceonearth2024]

One of the best videos I've watched on grief here on KZbin. Thanks for sharing your story/your mom's story

[@mr.veebez4170]

This is true

[@mazzywazzy1287]

I lost my mum on the 20th DEC she was 87 and I'm struggling. I feel like I should say "oh well she had a long life" but God its hard its her funeral tomorrow the 18th

[@LazarusStirs]

I lost my Mom one week ago. Thanks for the video. Your Mom sounds amazing. My Mom was 86, I'm a 51 yr old male, but I feel like a lost child. She had beaten cancer twice but passed due to complications from Leukemia. My Mom seemed 20 years younger than her age. She was my best friend. She too was a single Mom. I really have no other family. Each day just seems bleaker than the last. I wish you the best, and everyone else who is in pain in the thread below.

[@geetanjaleek9579]

I feel u. Lost my mom who was 86. She suffered a stroke followed by seizures. She fought back for 6 days in the ICU but was taken away in her sleep. I'm and an only child. Have no family apart from mom. Waking up is the hardest part of the day. Even otherwise the constant fear of being alone in the word is suffocating.

[@acnb8390]

Thank you for posting this video. I lost my mother 3 weeks ago and I have been seeking advice and help in order to get one step closer to peace. Nothing feels the same without her. But i am trying to put one foot in front of the other and get back to my life.

[@pierrenoelalega6568]

Thanks for the video. I lost my mom yesterday. It hurts so much,I miss her so much. I’ve been taking care of her for over 2years..she was deteriorating..she was a strong woman who battled it for that long. She was only 56. Right now I just feel empty and lost. I just miss her so much. I love u ma!!!

[@ep9203]

Thx for this.my mom died on New Year's Day. Sepsis. Was awful to watch her battle for six weeks. I feel lost. At least she's no longer suffering.

[@jlane9656]

Same way my mum went - 6 weeks ago. Much love xxx

[@cpmffeilberg4970]

My mom's birthday was new years day and yet she died 14 days later on the 15th of January 2019. It's hard.

[@samcoleman6163]

I lost my mom 2 months ago and watching your video gave me some good insight on how to handle my grief I have good days and bad days but I am taking it one day at a time. Thank you for sharing your story!

[@jlane9656]

We lost our beloved mum 6 weeks ago to sepsis caused by ovarian cancer that she'd battled 10 years. I feel her love everywhere although me and my brother miss her terribly xxxx

[@rachelcamp7887]

My father passed in 2004 and on Jan 11, 2021 my mother passed. I am so sick to my stomach. I miss them! ❤

[@dontaskme.]

Thank you for sharing your story. I lost my mom to stage 4 breast cancer one month ago. She was only 51. I was there holding her while she took her last breath. Life will never be the same, I felt like a part of me died when she did as well.

[@adamdarby43]

Thank you for the video. Just lost both my Mom and Stepdad in a car accident Oct 1 2018. They were my best friends. My mom was the only source of true love in my life. I feel orphaned and alone in this world now.

[@ashleylala4293]

Thank you for this video. Omg, what a soul shattering experience this is. Having a limb sawed off would be less painful. Cuddling up with your mama is one of the best feelings in the whole world and I didn’t realize quite how precious it was until she left. I would give anything to be reunited with her. Big hugs and lots of love to everyone that is going through this nightmare. We will be reunited with them again some day. The Heartfulness Meditation system has been the only thing keeping me sane, they have a KZbin channel and a masterclass available. ❤️

[@Mrs.JessRich]

Exact same thing just happened with my mom a week ago. It was so shocking I did not see it coming. I'm so heartbroken

[@walkingthroughlife3517]

I lost my mum 8 years ago, the pain today is exactly the same, she was my best friend & l miss her so much....Big love..

[@enigma99a40]

Thanks for the video. I lost my mom almost 3 years ago and it has gotten worse as time passes. I am an only child and she was 52 when she passed due to brain cancer. She raised me as single mom and she was always so strong.

[@nggirl]

Thank you for sharing. I will probably have to watch your video again because I am still in a daze. My mother passed away just a little over a month ago and we had her funeral last week. I am unsure of the emotion I feel of being to solid and calm and scared that one day unexpectedly I will just crack and break down.

[@midnightcat6116]

My mom passed away on Wednesday. Her last 2 weeks were brutal. I’m still in shock. There’s so much i wanted to do with her. She was so young. I’m so sorry this happened to your mom. It’s devastating. Hoping this encompassing grief passes.

[@tashaadolph677]

I lost my mom almost 9 years ago. I pretended for a while that I was over it... but lately I've been going through a lot in life and I realised how much I miss her and I just want to see her so badly. Been struggling with my faith and really feeling very low. Man it hurts lately. Everything hurts.

[@ayooluwaodefemi9108]

God will never leave you nor forsake you. Your mother loved you, be strong and courageous

[@mollyhatchet7075]

YOU AND YOUR MOM ARE AWESOME . HERE'S TO BEING REUNITED ONE FINE DAY WITH OUR MOMS IN AN INCREDIBLE AFTERLIFE . BOY I HOPE THAT IS HOW IT WILL BE FOR ALL OF US .

[@megajames3000]

I lost my mom. Months ago in September but it feels like it just happened again right now. My mind and heart feel broken. These holiday months will be hard so I will seek help. I’ve been giving myself time to decompress. I talk to friends everyday and play a whole lot of video games. I think I’m doing this the right way and your video has helped.

[@imanuelbong4507]

I hv the same experience with you bro! My mom passed away 3 weeks ago due to COVID. She was 55, I'm 26. I'm the only son, my mom was single mother since I was still inside her womb, I have no one except her. She strived to nurture me. I'm so sad now, because I miss her, she's tough, don't want me to have hard times. Now is the most difficult time in my life. I wanted to travel with her to Thailand after COVID, but she's gone :( I really have difficulties in going forward in life. I lived just for my mom, she was the only one that I wanted to take care of, I wanted her to be in my future marriage and grandparent to my future children. I'm lonely. She's the best gift and she is irreplacable in my heart. Love her with every fiber of my being.

[@JoshuaLovesDoggos1]

I lost my mom last week she had a heart attack she was just 52. I'm 19

[@OneHourShower]

Oh my god Josh- thats friggin awful. I'm sorry for that. How is your support system ? Are you talking with anyone or is anyone helping ?

[@thatdude169]

joshthemlg pro I'm 22 my mom was 53 I am a broken soul idk what to do with my self

[@name3626]

I hope you’re all okay.

[@orcpeon4520]

Mike Pantaleo You are not alone

[@victoriadaniel3301]

I feel you

[@janfromnycsavesmoney8723]

Thank you so much for this video--- I lost three significant folks in my life (including Mom) within one month's span. I agree with your suggestions.

[@orcpeon4520]

I lost my mom last month and I had a moment where I would normally call her and just tell her about my life. She was my best friend and not being able to call her is the worst feeling

[@nomfundomaseko9025]

Hi lost my mother 2 weeks ago and it was the worst pain I've ever felt in my life. tears still fill my eyes when I think of her. She was sick for a short while, diagnosed with Covid-19 on the 20th of August 2020 transferred to Intensive Care on the 21st and passed on on the 24th. How I got through the 24th to the 28th (day of burial) I have no idea. I still have vivid flashbacks of the week. :( It heals the heart a bit to see that every mother is wonder woman and has super love powers. losing a mother tears one apart. But reading all your comments and listening to the video reassures me that there is hope for a life full of great memories of my mother. Thank you :-*

[@OneHourShower]

Nomfundo Maseko Im sorry for your loss. I can’t believe how many commenters have been through here with similar losses. Pretty crazy. It’s almost like a little support group here.

[@wanjirukibe918]

I lost my mum 3 days ago and I still can't believe it she was an amazing woman

[@staceysydney1144]

Lost my dear mom too in July.And I still can't believe she is not here, the pain is so hard .

[@islamsaeed1614]

I lost my mam 12 days ago I have the worst pain I ever feel

[@staceysydney1144]

@@islamsaeed1614 That pain is the worst pain too I have ever felt.I keep asking God why , why.

[@darlakidder7844]

I just lost my mom in March from Stage 4 lung cancer ,she was 74 , I miss her so much.

[@miketay713]

thanks I lost my mom November 3, 2016 its hard especially being the only child

[@OneHourShower]

Mike Taylor you're welcome Mike. I'm glad you've found strength and that fight you have. Proud of you.

[@Babyblue689]

It is when you’re an only child, but if u have good friends and extended family it helps

[@GeorgiaBocanegra]

I lost my mama 9 months ago already but the pain is still there. I’m still crying every night I always dreamed of her. I missed her so much. I love her deeply.

[@matrixkernel]

I lost my Dad recently. He seemed too loving a man to go so hard by his illness. He cried, screamed, and acted like he did something wrong. That just hurts me everyday.

[@OneHourShower]

Lew Fez I’m really sorry for your loss. It’s been 6 years now since I lost my mom. Holidays are really hard and now I have a 3 year old and a 17 month old that would have lovedddddd my mother. How will you practice self care during this time ?

[@matrixkernel]

Really just communal prayer with family and friends gives me hope that something good with come out of this.

[@ashes833]

Lost my mom just before Thanksgiving this year, suddenly and unexpectedly. She was alone. No other children, no spouse or significant other, no siblings. I'm floundering most of each day since. I feel so lost. See was an amazing and hard working Mama, loved us and her Grandkids beyond belief . No extended family offered to help really , although there have been many who have been kind and loving. Unfortunately one cousin keeps openly criticizing the choices I made for cremation and service. I don't know what to do most of the time out of each day. I'm married and have children but keep feeling so alone in this

[@SouthernSkeptic]

Happy Mother's day to all our mom's that have passed on.

[@veronicacristina3061]

I’m sorry for your loss, I feel when you said your mom was diagnosed with cancer. my mom passed away 5 months ago October 27, just a few days after my birthday. she passed from pancreatic cancer, I never knew what a horrible painful & one of the worst cancers anyone can have until my mom was diagnosed with it. she was the rock of my family the strength the only person who really kept my family close together. I have 3 older sisters & out of all 4 of us I was the only one who really stayed by my mothers side along with my dad every time she had to go to the hospital due to fever. on her last day all my sisters rushed to the hospital except for one who was living in oregon at the time. it was 10 a.m on the 27th friday morning when the dr told us she’s going to pass away that same day. my world & everyone else who was in the room came crushing down. the dr wanted to give her medicine to calm her anxiety & also pain killers so when it’s her time to go she would pass peacefully. he did let us know tho that she will pass away faster bc the calmer she gets the slower her breathing will continue. during alll this my sister was currently flying from oregon to california to say her goodbyes, I was so worried my sister wouldn’t make it in time to say bye & that would crush my heart for her. finally my sister came & I swear it’s like my mom waited for her, sadly she was unconscious just asleep so we had no communication with her on her last day. my sister arrives at 3 & she passed away that same day around 5:20 pm. it’s like she knew we were all there in the room just being together, people kept walking in & out of the room my dad kept going out of the hospital to smoke his cigarettes but at one point we were all in the room with her & that’s when she decided to leave peacefully, she didn’t make a noise didn’t move just peacefully stopped breathing. I always have trouble wondering if she’s okay now if she’s really at peace? one of my sisters is having a hard time too but my mom visited her in her dreams, she said it was the same last day in the hospital & my mom was awake & alert, she started crying out of no where in the dream, my sister asked my mom why are you crying? my mother responded saying bc she saw a while light when she was passing & she never felt soo much peace until she saw that light. so I use that to tell myself that she’s okay, she’s cremated my beautiful mother I have her close at home with us. I love her & I miss her, there’s honestly no words to describe the pain unless you’ve gone through it yourself. she was only 60, rest in peace always & forever my sweet beautiful mom

[@DeepPoeticSociety]

I lost my mom on September 6th due to metastatic uterine cancer. I helped take care of her for many years, she had diabetes that was unregulated(she loved her sweets). She was diagnosed with cancer on August 2nd,and while we were still trying to process all of this, she declined in health very rapidly. I watched my mom die a little everyday for five long weeks. I work at a hospital, so when she required twenty four seven healthcare, I was forced to place her in hospice. I still have a key to her house, and I go there on the weekends. But it doesn't feel like a home anymore. I don't hear my mom's voice, smell her perfume, hear the news channel she would watch. It's been a month, and this is getting more difficult to accept. It's like I keep looking for her even though I know that she is dead. I never took the time to make friends with other people, or have relationships because of my job. And now, I'm facing this by myself. It's my own doing, I can accept that. A lot easier than I can my mother being gone forever.

[@gstylez0107]

Just lost my gram today, she was like my mother. I will miss her so much.

[@OneHourShower]

gstylez0107 hey g- sorry to hear that. I really, on top of missing mom, miss my grandmother too. My mom's mom was so funny. I would say " grandma dinner is hot" as it burned my tongue and she would say " I hope so" or I would say " what are we having for dinner " and she would ALWAYS say " shit on a shingle " she was the consummate ball buster.

[@Trash-th7hp]

I'm 14 years old. I lost my mother just this month to alcoholism. She was merely 35 years old. It's never been easy for my family, but I trust that my mother gave up her physical form to bless the rest of us, I know that's what she would do and that's what she'd want anyone else to do. I remember the time and day it happened and will remember it for as long as I live... January 5th, 2019, 1:30AM. It's never good bye, it's see you later. I hope the rest of you guys can learn to live and love harder after your losses, I'm still in the early process of that and will be in that process in general for years, if not all of my life.

[@TitiJo]

I'm just coming across your video. I'm trying to find solace from all who've lost theirs. I lost mine to pulmonary fibrosis a few weeks ago and I'm having a hard time knowing how to navigate this pain. I hope you have found many more days of comfort since you posted this. Sending virtual hugs and love your way!

[@NickolasGoadSD]

My condolences. I just lost my mom and best friend growing up. She gave me the skills to survive in this world, father was a provider but never around and when he was, it was always a disaster. He had anger from his mental battles he never faced head-on. I later would develop Bi-polar, something my mom had but ignored herself. I still have some of her manic episodes burned into my memory banks. It didn't matter, we went through a lot, they all had their reasons to be as broken as they were. They broke a lot of chains and that's how I'm choosing to see her legacy to us. They did it on their own, provided for us and saw to it my autistic brother got the help he needed and my half-brother as well with his condition. For me they gave me opportunities to see the world when I was young and it would impact my path in life. Humbling experiences that make up parts of who I am today. I know none of this matter to you, I'm just a random stranger. But I wanted to share. I just lost my mother six days ago now. The last four years I struggled dealing with the reality this day would come. I've been walled off on my own island. It's the most loneliest feeling ever. Strange thing is, I'm coping alright because it's been coming and we spent two beautiful weeks together, I was there to the end, she no longer had the energy to suck water through the straw, I went and got a big syringe to pump it in her mouth... I didn't know what to do but to be there.. I hope our loved ones are at peace. Sending virtual hugs to you as well!

[@mariamoshogianni7008]

My deepest condolences for losing your mom i lost my mom to cancer 14 years ago .... Lost my dad a year ago my brother a year ago and my brothers son 6 months ago was so difficult for me god bless you thanks for sharing🙏💔

[@rain73ful]

I lost my mother a year and a half ago to cancer. She had always had health problems, but when she died, I wasn't there, and I wasn't told about it until several months later( in a very rude way), and I was devastated, because I never got to say goodbye to her, and tell her how much I loved her, and I'll never forgive my family for not telling me sooner, but I do believe she's in a better place, and that she did know how I felt about her. A couple days after I found out she died, I heard her voice inside my head, telling me that "it's ok, just calm down, relax, and that she knew how much I loved her, and I actually felt her presence inside my body. It was an extremely warm feeling that I had never felt before, and at least at that moment, she was with me again. Life is never the same after you lose a parent, but at least we had that connection to each other.

[@nessadla]

Thank you so much. It is very true how people can try to take advantage. I lost my mom in Feb 2018. Everything you said was so true.

[@NickolasGoadSD]

Thank you for this... I just lost my mother August 30th, 2020 - pancreatic cancer, spread horribly during lock-down no less. It's been... a hard year.

[@estevaoalvaro8231]

First of all, thanks a lot for you video I need to saw this. I loss my mom 26 july and I'm fell so useless 'cause she had a colapse in front of me and even the nurse can't did anything for her. In these day I just cry a little bit, but since that day the guilty, the loss and everything worst don't leave me anymore. I can't stop to blame myself for was a bad son for her and probably I'll bear this emotion for the last of my life. Thanks for the video and one more word... I'm so sorry mom and I love you for eternity and please look over your son who miss you and need you... love you mom. Thanks!

[@OneHourShower]

Rest In Peace bro. I’m sorry for your loss :) xox

[@FreshRose-z3s]

My mom passed October 7, 2020. Thanks for this message.

[@Babyblue689]

What you say is so true. Thank you for making this video

[@Sarah-yo1dd]

I am sorry about your loss. Thank you for this informative video. I lost my mom to pancreatic cancer as of one year ago. She was my very best friend and I don't have a lot of support. I am lost and void and empty without her. She was an absolute joy to have around. It does not help to be alone more than 90%of the time.

[@cofesoftware1486]

it's very painful when u loose you loose a loved one. My mom had passed away in 2014 and my life never go

[@cofesoftware1486]

going to be the same. Some days are harder then the other you just have to learn to deal with it. Everyone tells me that it takes time to heal but u always miss her. Sometimes, I wish that I could be next to her. We'd shared every thoughts good and bad ones and we talked a lot over the phone which always lifted up my spirit. I go to church and read a bible that helps a lot. I made friends and try to move on.

[@GLOVESUCKER]

Thanks for you making this video. I was thinking that I am getting messed up.

[@sunnyruns6674]

Thank you my mom passed away from Covid 19 last Saturday. I am going to seek out help with a therapist.

[@OneHourShower]

I’m sorry for your loss. But I am so proud of you for talking to someone. I will be thinking about you.

[@zuzanazahradnickova3616]

I lost my mom a week ago also from Covid. I really feel lost without her.

[@jasleenkaur7448]

i lost my mom on 1st jan 2018 only 1 month ago and she was only 54 ...i miss her so much she was my everything and feel like a dead person without her..... i always wish if she could come back

[@realist2095]

I lost my mom today. the pain am experiencing is unbearable. nothing seems to be the same RIP dear Mom.

[@georginasmith441]

thanks for the upload, it's been 2 yeas since my lovely mum died from pulmonary fibrosis - she was diagnosed and died 3 weeks later - I just wanted to say I agree about all you said and especially at the end where you mention frustration....that is rarely mentioned , it's an odd frustrated mad feeling.....I loved the ideas about keeping your parent alive with the tree etc...best wishes to all that are members of this awful club :( xxx ps....our mums and dads want us to laugh !!

[@xxdophxx2241]

I am currently losing my mother to cancer and I do not have much time with her left. Thank you so much for making this video it is really helped me.

[@rosierosie8190]

Hug her as much as you can....sleep next to her and pray...make her happy...listen to her...dont even raise your voice at her....make her feel loved .

[@porro913]

Wow I stumbled onto your video by accident and my mother away two days ago and I'm having a hard time dealing with this sad to say I thought about joining her but that's not what my mother wanted me to do watching this video it helps

[@G.T.F.0]

i lost my mom yesterday to alcoholic liver damage ...she was 52, she was my best and only friend in the world, she was my soul and my heart, my biggest nightmare was losing her and it came true, i feel like i will never be happy again

[@OneHourShower]

I’m so sorry lone … it will get easier I promise. You’re not alone. This thread alone has 40 or so people in our spot.

[@jlane9656]

RIP mum March 16th 2019 - best friend and inspirational person. xxxxx

[@thewomanscorner929]

I can see that I’m not the only one wondering how go through this. I lost my mom 3 weeks ago and couldn’t even attend her funeral. People where all waiting for me to make scene or do something but i can’t even go out without having a panic attack. Being an only child sucks in times like this because I feel like people sympathize but don’t really understand your pain it feels like moqueries

[@bradfordrowe7509]

Thank you my mom has brain cancer and she's in a nursing home and I can't cope with it

[@bradfordrowe7509]

She past last whensday

[@michelledaly1015]

Hey I lost my mom four year ago. I just watched and I crying.. thinking about my mother... I cant affored a therapist or way get help to go through this... your video had help me... as m I always going to cry....

[@OneHourShower]

michelle daly I’m so happy you found something in this video to help you. There are free resources, it’s just a matter of finding them. Depending on your state there are options for you. Hang in there.

[@chop3625]

Your Mom looks very nice, I sympathize. Thank you for this clip.

[@OneHourShower]

Thanks chop- that’s really kind of you. I hope you have a wonderful Christmas and 2022 is amazing for you.

[@ilike2walk227]

My mom’s name is Maureen as well. She passed away on 03/15/18

[@ducheau100]

You talk from the perspective that someone has a lot of friends and family to support them through this. Some people don't have a lot of friends and aren't married like you. They have to face this alone.

[@OneHourShower]

davewrest well you’ve started finding friends and support simply by commenting here. This video and it’s comments seem to have a lot of us who dealt with it. I’ve spoken to some of these commenters privately.

[@OneHourShower]

And I also utilized the employee resource program. That way the person HAD to listen and help me lol

[@russellmills2723]

My moms passed in February, 2016. Since her passing i cant think of nothing else. I think of her everyday since that day. I try to be positive but the pain still hurts. Help me fam.....

[@sevenis5752]

This was good. My mom just got diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and I'm an only child and the rest of my family is overseas. It feels surreal. I can't imagine not having my mom. Thanks for the video

[@OneHourShower]

Alia M hey Alia. I am sorry to hear that diagnosis. How are things with you? How is mom doing ?

[@loyshacanfield]

Alia M My mother was diagnosed pancreatic cancer in June of 2017, it’s sucks because pancreatic cancer can’t be found until later on stages. Today my family and I are with my mother as this probably her last day. It’s sucks. I’m only 16, but I know I have to stay strong in my faith. God has a plan and reason behind the this. I will pray for your mother and you’re family, I’m sorry.

[@beccashindorf3603]

Stay strong sister

[@davidf6871]

Reading a lot of this comments because like most people here I lost my Mom 3 weeks ago. She was 72. I don’t need to get into the details but she was sick for a year developed an infection and she just couldn’t fight it. I truly feel what you all feel, we are all part of a club no one wants to join. But the advice given in the video is all true. Let yourself grieve how ever you need to. I am married with 2 boys and they are what get me through everyday. Right now everyday is a challenge emotionally, I lost my father 9 years ago, he was only 68. Losing one parent in no way prepares you for losing the other. It just sucks, and everyone in this world, every living thing on this planet will go through some form of loss like this. It’s sad, unfair, heart braking, and draining on the human spirit. But I know that as a parent, the idea of my kids feeling how I feel right now makes me understand a little more that we have to continue to live a life with meaning. My Mom meant everything to me. She taught me how to trust, how to love, how to be patient and made just about every goal I had reachable. She was a strong woman, she would do anything to help or make sure I was comforted. I want to continue life with the energy she provided and be an example to my own children that life will go on, I will have my moments of overwhelming heartache, but I will also have moments of extreme happiness. It’s ok to smile and laugh and feel good about something. She wouldn’t want it any other way. As I wouldn’t want it any other way for my kids after I’m gone. I just hope everyone going through this doesn’t feel alone.

[@kitsonstrings3920]

Thank you so much for this video. İ lost my mother in May and i was not there when she died. Am a graduate student in Turkey and my mother died back home in Africa. İt has been difficult to deal with the loss.

[@ogbee9690]

Lost mom last year, she was 51. My perception of reality feels altered, more muddled almost. I feel more disconnected. It’s very hard.

[@gybx4094]

No one else can feel your inner pain. You know how much you loved the person who passed away. You will be at peace with it and then you may have a wave of emotion hit you unexpectedly. If you don't cry externally, you may cry internally. Write down the best remembrances you have. The person you lost would want you to live on with happiness.

[@God_Leads_My_Way]

My mom died Dec,10 2016 of breast cancer and It feels like the worst pain I ever felt she was a great women and a mother of 9 children that her and my father raised together, she was my best friend and I could always rely and talk to her just about anything, I honestly feel incomplete now but I am going to seek out help because instead of getting better it's getting worst I'm hunted by memories and flash backs of the moment she took her last breath. But thank you for the video you had some great tips that I'm going to try out!

[@OneHourShower]

Natural Girl Kinky Curly hey natural. Listen you got something other girls don't, naturalism. And that's more than others could ever say. And I can tell by how you talk that helping others comes natural to you. Your story and the specific details you remember can really help someone. That's the first thing I think of when I read that. I think it's really normal to remember that stuff but you know I heard something that's pretty crazy. That like 90% of all our memories are wrong. Something like that and I was blown away. Things that drive us and move us and motivate us, sometimes are things we have altered and adjusted every time we think of them. But those memories you have, they sound like they've given you more strength than stress. That's powerful stuff Ms. natural. Hope all is well with you.

[@brettbean4607]

Thank you your words really helped me. I lost my dad in June 2016 and my mom passed away in October 2016.

[@DEEDEE2000ful]

Brett Bean I'm so sorry. That must have been tough. Lost my dad when I was one and a half and my mum on 3rd of September 2017. Still can't believe that I'm an orphan now

[@Babyblue689]

My parents died 6 months apart, I was sad to lose them together, but glad for the long life they had and that one didn’t have to live Alone without the other for too long

[@vishnu639]

I lost my mother two years ago . She was only 56 when she died . It is really difficult to live . Someday's are easier but some are really hard..... I just connect with what you say .

[@kujo1978lol]

This was helpful. Thank you.

[@trinitybonita6173]

Thank you for this video!

[@anupamnaagar1624]

My mom passed away when she was just 52, due to cancer.

[@jastinhamilton580]

i lost my mom when i was 3 and my brother was 1 and i have been dealing with depression and anxiety since without even realizing but now i have fell into the deepest depression of my life and it a been really hard for me lately

[@LorisLifestyle]

I lost my mom tonight @ 10:03 to a ten year battle of stage IV Ovarian Cancer.

[@comets00]

i lost my mother 7 years ago, i just cant let go, she died of cancer and during that time that she was ill i started drinking, only a couple of nights a week but since that time i drink more, i cant say goodbye, i have had a little therapy but i didnt work, i loved her very much.

[@OneHourShower]

comets00 hey comets. You're not the first one to have used substances to get through that. Believe that. And I don't want you to feel like " I've tried everything and it's pointless .. like I've heard it all " because there's always a way. There's a way to come out of the darkness.

[@comets00]

thank you

[@stephanierobinson5122]

That was very helpful, I lost my mom December 8, 2020

[@DjVeenny]

I'm so so sorry for your loss, I don't know you at all but I lost my mom and grandma this year and I know how hard it can be early on....take care of yourself. I wish you the best. You have a wonderful beautiful angle with you always 🌹💜

[@TomokoAbe_]

i lost my mom just a few weeks ago and I feel my life has been destroyed...empty..i feel so alone. I have been praying for WW3.. you have to remember their suffering is over. The only people hurting are the living. But I am also thankful I have no children to repeat this cycle of endless suffering and loss.

[@murielmorrical2450]

Man our stories are almost the same. My mom actually passed from muscular dystrophy. It's been 4 months and I really dont think I'm going to make it.

[@sachinkapil2433]

I don't have friends , few people I counted as close , are ignoring me My relatives I used to visit are completely fed up with me ,they want completely changed overnight act like nothing happened now I have no strength in body .. outside I try to act ok but inside I am all shattered finding no help ..

[@whatthebrosthink828]

I lose my mother on my birthday 5th August . I trying to be strong but I'm not . I'm feel so hollow inside. It just so hard . I missed her everyday.

[@craftygirl17]

Thank you for your video.

[@exvandale]

hi.. wow,, i lost my mother feb 5 2017 with the same health issues. she was to get a new liver but she went in to septic shock.. and she dint recover. my mom was all i had in this world.. its hard for me to cope with the fact shes gone. and yes i understand when you say to watch out from people taking advantage of your situation. I've never know so much pain. im trying to move on but its very hard.. i put a good face around people that know me but when im alone in bed i really brake down. i miss my mother

[@OneHourShower]

Enrique hey Enrique - sorry to hear about that. I hope that you find sunshine and happiness inside of yourself when you look for it. It's hard to control (actually impossible) anything outside of ourselves. So if we control what we are thinking, we then control what we are feeling. And it makes this crazy life that much easier on ourself. We have a community here in these comments that really help each other so anytime you're feeling any kind of way, come and chat. :) take care and stay in touch.

[@rachel-hb4xj]

I lost my mom in June, she was 67, she had lymphoma from a kidney transplant the drugs she took for anti rejection caused her immune system to become weak and cancer showed up..she was stable until just before Mother's Day then she got an infection and went on chemo which she never wanted, she told me she wasn't getting better and said goodbye, she was thinking about my brother who passed in 1998, she believed she would see him again, her journals said..she would have had less'than 2 years, they told me that they couldn't get the cancer In remission..she was so sad and worried about me, but I told her I would have to manage, I hardly have anyone to talk to, my dad never talks about her and he never will..somehow my life has to go on..I'm sorry for your loss, I wasn't younger when she left I'm 46, but it's still very hard, her stuff is still here, I will take what she wanted me to have and leave the rest for my dad to deal with or not deal with..I worry about his life he isn't able to confide in anyone..

[@predragmilic5299]

we are the life joy and happiness of them be forever as in there heart ...all the best the son of my mother

[@RayrayB19]

I just lost my mom on may 23rd,2020.I having a problem since my mother passed so I couldn’t sleep at night and didn’t want wake up,I think I have a depression or anxiety but I didn’t want eat anything all day 😓😞