Death and How to Live It: Death Doula, Alua Arthur | Soul Boom | Ep 22

[@yorgivon-schmourgeussborgi]

This is WISDOM. Intrinsic and objective.

[@SoulBoom]

truly 🤯

[@RaynaxRampage]

Rainn, please have Caitlin Doughty on the show to talk with you about the green burial movement and the spirituality of death. It would be such an amazing episode.

[@manzypants]

Yes please!

[@marieelisa1]

Yes! 🙌🙌🙌

[@SavMortem]

Yes please!!!

[@carlamunoz472]

I could not get enough of this episode. Knowledge is comforting even when knowing is uncomfortable

[@meganfoster3095]

Serendipitous timing, finding this video. I was just having death anxiety about passing on without my loved ones to greet me wherever I end up. Very comforting episode

[@jenyi545]

This is a great guest and discussion. Death is inevitable. I've been a nurse for 18 years and I have witnessed things that are worse than death. I work in an ICU and we truly just care for the material body. It always floors me when we get patients in their 80s with no advance directive and have never spoken to their family about dying. Some families will want us to do anything to just keep their heart beating with zero quality of life. People treat their pets with more dignity. I wish we had death doulas in the hospital.

[@pointmass]

I sincerely thank you for your service to humanity in the noble nursing profession. God bless your pure heart. May you continue to grow and develop, and appear in the utmost beauty.

[@winvasquez9494]

The first 5 minutes gave me more than most entire podcast interviews ever do. Thank you.

[@SavMortem]

People like Alua and Caitlin Doughty are my heroes. I consume as much as I can of reflections and conversations like this because I reflect on mortality every day and I think these talks are really important. Thank you for having this and having Alua on your show ❤️ I love her and can't wait to read her book

[@stephc2120]

This episode was so powerful, personally I had never had an experience with anyone close to me passing, until my baby boy passed away. It was such a devastating experience and it really opened my eyes to how much the world likes to keep the topic hush hush, to avoid it as much as possible. After many years and a lot of therapy I finally found comfort and joy in being present in the moment, but it made me realize how much we need to normalize these dialogues to prepare ourselves for the inevitable. Holding this episode very close to my heart 🖤

[@coolbreeze5683]

Sorry to hear about your baby 😥 I have had a few people close to me pass but I always remember that those who pass away have now become our future. Each day we live, we're one day closer to seeing them again. All we can do in the meantime is live the best lives we can so that we are prepared when we see them again.

[@MyEverydayGarden]

Thank you. So beautifully shared ❤

[@shibbylunsford2040]

Even as a kid the idea of burial in a coffin didn’t make sense to me. I said at least poke holes in my coffin so the worms can eat and I don’t go to waste. Truly insightful episode I look forward to reading Alua Arthur’s book. Thank you ❤

[@coolbreeze5683]

I saw her on a BBC show about people who have "death anxiety" a few weeks ago. I love her energy and her views on life/death. Looking forward to this interview 😊

[@gemdre]

Her book " briefly, perfectly human is beautiful!

[@ransdellremediation]

Love her voice. Saw her on another podcast earlier this year; I have been drawn to the doula energy for so long. Thank you~.

[@iotaOrionis11]

This is such a helpful episode. I have death anxiety. I have experienced a few traumatic deaths in my life, the largest and most impactful was the death of my Dad, he was attacked and died due to his injuries, when I went to identify his body I was deeply disturbed by seeing him there but the lack of his essence, it was traumatic for me, i didnt get to witness the transition so for me it was as if he was just gone and knowing his passing was violent stayed with me for a long time. I was lucky enough to have profound experiences after his death during meditation where he was present. Beautiful talk, thank you.

[@AthenaseesAll]

16:07 I’ve been rolling citrus daily and the description of this is so strikingly accurate and beautiful. Absolutely beautiful

[@pipariini]

Thank you, Rainn, for sharing your experience after your dad’s passing. I had this happen after my beloved pet had passed away at a vet’s office, as I went to say my goodbyes to him. When I saw him, I had this profound feeling of him no longer being there, where his tiny body was. The feeling was so strong I almost felt silly petting him and saying my goodbyes; as if I was too late to do so. It brings me comfort to hear someone else describe this feeling as I have never shared this with anyone - and I am surprised to find out that the feeling may not always be present after passing. Thank you so much for these insights.

[@Gables1983]

Alua 😍😍 She's such a great teacher and human ♡♡ Excellent guests, Rainn...thanks so much 🙏✨

[@inov1934]

Ur role as Arthur in Six Feet Under was extraordinary! Its such a comfort hearing you and Alua talking about this essential topic. Thank you Rainn your a real blessing 🫶🏻🍀

[@natalie1127]

Loved this topic and guest! ❤️ Such beautiful ideas and mindsets 💛

[@SavMortem]

She even mentioned Katrina Spade and recomposition! That's awesome! 🥰

[@marianneveilleux9296]

What a great and fortuitously timed episode. My Dad passed the day before this was released. What a comfort. It also encouraged me to think about death differently. Thank you!

[@weamyone]

Such a great episode and I just fell in love with Alua, so much wisdom, grace, compassion. I listened yesterday and bought her book on audible last night - so full of life and passion, and so many goosebumps. She has an amazing gift with death and her words. I needed this, thank you. ❤

[@SadeJessica]

Death is something I never like to think about even though it’s coming to us all but listening to this really helped put things into perspective

[@saivitewilson141]

I came across her through Caitlin Doughty, a wonderful mortician who is fabulous in advocating for good death options. Yes, as a hospice volunteer with a Death Doula cert, Alua is a precious gem 💎 ❤️

[@anaxoxo2]

This episode is surprisingly one of my favorites! I had a fear of death but now I feel inspired to make the most of my life and think of death as rest🤍

[@candicesanchez3753]

Wow, that was a good one! Thank you both. ❤

[@mandeits]

I want to talk about death! I want to embrace it. But I also do not want to be naïve when it comes to death. Thank you for this episode. I tend to think about death daily and try to talk about it daily.

[@ambermeslar3586]

I also hope I pass watching the sun set :) have always thought this, and love the sentiment of your loved ones applauding as you pass away, applauding your life and celebrating your transition to the next step. What a beautiful episode

[@cheresecoleman9322]

So happy to see this episode, the two of you inspired me, found Alua in the same week I heard about, purchased and finished reading SoulBoom. Again, so grateful for your work!

[@MyEverydayGarden]

Thank you! A beautiful, important conversation.

[@jettahat]

This is what I love to see. Excited to watch/listen!!

[@CrystelleComas]

Beautifully said

[@waynedrury9515]

Great podcast thankyou ❤❤❤

[@stephaniecarmenate9228]

What a beautiful episode

[@hoodwitchinc]

Loved this episode!!! ❤

[@megankwisdom]

Beautiful conversation 💜

[@vanhoudtshoorn]

❤🙏thank you both

[@missgraciekennedy]

Beautiful

[@ramyadevir971]

Rainin love from India. ❤❤❤

[@lilliantanasijevic7852]

It is necessary to talk about death because it does happen... often. We are not prepared at all 😢

[@DanceDaily]

18:00 "the awe of being"

[@sharonmassey2923]

Everything dies...except certain trees. There are trees that are 4,000 up to 9,000 years old! What's that about? Add-on: Rainn, I first knew you from "Six Feet Under", and was captivated by your character. I most enjoyed the more unusual characters, although everyone certainly had their moments! A fascinating series. Watched the whole thing twice, and may again!

[@tysonmckinney5494]

Good conversation. Totally agree with the green burial, no embalming. The nuanced issue with composting or cremation goes more to the chemicals that we are ingesting every day. Being at the relative top of the food chain, we are bio-accumulators, weather we want to be or not. Yea on co2, though Pot-ash ( potassium ) literally was discovered to help flowers to grow. It’s the 3rd # on most fertilizers. When you dig a hole are you not disturbing the millions of tiny beings? Not to start one vs another. I appreciate the conversation. According to Vedas the, the ceremony, along with your entire life is preparation for the time of death so one can maintain their balance of consciousness, as we pass on because what we are thinking about at that time, along with our actions throughout life, and the intentions dictates our next birth, hopefully out of this samsara. Read the Bhagavad Gita:As it is.

[@Lownly1]

Can we get all the billionaires to watch this…

[@davidsroczynski665]

life is death, man, we died the day we were born, life and death are two words for the same thing. and there is no death, there is only life that forever changes, life uses our corpses to give birth to new forms of life, there is no such thing as self, it’s an illusion, so what we call death is the disappearing of our selves, but since they don’t exist…..the self is only a thought, an illusional thought-centre, there are only thoughts, there is no entity that reads the thoughts « you » are thinking, it’s little consolation for you and the ones you are grieving, same with me, a little consolation for me grieving my gf, but there is no death for the body, there is just a change in the course of atoms, a dead animal’s body gives instantly birth to new forms of life, and even now, there are bacterias everywhere on your body, that said I have nothing against faith in the survival of a soul through the process of death (wich again is life) why not? but as the saying goes: faith is no proof, faith is when you have given up all hope, I have given up hope, because with the death of my gf, I realised once and for all that I know nothing, and that I have no way of knowing at all, and that I don’t control of anything, life takes charge of everything, there is nothing we have to do, death or call it life definetely humbled me. I’m no more important than an ant here and life will do whatever it wants of « me » I trust that 100% 👍❤ there is no spiritual level, it’s all material, that doesn’t mean it’s not magic and supernatural, death is absolute magic, think of it…..suddenly! bang! 💥life is forever changing and can not be captured, stopped, frozen, a photography of my gf is not my gf, she is gone forever! 💔she died of heart attack, while I was alone with her, there was absolutely nothing I could do, that’s when I realised in my bones, I had no control of anything, and also I had no control of the reaction I had, and paradoxically that’s what gave me some kind of peace. thanks for your vlog, I loved the office 👍it was hilarious 😂 Dwight Schrutte is super scary lol, good job 👍 and again: it’s when you really lose hope that you have faith in life, life takes charge of everything, breathing, growth of plants, digestion etc etc not us😮 death is not at the end because it never ends, life never ends and had no beginning, there is no instant of death, think of it, it’s just arbitrary chronolical non sense, yeah you can say: at this minut: the body stopped breathing and no more waves in the brain, ok, but when exactly is death? you get? the bacterias on you are already eating your body, it never stops, life is forever changing….the person who is gone, was also forever changing, nothing is static, everything is impermanent and change forms, the people we are grieving are only a thought now.

[@DanceDaily]

"life's meaning is that it ends"

[@DanceDaily]

what is the name of the series of when you interviewed people in their last months, years? I want to watch it

[@OddWomanOut_Pi81]

✨️👌🏾✨️

[@dancoyle6911]

It was really a missed opportunity to not call it. “come with me if you want to die”

[@averieelkhay2010]

🩵🩵

[@keekee5638]

Rainn this will seem like an inappropriate question to ask for such a powerful episode. But was that art piece behind you (wood, metal bowl assembled random pieces) purchased from an artist in Sunshine Coast, BC? If so please let me know! He passed away last week- his widow would love to see it here if it’s one of his (100% looks like it)