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[@RachelOates]

*throws pebbles at you all*

[@stevenbaumann8692]

Rachel Oates just make sure you hit me in the bad eye.

[@tommyl.dayandtherunaways820]

You're well on your way to a happy, healthy marriage

[@sauleiwanderapfelstrudel]

"I WANNA HAVE YOUR BABIES ONE DAY"

[@ksoundkaiju9256]

lily redhead. She's already in a relation

[@ksoundkaiju9256]

Rachel Oates. You want em back or keep em?

[@futureangelica1125]

Sis got married after 8 days and I can't even get a text back

[@morbidbunny3324]

Future Angelica 😂😂😂

[@DaryaCarmilla]

Hadn't she been stalking him during 4 years before they got married? It might be the missing piece of the puzzle! Now seriously: I wish you all the best. Better wait til somebody good comes alone than to find an abuser like Mr. Pearl

[@QJ89]

Christians...

[@thebitch4409]

this sounds like she’s a lesbian without context

[@estrellaln3836]

😂😂😂

[@Psychwriteify]

"It is better for the job to be done poorly by your husband than to be done well by you" I'm dying from laughter at the amount of shade in that sentence.

[@kathryngeeslin9509]

Chara Boom

[@evelyneb590]

@Chara preaching the true gospel here

[@nicholasharvey4393]

Carly Fournier (cracks knuckles) I want to argue about this. Do you?

[@elvellarambles9151]

I know! There's a lot of passive aggression in this book!! (Submissive fetishes aside, the Debi in these pages doesn't really present as a woman with a passive personality - and it's coming out in her writing!)

[@nightjar8898]

Actually, I think companies should adopt this model. All employees with blond hair should do job X even if they suck at it because, after all, the Creator designed them to do it. We're not designs or roles, but human beings and we all have our strengths and weaknesses as individuals.

[@inanimatecarbongod]

I'd probably throw rocks at Michael Pearl too if I were married to him. Or even if I weren't. And I wouldn't grow out of it. I'd probably throw some at Debbie too.

[@mintehnormie]

James Russell ROCK their world !

[@astrangeone]

I'm lesbian, if I ended up married to either of them, I'd probably end up throwing a home furnishing at one of them. Good grief. Those two twits are the most toxic people out there.

[@magiv4205]

James Russell i would like to do much more than just throw rocks at them

[@a_whitlow21]

James Russell I can definitely say that I would throw rocks at both Michael and Debi if I was ever unfortunate enough to come across them.

[@jondoes8222]

A cult.

[@rebekahbell227]

I guess you could say their marriage had a rocky start...

[@xRaiofSunshine]

Goddammit xD

[@aaronmoon1805]

Aw I think their marriage is a gem

[@zaccheusnthiwa5417]

Yeeeaaahhh....!!!

[@toocooltododrugspencil1691]

Nice pun😆

[@thebitch4409]

nO

[@HarshitYadav-bo8xe]

Remember guys, if she throws rocks at you, she is definitely a keeper.

[@DoctorPenguin21]

She is your rock.

[@HarshitYadav-bo8xe]

Golems are not my type. But, to each their own. Who am I to judge? People do have some weird fetishes, don't they?

[@JohnnyMcska]

If she doesn't draw blood, she doesn't really want you.

[@imveryangryitsnotbutter]

Golems are human-made objects of with supernatural properties, so I guess that would make them fetishes in their own right.

[@HarshitYadav-bo8xe]

Not necessarily. Most folklore consist of golems not born from sorcery. It may or may not be human made.

[@couch_philosoph3325]

the sex bit disturbed me quite a bit. in the beginning of the relationship with my boyfriend there was a moment, where i first thought i wanted sex and then suddenly i didnt anymore. my bf is very understanding and wouldnt find it pleasing to have sex with someone who doesnt want to. this incident actually made our sex life better, because it showed me how much i could trust him and how much he cared.

[@Nyctophora]

This woman ... should stop identifying her personal fetishes as universal truths.

[@nightjar8898]

Her fetishes are universal truths as far as she is concerned. I can't stress enough that fundies see the world in black and white because gee, actual thinking is hard work. The genders are waaay different because God has two cookie cutters with one for male and one for female and the female is in a submissive kneeling position.

[@soupsoup8006]

Solipsism

[@Dee-V-Dee]

Ha I know right?! I was like just cause you’re a sub doesn’t mean this is universally true for every woman 😭

[@x.carbon.x1613]

Mako Furiosa I understand this comment was a joke but is also harmful to say this realinship is d/s because it’s really not. D/sub is all about respect, limits, dignity, and consent which is nowhere in debbies marriage

[@zinaidanitikin4886]

@@soupsoup8006 new words are fun. thank you for your contribution.

[@SebastianSeanCrow]

Debi’s story of how she met her husband is creepy and it makes her look stalkerish and him predatorial

[@kladams707]

Sebastian Sean Crow Which is almost amazing in a way since the predator is usually the stalker

[@mintehnormie]

Sebastian Sean Crow cuz they both have issues

[@christophercombs7561]

Sebastian Sean Crow imo if he was predatory why would he wait for her to become 18 imo in this case the female is both the stalker and predatory where the guy comes off as naive and rash

[@mobydick3769]

+Christopher Combs I agree.

[@tabbybull4096]

Christopher Combs just because you dont rape a child doesnt mean you arent a predator. its not respectful its fucking weird.

[@musicalaviator]

"Men fly to the moon" so... according to that statistic, there have been only 12 men in the history of earth. Spoiler alert: None of them were married to anyone that wrote this book.

[@kellyanna94]

Aaaaand looking at "Hidden Figures" - women helped men GET to the moon to begin with!

[@DembaiVT]

Here's a fun fact. This book was briefly in my church's library but was removed for being 'too graphic'. And yet the sheer amount of men from my church who directly quoted the 'long hair' section says it must have been a popular read with all the leaders of the church. Note: I'm an atheist now. Lol

[@punchyboi6915]

Good for you! *not sarcastic*

[@hughiegibson1716]

What a weird idea of how things "should" be. As a man I don't want a woman who thinks she is supposed to be a servant to me, the sexiest thing a woman can be is independent. A woman who has her own drives, goals, and personhood is what makes a healthy partner.

[@elkascorner373]

Craig X he means that they both have jobs and can provide and has personality

[@hughiegibson1716]

Yes little, that is what I mean, Craig, we are are happily married for 17 years. We love and respect each other and are supportive of each other's goals and passions and I can tell you that not one of those passions is for her to be a 'servant' to me.

[@hannahbobanabanana]

Say that to my parents who have been married for 28 years - they love that they have independent lives and goals and get to just come home and talk about things. It's probably even better for their independence now that my sister and I have flown the nest - they get to do things they want to again. Their marriage is probably stronger now more than ever.

[@i.f.5566]

Craig X Hey I know there are a few women out there who are not suited for your needs but if you're looking for a woman to take control of your life but still treat you as her equal I'm here haha. There are so few male subs that I feel like I'm never gonna marry

[@joobletmaster5000]

@Craig X if you cant list sources, it isnt true

[@lopezcarlos24]

You still have a chance to throw rocks, its never too late to start over.

[@bengal4047]

Don't let your dreams be dreams!

[@zakai-kaz]

Just do it!!!!

[@biologyboggs3885]

Don't wait... throw rocks today! He doesn't need the context, just your pebbles of affection.

[@discoverybg31]

I'm glad you posted the actual quotes from the book. I never would have accepted that someone could right something so disturbing without evidence.That's honestly some of the most disgusting advice I've ever heard. Thanks for the education.

[@fortblocks]

*Write

[@seand.g423]

...and yet you still use the word "advice" for it...

[@lizabeller]

I love how in every video at one point or another she starts gushing over Dan, it's so cute, I have high hopes for this couple

[@desireeloveros1055]

Rachel and Phil should switch Dans for a day....

[@tovareardon4541]

From the future, RIP

[@madpie5147]

@@tovareardon4541 I'm a bit late to the party, but what happened?

[@meganzynda6630]

@@madpie5147 she broke up with him bc they had different ideas of what they wanted in the future. she doesn’t want kids, dan does and while he was ok with compromise, she felt it wasn’t fair to either of them in the long run

[@madpie5147]

@@meganzynda6630 thanks for explaining :)

[@keirapattison3493]

You haven’t thrown rocks at Dan yet? You share the responsibility of looking after your house and your beaut lil doggy? Dan isn’t controlling and doesn’t get urges to join the military? You are more competitive than Dan? You are in control of your own body? You clearly have a very unhealthy relationship. Poor Kyra for having parents like you two. Ps Kyra is a cutie!

[@sydneytaylor8128]

They're not even married yet! She hasn't even pushed out three, maybe four kids for him yet. Disgusting. God would not want this.

[@sydneytaylor8128]

Real talk though, if God didn't want women to be researchers, doctors, lawyers etc, why would they be made with the capacity to? If God wanted women to be mindless help-meets, he would've made them mindless.

[@inkypunk]

Sydney Taylor I bet you any money smart women are explained away with "something something free will". Yeah sure being a doctor is impressive and all but it's not what God wants. Christians believe you can actually choose whatever you want, but by the way if it's the wrong thing you get tortured for eternity. That was your choice, sinner, you should have chosen heaven! These small communities likely won't bother to learn about female role models, they'll be dismissed as a rare talent (smart girl, it's such a shame though, who looks after her kids?!) or she's a straight up sinful and disobedient viper looking to cause trouble as is woman's wont. Growing up in this community, cut off from less crazy people, you'll feel helpless, you'll have to act helpless, and everyone around you will believe you're helpless until you believe it too. To break that cycle requires a lot of inner strength to cut out your toxic family. So everyone in that community really does think women are mindless helpers, and do mental gymnastics to tear down the women who strive for success. They should be choosing to do god's work and that's the most important part.

[@sydneytaylor8128]

Ms Inkypunk I'm a Christian and I don't believe any of this wack for a second. I don't think any reasonable Christian does.

[@ladyv5655]

Hmmmm. Throw rocks at my husband? I've been married for a year and known him for 9 years and I've never tried that. But then he has never shown the slightest inclination to control me and he's ok with me working outside the home. Debi probably thinks I'm doing this marriage thing wrong.

[@slashbash1347]

Oh boy, more abuse instructions!

[@stevenbaumann8692]

Slashbash pretty much.

[@musicalaviator]

Child abuse: the prequel Episode III, Revenge of the Spouse Stay tuned for further prequels. Episode II, Attack of the Fiancé and Episode I, The Phantom Stalker

[@jasperskies1923]

Slashbash oH bOyYyY

[@6272355463637]

On the one hand I want to say: Don't kink shame. Whatever floats her boat, right? On the other hand, if she publishes it as "advise" and contributes to harming others that way, that's no harmless kink anymore.

[@swiftsetrider3027]

Fun fun fun!!!!

[@beek7770]

"I like to be conquered and consumed by my man" whoa there buddy that's pretty kinky

[@chesh1rek1tten]

Christian vore 😂

[@dextrician5932]

The fact that these people exist in first world countries is scary. How does education fail someone so much?? Nah its the other way around; how does someone fail at education so bad??

[@RachelOates]

Homeschooling 😔

[@TheFox517]

@@RachelOates *Christian homeschooling. It can be done right.

[@nightslasher9384]

And people say that First World Problems don't exist!

[@seand.g423]

IGWT in a country that still claims to separate Church and state. Can't have any of the peasa- I mean _"Citizenz"_ realizing that there's any reconciliation issues there, now can we?

[@droopypie]

Education makes you a slut?

[@crazyweirdgirl115]

Rachel I have mad respect for you, I wouldn't be able to make it through this entire book.

[@RachelOates]

It took a hell of a lot of chocolate!

[@gavanbowyer7917]

I know that I could never do it.great job.somebody got to do it.mad respect for you.

[@LaneThePlane]

cg standing honestly i would cry if I was forced to read it

[@seand.g423]

@@RachelOates so... lighter fluid or straight in the fireplace afterwards? For my worst enemy, you understand...

[@alexpittman6914]

God bless the KZbin algorithm for showing me your channel. Love your take on things!!

[@RachelOates]

Thank youuuu! :D

[@gavanbowyer7917]

she just came up on the tube a few months ago and iv been hooked since

[@imveryangryitsnotbutter]

I don't think the KZbin algorithm is particularly God-blessed if it's helping you connect to the atheism community. :P

[@alexpittman6914]

steveXracer it....was a joke? But okay

[@alexpittman6914]

steveXracer why are you so angry dude?

[@tyrellst.hilaire4653]

This woman didnt really "get married" in the conventional sense. She just played house with a childhood crush and made it work (though debatable). It's unfortunate that she never underwent any personal growth. Also, conservatives are more ruled by fear of the non understood. She was scared of being single, of a life without absolute submission. I feel sorry for her upbringing.

[@lexisveggiefood6723]

tyrell st. hilaire not all conservatives, and/or christians are this way. I am both conservative (political sense), and Christian. This woman and her creepy santa i mean husband are clearly nuts.

[@midgetwthahacksaw]

Marriage isn't about domination. That's unhealthy.

[@williamchamberlain2263]

Marriage is a thing you do together with someone, not something you go out to find someone for.

[@25EllisDee25]

thats a rather idealistic and naive viewpoint. very politically correct, but far removed from reality. you have a lot to learn about females.

[@i.f.5566]

25EllisDee25 Hey kid, if you've had a few bad experiences with these "females" of yours, then maybe you should start opening up your mind and realizing that not all women are abusive or overall shitty. Plus considering you are a Christian, you probably shouldn't just go on hating on women and whining about them all over social media to people who could care less about your little life issues and instead why don't you forgive and let God decide of a new partner for you since he is so perfect? Or maybe you don't have enough faith in him hun? Anyways, you sound exactly like an incel (not saying you are one), so you should probably check yourself before moaning and complaining about a group of people who have most likely done nothing to you and keep your testosterone at a low level because you know... it's making you emotional ;)

[@midgetwthahacksaw]

@@25EllisDee25 And just because some women do see marriage as something to "find someone for" doesn't make it right. It's a group effort. It should be about teamwork. However, there are people who use it and abuse it for all the wrong reasons. Your not wrong, entirely.

[@bnlove]

My husband also asks me about my problems and helps me to solve them. He never blames my bad moods or frustrations on my period. What is wrong with him?

[@christophercombs7561]

Baylor Nicole Love whats funny is my wife doesnt want my help generally when she complains about her job all she wants is for me to hear her work troubles and just take her side which is weird because i immediately jump to analytical problem solving mode which frustrates her and fun times were had by all

[@25EllisDee25]

not funny or weird at all, and pretty much universally known that when a woman complains to her man, he will try to fix it, because thats what guys do, and makes them feel happy and useful and manly. but this will frustrate her because that will take away the source of irritation so she no longer has anything to complain about, and her desire to be heard and comisserrated with is no longer satisfied.

[@christophercombs7561]

25EllisDee25 well be damned my progressive problem solving

[@christophercombs7561]

25EllisDee25 im not in the business of creating issues so i will continue to start and end with solving all the issues

[@i.f.5566]

Christopher Combs You two are literally complaining... 😂🤦🏽‍♂️ And please stop talking, you make all men look bad.

[@skitterly]

Haha, they say gays are ruining the sanctity of marriage. I'd say the real threat to marriage is the Pearls.

[@problemchild5405]

sillywafflefries :] “gays ruin the sanctity of marriage” debi, didn’t you say you threw rocks at your husband? And you beat your children soooo idk who you think the problem is here...

[@---kj4wf]

I don’t want to have anyone’s “babies”. I’ve known that since I was a little girl. I want a career. I want to be self-sufficient. I want to make the world a better place through my work. I want to live in such a way, that I hurt no one, love everyone, and leave no darkness in my wake. That’s all I want.

[@elkascorner373]

- - same, but I want to adopt. So many kids without parents, it's sad.

[@elkascorner373]

Treestump & Thunderarch same here

[@ShainaCilimberg]

I want babies but can't because I'm disabled and it sounds scary

[@LadyEvilest]

Has she never heard of Annie Oakley or Calamity Jane? Or female astronauts like Sally Ride, Mae Jemison and Valentina Tereshkova? Or Dian Fossey who fought the most dangerous animal on Earth...Man. And in the sporting world, there's Gabriella Reese, Babe Didrikson and Wilma Rudolph.

[@nope6021]

Lol I can confidently say that not all men like long hair because my step dad doesn't. My mom got her hair cut short (pixie cut) when I was a baby and has kept the style since and he says he likes it way more short and I got my hair cut short a few years ago and he said it looks way better and suits me better- which I agree with. I also like girls with shorter hair! It's cute!

[@Waspinmymind]

Noa Lenora Art I agree short hair on girls is cute.

[@jennibeanthesweetsqueen5245]

Girls are cute. Guys are cute. Everyone is cute.

[@graveyardgeese2984]

Jenni Bean the Sweets Queen Mood

[@jessiriesbeck4421]

Jenni Bean the Sweets Queen Indeed!😁

[@jesuislafilleatomiqu]

Julie Anne Harrison it really depends on the shape of ones head. I don’t think I’d be able to rock the pixie cut.

[@SenkouNoMahimeEne]

I just love being a robot- i mean, female. I mean, thats literally what this book sounds like....

[@darthslain]

worse than that....a sex robot

[@SenkouNoMahimeEne]

Solita Furude even worse still, a sex robot thats master comes before its own maintenance.

[@LaneThePlane]

Senkou No Maihime Ene -- Please select a mode... SEX MODE HOUSEKEEPER MODE Smack with a Bible to commence shutdown sequence.

[@nicholasharvey4393]

Carly Fournier Oh for... please demonstrate that the garden of eden story happened, and/or that your god exists, before lecturing people on it.

[@Phenrex]

I'm honestly shocked. How have they not been criminally prosecuted for basically single handedly leading various gullible individuals into abusing and killing their children?!

[@slashbash1347]

Honestly, the people who followed the Pearls' advice were probably abusive to begin with.

[@Phenrex]

Slashbash The book could have still acted as a tool abusive people could look to could use to justify their abusive actions.

[@ElanaVital83]

Free speech is free speech guys. Thankfully we have people like Rachel here exercising THEIR free speech to call out the bullshit

[@Phenrex]

Elana Vital Noo, showing people how to abuse their children is not on the same level as having the opinion that child abuse is okay. They are basically instructionally admitting to child abuse while also instructing others to do the same, they are basically confessing doing illegal actions in their own book! I don't think it's legal to hit a 10 month old baby, do you?

[@Em_Elizabeth]

And playing the God card all the while!

[@bgaseacra5092]

Only men like to play sports where you knock each other down?! Tell they to my rugby playing cousin. She'll show them otherwise.

[@mrmegahousefly]

I live near a rugby pitch where women like to run around and knock each other down and there are men who like to watch them doing it.

[@ladyv5655]

Only men like that? Then why did I so much enjoy that self defense class I attended where I got to learn how to throw people across the room and smash them down onto the ground?

[@lexisveggiefood6723]

In gym class on free days the boys often played football (my 2nd school, they had no team) I often joined in. When I moved back and became homeschooled my old friends were shocked how well I could throw a ball. I legit was trying to hit him with it cause he was being annoying lol. 😂 we are good friends, just doing what good friends do best. Trying to hit each other with a football.

[@TheFox517]

Ikr? I want to train martial arts just to beat people up and I'll propably go to the gym when I'll have enough money. I really need some muscles.

[@idk-xs5nz]

I used to be in a taekwondo class. I loved it. (I sucked tho) (I'm a girl.)

[@anightbird]

I can't speak for women, but honestly, I've never heard something more insulting for women than this. I admire the way you handled such a delicate topic, Rachel. Keep up the good work.

[@wickedamoeba8719]

How is your eye makeup always on point?! I can't do eye makeup without looking like a reject from Cats!

[@Roadent1241]

Wicked Amoeba what's a Jellicle Cat?

[@wickedamoeba8719]

Roadent1241 The tribe of cats from the book that inspired the play? It's been a while, I can't be sure.

[@xxmessymindxx1303]

I thought she had no makeup? >.>

[@VAMPIMPZ]

@@xxmessymindxx1303 apparently people just have naturally pink gradient colored eyelids

[@seand.g423]

@@VAMPIMPZ can we not just save the shade for the Pearls? Please?

[@MarkDauner]

This is just a random and mostly irrelevant comment in the middle of watching the video, but how much could that ground beef have possibly cost to warrant a special conversation about it and what kind of meat was she hoping he'd find that was less expensive?

[@RachelOates]

That is an excellent point... I don't like beef myself so never buy it, but isn't mince pretty much one of the cheapest meats out there?

[@MarkDauner]

I stand corrected. Pork and chicken were both considerably less expensive per pound in the early 1970s than ground beef.

[@MarkDauner]

I would have thought so too.

[@RachelOates]

Daaaamn well, TIL!

[@littleblueclovers]

Mark Dauner Following their logic, you’d think that the wife talking about groceries is the “right” thing to do. Even in their backwards world I still think the wife should be in control of what price mince to buy for the meal. The fact that the husband was so bewildered confused me lol

[@Chem_-jp5em]

So is Debbie saying that because I am a woman, I am unable to lead ground breaking scientific research? Maybe I should go he transgender route. Then I’d be able to pursue my dreams.

[@Chem_-jp5em]

Or maybe I’m already male at heart since I try to beat my siblings and friends at fighting and never even knew it.

[@RachelOates]

Yeah you should probably just wait for the man to do the research and then he’ll just ‘invite you along for the ride’ (actual quote from Debi there...)

[@johnrew5713]

I think the real question is if you don't lead ground breaking scientific research is it the patriarchy's fault? I know I can't use that excuse.

[@hannajung7512]

No, she is saying, that even when you are better in science then every men ever born, god doesn't want you to use the gifts he gave you (after all he made you, right?) And instead dump it all and submit to a man and be his little dirty sexslave/cook/chamber maid....doesn't even matter if the man is good for you... as long as he is a christian and doesn't submit to your whim it is all right.

[@Chem_-jp5em]

Hanna Jung first my period and now this?!?!? Why does god hate me????????????

[@Volthoom]

10:52 While you were still learning to SPELL YOUR NAME, i was being trained to conquer galaxies!

[@captainpicard2678]

now that was a bad movie!.

[@mobydick3769]

Yasssssssss I was looking for this quote

[@katiek2615]

This is officially the best comment

[@adeleviuhko7186]

We do love a Battlefield Earth quote

[@elvellarambles9151]

Sulfur “You’re heating up your breakfast while I’m heating up my dinner!!”

[@Romanticoutlaw]

huh.. as a lesbian, I'm far more attracted to women with short hair. I feel like the pearls would have a freudian field day with me, figure they'd call that proof that I'm attracted to men deep down but I'm denying my true nature to live a godless sinful life 😂

[@chromesthesia]

Romantic Outlaw these folks make me want to be more ungodly to annoy them. making me want to lesbianate and domme men all day. see if i won't.

[@evasmiljanic3529]

I'm bi, I adore women with short hair. I always foubd it a lot more original than the usual "grow it long and do nothing with it" I see

[@TheMaddestHatter234]

what's your view on undercuts? (I personally think they're really cool)

[@Romanticoutlaw]

James Rozenshteyn that's actually pretty close to what I'm rocking right now. They look awesome on women imo

[@evab.6240]

Kinda irrelevabt? The book talked about MEN being attracted to women with long hair. Not about women being attracted to women.

[@One_Eyed_Man_]

Is the title "My Jolly Playmate" meant to reference the fact that he really looks like Santa Claus?

[@RachelOates]

Omg!!

[@laurajarrell6187]

Rachel, sorry I got to this late. If you get a chance, there was a girl kidnapped some years ago, here in USA, named Elizabeth Smart. The psycho couple who took her, as a second wife, sound like the pearls. Violent, religious and deep down evil. Thanks a lot, it was funny though, seeing how embarrassing this is for you. lol. Love and Peace

[@maggyfoster8699]

Laura Jarrell Oh my god you’re right

[@lexisveggiefood6723]

I was about to type that.

[@manci2016]

Laura Jarrell she was kidnapped by Brian Mitchell

[@japanuke960]

Santa beats his kids! Well he certainly won't be entering my house this year.

[@beardedemperor]

"I just want to remind you who is writing this book, and who it is being written about..." 20:45 Oh God. We're about to learn about Santa's sexy times ಠ___ಠ

[@beardedemperor]

21:02 "My Jolly Playmate” Called it ಠ_________ಠ

[@vansantos5772]

They had a rocky start... and it went down from there... pun intended.

[@Bri_1219]

What I don't get is that if women are supposed to be men's underlings, then why would we want or be capable of, anything else? Why would some women excel at math or science or anything else if they're just supposed to be doing laundry?

[@chocolate2eyes172]

Briana1219 Their answer would be “God works in mysterious ways.” Or some other reason equally half assed and complacent as religion.

[@chocolate2eyes172]

Craig X Do you have rape fantasies? Because it seems like you are trying to justify you being weak willed by asserting that all women are x and all men are y. Who fucking cares? Just do what is healthy for you, that should be the general fucking rule.

[@Bri_1219]

Craig X Sooo all people are different. No one should be forced to be anything. Full stop. The rest of your trolly bullshit is on you, and I suggest you see a therapist

[@i.f.5566]

Craig X boy you are fucked up! Are you part of the Pearl family? Did you even watch that video? And no, as a woman, I can say that most women do not have rape fantasies and most of them don't want a sociopath as their partner. You seem like the type of guy who acts all tough and dominant but you're probably just hiding an insecure, submissive side 🤔 Plus what you said in no way answer her (ironic and rethorical) question ;)

[@thetruthseeker4771]

Craig X Incel or "nice guy"?

[@tommyl.dayandtherunaways820]

And this took a weird turn...middle aged woman tells us all about her sex life...

[@Nerobyrne]

when she was like "I love to be consumed by my husband" I was like "Oh, I didn't know she liked "Attack on Titan", but whatever ...

[@narutoluvr1]

It trips me out that you are so calm and subtly sarcastic while reading such intense shit. O.o It kinda gives me whiplash, but I like it.

[@UltraMarineBlue]

So I've been watching this playlist and after the whole "God spoke to me and told me this is going to be my husband" all I can say is.. This is an amazing example of why there should be more awareness about intrusive thoughts. If I acted on every intrusive thought I had, I'd be in.. well.. about as much trouble as Debi I think..

[@tommyl.dayandtherunaways820]

Just starting the video. Some of these books must be very difficult to read at times, yet you do it anyways. So thanks for being awesome

[@luamiazga2731]

Absolutely agree! It’s amazing some people still have that mentality 🙄 my husband and I got married at 19, but we were together for 3 years before that, and we were friends since grade 7... we have been very happily married for over two years and have a 9 month old baby ❤️ the way you talk about yourself and your boyfriend always reminds me of my husband and I! Xx

[@imstandingrightbehindyou.6987]

I don't want to offend but isn't that too early?,i mean i'm 19 and couldn't find my shoes on my own sometimes.

[@luamiazga2731]

I'm standing right behind you. Haha! Some people are ready for different things at different times in their lives :) some people won’t be ready to commit to a stable relationship even at 40 years old! It all depends on your life experiences, how you were raised, your philosophy of life and other beliefs. It also depends on how long and well you know your significant other ❤️ it totally depends on the person 😊 My husband and I were absolutely ready!

[@RachelOates]

Aww that sounds lovely! Congrats! I’m so happy you’re happy :)

[@luamiazga2731]

Rachel Oates thank you 😊❤️

[@25EllisDee25]

one thing is certain, and that is people change over time and 1/3 of couples who get married before the age of 21 will be divorced in under 5 years. 2/3 in under 10. Even though you are happy now, the day will come when you or your spouse heads for greener pastures. You just get tired of people and their shit after a while. I got married to my high school sweetheart, and although she was not the only girl I had been with, I had not really had a large enough selection of partners to know that we were not really compatible with her until after we broke up and had wasted many years of my life being married to someone who was wrong for me. i knew without a doubt she was perfect for me for years before i got married to because i was too young and stupid and inexperienced at the ripe old age of 24 to know any better. nobody should get married or have kids before 30. there is no reason to, except maybe if you are terminally ill or something. you are are still basically a kid, and will be for a few more years yet to come. I remember thinking that I was an adult when I turned 18, but looking back now, I was still a kid until almost 30. You will see what I mean 30 years from now.

[@jamesharvey5530]

Rachel: *lot of potential* Me: **sips tea** oooooh boy

[@gabiolszowy1878]

Pearls sound like people I never want to meet... Or maybe I do so I can yell at them for abusing kids and ecouraging unhealthy relationships🤔

[@chromesthesia]

Gabi Olszowy i would fill their underpants with fireants

[@droopypie]

They've never abused any kids, certainly not their own

[@gabiwilds4544]

You and Dan seem so adorable together I hope your relationship stays this great forever

[@gabrielamarques6538]

I'm a doctor, and in my profession I've met so many women incredibly traumatized because of marital rape, blaming themselves, thinking they should not feel like this, having great difficulty even with gyno exams... It is sickening to see this kind of doctrination that actively hurts those women.

[@kai8540]

This ain't BDSM, people. This is an unhealthy, abusive relationship. BDSM is based on communication, consent, risk-awareness and respect; this, it's not.

[@hansen7129]

That verse about the husband having power over the wife's body goes on to say the wife has power over her husband's body. Putting it in only the man's favor is seriously disturbing. (Side note: Your voice is very soothing and your opinions well thought out, I'm a Christian and disagree with a few things you you seem to believe about the religion in general, but I still enjoy listening to you comment on some of the disgusting things people twist the Bible's teachings into.)

[@sazbear3913]

I'm a Christian too and it makes me so mad when idiots write rubbish like this 😂 love you Rachel ♥

[@laurenwilson9383]

Late reply, but thank you for putting the whole verse, I sadly dont have the whole Bible memorized but I follow God I knew that verse had to have been taken out of context, no way the God of love would have let that be in there one sided.

[@stacynonyabizz4241]

Anyrhing you do about the pearls, ( ati, focus on the family) is always gold.

[@datfisheboi6519]

Or, well, pearls.

[@rikura16]

I love your videos! And it makes me so happy when you talk about your relationship with Dan. It sounds so cute and happy, I love when people talk about their couple in a pretty way.

[@sint0xicateme]

We get it! You have a fulfilling, stimulating, caring, compassionate, mature, respectful, and downright healthy, adult relationship. Just kidding, no snark here, it's just so lovely! That's how it should be! I wish more people could love and be loved as a result of strong communication, respect for boundaries, willingness to compromise, and honest fair expectations. So many people in relationships just add a lot more pain into the world by never dropping their egos, assumptions, traumas, and unreasonable ideals. It baffles me how most people I know who are engaged don't even communicate about the most basic of fundamentals of building a lasting bond with another person or where to begin to make it be enjoyable (at least for the most part), let alone how they should go about creating tiny humans together without building contempt for their partner. It doesn't help that this world and capitalism basically incubate and reward personality disorders. Being child-free by choice (more like staunch antinatalist) and dating, I have to be very upfront on first encounters about my desired future lifestyle, and it pains me so to see people trapped in loveless marriages, pumping out children that would have been way better off having their souls stuck in the ether of non-existence. A lot of people I know don't even discuss genetics before reproducing. I have one acquaintance who had two children with cystic fibrosis and they knew they had the gene in the first place! People don't even know if their partner had braces growing up and wonder why their kids are going to enter primary school looking like a beaver, costing them $10k in braces. Sorry for the rant. I'm really happy for you! Good on ya, you're an inspiration :)

[@imveryangryitsnotbutter]

4:48 - I don't know if you realize it, but you just described India's caste system.

[@doclinny]

Hasn't it been illegal to discriminate based on caste for a while?

[@imveryangryitsnotbutter]

The caste system has indeed been outlawed, but just as with segregation in America, the social effects still linger to this day.

[@quoniam426]

Casts are officially banned but you can't just erase 8000 years of traditions in half of a century unless you run an awful repressive dictartorship. Things will change with given time.

[@angelas5099]

Linquistic not when there are reservations based in caste here or have last names. Upper caste have a social advantage while lower castes can get good education and jobs more easily. Seriously, imagine a world where mentioning a caste anywhere on paper is illegal or changing last name is easy. 😮

[@meghnalekshman4137]

Ouch

[@Andreamom001]

I was leading a woman's Bible study years ago, and the book we were studying [not a Pearl book] said to please the husband by agreeing with his opinions, giving the example of shopping for a lamp and when he asks what the wife thinks of a lamp, she should ask what he thinks and then agree with it enthusiastically. I tried not to, but I ranted to the ladies about how stupid that was...if a husband was interested enough in them to marry them, he LIKES their personality and doesn't want them to turn into a blank slate after they get married. We dropped the book. Not to mention, dishonesty is not what the Bible advocates. Just be HONEST about what you think about the lamp, for goodness sake!! If he loves it and you don't, he can put it in his office or you can search for something you both like.

[@sabrinaloizides-merideth9874]

What a creepy woman. I've actually met people like this. Some friends of my folks espouse this philosophy exactly. They also believe that ADHD can be cured with enough swats on the bum.

[@evelyneb590]

It is probably possible to get rid of ADHD by beating the life out of your child so yes

[@TheFox517]

@@evelyneb590 Might as well cleanse their brain with an axe dipped in the holy water.

[@lenapines3532]

Or set them on fire

[@catdogabuab1928]

My parent believed that. They cured me, now I cannot do a simple multiplication worksheet and am mathematically non functional. Brain sees math worksheet and completely shuts down, blank as I wished the work sheet was.

[@vulcanhumor]

"It is better for the job to be done poorly by your husband than to be done well by you." So in other words, the effective running of a household is not the priority. Despite being of a conservative Christian perspective that family and home are the the most important things in life (after faith of course), it is acceptable to them that a family be poorly led, or a household poorly managed, so long as everyone is in their proper "place". They are willing to risk the health and stability of family life in order to make sure gender roles are adhered to.

[@MandieTerrier]

In this case, a problem shared. Is a problem multiplied. 😨😢😣

[@imtiredofmycontinuedexiste6324]

Yeah, I already have a composite image of what my future husband is going to look like: a woman.

[@artemisialomi6666]

18:45 "Men fly to the moon" .... because they had women calculating the math and working on the computers to get them there! It was considered women's work, especially given that the computer needed punched cards similar to a loom, so they had women with smaller hands doing it!

[@ThatRandomEncounterGuy]

Anyone who buys Michael/Debi Pearl’s books-any of them-needs to be put on some kind of watchlist.

[@theredrighthandproductions]

Hey, I just met you. And this is crazy. But we're both Christian. So have my babies.

[@Psykitty96]

This may sound stupid, but she sounds like a submissive yandere

[@theredrighthandproductions]

@@Psykitty96 same

[@McFlingleson]

Throwing rocks isn't the worst thing ever. My dad's second wife tried to run him over with a car on their honeymoon. When they got back he told us this story as though it was a funny thing that happened. I still don't understand why he stayed married to her for a whole 18 months.

[@markmiller656]

I do agree with Debi on one point; it is the wife's duty to fulfill her husbands sexual needs, BUT it's also the husband's duty to fulfill his wife's sexuals needs, it also has to be consentual at all times and without guilt. I may understand that one of my roles is to make sure my partner is sexually satisfied, I shouldn't be made to feel like I must if I am simply not feeling it, sex is better when both parties are consenting and not just willing, but actively wanting to please each other. If I want sex but my partner does not, but we go ahead and do it anyway.. it's not going to be fun for her, and because of that, it won't be fun for me either. I'd much rather wait until such time as she also wants it.. or, and I'm sorry to be crude but it's true, go solo.

[@i.f.5566]

Mark Anthony Miller no you're right, it's not crude. Although I feel like people are so oversexed, it's like they're making it a pillar of they're relationship. Maybe it's because I have the libido of a plant, but sex is litteraly everywhere and so overhyped these days.

[@cr_xwley]

You're one of my favorite KZbinrs and honestly so underrated

[@RachelOates]

Awww thank you!

[@gabiolszowy1878]

But she is gaining subscribers really fast! And that's great, good content needs to be seen.

[@seikoshinobaka9139]

@Craig X Just admit you dislike women and piss off. This isn't third wave feminism, it's exactly what first wave and second wave feminist was fighting for. Women should be their own people and pursue what they want just like men, none of this man hating nonsense of third wave feminism. If the idea of women being free makes you think we hate you, then you really need to re think your views. Your problem is not with third wave feminism, it's with female individuality and the fact women don't bow down to your feet anymore. Don't reply with some nonsense rhetoric I've seen in your other replies, if you were fine with women not being servants to men and doing what they please, you wouldn't have complained about a video that critiques the fact women are told to stay in the home. Quite clearly, people like Lovelace or Curie didn't just stay in the home and now we have many things, radiation and software programming were intrinsic to the development of x-rays and the modern computer.

[@SenkouNoMahimeEne]

Oh man, i have never clicked a video so fast. Love your content and logic. Hugs from TX (save me, please)

[@lenkel]

I agree couples should be loving with each other. Women and Men both have desire for pleasure and satisfaction and both have the right of refusal.

[@rosieholstein3233]

I mean, this does pretty much sound not too unlike a BDSM 24/7 sub/dom relationship, except instead of a consensual agreement between two adults, its a woman who has been brainwashed and brow beaten into believing that god demands her to be subservient to her husband.

[@xobunnyfangsxo]

Oh boy, more about the Pearl family. I'm a minute in and I can tell this is gonna be a roller coaster. Michael Pearl's guide to child abuse- I mean training, is what introduced me to your channel! Guess that's the only good thing they've done, haha.

[@erictaylor5462]

17:00 If that is the case, why is the first person who win 2 Nobel Prizes a woman, and the first CHILD of a Nobel Lorette her *DAUGHTER* No dicks, 3 Nobel Prizes.

[@theshunnedBandersnatch]

I found this book in my parents' room when I was 12 & read the whole thing. Messed me up for life 😂

[@IHAPPYFACE11]

25:04 "He says I am a mighty fine minister." ...why?? 😖😥

[@thewrongshoes]

Shoki Onosson he is saying she is good in bed

[@steveaustin4118]

Maybe she swallows and licks the end clean after

[@gracep4899]

You're such a joy to watch. You genuinely care for others and it shows ❤

[@lmnop6947]

I got an ad for a divorce lawyer... I wonder why

[@oBUNo]

I could only imagine declaring my want to have babies with every man I've ever had a crush on. I'm sure I would've thrown rocks at a few of them too.

[@gokuxsephiroth4505]

Two things I was told in my criminology degree I think Debbie could benefit from: 1.) Anecdotal evidence is not evidence 2.) Qualitative data (Interviews, stories, etc) is to find perspective, not truth. Quantitive data (Stats, numbers) finds the amount truth in perspective. In short, you can't claim an anecdote as a universal truth unless you have some stats to back it up, lady; all women aren't a certain way just because you are personally.

[@snuffywuffykiss1522]

So Happy to hear Kyra is settling in well.

[@Tubolitia]

Basically, hubby decided he was tired of being celibate and wanted to do it 'the right and honourable' way, then the reality of his situation hits after he has committed to someone he doesn't even really like - let alone love. Trapped by, and within, his own beliefs, he goes about systematically destroying everyone within his family out of sheer resentment. The best part is that the brainwashed wife now writes a book about how to be systematically abused by a misogynist; after co-authoring a book about how to systematically destroy the children you create. Seriously, they used to burn 'witches' for being the purveyors of evil...

[@baileyphillips992]

"Jolly Playmate" Are we not gonna talk about how he ACTUALLY looks like Santa Claus?

[@jaya9298]

I have seen only parts of dan’s face but your description alone made me fall in love with this dude. We need a video of you with him.

[@kirstearae7516]

I'm imagining dan walking past the room and think she's talking shit about him on the phone or something lol

[@Moonlight-ow7fy]

I like the comparisons between her and her husband and you and Dan because it is a constant reminder of how it should be so you wont get used to all this shocking things.

[@j.kaimori3848]

Yep, I like her interjections

[@KatieDavis613]

You are legitimately so brilliantly witty. Such intelligent, informative and hilarious coverage of the content. Just thought you should know. 🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@KarkatVantasBitches]

All men like long hair, huh? So I suppose my boyfriend lies when he says he loves my fourth-of-an-inch long hair. Hmm. Coulda fooled me, he messes with it constantly.

[@thegeekaccountyoushouldign5679]

Her husband traveled galaxies? Be realistic Debi, life isn't Sci-fi.

[@tommyl.dayandtherunaways820]

It's not too late Rachel, you can still save your relationship, just gotta find those rocks...

[@dariamondeik]

“My jolly playmate” * intensely zooms into his face *

[@fatherd4413]

"It's better the job be done poorly by your husband than be done well by you" Then Then what should my girlfriend and I do about leadership, Debi-

[@TheFilmguy450]

I just stumbled upon your videos thanks to YT recommended section and you are freaking amazing! Very articulate, smart, funny and insightful. Thank you for these brilliant takedowns of such harmful books and idea.s

[@AgVBlue]

I kind of understand Debi's viewpoint. She was raised to be kind of helpless herself. Giving the power over her life and body to a person she trusts must've been a relief for her and she feels that other women would feel the same. If something is not working out - well, maybe God thinks it doesn't meant to work. If a man doesn't satisfy her in bed and expects her to satify him - maybe that's how it supposed to be. She feels relief she doesn't have to confront her partner about not being fair if she can pretend and believe that it's ok. I mean making decisions on your own is kind of scarier than cooking and cleaning. I hope women with that kind of viewpoint find right men, who at least try to be caring and loving.

[@seannolan9857]

As a guy, I understand it as well. I have a deep-seated hatred for decision making, and prefer to leave that to others if possible. But there is a very fine line between wanting someone else to decide what we have for dinner and wanting someone to control every aspect of one's life. Unfortunately, I've had too much of the latter in my life.

[@csr9183]

"He is a leader. He expects to be served". I've met jars of Hydrogen sulfide less toxic than that belief.

[@seaweed1068]

She sounds like a person who knows nothing about men and who has never even seen a man trying to describe what men are based off vague stereotypes

[@LaughingDeerHead]

I don't think most men would find having sex with their partner very pleasing either if she wasn't into it. It sounds a bit similar to faking an orgasm which I've come to believe men aren't okay with. Especially if the woman finds herself in a situation where she just isn't interested in sex with her boyfriend at all, the boyfriend should have the right to know about it so they could work things out. In the end lying about your feelings is only going to make things worse for everyone. I've been there.

[@midnight8341]

Why is it always that fear is the key motivation for these two? Because it is easy to control people with fear, but hard to control them with reason. Because with reason, you have to think and make someone else think. With fear, you only have to raise your hand... Having a kid shut up as soon as you move is much easier than having a kid thinking for itself, where you have to explain to it *why* you don't want them to do something. Edit: I have a pretty high testosterone level... Why haven't I conquered a small country by now...?

[@theshyguy3829]

because you put pinapple on your pizza and therefore your bloodline is weak :^)

[@midnight8341]

The Shy Guy I hate pineapple and I hate it especially on pizza. You weren't funny and you weren't clever, but you will be sorted out of the human gene pool, don't you worry, child.

[@theshyguy3829]

you sound like a crazy leftist you know, belittering others opinions with name callings like "child", funny fella you are :^)

[@gibertusalbans1779]

The bible and monotheism in general is largely fear based. Fear of hell and teh many harsh punishments, or shunning, etc. In Revelations/book of John it says the fearful are damned in one place and says your damned if you are not fearful. I always thought it was a contradiction and it may be but I just now thought of the out that it is time sensitive when to be fearful.

[@lexisveggiefood6723]

Shall we make you a micro country to conquer? Lol

[@headcase31780]

The Pearls give "pearls" of wisdom I think the world can do without. I would assume they believe in fear being a proper motivation as their religion is based on fear. Do this or suffer in eternal torture. That;s what their belief in a "good" god teaches them. I also must know if you've read the Injustice graphic novels as you brought up the game. Thank you for another great video, sorry my thoughts are all over the place! Now off to Patreon to watch the other video!!!

[@gibertusalbans1779]

"He has traveled galaxies' she thinks she is married to Captain Kirk perhaps