Xoli Mfeka & Philani Mthembu Define Intimacy | DEFINING Intimacy S1:E3

We put ‪@XolisileMfeka‬ and Philani Mthembu from ‪@TheJooceza‬ in the hot seat! They unpack intimacy, girlfriend allowance, sex work and MORE ! Give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed the conversation. #DEFININGIntimacy #RoadTo200k
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@thee_Xoli_Mfeka
@nemoniksaid
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Producer: Dennis Ngango & Noma Plaatjie
Videographer: Gigabytes Productions
Directors: Bongani Baloyi & Dennis Ngango
Editor: Dennis Ngango
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[@DEFINING]

Give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed Xoli & Philani on the channel🔥! What was your take-away from the episode ? 🤔

[@behlumatheezali]

What can we possibly take away from it.🤔

[@DEFINING]

@@behlumatheezali did you watch till the end?

[@Ms-lb7lb]

Can we have two conservative people in the next episode. Please and thank you!

[@DEFINING]

@@Ms-lb7lb Who would be your ideal guests 😄

[@behlumatheezali]

@@DEFINING ofcourse not!! Judging by the comment below mine I did not miss anything.

[@KayMahapa]

My boy Philani is at home with topic. I’ve never seen him this excited. Even at the birth of his son he wasn’t this excited 😭😭

[@bathob3625]

🤣🤣🤣

[@elnotickschit_chat9904]

Ye ke hit😂😂

[@DEFINING]

😭😭😭😭

[@nolusizodlalisa5573]

😂😂😂😂

[@qiniso_9ix467]

😂😂😂😭😭

[@NoloMamps]

For the kids: this take on intimacy is called sexual immorality.

[@Toki_M]

How can we pin this comment?🤔

[@thabomoyo2701]

I love you for this ....

[@TumiMokone]

Where is Defining headed vele😬 think it's slightly getting confusing because I personally (which can be unfair perhaps) hold this team to a certain regard - Dennis with his other channel, Bongani being married .. but at the same time - are they merely mirroring society and sometimes its just "relevant content " Eish ku tricky. But I guess thats were our agency comes in as viewers...we can totally skip some videos 🤷🏽‍♀️ or give the team constructive critique. That's my 2c's

[@chotachota3536]

Thankyou so much. The first thing is thought was, are they really describing intimacy?😢

[@nomfundomathebula528]

​@@TumiMokone📌

[@phumudzocharlestshinyani5721]

I really pray that you find Jesus Christ earlier, He is the only thing that matters..we have normalised sin forgetting that the wages of sin is death..Ask Jesus Christ to come onto your life and He will purify you .. John 3 v 16... Everything else will parish... Every eye will see Him, every knee will bring bow before Him and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is the Lord,for the glory of God..i pray for all of you to find Jesus before it's too late

[@kimandyamandakunene3262]

Is the only religion?

[@NandiphaMbaligontsi]

Jesus people though 🤒🤒🤒🤒😷😷, everywhere they be feeding us him. UQamatha uMvelinqambi, uMdali wezinto zonke nezinyanya zam are who I believe in 🤗🤗🤗. Love and peace to you though Mkrestu❤

[@savela_bethi_za]

Jesus is overrated yazi

[@TheunDaed-qb7ii]

Jesu

[@donaldmampuru9153]

You are high 😂

[@monalisandlovu7390]

She looks so goooood in this comfort outfit and the natural skinnnnnn😍😍🔥

[@DEFINING]

💯💯

[@davislubekokashweka8475]

Too much the natural skin is so clean

[@johanneskhanyi7349]

Not natural

[@johannesmothiba9056]

Can u pls stop saying skin thats ASS..n big ASA

[@thobilemhlongo6456]

I can't believe porn is normalized nowadays. Says a lot about about the times we're living in

[@jonasmaseko9194]

People who say such often have the most interesting browser history😁

[@thobilemhlongo6456]

@@jonasmaseko9194 You don't say

[@tshiamo009]

​@@jonasmaseko9194 don't say that I am guilty

[@ndwandwewasendwedwe7964]

Kuyefana ngoba abantu badlana strong kulezinsuku

[@cyberpunk5507]

People will never agree that porn is ruining their lives

[@forbezofficial]

Asking a porn star and a dude who learnt about sex through porn to define intimacy is crazy! This channel is wild'n😂

[@Kamoomonslay]

Honestly

[@omphemetsephemie5819]

Listen!

[@forbezofficial]

@@Kamoomonslay bruuh!

[@forbezofficial]

@@omphemetsephemie5819 to what? distorted perceptions?...you trippin

[@cityboycityboy7620]

It like asking a bank robber and someone in debt about financial freedom

[@nonjabulobaloyi3943]

Philani is so outspoken and he makes the conversation very fun. I really enjoyed this episode. 🥰

[@wewemhlaba7593]

Right?!Such a vibe😂❤

[@nonjabulobaloyi3943]

@@wewemhlaba7593 yessss! 😹❤️

[@DEFINING]

You wouldn't believe that this is the first time Philani & Xoli met 😅

[@pearlmbatha3673]

Toomuch chemistry laba

[@nonjabulobaloyi3943]

No ways! It's like they've known each other for some time

[@nonjabulobaloyi3943]

Wow! What a VIBE! 🔥❤️

[@CACTUS_Riico]

Philani saw her vidz...me too I would be this excited 😅😅

[@anastasimankesemokgobu1724]

Ohh wooow, really ? You would swear they knew each other before

[@lelethulukhozi9429]

This channel is facilitating open, non judgmental conversations about real life things and topics, that most people don’t talk about or acknowledge, and you some of y’all hate to see it. Loved how real this episode was, the conversation of sex is so important and I loved that we got to learn about it from different lenses and perspectives.

[@lindokuhlemadiba-tr2yo]

Shame...

[@jacksonmpala7870]

that thing called non judgmental is what is destroying planet earth

[@lokishvibes202]

Shame...

[@thatomanaka323]

💔

[@jacksonmpala7870]

prostitute and you come here talking about the so called non whatsoever

[@kagisokodibona1127]

It's really boring me when We justify what is bad, evil and sinful🤷‍♂️we promote what is bad, evil and sinful 🤷‍♂️

[@luyandamthembu5678]

They have really good chemistry. You would swear they have known each other for years.

[@BenjaminMalatji247]

It's not chemistry, bayarhalelana nje. The dark side nje justified

[@BoipeloModise-gl2hf]

You don't what's the meaning of chemistry 😂

[@siviwengcwabe6005]

Philani is alwayyyss a vibe 🔥🔥🔥

[@VivianKuvare11]

Philani's message to his younger self is everything ❤

[@ladyqngomane]

Literally ❤

[@zandilemfeka1530]

I love that he acknowledges those mistakes hhey.

[@mbalib2694]

I love how she speaks, mean they both are good for this topic

[@Khumalic]

Didn’t know I needed to watch this. Enjoyed every bit of it.

[@chadwyn1107]

I like philanis honesty,he wasn’t afraid to say it infront of xoli that he would tell his younger self not to watch porn..that time Xoli does porn

[@itsMora02]

This generation is messed up! BIG TIME

[@andrewvitalis3682]

I tell you ,that's why today we have old men running governments coz this Generation is confused lost touch with reality 😢

[@andrewvitalis3682]

I tell you ,that's why today we have old men running governments coz this Generation is confused lost touch with reality 😢

[@abrahammacamo3763]

The truth

[@nokwandahlongwane8286]

When Philani heard what a "Golden Shower" is. He will be scarred for life😂😂😂😂😂

[@theunknownone18]

This is what we call progress in the black communities, adopting every destructive notion out there in the West.

[@pitsimaema5434]

True

[@baneleTngcobo]

Amanyala I progress?

[@lesediseemela9856]

Intimacy isn't only sexual. Kante what kind of dictionary are they reading from? But the conversation was thought provoking.

[@nthobzamkhize2911]

I think I've found myself a new favorite channel on KZbin, y'alls chemistry is insane, big ups guys 🔥❤️

[@khulekaninyuswa721]

Isn't it different people every episode

[@phumlanindlovu5653]

Xolie is so hardcore Durbanite the accent and slang is on a 💯 😅✌🏾

[@ntombi-yensimbinarrates7297]

And just like that, DEFINING hits 200K. Congratulations. Here's to defining yourselves and our community more and more.

[@cebompanza3860]

Best combo for such conversations 😂😂👏🏾🔥

[@victoriamokwatlo345]

The golden shower part and Philani’s reaction 🤣🤣🤣

[@ayakanyabixa9214]

This was by far the best duo in my opinion❤

[@lesediradise9739]

Loved this episode..Xoli has a dope character 👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾

[@thandekam9065]

I love how excited he is...its like he's BEEN meaning to have this conversation but couldn't find the right candidate. DEFINING just said BINGO!!!!😂

[@tamiratmanamo2400]

Tbh what they’re busy talking about is interesting but there’s nothing related with true meaning of intimacy.. we can call it affection for sex 😂

[@lisa.k1969]

True

[@siyabonganhlakaniphomatheb1039]

Wow... Seeing Xoli like this was pleasant. Goodness, she an attractive girl Nextdoor

[@nkosazanahlatshwayo3948]

Xoli looks beautiful

[@Rocklee-db4xj]

Telling her you watch her adult content is wild

[@baratangmokwana2877]

😭😭

[@mbalib2694]

She’s pretty 😍

[@conceliamaila8995]

This lady is beautiful

[@nh782]

She's so pretty!

[@cassandrayolanda4220]

The spark in Philani’s eyes mekhuluma ngaleTopic😂😂😂😂Priceless😂😂

[@Chidzy.M]

"Shuthi umnandi wena"🤣🤣🤣🤣 yoh philani😭😭😭🤣

[@victoriamokwatlo345]

😂😂

[@joylinemudzingwa9801]

😂😂

[@user-ed3rm6eq4h]

Imisebenzi kaSathane.Abantu abanamahloni ngamanyala abo.Impela izikhathi zokugcina lapho amadoda okufanele abheke imizi yawo ebizwa ngama clients e sapota imisebenzi yokuncola.

[@Palesa-Amanda]

I appreciate how open they are despite them meeting for the first time 🤞🏾

[@lulufierce01]

Are they friends? The chemistry is insane 😍❤

[@Fiiloe2.0]

Giiirl they dont khow each other, they only meeting for the first time😊😊😊 So crazy

[@Toki_M]

So true!

[@Karabo_xo7]

She needs Jesus in her life✝️🚶🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️

[@mpendulombhele5036]

Bro😢

[@NaledzaniTshifhesi-hm9fy]

😂

[@yawesambo]

This is the duo we never knew we needed😂

[@chuenemasoga1935]

They're going to have it this two 😂

[@karabomkhulise6944]

What a wholesome interview ✨

[@theunknownone18]

Ubudoda abusekho, ubuntombi abusekho, amahloni yinto engekho kanti whats going on with us, were pandering every kind of toxic behaviour out there?

[@KagoRealEstate]

I can't be the only one thinking Xoli is beautiful and warm hearted.

[@andrewngwenya2516]

This world is broken

[@thatomanaka323]

Jesus is coming bro don't u worry

[@zuzilemtembu2910]

My elder sister is Xoli Mthembu and her Husband is Philani Mfeka. Therefore my sis is now Xoli Mfeka🤭

[@smith_got_keys_1738]

Yo .. mind sharing ur instagram?

[@BenjaminMalatji247]

Gents listen up! Ayikho indoda ezalelwe eBank. Don't be trapped into thinking you have a responsibility to give anybody money 😂😂. Stay away from that kind of manipulation n you'll be more happier - imali yakho yimali yakho

[@Pamela_MrsMike]

It's when Philani asked "so you pee on him....."😂He was sooo shoook.

[@kamoganopule]

When she said “another form of intimacy is money. Give me money mna” 😂😂💯🙌

[@easydot3313]

😂you Xhosa neh?

[@starboy1380]

This was a dope ass interview. Thank you for you competency Philani 🔥

[@siphelelemjwara]

First Question! What is intimacy. The guy says touch n i hv a type. I was bored immediately 😂😂😂

[@kwetsephetla3597]

Dude 😭

[@Ma_Akho21]

One Of The Best Interviews Ever🔥🔥🔥😂

[@vuyeyaleticia6312]

Philani is shocked🤣

[@DEFINING]

completely 🤣🤣🤣

[@glenzwane6814]

I'm hugely disappointed at both myself and whatever I did on KZbin to end up watching this. Ay cha!

He saw her videos 😢😢😢😢bruh didn't lie

[@wewemhlaba7593]

Umbuzo umile Defining fam what are we doing for 200k subbies?

[@sbanimkhumane1303]

I am proud of u ntwana yam, God bless ur hustle.❤

[@qiniso_9ix467]

That "My Negur F U"😂😂😂🔥🔥 She a vibe🤍

[@mmangalisotreasure8958]

Philani is a super star. I did not notice this when we were in High School. Big Ups bro. Keep it pushing.

[@TheJooceza]

Thank you bro 🙏🏿

[@crosbymakhalimaiv931]

Xoli man, I look at this nigga and how excited he is. Wish i was the one asking questions kid u not!!

[@lexioko]

Defining is such a great channel. 💖

[@DEFINING]

❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥

[@XolisileMfeka]

Let’s Goooo 😂😂😂😂📌

[@DEFINING]

It was so much fun having you on the channel 🤩

[@bokanisenda7361]

Lot's of love ❤❤❤

[@bongekagumbu5027]

You’re beautiful Xoli and this was so much fun

[@boichokophiri7867]

Are you ready to shot content with dude?

[@innocenttatenda5826]

Ukuphi siyakufuna eh Durban 🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@kefiloesebogodi8378]

Let them do more videos, they work well together. ... good vibes

[@tshepohope7948]

I like phelani's "younger self advise"

[@KhanyiiDlaminii23]

"But igirlfriend allowance where I need to take out idebit order"😂I truly agree with him on the girlfriend allowance part...this was a great video and the chemistry between them was unmatched 😭😭😭we need part 2❣️

[@misslisa_n]

Love the chemistry 💯

[@ndekah1592]

Best episode thus far.

[@platinumheartaartist]

I love/loved this conversation. Real shit.

[@sandilemathebula5710]

Love their energy

[@user-wg8gw4jh2n]

Welcome to United states of South Africa We've normalised the abnormal this generation and the next is doomed

[@user-mf1un2mp7k]

I totally agree with both of them especially when Philani gives advise to his younger self, but with Xoli when she says she will tell her yonger self to stay away from boys yet she can make 100k a month 😮 wow. Or maybe she regrets the life she lives 🤔 i dont know

[@phumlatenacious]

This was fire🔥 🔥 Philani and Xoli should consider starting a podcast. Even the crew was blown

[@a_carefree_butterfly]

a podcast thats about porn and sex everyday? okay lol. 😌

[@Nkosikhonamasemola9100]

100percent behind ur back❤✌️😅😚

[@lokishvibes202]

Shame

[@nqobilemphile7874]

Great combo, love it ❤️

[@innocenttatenda5826]

Xoli she's beautiful shame.....❤❤❤❤

[@wewemhlaba7593]

Okay this is about to be interesting😂

[@vuyeyaleticia6312]

excited for this🔥

[@DEFINING]

hope you enjoy it 🫡

[@khonayentaba7203]

Oh my this is great am not even done yet

[@user-wz7hb6ij6x]

Philani s message to his younger self is very important 😊

[@chon.nk.7550]

I would like to be on this show. I'm polyamorous and think that Poly relationships aren't really talked about.

[@nkibanemasenya213]

So true n ALOT OF US WOMAN ARE OPEN TO THAT IF WE PUT IT TO VOTE U WILL see 50% of woman are up for it.

[@simthandilebhengu9409]

😂😂😂😂😂tjo hhay

[@victorlebza]

I'm also Poly, and the world just isn't easy ready enough bra. Cheating is more acceptable at this stage.

[@user-wo5nr2cq5u]

Golden-Shower😮Guys.. Joh🙌

[@thembangubeni99]

What an episode 🔥

[@ntandohz]

Mnisi wemvula 🙌🙌🙌super proud 🙌🙌

[@TheJooceza]

Bhuti ❤

[@thokozilekene4890]

The urine part😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 the way he is so shocked

[@bathob3625]

I'm traumatized

[@mangazamushaba3904]

​@@bathob3625 Me too😢

[@thembacebo-zd6gi]

Ikhona vele into enjalo guys??

[@temaswatiasanda]

I really enjoyed this episode❤🙌🏾

[@romztechtalk]

I missed out on so parts due to language, but the podcast was fun 😊

[@mvelomt6015]

Dope episode ❤🎉❤🎉 loved the questions!

[@KleinyPaulinoBL]

Me too great questions

[@lowrideza]

I love da way xoli keeps it so 100

[@kitsoyaonephatudi1274]

This Philani guy is just imagining things in his mind.😂😂😂

[@tsoelellosibisi6987]

Usechamile lomfo

[@nishamtitima8988]

No, But this girl is Beautiful 😭

[@FionaJayy]

So beautiful but she's degrading herself so much 😢😢

[@lawrencebore7767]

i am the only one who finds it insane that, there is nothing that separates her "man" from everybody else

[@yonelamhlakaza7982]

I enjoyed the episode 🤌🏽🔥🔥

[@brianmolele7264]

Xoli kinda looks like SZA

[@xolajonas3424]

When ever you have sex with another person you exchanging energies, so you have people with good and bad energies,some using good Muti others bad Muti, sex is physical n spiritual also and affects you , same time your ancestors too. The rest you can think for yourself. Because in future you claim you have bad luck , while you gathering it in your early lifetime. "Wat goes up, comes back down" when you least expect.

[@bafanangwenya3283]

eeyy naze nazwana ds dankie philani for thise ibimnandi

[@misslisa_n]

I felt that “Actually”😂😂😂

[@blackwoman_015]

Philanis laugh😭😭🤣

[@socalledpodcast]

Awesome content🎉