Khanyi Mbau & Fantana Define Intimacy | Young, Famous & African | DEFINING Intimacy S1:E1

[@DEFINING]

We hope you enjoyed the first episode of #DEFININGIntimacy 🫶 Give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed it and let us know who else you'd like to see on the show 🔥🔥

[@NIVEA815]

rosette and seba pls

[@adedut8134]

Bathong Khanyi is such an intelligent women. The way she expresses herself and reasons is pure gold.

[@mansuramahabublawal2523]

Yes! Khanyi is Phenomenal

[@comfort.015]

I just love her❤. She is that older sister everyone needs in their lives

[@Makenashukrani]

❤shes pure brains i love her

[@oilmahura]

it's "Bathong" for me🤣

[@SammyNdlovu1212]

That does not equate to intelligence, but wisdom!

[@natashamutambo3522]

I can listen to Khanyi the whole damn time . This woman is phenomenal 😍

[@LifeUnfiltereLifeUnscripted]

Intimacy is not just physical, for me it’s intellectual, emotional, spiritual etc

[@DEFINING]

Facts

[@Ms.Bosstastik]

As a sapiosexual I agree!

[@sethembilegwamanda4819]

💯

[@jojosaylor8996]

Intimacy is just knowing a person in a personal setting

[@ts.ngubeni]

Fantana doesn't seem like she likes anything too serious 😂 and I love it for my girl!

[@DEFINING]

😂😂

[@blossomlarrysakura929]

😂😂😂our girl

[@ts.ngubeni]

@@blossomlarrysakura929 exactly 😹😹❤️

[@howsie123]

You love that she seems shallow and dumb.

[@ameenahbintsalim9278]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@DesireDivine93]

They are total opposites and I love it lol. I like their energy together. No judgement here.

[@esinamliz6893]

Fantana is young and free spirited. She’s transitioning into the years at her own pace. Not rushing to sound mature and all. I love it for her❤ Capotana😍

[@reneewilliams5279]

How old is she though? She seems a bit aloof.

[@lexioko]

I define intimacy as feeling safe, seen & heard enough for me to unravel all of me. Could be through sex or through sharing what’s in my heart or on my mind, sometimes just sharing a moment or a hug- it’s just about SHARING. It’s something that’ll bring us together.

[@Oh_Nana1990]

They’ve never had good foreplay to want to just get to the “strokes”. Honey the foreplay is where it’s at. A man who can EAT and slurp and drink you DOWN is life changing.

[@zanelepotelwa]

Khanyi’s answer to her first question … love it 🥹❤️ Also so true 🥹❤️

[@DEFINING]

Zanele 🫶🏾🫶🏾❤️

[@DEFINING]

Do you also gravitate towards mental and spiritual intimacy?

[@zanelepotelwa]

@@DEFINING 100% 🥹😍❤️

[@Victoria-dp1qj]

Fantana does not take life serious and I love that for her 😂😂😂

[@reneewilliams5279]

I thought like her at 20.Clueless.

[@khulanelehrsa6621]

Khanyi is so beautiful in this interview, the red just pulls it all out. .. ❤❤❤❤

[@evekaggai4519]

Sex is definitely Fantanas favourite topic. It shows! Khanyi is so intellectual, can't say the same for Fanta.

[@asisiphoclay1568]

Yes like from the way she described intimacy and was instantly disappointed. She’s giving beauty with no brains 😭💔

[@evekaggai4519]

@@asisiphoclay1568 Intimacy to her is sex. Shallow!

[@emilyoboni9731]

Crazy tryna being another girl now lol let her be she’s so free spirited

[@evekaggai4519]

@@emilyoboni9731 to each their own. Bye!

[@OLORIWU]

You are too grown to be a bully comparing a 26 year old to an almost 40 year old. Typical internalized misogyny not letting young women be young Uyandibora 🥱shem.

[@olayemifadahunsi5342]

fantana is very young minded wow. it makes sense that she acted the way she did this season.

[@innocentbolao2145]

K=I Jukka jkk

[@jojosaylor8996]

Yes I thought I liked her but I dont

[@emilistephanie9752]

Hey hey this wasn't the khanyi y'all showed us in young famous and African I love this khanyi so smooth so intelligent so neat with her words and also at the right time ❤️ Y'all I love her more now

[@lizy3812]

I love Khanyi.. she is the most mature in the show, confident, see the truth in a suitation and quite intelligent. Much love lady Khanyi❤

[@samela_jes]

Facts ! ❤

[@ditabamoeketsi1448]

I thought Andile was the most matured person in the show

[@lizy3812]

@ditabamoeketsi1448 Andile is really mature, but considering gender difference, I will go for Khanyi.

[@RestauranteBeiraMar]

she is trying to be white though...her skin looks aufwl

[@blackdiamond231]

I’m here for Fantana! She’s young, free minded and real. Many African women can’t relate with that. I’m reserved myself to strangers but I appreciate her spirit. I like her and I think she’s beautiful. What some of you are teasing her about people pay to have.

[@nightwishisthegreatestband6355]

Yeah. Including her

[@wakunanuma1966]

Khanyi so smart...she can get you talking all the nonsense.Wish I was a fly on the wall when she speaks to Nadia.

[@Obianuju-Nwankwo]

Fantana has alot of learning and unlearning to do. Time will tell

[@Jazminesoso1]

Who cares let her live she is a free spirit

[@wakunanuma1966]

@Jane Anyaehie Being that way is being free spirited? I actually feel sorry for her. ..African men will play with that and leave her with a sad spirit at that rate

[@wakunanuma1966]

@@Jazminesoso1 different strokes for different folks

[@howsie123]

​​@@Jazminesoso1 Your acting like the people talking about her are in there 50s. The people talking about her are in the 20s mostly with some teenagers and some early 30s. So us the viewers are her age. I'm personally 6 years younger than her. It's really not about who she wants to sleep with, even bonang was talking about how many men she sleeps with, it's about the fact that besides the men there seems to be nothing there. She just has no substance. Bonang and khanyi have substance, fantana does not. You can't compare zari's youth to fantana. For starters zari was married to her ex husband for a long time and that's when she started getting famous, shortly after that break up she got with diamond and has had just a few relationships after that. She doesn't sleep around, she has more serious relationships, she doesn't brag about having 5 men because she has never been known to have 5 men at one time. She has been in the industry a long time and many people can't really come up and say they have been with her. So stop making up shit. Most of the times, she is a really even modestly dressed. Anyway, it's not about the sexual openess. It's about the fact that besides that there is nothing much there. Fantana is a typical ig model both in looks and brains. Also on the cast only khanyi bleached. Nadia has always been light skinned and so has zari. People like to say she looks darker in her older pictures but that is how cameras are. Compare Beyonce, Rihanna, Jada pinkett Smith with cameras of that time. And that was with their celebrity cameras. Now imagine how it was for a normal person.

[@famemusicgh7389]

You guys don’t know showbiz It’s clear Fantana was not prepared for these questions, whereas the host seem to. Lol if you don’t match up to people’s energy it will be hard to get them open about themselves. We all freely operate when we’re in familiar environments. The host was not too good at her job. Seem to judge Fantana’s responses.

[@kwajopee1707]

This Fantana is just crazy doesn't take anything serious she just play around with everything 😊

[@saybraids3054]

And we love that 😂

[@jojosaylor8996]

@@saybraids3054 Not we don't

[@JAPANESEJENN]

Fantana’s hair and makeup is ALWAYS on FLEEK!!!!!!!!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@chantellemarcu]

No it isn’t

[@smellmybush]

@@chantellemarcu 😂😂😂

[@sarahojoma1182]

​@@chantellemarcufact

[@tashaylaofficial]

Both of them are smart in many ways just because it doesn’t fit the image you guys want doesn’t mean they are any less of a woman reminder we are watching them not the other way around ✨they both look stunning 😍 & flowed greatly together amazing content 🔥!

[@sekhitlamakole]

Khanyi is intelligent,i love her❤️ period

[@panda-og9jh]

"I saw yo mole under yo left ball and now I need to see you in public and act like I don't know you"😂.Khanyi's references are everything

[@nenesibanda4171]

I love Khanyi so much❤she's extremely gifted and wise

[@TheSARAFINA2000]

😢🤣🤣

[@reneewilliams5279]

How is she wise?

[@FaithfulGod.]

You know God made certain people called the king maker i see that spirit in khanyi... Mama you have such a beautiful spirit in you.. Keep making people dont stop.❤❤.

[@ZeeInterpretationz]

Yooh Fantana is traumatizing me bathong . I'm so old fashioned. Sex is still very much sacred hle it's not a swing swing thingy.

[@wakunanuma1966]

Old fashioned is how it should be anything else is man living in a fallen state

[@mslettiemathibe71]

😂😂😂 You do you babe. You are not Fantana ❤ for the trauma, go for counseling 🎉

[@mslettiemathibe71]

😂😂😂 You do you babe. You are not Fantana ❤ for the trauma, go for counseling 🎉

[@br33et]

Just cos everyone is doing it doesn't mean it's fine. Sex is not too be taken lightly

[@C-Prisc]

The day that she let that man take her upstairs on what was supposed to be first date😂😂😂. At his house for that matter..😮😮😮he smashed for sure and forgot about her.

[@abigailmensah9314]

Fantana is a whole vibe and I love that for her. She lives for the moment. Go my girl! ❤❤❤

[@DEFINING]

❤️❤️❤️

[@ntombi-yensimbinarrates7297]

Ahhhh. Khanyi is wiiiilll-dah. A nice balance of mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical would be the sweet spot. There's nothing worst than feeling an imbalance between you and your partner.

[@DEFINING]

Agreed! Which is your top priority though?

[@ntombi-yensimbinarrates7297]

@@DEFINING Emotional and spiritual are the hardest to achieve because they are the most rewarding. Physical is great, but it's futile without the other 2.

[@dadaturay5634]

Diamond is not attractive,,he’s just rich 😂 women are attracted to money yh

[@suziejanis01]

Y’all must let Fanta breathe cuz she has the mindset of almost if not all western kids in their twenties remember she was born and raised in the US.A lot of them just want to live life and have fun day in day out.They really don’t care about relationships 😅 so y’all rest! Yoh

[@jeanakua5742]

thank you!! someone with sense in this comment section.

[@nancymarunya7121]

Not all of us young people are immature. There are alot of us who are enlightened and carry ourselves with respect. The ONLY reason why i feel empathy towards fantana is because i can tell she is not yet completely comfortable and confident in who she is which is a weird phase most of us young people in our 20s are going through due to unhealed traumas from past issues etc. But we learn to grow out of it towards late 20s...fantana is trying to hard to pretend like she doesn't care but on the show from the way she is intimidated by zari but refuse to see that diamond is the issue. But because she is young she has time to change grow out of it and become into her own woman with self respect and dignity.

[@wangari.wa.macharia8130]

@Fantana Is serious in life she just have a good heart...She is just Honest in real real....DO you Baby

[@Tam974eva]

It baffles me that she went straight to sex when asked about intimacy. I think of the different forms of intimacy like emotional and intellectual intimacy. Taking care of others. Being vulnerable and opening up. The physical part comes after. Also a lot of what they are saying is contradictory. Sex is just a fun experience done for pleasure, yet they get attached to a man after seeing the color of his mole? It is okay to see sex as sacred and a way to connect. As long as ur having it with the right person who values ur body and treats u well.

[@DEFINING]

We've shot a few episodes of this series and so many people rush towards the sex aspect. Very few thing about the other components

[@Tam974eva]

@@DEFINING I love your videos and I appreciate the honesty of all ur participants! It's just in my opinion that I cannot truly enjoy sexual intimacy without the emotional aspect first.

[@Tam974eva]

Fantana has admitted on the show that she isn't used to being with a man who pleasures her/makes her orgasm. She also explained that she wouldn't prioritize the pleasure if it's not her significant other she is intimate with. That's a good example of why I make sure the person I'm sleeping with actually cares about me, and we take things slow/not rush into sex. That way the sex is actually better.

[@DEFINING]

@@Tam974eva Very valid! It's touched on in an upcoming episode ❤

[@DEFINING]

@@Tam974eva Agreed!

[@judykiptim9412]

Just like that I'm Khanyis' no.1 fan.... portable of wisdom ❤

[@DEFINING]

Have you watched 'Young, Famous & African' ? 😄

[@tiisetsothato9082]

Couldn't make it past episode 4, even getting to episode 4 was such a mission. Sure the wigs were better this season, but all we saw was people"who haven't seen each other in a min" dressed up to go have an argument.

[@MrDwinkie]

I love Khanyi please😂😂😂 sis is mad funny😂😂😂

[@DEFINING]

And wise 😆😆

[@bryannathursto]

Khanyi looks so much more beautiful without the makeup omgggg

[@wespeakthetruthhere7413]

Khanyi’s wig 🥰

[@afia_sarfs8191]

Some people are complaining about fantana but i don't think she is unintelligent. She just has different views from the ones people will normally choose

[@FaithfulGod.]

She's not unintelligent I believe she knows what she wants and she's doing everything to get it..

[@desiree.s]

Intimacy = in to me you see The depths of a person. To be seen. Felt. Loved. Understood. I think Fantana is really young and will grow over time, God willing

[@khadijahdentmond9535]

I love how Fantana is ALWAYS smiling omggg she is vibe

[@allamericanallamericanhome4349]

she doesn't have a choice her mouth doesn't close🤣🤣

[@moniquegordon1052]

​@@allamericanallamericanhome4349That part

[@prettykiera6884]

Damn this shade 😂

[@mercymachete332]

I love and appreciate the honesty in this two beautiful women,the conversation was light,honest,open and free nothing forced.And fantana is pleasing to the eyes..cute smile an all🥰

[@thembalihleradebe6242]

Fanta your definition of intimacy got me gobsmacked

[@Gabbie_gabriels]

Khanyi is so smart, goshh 🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@bahmed1614]

4:51 was killingggg me. Love Fantana 😂😂😂

[@Tayodamnshoes]

Y’all want her to care so badly, she looks good, young n fly

[@khaya1800]

The fact that l love Khanyi Mbau so much💕

[@DEFINING]

🫶🏾🫶🏾❤️❤️

[@malikasarfo7423]

Most of y’all are mad at fantana because she didn’t allow zari to bully her and stood up to her. It’s all entertainment. It’s not that deep. You guys only to know these people on a surface level. Guys chill

[@nightwishisthegreatestband6355]

It's clear that they did try with this video.

[@nkhen_c357]

Fantana dont put value on herself.....it is sad.

[@SugarBrown-n7d]

Shes cheap hustler

[@AdepaAma-wo1vu]

Let her be

[@AdepaAma-wo1vu]

@@SugarBrown-n7d and you too

[@millionairedee6136]

@@SugarBrown-n7d lollll

[@maameyaaapprewa7690]

@Sugar Brown how do you see a cheap hustler?

[@nataliambenzi7206]

Khanyi love her she is pretty love the natural look❤

[@DEFINING]

❤❤❤

[@dorispatrick462]

Fantana doesn't seem like a person who takes things serious she's ever laughing

[@blink-my2955]

Not with zari tho

[@busikumoonga9281]

It's sad how they speak about sex and how they define it as not being sacred. Regardless of how we try to make ourselves feel better, sex if beyond what they say it is.

[@saskiaabraham2561]

Fantana is so shallow. It explains why she behaves the way she does. Damn shame

[@yaafowaa4149]

She's not shallow, she's enjoying her stage

[@saskiaabraham2561]

@@yaafowaa4149 if showcasing yourself as a cheap woman with no morals and zero self respect, has casual sex and values material things versus inner qualities looks like enjoying a stage to you, you must be destined for great things.

[@moee_thyself]

She’s embarrassing

[@wakunanuma1966]

I agree no one is home upstairs

[@samanthathom1575]

She's still very young, give her space to grow. I'm pretty sure that 10 years from now all of us will have grown and be different

[@RebeccaShoombe]

Auwwww Khanyi spoken like a well experienced woman. Fantana is still growing.

[@XoliN]

Khanyi is a material girl and has never hid it 😂

[@faithfullivingwithEmezy]

I really hope young people don't listen to this crap they are saying about sex not being sacred and take it to heart 😒. It's such a sad world we're living in now. Lord, help us, especially our children 🙏🏽

[@itsnomacles]

"Strokes are not for jokes" is going to stick with me for a long time 🤣

[@DEFINING]

😂😂😂

[@bellindahmahlakwana8435]

It's already stuck with me

[@sheeba8334]

@@DEFINING Yeah."strokes are not for jokes*'.. From Kanyi's street book of Life*"" chapter 6 verse 3 line 5."*.. gonna be my mantra from now henceforth. I have just discovered your channel this morning"much love from Nairobi Kenya.

[@kcfmsh]

Omg Khanyi and this bleaching, I wish she loved her skin color!

[@sibongilesijamula1071]

I've learnt from Khanyi , you're a phenomenal woman ❤

[@danigomes7879]

The way she bleached her skin tho 😅

[@simamkelemzamo29]

Defining is the gift that keeps on giving!! Love the new segment!😍🤌🏽

[@DEFINING]

🥺🥺🫶🏾

[@iamsamajobe_]

07:14 😂😂😂😂Khanyi describing how she gets herself to a climax.

[@DEFINING]

She’s too real 😂

[@TheBestLove407]

Khanyi is full of wisdom. Blessed

[@boitumelonetshiunda5341]

Khanyi described me... We are such Libras 😭😭😭❤️❤️❤️🤗🤗🤗

[@Facts_Only_SA]

How to respectfully say someone is a dummy? cuz Fantana is on another level

[@nyasha2432]

Yoh😂💀

[@tshegofatsolekaba1631]

Yoh she is a dunderhead.

[@ofentsesebaka3485]

I hear you😂, ai noh! Or maybe she's young? How old is she?

[@Facts_Only_SA]

@@ofentsesebaka3485 She’s 25

[@vanessamuliya3294]

Was literally just thinking how even the first question seems to have gone right over her head 💀

[@mphosmother8434]

I get chills each time she says "I'm very materialistic" and she doesn't see anything wrong with that 🥴

[@YolandaTemane]

What’s wrong with being materialistic? Why does it eat you up so much?

[@hombiLeni]

Lol what’s wrong with being a materialistic person?

[@FaithfulGod.]

Shes being real so just have a cup of hot and sit down.

[@Tshegomlp]

Both ladies are, it's just expressed differently.

[@pinkiejosiah6747]

Those saying fantana isn't intelligent are just bitter n cant handle how fun and open minded she is ...besides we all grow up in different families and adopt to the environment we live in and most GenZs have grown up looking up to what they saw,,smh🤞❤

[@VimbaiMutota]

factsss

[@SammyNdlovu1212]

She’s not a GenZ, she’s 25years old

[@Riri_ree]

Khanyi looks so beautiful and intelligent here. Great conversation too

[@unstoppable-johns]

This generation has lost spiritual and moral discipline cos of fame.

[@masegofinger896]

Fantana 😂😂😂😭❤️🤚 love her loads 😂❤️

[@petriciasabatha7568]

Kanyi Mbau is honestly very intelligent so collected and well articulated I relate with her,

[@annettesimpeh9654]

I just love khanyi ❤ She’s so beautiful

[@DEFINING]

🫶🏾🫶🏾

[@sithuthukilezama8744]

Khanyi is gorgeous..

[@DEFINING]

💯💯

[@ivyriro9973]

Khanyi the baddest and the truest ❤❤❤❤

[@mslettiemathibe71]

Fantana said Zari is wearing a dry weave 😂😂 thats the most American thing she's ever said

[@peonyflowers23]

While she’s got plastic all over and dresses that are almost tearing from the pressure of her plastic butt. And she thought Malawi was a 🍸. 😩

[@jasminhassan477]

And Fanta na is 25 ?! Not really bright but so much experience in all of that told me all 😂😅

[@Ms.Bosstastik]

So true

[@ScissorN]

I wish it was Khanyi Mbau with Dineo Ranaka i love their brains

[@Thedevineoracles]

She said her man needs to go to his laptop and make some calls. Lol😂 Bra Sistas👌💛😂

[@Ttbaebae]

They can’t be broke 😂😂😂😂

[@tebogolebakeng9364]

That gym analogy killed me🤣😂

[@DEFINING]

😂😂😂

[@SchnieceCcookson]

I love the energy exchange in this video 🥰

[@nasprisca6219]

Perfect reply for our chomi Mbawo about intimacylangue

[@FunCherry19]

Fantana is the most unintelligent girl I've seen in my entire life

[@millionairedee6136]

I think she and Porsha (Atlanta Housewives) are vying for that title.

[@amytonyeee]

I burst out laughing yoooohhhhhhh

[@famemusicgh7389]

😂a typical black minded person, who’s been brainwashed to think low of his own. She just started a career and y’all hating. These actors have management teaching them what to say at interviews and stuff. Better is with time.

[@FunCherry19]

@@famemusicgh7389 I see you're a Ghanaian. No wonder you're taking sides with that poorly behaved ill mannered illiterate girl that has no respect for her elders. Shame on you!!!!

[@ballady23]

😂😂broo thought it was only me tht sees tht

[@busisiwenkosi1063]

My girl Ms Mbau is really a freak well Fantana too hey she really does not take life serious and I love that for her, I really love love loved this Episode bring more please😍😍

[@lesleyolo]

Loved this so much ❤❤❤❤❤❤Khanyi will forever be that girl🥳🥳🥳🥳❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@missblessedbellablessed]

Khanyi😂😂😂You are a true one !

[@natakijean-baptiste1746]

The refund system is don’t open your legs 😅

[@Rosariaissa]

Stop calling Fantana dumb and slow. She still have a lot of growing to do and I'm proud she's open to learning too.

[@DEFINING]

QUESTION: What type of intimacy do you prioritise the most? mental, emotional, spiritual or physical? 🧐

[@tshepisosemelan]

Emotional for me (I somehow feel like emotional and spiritual co-exist) 😊

[@jesss8060]

or sexual..

[@kumenrejoice200]

Like khanyi said spiritual and mental and a little of emotional

[@kaonemosaditeisho]

Emotional and mental

[@Thando_Khumalo]

I am an emotional being so emotional and spiritual for me, then mental and physical. Physical is VERY important 😅, but the other 3 must be achieved first to enjoy physical to the max

[@Madoubfree]

Khanyi eased off the bleaching/makeup.

[@qondisamdluli5356]

Smiling from ear to ear throughout 🥺🥰😍

[@pewahnghaangulwa3280]

Fantana is not bright, her way of defining things 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

[@Wtfffffffffff27462]

What's so wrong about her not being the smartest person in the world I bet you're slow in some areas in life as well.

[@OLORIWU]

Y’all are so annoying with these lowkey misogynistic comments…Fantana is actually a YOUNG rich African she’s not going to have Khanyi’s middle aged wisdom until she experiences more. She’s carefree, bubbly and sometimes slow to understand due to her fun loving nature not taking things too seriously. Clearly she values the physical and material the most for now…so? LEAVE HER BE 👊🏾❌🚪

[@nightwishisthegreatestband6355]

She is 25. At her age there are women who are married with at least one child. Stop the excuses

[@tshegofatsolekaba1631]

This one is really not bright yoh.

[@MatNch]

😂

[@ts.ngubeni]

😭

[@highlyfavoured5121]

Not at all! She needs to spend more time on the classroom. Did I hear her say “floor play” instead of “fore play”?? 😂😂😂

[@okuhlekaymbude]

she’s a “city girl” remember 🤣

[@palesaroberts718]

Iyoo I thought I was the only one that thought so

[@Sam20201]

So now we know what Fantana and Diamond did upstairs because apparently she needs to test on the first date💀

[@DEFINING]

Haibooooo

[@mphosmother8434]

Girl😂😂😂

[@the_man_speller]

Khanyi I like you... You're just someone good to just talk to Proud to have you as family

[@OE2023]

Khanyi features are so beautiful - but the bleached skin tone why would you go so extreme with it.

[@alicesmith9532]

Ok, but can we acknowledge that Fantana is Missy Eliot’s twin sister?

[@dude984545]

I've beeeeen saying this😭

[@jane8228]

Fantana looks like a very beautiful drag Queen ❤

[@jaqimwendwa]

Girl. The way you sprinkled a ❤ at the end of that shady ass comment. Yho!

[@dineosibiya2123]

😂, what did she do? ,its bad

[@jane8228]

Yhooo 😭💕🤣

[@malebs8332]

​@@jaqimwendwaI'm crying in behalf of Fantana🙆

[@tashdime]

@@jaqimwendwa🤣🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂 I was about to say that, looked confusing