Jesse Suntele & Thuthu Maqhosha Define Love | DEFINING LOVE S3:E4

[@TamandaXO]

As I take notes... ✍🏽 So in 2022, i'm going to the gym and sending out "👀" in the dms... got it😭❤️

[@baonephuthego3144]

Same sis😂😭

[@lulamagumbi7299]

😂

[@_molebogeng6281]

😂😂😂Yoh ayy you finished me 🤣😭

[@osisiphodumela4601]

Sakuthandi 😂😂

[@Tee_Tee123]

🤣🤣🤣🤣once

[@kopanomonnamorwa8370]

What Jesse said about breaking someone's trust and accepting the responsibility to forever try to make the person you've wronged to trust back, is so profound and I wish people understood that.

[@godsbabeborn-again5945]

Right ❤️❤️❤️

[@DEFINING]

He was really on the money there and we're so glad he was transparent enough to share that truth

[@moyahabomokgolo]

You and me both. 🤞🏽

[@thepilot2530]

So trueeeee!!

[@lwandie260]

To me the purest remorse is when you take full responsibility, commit to making amends and expect no forgiveness. They may or may not forgive you, they don't owe it to you.

[@angiengubane4543]

When you feel like giving up on love remember this channel 🥺

[@DEFINING]

🥺❤❤

[@yvonnetapiwakanouruka2677]

Appreciate this channel honestly.. It gives me hope

[@nokuthulakhumalo9923]

I've already given up unfortunately 😔😔

[@angiengubane4543]

@Lesego mathoka 😂😂😂😭Let's go today

[@xumpta6375]

Honestly 😭

[@lesegoyv]

Their relationship is so amazing and honestly shout out to cute guys who can still genuinely love like this.

[@kingkunte5479]

It's rare but i believe it still exists ausi Lesego.

[@DEFINING]

❤️❤️❤️

[@PortiaTCommunity]

He's is cute

[@tshegofatsomodiba2955]

Why am i crying ?! A love that has prayer in it is always so beautiful !!

[@LightHouse31073]

I don't think its tears, its them onions and they got into my eyes too.

[@DEFINING]

Amen 🥺❤️

[@ButterflyY_Zie]

Years later their have their handsome baby boy🥺❤

[@Amanda_T24]

And now married🥹❤

[@tinyikomchunu6639]

And I still watch this episode. ❤❤

[@nelisilewriteous6068]

Guys😭 I love love. I don't get over hearing different stories of how people met and fell in love. I see and hear so much of God in these little stories that change people's lives. Everytime I watch, I become more patient and willing to wait of God because this kind of love is worth all the waiting in the world. This was beautiful

[@mphotelile6632]

Well said ♥️

[@hlengiwemtetwa7271]

Preach

[@Petronella_Mahuma]

Amen

[@bongiwemasoka]

Beautiful comment Neli❤

[@sibahlengalo]

🥺

[@nolwazihlabangane]

You can tell they don't only love eachother but they genuinely like eachother. You can see the friendship within this beautiful relationship 🙏🏾🥺

[@nolwazihlabangane]

🕯️God, when😞🥺🙏🏾🕯️

[@DEFINING]

You're so right Nolwazi! Their friendship shines through 🥺❤️

[@dellyngwenya6247]

Defining is safe space for couples, its so therapeutic. Couples get to be confronted with certain topics they hardly talk about.

[@DEFINING]

We are so grateful that the couples trust us when we're shooting together 🥺❤️

[@DEFINING]

These two are just so genuine 🥺. Shout out to Jesse & Thuthu for featuring on the channel💕! Let's get this video to 15K likes🔥

[@thutomabilo1500]

🙄 I don't.

[@JojoAsiimwe]

Dear Defining, I just want to let you know that I am a Ugandan out here who has returned for the 10th time to rewatch all these episodes all over again like a child’s favorite show! Dear Defining,😂 I would like you to know that I begun to believe that sweet love exists because of these episodes. And now it’s been years since you released any, If you had stopped,please dont 😭 You start looking for other couples now,I can even help you find them😂😂so bad I’m not in South Africa, but imwe…. Even the breakup episodes,I CRRRRIIIEEEDDDD!! Till this day I cry when I watch them 😂 But thank you for sharing the honesty in love in every aspect.the good,the bad,the ugly ,the joy and the pain. Please please give us more episodes 😢

[@bathob3625]

This couple oozes soft and gentle love🥺♥️ it's pure and effortless

[@DEFINING]

They've got THAT thing 🥺❤️

[@oratilechaoka3859]

I love the background music that plays all the time when couples read out letters to each other.

[@DEFINING]

Same 🥺❤️

[@ruesie8125]

I loved the part Jesse said 'while some people are waking up thinking about what to make for breakfast, I'll be thinking about how to make her happy' 😊♥️♥️ i felt that

[@ntsepasematete386]

I've been ignoring this series because I was tired of crying but I'm back again, enjoying it so much, smiling and crying again. Love is beautiful

[@phathiswadube7209]

I'd listen to Thuthu speak the whole day. Her voice is soothing 😫

[@vongaibranson9998]

Nahhh because 😭 They're so picture perfect I'm jealous! I claim this energy and their chemistry 🔥 AMEN!

[@DEFINING]

Their chemistry is incredible 🥺🤌

[@ZoeysMusings]

"He's taught me love is kind." 🥺😭Fall in love with a kind man and all the other good qualities will follow. This was beautiful and they're a beautiful reminder that love is beautiful 👏🏽😊

[@siancube3388]

Came back today after they got married over the weekend❤❤

[@philipinetladi3537]

Not me smiling like an idiot 2 minutes into the episode 🔥❤😍😭.

[@oratilechaoka3859]

That was me🤣

[@boitumelodibetso8719]

Me too! 😊

[@fuzusitrading5673]

Me too 😍😍😍

[@Theecaliforniaqueen]

Me too❤

[@kiddohambira2958]

Me too😁😁

[@lehlogonolomoshikaro2071]

Jesse's insight on insecurity and how one should approach the situation when you've been in the wrong is absolutely incredible! Thank you for setting the standard for black men in SA! ♥👏

[@a.sydney5036]

Insecurities are such a burden for the next person though. And an emotional drain for both.

[@VivianKuvare11]

Totally loved that as well

[@DEFINING]

We're so grateful that he was so vulnerable with our viewers 🥺❤️

[@renegaderogue6310]

This was a beautiful lesson.

[@Filoe365]

I agree with him that's why I won't stick around any relationship that makes me feel insecure. The whole thing of assuring and reassuring is too much work for me...

[@praise8714]

I love seeing black women in healthy relationships 😭❤

[@_zandileGcwanini.]

❤🥺🥺🥺

[@pink_sugar_]

Back here, because wow man🥺🥺😭 I’ve never seen two people gel together so effortlessly 😭 This has got to be my favorite episode

[@DEFINING]

Thank you for coming back 🥺❤️❤️❤️

[@ithandekangobe3668]

Me too😍

[@Tebbles99]

We would love to see Sipho and Black Wendy

[@summadaze2546]

That's another love story I would love to hear ❤️

[@thembincalo2123]

You see the vision 😭😭

[@samkelisotshuma8485]

Me me me

[@khwezimadlala]

Shuuuu YES!!

[@nonie_mono9237]

Would love that please!

[@sthembilethanjekwayo_za]

"..when I feel like I'm loosing myself, I come back and I tell you. Because I don't wanna loose you too.." 😢 ..Yoh this was worth my wait. Good Lord 😍😍🤗😍😍. I love love batung.

[@sonwabilembelekana1221]

🥺🥺🥺🥺😍

[@ceciliamorare8832]

This was the one yhoo

[@sthembilethanjekwayo_za]

@@ceciliamorare8832 absolutely 😍.

[@DEFINING]

Glad it was worth the wait Stembile 🥺❤️

[@moyahabomokgolo]

Yoh! That got me too...🥺♥️♥️😭😭🙌🏾🥰🥰🥰

[@mandlakaziqwabe7792]

Ahhh, nothing like a dreamy episode of Defining Love to revive my 'SBWL irelationship' energy everytime it dies down.

[@beingmary-ann9104]

Lol

[@rutendolauramudzingwa1929]

🤣🤣

[@DEFINING]

😂🤣 we got you Mandlakazi ❤️

[@luciatachiona690]

😂😂😂😂

[@Between2_worlds]

Black women deserve love that is kind and generous and genuine and I'm here for all of that!

[@godsbabeborn-again5945]

Facts!!!

[@xbusika]

The message we need to put across is, we all, equally, deserve that kind of love.

[@Between2_worlds]

@@xbusika Respectfully, I said what I said.

[@xbusika]

@@Between2_worlds good for you?!

[@keepitfrankwithfentse]

I once bumped into these two at a Roccomamas. Super down to earth people these two.

[@DEFINING]

They really are 🥺❤️

[@siyamtolo6733]

That part about insecurities is the most authentic I've seen on this channel.

[@DEFINING]

It was very genuine 🥺❤️

[@tendaimoyo2268]

This is so cute… I remember seeing them (the couple) at a McDonalds in Northriding. I can’t explain it, they were so smitten with each other, holding hands etc to the point where l couldn’t even ask for a picture so l just watched them 😄. I love love … I knew nothing about their relationship but just watching them together made me happy. I was smiling all the way to the car.

[@fatudaniel7301]

I love this channel because it contradicts all I ever hear about South African men. So refreshing to watch these couples 💝

[@DEFINING]

Thank you Fatu 🥺

[@gugunkosi4351]

Beautiful couple ❤❤❤❤ Jesse give me hope that a guy can be handsome and smart and emotionally intelligent and gentle and kind and loving.❤ They both are genuinely wonderful

[@Kamoomonslay]

12:03-13:08 I love that. I hate being rushed to heal. The person has to focus on what they’re fixing and not how quick I’m healing.

[@DEFINING]

Exactly Kamo 🥺❤️

[@nondumisomabaso1578]

Their love feels so genuine. They seem like they really appreciate and love each other. It's beautiful to see.

[@koversbykuda1614]

I love love. I love seeing people happy. I love how Defining stays changing the narrative with such real and beautiful content. Thank you guys. Jesse and Thuthu are the cutest 😍.

[@DEFINING]

Thank you Kuda 🥺❤️! We appreciate you too 🥺

[@phumezatshandu7813]

It was lovely to watch a couple so honest about their love journey. This made it so much more relatable.

[@DEFINING]

Agreed!

[@ashleydludlu4407]

I came back to watch this episode again because Jesse opened up about causing someone to be insecure. I definitely wish more people were as intentional as he is about trying to fix their wrongs and the pain they have caused. Wow

[@JoyBee012]

This is one of the best Defining Love episodes.

[@zafikamkhwanazi5843]

So authentic

[@asteriashekupe]

They look like the male and female version of each other. Like they are a pair that had to come together... To find a partner (love and life partner) is really a blessing.

[@bongiwelanga1706]

This is so beautiful. Especially the part when Jesse was talking about rebuilding trust. He broke her trust and he’s doing everything to rebuild it and over time she’s become secure and I love that

[@DEFINING]

It was so well said! Thanks for watching Bongiwe 🥺❤️

[@sibahlengalo]

🥺🥺

[@naledimailula296]

This made me cry. Thought I had this with my husband but ke. Love is beautiful. Your love is beautiful. May you two both see the value in each other and never ever do anything to compromise it. May this laughter remain between you guys forever 🥰

[@DEFINING]

Notification Gang🥳! Where you at??

[@lindiwemtshali1643]

🥳🥳🥳🥳 We are definitely here.

[@DEFINING]

@@lindiwemtshali1643 🥳🥳🥳

[@okokokoklala35]

the chemistry ?????? IM BAWLING. All of a sudden i believe in love again.

[@phomelloraltadi7636]

This is so sweet and so genuinely authentic❤🌻🤌I love the timing and space they give and share with one another🥺🥺this is mad cute🤞🔥

[@DEFINING]

It really is a beautiful episode 🥺❤️. Thank you for watching Phomello 🥳🥳

[@I_AM_TT29]

There really is no timeline for someone to trust you again.❤ What a good point Jesse raised about trust.

[@armstrongzee2421]

It's literally impossible to watch these two without those uncontrolled smiles 😌

[@kellykelly5496]

What every girl dreams of , I'm so happy such love exists. This is the cutest

[@DEFINING]

Thank you Kelly 🥺❤️

[@The_Baby_Momma]

I’m screaming!!!🥺 Thank you Defining. I literally stalk them on IG

[@Nthabi_mmethi]

🤗🤗🤗🤗me and you both hunn

[@DEFINING]

You're welcome 🥺❤️

[@Bee-qr1ji]

Their @?

[@sinahlekota5146]

Omg same❤️🤭

[@makgotsomojekisane7168]

I don't know why I'm crying but I am okay?!! 😭😭😭 Hayibo this is so beautiful, I just can't😭😍

[@DEFINING]

🥺❤️

[@calexandria6911]

I cannot get over this channel,giving many hope that there is truly love out there. And that when two people make a conscious decision to work and be together it can truly work out.

[@DEFINING]

Thank you C 🥺❤️

[@thatomogashoa8716]

I was in taxi home when i was watching this episode unfortunately got into an accident and my phone crashed, now that I've recovered i decided to come and finish the episode because i love watching the two of you.. ❤❤❤❤

[@wadzanaichinemo9355]

I'm sorry hey!

[@abelsitoe]

Sorry thato

[@yetundeakinlosotu8945]

Oh...sorry

[@Tebbles99]

I have always wanted to know more about their love storyyy !!!! Defining let’s go

[@DEFINING]

Thank you for tuning in Tebello 🥺❤️

[@lumkandude7757]

One thing I’ve learnt here is that love does exist. We may just be unlucky at that certain moment in life otherwise it’s there.

[@DEFINING]

So true!

[@wshelby83]

Lumka I hope I get lucky this year!!

[@lumkandude7757]

@@wshelby83 🥺❤️

[@SimphiweZamaMthethwa]

Great way to start the year... I honestly cried watching this as these two are so genuine and learnt quite a lot about relationships and the importance on understanding your partner.

[@DEFINING]

Exactly! Thank you Zama 🥺❤️ Happy New Year

[@thabisokhumalo6516]

They look like siblings. Love is a beautiful thing 😭❤

[@emmanuelmadi]

Seeing young people genuinely in love give 🥺

[@DEFINING]

🥺❤️

[@charlenemamogobo8268]

They are having a child 🎉❤❤❤I'm watching this again my heart can't handle this argh I love them ❤❤

[@bonangdew5122]

"If something great comes along sooner than you expect it - you can change that" ❤

[@fortunatezungu]

Yoh, a reminder of what love feels like, the security, the friendship and laughter 😍😍😍

[@DEFINING]

It really is a beautiful episode 🥺❤️

[@godsbabeborn-again5945]

I'm crying at the "he taught me that love can be kind. Love IS kind". My ex was so mean to me. Dang! That man hurt me. I'm waiting in the Lord for some kind man.

[@DEFINING]

Sorry to hear about your Ex 🥺❤️

[@mahler5539]

Thuthu is sooo cute 🥰 and she doesn't have any makeup on guyzzz

[@DEFINING]

She really is beautiful 🥺❤️

[@morammela9031]

Her aura is amazing

[@DEFINING]

Through and through! She's such a vibe 🥺❤️

[@ccrose7179]

She's chilled❤

[@oratiletsimatsima9643]

She has such an infectious laugh and a wonderful personality. He is so chilled and affectionate. They are made for each other. I have been smiling for the entire episode.

[@DEFINING]

🥺💕

[@rethabile4127]

"Love, never knew what I was missing but I knew once we start kissing I found love" 😩🥺😭👏🏾👏🏾

[@DEFINING]

🥺❤️

[@TemosoChiloane]

Reason most relationship don't really workout is that it was built upon urges to mate than friendship. Your lover is your friend.

[@summadaze2546]

Friendship with each other is so important in a relationship 🥺

[@Tee_Tee123]

@mate😂😂😂😂

[@alinanamene4845]

@@summadaze2546 lol you know exactly what that comment mean't..

[@Chisanga1991]

Friendship is everything

[@TemosoChiloane]

@@Chisanga1991 100% it is

[@theoarnold9806]

This is amazing. It makes me wanna see Khuli Chana and Lamiez on an episode of Defining Love❤

[@carmeleearosa2802]

I love how authentic and pure this love is...

[@DEFINING]

Same 🥺❤️

[@Ngasii]

Such beautiful people with beautiful smiles that come straight from their beautiful soul💖 this is such an amazing episode💫

[@DEFINING]

Thank you Ngasii 🥺❤️

[@SunshineDeeKay]

I nearly cried, this is what they talking about mabathi soft love. I felt their love for each other through-out this clip. I love them for being so authentic. ❤😘

[@joycemasusu2315]

You can get physical with almost anybody however connecting on an emotional level takes a really special person to share that with...

[@DEFINING]

This is so true!

[@nomfundoshabangu]

Wooow🥲this is beyond beautiful!! They r so genuine n fragile n full of love for each other🥺🥺if it doesn't come close to this then I don't want it🙏🏽

[@karabotsotetsi1301]

Yooh their love gives out chills, the entire episode I was blushing with them and genuinely happy. I mean love is light and warm, gentle and firm. Yooh I loved this episode, love you Jesse for loving and being gentle to Thuthu. Love is beautiful, thank you for setting the bar and still giving us hope about our South African Brothers 🙌

[@busisiwemarira3663]

I like the fact that you are not only lovers, but you are also close friends who can be honest and vulnerable towards each other.

[@tigelechaboneka5777]

I'm crying😭😭😭 I keep coming back to this channel because it reminds me what love is❤️😩

[@DEFINING]

Thank you for coming back 🥺❤️

[@lettysimelane398]

"The love I know I deserve...", and am still awaiting. Love is beautiful when both partners are genuinely steering the ship together. Thank you team for blessing us with this episode ♥️

[@BongiCekuse]

I love how you guys just laughed after he said "I said you mustn't cry" while reading his letter🥺🥺... The connection you have is spectacular, I could feel it through the screen. Love is beautiful when you find the one God made for you

[@DEFINING]

Amen 💕

[@thefreshtake2441]

I don't know how many times I've come to this video in the last 11 months. So much love, care and respect. Friendship, companionship and compassion in one video. I love it so much. I look forward to loving and being loved to doing life with my person. To my baby girl see you soon and love you even sooner. 🥺❤️❤️

[@katlegomashigo7742]

Cant get over how pretty she is

[@4sossgirl]

their love is so beautiful. i love love so much man and i can’t wait to experience a genuine love 🥺

[@DEFINING]

We can't wait to hear your story 🥺❤️

[@kikinkwe9462]

i absolutely enjoyed this video especially that lesson on insecurity by Jessie. you guys make love attainable and beutiful. And a huge shoutout to Defining for doing this #DEFININGLOVE series. we need more content like this in this time of high divorce rates and mjolo pandemic. i love you guys so much. we need a spin off of this series in Botswana.

[@DEFINING]

Thank you so much Kiki ❤️❤️ We hope to come to Botswana soon ;)

[@onezwanantsomi9277]

This is the episode we didn’t know we needed🥺 So honest and raw. Ohw but we all deserve this kind of love❤️❤️❤️

[@DEFINING]

The episode you didnt see coming 😄! Thanks for watching Onezwa 🥺❤️

[@moanegwathwadi5994]

He is a gone boy❤❤...the way he smiles when he talks about her❤

[@Nkomonomics]

Their love is Sooo refreshing ❤️❤️

[@DEFINING]

And gentle 🥺❤️

[@lethabod.9035]

I was geeked out the whoooooooole video!

[@DEFINING]

We're so happy that you enjoyed🥺❤️

[@olgooddays5795]

They are so beautiful. Perfect smiles 😍😍 You can see they genuinely enjoy each other. Love their love .

[@DEFINING]

Same 🥺❤️

[@therealfattietobaddietv]

Watching this just affirms that I’m settling and I need to stop entertaining a relationship that isn’t going anywhere bc a man who loves you will show it and you don’t have to earn it at all. And-I need to hit the gym😂 So happy for this beautiful couple! Love is luck❤

[@charlottesweb483]

Love is indeed, luck.

[@TemosoChiloane]

Love is a beautiful thing. I love how comfortable they are with each other. SBWL.. Defining team continue finding beautiful stories that inspire many of us to believe in love. Great work.

[@DEFINING]

Thank you Temoso 🥺❤️

[@khodaniraphalalani6848]

defining love please bring us one more season of love

[@bongiwemasoka]

Guys I'm going to the gym this year!!! Lol this is so beautiful. I love this love, I wish you both a long life together. Thank you for sharing your love story. ❤

[@preciousjali6995]

You and me girl,gym here I come🤣🤣🤣😍

[@bongiwemasoka]

@@preciousjali6995 let's hope we'll meet up here again with our testimonies 🤣

[@preciousjali6995]

@@bongiwemasoka lets hope girl 💞💞❤

[@DEFINING]

Thank you for watching Bongiwe🥺❤️

[@joylinekwatiwani]

​@@bongiwemasokahow far now?

[@nonsiehsuluma8401]

😩😩😩😩😩😩😩😩 guuuyyyyyys BEAUTIFUL as always

[@idontknowwhy3345]

If you didn't know what unconditional love looks like then this episode has shown you. Shout out to Jesse and Thuthu. What an epic love story.😁❤️😎 Love is what we all need.

[@DEFINING]

Exactly! thank you so much for tuning 🥺❤️

[@nkosazanamanzi1834]

This made me cryyyy... soo sooo beautiful. when he called her his role model. Literally ytook me to the moon. I love LOOOVE!!!!!

[@Baphelele05]

Not Me Realizing How Single I Am & At The Same Time I'm Gonna Wait For This Kinder Love. 💕 Not Settling For Less

[@DEFINING]

Thats right 🥺❤️

[@turffaneymakapela5208]

Yoh😍😍🔥🔥🥺🥺are my tears not rolling shuu!God is amazing and His love shines through their love.🥺❤

[@patiencesmoyo]

Am literally in tears from 14.16 my God this is beautiful especially when you find the one your heart beats for and is your answered prayer from God 💫💫

[@kedibonethatelo9809]

I can't believe my crying when Jesse read his letter,I love how he love this girl and how he looks at her❤️sent from heaven 🤗

[@gugulethunyoni4398]

Gorgeous people. The chemistry! Day made. 💕💕

[@DEFINING]

Thank you for watching Gugulethu 🥺❤️

[@charlottesweb483]

I can’t get over thee people’s love, so genuine, so pure, refreshing to see! Any free time I get, I’m back here.

[@dubulakamogelo8717]

So watching this I realized I lost the love of my life and afraid I might never get her again. She suggested we watch this together, I never listened, few months into our break up I started doing introspection, I picked up a lot about myself, I started doing this she suggested we do by myself. I have learnt a lot from this Vid and the point about breaking someone's trust is a big problem for many relationships.

[@BlackRose-rk7zs]

Literally liked after they laughed in unison at the beginning of the video. That’s so sweet man 🥰🥰🥰

[@DEFINING]

Thank you 🥺❤️