Soft life is a scam, we are designed to work

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@Offthebeatenpath. 3 ай бұрын

Does a soft life really exists?

@LadyErnst 3 ай бұрын

My husband prefers me as a Housewife as well. As a result I tend to be more relaxed and calm. I never dealt with the idle mind, thank you Jesus. I went right into health and wellness, my hobbies (vocal and piano lessons), volunteering at my church/church events, and the usual domestic duties. I think a soft life is about balance. Like you mentioned, a Housewife/homemaker has many skills and has to wear many hats but the balance is our Husband’s; He who protects, provides, and leads according to Gods word will naturally have a happy wife and home. The soft life is a quiet life in my opinion. My/our lifestyle is the internets trend paired with unrealistic expectations.

@sabahhussein91 3 ай бұрын

I think it does, but not something everyone has access to. Especially in a time with hyperinflation it’s getting more difficult for families to survive on one income. And for someone single they would still need to work to achieve this type of lifestyle

@Offthebeatenpath. 3 ай бұрын

@@LadyErnst love this!!!

@Offthebeatenpath. 3 ай бұрын

@@sabahhussein91 i am seeing an increase in single women living a slower paced life, when I mentioned the tech girlies! I guess they are choosing slower paced, work from home, more relaxed careers

@joyce2784 3 ай бұрын

"We don't need a career. We need a purpose." "Instead of a soft life era, let's have a quiet life era." amen & amen.

@Offthebeatenpath. 3 ай бұрын

@@joyce2784 Thank you Joyce 🥹🫶🏽

@athomewithtroy1690 3 ай бұрын

I completely agree, I don't believe just like you, that working woman is bad , but I just believe that there is a level of untruth when it comes to a quote un quote , soft life or a peaceful life. peace is found in jesus and him alone. As a mother of 3, starting a military move there is nothing soft about my life at this time but there is so much peace because of Our savior walking beside me.

@Offthebeatenpath. 3 ай бұрын

@@athomewithtroy1690 Amen 🥹🙌🏽 You guys are moving!? I hope everything runs smooth for you! I know you love decorating during the holidays and the season is almost upon us 😂 Lord willing!

@athomewithtroy1690 3 ай бұрын

@@Offthebeatenpath. If all goes to plan we will be in EUROPE! soon, I do plan to vlog again as soon as we get settled. This holiday season I'll be going back home. No decorating but so excited to spend time with my sisters an brother's!

@Offthebeatenpath. 3 ай бұрын

@@athomewithtroy1690 whaaat!!? Oh my goodness I’m so happy for you and the family! How exciting! Lord willing everything goes to plan and I can’t wait to see the vlogs!!

@Mirpeace93 3 ай бұрын

You're beautiful and beaming! You got this! God's hand is on you don't worry at all

@tsrocks2029 3 ай бұрын

You are saying many things I have felt. I also struggled when I first experienced being a stay at home wife, “exposed” is a great way to describe it. I work part time and make sure to be intentional with my time off, I’m blessed to have that time and want to make the most of it. Cooking, painting, hiking, trips to my local creek, reading, bible study, spending time with family members, I try to keep myself occupied. Days spent idle on social media or tv are no good.

@GabbyTeAma 3 ай бұрын

I’m currently a stay at home wife and I agree. The “soft” aka idle life is not it! Quiet life. Purposeful life. Intentional life is where it’s at. The attacks on my mind definitely increased when I stopped working but I’m taking it back! ❤

@Offthebeatenpath. 3 ай бұрын

Yes!! Not sure if you’re a Christian but Philippians 4:8 is something to ponder on when this happens! It literally tells us what to think on! So if thoughts come that you don’t like, ask yourself is this loving? And then think on things that are 🥹 It helped me so much and sometimes I’d need to keep reciting it over and over but the next day I’d need to recite it a little less🫶🏽

@ArielaNyvia 3 ай бұрын

love you teaching biblical truth and factual arguments that coincide with what the tiktok said.. side note: your hair is everything 😍

@Offthebeatenpath. 3 ай бұрын

@@ArielaNyvia Thank you! Can’t wait to do our chat!

@ArielaNyvia 3 ай бұрын

@@Offthebeatenpath. can't wait too :)

@perthzakugirl6288 3 ай бұрын

I'm a new SAHW. My husband works FIFO so he likes when hes home I'm home to spend time with him rather than only seeing me in the evenings after work. So we decided it was ok for me to quit my job (which at the time was very toxic) and live off his income which is more then enough. I'm not super career driven and I don't mind doing the housework so we can just relax the week hes home. I also have alot of hobbies that I work on so I'm never not doing something at home but I love not having to go to work everyday. When I want extra money for holidays I just do contract work but its on my terms. People think its goes against the feminism movement but isn't the purpose of that the right to choose what we want to do? If you want to work you can - if you don't you can do that too. Not everyone's purpose is to climb a corporate ladder - just my take :)

@Offthebeatenpath. 3 ай бұрын

@@perthzakugirl6288 a girl I follow on here does something similar and it’s the best! She takes nursing jobs that are contract work when she wants something to do or needs extra for trips and it’s so nice having that flexibility!

@MexIndio1 3 ай бұрын

Well said! I definitely agree with your take. ♥️

@tequanariley4082 3 ай бұрын

The feminism movement is not biblical but I agree. I used to work so much and switched to nights. I work two nights and stay home with my toddler now until my husband comes home. I find so much joy spending this time with my son because they grow so fast.

@Offthebeatenpath. 3 ай бұрын

@@perthzakugirl6288 I think that’s a lovely set up! This girl I follow on here is a contract nurse! She chooses her hours and if she doesn’t want to work she just won’t take up contracts!

@Mimi-hn6iv 3 ай бұрын

What is FIFO?

@TheKhrissss 3 ай бұрын

I thought this was a really good discussion! In a week or so, it will be one year since leaving my corporate job and the peace is unmatched. I am much less irritable and like you said I have the luxury of time (for now) to work around my home and serve more at church and actually have free time (for now 😂). You made a really good point about how it’s important to keep yourself on a schedule and NOT BE IDLE in your downtime. Being a homemaker definitely isn’t a workless era 😅but it is peaceful indeed!

@Offthebeatenpath. 3 ай бұрын

Yes for now 👀😂

@lovelyleblanc7 3 ай бұрын

I haven't watched the video yet but love your hair in this! ❤ So beautiful!

@Offthebeatenpath. 3 ай бұрын

Thank you 🥹 just straightened it!

@thetonishow 3 ай бұрын

This video was awesome and it resonated with me so much! As someone who has been a stay at home girlfriend it’s not the glitz and glam people think it is even if your man makes a lot of money. Not striving for a higher purpose is a recipe for depression and bad habits.

@dejajohnson8434 3 ай бұрын

I love this take so much! I 100% agree with you especially on the relabeling to the quiet life era instead. I feel that is so much more fitting. Thank you for sharing!

@Offthebeatenpath. 3 ай бұрын

@@dejajohnson8434 thank you for watching 🫶🏽🫶🏽

@theparttimehomemaker 3 ай бұрын

Agreed- I also don't think a traditional career is the answer- that's where I disagreed with her. You're so right about money and more time just showing who we really are / who we always wanted to be.

@Offthebeatenpath. 3 ай бұрын

@@theparttimehomemaker yesss, whether good or bad 😅

@lovelyhearts1013 3 ай бұрын

I work a 9-5 as a young woman and honestly soft life appeals to me as an aesthetic bc im unhappy dealing with a super hectic job.

@Offthebeatenpath. 3 ай бұрын

Awe I'm so sorry to hear that:( Maybe until you are in the situation you'd like to be in you can work on romanticizing your life right now and see if that helps make your day to day more happy:)

@N_Natalie_ 3 ай бұрын

This is spot on, Gwen! You articulated things I've thought about, but haven't had the words to describe. Thank you for sharing your take on this topic!

@Offthebeatenpath. 3 ай бұрын

Awe thank you for watching 🥹

@zozoshumba 3 ай бұрын

Girl thank you for making this vid bc so true. It’s a programming from the enemy women are meant to be productive :”) “On the earth you have lived luxuriously and abandoned yourselves to soft living and led a life of wanton pleasure [self-indulgence, self-gratification]; you have fattened your hearts in a day of slaughter” James 5:5

@Offthebeatenpath. 3 ай бұрын

Come on 👏 👏

@shelbyspellman3046 3 ай бұрын

I’m a mom to a 2-year old and when I say this is the hardestttt job I’ve ever done. 9-5s, you get to clock out. Moms/homes require 24/7 dedication. Honestly if I have another kid and my hubby and I debate who’ll work and who’ll stay at home, I’ll take the work 🤣 soft life is not the correct term. Work is still required in soft life, even if that’s mental work… it’s no escaping.

@Mimi-hn6iv 3 ай бұрын

That's why I never understood why STAHM is called soft life. Soft where? The Legos you're stepping on sure ain't soft.

@shelbyspellman3046 3 ай бұрын

@@Mimi-hn6iv okkkk ! Yesterday my child had so many temper tantrums I lost count … the only thing soft was my patience 🤦🏽‍♀️

@keepkalm777 3 ай бұрын

Yes! Love the message in this, and I also like the captions as well 💞

@Offthebeatenpath. 3 ай бұрын

@@keepkalm777 Thank you for watching and reading it 🤣

@ericamlca 3 ай бұрын

I can never find your channel, I’m so happy it popped up on my algorithm

@Ninjagirl77083 3 ай бұрын

Same

@Offthebeatenpath. 3 ай бұрын

I wonder why that is 🥹 I’m glad it popped up for you guys!

@jemimajanvier4706 3 ай бұрын

I deeply appreciate this perspective of feminity. I’m not yet a mother or a wife, but I hope to be one day. I’m also someone who’s always been academically driven. I’m in my early 20s and pursuing a career in medicine, I’m passionate about health equity. For me it’s not just about having a career, it’s about a passion. Although I consider myself to be feminine and have been told so by others, I feel like I don’t fit into the feminine mold because of my long term career goals. But I think it’s possible to be both soft and bold. Femininity requires a balance of both, not the absence of one in place of the other.

@Ejerinjones 3 ай бұрын

I love your hair!!

@Offthebeatenpath. 3 ай бұрын

@@Ejerinjones Thank you sm 🥹

@AnnaGrace603 3 ай бұрын

I was unemployed for many years and my mental health was a mess. I never want to be unemployed again unless I have children. When you have kids its a totally different story. Recently I wanted to visit my sister and her kids but now that she is working she was too tired and postponed the visit. The kids are also less nourished. She is lass available for everyone includig me. There is no bigger blessing for the entire family than a balanced, rested, happy feminine women. When a women wants to be a homemaker without kids she can pursue her passion sidehussle that is not many hours a week. Then she can be still a rested soft homemaker and feel a purpose ❤

@Offthebeatenpath. 3 ай бұрын

That really inspired me to do a video on how being a homemaker impacts everyone around you, not just you! Thank you for sharing this!!

@NadiaPink 3 ай бұрын

Great topic and video.I think many of us in general are tired and want a better way. Living with intention I think is the most valuable way to feel more content. I’m loving the highlights 😊

@bellaeman4669 Ай бұрын

I can say with conviction he lied about his reasons for divorcing his wife

@Offthebeatenpath. Ай бұрын

😂😂 it’s very possible

@shamisopasi 3 ай бұрын

This is such a good topic Gwen!!

@Offthebeatenpath. 3 ай бұрын

@@shamisopasi Thank you 🫶🏽

@abigailburt7446 2 ай бұрын

I worked up until I got married. I became a stay at home wife and now I am a stay at home mother. Something I have found is that there is always more that I can do to improve my home, improve my parenting, improve my relationship with God or with my husband, etc... Being a stay at home wife/mom is only boring if you are choosing to be lazy and a bad steward of your time. Look around and allow God to show you how you can improve on things and make your life more like the life He wants for you.

@Offthebeatenpath. Ай бұрын

I feel the same way now! Always things to do 🙌🏽 thank you for sharing!

@Jweeee1111 3 ай бұрын

I really needed to hear this

@sieannasmith 3 ай бұрын

This lifestyle can be fulfilling, but it requires ongoing growth to prevent boredom or listlessness. Comparison can be the thief of joy, and can make this challenging. On slower days, scrolling through social media might trigger a sense of wanting something more, not to work in a traditional sense necessarily, but more meaning and purpose which I find strange given all that one does as a sahw/sahm. However, practicing gratitude for the work you’re doing and recognizing the impact of your role on your family helps keep you grounded, and staying true to your intrinsic values and desires. It is also essential to have a plan for your day, prioritizing your mental, physical, and spiritual health. Use this time to cultivate creativity, improve management and problem-solving skills, serve your home, and focus on personal development. Still, the thoughts can seep in at times as a SAHW you can find self wanting something, but need to recognize and not take for granted the work that can be done before children come into the equation. Keeping these thoughts in check, and continuing to serve someone or something outside of yourself and not listening to social media, and it's persistent pressure of being influenced to be something else other than who you are called to be is apart of maintaining a peaceful life as a SAHW

@Offthebeatenpath. 3 ай бұрын

This 🙌🏽👏🏽👏🏽 all.of.this!! Thank you for sharing!