What should I do with the past?

I know you're trying really hard my friend. You can stop trying to let go of the past and instead, integrate it into who you are today. There is an exercise at the end of the video for you to follow which I hope will help you.
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[@depressiontoexpression]

You don't have to let it go my friends. You integrate it and make space for it with compassion and non-judgement for all you've been through. The exercise starts at 14:50 Here is the link for the video series: www.scottstemarie.com/freefromanxiety

[@MyBestLife1]

*Accept it for what it is.* 🙏🏾💚 No amount of “woulda, coulda, shouldas” will ever change the way the past played out. 💯 …& at the end of it all, everything happened the way it was supposed to happen because it DID HAPPEN.

[@nomg563]

Needed to read this!

[@yui.moonlight]

💙💙💙

[@Anotherhumanexisting]

3 years after a breakup of 6 year relationship and I’m still replaying the conversations we did and didn’t have…

[@Seasonal-Shadow_4674]

I have so much trauma and loneliness from the past in school it’s taken away my sense of Identity, I am not as passionate about things as I used to be, I can’t get over dealing with bullshit from know it alls I was burdened with or just being hurt and not having the right friends to stand by me

[@benburns5995]

Sometimes people constantly want to beat themselves up for their past decisions and mistakes. It is hard to give yourself a clean slate and move on and build a better life and make a happier you.

[@GinaMFlorida]

2:30pm EST... I've been dealing with anxiety since age 20. I'm now 59. At one point had OCD too. Therapy, medicine, nothing, stronger medicine, suicidal, behavioral hospital, back to strong medicine plus 2 antidepressants plus therapy, yoga, exercise. I have been thru hell. Only now am I really working to get a handle on this. I wouldn't expect anyone who has never experienced this to understand it. Thank your for your help Scott. ❤😊

[@pakiman8703]

how are you handling it. and how do you cope with the opportunities and time lost ?

[@GinaMFlorida]

@@pakiman8703 I literally take it one day at a time. Try to keep my mind busy, listen to motivational podcasts, and have come to terms with the fact that this is how God made me. I'm grateful and judge no one. If my anxiety and/or anxiety gets real bad, I get help right away...just 1 phone call. I don't wait like before...doing nothing...letting myself get so far in a hole that I can't get out of it. I had mutism. I couldn't talk. As far as opportunities, I managed to get my bachelor's degree in accounting. I kept my head in my books which took a lot of focus off my anxiety. Just 4 years after graduating I started having seizures again and my anxiety was through the roof. Developed balance disorder. Went to nursing home, now in assisted living facility. So I've missed out on the glorified career I imagined I would have and how I thought my life would be. These experiences have made me realize that people are more important than material things. I continue with my therapist, eat well, and listen to music every day.

[@GinaMFlorida]

I forgot to mention that I continue taking my medication every day. Only downfall with that is it makes me tired, sleepy.

[@birdienumnums1]

oh believe you me I understand, its so hard when you have been through a traumatic situation/s and you are stuck in depression and anxiety - you are in survival mode all of the time. well done to you for finding some relief, I hope it gets better for you.

[@aleckshaull9432]

I deal with psychotic depression, auditory hallucinations, i can't handle social settings, crowds, i hate strangers getting to close to me, I have a stutter especially when I am upset or stressed... I question why I have to be how I am...

[@gaia01lucas01]

past destroyed me, i cant forget it, its hard to live in a hard life every day 😢😢😢😢

[@Darianka7565]

Thanks for this message, I really needed to hear it. I've been dealing with depression for way too long and lately after somehting bad happened to me its been terrible and I dont wanna get up from bed. I dont wanna be awake (alive) most of the time. It's tough but thanks for the reminder of the accepting-the-past and continue even though it hurts. Peace from someone who met you in person back in 2019 in Mexico City.

[@appleitree]

You need all love and compassion 💖❤

[@nandinirm2234]

Listen to "the power of now" audiobook

[@AndrewNderitu]

I really needed to hear this. Its been a rough time but now I can get moving in a much happier and calm manner

[@Harry-fk5of]

Cheers for this, glad the algorithm just sent me your way

[@rickm6232]

We cannot change the past, the more we resist accepting and acknowledging our past, the more power we give it over our lives. When we acknowledge and accept what happened, we also get to decide what we make it mean - SOTICISM. Study it. :)

[@jamiececilielange5249]

I think I can forgive myself for my past, especially when things go well, but I worry about what others think, the people who don't understand how I can function now when I didn't before and the people who has to look at my strange resume.

[@bhagyashreepanchal5702]

All of his words resonated with me so much. I couldn't stop crying while listening. I feel so much at peace now after the meditation he did at the end.

[@sarapamela]

Yes! This! I always seek out to learn from those who have walked the walk. I LOVE your talks. I wish we could be friends!

[@user-pb2vo4pt3t]

I wasted a lot of time regretting my past too. It's wasted time, worry and effort! When you take a walk, do you look behind you? Better be looking ahead of you, or you're heading for an injury. Maybe death! Watch where you're going to, not where you've been. Life is the same way! Look toward the future. Learn from the past. Don't dwell on the mistakes you made. Learn from them, and don't repeat them! That's why you have a memory! Best Wishes to ALL.

[@Thankfulforeverymoment]

Thank you for this episode. I feel much better. You are an amazing person.

[@ushakiran8078]

You are incredible Scotty. How your examples sync with me so perfectly .. wow.. I'm not remembering my past . But I forgive everyone faster.. and move one. I really feel good to do that. I'm free from all the baggage like those trees you mentioned.. dhanyavaad 🙏🙏🙏

[@iamhvcn]

offtopic: you look so pretty, wow what a beautyful face, i mean this.

[@pedrinajohansen-maevlogs4298]

Accept it for what it is, too😢❤

[@sapphire6769]

Thank you, always feels good to see and hear from you. So many things you say resonate,it helps so much x

[@Blueowl896]

I really struggle with this.

[@chrisbunka]

As I was looking back at my Toronto trip photos from November 2016, I couldn’t see the greenery that was being alluded to from the CN Tower; but I could see greenery on an island and on the artificial turf of the Rogers Centre😁

[@BobO-ps1py]

Great exercise Scott. Very beneficial. Hopefully, it will become a useful tool for me to deal with difficult past events

[@oliwia3699]

Fear, anxiety = lack of faith. Maybe now that we know how to live in fear, let's just learn to believe and trust the Universe. All the best from Poland🤍

[@cindyd8177]

Letting go of my past has not worked. It feels better now to know it's okay to allow it to be there as a part of me. Like the carving on the tree.

[@unnatimishra7417]

Thank you dude you really helped me lot 😊

[@Miane-hf3jv]

Thanks !!!

[@jsc0625]

Amazing, thank you 🙏❤

[@nandinirm2234]

Soo intense......well said .....ur new subscriber from India

[@chrisbalog]

Great channel

[@lechatleblanc]

its a great exercise... i see i am very angry at one singular event and decision i made ..the rest of the bs was a direct result of that

[@asmaeabouarnadasse5463]

I'm curious about that tree

[@stellaancimer8505]

It is all deepened how much the brain is inflamed, ect..nutrition really do the magic for me😊

[@EugenieMacGillavry]

If you let go of the what you call "bad, evil, embarrassing, painful, or horrific" past , what kind of stories would you have to tell others , so they can relate to and find the strength to go on? Only succes and fun stories? Boring😊

[@karolinaborsik2235]

❤

[@lumahajkassem8025]

💜💜💜

[@birdienumnums1]

Apart from saying IS THIS USEFUL which I will give this a good try, I have had recent trauma, which has left me feeling very depressed and having those unwanted thoughts, most areas of my life are an issue health money no close connections ..and lack of interest in life now the person my mother who I love deeply and was my best friend is now passed on. suddenly my life came to a grinding halt - I have constant anxious thoughts and depression can you point me to one of your video's that may help me to turn this round please?

[@TheO0o00]

We want to hear about yourself more we want to know from where all insight come

[@tenerdeb142]

😊❤❤

[@Uno-1968]

Life is so hard at times , my menal health is a major problem for me again atm . Please if you get time pray for me , the anxiety and stress is crippling 24/7 . Cant work atm and going to lose everything ive work hard for , my family and house

[@7Annamallover7]

I know how hard it is. I'm so sorry, I'm praying for you right now!!! Don't worry about the next day. Just deal with each day as it comes. ❤

[@Uno-1968]

@@7Annamallover7 ty so much , no sleep again and racing mind . Like living in Hell. Plus no energy what so ever its overwhelming thb

[@__k017]

​@@Uno-1968 I am really sorry for you, feelings that way. I am praying for you, better days are coming love. Stay tight endearing all the problems. I swear it's going to be better❤️‍🩹. Hope you sleep peacefully every night..

[@andrearueda7627]

❤

[@Goodmorningyouall]

You are the first person telling to integrate the past. Letting go is more like denying.

[@seminole111]

0:09 Scott, thank you so much for taking the time to create these videos. It’s been a very rough past 7 years for me and you’ve been an amazing source of comfort, quite frankly, at times when I just felt like tapping out. I listened to your video today at work during lunch. It might as well be everything that’s inside my head. I’ve been battling to let go of things exactly the way you so articulately described. I can’t seem to let myself off the hook. I’m resigned to merely existing every day on this gerbil wheel. I pray I find peace and wish you all the blessings life can offer you. You are a beautiful person. 🙏

[@Cosmogirl014]

I really love your tree analogy. x

[@hayleystaton4590]

Thankyou for helping others through your videos. I carn't express how thankful i am for them. I've only just come accross you and subscribed. You are very relatable and this really helps, i have been suffering through anxiety and depression for 8 years and your KZbin chanel is a lifeline to me thankyou!! ❤🙏

[@ErenWins]

Hello! Scott. You are one who understands. If you are listening so I want to tell you thank you. As

[@nadiasultana4979]

everyone says let go n all those let go vedio i watched sucks. It doesn't work like that! The more i try to let go the more i failed! It just impossible to do! I put pressure on me, failed, more disappointment. Now i start to accept it, stop trying to let go. It just a part of my life, i dont like it but its ok. Like, i dont like my feet, they r ugly to me, what can i do , cut my feet off? No. I accept it, they r ugly but they r there doin their work. I can stand on it the same way like the other ppl who has beautiful feet. I dont have to like every part of my life.

[@sumjkn]

I literally slept when he was talking 😭😭😭his voice is amazing. thank youuu

[@marchingon19]

Scott the past is just that our memory from a moment from present, I’m still working on my past

[@Godwill3]

You look like Chris Martin from Coldplay

[@RandyR]

Am guilty. How is the snake in your area? Are you near the fires? I wish I had a time machine. But know, i have to live in the now. Can relate

[@mrkingstonworldwide6626]

Did you had a hair transplant

[@gurusiddappasavanur2031]

Thankyou thankyou

[@gobblelevclass3nuclearsubm393]

i have seven yrs of past univeristy failure ie college failure can i ever have a happy life and have people accept me? i feel i will never have self esteem again no matter how many successes i have now ?

[@lechatleblanc]

i need a memory eraser lol

[@wanderingsoul2758]

15:17

[@iehalhameli]

I love you man thanks the help keep ‘me coming 🫡

[@kathleenwharton2139]

Learn the lessons..and Forgive the rest! 😊❤

[@CarolinaK2023]

🙏🏻🌳💚

[@MS-ns4ki]

I do not believe some people should have deserved their happiness 🥸🚴