Feeling Like You're Not Enough? Maybe You're Looking in the Wrong Place...

What if being enough is far more simple than you think? In this episode I'm sharing how to fill your cup of enoughness with acceptance of who you are right now, not a you in the future. I hope to meet you on Patreon this Saturday and once a month this year. Join here: / scottstemarie
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[@depressiontoexpression]

As you watch this video at this very moment, you are enough just as you are. Consider the reflection exercise and see when you felt your safest and most content. Also think about if the person with all the things, experiences and worldly success has more value and a larger soul. Stay awesome everyone and THANK YOU for watching.

[@lissetejacobo3155]

Thank you for the video

[@AleenKurd]

Thank you for the beautiful and valuable words. I am going through very difficult years, but I am trying to be patient and move forward.

[@normanwest1494]

Scott- I spend a lot of time feeling inadequate, not enough and I never considered what feeling enough really meant to me until I listened to your thoughts on this subject. And it was those moments where I felt safe and someone was putting the kettle on. For me it was my friend’s family, Nick and Doug and their parents who made me feel welcome in their homes and that contentment I felt takes me to a place where I feel enough. It is a feeling of being happy in the moment surrounded by pleasant people. And yes, not having expectations brought about that feeling. You nailed it. You have a gift, Scott. You reached out to me and I’m thousands of miles from you in Kentish Town, north London. If you’re ever this way I’ll put the kettle on. The things you say are really nice, Scott. Thank you.

[@EternalTruth2222]

I don’t feel like I’m enough. I’m 30 and I had to let go of my partner of 5 years to live my life properly. I thought I was going to marry her and live happily. I’ve been to trying to fill this void, fill this gap in my life for the past 3 months since the breakup. I realized I was so obsessed with filling this gap that every woman I laid my eyes own became an opportunity and if I didn’t get her, then I would take it as another failure. I tried so so hard to find a loving partner and wife, but I realized that I’ve been chasing so hard I’ve forgotten that I am enough and it’s okay to be where I am. It’s okay to just relax and not try so hard, not constantly obsess over finding someone right away, it will happen when the time is right. Thank you Scott

[@TiManGames]

The more I think about whether "I am enough", the more I recognise I actually just look at my ego. The image, that needs to be perfect and and in reality no matter how much it gets, the hole doesn't get filled. And the more I simply observe as this, suddenly the feeling of "being enough" disappears. It loses meaning. The feeling of enough satisfies the ego until it doesn't. The issue is not that we're not enough, it's about letting these thoughts take over and define us in my opinion.

[@depressiontoexpression]

Love it! I believe we need a healthy dose of the ego, as we need identity if we want to fully engage in the world as one of the people.

[@TiManGames]

@@depressiontoexpression I agree, we can't truly live without it. I believe that as long as we are aware of our ego and are able to simply observe and recognise it as something that doesn't fully define who we truly are, we can live a much happier life. Or at least a bit more peaceful life.

[@depressiontoexpression]

@@TiManGamesappreciate you 🙏

[@Whysoserious648]

This makes no sense sorry 😭

[@lonewolfheart1697]

I was abused by my parents and the trap of "not being good enough" has always been my downfall... I rely so much on other people's opinions... this is especially the case at work... even at 43, I still don't feel good enough at work... my manager doesn't think I'm good enough. I struggle to be heard in a room, so I often feel invisible and rejected. It's horrible. My job is my anchor in life and when I'm not goid enough there, it really consumes me 😢😢😢 I really appreciate your kindness and wisdom.

[@StrangerToEarth]

I love your face, man. I love the way you talk about this stuff. It’s so genuine, it’s not just a bunch of SIT UP AND FIGHT, NEVER GIVE UP YOU CAN DO BETTER YOU CAN BE WHAT YOU WANT TO BE. You just want to say… you’re human. You are who you are, no matter what you do or how much you’ve achieved. You can just be you. And you laugh while saying it, and I can actually believe it. Love you

[@MimiW333]

Just discovered your page tonight. When u said "...plan my evenings and days to be the most peaceful possible..." and closed your eyes....I KNEW I was meant to hear this. How dare you Sir! And thank you so much for this. ❤

[@aylinm.3589]

You're a true blessing Scott. We're enough. I believe in Jesus and I know he says I'm enough just as I am, when I don't even do anything, but I still struggle with it a lot of the times because my feelings change like every 5 seconds 😂 So thanks for the heartfelt reminder and encouragement, friend. There is a song "Loved By You" by Unspoken where he sings about stressing over everything we do, feeling like we have to measure up, but God already run our races and won our fights. We can just rest. God bless you, have a great resting week, fam.

[@depressiontoexpression]

Christ has “perfect patience”. You’re doing great in this journey - there’s no rush 😊

[@aylinm.3589]

You’re right ❤

[@jennifers.7037]

You're so comforting to listen to. You have truly found your calling 😊

[@depressiontoexpression]

Thanks Jennifer! Hope to meet you ❤

[@ZNWMJK]

You are such a blessing for us in this planet Earth❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤I send you Infinite love and thanks Scott Ste Marie ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@debbieporter6581]

I will never feel I'm enough. I'm 68 and I haven't felt that way since I was 41.. Life is not worth living to me. I gave up Hope 27 years ago. But Thank you for the video and for caring about people.

[@depressiontoexpression]

68? I admire your wisdom and hope you can give yourself a little compassion and hugs today

[@JJ-nq2zz]

I can relate to how you feel. Mine is trauma related. I hope that you can overcome this challenge. Once we stop comparing ourselves and letting love enter our hearts, things begin to feel better.

[@friednoodles666]

i stumbled upon this video tonight and every word you're saying spoke to my soul. and then you pulled out the frank sinatra album and i broke down into tears because my late wife's favorite musician was frank sinatra and she was the only person i've ever had who i was enough for. (she and i are/were older-ish gen z. she took her own life because of lifelong traumas). this was all really profound for me. i am definitely binge watching your channel now lol. bless you for what you do.

[@EternalTruth2222]

You will find peace and happiness because you deserve it brother! You will be happy and free, you will find amazing inner strength and you will complete your adventure!

[@clairekirkwood8939]

Agree with you Josh, it's the small everyday moments . Not striving all the time x

[@HazelNguyen103]

I have laughed a lot at the way you took those thoughts and just blew them away. THANK YOU so much.

[@BumblePree]

You talk about being an educator and I think you’d also make an amazing professor in University! You really know how to talk to your community and I think it’s awesome! You never fail to make me smile on my bad days. Thanks for being you! 🖤🖤🖤

[@veronica_960]

You are so right, I've had this feeling of not being enough so many times. Especially can relate to the thing with "is a person who travelled many countries more enough than a person who stayed in his hometown his whole life". I always listen to your videos at my worst and they help me become content and feel like everything is ok. Lots of love. ❤

[@MimiW333]

In the 1st minute and 1st question you've helped me dismantle some bad thinking habits. Thank you.

[@yesseniaduran921]

“I need to travel more, I need to go skydiving”…. The way I looked up and felt represented with this 😂 I do this and still feel the same

[@AishaBucknall]

I'd never thought of it like this! Thank you.

[@ushakiran8078]

Scotty. You are amazing. Your every word touches my soul. I resonate with every word every example of your bang my head and say" listen this is what I was telling you this morning". No be brave. Be strong. You are enough .

[@joemanifesto8742]

I am grateful to be on this journey while you're here

[@AleenKurd]

A few days ago, I saw a video of yours on KZbin. You were talking about depression. I liked it very much, so I decided to watch more of your videos. It makes me feel a kind of comfort. Keep it up. You are helping many of us.❤

[@pennyhare925]

I listen to this on my way to meet some new friends for lunch and I got caught up in being so worried about so much crap but thank you for your wisdom and sharing your knowledge and helping someone else out is the best thing. Thank you.

[@benzuventures]

Going through one of the toughest times in my life at the moment and I can say your videos help a lot. Thank you 🙏

[@lisselynsalaverry5416]

Thank you very much, you have helped me a lot . This morning before listening to you I felt like I was dying. I live with a panic attack every day of the week. I will continue listening to you. I felt very identified with you in one of your videos in which you comment that you did everything to be well and everything stayed the same. I meditate, I practice gratitude, I exercise six days a week, I eat healthy, I take cold showers. But the only thing I haven't done is go to a psychiatrist because I don't like the idea of ​​taking medicine very much. But maybe it's what I need right now.

[@sierramiller9936]

Oh,boy! Thank you so much for this one and for everything you have done to help us and help yourself; you're doing amazing. I love your channel,the way you express yourself and communicate things is so raw, human,yet so calmed,controlled and powerful. Thank you for being meaningful and sharing your knowledge and wisdom with all of us. Always stay true to yourself.

[@nadiasultana4979]

Exactly what i needed to hear right now, thanks

[@phucanhnguyenpham2444]

00:05 Challenge societal notions of 'enoughness' 02:40 Feeling not enough stems from external metrics of achievement 05:17 Material possessions and achievements do not define your enoughness. 07:48 Finding self-acceptance in the present moment 09:58 Stop overthinking and enjoy the present 12:34 Seeking external achievements won't bring fulfillment. 14:49 Deep bond with a childhood friend 16:49 Memories and connections shape who we are 19:01 Enoughness is not found in external experiences or achievements. 21:21 Finding enoughness in simple moments 23:40 Reflect on past moments of feeling enough and peaceful 25:52 The speaker sees themselves as an educator, sharing perspectives and experiences. Crafted by Merlin AI.

[@trewaynegittens3118]

My looks is what change "am I enough" since i have terrible dark circles like really bad horrible looking and they make me insecure so that affected my confidence and everything else in my life. They had like a domino effect on my life one that happened everything else fell apart with it family, relationships, happiness, contentment alll gone just regret sorrow and emptiness.

[@gallerynada9388]

scott you have changed my whole life literally and with your episodes you opened my eyes on so many things so sincerely thank you for all your efforts and dont stop teaching us your laudable lessons

[@depressiontoexpression]

Thank you - I'm so happy to heat this!! Keep it up :)

[@Topcattok23]

Hi Scott, thanks for your authentic share, greatly appreciate your time with the content, it means alot especially in the mental health space,i think awareness and reminding ourselves that we anyone with or suffering from any mental health related issues , that we are all humans.

[@THENEONARCADE21]

Thankyou, Good Video Scott. ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@sophiapde9369]

I honestly really appreciate everything you said. Thanks.

[@Mfr5519]

I needed to hear this. Thank you 😊.

[@depressiontoexpression]

So glad!

[@ashwinkoshti9991]

Thank you Scott, I can completely relate myself to the things you say, comforts me a lot

[@mentalhealthadvocate8467]

We will heal.

[@donrol93]

This has been very helpful. Thanks! This gives me a mindset that I have forgotten about.

[@birgitblume4980]

Wonderful video Scott!! Thanks!!

[@taylorharbin3948]

I’ve always felt inferior in terms of physical fitness. I was a sickly child, battled arthritis as a teenager, and despite the weight I’ve lost and the activities I enjoy that require a level of fitness (hunting, fishing), I’m still intimidated by men who are “ripped.” Not to mention depressing and anxiety, which are exhausting. I’m 35 but can’t say I’ve ever felt “young” with boundless energy.

[@catherinelodge4580]

Absolutely spot on, brilliant- thank you!

[@koennijhuishandpan]

Amazing! This is the antidote we need for all the poison we get fed on insta en social media.

[@itchaban]

Excellent!! 💪❤️

[@briarhby]

He really gets it. ❤

[@ashisranjandey7541]

This is what I want to hear.

[@สําเร็จ-ฬ4ป]

Thank you so much

[@Sun-ic7rq]

I think Im more than enough... it's everyone else who thinks I'm not enough.

[@logansportgurl]

8701 was one of my first CD's as a kid. 😆 U Don't Have to Call is one of my all-time favorite songs. Thanks for this reminder, today I was feeling out of whack and trying to overthink about things that will ultimately not fulfill me with joy as an endgame.

[@depressiontoexpression]

YES Crystal!! :)

[@maryadame44]

I’ll say like Dorothy and the Wizard of Oz when she said, I don’t have to go any further than my own backyard❤️🕊

[@NewEarthFamilyCrewRising]

Loved this such perspective yeah there is no perfect phase in this context of thought .. ❤😅I’m giggling about this and now I feel im enough right now:) hmm 🤔 thanks Scott! 🙏🏻❤️🌱🌟we are all enough right now! 🎁

[@CozyToni]

Amen! 😊 Amazing topic

[@autumntedford7148]

When you don't feel enough it's a empty void in general.

[@MindfulNestRealEstate]

Thank you!!!

[@maryadame44]

If only it were that simple.. all I know how to do is where I was at.. 🏃‍♂️I’m running home. 💒❤️🕊

[@joea4501]

Great 👍

[@filomena419]

It's just I get overthink and really worrying about about my darling I'm learning at other language and I'm putting really hard work on it every single day I'm working hard and I'm just getting this over thinking if I'm going to even learn do I go into understand and all the time just thinking about the future how this is going to happen and it's just all thoughts about the future and I'm really worrying about but also emotionally I'm tired like having a finally feel the peace within my soul and with myself and just like in one song lyrics to say finally to myself finally happy now because I also and I love myself that I see other people happy and I'm really jealous and angry at the same time that I cannot be this old thinking gets me so hard and I'm exhausted😢

[@viktortripp1903]

It's too simple for my complex brain to comprehend 😅

[@Fatima-yc1sr]

I wonder if I’m enough now, what does a better version of myself mean? Why am I working on my self and my skills in many different areas ?

[@bekie0066]

Hello Scott, I feel that i have no aspirations, no grand goals i want to achieve. i dont wish to get high paying jobs or raise a family or see the world. I am currently working on a college degree, and i see my classmates get very prestigious internships constantly. Peers younger than me have achieved more, while i have had 0 internships no matter what. I cant blame anyone but myself as i didnt make the connections or put in the extra effort outside of class. However, i dont wish to pursue a career in that degree. i have no passion for it anymore, and im honestly not even trying as hard as i used to at college anymore. Right now I just wish to get a regular desk job paying any higher than minimum wage that will let me pay my bills and survive. I plan to save and invest, but i don't ever wish to climb corporate ladders or get high paying/high prestige jobs. I dont have any passions or hobbies i wish to pursue like art or music. Can you please talk about this lack of goals? everyone tells me i should be striving to achieve more and do whatever it takes to get internships and break into the industry, but I dont want to do this. I just want to be average. I dont like to try hard and be the best of the best. I dont want to have to grind projects, undergrad research, tutoring, and getting referrals just to land one internship, after which i will have to grind yet again to land one industry job. i feel terrified to put in my all to pursue these lofty goals and fail anyway. I'm not sure what i expect to hear from you regarding this, however you're one of very few people that have kind of validated my feelings while everyone tells me to pull myself up by the bootstraps. Maybe i am hoping to hear that it is okay to be a failure... I hope to hear your perspective on this soon. Thanks.

[@mz3735]

I have just begun this year, and I am doing things the easy way in terms of studies and work, yet I am still so tired and cannot do all my duties. That comes with so much guilt. If this is how it is now, how unbearable will it be when I do things the "harder way", with full time job, kids etc?

[@joloora]

Breathe, do what you can do, expect nothing, goddddd it feels soo peaceful 🤍

[@kainatbaloch9131]

💫

[@alysmarcus7747]

i just don't get there. i can't even picture anything

[@bharathiraja3233]

❤

[@pennyhare925]

We have a Harley Davidson I’m not sure about the sound he hee hee I just had to add my input ha ha

[@mikeszwarc4611]

Hey bro , good talk . You made me think a lil bit . But good stuff. ? Why do you say g -word?

[@lauraluey]

🙏🏻🩷

[@Onthe9thlife3730]

Enough money to retire. I can't find a job that doesn't harm my health, I'm recovering from burnout that's taken years and years to recover from but I'm still struggling to do basic daily activities. Literally that's it. Enough money to set up the investments to be a self funded retiree and have my needs met. I'm not even asking for my wants, just my needs. I hate this capitalist hellscape.

[@Onthe9thlife3730]

😑😩 not having the money to live is what pulls me out of the moment.

[@middsummer]

Been loving all your recent videos!! Thinking about all the valuable moments in my life truly opened my eyes as to how alot of the things I'm doing nowadays to comfort myself don't meet the conditions for a lasting memory 🫣. Sure listening to music all the time can be fun and help you process emotions, but all of my memories have been made around people, in quite places surrounded by love

[@depressiontoexpression]

Resonate with this SO MUCH as a music addict. Thanks for the comment 🎉

[@KARIN1980ification]

This is so true. We think we need all this new material stuff to be happy, successful and loved 🫤🙄

[@EternalTruth2222]

I don’t feel like I’m enough. I’m 30 and I had to let go of my partner of 5 years to live my life properly. I thought I was going to marry her and live happily. I’ve been to trying to fill this void, fill this gap in my life for the past 3 months since the breakup. I realized I was so obsessed with filling this gap that every woman I laid my eyes own became an opportunity and if I didn’t get her, then I would take it as another failure. I tried so so hard to find a loving partner and wife, but I realized that I’ve been chasing so hard I’ve forgotten that I am enough and it’s okay to be where I am. It’s okay to just relax and not try so hard, not constantly obsess over finding someone right away, it will happen when the time is right. Thank you Scott

[@karolinaborsik2235]

❤