How to Help Someone with Depression - What Actually Helped Me!

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[@TomSanders-qv8bv]

I was severely traumatized years ago as a teenage, got diagnosed with cptsd. Spent my whole life fighting cptsd. I also suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 6 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.

[@Ronkaja]

I'm so very happy for you, Psilocybin is absolutely amazing, the way it shows you things, the way it teaches you things. I can not believe our world and our people shows less interest about it's helpfulness to humanity. It's love. The mushrooms heals people by showing the truth, it would be so beneficial for so many people, especially politicians and the rich who have lost their way and every other persons out there.

[@Bastianbishops]

Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Germany don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏

[@SusanaGomez-mp8sk]

YES very sure of Dr.alishrooms. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, BPD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

[@NicoleCtirad]

Thanks for sharing your experience, this would help my son.

[@AlexanderMales-gh8bm]

How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta

[@dannyvexx]

"You can't expect anything in return" i just want them to live trough it that's enough

[@evieferbin2130]

It hurts so badly when they push you away for a long time

[@monnnmendozaofficial6364]

same. Just to survive is enough. not wanting anything in return

[@marvinmendoza5771]

@@evieferbin2130 It really hurts. Like destroying into small unrecoverable pieces. It really does.

[@s0ftiebxtch504]

My friend has depression I’m trying to help but idk how

[@emilyzambrano683]

Exactly, all I need in return is for them to keep being alive

[@aaliyahloanjoe7690]

He's saying the truth. Being there for a depressed person makes them feel for once that they aren't worthless. If they talk to you, *listen* . even if it is the awkwardest conversation ever. Just listen..oh and always give them a hug at last. It always helps.

[@brett7071]

Aaliyah Lo A Njoe No conversation about depression is awkward it’s the most important part of understanding why they’re depressed, but I agree with everything else

[@DustinAviation]

She hates hugs tho... and I'm a guy and she would be humiliated...

[@borntodoit8744]

Clinical depression is different from simple depression... Clinical I would imagine requires drugs because you literally can't speak or think or function. Simple depression is a deep form of sadness, you function you talk but you care for nothing except certain (hidden to you) things. Like the video says ...if say a depressed person needs loyalty..show them loyalty. .. Needs attention,or fun show them those. ...Needs support financial... give them that. It all depends what they are really wanting and not getting in life...you really can't judge a book by its cover, even the most outwardly social people are very depressed inside if being honest

[@katebarker8410]

My son is 20 and won’t accept hugs. I don’t force it, but I wish there was some way I could comfort him.I feel like he is afraid to cry.💔

[@aaliyahloanjoe7690]

@@brett7071 i didn't mean it in that way. As a depressed person myself i find it very awkward to open up and i also find it awkward when other people open up to me because i dont really know what to do except listening and give hugs. But yeah i didn't mean it in awkward as in "wth is she saying" if you kno what i mean

[@JohnSmith-kq3xn]

I have been depressed for a long time, but after taking mushrooms few months ago, l feel much happier and highly motivated and my ADHD gone , lost a ton of anxiousness and had a few epiphanies about how I should live my life. I decided to buy an ounce for backup, but haven’t yet felt the need to take any more since then.

[@amelialucy8778]

I have autism, I was diagnosed with it when I was 15. I tried shrooms and it made me function so much better.

[@EmilyJohnson-nc3bv]

Eek I’m autistic too and might wanna try mushrooms. How do I go about it?

[@amelialucy8778]

Yeah doc.brentttt is your guide. Man is exceptional with anything psychedelics.

[@ingridsara213]

Hello Can he be reached on IG?

[@WilliamsBrown-f5x]

Yes doc.Brentttt

[@shannonbeecroft4548]

The person I love is depressed. I never expect anything back. I already knew I needed to be in their corner. I just needed something new to try and I started to look at many videos from "therapists" all saying the exact same thing that doesn't help. And I need something from a different perspective. So I'm thankful I found this video. It helped out a lot.

[@lelabehr]

I am the exact way. My bf has depression, and all I want to do is love him and help him.

[@jennyoastory]

What can i do? My man is try to push me away he says my love make him hard to breath 😭

[@blendabaunsit9110]

Hi, it would be an honor to help your partner. Seek suport from therapist one on one, we have a great program to help your partner get better.

[@hleehlee650]

My bf is in a really bad place, he sometimes ignores all my attempts at communication... recently I’ve been finding things hard but this video gave me the courage to continue to be there for him, after all I do love him regardless

[@shaanxd23]

Hey did u ever find out a way to pull him out of depression? Or did ur relationship end ?

[@radhikaHOLK]

I'm in your same situation i hope I'll be able to help him

[@crudomoda8777]

Hi sis I am also going through your same situation... remember you are not alone...I hope everything will be alright ❤

[@piakiddo]

Your beautiful eyes, they look so sad and heavy in this video. Mine were the same today. I hate my Depression. But tomorrow's a new day :)

[@NicoleEivissa]

Pia Kiddo Hugs to you🤗 you matter and you’re gonna go throw this! ❤️

[@livimoon5631]

Pia Kiddo Yes he has such beautiful sad eyes and very helpful video. I hope you feel better soon ❤ You deserve good things and happiness in life! Stay strong! ❤

[@nicom4996]

No. Love it. Because when you will get out of there you will see how its beautiful

[@b-26lianhmingthanga32]

Yes , let's fight together

[@NatalieCox-ie5sv]

You can see it in the eyes. Just look and u will see in another person and try to help them as u truly understand.

[@luminousghosts]

As a depressed person with a partner who struggles with knowing how to help me - Thank you. To all of you trying to be there for someone in your life. I can't imagine how thankless and discouraging it must feel. Thank you! It means literally everything. Everything.

[@yk6187]

@spottedleaKitty what if the person is pushing you away or blocking you, you know they are suffering but dont want to make them angry?

[@luminousghosts]

@@yk6187 for me it'd be helpful to have the partner show that they're there without pushing themselves on you. like say 'i know you're hurting and i'm here for you. you can talk to me if you want to but you don't have to' and hug them if they let you. That's obviously subjective, but i hope it helps!

[@yk6187]

@spottedleaKitty I did go and got pied on the face today travelled an hr. The father closed the door on me although he doesn't speak English and later he told me to let him me

[@yk6187]

Hard to not feel hurt just to love someone

[@eyagupta]

How can i comfort my partner over text? Please help if you know!

[@glencairn99]

My girlfriend suffers, it’s so hard. I adore her, she’s my world and all I think about is her. She’s the same with me, but she’s always got this dark cloud following her. I’m here for her 24/7, I will do anything for her. I’m here to fight with her every day until I die, and I’ve told her all this and will continue to do so daily. We’re so happy together, it’s a dream.. if I could have a genie grant me one wish, it would be something I’d waste on myself.. I’d just wish that she’d be happy with herself. I love her with all my soul and I am here with her on every step of this journey. (I tell her all this, and I never expect anything in return - I’m just typing this out here for my own benefit because it’s so hard to keep your own head above the water and I just want to express my own feelings) thank you for the video, you’ve refilled my motivation cup and I cannot thank you enough

[@jeffbex4323]

I’m on the same journey with my wife. Thanks for your note. I feel the same way.

[@BongDocSam]

This man's video, the look in his eyes, the depth in his voice. I felt that intense urge. Probably this is that only video on internet, that made me feel so much in few minutes. Thank You. Thank you for making this video.

[@Jennifer-bw7ku]

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

[@APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU]

Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

[@elizabethwilliams6651]

Yes, dr.sporessss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

[@steceymorgan814]

I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.

[@APOLLINAIREBARTHOLOMIEU]

Is he on instagram?

[@elizabethwilliams6651]

Yes he is. dr.sporessss

[@victoriac9884]

I’ve been pretty low this past month and just listening to this made me cry. Everything he said is absolutely true. Friends get mad when I don’t respond or just stop talking to me. They don’t understand that I cannot think of a response or have the energy to come up with a response that isn’t going to be loaded with self pitty. I wish they wouldn’t stop talking to me. They just don’t know how much the persistence matters.

[@Yeah-wt1mu]

You’re right. I may not be here to help someone, but I clicked on this video to try to help myself. I agree with everything you said about how it feels to have someone there for you. But for me, that person doesn’t stay by my side. Yes, I have friends and family that I can talk to, I’m too scared to talk to them either because I don’t want them to judge me or worry about me. I’m not looking for likes or comments to help support me, I just want to say thank you to everyone who is trying to save that someone. God bless you :)

[@euvu8395]

people lift you up in many ways. but keep in mind, you can do this on yourself. but don't be intimidated by friends and family. talk to your closest friends and family about how you're feeling. how they react depends on the person. but if they're a good friend or family member. they'll always try to be there for you and make sure you're okay. stay strong my friend

[@kingben7962]

Hey man I know you left this comment a year ago, but I’m curious. I’m in a similar boat with you and wondering how you’ve dealt with your depression?

[@Yeah-wt1mu]

Thank you guys so much. It’s still going on and off for me but thankfully I have some control over it, and I’m sorry to hear that I’m not the only one that has went through that. There is no shortcut to take while I felt this, but how I dealt with it was to meet a completely new person, become close and get to know them and find where that friendship takes you. As hard as that may sound that is why I play Xbox, to talk and become friends with people, listen to their problems as they help me deal with mine while we enjoy video games. You may not be a gaming person but that’s just an example. Keep in mind that without a doubt, you need to be extremely careful while doing this, be careful who you trust and tell. And if you ever need anyone to talk to I’m here for you. But that’s how I had overcome mine, make new friends and play video games with them, take my mind off of it completely. Countless toxic people are out there though, so you just have to find the right people you can call “mates”. It took almost a year to find the right person, so I don’t know how long it might take for you. But that’s just how I’ve overcame that. Stay strong out there buddy, I’m here if u wanna talk about it (using the comment section).🙏 Ps, before anyone thinks “omg ur a gamer just for the attention”. No, I play because it it my escape.

[@monsieurkd4060]

I've met a girl online and it's been months since we've started talking. We might have been just chatting online but I know that she is always feeling down because she told me a few days after we met. I've always been trying to help her since. There are times that she wouldn't respond to any of my messages for days but I always gives her messages morning, afternoon, and evening. She became okay for a while but she recently became depressed again. I've been keeping on sending her messages everyday in hopes that she'll feel loved even for just a short amount of time. I wanted to do more but I can't think of anything else to help her with.

[@cherrybalag8971]

I feel you,it's really hard 😢

[@HakanBacon]

My girlfriend sufferes and suffered from depression. I did what you said and I'm happy that I did the right thing from the get go. I don't know if I am enough though and that's the biggest problem I have. I can be there, but I can only do so much for her. I wish you all best of luck and have patience people. Patience and love is the key

[@rarerana-ew3qg]

I think what you did and do is so much more Ryan enough for them, it means a lot.

[@drea2280]

thank you, i have a really close friend who is struggling with suicidal thoughts, an abusive parent, adhd and depression. i sometimes find myself stuck because i don't know how to comprehend his struggles but i wanna be there and your advice means a lot. bless your heart and everyone watching this.

[@randomperson-tm2uv]

Ive been helping alot of people with depression and i didn't get the appreciation, but you made me feel so appreciated. Thank you!!!!!!!

[@rarerana-ew3qg]

I am doing the same same rn, you are amazing!! Any tips ?:)

[@randomperson-tm2uv]

Are you asking me for any tips or the guy who made the video? Lol

[@rarerana-ew3qg]

zoeyis bomb oh sorry, yes I was asking you bc of your experience. :)

[@inesalaoui4991]

thank you so much for this video I dont suffer from depression but I love someone who does and I am always asking myself what should I do to help him I am a really funny person so I try to make him laugh sometimes it works but sometimes it doesnt thank you for making me realise that actually I just need to be in his corner...

[@sidrahnizamani2757]

Well same

[@lelabehr]

Same, my bf has depression and I just want to help him even if I wasn't in the past.

[@nicom4996]

@@lelabehr that is because you are special my friend. You have a connection whit your friend. Same as I do

[@jamesanderson3886]

I wish i had people like that

[@inesalaoui4991]

@@jamesanderson3886 I'm here if you need someone to talk to. guess what ? now you do :)

[@bellaholt2912]

I watched this video a while back. Now my best friend is better and truly better. Thank you so much for your help.

[@Spidepig09]

Im hoping to come back here in a few years and comment the same thing🥲

[@schwiftynat]

@@Spidepig09 me too, i’m so worried about my best friend. we call eachother sisters cause we go to eachother for everything. but this time she doesn’t talk to me , so i’m trying to help in the most respectful way possible. did your friend get better?

[@Spidepig09]

@@schwiftynat it was my dad, and yes he got so much better fortunately. I think the lockdowns were affecting him a lot more then he thought. As for your friend, sometimes they don’t wanna talk, but having you there is all they need. That’s all i can recommend you, be there. You don’t have to do anything extra. Just let them know you care and you’ll stay no matter how long it takes to heal. They think it’s never gonna end. She may open up sometimes, don’t try to find a magic solution, there really isn’t. Time is the only way to heal. Let her speak and listen. I hope for the both of you that she gets better, and I know how hard it is for you but it’s worth it. And remember to take time for yourself sometimes, its not selfish. :)

[@ouroborosnagyok9306]

The best thing you can do to help depression is to be there for them, I agree, you’re so right, that’s it.

[@trish4341]

Thank God I found your video this morning!!!!! Your amazing for helping others🙏

[@blendabaunsit9110]

Hi, it would be an honor to help you. Seek suport from therapist, we have a great program to help you get better.

[@Siventus]

Man, this is exactly what I needed now. My friend's depression is recurring now. Her family is total trash and I need to be here for her. Nobody else knows how to communicate with her. People just give advice. Tons of advice which does not help at all. Even I catch myself sometimes giving her advice. Need to stop that. Your video is very in-place here. Thank you

[@blendabaunsit9110]

Hi, it would be an honor to help your friend. Seek suport from therapist, we have a great program to help your friend get better.

[@nattycampos]

I've been watching your video for 2 min and I'm already crying because you're so right about the feeling of gratitude for those who helped you getting out of depression through love and acceptance. I can never stress enough how much it was important to me in the proccess of self healing. On the other hand, I'm now the one who wants to help somebody and the part of not expecting them to acknowleging it can be quite hard, but I owe this to the world. I love them so much not to try. Thank you for being the one who acknowledges it and makes us feel loved back.

[@ashlystewart7727]

I'm glad i'm not the only one who cried watching this!

[@lelabehr]

Your comment means so much to me, my bf has depression and never talks to me. He takes his anger out on my friends. But I know that it's not his fault and I want to be there for him even if I wasn't in the past. My friends tell me to break up with him, but I know I shouldn't.

[@Lina-gc9vx]

@Lela Behr Are you guys still together?

[@anushka.prasoon7171]

Same here ....I was crying continuously !! I just want to make her happy at any cost !!!

[@lauradevine0]

it sucks feeling like i have no one in my corner, all i want is for the people around me to show that they actually care, yknow? i just crave to be cared about and to not feel like I'm stranded at sea, all on my lonesome. i truly hope I get through this rough rough patch.

[@lionelgrisbane-ud87]

Same. I feel like no one understands or even tries to understand. People these days don’t ask a lot of questions and aren’t curious about others experiences. I think that’s why so many people feel depressed. We don’t feel seen, heard, or like we can connect with people.

[@lauradevine0]

@@lionelgrisbane-ud87 Defintely, not to sound like an old person but I think technology really hinders our abilities to form meaningful and real connections and it ends with a lot of us feeling alone. And I'm definitely affected by this as well, I can admit I have a hard time making conversation and connections in person, and its something I want to work on.

[@liamm6208]

This is how you help me get over my depression. 1. Greet me with a big smile on your face. 2. Keep in touch with me on Social Media. 3. Communicate with me through Social Media. 4. Talk about something in a conversation that makes both me and you laugh with each other. 5. If I'm stressing out, Upset or frustrated with something talk to me or text me to sort out what's wrong. 6. Make me get myself going with fun and happiness.

[@elsielee7124]

What is the best way to "be there for them" if depression makes them to push their love ones away ?

[@phantomking7246]

Just listen. Listen to them and be supportive and try to understand what they’re saying and ask them if there is anything you can do to help. Giving us support and just simply listening to us makes us feel like there is someone there for us. But don’t expect anything in return (sounds harsh but that’s just how it is sometime. We do appreciate the help and support tho)

[@kelleyoneal2578]

Songs to lift someone's spirits

[@dreib5129]

My person is pushing me away for almost two weeks now. Radio silence it is. I texted her that I am here if she wants to talk. I am praying ang hoping that i can give her a hug

[@rockeyrhino872]

@@dreib5129 what did you do to help her later?

[@dreib5129]

@@rockeyrhino872 i am texting her everyday, one or two. Just reminding her that i am here for her, i am being ignired for weeks now. Lol. I really dont know if she already ghosted me or even worse block me. 😅 but i know that i didnt do anything wrong, i understand her that she needs space and i respect that. They said patience and understanding is needed.

[@KillaManjaroh]

This video couldn't have come at a better time! Thank You

[@ElanaVital83]

This is why dogs and cats are do great. They do everything in this video.

[@DanteGabriel-lx9bq]

My mother has been struggling, and I'm feeling so helpless, but I own her my life, my glory, my happiness. I'm gonna tell her right now, I'm gonna tell her whatever happens. All our family struggles and problems I'm suffering with her, and her sacrifices have made a man's life, her son, and that THAT is for me, worth everything. I'd do anything for you, mom, If Wonder Woman exists, it's you. Thanks for giving me hope man, you're the best, and you going through your depression has inspired others to help them, too. I thank you sincerely. Thank you!

[@Kirankhan_213]

Hats off to you man for explaining it to me so perfectly.... I saw a flood of videos but none of them were good as this one .... I want to help a very dear friend of mine and this means alot ❤

[@Elizabeth-gu8hx]

Psilocybin saved my life. I was addicted to heroin for 15 years and after Psilocybin treatment I will be 3 years clean in November. I have zero cravings. This is something that truly needs to be more broadly used in addiction treatment.

[@patriaciasmith3499]

Psychedelic’s definitely have potential to deal with mental health symptoms like anxiety and depression, I would like to try them again again but it’s just so hard to source out of there.

[@jorgparker2463]

@@patriaciasmith3499I was having this constant, unbearable anxiety because of university stress. Not until I came across bergwilly11_, a very intelligent mycologist.He saved my life honestly

[@JamesTaylor-ff4dp]

A lot of people have testified about this and I really want to give it a shot. I put so much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels

[@zarkos2313]

@@jorgparker2463Is he on instagram?

[@carsonelias4594]

depression and anxiety is like the worst disease you can get

[@coachmelonie1574]

Great video. My daughter suffers from depression so I thank you.

[@Sanzianabel]

Is she ok now?

[@odatbygrace8643]

This video is awesome and true .... may I add one thing ... If you love someone who is clinically depressed be KIND to yourself and accept the fact that you cannot save (or cure) another person. Yes everything Scott said is true! But the kind of love Scott is talking about does not happen overnight. Be careful of resentment. Take care of yourself, so that when you want to be there for them (and you will) you can be able to love them the way Scott was talking about.

[@brandidahari9813]

This is so helpful as I learn how to help my husband . It’s taken me a long time to understand how I can show up and be there without judgment or expectations or trying to fix anything. Your video is really inspiring to me. Thank you!

[@hannahswift4985]

My brother is really low at the minute he’s had to be admitted to hospital and wish I could help him more.It’s so sad to see. I’ve got his back always ❤❤

[@MrEvol94]

Love to have this info. I have a coworker who clearly suffers from it. At first I thought he just disliked me or was jealous of me, but after some digging thanks to social media I realized it's much deeper and has nothing to do with me at all. Will try and give good mornings, be nice and not take his cold behaviour and angry looks personally.

[@aye._.20]

you know what so I found some papers that my bestie wrote them when I was depression and when she was trying to help me !! And now it is my turn to help my bestie

[@SaiAshtekar-ey5ww]

I'm 10yrs old and my friend really needed this video I was able to make him enjoy life a bit more thank you for that

[@chuva6488]

Thank you very much Scott! Thank you for being the light that lot of people is looking for, thank you for being that fresh air of the day!

[@YouTherapy]

This just showed up on my feed, and I have to say your words are so beautiful. I’m a psychotherapist and had dealt with severe depression when I was younger. This all rings so true, and obviously comes from a generous and loving heart. 💜

[@waverave24124]

The moment you said the best way is to let that person know you are there for them. I am here for you. That's when I cried.

[@gualbertoperezmd121]

Scott, just met you in this video--congratulations on the video, you have made a huge impact. God Bless you and keep up your wonderful energy and your courage to open up like this. These few minutes on this video I'm sure have brought light into many. Love you!!

[@stupid_fridge]

I think i speak for many people here when I say thank you so much for showing us to care for our loved ones. I am going to help him get through this and I promise i will be with him every step of the way pulling him out of this hole of eternal darkness

[@jewel7043]

Hey thanks for making this video. I definitely relate to it on both ends from being the person trying to help and being the one needing help as well. Also I wanted to say thanks so much for the videos you make. They really do help. I was really upset and depressed and couldn't work up the energy to talk to anyone and just felt like I was alone and my thoughts were getting really negative but I decided to get on youtube and watch some of your videos and it really helped me push through. Your channel deserves way more views and subscribers than it gets.

[@gloriasanders9841]

What a lovely man you are Scott, this is the best video I have seen, thank you

[@YourAverageG20]

I'm seriously so glad I found this video. The way you explained this awful condition was so helpful. My partner is currently going through some very rough times, and I am trying my best to be her rock and keep her grounded. Beautifully spoken, and very informative. Thank you.

[@jennifers.7037]

This is beautiful. Thank you. We are both so lucky to have a friend that loves us so much, even through our darkness.

[@kimrock3472]

Such a helpful video. You definitely can’t expect anything in return you have to genuinely want to be there without judgement.

[@katrinat.3032]

This clears things up for me. I have a very close friend who has major depression. Sometimes I get tired of the fact that she never text me or rarely calls me, and even though our birthday is in the same month that she never remembers mine. But then other times I feel, she really values my friendship. I know now it’s the depression.

[@allisons.261]

That's all I need, like you said. For someone to be there, no one has ever said that phrase better than you yourself. Thank you

[@wahajkamil6823]

Thank you, I’ve been watching vids about this to help a friend with severe depression!!! You are so incredibly inspiring💜 bless you and your family💜

[@ferkusbelmont9395]

Such a simple message but it made me realise the power of just being there and being available in a way I hadn't realised before. Thank you so much!

[@pippacarron1861]

The best way to help someone with depression is to ask them: "What do you need? How can I help you". I once told a friend that I was badly depressed and she offered to take me out for pizza and red wine, which was the last thing I knew I needed. She was then offended when I declined and said petulantly "Well, I tried". I gave up on that "friendship".

[@farhanahkhan03]

Love you, Scott. Thank you for this video. And all your videos!

[@Reksar]

I didn’t think I would ever need to watch a video like this cause I have never been suffering depression myself but this person... I love her too much I just cannot let her down. I’m so thankful that you made this video dude, I got a few tricks up my sleeve now. Thanks a lot..!

[@kathrynfrizzle3062]

i don’t have depression but my best friend is suffering from it right now. this video was really down to earth and reminds me so much of what she seems to be going through. this helped me a lot to understand what i can do to help and what to expect while i’m helping her on her journey

[@jeffcarter7601]

Thank you so much for this video! My gf suffers and this video was a really good reminder of how I can help her. What you are doing is very helpful and is very much appreciated. Keep it up, brother. You got this

[@SCSC-qz7rr]

Thank you so much for making this video! It’s really hard for someone to understand or deal with someone suffering from depression because you don’t know what to say or what to do. This has opened my eyes as to how to handle a situation. My daughter suffers from depression and it is very difficult for a mother not able to help your child. Please keep addressing this issue for us people wanting to help those in need. Thank you 🙏❤️

[@matamata2734]

He is my long distance friend. I can't even hug him . I rather die if it means he be able to be happy

[@ItsaMe444]

I have the same problem :'( I love a depressed friend that lives 642km away :'( All I can do is support in text form...

[@bigboss90090]

Thank you, my husband just got diagnosed with depression and anxiety and I was having trouble on knowing how to help him so your video helped me to know that me being here for him it is helping him I'm glad to know I am doing it right. So thank you. And I wish you well and I hope for the best for you

[@lincybonny3610]

Man, hats off I am your big fan now I was finding it difficult, without knowing what to do to help my favourite person suffering from anxiety. After listening to your videos it helped me a lot. A very big thank you.

[@sketchyarts10]

"you can't expect anything in return" I want him to be happy 😭

[@caroleen4133]

Thank you so much, your words and your silences really moved me. You made me see what it feels like to be depressed. You gave me the strength to stand by this dear friend I have and want so badly to help. He recently opened up about how terribly he feels and I hadn't realised the extent of his sufferings until now. I was just feeling hopeless recently, not knowing how I could help him, feeling like me being there wasn't enough but you comforted me. I particularly like this idea of sending messages every morning (just hope there's no patent for that ^^). Thanks again

[@alexkay_travels]

Thank you for sharing this advice! I have felt so helpless in seeing my Mom struggle with depression and the disfunctional situation in her home, that I've tried to detach myself away from all of it, since she refuses my help. I didn't know how I could help someone who isn't willing to help themselves...This video made me realize that I can make a difference by being there for her and I just need to drop my expectations. Thank you for this. I am going to try this different approach

[@kelleyoneal9780]

Scott, I watched this video more than once this past week. Even though I didn't expect replies, I sent my boyfriend several texts with well wishes to let him know I'm there for him as long as it takes. Just when I was worrying I had sent too much, he messaged me yesterday morning and thanked me for the messages. I sent three songs as "I'll Stand By You" (Pretenders), "House Of Love" (Amy Grant and Vince Gill) and the one he said he really loved was "A Shoulder To Cry On" (Tommy Page). He even had set up a meeting with a psychiatrist appointment to get outside help to deal with all the negative thoughts of failure, feeling like a burden to friends and family and low self esteem. Told him how proud I was of him for taking that step to reach out and not try to deal with it alone. Thank you a million times over for this and the other videos. Helps me understand him a bit more. I love him a bit more each day and you are so right about how material things don't mean a thing, but unconditional love and support without expectation. Just taking our relationship day by day. Thank you!

[@alika207]

Wonderful song choices! As a music teacher, I truly believe that music can be so inspiring and uplifting for so many people.

[@ariellesmith5449]

This is such a beautiful video with solid advice

[@davidfancovic772]

What a great video :) Thank you for the fact, that you are caring not only about your own depression but actually trying to help the others to fight it.

[@marinapappas4883]

I'm really glad I've found this video. Thank you for mentioning how I shouldn't respect anything in return when my loved one is suffering. I don't know much about mental illness, but your video helped put into perspective how I should expect them to act while suffering. Sincerely, thank you :)

[@niktee1482]

Thankyou so much for helping me to understand. With so much built up anxiety of my own not knowing how to support my man this video was like a weight has been lifted for me! Thanks for sharing Scott x

[@reblagts3006]

This has helped so much, just the fact that they know that they're not alone and there's someone there who cares despite their current situation makes a huge difference

[@MelissaSzarka-cp2cv]

This is so real as you describe depression! Thanks for describing what I feel each day.

[@nyxxbeb]

I cried while watching this video Thank you for making this amazing video

[@AlizaMYasin]

Thank you for making me proud of myself.. You know this has motivated me more to support my friend! Thank you Scott!

[@manishas9411]

That friend that sends motivating texts to you is an angel is disguise. She's very rare and so precious. God bless her.💝

[@TheCACHI31]

I've been watching your videos for a few months, and honestly the main reason it's because I want to help my friends...I think this video si one of your best work, I've learned A LOT. Thanks a lot, Scott Greeting from Mexico c:

[@andrewjames6053]

This is one of the best views on this topic I have ever seen. Thank you for the upload.

[@berthacdellasala]

Thank you for sharing with us and yes, your loved ones are there for you and always go to them when in need. I tell that to my daughter and husband who both suffer from depression. Hugs to you as well.

[@sandrathomson7288]

Thank you. You have affirmed my instincts. I am caring for a family member with deep depression right now. I can't " fix " him. I can facilitate if he chooses, but the best help I can be is to love him. To believe in him, to stand with him. I love him and I know he finds it hard to show his feelings right now, but I feel just standing by his shoulder, giving him acceptance and patience must be a good thing. He is of value- I know he doesn't feel that right now, but I can hold that for him, gently remind him tha he is of worth, he is loved. I hope my words land someplace within him that helps.

[@kelleyoneal9780]

Just started watching your videos. This video gave me encouragement that what I'm doing for my boyfriend is enough. He told me he had bipolar disorder in July. It didn't scare me away from wanting to keep hanging in there with him. This week's depressive episode is worst one he's had since knowing about it. Right now it's a long-distance relationship and I feel helpless being 800 miles away. Hoping my texts are helping him in some way. He is the most selfless person I know. Even when he is so-so, he tells me to get my rest. I love him very much and simply hate knowing he is feeling bad.

[@wzwcat]

Thanks so much for the video. I don’t have depression but I have known many people who do. This is great video for me to understand them. And more importantly, how to support those people. And you have the most beautiful sole who shares your hard experience with people. And help them to get out of depression

[@nickydavies5399]

Thank you so so much for explaining this to me!! It all makes so much sense, and I know this will help me so much to help someone I love. Thank you so much! Admire you, and love and appreciate you.

[@erinrosie]

This really helped me thank you so much, I am watching this to help support my new bf who has just slowly opened up about his depression and now I know not to panic if he doesn’t reply to my message, to remind him I love him, to remind him that someone even when he feels like no one does, cares about him and I loved the idea of texting someone in the morning because at the minute his depression has got worse since going back to college and all he thinks about is dropping out but I am hoping the morning text will give him some motivation, thank you :)

[@sadaione]

Lots of love🤗❣️You can do it! You are not alone✨

[@beatrizfadini8139]

Thank you so much for sharing this. It is the most incredible, warming and beautiful video I've ever seen. It's very deep and I'm sure it will help others help other people a lot. A big and truly thank you ♥️

[@jacobb8397]

Yo man, just wanted to leave a note reminding you of that people do not take what you do for granted, although in difficult moments, we forget how lucky we are sometimes. Having someone to show compassion in a very hopeless situation can make all the difference in the world. Even though I am experiencing a lot of distress now, I am very glad people like you have the kindness to carry such great work, continually. take care, and never stop doing this. what do you do matters to a lot of people, including myself.

[@sanashah397]

This video is not just a video, it means so much to me, i am glad i came across this

[@MarilynEngelhard]

TY! I thought I wasn't helping. I can tell you have been there. Love you!

[@JingYuans_sparrow]

This video made me realise I’ve been doing this for every person in my family hoping they would get that’s how I need to be treated but after all these years of diagnosed depression, none of my siblings or parents checked out on me or said “you got this/we are here for you”. I know all their big events and always remember to cheer them up and wish them good luck, I always call on them to ask what their doctor said or how an exam went. All I got was “it’s not like you’ve a fever get tf up”. Sorry for the rant, it’s just something hard to realise all of a sudden and idk what else to do about it

[@alika207]

I am so sorry to hear that. If you feel OK calling out their wrongdoing, sit down with them in person, or call them on the phone, and let them know honestly and constructively how their words are causing you to feel. Thank them for their intention of being helpful, while at the same time showing them examples of what would work better for you. Many people think they are offering Helpful advice and suggestions and not realizing they are actually not helping. You could also send KZbin videos, links, articles, and so on that talk about things to not say, and things to say, to help them understand more. It will be hard, but it will be worth it for you, and for them. Also, to you, I know you can do this, both in general and regarding this specifically. I’ve got your back. Best of luck on this, and in your endeavors for the rest of your life. I’m sending you love.

[@JingYuans_sparrow]

@@alika207 thank you so much those are all good ideas 🙏🏻 I’ve opened up about this with my sister and I think it helped, I don’t think my parents understand but I now noticed they are trying with their own language and that’s enough for me. I’m trying to switch my focus on what is good and that freed me so much. I send you back much love and luck for everything, thank you for making me feel not alone💛

[@alika207]

@@JingYuans_sparrow you are most welcome! Thank you as well for replying! Best of luck with everything!

[@sasaelsa]

Thank you so much You really made me feel like i am doing my best in helping my husband even if he is not responding but you just give me a big push to continue what i am doing

[@foodiepoushalishorts8968]

Same here😊

[@thesunlightpearl8263]

Thank you so much, this video really helped me understand what someone in my life is going through as someone who hasn’t experienced depression.

[@justjen1682]

This is confirmation for me. I’m helping my son. He’s feeling a lot better now.

[@lifegenius763]

Thank you Scott for a very insightful video. I've started to dating a guy in the last 3 weeks who's disclosed he has anxiety and depression steming back childhood traumas which were not his fault. But, he's clearly suffered a lot as a result. I really like him a lot and he's really fond of me and Ive been thinking about how I approach the situation...neither do I want to be his rescuer nor do I want to do nothing. If he wants me to play a role in his life, I need to just be present with him and have no expectations. Its really strange but I am pulling towards him a lot I can see a whole lot more than just his depression. If carry on dating him, I will support him unconditionally...thx for the guidance and I wish you well with your own journey 🙏🙏

[@JulieStanton61]

I was looking for a video to show my students. This made me cry. It was exactly what I wanted to say. Thank you so much

[@loramassegee2463]

It’s interesting that I stumbled across your video… I’m suffering from a combination of both depression and anxiety. One compounds the other. And my biggest problem is finding those people that are willing to spend time with me, especially those that are supposed to be there for you. And you are right about what is needed because you have those low points too. Thank you for this video and I will be watching some of your others.

[@michaeljennings7511]

Well done, Scott. THAT is exactly how to help. We (people with depression) have spouses, friends, and family that feel miles away even in the same room. The kind of reaching out you described means so much that it cannot be put into words. I would add for those who want to help to learn everything you can about this illness because we can't teach it ourselves. Cheers.

[@vuuv802]

this video is sO powerful i'm gonna go flip a table, i'm gonna share it ten times idec people need to see this, you're awesome and your friend is awesome i love the both of you.

[@inatrintube]

Thankyou for the video, my husband is having depression and keep isolating himself, I didnt know how to approach him. I came to your video and it helps a lot. Thank you.

[@karanpadda07]

Thanks man you have helped me so much to help my loved one and they are looking much happier now thanks I appreciate it

[@JazmineStarberry]

I don't want anything back- I just want my best friend to live.