Deprogram Masculine Ways Ladies

more on feminine charms and habits

[@ang_ro]

Watching this today as I am about to call out of my job and take the day off to go shopping to get better clothes, makeup, and de-stress my body. I work in a dirty environment doing hard physical labor, I used to feel proud I could do a "man's job", but now I realize I just don't feel like a woman anymore. Time to find me a career that will help me embrace my femininity. Thanks so much.

[@foxywhitetip7387]

Ang Ro sometimes it is from childhood, like a father who programs a daughter to be “you’re the son I never had “

[@FEMME_CHRONICLES]

You are literally talking about my life. I used to proud as well. Silly isn't it. Killing myself to prove what?!

[@bangelic6471]

Ang Ro yes same here. For months I felt like a man.

[@books6000]

I hope you were able to make a career change within this last year.

[@genj6630]

@@FEMME_CHRONICLES Story of my life too. I am tired of being tired! Thank you ladies for sharing that.

[@lovelygoddess4841]

I am very feminine, but I am glad to know about emotional masculinity. Texting first, , thinking about the man all the time, pursuing the man is very masculine emotionally.

[@aminaht5694]

Great point

[@Glad2BGolden]

Aria L Why is thinking about him all the time masculine? Is that what men do?

[@lila2144]

@@Glad2BGolden I don't think it's masculine to think about or day dream about a man, but better focus on other stuff,

[@anthonybacon8711]

No it is not whats wrong with her going after a man or whats wrong with a women offering............Nothing wrong with it at all.

[@anthonybacon8711]

What needed or u talking about becouse if its begging then she can go

[@whatsmaname9219]

My man is a six figure generous man who is 38 and I’m 24 - he doesn’t know how to dress for anything . He will say he likes women as tomboys blah blah but whenever I get cute he LOVES it - believe me !! Men love a dressed , polished woman.

[@jocelynbelle2946]

how did you find him? ❤️

[@iamnatpetite]

Yes, how did you find him?

[@QueenJuliana89]

Beware of guys who “like tomboys” but if he’s a provider you’re probably good. I’m involved with one and he’ll use a tomboy but spoil me. Those guys make me a little leery all the same.

[@CrystalClear400]

Y’all still together ?

[@LexiRae7]

Don’t drink beer before liquor you will throw up

[@PinkTiara1993]

I knew I was wasting my time on a guy when he purposefully kept trying to make me dress down. He would be like you don’t need makeup, you don’t need to do all that but I always told him I was like this my whole life. He knew that before he got involved with me and if he wants a crappy dressed girl who doesn’t take care of herself than he can get that but thats not who I am. Never been and never will be. For example my first job ever was being a courtesy clerk. The ones who bag groceries and collect carts but many customers was like “baby, you’re too pretty to be doing all that hard labor. You need to be behind a cash register showing that pretty face off” and kept notifying management about it then boom, I got promoted to being a cashier instantly so sorry to say it but looks are important whether you agree with it or not.

[@Melaninking33]

Brit Glitz if a man tells you that you should dress down, or wear less makeup, it usually means that you are not dressed appropriately, or you have too much makeup on. Going off the picture you have alone I can tell you have too much makeup on.

[@PinkTiara1993]

mccoyd33 Honestly I didn’t read much of what you said. I just skimmed through it. However based off what I skimmed, what it ACTUALLY means is he was always insecure that I always made sure my appearance was always nice which made him have to put forth more of an effort to have a great appearance as well. All he wanted to wear was sweat pants and flip flops all the time and I’m pretty sure there’s a female out there who loves that look however I don’t. So you can honestly call it whatever you want. I just call it pure insecurity, not wanting to level up, and just pure laziness. Now have a good day! 😁

[@Melaninking33]

Brit Glitz call it what you will. I’m literally telling what men actually think. Not some assumption BS like you get from everyone else on this channel. Insecurity? Ok. Not leveling up? Sure. You can use whatever buzz word, or catch phrase you can come up with. It doesn’t change facts. You have on too much makeup in your ACTUAL PICTURE. THE ONE EVERYONE CAN SEE. Also, why would you skim through the post? It was literally 2 sentences...haha. And he was lazy?

[@PinkTiara1993]

mccoyd33 Hmmm...that’s funny. All men or just you? I didn’t know you were the Spokesman for every man in the world. And you’re clearly stating an OPINION sir, not a fact. And my makeup is perfectly fine in my picture. It’s very neutral compared to clown makeup I have seen plenty of times before. I’m still going to be rocking neutral makeup and colorful hair bc I like it and there’s plenty of men that love it as well although you may not be a big fan of it. Also put up a pic of your face as well since you want to be so opinionated about other ppl appearances. Insecurity at it’s finest. But still have a great day! 🤗 And I skimmed through it bc I just knew it really was a waste of time to read honestly 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@kkkkk695]

mccoyd33 broke men can’t afford makeup and don’t like competition. Rich men wives have full makeup and classy clothes on why?

[@vanaphill2454]

When I was a receptionist, I made sure I was on point with hair makeup, nails and wardrobe. Dusties would look but could not say a thing. Only the real men got through.

[@aminah761]

Vana Phill ha

[@ChocolateprincessMaya]

Dressing alone is a filter...

[@sarahs.archives]

Hello!🗣

[@Challchall1]

True dusties wont even approach 😂

[@mkeoppen20]

Literally watching this on my cracked phone in my dusty sweats. You are right time to level up lol

[@kscript9127]

I say this with love sweetie in your situation I hope you’re single bc if a man can’t help u buy a phone he doesn’t deserve your time better yet sex. I get so annoyed seeing beautiful women struggling but still giving men energy.

[@mkeoppen20]

@@kscript9127 he actually bought this one but my toddler cracked it the other day 😣

[@LaDeeDah]

Hahaha

[@chocolategoddess4056]

Kay Jewel omgggg PREACH

[@iamhermonica6331]

Sweats all month if December 😪

[@ayannatyler3059]

Your right. When you look beautiful you feel beautiful, and you project beauty. After a while it comes to you naturally and you don’t even have to try hard. I started waking up an hour earlier than usual, so I can have time to do my full morning routine. It has made a world of difference. I look and feel so amazing.

[@Melanie-le6mw]

Ayanna Tyler 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@hunny585]

thanks fr encouragement

[@tajthegreatone9326]

This is so true what Shera is saying. Men DEFINITELY respond to feminine women positively. Men go out of their way to help me everywhere I go. Men love to feel like a hero as it is in their nature.

[@FeliciaLoves]

I have dark skin and I’m married. I am not completely leveled up (I need to lose some weight) but I have leveled up In all other areas hair, makeup, nails, and clothes. I have had all types of men white, black and other approach me and don’t care that I’m married. She is telling y’all the truth listen and just do it. Apparently your way ain’t working try it and see. To be clear I am not dating anyone... I love my husband just saying I have been approached.

[@briana14333]

It's true, sis! I am medium-dark? skinned and have attracted all shades and backgrounds of men. And not always Black men! I am also very tall with short, natural hair. Women who are complaining about colorism are missing the point; use what you have to get what you want! Femininity will get you everything.

[@kscript9127]

@briana I agree. I am dark toned and white and Spanish/Mexican men love me. Mo man is white right now. I have never had a problem getting a man. Sometimes I’m confused about the colorism complaints bc myself and many other beautiful dark toned women I know always have men chasing us down. Bm love me as well and many people think they only like light women. That’s simply not true. If you’re beautiful it doesn’t matter what color you are. Especially if you’re more girly than the typical woman you’re really winning. I feel some unattractive women use their color as an excuse. I see unattractive light women desperate and lonely as well. I’ve had light women refuse to be my friend bc i get more attention than them.It’s not about color.

[@theflaca]

Problem is NO ONE IS LOOKING UP! ALL MEN ARE STARING AT THE TV IN THEIR HANDS. IT"S THE SCOURGE OF THE IPHONE. NOONE IS LOOKING AT ANYONE ANYMORE EXCEPT THE FUCKING INTERNET! FURTHER, MEN DON'T ACTUALLY ASK WOMEN OUT ANYMORE. I SHOULD KNOW. I'M ON A TRAIN TWICE A DAY. NO ONE IS LOOKING!

[@Sigmanovar]

@@theflaca because alot of women made it themselves unapproachable,it's supposed to be a very simple process,a woman shows choosing sighns a man pursues,she's not supposed to play super hard to get nor is she supposed to be a bitch if she rejects him.

[@NoName-sp5dp]

@@Sigmanovar everyone isn't thinking about u. Get over yourself

[@sentry9834]

Kim Kardashian was asked why don't she have tattoos, her response: You don't put bumper stickers on a Bentley. Ladies take this advice to heart.

[@et5895]

LOVE that💕

[@tinasnow2006]

IslandBeauty girl Kim is the last person I’ll take an advice from, I guess she isn’t a Bentley either with all that silicone in her bum that don’t match her thighs looking like ant 🐜 😹😹😩. As long as ur tattoos aren’t all over ur body and are concealable, I say rock it.

[@hopenadia7763]

I like that. First time I heard that was from Teresa Giudice on TRHONJ. It stuck with me.

[@danniexo7636]

Creative Thinker I have flower tattoos and I love them. Everyone has their own preference.

[@camilleandriette]

Creative Thinker damn I have 3 😏. Twenties 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@carmensmith2457]

I heard that Ayesha Curry broke up with Steph in college because he wanted to act a fool. He got a taste of thirsty pick me's and notice that Ayesha had other dudes checking for her so begged her to come back to him. They also got married pretty quickly after college. Rumor has it she made him wait for marriage for sex. If true this shows that a success man will wife you up quickly if you have high standards and boundaries.

[@briannab.8127]

Carmen Smith are you surprised. Ayesha is goals and I’m not surprised that she wasn’t thirsty for steph

[@pianolover49-k8l]

Carmen Smith didn't know that about Steph curry

[@Nanakesewaa]

Good for her👏🏾👏🏾

[@NoName-sp5dp]

@Luna Lovegood what are u talking about? Wasnt he a virgin and who said she was a virgin? She just said she made him wait

[@chelesjulian2340]

How We Value Ourselves Determines On What Level We Attract Guys And The Quality of Man Who Are Drawn To Us.

[@alexisjada17]

Ladies if you’re going to wear a pair of leggings please wear thigh high boots(heels) and a long expensive sweater or cardigan. But avoid it if you can.

[@ko9113]

THANK GOD! I cant stand leggings for EVERY outfit JUST because they are cheap...ok !

[@lindsb3541]

I agree. I have a pretty firm rule about only buying thick, quality leggings that are to be worn with a nicely-fitting tunic or something that covers the butt, and/or with tall (good quality leather) boots..and yes ! A nice long cardigan/coatigan. :)

[@xeniastephenson8076]

Its hard to dress feminine in the winter time. I have a date after sch an i dont know what to wear. Caz i have sch all day. Sigh

[@Challchall1]

Dont weare them 😅

[@Spiritwind111]

I have been masculine/sporty most my life and used to make fun of feminine girls, thinking they were weak. Apart of my alchemical journey is to learn how to embrace and be feminine. Especially now that I am a mother and can no longer deny the reality of a woman’s role as a mother and wife. You are teaching me so much and I know he will love it as well😄 thank u!!!!!! Ur like the sister, mom and best friend I never had 🙏🏿

[@mexibbcakesify]

Same🙌

[@tinyking11]

Same! I’ve been sporty/tom boyish all my life. Plus I’m a semi new mom. This video is giving me life. I definitely already threw away most of my wardrobe and bought more feminine clothes. 😅🔥

[@MsCoconutconjurer]

Excellent 💕 take a belly dance class and get in touch with your feminine side, learn to move slowly.

[@NERDS143]

MsCoconutconjurer Hey Ms. Coconut!!!, Love ya!

[@MsCoconutconjurer]

ecoangel hello have a great weekend hope all is well 🌞

[@rothieadunnigan2009]

It also sounds like good exercise.

[@MsCoconutconjurer]

Rothie A Dunnigan it is it is

[@SR77736]

Yes or pole dance.its sensual.not the same as stripping.

[@Avysaurus]

I'm cracking up because I had no idea people felt this strongly about leggings

[@ms.e195]

Me either and i love leggings 😐

[@iguessitsokyungrichbaby2813]

Ms. E my dance teachers would go on 30 min rants on why leggings are not pants 😂 classy older women hate them and of course as younger women we want to pair them With a t shirt because that’s the style

[@ms.e195]

@@iguessitsokyungrichbaby2813 ikr

[@mw7882]

🤣😂😂😂🤣

[@cicihenderson9044]

An imma still wear em lol

[@VisionVoyagersOG]

Its true I saw a celebrity this week picking up my child from school. Thank Gawd I brushed my hair and put my makeup on, I would have been so embarrassed. He was looking hard too. We gotta look good if not better than good every time we go out. I am working on this daily. Thanks SheRa

[@stanfatou2002]

Who you see

[@carlynewoodrow8494]

"What do you bring to the table?" Me: "I AM the table, honey" so what have you brought to me? I love this video!! Puts my 27 year old goals into perspective

[@firesign4297]

😀👍👍

[@spartanman5231]

HAHAHA im sure you are a Table

[@sdsusdsu2719]

Im 27 too😂 idk where I’d be without this advice !!😊 but I’m doing holistically now!!!!! Thanks to shera

[@shandrekashandkrafteddesig7668]

i can say this is working my husband is treating me like a more like woman once i started being more feminine n he is stepping up his game on financial issues i refrained from being the broke maid n now he's cooking ect. put yourself on the pedestal or nobody else will!!

[@DEBRAHWATERS]

Period!

[@maddipage1347]

WOW I always thought I was feminine as I always dress in skirts , dresses, heels, avoid drama, cook, clean basically all the outside traits. I never once considered that by being over-opinionated, not needing a man and volunteering to do manual labor was masculine. I thought those were traits that heightened my femininity. This was a wake up call, thank you!

[@manunascimxnto]

same! i've been 'feminine on the outside' since the final of the last year, so i thought that i already leveled up what i needed to level up, but watching this video i realised that i need to start being 'feminine on the inside' too!!! sometimes my personality traits are just too masculine, there are some traits that i know i need to change

[@jasthephysicist]

To me, feminine is basically "do less."

[@jamaica1765]

My mom is like you are describing. Never in sneakers or leggings. She dresses up to go th the market. My father was 20 years older than her and she was 22 when they started dating. She was his third and last wife.

[@tawanawilliams9618]

My father was25 years younger than my father.she said after her first high school dusty she learned quick.

[@ChocolateprincessMaya]

@@tawanawilliams9618 see..that's how it works..

[@luckyduckydaisyflower2344]

So they got to hang out with an old crappy diaper in their golden years. Dressing up to change diapers check

[@dominikaludwig7346]

@@luckyduckydaisyflower2344 this is what I wanted to say. That’s not a goal nor accomplishment, I would rather be by myself

[@ritasjourney]

​@@luckyduckydaisyflower2344you hire a helper for that.

[@IamKarryanne]

Someone in the chat said it's a full time job..It really is. 😥 But I love it.

[@fadi0965]

it will come naturally eventually. My biggest problem is not reacting in an anger manner and keep my composure. Never been meditating this much in my life😂😭

[@slaveobey1172]

Softfire 🗣 GIRL YOURE GORGEOUS

[@IamKarryanne]

@@slaveobey1172 Thank you girl...Appreciate you saying that 💜

[@spartanman5231]

being a crybaby is a full time job wow didn't know

[@Essene_Awakening]

the workplace is the perfect place to be over done because all of the women look like men and I get ALL of the attention😁

[@MegaBlueEyezz]

Nobody cares.

[@Essene_Awakening]

MegaBlueEyezz you think

[@ladycrystal3293]

So true!

[@deftones7732]

Narcissistic much?

[@lucretiaanders695]

You go ahead girl. I can agree with you that women have gotten very lazy with their appearance. Females don't even wear dresses no more, but I do.😊

[@Angelica-if7bm]

My sister is very masculine, and she’s my example of what I don’t want to be. She has a habit of putting 100% into a relationship while the man is only giving 50%.

[@RescueAlwaysOfficial]

🤣

[@4Dia12]

Dusties love them some leggings. Had me rolling 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@Oceanpurples]

stephaniedias11 yes them dusties

[@percyastronautstatus.8780]

They are see thru. Lol. And show off the shape. I'm a dusty in .....transition .. I'm TRANSITIONING into a dustfree lifestyle.

[@Melanie-le6mw]

Percy Sherrod 😃😃😃😻😻😻

[@percyastronautstatus.8780]

@@Melanie-le6mw u wearing leggings today???

[@victoriamartini1660]

My husband always says that I am the most feminine woman he has ever seen in every aspect I show feminity and it is very important to keep the passion and attraction alive. Thank you Ashera for giving so much helpful advices to women. Love you!

[@annissakapor]

Share with us some tips❤

[@_keytruth8287]

I agree with this one!! I definitely feel like sometimes I lose my femininity when there’s so much chaos going on!! I will take heed to this and just might go get my nails and feet done I’m we’ll overdue!!!

[@nappyscribe1987]

Keesh THEREALPODCAST I really hope you find a culture to do them other than the Asians, we give them soooo much money and they have very little respect for us as people! We need to stay out of their stores too. Look on the internet where they are actually fighting Black Women in nail salons stores and more. They’re being picketed and colored ‘omen trying to cross the picket lines to feel good about themselves. Thank you for that comment, as a result I’m going to comment.

[@tiffnym]

+Egypt Ra If you notice the women that end up getting assaulted are very masculine. Those women start yelling and acting aggressive then when they are met with that same aggression from the workers they like to pull the victim card. Full stop. You and I both know that if a black woman patronized a black nail salon and decided because she didn't like her nails that she was going to not pay and starts verbally abusing and/or attempting to assault the workers that they would be met with that same energy. No. If a service is performed that you dislike you request the manager, if that does not work just pay for the service, leave and dispute it with your bank or credit card company and NEVER patronize them again. Acting masculine gets you treated like a MAN. Too many black women are playing chess instead of playing checkers which is why collectively we are losing! Do you think Michelle Obama would be caught in a workers face because they gave her bad service NO!

[@SheRaSeven1]

true, Its not the Asians, its the Ratchets and the masculine women who need to learn how to dispute something with poise and dignity!

[@caseteamcouture8633]

Keesh THEREALPODCAST giiirrll absolutely

[@jadestone3]

LOL at dustys loving leggings!!! It's true! The type of dudes that are always wearing sweats and socks with their slides... NO GO

[@ginalienn1112]

There was this guy I talked to in college that told me he like women natural with no makeup and would always ask why I don’t dress like the common college chick (leggings, ripped jeans, crop top etc). It made me so mad at the time because I liked him but now I realize that he was a dusty lol

[@et5895]

You dodged a bullet girl! He's with a woman( if you can even call them women) that looks just like him now

[@tijeraslack3]

e t 😂😂😂

[@Melanie-le6mw]

Lmao

[@whatsupwithtorii]

today I was in line and this white guy behind me got misplaced because he was lost but a security guard put him back in his place behind me but since he had gotten misplaced 2 other girls who were simply rude and ratchet got upset about it. One of the girls said "Dam we goin to the same place.!" and the other was just laughing gasing her up. I was just looking forward listening like wow they're so immature. So then the guy complimented me on my hair and we had a really nice conversation before we parted ways. I just wanted to help break a stereotype by being as feminine and kind to him as possible. I hope he doesn't believe all black women are like that ..

[@kimberly0717]

T0rii W I like the fact that he had a conversation with you shows that he most likely viewed them as rude in general.

[@kimberly0717]

T0rii W 👍🏼 Good for him. It’s some levels you just don’t stoop to!!!

[@williamwharton7504]

I am so proud of you for representing yourself and your people in that way. We haven't had many classy representatives lately in public. I salute you! When a Black Woman is in her femininity that is so powerful. ;-)

[@aishaprince9050]

Yes omg gurl I had to do this too at the store I’m happy I’m not the only one

[@saraha9972]

👌🏾

[@JC-ut7xg]

Embarrassed to say that I needed this video. Thank you. I took plenty of notes.

[@puddintame5742]

Me2! A product of my environment! I know better now!

[@wavybump]

Honesty is a virtue...

[@Melanie-le6mw]

Me to! Don’t feel bad 😃

[@alexisjada17]

I naturally have a very soft, baby voice and people always made fun of me. But...Men always compliment me on it and some used to call me a siren. I went crazy when I read that Robert Greene book

[@morgank98]

What's that book about, what's the title?

[@kelsiejrhodes]

Art of seduction

[@CherrellMishelle]

Same here. People always are compelled to ask ‘Why do you talk like that’ or they want to mock me😒 I just use it to my advantage most times and it does work! 😂

[@lalili1358]

This means you can get away with saying more assertive things because of your very soft voice. My voice is a little deep so I have to use nicer words is annoying sometimes because it makes me feel too passive almost like a doormat.

[@kristiankayy_]

Me too omg people made fun of me too & yes I get compliments from men too!

[@Karenmariepombagira]

I had a friend who loves to dress like a little boy. She wear sneakers and polo shirts. The guys would always tell me they like how I dress compared to her. I finally ditched her because she was always acting like man. She was against me dating provider type men. She dated dusty men who she gave money to.

[@FromtheeyesofShaun]

With friends like you who needs enemies.... if your secure in your look and its really bomb you wouldnt have to play your friend... smh

[@dcaramelone]

@@FromtheeyesofShaun again you are missing the point. Her friend was trying to hold her back.

[@FromtheeyesofShaun]

@@dcaramelone AGAIN I WAS BORN WITH THE KEY SKILLS THAT EMBODY COMPREHENSION. If your older than 18 years nobody is holding you back. Your using them as a scape goat for your problems. And really that stems from you no matter what b/c YOU BROUGHT these friends into *your life*.... stop making excuses for being Phony & tacky. Real friends dont do this

[@JamesandHarry]

@@FromtheeyesofShaunw t h ? I’d get rid of all that type of friends

[@JoyDewitt]

Another level up must is leaving all your hating friends because they will hold you back. You're my new friend shera!! Tonight I went on date with a millionaire I met in my area. I live in a nice area. and I accidentally talked at the same time like kinda interrupting him... Ugh my old masculine ways lol I won't do it again now especially after this video!

[@sarabanks3312]

Been practicing being more Feminine daily. Working in corporate can be challenging but I made a major change because when you know better - you do better. Changed my look with dresses, heel, lashes, etc. & it works like a charm! Seeming helpless = men magnet. Use what you got ladies. Keep the truth coming & thank you!

[@carmensmith2457]

For those still having a hard time with not being masculine: Imagine this? You have a pretty female cousin that only dates pro ballers. She announces that she just got engaged and wants to invite you to a causal engagement party at HIS mansion. With excitement she tells you that even though the party will be casual she wants you to dress really cute because his wealthy pro athlete single friends will be at the party. Do you show up in leggings, Jordans, Uggs, etc? Or do you make an effort to look cute and classy? If your cousin gave you a $200 Nordstrom gift card for a new outfit what would you buy? Think about it carefully and whatever you would buy/wear to the party that should be you everyday causal look.

[@FromtheeyesofShaun]

A nike sweatsuit & some sneakers !

[@kyalucero7977]

No way am I always gonna be wearing a small light dress in fucking winter. We don’t all live in summery places you know. Seriously, her vids are good but the gender ones are pretty ridiculous.

[@carmensmith2457]

@@kyalucero7977 You can dress weather appropriate and classy at the same time. Classy clothes are available in all seasons including winter. No normal person would encourage wearing a light fabric dress in the winter time. That's why when you go the shopping mall you will see the clothing stores have outfits for the current season. They know that people aren't buying summer clothes in the winter and vice versa.

[@carmensmith2457]

@@FromtheeyesofShaun Well don't get madt when the stylish ladies get chose over you, LOL!

[@slaveobey1172]

Carmen Smith 🗣🗣 that’s a good scenario... I’m gonna apply that in my daily living 🗣🗣🗣

[@kjanellestyles]

Binge watching all of SheRa videos. Leveling up day by day. Women at my job hate me now. Women 10-15 years younger doll their eyes and stop speaking to me. It’s sad smh

[@jasthephysicist]

I attract women too but idk what that means. Younger ones like teens hang out with me a lot.

[@alexisimanii5417]

I have a playlist for getting dressed, lol. ‘Mascara’ by Jazmín Sullivan always puts me in a very feminine mood! Never forget that mascara, ladies

[@katherinemitchelljackson4664]

alexisimanii i cant wear mascara or lashes. I look better with out it. Is that ok?

[@Melanie-le6mw]

I love that song!

[@bbxo580]

Share the playlist sisss 👀

[@percyastronautstatus.8780]

I can see u now....getting dressed to that song, looking all sexy and shit.

[@Jetsetjessica]

The neighbor husband breaking his neck to look at you 😂😂😂. You are hilarious

[@tijeraslack3]

Billionairess W Current situation. 😂

[@Cute_Stuffs]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@margosepulveda5408]

I think ALOT of women aren't confident enough or don't have self esteem to dress to point of standing out and really being noticed. I'm not exactly sure why some of us don't want alot of attention.....except maybe being shy, lacking confidence, etc. I know my mother use to do this as was molested when younger, so didn't want men looking at her. Thanks for all your advice!

[@Blakmagic88]

Hello Margo, I understand this. Although praise God I was never abused, as a young girl I hated a lot of attention. I am naturally introverted and shy. I am also over 6 ft tall and slim with a decent face. I felt dressing more tomboyish warded off that kind of attention. I also felt that being “girly” was a weakness because of what I’ve observed in the world. I am 30 now and am learning that being feminine is not a weakness. I am naturally more feminine and am doing all I can to reclaim it and “level up”...

[@Theone-bm7gq]

Me too

[@onelove710]

True, I was raped and molested at a early age, too much attention makes me so nervous...but I still maintain myself..its a lifelong process.

[@jaylorraine5106]

Very true. I was the victim of sexual abuse and I try everything to not be noticed..I still get attention and I hate it. Gotta snap out of it.

[@vic21ld]

Everytime I dress up with dresses or skirts I get a lot of attention and sometimes it's scary, mostly at night time, I'm scared of being rape and that happens a lot. That's why I would never get drunk in first place, so nobody can take this like an advantage.

[@KimRope]

Being a masculine woman is definitely NOT a man repellant!! When I was like that I attracted a ton of feminine men 😩

[@CherrellMishelle]

You missed the point lol

[@KimRope]

Cherrell Mishelle that they’re not real men???! Hahahahahaaaa

[@CherrellMishelle]

Kim R Precisely! Feminine + Man= Disaster 😂

[@TeckJDrawings]

😂😂😂

[@FEMININELY_ME]

​@@CherrellMishelleShe totally missed it. Girl you will always attract men as a woman, even as a masculine one. BUT do take heed of the facd that you will attract 50/50 men, feminine men and overall men who don't want to step up to the plate. Men who are obsessed with what do you bring to the table.

[@nataliam5744]

Shera, I need to say "thank you". I'm making my first baby steps in acting feminine and I've already noticed a difference. Men seem to want to take care of me, treat me like someone more delicate and don't compete with me because they don't need to anymore. I've always been the know-it-all type and it's ultrahard for me not to but as previously said - doing it by baby steps makes it lots easier and feasible. LADIES, don't give up in shaping your new feminine ways, break it down into parts and milestones!

[@khyati7733]

I can relate to your comment so much. I definitely am the know it all type and ambitious af and its gonna be hard to change all that...taking baby steps at 20

[@teresadavis528]

Great video...as my father would say.."Dress like you are going somewhere".

[@et5895]

Always😍

[@ChichiMarie]

My fiancé is from the hood but he leveled up and is making 6 figures now after school, well he HATES when women wear Jordan’s or Converse. He buys me lace up sandals for when I wanna wear flats. He HATES women in sneakers unless they’re at the gym, and despises Jordan’s on women and he’s originally from the hood! 😂😂😂😩😩😩😩

[@jamilgotcher5456]

My daughter did run into a celebrity at the grocery store. Jack White. She wasn't dressed cute but thankfully she is very beautiful and young (a model) and he invited her to come to his show. Okay here's where it gets real stupid. She actually told him, she had to go to work. When I heard about this, I told her that she should have called in sick to her job. The only thing she walked away with was a photo of her and Jack. She could have married him because she was signed with the same agency as his ex wife.

[@carmensmith2457]

Regarding non-alcoholic cocktails try: 1.Cranberry juice, lime and club soda. 2.Tonic water with lemon, lime or cucumber. 3.Lemonade or Limeade with salt rim. 4.Ginger ale or Non alcoholic Ginger Beer with lime or bitters. An upscale bar will know how to make these type of drinks look sleek and elegant. They know many people don't drink for a variety or reasons.

[@tracydixon8405]

Thank you very much for this subject. In my personal life, I have found single parents and Public School Teachers who are single act very masculine. These positions of authority force women to take on the masculine role. You are on point with this subject.

[@Time77738]

I cracked up laughing when Shera said she hated every minute of the job. ♓️!

[@JoyDewitt]

Girl this talk was from me thank you so much for bringing up the leggings I snapped out of it ever since I've been dressing real classy I've had older men look at me and now I have a guy who's willing to buy a condo for me to live in for free. You are a blessing. Another funny I've been testing it out shera I bought a new wardrobe threw all of my teenager crop tops and all that crap and I've been dressing like a woman who goes to the White House. Restaurants I've been to before are now recognizing me as a new person and they think I'm a whole different person even though I've been there few times now they act like I'm brand new and they said I have waiters flirting with me and saying wow I didn't know you come here you look beautiful have a great day and giving me better service and free stuff nice and I went out all week long and everywhere I went people thought I was this new woman. So I guess I am now shera

[@genevawelch9865]

Bubble baths are my favorite thing to feel feminine 🛁🧼🌸

[@aprilhancy7277]

Thank you for being a much-needed role-model for women. We didn't all have strong, self-respecting women around us growing up and we need to know what being fierce is all about! Best to you and fam.

[@shante6855]

Great topic and information. Very necessary to know. My past environment had conditioned me to being a masculine woman. Now, I am aware of my unattractive actions and currently in process of bringing my inner woman to life. I use to respond so aggressively...ugh...but now? When I have an issue, I ask myself “What would Michelle Obama do?” 😂 Laugh at me if you want, but this puts me in perspective on who I want to be. I take mental notes from every classy lady that crosses my path.

[@aadesi6414]

Michelle Obama is feminine?

[@shante6855]

JI B ...I am not sure what your talking about but you seem to be passionate about something🤔 I love myself, hence my desire to transform from being aggressive to becoming soft in my approach to most situations. A real woman mentor? There are many, past and present. Michelle Obama is just one of the many ladies I appreciate, and she popped in my head at the time. Who do you suggest as a real woman? Instead of calling someone lost.....give advice. Ijs

[@nzingalou7556]

Ada Adesi Michelle Obama is a class act.

[@jstu8]

CocoaBean great idea. Excellent example to draw inspiration from. I’m going to use this also. Thanks.

[@looweeza2299]

Word! Even the wife of Mr Yeezy, isn't running around in yeezys. That should tell you something

[@baindub3669]

Allrican Belle she actually does wear them

[@tinasnow2006]

Nyanda Bundu once in a while. She’s always wearing heels

[@autumncullen7599]

Yea she do

[@youaremagick5935]

Thank you so much. I'm about to level up 💹 I'm only 22, so I'm glad I'm learning now

[@Brandiisbeloved]

Shera this video is one of the reasons why I left my part time job in retail. Too much drama and masculine female do workers. Now I have a receptionist job. I can dress really feminine and wear dresses and skirts and I can’t do that in retail with their uniforms. I feel so much happier. I don’t have to rush for breaks,bathroom, anything like I did in retail. I can truly rest in my feminine energy and it’s a receptionist job for the wildlife so I do get to work with animals which I do love. Your tips work

[@Trailblazers323]

Leggings are super low maintenance and we aren’t supposed to be wearing or looking like anything low maintenance.

[@chaseback5102]

Putting a star for the wardrobe advice. I always did my best to look pretty and put together when I left the house. My mom would get impatient and starting telling me “ just throw something on, no one is looking at you” I started doing that..... she was right.. no one ever did

[@carmensmith2457]

Regarding your voice, you can have a deep sultry voice and be feminine. It's equally important to use correct grammar and enunciation. Examples of feminine women with deep voices: Angela Bassett, Beyoncé and Gabrielle Union. Also when watching the news(yes you should know what's going on in your community and the world) pay attention to the women newscasters that also have deep voices. They had to learn how to control and train their voices in broadcasting school just as a professional signer/actor. It's not fake it's improving.

[@corsicanlulu]

yeah i think deep or sultry voices can be sexy is the package is also very feminine. if u have a deep voice and look and act masculine its not good. i think of angelina jolie, ava gardner had deep, sexy voices and were very seductive

[@Jetsetjessica]

Great advice. I have a deeper tone and feel its not sexy. I need to train my voice to be sultry. Thanks

[@carmensmith2457]

@@Jetsetjessica Vixens Mariah Carey, Toni Braxton and Sofia Vergara also have deep sultry speaking voices. Can't nobody say those women ain't sexy as hell, LOL. The juxtaposition of a deep voice with an alluring style will drive most men wild. Best wishes.

[@SR77736]

Yeah baby voices can be annoying. My voice is deeper/Sultry and men always compliment how I sound.

[@wavybump]

I knew a feminine woman with a raspy voice. Still think about her..

[@luisavieira2985]

choose classy over trashy! Get away from dusties!! :)

[@Cattitude369]

Changing the type of media (TV & music) I ingest has helped me make a big shift in my inner feminine journey.💕

[@kimberlyh5202]

I at one point I was toning down my looks because I didn’t want people to think that I thought I was better than them .. hmm 🤔 I don’t care no more

[@Katarina54]

Same🙄

[@MeenieAlf24]

You better shine 💎

[@anacristinamoura881]

Same 🙄

[@jeanjohnson1778]

Get rid of the leggings! Sooo true my mom has been telling me to do this since I recently graduated from college I'm glad I listened to her and Shera7! Thank you Shera!!!

[@browneyenrs76noel34]

yes! leggings are a "dusty" magnet lol

[@0024811]

I can't stand leggings, I only have 1 pair of black leggings.

[@browneyenrs76noel34]

@@0024811 they are comfortable to wear around the house. I especially like to wear them when I'm cleaning.

[@malcomvx3750]

Fact

[@LoveMinnie1102]

I’ve always wanted a Mentor... I’m so glad I found you. You are my online aunt and mentor. Thank you

[@nekeshahall7744]

If your gonna do leggings make sure we can’t see through the bottom! I’ve seen people in white leggings and it was a hot mess. 😵

[@IamKarryanne]

I saw a women out at dinner with her head tied...I felt sick to my stomach but I quickly got over the fact that it was her not me..I've been there, that's how I know. I am sure if she had this information she wouldn't have stepped out like that..

[@kourtneydouthard-becker1501]

LOL at "i felt sick to my stomach" how i feel everytime i see a woman in public with a scarf or a bonnet on LOL

[@Ang.143]

Seeing stuff like this actually makes me angry. I hate bonnets and headscarves with a passion! 😂

[@andream.3092]

I really needed to hear this. I am in the Navy and a police officer and I've felt that I might have some masculinity traits that I need to recondition.

[@Andreita9878]

Watching this the day before i turn 25😂 thank u❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@beautybyteal6422]

Andrea Negron perfect 👌🏾 timing...

[@firesign4297]

😊🎂😊

[@Melanie-le6mw]

Nice!

[@PacificNWGrl]

*Twin flames... throw it away with the leggings lol! *Don’t react - act!

[@jessicahitchens6926]

So funny...

[@stephanieleigh62]

Good Advise on Being Feminine and taking care of yourself. I had always said that if you love yourself and take care of yourself the man Will love and take of you.

[@SagRising19]

All true! You have more power being feminine, cute and classy. ❤️

[@venusveryown]

lmfaooooooo I am dead at "where you running to???" honestly, lol, that did it for me. I was having trouble while shopping the other day because I love the sporty look BUT now I get what you mean. Zara has beautiful feminine tops ladies! my only worry was that I didn't really have places to go with those clothes but I guess ill attract them when I level up.

[@vintage1987]

little libra I think the idea is to dress up everywhere you go just because. Don’t wait to be taken somewhere nice to dress up. Where those nice Zara blouses when you go shopping and running errands.

[@meganvictoria321]

The last time I wore ugg boots I ran into Kevin Love...they were so salty from the winter, I looked so crusty and I was SO embarrassed!!! Needless to say that's the last time I ever wore them!!!

[@lalili1358]

When the weather gets very cold what do you wear instead of ugg boots?

[@puddintame5742]

Clevelander?!

[@meganvictoria321]

Puddin Tame yes!

[@meganvictoria321]

lali li nice suede ones that lace up with fur coming out the top

[@JenBug23]

I discovered your channel yesterday and you got me rethinking my entire life. I do want to be more feminine and leveled up and everything but I need this weight to come off 😩

[@verigabs]

I got back on Facebook after 4 years and it’s littered with dusties

[@carlkpsplucky5554]

What is a dusty, I hear this word used a lot on these types of videos.

[@aminah761]

Instagram too

[@YesDaddyTDPop]

Don’t forget to wear your sexy open toe high heels ladies 😉💰

[@thebrownivory9670]

Deathtrap 400 someone has a foot fetish

[@YesDaddyTDPop]

The Brown Ivory 😊

[@mzfemininity9195]

Exactly, I've been wearing heels since I was 12, and I still don't own a pair of my own sneakers.

[@xeniastephenson8076]

I got only a gym sneakers n another in case i need to go on some field trip or park n thats it.

[@MsPrestige2009]

This woman is speaking the truth, props💰💰💰💰💰💸😎

[@m.austin9488]

Yeah get rid of that hairband

[@percyastronautstatus.8780]

I must admit. I'm a man and when she play that feminine role she can get whatever she want

[@user-qk7yy8xi3q]

This is the first time that I’m watching this vid, I have recently discovered that my Masculine energy is very pronounced, due to me having to take care of my own for most of my life, I am an outspoken person, self-sufficient, and I enjoy to have a good laugh, no matter in what situation I have been in, my attire is clean, stylish, and yes at times comfortable got to admit....Thank you Shera for the awesome content, I have truly learned a lot....😊

[@kristenmoonrise]

This has been so helpful. Many things I thought were indifferent I realized can be viewed as masculine. I'm donating my not-so-feminine clothing and replacing them with a variety of dresses. Gonna work on the shoes too. Thank you!!

[@kristenmoonrise]

@@maricelg777 🙌🏽 haha I have hardly any pants in my wardrobe now! 98% dresses 👗

[@lulue8942]

Lol nice to see you ladies here. I have seen your name at the Universe Guru, Class by Deb etc. We are running in the same level up circles. All the best! 🥰

[@kristenmoonrise]

@@lulue8942 yess! All the best to you too 😘

[@lulue8942]

@@kristenmoonrise Thank you! I will see you on Mina's next video haha. I usually watch replay. I have changed so much over the past year watching her. I saw your comment on Candice Oneida's video and really liked what you said about the sun will always rise again, and not to give up on our growth journey. 🤗🤗🤗

[@kristenmoonrise]

@@lulue8942 I remember that comment! 🤗 I'm so glad it had a positive effect. I'm so proud of us ladies taking this step in our lives..only good things can happen from here! Great, I'll see you on Mina's channel! 💓🥂

[@mzsherrypettye8095]

I've have been a tomboy all my life. It's hard to deprogram my train of thoughts when for years I had to only take care of myself and I am use to being alone. I do everything for myself!

[@pettypattytheprincess3784]

Take baby steps. Nothing happens overnight.

[@niamo8900]

I love the rawness and jewels you drop in your videos. The cute and straightforward "shade" you throw though. 💀💀💀Hollering!!! 😂😂😂

[@screentake01]

I am so grateful that you made this video because I didn't have good female role models growing up and then out of my identity confusion I was living as an FTM and dressing and speaking masculine....I was being somebody I really was not. Now I'm back to living as a woman and am embracing the Divine Feminine. It's been a very challenging journey and now I want to embrace being a feminine woman so thank you for sharing this information. I'm staying hopeful that I can improve my life. 🙏🏻

[@ritasjourney]

Update?

[@maggie2617]

I’m in college so I’m gonna keep my leggings for a little bit longer!

[@firesign4297]

😊...her information is like..."Break The Glass! In Case of an Emergency" !😊....so use it when you need too😁🙇😊

[@NoName-sp5dp]

Her advice are for college graduates so dont rush

[@percyastronautstatus.8780]

Those college guys love leggings. Enjoy them a lil while longer. Cutie..

[@keketsooarabilekomane884]

Shera honestly so grateful for you, I’m 20 and have been watching you for over a year now. I have a lot of masculine traits because of my mom and grandmother are not but they are both married so I thought I was good but I realized I don’t want the type of marriages or men that they have. I’m very pretty but always had an issue with men wanting to fight me because I’m very dominant. But everything that you said, is true, I used to reject the massage at first coz I’m very strong willed and I used to feel like I was rejecting myself. But I honestly want a functional family, and a provider man because I don’t see myself ever wanting to work in order to survive. I tell all my friends about you, so thank you for being my internet auntie, all the stuff you’ve been teaching me are finally clicking and I have a new out look on life and relationships.

[@brklyn2922]

Thanks for talking about this SheRa. We need to turn up the sexiness! When I see us walking around, we don't look it and I know we are sexy and classy. We are beautiful women!

[@princessleyla]

When I was growing up I used to watch my mother cater to the man that was molesting me. Even though she knew about it, she wouldn't leave him. Why? I can only assume it was because she couldn't speak English, because she didn't have a job, because of her complete and utter dependence upon this man to take care of her and her children. I swore I would never put myself in this position. I promised I would get an education and never rely on anyone for my well-being. Also, at the time, feminism was on the rise and I learned that being independent was the new sexy. That we could do whatever we wanted and that the sexes were equal. Well let me tell you that they lied to us! As soon as I started making more money than my husband my marriage went to shambles. I can't seem to get any further ahead in my male dominated chosen career. And now because of my personality, I can't seem to attract hot guys. I am also confused about my sexuality as well when I am attracted to women or feminine men or closeted gay men. I'm up to the point that even though I know I am capable of holding my own it is not fulfilling and it's so much better if someone else does it for me. It's so crazy that I just keep fighting against my nature. Now I watch you and listen to what you say with an open mind and you're like the mom I never had that was supposed to be teaching me these things. It all makes sense cuz whatever I'm doing is NOT working. So thank you! I am scared however that once I embrace my femininity I will forget how to take care of business should the shit hit the fan you know? Does that make sense? Like I need a back up plan because people are so unreliable!

[@SheRaSeven1]

it makes sense..... but there are many ways to get paid these days.... you don't have to work for people , you can work for self and start a business online, save , invest and still allow yourself to be feminine and let a man support you as well without him knowing your financial business or savings info....

[@anabanana5075]

Allowing a person to victimize you or your own child is very different from being feminine and viewing yourself as a prize men must earn. My heart aches for the pain and betrayal you have experienced. Keep working hard and putting yourself first. Just hide any direct ambition, competition, bossiness, etc - as guys are turned off by this. You will never actually LOSE these traits, though. It's like speaking another language or riding a bike. You can't be cared for and lose the ability to make life work for you.

[@princessleyla]

@@anabanana5075 thank you so much for your kind and wise words. I shall take them to heart!

[@iaf4454]

You should not tell your husband that you make more than him just to keep it to yourself

[@iaf4454]

​@@SheRaSeven1❤❤❤❤

[@didoufree]

Shera, this is such a amazing content. You're just doing a public service saving us all from dead end relationships.

[@oBUNo]

Well now I know why people can tell I'm a college student! I'll definitely be sure to update my wardrobe now that I'm finishing up school.

[@teresadavis528]

Speaking about not wearing leggings and Uggs...pajama pants. I see women wearing pajama pants and Uggs in public also a hot mess.

[@chaybreiannn]

I haven't worn leggings since I seen this video two years ago 😭 that's how hard that part hit me. And I used to wear them RELIGIOUSLY

[@maia3790]

I never felt pretty enough to wear makeup and now I’m 37 and I wear leggings and I’m over being comfortable being plain and invisible. I’m going to try because I want to be happy and I have a daughter and I want her to see me being confident and I want her to be confident

[@LiteRXCaramel]

Wow I needed this. Usually girls say I’m very feminine but when it come to a weak playing guy I get so aggressive. Ive noticed I’m either too feminine or aggressive so I’ve been trying to balance that out

[@lalili1358]

Might have to be more feminine or a weak playing guy might not be interested and not the right one for you.

[@tameekacasey4291]

She said, he ain’t even here! How is he gonna control something? 😂😂😂 he better control that job! 😂 love it!

[@commondenominator5385]

This woman is intelligent. Just 5 minutes of her speaking had me clicking on subscribe. I love smart people. Does anyone know what her education is?

[@lifeventures6651]

She used to be a mortician. I forgot about the other degree she talked about though.

[@lifeventures6651]

Something in science...

[@Livelovebless]

It didn’t even matter to me. She’s a goddess and a legend. Those types are gifted beyond formal education.

[@leekeene5889]

Growing up being too girly and feminine was seen as a weakness and made you at target for bullies. In also was raised by a masculine father and wanted to be like him. I have a very pretty face and am petite and curvy so boys still gave me lots of attention. But growing into a woman, I've FULLY embraced being softer and feminine. It came easy because my mother is and always was and dressed to kill just stepping out the house. I can understand some women being intimated by the attention by bitter, manly women. I stand out and get attention every where I go and if I wasn't secure in myself like i am, I'd buckle to the rudeness and unfriendly women. I'll never change, only get better. They better level up!

[@kbb649]

You're the only KZbinr that break things done raw and I love it 💖

[@Cookiescornertarot]

Lmao lady ❤️ thank you I truly love you for bringing me back to my senses. I’m that mom pushing a stroller with heels. 🤣😭😂 that’s who I’ve ALWAYS inspired to be your definitely the big sister I’ve always wanted. Lol my actual sister is older than you so I think it’s appropriate. I was the random child so my family is older and as a result I’ve learned to be feminine but they have old thinking. I truly appreciate you!

[@lalili1358]

It's usually the older the child that's more masculine, especially if the girl is the oldest child. The parents train her to become more masculine because they expect more since she's older.

[@whosthatgirlitstiff1861]

Wow, I can't beleive this video is from four years ago because thus stuff directly aligns with my mindset as of late. I've been through a lot of things in the past few years that chipped away at my femininity and I'm just now reaching a place mentally where I'm getting back to it. I've been working on myself and I'm getting better and better everyday and I'm so proud of myself😁 And proud of people like Shera for making this content because so many women need to hear it- urgently lol.

[@lucretiaanders695]

The truth of the matter is that alot of men have become feminine, but that's another topic for another day. The truth of the matter is that as a REAL WOMAN, you must exhibit both masculine & feminine characteristics at the APPROPRIATE times. Both men & women will see a woman as weak if she is overly feminine. You have to be able to be & BALANCE BOTH POLARITIES within your everyday dealings with people. That's how it really needs to go down.