DESTINY PAYTON | How to HEAL When Your Child's Father Puts You in JAIL | Dear Future Wifey Ep802

Healing from divorce is a long road, but it is possible. Laterras sits down with Destiny Payton and she opens up about her healing journey after a turbulent divorce, sharing her resilience through challenges like incarceration. Together, they explore past traumas and family history, revealing the profound impact on marriage choices. Discover Destiny's healing, her perspective on forgiveness, dealing with breakups and where she stands in her journey to love.
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[00:00:00] - Opening segment
[00:03:40] - What happened to Destiny Payton?
[00:09:02] - How did Destiny surrender to the jail system?
[00:15:48] - Using dialogue to avoid conflict
[00:19:42] - Dealing with past traumas and EMDR Therapy
[00:27:57] - How do current experiences bring up old trauma?
[00:29:55] - Timeline of Destiny’s past relationship
[00:36:32] - Unaddressed trauma
[00:41:35] - How does your childhood affect your energy?
[00:43:25] - The impact of the death of Destiny’s older brother on her life
[00:45:01] - Destiny’s experience with reality TV
[00:52:52] - Handling betrayal
[00:59:18] - Is your ex allowed to date?
[01:06:36] - A message for Destiny’s ex
Key Quote:
“God didn’t take the storm away, but he gave me peace” - Destiny Payton.
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[@Iamlonndanicole]

Married to hate is a real thing. It’s the worst trauma and then people don’t understand how you end up broken and just expect you to be over it.

[@Keith10]

Can't even imagine!

[@tamudefoe7115]

YUP...

[@donethmiller1963]

Trust mi

[@geneenmarbury8842]

Unfortunately it happens more often than people think. There is NOT safety in marriage for many women. That is one of the reasons I hate how the church (and other places) push marriage as the be all end all pinnacle we should all want to reach!!

[@888hereandnow]

Hugggs ❤ Psalm 139

[@jerlynnghee207]

Learning about her background is some insight about why she's so guarded. Thank you for opening up. It will help so many women! 🙏🏿

[@MsLady-gb3gy]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@cyd9043]

But you could see on the show Destiny and her husband didn’t like each other?

[@delorisejones9126]

Fact check y'all so gullible so quick no wonder y'all keep getting fooled

[@blkwomenrinthebuilding]

She ain't guarded. She's a liar. If she was so guarded she wouldn't be besties with Martel Holt

[@beverlysanders1462]

I agree! We judge behavior so quickly without taking time to assess that this behavior may be a result of some serious trauma. Interesting story. Wishing Destiny the best.

[@onlyonekiney]

My husband after 30 years together had me arrested for removing a camera that he put up to watch me when he was not home. The police tired to convince him not to proceed but he said “ I want her F!!! Ass arrested. That gave me the strength to end this relationship once and for all. We had children together and I was a stepmother. Ive healed and totally glad it’s almost over through the divorce process. Yeah winning.

[@iAm83raine]

Wow! I’m sorry that happened. God bless you on your healing journey.

[@onlyonekiney]

Thank you friend, my life is a cautionary tale, learn from me daughter! Stop, Look and Listen! Im wishing you all the best. @@iAm83raine

[@lmao6632]

@onlyonekiney What's the rest of the story? If you lived in the same house, how could you be arrested for removing a camera?

[@Keyshaw30]

Wow!!! That’s crazy!

[@mswilson1225]

Mine tried to have me arrested for reactivating the security system that he stopped paying for. He called the police and said the same thing. SMH. The police asked him to just chill til the divorce was over. He didn’t. But it turned out I got the house, the security system and all. So bye Ashy!

[@Viva__xo]

I went through that in my 1st marriage. He hated me bc I didn't become the person he was trying to mold me to be. He was bothered that I have self-will that he couldn't manipulate and dominate smh

[@bebebe1354]

Same. He tried to control me but I snapped out of it real quick. HE divorced me while I was pregnant and told the court the child wasn’t his. When it came to the DNA he didn’t want to do it, the court forced him and he was embarrassed.

[@latanyaclark2376]

I love that you prayed over her and her ex husband and their child. Prayer is powerful and a praying man is a blessed man!

[@rhondaharris528]

That prayer blessed me. I am new to this show and love every minute of it. Have subscribed right quick.

[@justbeingdee52]

AMEN

[@CassandraChaPaul]

DESTINY!!! How we wish we had gotten to KNOW YOU on LAMH! Your story is so powerful! So many layers!! We’d LOVE to see THIS version of you on anybody’s show. I pray you OVERCOME it ALL!

[@R0yALtyS]

Exactly if she woulda opened up she would still be on there!

[@jessicawilson7494]

I totally agree. It would have been nice to get to know her more but I do understand sometimes are hard to bring out...possible triggers and such

[@blkwomenrinthebuilding]

You wouldn't have seen it because she needed time to come up with this story

[@lifenfavor2013]

@@blkwomenrinthebuilding What?😮

[@glendaneblett8449]

​@@blkwomenrinthebuildingExactly she lying....again!!

[@jasminedavis6120]

Destiny is still very much in trauma healing. The way she is sitting is a coping skill to protect herself. That is a soothing technique to keep a person calm and regulated. Even her rubbing her arm at times shows that she is still going through her healing. I appreciate her showing up as the best version of herself and telling her story and showing us that all things can be healed.

[@ShellyMcleod-tk7xb]

Are you a therapist

[@ShellyMcleod-tk7xb]

A trauma therapist

[@jasminedavis6120]

@@ShellyMcleod-tk7xb nah just have worked in a clinical environment for yrs and sitting in sessions with kids as support. I’m refusing to go back to school for the actual license

[@p9782]

I agree with you re: the body language, trauma, pain etc., but it's likely that people who have been traumatized & neglected in many ways like Destiny has, cannot and do not have appropriate relationship boundaries, move in and through their shadow-side, due to instinctual need to survive and effort to self-preserve... inadvertently developed inappropriate, clever, manipulative, predatory survival skills. In essence, once victims have now become victimizer & the abuser. Destiny has lived most of her life in survival, PTSD mode. Many don't have the education & training and level of compassion required to facilitate a friendship with a person like Destiny because #1 she's not a child, she's a grown woman whose quite aware and conscious of her manipulative maneuvers, thus capable of understanding consequences. Destiny won't stop lying and manipulatiing until she receives the deep therapy required to surrogate and facilitate healing. The thuggery "personification" designed to protect her isn't working for her, neither will the victim personification (lies). *Only the truth sets us free* Come again Sister,

[@FOELORD]

FALSE! She is a LIAR!!!!

[@mostdefmodest]

a powerful statement that Destiny said which stood out to me was her saying "I prayed for God to stop the storms...God didn't take the storms away BUT He gave me peace" GLORY to GOD🙌🌷 46:34

[@Flowergirl2810]

God will cease some of those storms if she stops lying 🤥

[@lexxtalkaboutit]

​@@Flowergirl2810you under multiple comments saying she lying😑 stfu

[@datgurlstella]

@@Flowergirl2810😮

[@BeeAMac-jc8yp]

That part…I’ve been married, but not in a marriage… I am open to love and real marriage. I Believe God for her and everybody in this type of situation. IJN. Amen.🙏🏾

[@KaraBaheir]

@@seedofabraham0149your comments show you hate women but have the name seed of abraham. A disgusting disgrace.

[@monicabro0404]

We need to hear both sides and know why it happened?

[@belindawilliams8979]

Amen BeeAMac-jc8yp

[@mikkaa2220]

I'm at the 43 minute mark, in Costco fighting back tears because I soooooo identify with her masculine energy and why guys have told me all my life that I'm too hard. I didn't receive love from my mom, and both parents were in the home up until middle school. Thank you for this ❤

[@crystaledwards7146]

Married to someone that now seeks pleasure in your pain speaks volumes… This is something everyone should ponder when dealing with people known to seemingly seek pleasure in the pain of others they were in relationship/married to. Empathy is something that we all need to show others especially when we need compassion too.

[@Mr.Oct___]

This comment sounds foolish. This is a literal everyday occurrence in relationships. Particularly on the part of women. Where do u think the phrase "hell hath no fury...." came from. Women routinely utilize all kinds of mechanisms to "punish"/bring bout pain to their former mates. Utilize children, parents, who.ever to carry out their ends. What.makes thissl particular one-sided account unique?

[@janetday5431]

It's a weak man that would do this.he doesn't fear God. 😢it a true saying, "what goes around ,comes right back around.

[@blkwomenrinthebuilding]

She regurgitating what Mel said. She's trying to cause her ex pain because he saw thru her BS and divorced her. She's been trying to get back at him ever since!

[@blkwomenrinthebuilding]

​@@janetday5431Her ex wasn't a weak man. He was a man who saw thru her bullsh+t and wouldn't let her use him. She's been on her getback EVER SINCE!

[@p9782]

​right cause he didn't lay down and allow her to use him. Maybe he did abuse her physically I don't know, can't say that with 100% certainty, and if he did may he be exposed and pay restitution But I won't bet that he did cause there's zero consistency in her statements. I think she's exhausted from trying to stay 10 steps ahead, and up to her neck with trying to hold all her lies and manipulative strategies together. Its pay the piper time. r@@blkwomenrinthebuilding

[@closely-stitched4088]

"I won't have to be a THUG in my marriage"...that hit 😢❤

[@moniquewatkins9952]

That was their problem. Destiny thinks she’s the man with her big dyck energy and those are her words. She’s a lying phony who thought she was going to use her ex for his money. Her ex husband peeped game and left her.

[@DesCoop]

I understand why she protected herself so much on the show now . I wish her the best on her healing journey ❤

[@kimmcconnell5224]

Her ex was bitter, and no matter who started it, his heart was dark and hurting her because she was wise enough not to want to continue dealing with his actions. She was supposed to stay and deal with it. My ex stated those words to me.

[@lisabowman877]

My husband had grown comfortable with abuse and thought no matter what he did, I would just keep taking it. Restraining Order!!! He went too far. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@tattqueen1494]

He divorced her!

[@africanbeauty7]

@@tattqueen1494Exactly! People like to talk without any background information. He walked away from her

[@msjay025]

Child those court papers say otherwise.

[@overcomeriam6overcomer328]

​@@msjay025They sure do

[@sfreeman417]

I'm so happy to see Destiny. She seems less guarded and has a measure of peace. I'm so glad she told her story. It puts context to who she is. I've always like Destiny. I'm sure her telling her story was freeing. I'm going to pray for her. She'd been through so much. She touched me when she said she's "been married, but never in a marriage." I felt every bit of that. Wow... She put words to how I felt. I can relate.

[@maewhite7359]

Destiny is full of sugar honey and ice tea.if any of this was true she would’ve kept that check coming and spilled the coffee. Now she sees melody’s coins from the abuse, now all of a sudden she was abused. Deformation is gonna bite yo booty, while you running that mouth.

[@user-qx6ld5di8y]

How could she talked about it, the judge order her not to! 23:27

[@rcooper1033]

⁠@@user-qx6ld5di8yShe said on the reality show (her words). she’s been speaking on other channels.

[@Flowergirl2810]

@@user-qx6ld5di8y Rewatch this video and come back. She clearly said she couldn’t talk about it on the show! What kept her from telling her “truth” in all the other interviews she’s been in?! She lying!

[@sattasana7753]

​​@@maewhite7359 dam y'all melometers are a kill joy...y'all must really believe that the world revolves around her. What is it, trauma bond...please stop it. We all saw Destiny very guided about her reality on that show. To the point Carlos told her to open up a bit more. This not about Melody, just can't help yourselves 😊

[@shareenladd1048]

No judgement here at all, I promise. But we have to be so careful to not to ignore when God lets us know, don’t link up with that person. When we attach ourselves to people that didn’t have no business in the first place being in our lives, we write a chapter or chapters that wasn’t supposed to be in our life story. I hate sis had to go through that. It was all for her making. God doesn’t waste anything. But even in that, if It wasn’t in my original plan from God, I don’t wanna add anything or anyone to it! Not in 2024! If God don’t endorse them, do what the first 3 letters in “endorse” says…..END it!

[@cb4664]

PREACH!!! We have to stop being so hell bent and intent on being married above all! Its not a prize you win.

[@user-ns5hv5fy7z]

Preach!!! Recent breakup and I know he is wrong for me.

[@prosperpetuity7987]

Exactly because we got to start taking accountability as to why we even get into situations in the first place, no one puts a gun to your head to be with them, there's something unresolved with you to either ignore the red flags or you lack discernment!

[@rosalynasare5765]

Oh my God... I pray for her healing and healing of her family trauma 🙏 ❤️ 💓

[@rosalynasare5765]

She should write a book...

[@renee7113]

This woman exudes strength and seemingly has learned from her life. Many blessings!

[@phoebyoriedi9301]

Her story is a lesson in so many ways....bless her heart for moving forward

[@blkwomenrinthebuilding]

She hasn't moved forward. She is using her bestie Martel....handbook

[@rhondaharris528]

what's the other half? I think a lot of us are responding to her life story, what she has gone through with her family, mom and brother.

[@user-ql8ps6xn9g]

Yep

[@kathleengreen5535]

I'm in a divorce process for over 10 years now. Every year, something else comes up, I was sued for the house that I have a mortgage in my name, my house was vandalized, and I had to get a restraining order. This has caused my financial obligations to be ballooned, and the list goes on....But God!!

[@jamieedwards9352]

Gosh. 😢 I’m sorry you’re dealing with this.

[@jamieedwards9352]

Gosh. 😢 I’m sorry you’re dealing with this.

[@sharonreed2859]

Trust in God it's gone her better

[@monicabro0404]

Oh wow. He wanted you to put you through hell

[@shunjones5515]

Prayers for you🙏🏽

[@Divinebeauty15]

When she said he couldn’t protect her bc he was raised to protect someone else…. That hit HARD! Main reason me and my husband are separated

[@nicolepaige7239]

I had never heard of Destiny or her ex so I listened with unbiased ears. I have the utmost respect for Latteras and the moment he called her to pray and he further affirmed the prayer did IT for me. ❤ Keep doing God’s work, being a vessel, and staying human through spiritual grounding. You are loved and supported.

[@moniquewatkins9952]

Girl,don’t let her lying tail fool you. She is a horrible person.

[@bebebe1354]

Same

[@valeriebryson71]

My child's father had me put in jail after we were leaving the child support hearing in front of our son. I didn't know what was going on. I thank God for sending me the right public defender to fight with me. And all the charges were dropped and expunged.

[@beefaye6861]

OMG 😲....I no his face cracked

[@Actavella]

What could you possibly be charged with regarding child support! That’s crazy!

[@user-ql8ps6xn9g]

I'm afraid of the Law Enforcement officers and would have never called them because the children father was an officer

[@ShellyMcleod-tk7xb]

To God be the Glory

[@helenejohnson4295]

This all makes sense. When Destiny was on LAMH, I always believed that there had to be some hurt somewhere. I am glad you are now finding your peace in a more conducive space.

[@exquisb8974]

But continued to Hurt fellow females going through their traumatic experiences-but why????

[@lmao6632]

​@@exquisb8974She didn't do a damn thing to any of them chic's on that show.

[@mjones2619]

The scene with her and her ex on LAMH was telling enough he acted like he could care less about Destiny and very much controlling behaviors. She’s been thru a lot, continued blessings for Destiny

[@p9782]

I agree something was off with him, can't put my finger on it, I thought he was illiterate only to find out how educated he was. But I don't think for 1 second Destiny was as innocent as she demands people think of her in this interview. I see right through the verbal, rehearsed camouflage. Not being truly transparent will have ppl side-eyeing you everytime. Many women who are victims of abuse will come to her side and that's what she's hoping for. I don't consider being trumped financially and proper use of the law abuse. I think Laberrick used his resources be it finances or proper use of judicial system (which he had every right to do) to fortify and aid his court battles, and because she was broke busted and disgusted and possibly incompetant of law, does. NOT automatically infer he was evil and guilty of wrong doing because he used the truth and could afford an attorneys professional services. It looks like it's Destiny's "fork in the road" pay the piper moment. She simply hasn't done and refuses to do the internal work required to self reflect, own HER mistakes in friendship & marriage to gain victory & overcome her fiery trials of self introspection. NO MATTER the source of her fears i.e. abandonment, abuse, neglect; these have no respect of persons...these atrocities happen to the best and worse of us. The only way out for the best/worse is healing, therapy, blaming no one. Some breakthroughs require healing - healing requires the TRUTH and the truth is victims cannot be victorious if they remain victims!

[@arlenebentley4246]

Prayers goes to Destiny on her healing journey🙏

[@khanyimodiba2454]

Hearing her story makes so much sense! For instance, Melody not speaking to her after shooting LAMH probably triggered her abandonment issues and she wasn't able to communicate it properly. Poor girl, no wonder she's so guarded. Bless her

[@christinerobbins8808]

Yes!And she probably herself didn’t connect the trigger until she started her healing journey 😢

[@LadySHAMM]

After 20yrs!!! 🗣️ of marriage, I am now a single woman 2ys. 5mos.. but divorced finalized 03/2023. When the Lord allowed the breaking and the awakening the little girl woke up and a temper tantrum everyday smh BUT God!! The spirit of the Lord lifted up and standard for me and stopped the way of the enemy!!! 🙏🏾❣️ I thank the Lord for his divine protection 🙏🏾❣️ The embarrassment unbothered moments I can relate to her story, Thanks for sharing Destiny ❣️

[@therapybiz]

(EMDR) STANDS FOR EYE MOVEMENT DESENSITIZATION AND REPROCESSING. It’s used to treat( PTSD) POST TRAUMATIC SYRESS DISORDER. IT IS ALSO USED FOR OTHER AREAS OF CONCERN ALSO.

[@ashley35211x]

God bless Destiny. I've always felt like she’s been misunderstood because we didn't know her whole story. Hopefully, the drama with her ex can heal, and she can peacefully co parent.

[@sfreeman417]

I pray for healing for Destiny and resolve between her and her ex for the betterment of their son. Psalm 147:3- He heals the brokenhearted; He binds up their wounds. 2 Corithians 4:7-8 However, we have this treasure in earthen vessels, so that the power beyond what is normal may be God’s and not from us. We are hard-pressed in every way but not cramped beyond movement; we are perplexed, but not absolutely with no way out. Our Heavenly Father has definitely been with Destiny. He has his hand on her. I appreciate her saying God has not taken the problem away but has given her peace.

[@ProfessorBae08]

Amen!

[@RoseGold79]

I love her lightheartedness... I know she has a deep pain that she is working through and I pray for her success.

[@_SpeakLife_]

I liked Destiny on L&MH and always kinda felt that she was misunderstood. I appreciate her for being so vulnerable and continued prayers for healing and happiness🙏🏾

[@cljmcclain]

Me too!

[@lexxtalkaboutit]

Me too and I feel like viewers only started hating her because her and Mel fell out

[@l.randle4902]

@@lexxtalkaboutitexactly!!!! Mel did her wrong but Destiny paid the price!!!!

[@22danewb]

I like Destiny too! The fans have it out for her and I think that's wrong... hopefully she can get back on another show.

[@whitleywhitley2280]

​@22danewb no she got messy on the show because she had all this saga going on behind her own closed doors with this man, so she couldn't see that she should have never ever played on Martell side because just like her husband was causing her drama, so was another woman experiencing drama from her spouse...so females never know when to stop

[@adriennedeontesmith2020]

I’m praying for you Ms. Destiny, “May the Lord bless you and keep you. The Lord make his face to shine upon you and be gracious to you. The Lord lift up his countenance upon you and give you peace.” - Numbers 6:24-26 Amen 🙏🏾

[@sonyajohnson1220]

I stand in the gap for this family’s healing. Amen

[@valallen5853]

All I can say, is there two sides to every story, and I can’t make a judgment call without hearing the other side!

[@tymeoutwithty822]

Absolutely. Thats what I greatly respect about this podcast. He always leaves the door open for the other party to tell their side😊.

[@rocketowl1115]

I agree cause this is so heartbreaking!

[@joanhalley8215]

Its her story she told it , at some point you will hear his no one ask you to reply just read it as a good story. That is why so many women die

[@flossieberkins8229]

@@joanhalley8215how rude are you! Everyone has an opinion and no one is downplaying Destiny’s truth! Comments are made and all viewers will not have the same opinions!!!

[@zandreaturner6007]

​@@joanhalley8215Say it again.

[@pheoliasmith4325]

We gotta love our kids more than we hate the co-parent. I believe I heard that quote on your platform or just online in general and it’s the most important lesson I’ve learned!

[@stephanielcowart6867]

Continued prayers for Destiny. When she said "Don't do it" and Laterras says I'm not. I'm like well I am bc I definitely let the tears fall for yall. Destiny cried too bless her heart.

[@zandreaturner6007]

Me too!

[@GuidedGloryMinistries]

I pray that people will listen to Destiny’s story with an open mind/heart and not solely prejudge her based on LAMH. May her heart be completely restored in Christ Jesus 🙏🏾💕

[@imarimoneyqueen8537]

AMEN!❤😊

[@shanid9891]

In Jesus name! 🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@zandreaturner6007]

Thank you! It's Mel crew!!!!!!

[@Iamstylen]

Destiny has been hurt and she is showing it in her posture and words. I wish her healing so she can attract what she desires. ❤

[@sabrinawhite7185]

Good morning. This is such a sad story. My heart goes out to her and her child. Thank God she has faith. Just know God is right there with you while you are going through this storm. Continue to lean on God and he will carry you. Peace and Blessings!!! And this too shall pass!!!❤

[@cherylturner2291]

Destiny Payton, you are an aaaaaammmmaaaazing human being!!!! May God continue to bless you!!!!

[@MelissaWatts-in8mq]

You never know what a person has gone through and going through. I pray that the entire situation gets better all the way around.🙏🏽

[@sheilayoung8632]

This was a great interview. I have a new found like and respect for Ms. Destiny. Sending healing and positive energies her way

[@kimmcconnell5224]

I'm so happy she was able to speak out the truth. And yes, it is a slap in the face when you have children by the same man that had you arrested. He definitely sought pleasure in my pain. BUT GOD🙋🏾‍♀️

[@exquisb8974]

We all must rap what we sow * Right our wrongs * treat folks how we want to be treated * = hopefully she’ll stand in her truth 1 day =Ironically she wasn’t the only person going through THEE EXACT SAME THING 🤷🏼‍♀️-=But God

[@amg5967]

LATERRAS IS DOING THE WORK. HES CREATING ROOM NATURALLY FOR OTHER WOMEN TO FEEL LIKE WOMEN. I LOVE THIS. DESTINY IS DOING THE WORK ALSO. PROUD OF YOU BOTH. WHEN YOU FIND CONTENT IN JUST BEING YOU THEN YOU'LL BE ABLE TO GIVE YOUR DIARY TO YOUR WIFEY, LATERRAS. I LOVE THIS

[@nitamacke5890]

Allegedly, some of the stories Destiny is telling - she’s told before BUT with a different twist. Just saying.

[@chidinmaadaeze8189]

@@seedofabraham0149 Soooo, he placated women by inviting Derrick Jaxn and getting flack from women and losing coins???.... Smh

[@brilliantclasses8835]

“I being marry but not in a marriage” I love when she said this. I was raised by a man too so I relate to her. It’s important that we really take time for courtship and go through every step necessary to have healthy relationships. I am still working on it.😊

[@aliceharris9556]

When a person say they love you and turn on you that person has evil in their heart.You reap what you sow. Karma is real.

[@siadams9241]

I pray your total healing in every area even from what you don't know, and may God open your eyes to the king he has for you and your son ...🙏 Nothing but goodness ❤

[@RayRom1797]

Amen!

[@daniellemyers7493]

I have a family member that has gone thru still going thru this kind of situation. He wants to control the situation so he lies to get what he wants. Abusing the system, and the judge is buying it all. It’s crazy!

[@makeroomforfaith]

It’s amazing to me that she speaks of her ex husband and her truth yet still runs the streets with Martell who is just as bad if not worse!!!!

[@lisabowman877]

You’re a hater spreading lies and deceit. If you’re a Christian, you’re not very good at it!

[@Suga89]

This is the comment that I was looking for!!! I never understood how she as a woman can align herself with a man like him, knowing that he did a lot of the things, if not worst, to his ex-wife that her husband did to her. Alignment is everything, Destiny should be careful about who she is connected to in this season. She's been through enough already, but moving forward, she should disconnect herself from men like him.

[@exquisite921]

Destiny knows more than the public and she is not connected in anyway to the Holts marriage. She wasn’t married to them. I’m sure you know some not so perfect people too. Y’all hold folks to unrealistic standards and they don’t owe you anything.

[@lp9716]

Melody is still very friendly with Destiny's ex, so I guess same applies to her too? If what Destiny is saying is the truth, Mel should stay clear of him as well.

[@gbp7817]

There are two sides in marriage. Perhaps her ex should be invited on to tell his truth. I only know of her from Love and Marriage Huntsville. She was not very nice. Fighting and arguing with everyone except Martell. She did not represent herself the way she did on your podcast. People probably would have treated her better if this is a true representation of who she really is.

[@lindaadams444]

Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) therapy. I heard that this type of therapy will open up supressed trauma. Bless her heart. I pray she continue to push forward and ket God unfold all that he has in store for her.

[@Branay83]

I’m so happy the in studio interviews/conversations are back. I was finding it hard to connect to the large panels/events. Not sure why but the close one-on-one conversations just hit different. Great conversation with Destiny.

[@nathifablanchfield8925]

Praying for total healing for Destiny and thank you for keeping it LIT! Her testimony will help others realize they can speak up where she thought she couldn’t 🙏🏾. May God bless her and her son’s next chapter in life 🙏🏾❤️

[@melissacarver5013]

I have been watching this channel for about 6mths. This is the first time I am commenting. I have gone through a similar journey. My ex Fiance is in jail for kidnapping, false imprisonment, battery, family violence, and 2 other misdemeanors. My life has been turned upside down since this. I came home from the hospital and found you on KZbin and have been watching your channel ever since then. Since doing some work on myself I thought when a man from my past came to me that I was ready for a good man but then had a falling out with him because there were some things I didn’t like about him. During Destiny talking about her therapy she said something that made me realize that the reason I didn’t like those thing about the “good man” is that those 2 things reminded me so much of my child abuser. See I was assaulted and touched on the regular as a child and this man smelled like him and his body type was the same. Not until this episode had I even thought about it. Thank you for bringing her on and thank you for everything you do to help people heal from their pain and give people like myself faith that God has the right man out there for me. Just be patient and live life. God will bring him to me when it’s time. I feel that in my soul. But even if it never happens I will be okay as well. Thank you and God bless!

[@theanomaly731]

Destiny has given other interviews where she explained certain situations differently, which makes it hard to believe what she’s saying... there’s so many holes. I’m on the outside looking in and have no right to judge but it does seem as if this interview was strategically chosen. I empathize with her up bringing, no relationship with her mother, the loss of her brother, experiencing a failed marriage, etc. In order for her to genuinely heal and be truly happy she must also take accountability and be honest with herself. GOD is aware and knows all! Her and her son are in my prayers.

[@Joy_LaFaye]

WHAT U SAID!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@Kelli_Ess]

So true!!

[@MsSugarSweet]

I agree with you. Very strategic interview.

[@santelays2302]

Yea I’m a lil confused 😮

[@exquisb8974]

The timing = strategy‼️So what made her trauma any greater or truthful than the other lady still going through it after years of divorce just like HER! Everyone doesn’t Heal the same nor do they succeed the same‼️

[@tynesha3710]

This podcast introduces me to so much. I've never seen Love and Marriage Huntsville so I was lost in the beginning of this interview but it is always good to hear people's backstory. We gain emotional intelligence and sympathy when we learn from others. This was such a real conversation... Thank you!

[@GODSGIFTS76]

That healing journey definitely brings up those things we put in our dark box. Your story Sis...thank you for being transparent even though it's triggering you 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🤗

[@christinathurston7175]

God didn’t take the storm away but he gave me peace 🙌🏽🙏🏽❤️

[@monicag5571]

Many women have stories of trauma that want to be heard, understood and seen. I'm glad the DFW exists to share these stories. We are more connected than separated, I pray we can spread empathy and kindness. You never know who needs it.

[@emjayramosaea5150]

So good to be back on these youtube streets and catching up on so many great interviews. The learning curve continues on to 2024.

[@ndcfnusic]

Thank you SO VERY MUCH for being ministry BEYOND the hurt, the doubt, and the trauma. Thank you for speaking healing into the atmosphere and taking the position of being her covering right there and speaking the peace into the atmosphere for the sake of a young male who is witnessing all of this. I am in agreement with you Laterrus for healing over all persons parenting - because the children watch and learn. You can groom them in spiritual and mental health or you can doom them by perpetuating the trauma. Amen, amen, and AMEN it IS done!!

[@onlyonekiney]

Okay I dont believe this interview, I’m going through a divorce after 30 years, I know EXACTLY why we are divorcing ! No question. Maybe she is not being totally transparent because she is still going through it.

[@shantelmalveaux856]

This was a great watch. The interview allowed me to see her in a different light than how she was portrayed on the show. ❤

[@michelehilton4513]

Latteras,.... bless you heart for speaking to Destiny's ex in a positive way and having Destiny pray as well. A change is coming and will blow Destiny's mind. She said, you were Jesus but I loved how you said a believer in Jesus. He was in the midst and HIS transformation will take place. Buckle up Destiny! You are loved! 🎉❤🙏🏾

[@sabrina21clark]

It IS unfinished Destyni! I miss you on the show! I love Destyni. I get her! She's just real! I love her and understand her story and her struggle. She is a chosen one and has gone through so much because God has great things for her. I wish her love and all the best!

[@dawnjones6752]

This was an amazing interview laced with life lessons and the healing power of talking through your life traumas. I’m praying all things will work together for the good of this young woman and her family, to include her ex-husband. I pray his heart was convicted and he will walk in love towards the mother of his son. Thank you again DFW, I truly love and appreciate the topics covered and people willing to share their lives with us. May God continue to make His face shine upon you and your team, May He give you all His Peace! ❤

[@indiraherbals9597]

This was so needed. Such similar situations in my marriage. Thank you Destiny. Thank you Laterras.

[@sfreeman417]

Laterras, I appreciate you having her pray for her coparenting relationship, and you interjected with your prayer to help pull down strongholds in that particular area.

[@Taytimethursday]

Idk her and don’t know who she was married to but I’d love to hear his side of the story too because none of this make sense to me.

[@Flowergirl2810]

You are right in your assessment! She is a known liar!!

[@blkwomenrinthebuilding]

Your assessment is absolutely spot on. She is a huge liar and has told different versions of what she spoke here. One thing about a liar....they FORGET their lies.

[@Tisa-418]

I definitely want to hear his side now!!!

[@shirellediana]

She isn’t known as a liar, she didn’t tell her story on the show

[@Flowergirl2810]

@@shirellediana Actually she is! She did many, many interviews where she contradicted what she said in each interview. So yeah, she is a known liar! Pull the receipts!

[@tinawaltower1863]

Love seeing this side of her. Miss her on the show before the hardness took over, but I understand it now. Glad the host was not constantly laughing this time. He checked her accordingly when he was speaking to her ex. Love the moment of prayer and hope that Destiny stands in agreement and believes it can get better

[@bellasmom84]

She wants compassion for her abuse but supports her bff Martell who was even more abusive to his ex wife. The math isn’t mathing 🥴. Treat others how you want to be treated 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@rebeccag694]

This is so deep. Love you Destiny❤ I find this interview to be so relatable. God has kept you for a time such as this 🙏🏽Thank you for being vulnerable

[@nkenge2011]

This episode was very empowering. I am thankful for Ms. Paynton's transparency. I too was in the foster care system for a portion of my childhood after experiencing trauma in my home. Laterras-your prayer for a healthy coparenting relationship between Ms. Paynton and her son's father was much needed and powerful. ❤🙏

[@Develyn8528]

Thank you for praying over her and the family Laterras ❤🙏🏾. Amen.

[@daniellesanders870]

Good to see her on the podcast! Looking forward to watching.

[@dontilisha]

I’m praying for you, your son and your father. May God continue to bless and heal you❤️🙌🏽

[@teatalkwithyagyrl]

Story sounds compelling my only question for Destiny is if this is her story why is she helping another ex husband spew his hate by using his 4 children and the mistress?? I mean if I was treated this way by my ex husband I surely wouldn’t help another man spew his hate!

[@gailthurston4814]

Gurl, you better say it!!! My sentiments as well!!!🙏

[@Charityloves]

I was looking for this comment. Especially when she said “finding pleasure in my pain.” I also feel that to remove herself when he didn’t sell the house to her why not purchase another house since she was on her feet. I do believe their relationship may have been toxic but the smartest thing to do was separate and their son was baby when he did. I feel Destiny is like Martell her way or no way. I hope they come to a place of healing but I don’t see her being there.

[@blkwomenrinthebuilding]

FACTS!!!!

[@purposedpeoplepraying]

We through similar abuse. I didn’t realize I was past it until I could pray for him.

[@sscott504]

Destiny has a lot of healing to do...anger rest in her and it directs a lot of her decisions...most probably abandonment issues plague her...I can definitely relate to her

[@imarimoneyqueen8537]

I see her soft side it shows ❤.

[@exquisb8974]

Although I can’t relate to her specifics, I agree with you on this!

[@exquisb8974]

@@imarimoneyqueen8537 although I’m no t a fan of hers, you can see her softer side. If she ever decides to pull back the layers & walk in 100% self I’m pretty sure she’s 💯🎯

[@Mlboys40]

I am standing in agreement with your prayers for the family. This was a powerful interview that she will see and live the fruits of the works she is doing and continue to do!! 😍😍

[@michelehilton4513]

Destiny, your calm poise demeanor while being interviewed is amazing after all you've been through. Years from now you're gonna look back and truly thank God for your REBIRTH. Better days are truly ahead! 🎉❤️🙏🏾

[@izmane]

I just love the man that you are Laterras and your obedience to adhere to what God tells you to do. I believe in how God will be moving in both of these individual's lives.

[@dlb4129]

Aww Destiny!! This is so good for you! I’m so glad you got a chance to tell more of your story! 🙏🏿🙏🏿❤❤

[@Sumjolie7]

I am so happy I never judged her on the show. Happy healing sis❤

[@Niseo_Mck]

I am so glad she shared her side. Mad Respect for her. I can relate to her on many of levels.

[@bellacharise]

“Find yourself living a more peaceful life” it was not wasted. I have a feeling this touched a lot of souls.

[@jeanettadiamond137]

Laterras your pray for Destiny's ex-husband was heartfelt and awesome! Love your heart to have enough compassion to uplift and encourage her ex! God bless you and thank you for this amazing episode❤

[@Blessed75463]

Much deliverance and prayer is in order for Destiny🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@his1day]

This interview is so triggering 😢I’m living the reality of much of this now. To lay with a person, love them, plan a life and a child only for them to be your enemy all along! Especially when they feel like you haven’t “obeyed” them! God bless her!

[@lisajsnipes]

I'm praying for your peace, healing, release, and restoration in the name of Jesus!

[@his1day]

@@lisajsnipes thank you so much 😊 God bless you!

[@theheartofthematterwithmel4694]

Destiny sweetheart. I will not judge you another day. I will pray for you and love you for who you are. You’ve been to the pit of hell and back. I get you now. Thank you for opening up and letting us in. You didn’t have to do that. Be strong baby girl. ❤️

[@isaidwhatisaidsis]

Yes🙏🏽

[@Truu5StarLifeDriver]

I tapp'd in because I hadn't seen this in a while...the caption didn't draw me in; it made me sad HOWEVER had I known it was Destiny of L&MH I wouldn't have hesitated! I'm a watcher of that 'show' and the realest cast members and she is/was one of those. Now I'm tuned in 👁👁

[@samrawitgelebo6315]

Your guest is very STRONG!!! Thanks both of you....

[@aminamaple-bey1693]

This episode had me in tears 😢😢😢😢, thanks for sharing

[@user-xd9xx5kz8s]

This is a great interview and the most authentic I’ve seen Destiny. It was heartbreaking to hear about what she’s been through.

[@terri7717]

Destiny thank you for sharing your story. I am praying for you as you continue your healing journey. It took strength to come and speak your truth.

[@SamariaYvonne]

My God, this was too close to some of my life events. Im so grateful for grace and for covering.

[@MsJaye7]

This was a good interview. Sir you should definitely do a follow up so more can be shared. This will continue to heal so many living with trama.

[@susanakaan810]

A person that has ever loved you or truly loves you and has some fear of God will not want to harm or cause you pain (at least not intentionally) whether you are in a relationship with them or not. A person that does not have peace will not give you peace, so you protect yourself but at the same time recognize that they donot have the love of God and also they maybe dealing with deep issues and trauma, so you forgive them and move on, remembering that we played a role in choosing them. Great episode ♥️

[@Noratheskindoc]

This is so enlightening. Thank you.

[@latashafullard7248]

Thank you Destiny for being so open & sharing your story ❤ you have such a beautiful spirit

[@sarahmwase8050]

Dear Latteras and guests,thank you so much for sharing your stories because they have helped some of us face our d£mons/traumas and heal as well

[@tlwilliams-boucher6866]

That prayer was SUCH a blessing🙌🏾 That was a reminder to continue to pray and believe!!

[@chanelmitchell1632]

Very Dynamic Interview. I appreciate Destiny's transparency and vulnerability. ❤ You are so beautiful & strong, Destiny. I pray you receive the love you deserve.