Dharius Daniels REACTS to Judge Lynn Toler's "Never Hit A Man Where He's Weak"

[@HardlyInitiated]

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[@mariemuhammad7983]

People get better when they try to get better. Time doesn’t necessarily make them better. Growth is a conscious choice of holding yourself accountable to becoming the best version of you. ⚓️

[@tonia9455]

Yes!!!...Facts 💯

[@soritadejarnette6953]

I really love the way Dr. Daniels talk truth without insulting anyone..

[@PrettyPowerfulAndPersevering]

Same

[@GregNice-ss5nji]

Yes sir! Clean, detailed, appropriate

[@AVHarriott]

Emotional maturity

[@kieshaarielle]

Exactly! No one should be subject to mistreatment in a relationship, waiting for *TIME* hoping they would change.

[@gammaburks]

Stop normalizing profanity. My husband asked me early in our relationship what I could not tolerate. PROFANITY…He got it. 35 years no profanity and he didn’t allow other men to curse in front of me…My mom use to say “If your vocabulary is so limited, you need not speak to me”!!!

[@beautyyouniquelydivine2070]

@@gammaburks I so agree with you! There was a time society held the pastoral position in higher regard. I realize many have made unwise decisions that paint the position in an unfavorable light. However, there is a measure of honor and respect that it’s due.

[@makiebahatton2628]

👏🏾👏🏾

[@jeaninerichardson7179]

Darius & his beautiful Wife embody a wealth of wisdom. I respect the Anointing on their lives.

[@lgunt004]

How do you know he's married? I don't think I see a wedding ring.

[@mariemuhammad7983]

That part: For a relationship to work, it does not require perfection but it does require emotional maturity 🎉🎉💜💜⚓️self awareness plus self management 🚀

[@MHopper2]

I love how Pastor Daniels said he leaves the mental issues to the trained professionals. Many pastors step in the arena of mental, physical, or emotional abusive relationships trying to counsel what they have not been trained to counsel.

[@my_set_apart_life]

Exactly!

[@CassideLynn]

Now why y’all cussing in front of my pastor, lol

[@veronadugeon5701]

How you talk to a person and how you allow people to talk to you speaks volumes about your emotional intelligence. Relationships don’t break up themselves.

[@foxxfabul0us678]

Narcissistic people do NOT get better with time... They're too self-absorbed to see their errors.. Emotional maturity wasnt on the radar of my last partner.. Im good now🎉

[@TrulyUnbothered]

@@foxxfabul0us678 SOME* it’s important to know some can. If a person wants to they can.

[@saundrawakefield8216]

When Pastor Dharius speaks I listen 💯 he is a real one ❤

[@heatherro9989]

I concur, good brother. I strongly believe people get better if and when they try to get better; nothing to do with time necessarily. We teach people how to treat us by what we tolerate from them. Boundaries are necessary to preserve one’s sanity.

[@andream3079]

People only get better when they want to!!!

[@shannelnewton9236]

A boundary comes from my recognition, I cannot control what you do. I can control my response. Ok, say it. Boundary vs cutoff. Set boundaries to protect relationships. PD. Always comes straight with it. Bishop… my pastor.. 🙌🏾🔥🙏🏽👏🏾🙌🏾🔥🔥🙏🏽

[@shannelnewton9236]

My Pastor is cold blooded… tell us Bishop PD. Rewind. It’s an inaccurate assume,potion with time people get better. Emotional maturity is essential, self awareness and self management. Whew. Require the person to set boundaries as also you should. We all have weaknesses. Relational skills and relational intelligence. Facts… PD.. 👏🏾🙌🏾🔥🙏🏽

[@LNewmanMFT]

Everything is relational! It’s either how we see ourselves (internal) or what we believe others’s perceptions are about us (external). Either way, it’s relational…

[@Kim-427]

He took her comment out of context.She was saying you shouldn’t use his secrets against him.

[@patrickwilliams8120]

I'm glad I continue to listen cuz I thought he was about to say something stupid but what he said about maturity is what made me give him a chance.

[@Fire1229Ministries]

Love requires vulnerability.

[@Lovedis4]

❤❤❤❤ this man is speaking. I just cut off a pursuit where he’d try and gas light my feelings and thoughts. When I’d speak up, he’d just wait a while and then try to do things he thought I’d like. 16 years older and, he’s been married twice to my none with my three children. You truly do teach people how to treat you.

[@tretre4u72]

This dude is the biz!!

[@leahanderson30]

Always i have his book that’s called relational intelligence

[@tiabanks5585]

Ty its disrespectful to cuss in front of the man of god, well any guest, not necessary. No shade just a respect issue.

[@ljones269]

💯 cringe 😬

[@Queenme1-t3q]

I could barely hear what he was saying i was so thrown off.

[@tretre4u72]

Totally agree.. read the Room! Duh

[@faishastaples-neal4114]

Thank you! No respect!!

[@Arnissajohnson]

@tiabanks5585 I agree 100 percent. Even if the Man of God gave you grace without judgement, still reverence the position he is called to.

[@Misserica2u]

I agree 100% my past relationships was that and I did not stay to see the rolling credits

[@Queenme1-t3q]

A person may not share their feelings even with a partner who is safe, has never yelled or judged them. They may actually trust you and STILL don’t share their feelings. You can be trust WORTHY, you may have EARNED their trust but that still doesn’t mean they will give you trust and open up. This requires them to WANT to change & figure out why they don’t communicate with you. It’s a THEM problem, that BEING kind, open & loving still won’t fix.

[@IloveCam23]

Agreed time is not always the best option to give a partner that is not willing to fix the dysfunction they are subjecting a partner to emotional intelligence is A MUST setting boundaries is A MUST

[@dibzr8281]

very good, wise, sound beautifully articulated advice. Thanks.

[@MACKTV82KINGS]

This man is spitting!!!!

[@ninath13]

Time makes a difference they usually get worst especially when they think nothing's wrong with them its everybody else no accountability and self-awareness

[@womanoffaith1266]

I was thinking the same thing about the s bomb. Pick a side. When Pastor Kevin was on the show and both Tiphani's, teaching on deliverance, there was no s bomb. Why now. Pick a face

[@empowerusnow]

Many comments point to the cursing and disrespect to pastor, but what about the offense to a Holy God? Ironically, this EXACT convo points to change with time VS. change with work. As the brothers grow in their faith, they should desire less and less to offend God by cursing (a) because they have a platform (b) because, well "fruit". Also, the guests (who are Remnant) respectfully need to set boundaries with the hosts, and equally, it becomes an opportunity to minister The Truth in love to men who are growing in faith. I pray for the success of this podcast, and with it, the continued growth of Ty and Ryan (as well as the courage of current and future hosts to hold up the standard of holiness). This is not out of a sense of self-righteousness. Please receive it in love. God bless you ALL. 🙏🏾

[@Queenme1-t3q]

People get better IF they WANT to get better and for who they want get to better for. If you don’t REQUIRE them to get better they will get worse.

[@mauricecrowell5650]

They got the O.G!!! Don't play with that man lol

[@leahanderson30]

Right

[@KFontLab]

A very common sense concept, but so many still don’t get it. A person grows when they choose to do the work. No one is perfect, but there is a difference in “I had a bad days and didn’t handle that properly” vs. “ This happens all the time and/or very often”.

[@rpcrealpeopleconsulting6324]

The skill set is knowing right from wrong.... Is knowing mistreating someone is wrong and you can't talk to people any kind of way that's the skill set knowing right from wrong.

[@shondajohnson4218]

Great word and advice ❤

[@spillittothecook5210]

Dr. Daniels!!!!! Please let him know!!!!!!! Oh my God!! I thank you for this!!! My dude!!!!!🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💯💯💯💯💯💯🤌🏾🤌🏾🤌🏾🤌🏾🤌🏾

[@Howard-i]

I'm retired at 47, went from Grace to Grace. This video here reminds me of my transformation from a nobody to good home, honest wife and 35k biweekly and a good daughter full of love ❤️

[@AlexCarry-t3t]

Hello, how do you make such a weekly?? I'm a born Christian, and sometimes I feel so down of myself because of low finance, but I still believe in God.

[@Howard-i]

I thank Laura Lee Fair who has always been there to help me with detailed analysis and recommendations that would not have had access to otherwise.

[@VaniasSum]

YES! That's exactly her name (Laura Lee Fair) I watched her interview on CNN News and so many people recommended highly about her and her trading skills.❤️

[@RobertLehnasch]

What baffles me is how she keeps up with one's dashboard progress every week, having in mind that there are quite a number of folks under her guidance

[@GerrardBustamente]

Great, I just Googled her info, and everything about her is pretty great and awesome.

[@cpittman1527]

Spkkkkkk Pastor! Just spkkkkkk! If I don't set boundaries, I am accepting and normalizing unhealthy emotional disfunction. This is gud for ALL relationship dynamics. Dating, friends and family relational spaces. BIG Blessings

[@stephdee3811]

Side note: ain't no way as a Christian, in my presence dude would've been cursing like that....... Usually people say "cuse me, my bad", without me ever saying anything.......🙄

[@christabelosei-arthur8295]

Profanity is so unclean

[@Queenme1-t3q]

It was inappropriate and didn’t even fit the episode. Not to mention the guest is a PASTOR! Crazy

[@veen0610]

That's not hard to believe that a best friend knows someone better than their friend. Best friends are usually around before the spouse

[@pamelajefferson910]

This is true. My ex-husband bestie, who was a woman, knew him, and he shared more with her than me

[@2womuchme]

Most of us have not matured enough to entertain a relationship. Effective communication and emotional intelligence is necessary for growth in a relationship and without it will create obstacles you were never qualified to find.

[@queensborolarose4997]

Always know your audience. Dr. Dharius is a man of God. I’m sure he doesn’t judge, however, Proverbs says “Whoso keepeth his mouth and his tongue keepeth his soul from troubles”. I couldn’t watch this segment without cringing.

[@nedraford5461]

I totally agree, PD

[@PrayerOfPraise]

The way they curse in front of Pastors is disrespectful to me. No matter your age you should show respect. I like them though but that’s just a lack of respect in my opinion.

[@FirestarterJess]

PD!!! 🗣️❤

[@IamTierraWoods]

1:15 come on brother!!!!

[@dgbdreamgrindbelievesports4351]

A lot of people are dating witches unaware!! Please bring this up as a topic

[@godlike3368]

@dgbdreamgrindbelievesports4351 Witches that hide behind sheeps clothing, hideout in Church,love to cherry pick from the Bible & get on social media & have the ppl fooled so diabolical.

[@MHopper2]

1 x 1 = 1!!!

[@sherrynelson365]

Yes amen 2 whole’s coming together

[@nicolebingham821]

1:45 Whoowhew!! You talking!

[@go2yourself]

Well said...❤👍🏾🎯

[@tammybrown737]

PD… they need to read Relational Intelligence…the maturity is lacking to have conversation face to face with a man of God and openly curse.. comfortably says a lot …. Claim strong leadership but poor example is not funny just shows where growth is needed.

[@LRNJ-43]

Is that right or wrong? It depends...excellent answer PD!!!

[@thestreetswannaknow]

Cut that toxic relationship out

[@tonia9455]

Word!

[@melissawiley3688]

Love this ❤❤🎉🎉

[@gardenofozrecords7649]

12:56 😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨

[@__rachel___]

okay quit cussin in front of Pastor +don’t get THAT comfortable, even if it IS your workspace

[@doristhecoder765]

I love my pastor. I am not sure he invested his energy well on these guys but, we'll see.

[@url0veang3l]

Is this the Pastor of Change Church?

[@itsSAmone]

Yes Dr. Dharius Daniels is the pastor of Change Church

[@url0veang3l]

@itsSAmone I'll have to check out his interview. I've heard nothing but positive things about him.

[@ese789]

Dr. Daniels dropping knowledge in layers that this needs to be repeated to understand completely.

[@charlesettawright4080]

Wow dude dropping F bombs like that but I fault the Pastors that subject themselves to that kind of disrespect

[@kay3-q8d]

Love the sentence this video ended on🤣👏 I feel that in my marriage. Especially he is Catholic im Protestant all the way I’ll get in trouble if I say too much.

[@leahanderson30]

How he using profanity on here in front of the Pastor, that’s disrespectful

[@leahanderson30]

I didn’t know Pastor Dharius has been on this show

[@ostinigisa472]

Could you guys pls post that episode on Apple Podcasts????

[@msh5597]

Best interview best man speaking don’t have Jamal Bryant on there again bring him back

[@sherrynelson365]

I agree

[@rhondalassiter]

TEACH DOC!!!!!!!!!!!

[@christiewilliams1704]

If he talks to you crazy, it's time to bounce.

[@timeschangeoldschoolmomma4655]

@@christiewilliams1704 and roll 😃

[@Happey67]

Ty, Pastor Daniel is a minister, why are you using the S--T word. Come on have some respect. Christ.

[@ljones269]

❤I was thinking the same, it was hard to watch due to language, I know dr.D was like these negros need deliverance 😅

[@faithlcockrell2332]

Right, I’ve never heard him use curse words before… where’s the self control and respect

[@Queenme1-t3q]

Exactly!

[@tretre4u72]

Exactly! Read the room! Duh!

[@ToshaLove1]

While I agree that he shouldn't be cursing in front of a pastor, there's some context missing. This is a clip from an old interview. At the time this was done, HI was FAR from a Christian platform. The Pastor knew (or should have known) what type of platform he was agreeing to come on. That said, the amount of growth I've seen in both Ty and Ryan has been amazing to witness.

[@cjohnson3104]

🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@TheDarkHero82]

Facts

[@Towanda-xq2xg]

Nope, if you can't say something nice, get yourself together, step back, don't say nothing at all, so you don't say something you can take back, you definitely have a point regarding managing your behavior and actions! 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯 Not nice, not respectful or kind. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@queensbloomabundantly]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@eduaquatics]

Instead of setting "boundaries " how bout folks start operating out of principals 💭.. those are taught in your youth and taking into your adulthood.

[@Kim-427]

But,That walking away is a negative response. That’s going to be met with another negative response.

[@Dove_103]

I STRONGLY BELIEVE A LOT OF PEOPLE MARRY OR HAVE CHILDREN WITH WRONG PERSONS. I BELIEVE THEY ARE CERTAIN TRIBES WE ARE LINKED TO BY GOD AND WE ARE TO MARRY IN THOSE TRIBES (12 TRIBES GENERAL BLESSINGS OR CURSES DEUT 28:1-68. I BELIEVE WE SHOULD GET BEFORE GOD AND ASK HIM WHO IS YOUR PARTNER)I ALSO BELIEVE, WHEN ALOT OF PEOPLE MISS OUT OF GENERATIONAL BLESSINGS BECAUSE THEY DON’T HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD. Then the Lord God made a woman from the RIB he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. And Adam said, “This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.” (Genesis 2:22-23)

[@MsG73]

I mean just kept on swearing. ugghhh. That's disrespectful. Did you not know he's an awesome man of God?

[@rpcrealpeopleconsulting6324]

No he did not say he got his own side chicks that's a very unhealthy thought.

[@jesuscaberea3202]

This is hilarious, 90% of the comments are from the women, But 0% of the accountability comes from them. You can't make this sht up 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@tonia9455]

Do your work!...Heal and get better.

[@lmoody2825]

🤯🤯🤯

[@makiebahatton2628]

Tysean wassup on the cursing and foul language my brother? Use your actual words... curse words aren't Biblical and they're a poor substitute for effective communication. Isn't clear and effective communication 90% or more of your topics on Hardly Initiated?