Diagnosing a Patient in a Polyamorous Relationship | New Amsterdam | MD TV

[@cheetavontiebolt9971]

I like the way the doctors are being non judgmental and professional

[@ladyweasellou3367]

They shouldn't treat the ex like that. That's incredibly unfair. They are being cruel and shouldn't be like that, she cares and acts far more fairly to them when she could have had every one of them kicked out but let them in on it all.

[@mar-k7104]

All thee of his new partners are jerks for treating his ex like that. Sorry she didn’t want her husband dedicating his time and energy and sex into multiple other people after he married her in a monogamous marriage. She had no obligation to stay with him after he expressed that and they can die mad about it

[@mladywolf]

True but she is allowed to get upset about sharing him when she thought they weren't like that. She might have needed time to understand and come to terms with it. It would be interesting to know what happened next with them. While the Wife couldn't share herself with others, she could see them as friends in time.

[@mar-k7104]

@@mladywolf there’s not much coming to term with the fact that your HUSBAND seemingly out of the blue wants to see other people. She did not stay with him because that wasn’t a feasible relationship for her and she is not in the wrong for anything, and his new partners are assholes for treating her like she is

[@Luna_moon_1127]

RIGHT!!!! Finally

[@EnitVal]

It sounded like he came out as bi and she didn't like that. Not sure they said he came out as poly to her first.

[@mar-k7104]

@@EnitVal no that was the implication. Nothing at all was said about him being bisexual; she never said anything and they never said that was the issue that split them up. She explicitly says she doesn’t understand polyamory but says nothing about bisexuality. Basically she broke up with him bc she didn’t want him to see other people at the same time as her which is 100% rational

[@ladyweasellou3367]

The look on the Doctor's Face... 😂😂😂😂😂

[@lindahamilton800]

There's a lot to be said for each side of the debate. But having been in a tri, I gotta say it's complicated enough with just a duet. Adding more people to the dynamic doesn't make it easier or better.

[@captainpoppleton]

One woman is more than enough trouble.

[@sainttan]

Well, depending on the harmony that some of the Polys can achieve depending on synergy between each other... which is rare to achieve.

[@Mrsjengood11]

Maybe I’m wrong but I think very few people have the emotional intelligence and capacity to be successful in a relationship with one person let alone 3 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@LilyGrace95]

I have a couple of friends in polycules, and this patient's partners act more like they're in a cult than a relationship... It's kind of creepy. Like, don't get me wrong, mine and my partner's love language is touch too, and I'd really struggle without him. But the way they cling to each other in every scene, stand as one, move as one... It's a little unnatural. Not to mention the way they treat his "ex"....

[@francine4651]

Omg hilarious 😂 miles a busy man 😂😂

[@AmberPatterson-x7v]

That's a hard "NO" from me. My husband and i have been together 18 years, married 16, and there is no way on earth. Im not judging. We have a family friend that's in a poly relationship. She is a lovely person, and her first partner is fabulous. Dont know her other partner. Watching her and her partner, its a difficult relationship, and particularly difficult at times.

[@Sniperboy5551]

It just ends up throwing more wrenches into the works. I know a girl I went to high school with who’s in a polyamorous relationship with a married couple… it’s pretty obvious that she’s just the third wheel they like to have fun with. If that works for her, good, but I’m sure she wants more than that and is in denial.

[@sjc4]

this made my skin crawl, i can't explain why

[@meggrotte4760]

You know when you start getting into issues like this counseling is helpful. Just because people want something doesn't make it right

[@joyhahn2572]

have you ever herd of ANY scociety that does polyamory, its a lot more common than you think

[@meggrotte4760]

@@joyhahn2572 , Actually yes I have. It's usually tribes and other countries Doesn't mean it's right

[@joyhahn2572]

it happens all the time in nature too, look up polyamory in nature and you will see what I mean, same with homosexuality too @@meggrotte4760

[@Mimickolas]

what exactly isn't right about polyamory? if you mention god or the bible you lose

[@meggrotte4760]

I'm not generalizing anything.. We can study society and see that polygamy doesn't work. There's a sect of mormonism where they have polygamy it's a nightmare That's what's wrong with today's society When you take family and marriage and relationships, and you try to redefine them and have fit into a context that doesn't work. You get the destruction of society.

[@scottw6704]

I used to look down with disdain at these kinds of relationships until I realized that in some cases, polyamory is kind of like...an adult family, in a way. Some might call it a commune (or Borg collective lol). It works for some people.

[@marissafranklin3281]

I’m poly and I feel like the way they handled this episode could’ve been way better.

[@pokepersie]

as someone who was in a poly relationship for 3ish years. don’t do it 🤩

[@subgrv27]

Complicated?

[@A-Smartass-that-people-love]

Agreed. Biggest issues: Knowing who your medical proxy is and sharing a single bathroom.

[@asia8001]

It sounds good in theory but no lol to much going on for me. Plus I see many of these couples end up having favorites. Sister wives for example 😂😂

[@just-tess]

0:50 "girlfriend brought him in"? took like 5 rewinds but pretty sure that's it?

[@safiremorningstar]

Can somebody tell me how this ended?

[@notoriousbroadcasts2367]

I am in a multi dynamic relationship with a husband, who is monogamous to me, and a current boyfriend who is also; I previously had a partner that was polyamorous and had two other girlfriends. From personal experience I can say that so much of what they portrayed here is unhealthy; all parties in the dynamic need to be consenting, honest and respectful of each other's needs and the needs of the other partners, or it just doesn't work for anyone. 😅❤++

[@Sniperboy5551]

It always ends up being a political game in the end. Everyone competing with each other. I don’t care how open and consenting y’all are with each other, you all have your own selfish motives at heart. We all do, it’s human.

[@notoriousbroadcasts2367]

@@Sniperboy5551Ok.

[@kaeldare]

​@@Sniperboy5551I'm in a polyamorous relationship. I am the hinge of a V. My partners are best friends and love each other and they love me. It's not a competition. We've been together for 13 years and 8 years. I love them both deeply. It's no more selfish than any other relationship.

[@snowkitty1914]

Crazy how simple the solution is to everyone else's close minded made up problems for this type of relationship

[@ameliaflynnhayes]

That is one weird relationship I would ever see in a hospital. But I wouldn’t like sharing my special someone

[@dontmindme.imjustafraidofe9327]

Call me old-school, but IMO romantic relationships are reserved for two people _only._ I could never be in an open relationship because that would be cheating. To me, that’s not valid. This just seems off.

[@--julian_]

this isn't open but polygamus

[@Sniperboy5551]

@--julian_ The two terms are basically interchangeable.

[@WhoCaresHo]

Feel how you want to feel but just like you can make that choice for yourself they can make a different choice for theirselves and *surprise* it doesn’t affect your life at all! As long as everybody is a consenting adult it is nobody else’s concern 🥴

[@dontmindme.imjustafraidofe9327]

@@WhoCaresHo That’s your opinion and you’re entitled to it, I’ll give you that. And you’re right, it doesn’t affect my life at all. But honestly, I don’t think I could associate with people who do this. It bothers me. Period. There’s really nothing more I can say about that. My opinion may be wrong, close-minded, possibly even judgmental, but it is still just that: an opinion. Eh.

[@WhoCaresHo]

@@dontmindme.imjustafraidofe9327 no what I said is FACT. It doesn’t affect your life and as long as they are all consenting adults it’s legal. My opinion is that it bothers me when entitled people think that their way of thinking, no matter how dated it is, is the only way of thinking and that everybody should be held to their standards and I’ll never understand that. I am pro choice, not because I would ever have an abortion but because I don’t impose my beliefs on others! People can make their own choices and I don’t have to agree but I MIND MY BUSINESS! I bet you do that others don't agree with and I bet you would have a fit if someone came into your house and passing judgement… I am a vegan and I don't go out and condemn people that eat meat…even silently in my head! It takes up too much energy to be worried about what others do and, to be frank, it’s gives a boomers “self righteous” energy and that needs to die off asap! Please don’t bring it in to this next generation… because what I find is the ones that judge the hardest are usually the ones hiding something 🤫

[@cheetavontiebolt9971]

Polyamourous people do what they do in an ethical way

[@theresemartin7930]

there is nothing ethical about polyamory.NOTHING.

[@thatonegaybitch1811]

@@theresemartin7930I’m polyamorous. as long as everyone consents there’s nothing wrong with it. maybe stop being so worried about other people’s choices that don’t affect you personally.

[@DravenGal]

@@theresemartin7930 Baloney. You have no right to pass judgement on someone just because they choose to live a different lifestyle and make different choices than you. Many cultures throughout history have practiced polyamory-some still do, and they do just fine. Just because your culture is brought up to believe one way, doesn't make it the ONLY true way. What matters is someone lives the life that makes them the best person they can be, the most caring and compassionate, the most willing to learn, grow and teach others to help them grow, and to connect in a positive way with others. And being sanctimonious is NOT a positive way. We're all different people, each with a different path. So while it may not work for you, it doesn't mean it doesn't work.

[@theresemartin7930]

I do have the right because God gave it to me. Part of my Catholic duty is to bring more sheep back to the Lord's flock. In order yo do that, I need to point out sinful ways. It's called righteous judgement. How can a person realize what they're doing is wrong if no one speaks up and lets them know? I'd be sinning if I let others sin.

[@cheetavontiebolt9971]

@theresemartin7930 I am pagan and proud of it thus is America 2024 what is good for one is not for another we have religious freedom

[@gxnja_bxby8010]

Im poly and i kind of understand what they were trying to show. But this isnt what its like. If your in a poly like this, you need to have a serious talk together. The way they treat the ex is just wrong and close minded. If your in a true poly, you need to be understanding and open or else the whole thing falls apart.

[@Sniperboy5551]

Polyamory is just kinda ridiculous, in my opinion. Good for the people who can deal with it though, if it makes them happy, more power to them.

[@cheetavontiebolt9971]

Good

[@_MayDAY_]

Welcome to the real world

[@namjoon632]

I would never be in a poly relationship . It’s not my thing

[@trilby5546]

The more the merrier.👍⭐️🔥

[@RockyOtter]

Ah yes, what a totally natural and not at all forced way to show they all love each other. By having them start deep kissing each other the moment they step into the patient's room. Constantly clinging to the patient. And when they're *not* with the patient they act like conjoined triplets. So fucking weird and forced. So in your face and not how people in relationships (either monogamous or poly) typically act.

[@MissAlii432]

Selfish, the label is selfish.

[@maxhess3151]

If anyone is reading this in 2030, I think polyamory is just beautiful and there's nothing wrong with it at all.

[@farinshore8900]

There is a label for him - cheating husband

[@TimberlakeTigerGirl]

Not really. Even though it's technically illegal, people engage in polyamory all the time. As long as all parties involved are over 18 and are consenting, then it's not really cheating.

[@farinshore8900]

@@TimberlakeTigerGirl His wife did not consent

[@TimberlakeTigerGirl]

@@farinshore8900 Yet she never divorced him so even though she herself didn't like it, she didn't stop him. So it's technically not cheating if the husband/wife lets it happen regardless of how they personally feel.

[@orlandobabe]

Monogamy is all drama with cheating and betraying but at least in Polyamory, there is no cheating. And so long as they are all consenting adults I see nothing wrong with it.

[@TimberlakeTigerGirl]

The Ottoman Empire allowed the Sultan to have multiple women who gave him many sons. The infighting between brothers got so bad that they had to initiate a law. Literally saying the new Sultan, upon his ascension to the throne, had to kill all his brothers and their sons (even infants). All to prevent any and all attempts to take the throne through force of arms. If the Sultan had only taken one wife and only had children by her, then a lot of issues can be avoided. Same thing happened to all royalties that didn't practice monogamy. Monogamy is necessary for handling things like inheritance rights. Because some people, mostly men, want to make sure the children are in fact theirs. So that the property and inheritance remains in the family through a blood child. Not a lot of men are willing to give their property and inheritance to a child they know or suspected was fathered by someone else. For women, regardless of who fathers her children they will always get an inheritance from her but men are more picky. That said, there are cases of women who will deny their stepchildren inheritance because their husband had the child with another woman in an affair. Don't get me wrong I'm not dissing polyamory; I guess it's up to personal preference. I'm just saying it can cause it's own set of issues.

[@mdeleon8410]

Xoxo

[@malikguzman9132]

🤦‍♂️😆

[@3332-u3g]

איכס

[@FullTimePatient37]

Humm, I'm watching this in 2024.. what is COVID, I failed history?

[@meggrotte4760]

That's pretty disturbing

[@DudeTotally1000]

Which part exactly?

[@pinkpastelhearts]

@@DudeTotally1000 i guess the polyamorous part

[@DudeTotally1000]

@@pinkpastelhearts People can be so sensitive.

[@SamahMakawy]

And still not accepting muslim man have two wifes. Media's hypocrisy

[@darknesseker]

Nah...hipocrisy is trying to defend that when a muslim woman doesn't have the same right of having multiple husbands.

[@YurinanAcquiline]

When the wife gets multiple husbands, sure.

[@freyamccauley]

This is disgusting. This show is horrible. Im unsubscribing.

[@GeekChicPolitiq]

Ok bye

[@Noa......]

Bye bye

[@scottw6704]

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