The practise of arranged marriages is still practised all around the world. What is interesting is that the woman had a protected position in this story. A dowry can be seen in many cultures as well today and persists in symbolic gifts in modern societies. Also the fact that a contract had to be made implies widespread literacy and bureaucracy.
@beepboop204 Жыл бұрын
i met many international students and first-generation immigrants from China and India and other places (mostly China and India) it was very interesting to see their views as males or females coming out of a tradition that places family above the individual. even some of the more racist white people ive met have to admit they respect the determination of certain immigrant groups to stay married and refuse to divorce. that made me chuckle to myself
@RelivingHistory1 Жыл бұрын
there was no widespread literacy. There will have been scribes who will have been able to confirm if the papers were authentic, and scribes able to write these contracts down, but the vast vast majority of people were illiterate.
@beepboop204 Жыл бұрын
@@RelivingHistory1 tis a pet peeve when people assume, for example, runes had to be magical or something, because how/why else would someone use them to decorate something? its probably more a case of people thinking things look cool, or associating symbols or designs with things, as opposed to being highly literate and magically trained. you dont have to be able to read to know a stop sign in a foreign country is a stop sign, for example. its the right shape and color and context
@xspydazx Жыл бұрын
Marridge markets are stil traditional culture for Albainians and Bulgarians ....
@koltoncrane30997 ай бұрын
Chubby Idk. If ya watch the Medici series for instance it clearly shows medici married a woman that was an arranged marriage but didn’t love her. The dad said he loved mules but a Medici would never Marry a mule. Then constantina that married Medici when Medici asked why she’d marry him she said cause it’d benefit her father of course. Maybe women were in a protected position but a lot of arrange marriage seems to benefit the families not the actual individual.
@dannyhussain5489 Жыл бұрын
It was an absolute pleasure to work with you Cy, a fantastic video, looking forward to more!
@HistorywithCy Жыл бұрын
No, thank YOU for bringing life to these characters, really appreciate it and as others have said, you are now the voice for Herodotus should you wish to be! Thanks again!
@shlomomarkman6374 Жыл бұрын
It's probably a description of a slave market with fantastic details, very realistic, especially if farmers trying to sell their daughters which was also common at the time. Remember that as recently as 2017 there were such markets in Mossul and Raqqa (not that far from Babylon) under ISIS with captured women sold to the highest bidder. Also selling daughters exist unofficially in the middle-east today.
@AbdulHannanAbdulMatheen Жыл бұрын
Very true. I was shocked learning about it
@deathsheadknight2137 Жыл бұрын
Thanks obama 👍🏿
@AbdulHannanAbdulMatheen Жыл бұрын
@@deathsheadknight2137 what did Obama do to cause this?
@EresirThe1st Жыл бұрын
@@AbdulHannanAbdulMatheen Funded the islamic rebels trying to overthrow the Assad government
@AbdulHannanAbdulMatheen Жыл бұрын
@@EresirThe1st wasn't it Obama's government that lead the campaign leading to the expiration of thousands of ISIS militants.
@TheRedneckPreppy Жыл бұрын
Danny Hussain's voice for Herodotus brought a smile. Henceforth, his must be the only voice for him.
@dannyhussain5489 Жыл бұрын
Aw thank you so much man, warms my heart to hear that!! Much love
@HistorywithCy Жыл бұрын
Agreed! Herodotus he shall be! As always, thanks for watching!
@HistorywithCy Жыл бұрын
@@dannyhussain5489 you deserve it man! Thanks for doing the voices!
@Liberater4589 Жыл бұрын
I would love to see more videos on ancient marriage and family customs its always fascinating to see how people of the past former relationships and families compared to our own times
@HistorywithCy Жыл бұрын
I'll probably do one on Egypt sometime so stay tuned. Thanks for watching!
@henkstersmacro-world Жыл бұрын
I just can't imagine Herodotus telling lies or making things up🤣🤣🤣
@jeffreed3443 Жыл бұрын
Lol of course not… he’d never exaggerate or completely lie … only the truth… even ones he made up
@koboldgeorge2140 Жыл бұрын
The Father of Completely-Accurate-and-Totally-Honest-Description
@rparl Жыл бұрын
But he has a reputation for having too much imagination. From what I can recall from college, The History of the Peloponnesian War was the first fairly accurate history.
@TimL1980 Жыл бұрын
Made up or not ... Herodotus system does look like it's a good idea.... at least in part and when compared to other systems that have been in use in many places.
@Bobbfj Жыл бұрын
@@rparl when it benefits Europeans it’s accurate lol
@sizanogreen9900 Жыл бұрын
Always happy to learn anything about ancient times I did not yet know:) Thanks for making this video! And thanks to the patrons for funding it!
@HistorywithCy Жыл бұрын
My pleasure, thanks for watching! Lot's more on the way, stay tuned!
@johnrohde5510 Жыл бұрын
In this, Herodotus follows the Greek habit of putting forward one's own bright idea as an established, ancient and successful custom elsewhere. Plato's Atlantis is the most famous and extreme example.
@Codbckdjlnfkfj Жыл бұрын
Do you have any evidence for this? Herodotus is often very gullible - or at least willing to write down very incredulous stories - but he rarely makes things up himself; usually he relies on faulty sources. Also, in the very next section he describes a custom which he explicitly says is a bad idea, forced temple prostitution for women.
@johnrohde5510 Жыл бұрын
@@Codbckdjlnfkfj Temple prostitution was something he and others could see happening. The bride auction is something he says doesn't happen anymore. I don't think Greeks of his time made the same clear division between is and ought. He could well have got the wrong end of the stick, misremembered and embellished or been told a tall tale; he does all three elsewhere.
@MaciejBogdanStepien7 ай бұрын
Plato's Atlantis was a cautionary tale about piety, written from 2 to 12 years after the most famous disaster that struck the Greeks in that period: the richest and most famous port-city of Helike was destroyed in a terrible earthquake and sank (due to liquifaction) overnight. They were the proud hosts of the most venerated shrine of Poseidon, a pan-Hellenic pilgrimage place that only Delphi could be compared to. They denied the delegation from their own colony to take measures for a copy of the statue of Poseidon from the Helike Temple, and treated the envoys really bad (some say there were even killings). This "angered the god," who was thought to be the one responsible for earthquakes (as ground behaves like a stormy sea). Nobody has ever asked Plato what he meant by the story of Atlantis (a great port-city, where Poseidon was venerated, whose inhabitants angered their god and the whole city was sunk in a single, terrible night) -- everybody knew what he was talking about. It was written only a few years after the disaster that absolutely shocked everyone. He changed the name and the location due to caution (reporting exactly on the place, with speaking the exact name, might have brought on you some part of the said "anger"). The ruins of Helike were recently found, now located inland due to the sediments deposited by the local river over 24 hundred years.
@brandyshaw6624 Жыл бұрын
Just wanted to comment and say how thankful I am for your content. I wanted to learn more about Lebanon in the ancient world, and your series on the Canaanites was exactly what I needed. Thanks for all you do!
@HistorywithCy Жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching and you're welcome! Will have a revamp of the Canaanite series towards the end of the year as I have a few surprises for y'all concerning that region. Thanks for watching, ,really appreciate it and stay tuned for more!
@calin7017 Жыл бұрын
I've recently found your channel and have been hooked ever since. Probably one of the most complete, thorough and documented (sources included!) history channel on YT. However, I wonder if anybody did a research on how the food and its cooking evolved in a society, Sumerian as a matter of fact, and how it permeated other people cultures to finally make it to present days. As an example, until four or five decades back, there was a refreshing beverage named "Braga" or "Bouz" in the Balcan countries: Romania, Bulgaria, Turkey, Greece and all the neighboring countries, which belonged at some point to the Otoman Empire. It was a fermented, sweet and sour beverage made out of wheat bran, barley or corn . It was delicious, especially in hot summer days. Trying to replicate it, I found out that the recipe is quite similar to what is called Sumerian beer. It is quite possible, in my opinion, that the recipe found its way to the Balcans until nowadays via the Turks, from the Persians and so on. To make it short, if we look from the food point of view, we all have more to share, and that goes back centuries and millennia, rather than fight upon. I could go on and on, but I think you got my point.
@HistorywithCy Жыл бұрын
Yes, food would be interesting to cover. There's a channel called "Table of the Gods" that sort of delves into this...not specifically Sumerian but ancient Assyrian and related. You might find it interesting. Thanks for watching, really appreciate it!
@NefariousKoel Жыл бұрын
Read this many years ago, in Herodotus' Histories, and it stood out as unusual and very structured. Although I got the impression this was something happening in a specific small town or area, and that it was a village elder telling him about it being a past custom. As were many of the stories he recorded.
@thejeffinvade Жыл бұрын
Marriage has always been one of the most important financial decisions, even now.
@HistorywithCy Жыл бұрын
Agreed.... thanks for watching!
@gysgijsbers4202 Жыл бұрын
For richer, for poorer, in sickness & in health, till death do us part... the real test of a marriage ofcourse is when the money dries up...
@urkozaminje86 Жыл бұрын
Always a scam for man
@sanniepstein483511 ай бұрын
@@urkozaminje86do you think men are never gold diggers?
@kendallbyrd9875 Жыл бұрын
Great episode! Been waiting on this one.
@HistorywithCy Жыл бұрын
Thanks, glad you enjoyed it and thanks for watching!
@ClassicCase Жыл бұрын
It's not that different today. If a man marries, what's hers is hers and what's his is also hers.
@koboldgeorge2140 Жыл бұрын
Im reading herodotus right now and i wondered about this! Thanks for uploading!
@laxman90210 Жыл бұрын
Hammurabi laws seem pretty close to modern laws in many countries. Wonder how far back the dowry custom goes.
@Faviomec Жыл бұрын
That's because modern law still uses the code of Hammurabi as a basis for jurisprudence
@tableofgods Жыл бұрын
Thank you for educating us as always!
@robbabcock_ Жыл бұрын
Terrific stuff, Cy!
@HistorywithCy Жыл бұрын
Thanks, glad you enjoyed it and thanks for watching!
@olorin4317 Жыл бұрын
I like the ancient googly eye statues.
@jedgrahek1426 Жыл бұрын
This makes me very impressed with Hammurabi's Law Code, and makes me wonder why the only detail commonly mentioned about it is the eye for an eye stuff... this makes it seem like that is a bit of an outlier.
@albertojuste6192 Жыл бұрын
Hello Cy, nice video! Maybe you could make one talking about the prophecy of Marduk, and how every king who stole the statue was killed by his own family members (from Mursili I to Xerxes)
@donaldlococo954 Жыл бұрын
Very interesting. If the rejected wife walked away with her dowry and the bride price, I imagine 1 in 3 marriages did not end in divorce. Taking a second wife would be more economically advisable. Incentive is everything.
@joeshmoe8345 Жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing with us, Cy Guy!
@HistorywithCy Жыл бұрын
My pleasure, glad you enjoyed it and thanks for watching!
@orderofazarath7609 Жыл бұрын
The title was very misleading. Would've watched video on marriage customs in Babylonia but this wasn't advertised by the title. Was actually surprised that it took a turn from the Market topic.
@goneloko13689 ай бұрын
So, for your information, Babylon is in Mesopotamia. So all this talk about Mesopotamian marriage is valid to the supposed marriage market of Babylonia. Meaning there wasn't one.
@Sarke2 Жыл бұрын
Always interesting video from you, great short analysis, i think many of this practices are still alive and active in those areas which were ancient Mesopotamia.
@HistorywithCy Жыл бұрын
Thanks, glad you enjoyed this... will do a few more short ones like this but will also be focused on longer ones as well. Thanks for watching, really appreciate it!
@jamessell1394 Жыл бұрын
In Iranian plateau so many tribes are involved but at the end they are all following Iranian ideology as Arian which still follows in Iran .
@jonathanbarqokasro87 Жыл бұрын
Show the large map of the country of Aram-Naharaim Syria Iraq Jordan Lebanon Southeast Turkey with all the kingdoms and their ancient cities
@dogwhistle8836 Жыл бұрын
Really enjoyed this insight into marriage and a short video on games played in this time period, I wonder if they played any games while drinking their freshly made barely beer
@HistorywithCy Жыл бұрын
Thanks! There's a version of the so-called Royal Game of they are believed to played, though I haven't seen a Babylonian version of it. Will let you know if I come across it. Thanks for watching!
@DieLuftwaffel Жыл бұрын
Im interested in theories on their clothing styles, materials, colors, production etc.
@jimcunningham5376 Жыл бұрын
My friend Cy why did I not see these shorts until 2 months after you posted them? I am subscribed to you channel and browse KZbin every day . Looking forward to 18 dynasty of Egypt .
@HistorywithCy Жыл бұрын
Thanks so much for the kind words and watching these videos, really appreciate viewers like you. You're in luck as the 18th Dynasty video should be out within the next 24 hours!
@paule.158 Жыл бұрын
would you please make a program about the union of Median tribes which formed by Deioces according to Herodotus?
@PoliticalFuturism Жыл бұрын
Very informative video! As per usual
@HistorywithCy Жыл бұрын
Thanks, glad you enjoyed it and thanks for watching!
@Darisiabgal7573 Жыл бұрын
Important stuff.
@HistorywithCy Жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching!
@johnpick8336 Жыл бұрын
Fascinating video , thanks
@yezdichikhliwala Жыл бұрын
Hi I am new to the channel Will follow and enjoy!
@HistorywithCy Жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching and welcome! Hope that you enjoy the content!
@babylonkid Жыл бұрын
All these years later and still loving your content. Good stuff Cy.
@HistorywithCy Жыл бұрын
Thanks my friend, I thought someone with your screenname would find much of the content interesting. Thanks for watching!
@Jimmylad. Жыл бұрын
Wow this is super fascinating
@HistorywithCy Жыл бұрын
Thanks, glad you enjoyed it and thanks for watching!
@Jimmylad. Жыл бұрын
@@HistorywithCy no worries your content is amazing
@RB-we4bc Жыл бұрын
Great format
@HistorywithCy Жыл бұрын
Thanks! More on the way, stay tuned and thanks for watching!
@I14Realok Жыл бұрын
I really enjoyed this! Thank you.
@HistorywithCy Жыл бұрын
Glad you enjoyed it, thanks for watching!
@haideriraqi8495 Жыл бұрын
Ancient Mesopotamia(Iraq)❤️
@brianduffy4682 Жыл бұрын
Very impressive churning out three new topic and longer shows this past month. I am grateful!
@Aurora.369 Жыл бұрын
Very interesting. Thank you.
@Veriox22 Жыл бұрын
something i didnt know at all. Congrats!
@HistorywithCy Жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching!
@AbdulHannanAbdulMatheen Жыл бұрын
👏😐 Very interesting. Keep up the great work
@HistorywithCy Жыл бұрын
Thanks, glad you enjoyed it and thanks for watching!
@tinalove8197 Жыл бұрын
I can believe this is actually true. That's how men treated us back then.
@MrTNA-ml8tt Жыл бұрын
Hopefully one day you guys will make a video of the Great Kingdom of DACIA
@ERLong-ww7yn Жыл бұрын
Eyewitness account of contemporary historian: "There was a marriage market..." Some guy on KZbin 4000 years later: "Let me tell you what actually happened "
@roxannebarton9740 Жыл бұрын
The flowery belongs only to her or her children in a divorce unless she is unfaithful and then put to death...that sounds like a recipe for disaster more than protection. I can only imagine the number wives were done away with.
@OublietteTight2 ай бұрын
"Let's find out." 1:50 My guess is it could have existed... if fathers' had right of refusal? There are plenty of examples thru time of bride prices, dowry systems. But who your daughter married could also be be a political, trade, or security matter too.
@OublietteTight2 ай бұрын
Excellent presentation. Thank you. Definitely was not a random auction situation, huh? 😅
@YadinZedek777 Жыл бұрын
What was Canaanites, Israelites, and Judeans marriage laws and ways?
@TheManFromWaco4 ай бұрын
The Herodotus segment was an interesting intro into the main topic, but you never fully got back to discussing if his described 'marriage market' ever occurred. Or at least, it would have been nice to have short segment at the end where, after reviewing the archaeological evidence for how marriage worked in ancient Babylon, you gave some discussion of how Herodotus might have gotten the story. Herodotus' style of "write everything down, filter nothing" certainly requires readers to take his wilder stories with a grain of salt, but I do find it difficult to believe that he could have confused a slave market for a communal marriage custom without some other factor at work.
@johne6944 Жыл бұрын
The voice of Herodotus was righteous
@dannyhussain5489 Жыл бұрын
Thank you very much! I tried my best haha
@HistorywithCy Жыл бұрын
Agreed! He'll be back for more as Herodotus will be quoted in several future videos. Thanks for watching!
@LorolinAstori6 ай бұрын
Why would you question it? The guy walked more than you ever will, seen more than you ever will and experienced more than you his empirical observations have stood the test of time. As far as the marriage auctions and such are attested during the Hellenistic and Hellenic times.
@vazak11 Жыл бұрын
Interesting!
@CliftonHicksbanjo7 ай бұрын
Of course it did. They exist today.
@oldsilver6035 Жыл бұрын
Yes it did exist, just a different version of harems.
@silverchairsg Жыл бұрын
There's one in modern day Shanghai. Parents of unmarried children go to the park and advertise their children to help them secure potential mates. It's insanely competitive in China and parents put all their eggs in one basket - their children.
@icollectstories57026 ай бұрын
Wow! Such regulation! There was an English custom of wife auctions, the logic being that wives were counted as a man's chattel and therefore transferable. It was not unheard of to have the purchaser and price negotiated in advance. Since the transaction was done in public, the results were binding.
@anishaditya4400 Жыл бұрын
That women statue literally looks like an indian doll and the dress portrayed in it looks a lot like saree... And the entire process of match making to marriage alliance and dowri is very similar to indian ways of mariage.....
@nimmira Жыл бұрын
more or less still like or parallel to the marriages in ME nowadays
@sherwynlobrigo7798 Жыл бұрын
Interesting how the term dowry was misused in the present day.
@beepboop204 Жыл бұрын
whats next, are you going to tell me that i cant trust bloggers either? 👀
@HistorywithCy Жыл бұрын
haha that could be a great and long video. As always, thanks for watching my friend and stay tuned for more!
@ajw95339 ай бұрын
McNeal, 1988, argues that Herodotus attributed Greek marriage practices to the Babylonians.
@h.huffen-puff41054 ай бұрын
Interesting.
@HistorywithCy4 ай бұрын
Thanks, glad this was useful and thanks for watching!
@vaspats Жыл бұрын
Peloponessian war part 4 when
@CharlesA2 Жыл бұрын
Your website seems to have shut down lol
@HistorywithCy Жыл бұрын
Yeah I'm trying to see what the issue is with it. Thanks for letting me know!
@SobekLOTFC Жыл бұрын
Eeeey it's new History with Cy 🙂 Hail, βασιλεύς!
@HistorywithCy Жыл бұрын
Thanks, glad you enjoyed it and thanks for watching!
@rparl Жыл бұрын
Some time ago there was a pop song which began: If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife. But from a personal point of view, get an ugly girl to marry you. The thesis of the song was that a pretty woman was too concerned about herself but an ugly one would be devoted to you.
@sarah37452 Жыл бұрын
The writer of that song never met a Karen then
@ssherrierable Жыл бұрын
Well did he write fiction and non fiction? Everyone always asks if the things he wrote about were true but what’s been proven false and what’s been proven true so far?
@steveelliott77 Жыл бұрын
I like it!
@HistorywithCy Жыл бұрын
Thanks!
@TheLincolnrailsplitt Жыл бұрын
Are you implying Herodotus made it up?
@HistorywithCy Жыл бұрын
I don't think Herodotus necessarily made up this up but perhaps simply heard this story and then relayed them to his audience. He often tells us when what he presents is hearsay and at times even tells us his doubts about the veracity of what he's heard. thanks for watching@
@sweetykitty44272 ай бұрын
This isnt the only time herodotus gets something about babylonians very wrong. Dr Irving Finkel thinks they might have been trolling him because he was very haughty, so maybe he isn't lying on purpose x)
@hamentaschen Жыл бұрын
"I'm gonna go get the papers, get the papers."
@GnosticInformant Жыл бұрын
Gold guarding Griffins, One Eyed Hyperboreans, and gold digging Ants.. Why not a marriage market?
@elliottprats1910 Жыл бұрын
But the gold digging ants was true, he covered that topic 3 years ago or so
@HistorywithCy Жыл бұрын
@@elliottprats1910ah you remember that podcast ... one of my first, thrilled you still remember it! Thanks for watching!
@elliottprats1910 Жыл бұрын
@@HistorywithCy I’ve learned so much from you over the years and enjoy all the content that you produce.
@danyelnicholas Жыл бұрын
Thank you! So the answer is, no, Herodotus (the « father of history ») is actually the mother of libel.
@hannotn Жыл бұрын
No surprise that even at the dawn of civilisation women were treated with far more respect than any of the Abrahamic religions ever have.
@okkj1878 Жыл бұрын
Based
@robijnbruinsma448910 ай бұрын
I wonder if someone got annoyed with a certain very inquisitive Greek visitor and decided to have a little innocent fun.
@Swissbluemountain Жыл бұрын
This is what happening today . Just behind seins .
@juniorthomas6404 Жыл бұрын
Peloponnesian war part 4? The world wonders
@HistorywithCy Жыл бұрын
It's in the works...thanks for watching!
@JBarbarosa Жыл бұрын
In other words, from the earliest times and first civilizations, there has never been a male favouring patriarchy!!! The patriarchy ALWAYS was in favour of women and protected them and have them privileges that far exceeded anything that men had access to. Men have ALWAYS been at a disadvantage
@nomanor7987 Жыл бұрын
Isn’t this what happens today with women selling themselves on Tinder and Hinge, looking for the richest chads?
@AlbertaGeek Жыл бұрын
Calm down, incel.
@fnansjy456 Жыл бұрын
Not at all
@geraldmeehan8942 Жыл бұрын
Thanks for the video Cy. Sounds like a poor man"s chance for a rich wife wasn't much better in the ancient world, lol.
@HistorywithCy Жыл бұрын
You're welcome, glad you enjoyed it! haha some things never change with time. Thanks for watching!
@benmoi3390 Жыл бұрын
well today it's the same... if you are in a couple but without a contract, you are not considered married by the eyes of the laws... well in Canada that's how it is. so there isn't much difference there.
@davidgavary9022 Жыл бұрын
Why the heaven on Earth is related to Herodotus, he is a lier but there is a translated tablet in English over the marriage laws in Assyria/Babylon but not in Sumeria the Assyrians' ancestors.
@muhammetaliakcakoca9871 Жыл бұрын
we want new egypt episodes please
@HistorywithCy Жыл бұрын
On the way! The next one is on Dynasty 18 and it's a longer one. Stay tuned and thanks for watching!
@muhammetaliakcakoca9871 Жыл бұрын
@@HistorywithCysoo thank you cy
@carriekelly418610 ай бұрын
How completely miserable! Thanks Cy😊
@HistorywithCy10 ай бұрын
Glad you found it interesting, thanks for watching!
@ironboley Жыл бұрын
Better than our marriage laws today 🤣
@amostroyfreeman94225 ай бұрын
Please kindly do a video about: "What was considered as a resolution and survival of legal texts in Mesopotamia ?" 🥹🥹🥹🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼pliiiiz i beg🙏🏼 this question has failed everyone myself inclusive, all of us are just answering: clay tablets, code of hammurabi, cuneiform, but the quiz setter still says no yet by all means i need to win this quiz because it will help me pliz help me brother🙏🏼🥹
@henkstersmacro-world Жыл бұрын
👍👍👍
@HistorywithCy Жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching!
@r-d_oh_dubb_gg77489 ай бұрын
Can anyone give me some good history channels
@mikejones215 Жыл бұрын
Where We're All The Parents. L 😎 L
@opaljha8914 Жыл бұрын
More on polygamy in royalty
@khllkhn Жыл бұрын
Interesting but Plutarch considered Herodotus the father of lies.
@miguelatkinson Жыл бұрын
But does that mean everything he written was a lie tho
@mintoo2cool Жыл бұрын
mail order bride .. a bronze age custom .. damn!
@sanichiffon7163 ай бұрын
🇮🇶 now u can the obsession why US ends up there. Shout out to King Nebuchadnezzar ll 😎
@freddiejackson594 Жыл бұрын
Don’t get caught up
@dadevi5 ай бұрын
If they were slaves, Herodotus would have said so.
@AvidanTheExpositor Жыл бұрын
hippity hoppity!
@giftedfooljjhg1981thepasmb Жыл бұрын
Yes and the women in it were genetically engineered appearing as adults but with the mind of a child