DID YOU EVER REALLY KNOW THE NARCISSIST (HMMM)

[@marygrant882]

Married 25 years. I cried for who I thought he was, then realized that man never existed. Then I cried for the lost, wasted years of my life. Then I decided not to waste any more years!

[@sgtmuffinbadger6147]

I know this feeling. The grieving the mourning and the final act of having to let go but the pain doesn't stop

[@shaeholden1743]

This was one of my profound moments of discovery months ago - that, NO, I didn't know him at all. I can honestly acknowledge that. My mind is honestly still being blown when I allow myself to think back...that "knowing him" amounts to zero. Bless you for the valuable info that you bring to us.

[@sylviaking8866]

The same for me. We were married for 29 years and in the end, I realized he was basically a con artist. He felt nothing for me at all. He also tried to totally destroy me during the discard. His cruelty knew no bounds. It has been the most devastating year of my entire life.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Shae.. 💯🙌☀️🙏

[@pinkposey8134]

Going through this mind experience. Weird things come together, for these retro ah moments. figured one out this last week not even thinking about it. - cripes again. Universe is a revealing one.... Namaste.

[@shaeholden1743]

@@sylviaking8866 I hope you're healing and living a rewarding life. I was married 24 years. We are blessed to still even have our sanity.

[@sylviaking8866]

@@shaeholden1743 Thanks for your comment. I am slowly trying to put my life back together. As soon as my divorce is final, I can move on properly.

[@T.Caldwell_Music]

You can't ever truly know someone who doesn't know themselves...

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Agree completely 💯💯

[@antoinettegorman8833]

There is no depth within a narcissist. No real connection. Don’t waste your precious time . Leave them alone and let them get on with it . It must be torture for them to constantly need attention. Isn’t great we are at peace now . And this peace is their karma . They hate it . Do keep smiling. Shine your light brighter and burn those demons. 😊

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Antoinette 😊🙌💯☀️

[@montzerattejones3823]

It truly is eye opening. To be honest I thought I was a good judge of character but man did I get duped.. they can literally shapeshift into a fake loving person and can really deceive you into thinking you need them as they destroy you.. thank you so much for showing me and education on this. I can now see them coming a mile away.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😉🙌💯🙏

[@michelekisly2535]

The Demonic Trauma Bond was a constant ILLUSION: the push/pull of this type of relationship is addictive...always going back for a hit of dope

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Exactly what it was like..💯💯😳😳

[@JaidaAnn]

Nothing but the truth! A few months before my husband discarded me I told him that after ten years I honestly didn't know who he was. He just shook his head. Everything about my marriage felt fake and demonic. I was addicted though.

[@michelekurlan2580]

Hey Andrew what about when they take that break and they come back with mask OFF..ugh.. perhaps that is the beginning of the devaluing proceeding disposal or the disposal point. Dude can have the last sardonic word cuz I ain't answered anything from him lately. I'm just going to keep looking up.

[@rowenasuarez1868]

There is no amount of narcan antidote to reverse narcissistic venom

[@janetpattison8474]

This isn’t the case for me. I wasn’t going back for the “hit”, or the addictive element, but did try to have family. I rationalized and minimized their bad behavior forever, but Ultimately, the narcissist’s need to control me escalated over time, & that brought about the detachment, boundaries & letting go. In retrospect it seems the regular attacks, incl. ghosting, are designed to keep one weak, hurt & confused, bc the love bombing is in there as well. Even tho they haven’t given up, Now I see the efforts to be super nice for what it is, & Im no longer a player in this power game. Unfortunately, Due to responsibilities I can’t block everyone yet.

[@lagoldie9783]

I agree. They were completely acting. Narcissist deserve an Emmy, Stella and Grammy

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Absolutely 💯💯

[@Gitte585]

No, I have no idea who this person was, no one knows who the narcissist is. The only thing I know is that this man was not honest and genuine and sincere .. And it is important that we all face it, because that's just the way it is 🙏❤️🙏 Wish everyone Love and light 🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌💯☀️🙏.. thank you Grande..

[@cjeff3957]

That's exactly who the narcissist is not honest or genuine!!!

[@theteal123]

I agree. They are a reflection of whoever they are with. They are nobody.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Yes 🙌 💯💯

[@LBmerryxmas]

In the midst of the trauma bond, everytime I went back he had changed, his mannerisms ,his personality had changed. Things he said and ways he acted, I know now he had copied traits from other women he was meeting, , he took on my personality too. He was never the same twice , I really haven't a clue who or what he is , well hes a narcissist I know that much.

[@jjabreakerzz]

I would always ask questions about him and his past journey in life but he never really had answers! 🚩And now I wonder if any of anything he told me was true 🤔 Doubt it.

[@lindyska]

Same here. He could never answer some crucial questions about his past. And he got angry if I insisted. Or I got words salads/circular arguments.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I understand completely 💯💯

[@jesusrules9925]

One of them I was with for 3 years, he mirrored me. Occasionally, I would see his real facial expressions, which were evil. But here's the cool thing... The Lord had him show up in my dreams. In my dreams he would be standing there and staring at me.. with the most evil, evil face. The face is etched into my mind. God was showing me, what his face really looks like. I'm so thankful to be free from that pain and torment of being stuck in a relationship with someone who is deceptive. God is so good and I give Him all the glory.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful insight thank you for sharing this 🙏☀️🙌💯

[@paulacarlyle4223]

You are soo right on about them not being bored! They drive fast because driving normal is boring! He’d slam on the breaks in the car, just so I’d spill whatever I was drinking.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙌💯

[@marybrandl7200]

I made a lot of excuses for my narc’s behavior for a long time…it was his stress, his anxiety, his (excessive) drinking, his grief, his depression. It wasn’t until I started researching that it finally clicked…THIS is who he is (a narc). It all started making sense. And not too long after, he pushed me to my final limit…I knew I couldn’t continue, and I blocked him. I am 5 weeks no-contact today. It hasn’t been easy, but it’s been better than I thought it would be, most of the time. Being pushed to your breaking point helps maybe?? Funny thing, if you asked him, he would probably say that HE did the discard. Had I not blocked him this time, I probably would have just been “punished” for a few days, a week or 2. Your videos have been so very helpful. Thank you, Andrew.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this Mary.. I appreciate your kindness and insight 💯🙌☀️🙏

[@jackpetersen7545]

Mary Brandl,You deserves better 🙏

[@marybrandl7200]

@@jackpetersen7545 Thank you Jack. Yes I do. We ALL do!!

[@jackpetersen7545]

@@marybrandl7200 You are welcome.I am Jack from USA 🇺🇸.You?

[@marybrandl7200]

@@jackpetersen7545 Yes - me too 🇺🇸

[@Alyssacaronefamily]

It got to where I didnt know either one of us...😆 The gas lighting and constant lies made me so angry all the time. I was a different person than my usual optimistic self...he had me cussing when I hadnt cussed for a decade before I met him as a die hard Christian convert...I didnt know who we were or what the plan was at all. By the end of it I realized the only plan he had was selfish whims...I cant live for the next 40 years off someone else selfish whims. My gas tank was empty! I was living the life of a stranger with a stranger who ignored me most of the time but said they loved me.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 🙌💯☀️🙏

[@spacegirl226]

"I was living the life of a stranger with a stranger who ignored me most of the time but said they loved me." Bingo. Dead on. My marriage. And then I'm sure you were blamed for everything.

[@marygrant882]

Me too.

[@janetpattison8474]

Hey, there is a huge bright side to your story! You woke up to the truth, and that is awesome! It sounds as if u let go and moved on. The future challenge for many of us, who would still like a GOOD positive relationship, is to have the discrimination to know whether or not someone can handle being loved. Narcs can’t handle it, but pretend they can, at least in the beginning.

[@overcomer4060]

I could not agree more; 100% right all the way! You never knew the real them (and never will) because they are such an empty shell that they don't have a real self - they don't even know their own true self because they don't have one. If they had a true, real self they would be able to self-regulate - but they can't, that's why they feed off of others, that's why they always have multiple side sources of supply, because they are an empty shell and can't survive without other people's attention and etc. It's sad, but you can't allow them to destroy you, just because they have this brokenness, or whatever you want to call it. The most shocking thing was the first conversation I had with him after he'd dropped the mask and after he'd stopped even trying to hide who he actually was from me. It was bizarre. It was such a SHOCK for me to see him *looking* so familiar, yet *acting* this whole other...opposite way. A real punch in the gut. No, I never knew the real him because there is no real him. Just a string of acts.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I appreciate your kindness and sharing.. thank you Overcomer..💯☀️🙌

[@karenzilverberg4699]

Thanks, Andrew. The narcissist needs a person as their cover page. I was that. The true story under that cover was vile. Since I didn't know what was happening it was perfect for him. When you don't know then you cannot blow his cover.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Always Karen 🙌☀️💯

[@karenzilverberg4699]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone 👍🏼 🙏

[@mhashas1]

This makes me very sad. I loved this man and to think that it was all a delusional mess of manipulation and sick symbiotic fusion is depressing. That’s what the depression is about. Yes I thought, you aren’t perfect, who is really? And when I said no matter what I will love you through the tough times, let’s just make this work. He had another supply and even though we had spent the weekend together doing what we always did, he discarded me 2days later. Was it the intimacy he couldn’t handle? Was it the authenticity of a real relationship? I’ll never know the truth and that’s the saddest part of it

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

My hope is you are healing and improving.. thank you for sharing Meha..💯🙌☀️🙏

[@leeedwards6505]

Meha same for me and now I’m grateful I have moved away from this toxic and possibly dangerous energy to have peace and harmony in my life. I’m creating a happy healthy life around the people I’m close to and whom genuinely love me for me. My family and friends, the same people the narcissist cunningly separated me from. So now I’m safe, secure and able to move forward from the devastation. Stay safe and give yourself a hug. You deserve healthy love as all us Empaths do. Big hugs and blessings.💝🙏🌹

[@callforhealing9842]

How are you doing Meha? ❤️

[@mhashas1]

@@callforhealing9842 I dated other men. I was really doing well. Then he felt it, my energy was getting better. We got together for coffee and he was clearly trying to get me back again. I didn’t accept his energy and walked out. That was April. He’s been in therapy and has been apologizing like crazy. I scream at him, I tell him how broken I was and he just takes it. No defense, no excuses it’s weird. He tells me how much he’s learning in therapy about his behavior and his cruel need to toss me away. It’s too complicated to go into detail. I’m stay neutral, gray rocking, dating. So I am not giving it my energy.

[@deniseelsworth7816]

@@mhashas1 do not accept this new version. It's an act I have fallen for. Things just got worse and worse when I took him back. There is no real change just another act they have learnt.

[@eileenallen1178]

Great commentary and so true. The narcissist I was briefly with never completely hid the fact that he was trying to mirror me. It was actually creepy, because he would articulate it in strange ways. HUGE red flag. But, I knew NOTHING about narcissism back then. Thanks to channels such as yours, Andrew, I do now. This clown was by the book, chapter and verse! Bless you and thank you, always.

[@jilldowell8346]

I think I am still in shock over this. It only recently ended, but things keep coming to mind that I now see in a different context. It was so destructive and really awful... at times. I just can't believe how much I didn't want to see it. My nervous system is only starting to feel normal again. I feel like I was almost under his spell. I don't think I knew the real him at all. It's been very disorienting. Thank you so much for your life-saving videos.

[@izzybizzy9230]

When I had that light bulb moment I just said to myself: I cannot do this any more. Next thing I moved out, no contact an I hired a divorce lawyer. I have no regrets. I'm so happy I'm not in that hamster wheel any more!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Yes 🙌

[@joycekeller8214]

I never did know the Narc and no one ever will ! Used to think, why doesn't he ever show his feelings about anything or sit and talk with me! I knew what made him angry and that he liked to scare people. Knew he was good at telling lies, didn't matter how small or how big,I think my girls were afraid several times and that he sat it up, probably for a payoff. Really what a creep,I always had thoughts of things I thought he did on purpose then would decide no he wouldn't do that! Not until you're channel have I thought about these things again, and then as you say Lightbulb goes off and now ir really hurts to think of all the things he did and shame on me for not talking it over with someone or having more self belief. Don't care to know him any better!!!! Thank You Andrew for all the info you provide and the encouragement we all need. Blessings on you, take care!!!!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 🙌☀️💯🙏

[@markgordon4619]

To add on to the theme of this video, which was another great one, thanks Andrew, they essentially mirror you to fit in, get close or give you the illusion that they are someone you can let your guard down with and trust. The mirror your values etc and then something happens and then you literally see another person before your eyes and it was like who the hell is this? So how can anybody know them, they don't even know themselves who they are. They mirror their environment to survive so no they are not authentic and they will mirror as long as the think there is still more supply left. For instance, you could talk with them on solutioning a problem for hours and they are seamingly in agreement and then you find out that in a span of one hour they do the total opposite and come around regretting their choice and you are like....umm I thought we discussed that you would not take that direction. They mimic you but have totally different intentions. Can't know these people.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this insight Mark.. I appreciate your kindness 💯🙌☀️🙏

[@jimmiem9752]

They are criminals ... I would like to see ...GOD would come to them in His Spirit and Speak to them, I wonder what they will say 🙏🙏🙏

[@valb9963]

I never really met Satan himself, before

[@rue258]

I second that

[@vivianalberts1812]

I third it

[@curiousnetty534]

Fourth

[@tinablok5700]

Fifth

[@sherischutzen49]

I’m a beautiful shining light. My new mantra. And it’s true!

[@Gitte585]

🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

It is true 💯💯☀️☀️

[@lindyska]

I remember him saying many times " You never really know a person even if you spend many years with them". Now I know it was him revealing himself. And when he behaved badly, he said: "You thought you were with a person, well actually no, your husband is this (bad) person". Also revealing. I was so confused. And sad. Speaking of boredom, one of his most heard phases was "I don't like tranquillity" and "I hate the simple little things that one should be cherishing in life, it's so banal ". Also very revealing.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing Lindyska.. 😉💯🙌

[@brendanperrett8248]

No because I never knew anything about a narcissist until 6 months ago when I ended my marriage to my wife. It only all fell into place after I told her I wanted a divorce due to her affair. Not only was she a narcissist to me but also to all her close friends she made here after coming from Indonesia. You are spot on saying that yes you didn’t really know the narcissist. Life goes on and now I’m in my happy place because she’s not in my life now and never will be again

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing Brendan..💯🙌☀️

[@kristinej.4182]

I’m with you, Andrew! I really did not know my narcissist either. And when the mask came off, I was actually shocked to see who he really was. I was like, who is this person that I was with for 7 yrs??? That’s why it’s harder to heal I think. It’s quite scary to be honest. Thanks again for a great video! I wish I had some of that sunshine from Costa Rica! 😃😎👍🏻🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing Kristine..🌴😊🙏💯

[@pinkposey8134]

Astute! Thank you!

[@texan4life763]

Same here!!!

[@tai2656]

Yes makes it harder to heal

[@dizzyd3670]

It does blow your mind Andrew. I never knew her. And when I go back and look at pictures of us from our 7 year marriage, she looks like someone I never knew. I would urge everyone to go back and look at pictures and you will see that the person in the picture was not who you thought they where. I am at the point where I just dont care anymore. Thanks brother for another great video..

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Dizzy D..💯🙌☀️

[@vvvvel]

Wow good point...! "a picture tells a thousand words" can't stare at it too long though I get emotional.🙁👌

[@steveinspainkap2043]

Great video, resonated. The way I feel is they are all evil spirits/entities trapped in a human body. Some have probably been around for lifetimes, moving from one body to another. 9 weeks tomorrow since the discard (thank God), if you know the film The Shining, the scene when Jack goes into Room 237 (I think!) after Danny had marks on his body of being beaten. He sees the naked woman in the bathtub, she gets up and moves towards him, she's beautiful and has a great body (like my ex narc), they start to kiss and as he's getting worked up he catches a glimpse of her in the mirror, she's like 90 years old, body full of sores and monstrous. That's who you were really with. She asked me a few weeks back how I liked her new hairstyle (we still have minimal contact for the kids), my response to her was 'I've seen behind your mask and I think you are the ugliest, most disgusting, and revolting person I've ever met' verbatim. The shock on her face was priceless. 16 years of abuse. Lies, manipulation, provocations, abhorrent behaviour, etc. Remember: your joy is a narcissist's misery and your misery is a narcissist's joy. Never give them joy again. I have good and bad days as everyone while recovering, but love yourself, love and protect your kids, emit a higher frequency and you'll be amazed at who you'll start to attract. It wasn't your fault, it was all part of their master plan. Once the affirmation stops and the well deserved criticism begins it's only a matter of time. They will immediately groom someone else with their victim story. Mine monkey branched to another supply without so much as a conversation. Relish the peace and tranquility of life without the narc, cherish the peace of not waking each day wondering what their mood will be like and what possible 💩 you'll need to deal with, again. Be on your own, Andrew's videos have been very therapeutic, but there are many more. I listen to a self hypnosis video here that's 8 hours. It about recovering from a toxic relationship. I've been listening to it nightly for a about a week now and it has effected a positive change in me. There are countless others as well. Some amazing ones by Michael Sealey. He's unbelievable! Pop in your earbuds, get comfy and reprogram your subconscious. It's wonderful, for real! Peace, strength and self love to all us survivors of narcissistic abuse. Namaste 🙏☮️☮️💪💪😍😍

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this beautiful insight 🙌💯☀️🙏

[@SilverArtemis]

Wow. That comparison to the movie "the shining"! I have to think about it for awhile. There's a creepy reality in that idea.

[@Janeal-Jones]

Thank you

[@are-you-awake-yet]

Hi Steve I absolutely loved your response to her asking you about her hair. Well done!! Keep healing and I know your be so much full of joy and love them ever before

[@steveinspainkap2043]

@@are-you-awake-yet thanks, I'm much further along now and getting my old self back, taking back my power and feeling so good! Man does that bother her! Peace, love and light 😘

[@shaunoftheshred]

The reason towards the end of my relationship that I didn't recognise her behaviour, was she was already mirroring the new supply, she'd been cheating for about 6 months and I could just tell something was more off than what I considered normal. Head was in her phone more than normal only when I was present she looked more uncomfortable using her phone, like paranoid I'd see something I wasn't supposed to. When I finally caught her out for the cheating she emotional didn't respond at all, her lack of response was genuinely scary, wouldn't look me in the eye. The second I called her out as a narcissist she exploded into a tirade, and thats my light bulb moment. I left for good the next day, cut every tie, batted away numerous flying monkeys and a few attempts from her to make contact. Its been 3 months and my inner balance is incredible. I do have ptsd from all the lies, not sleeping, being gaslighted for being "paranoid" etc but it's all flattening out. Thanks for this channel Andrew this stuff really helps people, hope your well

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing Shaun.. I appreciate your kindness and support 💯🙌☀️

[@sgtmuffinbadger6147]

I experienced that same behavior with mine

[@BlackHawk500]

I guess all we can say is love is blind and when we start witnessing the behaviour and we get onto them it’s to late. we have been manipulated for a long time and we didn’t even know it. When I finally accepted the truth of the person who was just an image it was is soul crushing. My movie? It ends well, as I ride off into the sunset.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 🙏🙌💯

[@lynnsmith4929]

Never really knowing them leaves me with a very sinister feeling. Mine was physically, verbally and sexually abusive. That was the last straw. Scares me now as I was weeks from living with him...miles away from my family and friends I another town. I didn't dodge a bullet...I dodged a new clear bomb!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙌😉

[@user-lq7pv3vf9i]

You’re right Andrew. I never knew him ...

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I understand Kayla..💯🙌💯

[@tootienottoofruitie1726]

Never knew them.... BUT now after discard we do have the opportunity to know them... Not a pretty picture guys 🐍💚

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Tootie..🙌🙌💯

[@dawnloscri8355]

When my narc ex used to say nasty things to me, I would say are you looking in the mirror again because everything he said pertained to him not me! It used to drive him crazy!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Well said Dawn.💪💪🙌🙌

[@dawnloscri8355]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Thank you. P.S. I was the one that got pushed way too far. I packed him up and put his stuff out in my driveway and told him to take his stuff and get out and that I never wanted to see him again. He said this is traumatic. I said now you know how I felt trying to make things work with you. That was 3 years ago. No contact. Anyone reading this you can do it!! There is beautiful life after you get them out of your life!!

[@JH-td4mn]

Realising you never knew who the Narcissist really was, unless you count the terrifying, empty gargoyle you see when they have a Narcissistic rage, is one of many scary things you have to get your head around post relationship. This is why it's so hard to rebuild your trust in people going forward.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😉💯🙏

[@pinkposey8134]

Thank you for such a powerful resonating message. That is the game- to not know them- all the while they are discarding treating us like gum under their shoe 24/7.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing Pink Posey 🙌💯

[@carlymcfarly6447]

Omg this is so true!!! Every day I spent with my narc ex he would HAVE to make some weird excuse to leave the house several times, even for like 20 mins, he HAD to do it to ‘gather’ himself or he’d become so anxious. I always thought it was so strange and at first thought he was cheating but no, you’re right..he just couldn’t fake it for too long and needed to reset 😱

[@kimmonks116]

Wow Carly..😐 exactly the same for me..was with malignant narcissist for 28 yrs and it was always..Oh just can't stand being in any longer..going for a run in car..or I'm just gonna go a walk..visit someone so on and on..he absolutely couldn't stand being indoors and would constantly emphasise this..🤨could never keep still and if his friends were around..always stood up talking non stop 😄😂hardly came up for air and I'd be the one catering to his demands..cuppas..etc yet nobody I knew was ever allowed in the home..🙄😬

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Exactly 💯💯💯

[@laurajean1691]

@@kimmonks116 crazy, mine too, always outside wasting family time, even on holidays, it drove me nuts, he'd rather be outside messing around, not really doing anything then being with the kids. Mine was definitely a malignant narcissist also, it makes sense now... they need a break from thier performance act.

[@carlymcfarly6447]

@@kimmonks116 gosh yes!! That stood up talking thing too!! Holding court, all eyes on them! Mine really couldn’t sit still either. Wow it really is so helpful to hear other peoples experiences, I had no idea what I was dealing with and made so many excuses for him (like he said he thought he had ADHD) but no, all narcissistic traits 😣

[@kimmonks116]

Carly 😂😂Adhd lol...mine insisted he's an Empath and got severe OCD to cover up who he really is 🙄😄Omg...they likely all grab attention stood up chatting lol or attention seek very similar way..all classic textbook stuff 😂😂👍

[@vivianalberts1812]

It's like your putting the puzzle pieces into place. Oh hallelujah; get me out of this fog of regret and pain. Namaste, Andrew! Lots of Love👍💕💜❤👊

[@marybrandl7200]

“Hallelujah.” That is exactly what I said after closing the door and walking out of my narc’s home for the last time, 5 weeks ago tonight. There was such a sense of relief, after listening to him berate me once again. Not that there haven’t been some very sad moments since then, but there is far more peace!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 🙌💯☀️🙏

[@vivianalberts1812]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Your welcome❤. Thank you!👊💜

[@vivianalberts1812]

@@marybrandl7200 oh believe me! Your Peace is gonna increase, an the longer your out, the more the fog lifts and the more of yourself you get back. Don't give up now, n don't ever go back! Hang on to the Lord. God bless you💜.

[@denieseransom2380]

OMG! This all makes so much sense. Thankyou. I have just understood the term gaslighting and I can really see that after 18 years with the abusive narcissist that this what I have been involved with. Seeing text and email messages to the new supply is EXACTLY what he said to me to reel me into his sick world. Thankyou for the insight.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏😉💯

[@universalseeker]

Nope (Lightbulb moment) I Never knew him at all. I can say I ended the relationship and moved on. He was acting, cloaking or hiding. Looking back now with these educated videos...It was a nightmare. This is horrific. 🤬

[@newlife2288]

Exactly. Think of the movie 'Catch Me If You Can' with Leonardo DeCarlo. I used to like it but, now it makes me sick. See it once...you'll see a Narcessist.

[@sandralindsay9739]

It is so unfathomable that so many narcissists exiss. I was engaged to him, yet did not feel the excitement I should have felt upon engagemwnt. It is so sickening . I am just glad Iam no longer having my energy & time drained. He is now 67 years old....a pathwtic , empty shell

[@wendyhandley9463]

It's like you were living in an alternative reality all that time. It's very damaging to your mental health when they discard you and you really can't believe what's going on, it defies reason it defies the whole foundation of your reality. I think there must be so many people out there with mental health issues now because of this if they don't know about narcissism. Even when you get educated about it, it's a tough road to trust yourself and trust what reality is. . It truly is so damaging.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 🙌💯💯💯

[@kvdme]

I told my family he was not to have any input into life and death matters with me. This gives me chills, I knew if I was on life support, he would pull the plug. Well his wife got sick in nov. And he pulled the plug. That could have been me. Even her funeral, he lied. He buried her in their family plot as far to the end as you could get. I knew where he owned the plots. His were in the middle. He has no intention of being buried next to her without more room for another wife. He likes the story line for his Facebook feed. It reads like a diary. And social media is a biggie for them. It's like it's thier heart beat. Big clue.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Sending prayers and positive energy to you 💯🙏💯🙌

[@ccarter1203]

My ex would hit the streets for 5, 6 or 7 days smoking crack or meth. i would always ask why he would do that. His response was so I don't feel anything. Just to be numb to everything. Life! He would say to me about the new supply when he was still trying to keep me in the wings "I don't love myself nor could I love anyone else because I don't love myself." What a life to live. What a miserable life! He would have long bouts of depression saying he just doesn't feel anything. Emotionless. He constantly did drugs so that he wouldn't feel or be held accountable for anything that he does or did. Went and got my temporary restraining order today. I'm so happy that there's people out there like you Andrew!♥️💯 To help us the survivors of this abuse. To help us be able to move on with our lives. So that we can be the wonderful people that we were always meant to be. Loving caring compassionate people. Stay strong everyone!!💪💯♥️ Hang in there! You've got this. if you're at the beginning of healing it definitely gets better. We become stronger and you know who you are, when the narc has no clue who they are. What an awful existence to wake up empty everyday.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this C Carter.. 🙌💯☀️

[@jees8128]

A thought I have is that the narcs don’t want you to get too close to their real selves as this could be that they are ‘vulnerable’ like when we were brave enough to be ‘vulnerable’ with them ourselves. They must hate themselves in the first place. And they keep you at arms length so they cannot be seen as weak. When my narc said: “I met someone else” to me, I replied almost without thinking… ‘you are so weak!’ And I blocked him immediately after that!

[@toniaparker3543]

🥺 So very true!! It's very hurtful when you learned that you have invested time in someone that didn't care nor loved you. The awesome news thou God doesn't waste any broken pieces. A lesson well learned thou I'm trying my best to be very cautious!!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌💯😉

[@karenlacy8950]

The narcissist never lets you in. Would never have an intimate relationship. Horrible experience. Thank you. Always a mask.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯😉🙌

[@madelinepalma73]

it was hard to accept that i never knew that person who i share 19 years!!!!!, incredible!! but thank God i woke up and im now in peace and healthy and making my best to improve my life with my kids!!!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful Madeline beautiful 💯🙏😊🙌☀️

[@rhiancudsi9030]

Thank you. It all makes so much sense. Why he could only remember to do things and be a certain way for a limited period of time then snap back just like before. I spent 11 years trying to understand him. No wonder I couldn’t. Thank you for these videos, they’re a life saver 🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏

[@HauntedTube00]

They must have miserable lives

[@davina000]

You just summed up my first marriage! What you say is 100 % accurate.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 🙏🙌💯

[@monicagreen6217]

Andrew honestly I wasn't even familiar with that word, I just knew something was wrong but just couldn't figure, until I came upon your channel. Can't bring myself to understand that human beings can ever be so cold n heartless😰😭😭

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I understand completely Monica .. this takes time to process..💯🙏🙌🙌💯.. continue on the path..💯🙌💪

[@monicagreen6217]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone I'm truly grateful to you 🙏🙏🙏💯💯💯💯💯💯

[@laurajean1691]

They act like whoever they are with. My ex left us (me and our 2 children) in Alaska, moved back home with his parents (enablers) where he told me he never would live there again. He bought a brand new Harley with money he stole from our marriage, had no clue he was interested in motorcycles, then couldn't pay child support because he could only afford Harley payments and his gambling habits. And he claimed to be Christian, we almost froze to death in Alaska. By the grace of God we survived and got out of there.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

My hope is you are healing and improving.. moving forward everyday.. thank you Laura.. 💯🙌☀️🙏

[@PartnerWithAngela]

When the new ex contacted me is when I realised after 21 years I didn't know who the person she was talking about was. Exactly what you said he was mirroring her and being the person he wanted her to see. Funny thing is b4 channels like your I could never articulate why the relationship ended now I have it tied up neatly in a bow. You do such amazing work thank you.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏💯🙌

[@patvass3019]

EXACTLY Andrew! Thank you for this. For me it has been 5 years complete NC and it's still good to get refresher info now and then about what the heck actually happened to me. After coming out of an experience with one of them we will never be the same but much wiser, stronger and, because of channels like yours, able to protect ourselves and our peace. Thanks again. I appreciate your words. Blessings! I envy your sun tan. 🙂🌞

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this insight Pat.. I appreciate your kindness and honesty 💯🙌☀️🙏💪😊

[@spreadthegospel6667]

Yes! I was totally in denial. Saw his true colors eventually. Went no contact! I am so happy it’s over!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙌💯

[@thebigh9635]

Eventually narcs ware out even the most tolerant of empaths , it's a cycle ! The trick is learning how to break free 🙏🙏😎

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Exactly 💯💯

[@nz630]

These videos are so eye opening, the truth is hard to digest but it is something we must do. It is sad when you know for sure that the person you have been married to for three decades is a narcissist, he had all the signs, the cheating, manipulating, causing destruction and many areas of our lives, including finances. I always felt , I did not know who he really is.

[@dianacarter7287]

As usual Andrew you are spot on! You help me so much!❤

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Diana 💯🙌😊☀️

[@alimccreery755]

True I really didn’t know him or the other one. I ended up getting emotionally involved with someone who just wanted friends with benefits. Not my thing, I thought I could handle it but in the end no can do largely because of my core values. So I probably was treated the way he thought I should be treated based on what he was looking for. He treated his last “girlfriend “ whom he lived with and I found out that she kicked him out. No need to wonder why I already get it. I’m still not sure why these other woman agree to stay “friends from a far” . He is from Mexico and I emotionally fell harder than I should have. You know what they say about Latin men, very true and romantic but not realistic. I’m moving on with my healing and repair but I still have one more narcissist in my life to get away from. He has done other more evil crap to me that now I have to work on also repairing myself. I refuse to give him supply and will continue grey rock to the end. Thanks Andrew for another good one. 👍🥰

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this insight Ali..☀️🙌💯

[@thebigh9635]

Had a narc for a boss once too ! No matter how hard I worked , no matter how hard I tried to impress and give of myself , it was never enough , and I would end up feeling so drained and demoralised ! He would ridicule me , never praise , and put me down at every opportunity ! When I tried to defend myself he felt theatened and would attack me verbally ! There were times when we would talk and I felt we had connected , but he was only ever thinking about himself ! Had no choice but to leave eventually , as these suckers NEVER LEARN !!!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I resonate with this message completely 😉😉💯💯

[@shanazi1]

Thanx Andrew I don't think I did really know him but I found out b4 a Yr into it he was robot like liar manipulate me it was scary x🥵👿🤬😡😤😱💝💕

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I understand completely 🙌🙏☀️💯

[@shanazi1]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone thank u 🧜‍♀️

[@maggiesullivan8821]

Nope, and if someone had told me, I would have said, "you are mistaken. No one could possibly be that evil. It would take a psychopath." I would never have realized I had just described my husband.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Agree completely 💯💯💯

[@maggiesullivan8821]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone I have reached a phase in my recovery. It is perhaps the most important part, the thing that did the real damage. It is where the killing blows landed, and this colored my very breath for decades. I am still there to a great extent. It is vital that I heal from this. It is ground zero. This is where the nuclear warhead fell. My existence is a dichotomy of glory and incredible sorrow. Everything I valued, everything I knew was priceless, was attacked, ridiculed, and devalued. I could not protect myself, let alone protect the things I loved from being slapped and smeared. It seemed as though everything good and beautiful was going down in flames, and I couldn't do a thing to help. The grief broke my soul. Norse mythology believes no matter the courageous souls contained within, Valhalla will one day fail. Good will be overcome by evil. This is the type of despair I have lived with so long, I can't distinguish it from reality. This despair is mind killing. No matter how beautiful or exalting, I could feel it slipping away into a failed Valhalla. My anguish was so intense because it wasn't just me going down. It was everything truly valuable everywhere that was passing with me. I have been alone on a path without hope for a long time. Though the source is no longer present, my deformities in my heart, mind, and soul still remain. For all beautiful experiences I have had, there has been a heavy price paid in sorrow. I can't see Van Gogh's Starry Night without sobbing. This mindset is despair and hopelessness. I must heal from this, or I will not survive. If this grief, this destroyer of my very life force is not overcome, there will come a day when the cost of being alive is too great, and I will no longer play the game of life. I am fighting very hard against this.

[@maurdev08]

Shapeshifting is the best description I ever heard!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Maureen 💯🙌🙏☀️

[@luckystaramourangel9345]

This week you taught me about the triangulation technique. This helped me to understand and disengage. Many thanks 💙

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Lucky Star..💯🙌☀️

[@judygregg47]

AS ALWAYS , MANY, MANY THANKS TO YOU, ANDREW!!! GOD BLESS YOU!!! THANK YOU, ALSO, FOR SAYING THE WORDS "I LOVE YOU" IN ALL YOUR VIDEOS!!! IT REALLY MEANS ALOT WHEN YOU DON'T HEAR IT VERY OFTEN AND, SOMEHOW, IT'S HELPING ME TO LEARN THAT I HAVE WORTH!!!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏💯🙌😊

[@ruscle619]

To spice things up... I got masks for the bedroom... she did not like that... it all so clear now... thank you Andrew. ❤️

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😉😉💯

[@1Tmally3]

Through this knowledge on your channel, I have recognized, three different narcs , all the puzzle pieces came together! Someone from my past, that I have had to communicate with, a family member, and a neighbor, with monkeys! Gray stone, boundries! Happy you are here ! It's been a nightmare for me! I would love to have my own island! 🏝❤💯empathy island, not fantasy!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏💯🙌

[@nvk743]

Yes the mask is a big one. One example is my soon to be ex husband was very paranoid and anxious when his sis and best friend would be around without him present. I think he was afraid they might accidentally expose him. He'd come running out from the bathroom or from wherever when we hosted his best friend who asked me a lot of personal questions including my inheritance when my parents are still alive and well. I always wondered how he knew so much, why he asked, and why my husband came running to shut him up. It was very strange behavior from both of them. They had the most insincere friendship too. My husband told me his sis is very jealous of us being married. He successfully created a divide between me and his brothers wife too, I guess so I never find anything out about his toxic family. I got all the information I needed from my own experiences with them all, nobody there was genuine and very insincere to each other

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this Veera..🙏☀️🙌🙌

[@Kat-y7z]

How sad am I that was so duped. 😔

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Continue to become educated..🙌💯

[@alliemarie2005]

After my breakup I didn’t really know about narcissism or the abuse cycle but while we were breaking up, I had a revelation that I didn’t really know him, and that none of our relationship was real. I said this to him and he was taken aback but then doubled down that it had all been real. He chose to lie even during the discard. Even if you don’t understand narcissists, I think our intuition can sense a lot of these things.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 🙏🙌☀️

[@patriciamuench4157]

Excellent video! So spot on!!! God bless you!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Patricia 💯🙌☀️😊

[@kassandrajindrichova7845]

My narc knew just how to behave, what to say and do, but i always felt that he was playing a part, doing things by rote, that he had learned. I wasn't sure if it was genuinely what he wanted to do or if he was doing the perceived right thing. Then I challenged, or had the audacity to question him, and the devaluation started and of course the discard. In hindsight, nothing about him was real. Today, just today, I don't care what he is doing or who his new supply is, I have to save myself. Thank you Andrew for being such a huge part of my healing.🍀

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always 🙏🙌☀️

[@stainless1175able]

Yes, I didn't see who she really was until after she cheated and left. the evil things that came from that woman couldn't have come from someone who actually loved or even cared about me. It took a long time to come to terms with that.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this insight..💯🙌☀️

[@oliveregli4216]

I think you are 100 percent right I didn’t know her and I don’t think I want to know her. She was a great actress who slowly tried to steal me; tried to steal my identity was always competing with me. I am so sorry for her and yes I still care about her. She has a new partner and she has changed her face for him. 100 percent right.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I understand completely ..😉😉💯💯

[@patricesoffer8341]

Wow! You are so right!!!!!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌☀️🙏

[@wendyhandley9463]

The time out that you mention makes a lot of sense. Thank you again for a another thought provoking video.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏😉☀️

[@Gitte585]

Let go, do not use energy on them 🙏 Remember that your energy is where you focus your thoughts and feelings 🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Exactly 💯💯💯

[@OSTARAEB4]

So true Andrew! It becomes glaringly apparent and your eyes are open. I agree I didn’t know these people and they are very secretive but want to know everything about you.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Exactly OSTARAEB4..😉🙌

[@fin1shingtouch1212]

I would see glimpses, but I really got out before the mask totally slipped, and for that I am very grateful. Because like you said in a different video, if people try and warn you would you take their advise? People did try and warn me, and I did not listen...but I was much more fortunate then some. I got out before it became to insane! ♥️♥️🙏🙏👩

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful insight Carol.. thank you for sharing ☀️🙌🙏💯

[@carolineblechasseur7131]

Great video. I don't know if I really knew him (23 years) but I know one thing he did not know me and when I left with the kids to go to the police and had always thought of me and told me I was a useless idiot. Well forgot how smart and resourceful I am.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌💯🙏

[@Phoenix_flying]

I’m still healing, still in shock that another human being could do what he did. I’m hurting but healing. He will never heal. He will never be happy. Poor him.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯🙌🙏

[@rupatiwari5923]

Yes immediately ....but couldn't help the situation as my own mother was the same so it was like jumping from the fire into the frying pan ...

[@stephanieveenstra]

I can relate for the first part of my relationship with a narcissist, but after he couldn't keep up the mask for more people than only me, after that turning point in the relationship, and after we broke up and we had to make arrangements for parenting over our daughter, and even more after that when he jumped off the boat because he went into a psychosis due to his narcissistic traits, it was driving himself crazy because I wasn't there anymore to render his paranoia on, after that happened I could finally sleep at night because something was being done, and I totally saw through him and I could draw how he would react or say or do. He actually came out of psychosis and is doing very well now he has a new girlfriend thank God and I am still here, alive and kicking and I will definitely take your advice at hand in your other video Andrew, to take all this time to set up a livestream to play records and make people dance and feel happy again. Thanks a lot for your advice and tips, explanations and constant videos I appreciate it and here in this great tribe, this great community I feel safe to tell my story. Lots of love from Leeuwarden Netherlands❤❤❤

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 💯🙏🇳🇱🇨🇷🙌

[@toniaparker3543]

I appreciate all of your videos! It makes me more aware of myself to work on myself. I have the bad case of being a EMPATHY really bad. It's so horrible that it's sicking to me. Thanks a trillion for everything love you back. Before I leave it also gets me to look at other traits as well.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏

[@nancyfeke9585]

I thought that the Love Bombing stage, was truly who he was. I thought I could bring that back. I guess I really didn't know him. Yes...it has blown my mind.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing Nancy..💯💯🙌🙌

[@redsquirrel1086]

The narcissist doesn't even know the narcissist so those of us who are/were victims stood no chance.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯🙌😉

[@paulacarlyle4223]

I never knew the man I was married to! He was reserved and rather unassuming. Imagine my surprise when we were at a fund raising event and they asked for a male to get on stage and dance to rock music . He hopped up there and gyrated like a Chippendale stripper! I was gobsmacked!!!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🤔🤔💯

[@dannyle5134]

My own blood brother steals from and lies to me, has lost my trust and cannot hold a valid conversation without being draining, confusing , blowing up and blame shifting with gaslighting going silent for days with no apology and acts like nothing happens

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙌☀️

[@leilagomulka5690]

You have a friend in me , in Connecticut. With all your insight, honesty and truth. Lots of love.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌💯😊

[@leilagomulka5690]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone you are so wonderful. Truly.

[@user-fh6hv4eb56]

One day they may mess with the wrong person. There should have only been one date. Once again you are on point. I thank God I'm not with this person anymore. If I wanted to I could expose who this person is because he or the demon has a social media channel! I'm letting the Lord fight my battles. There were red flags. Follow your first instincts.

[@shivmc4466]

Hi Andrew the narc is doing Excatly this right now but my friend is aware of her she can't stand to be around her it's interesting I have been challenging the narc with all the lies they lie constantly.

[@marilynsmith7833]

So true he only cared about himself.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this insight 🙌☀️💯

[@danielbelcher2700]

Excellent work, sadly I can relate to every Point made in this video. Thank you for your Clarity and insight. You are providing a valuable service. This kind of content will help many many people.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Daniel.. 🙌💯☀️🙏

[@lindyinclusive8163]

Ok but it’s my sister!!! Also every family member has been negatively impacted by her and I’m the last one to notice!! Now it’s Christmas and she’s really checked out completely! She owes me a ton of money but my coach said do I need the money or want it? Ok I want it! Ugh it’s so screwed up Andrew!!!!

[@lindyinclusive8163]

In other words I need to let go of her and let go of the money! I can make that amount snd more!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Hi Linda.. I believe there is a solution here.. I would need more details.. 💯🙌😊

[@bennoble2049]

ROUND 54. Lol. You are spot on…with it all.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

☀️😉🙌

[@laetitiascognamiglio5826]

Exactly , we didn’t really know them and certainly we will never .. It made me smile when you said “ don’t tell a narcissist that he’s an ordinary person” because this is sooo true 😅How many times I heard from him “ I’m special, I’m intelligent, I ‘m a hero “ ( because he survived at his traumatic childhood) Today I even have doubt about all he told me about his past . I never had the opportunity to verify the truth of what he said because he had no contact with his adoptive family … Thank you Andrew for this other great video. Wish you an happy and peaceful weekend in your beautiful place Costa Rica 🇨🇷☀️🌳🌴

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Laetitia I appreciate your insight and kindness 💯🙌🇨🇷☀️☀️😊