Did You Marry in a Catholic Church? If not, You Can and Should!

[@Heggie_Boo]

When I was growing up, my Catholic family said nothing about how to marry through the church. Mind you, my own parents didn't get married in the church but had it convalidated after (my mom called it, getting it "blessed" and I was embarrassed when I was corrected by a priest later in life, like that's the most I knew!) but they didn't even mention about needing to get a dispensation beforehand. Now I'm trying to get mine convalidated or whatever we're able to get so I can get back to my Catholic roots and start raising our kids Catholic and even bring my husband to the faith if he feels led.

[@dariana4247]

I had the same experience. Raised in the catholic church as a child and didn’t know I had to marry a catholic or marry in the church. I just thought being married was enough. Now I’m trying to navigate my faith with an invalidated marriage by the church.

[@Heggie_Boo]

@dariana4247 So, I was told by a Priest who works in Canon Law for our diocese and he stated there's three types - lack of canonical form, mixed marriage, and then radical sanation. Look into those and ask your priest about it. I am personally praying for my husband's conversion because that's where I feel led at this point. It's tough though because I am unable to receive the Eucharist, but at least I can still go up and be blessed by the Priest. Good luck and may God bless you and guide you to what you and your family need. ❤️

[@dariana4247]

@@Heggie_Boo Thank you, I will look into these. Same to you my friend. God bless you and tour family.

[@wakeupnsmellthecoffee]

Where can one find where the Church law/Canon law mentioned in the video. I’d love to get more info, this is very interesting information. God bless you

[@TriciaPalmer-mz3jw]

Please also include radical sanation for retroactive canonical effect if it applies to that couple. Thank you!

[@gwendolynkatz3067]

Your thoughts have been very helpful ✝️❤️. Grace of the sacrament of marriage through the eyes of God .

[@Salamander409]

That was a beautiful video. Thank you Father.

[@user-hw7gm9mn6q]

Thank you , This is very helpful.

[@markford202]

Convalidation was one of the most infuriating things I’ve ever experienced in my life. Most because my now ex-wife was terribly uncooperative. It’s like they make up these rules without thinking of any of the real world implications.

[@andrescervantes414]

Thank you for all this knowledge Father! I know you mentioned being in a valid marriage is a church law and requirement for those of us who are baptized Catholic, but is there a specific book or chapter in our bible where god demands this from us?

[@Sarahbetho]

Check the Catechism. It’ll be there for sure 🥰 we are not sola-scriptura as Catholics (or rely on the Bible alone)😊

[@alicevill2259]

I went through an annulment a few years ago. Then after years decided to get married again in the Catholic church. He was not baptized I was so we had to go through alot of red tape for it to be valid. He had already been civil married but she was catholic so we got all this got figured out. 2 years after my marriage I am now have to seperate from him. Because he abused my girls. So I'm so hurt that I don't even want to go through all the divorce an annulment again!. Please pray for me and help me out with this situation. What should I do. For now there is only seperation I'm moving out. This just happened 3 months ago. But the abused happened 6 years ago. I want to do what pleases the Lord I have forgiven him and my girls are working on that too. They are adults now.

[@Jasmine-King]

Exactly the reason you shouldn’t ever get divorced

[@MarkelBeverley]

What was the reason for your initial divorce ??

[@Sarahbetho]

Praying for you. That sounds incredibly difficult. 1000% speak to your Priest to ask for guidance.

[@F84Thunderjet]

I was married 52 years ago on the beach at Ocracoke, NC. Does the Catholic Church consider my children and grandchildren illegitimate?

[@CK-dp6je]

It’s like a club, with club rules. That’s all. There is no judgement on you and yours.

[@Vasudeva108.]

So I’m in OCIA first day yesterday and my wife from civil marriage was baptized as baby by parents her parents are now Jehovah witness and say not remember what church baptised in as baby. I am not catholic ….trying to be but my wife not want to join church again as of now but willing to marry in church. Will I need her baptism certificate and what if we can’t find the record all we know is she may have been baptised in CA.

[@FlashByz]

My husband, baptized Catholic, was previously married outside the Catholic church. I want to convert to Catholic, was also previously married outside the church. My husband and I were married outside any church at all, no blessings of any kind. What order would I need to convert, get annulments, etc? Would we be allowed to get married in the Catholic church after all that is done? I think renewing our vows correctly would be amazing!

[@merzinaclement4811]

Dear Fr, I want to know if the couple is Roman catholic and is pregnant before marriage and wants to get married in the church before the baby is born. Will the priest get them married asap ?

[@mountainserenity9347]

Great information.

[@Roblobster32]

I guess one thing I am confused about after watching this video is that can’t you follow the Lord God and do your best to serve him unless you are doing it the Catholic Churches way? To someone who isn’t exposed to the Catholic Church but reads scripture and devotes time to prayer and trying to be the best Christian that doesnt count cause it’s not the specific Catholic way?

[@rogersmead_hobbies]

Thank you Father, you’re the first person I could find that explains what to do if you got married without a dispensation.

[@belenequihua3290]

I’m a baptized, communion and confirmation Catholic , and my fiance is non-Catholic he is Muslim. Can I still marry at a Catholic Church for my part? And take holy communion for my part?

[@mayra5118]

I dont have all my sacraments But im married by civil court I was told by the receptionist that I would have to get marry by the church first in order to get my sacraments. Is that right? I thought sacraments like the first communion and confirmation.

[@sweetsighs4u]

Unfortunately, my husband got prostate cancer after we were civilly married for 5 years. We went through the classes for annulment for past marriages which were annulled. Even though we told the priest about him being impotent because of the cancer he failed to tell us that we could never be married in the site of God. We live as brother and sister aka no sex. It's hard and hurts beyond understanding. My husband still went through RCIA and became catholic despite our marriage never being allowed.

[@MarkelBeverley]

Then after the annulment, if he became a Catholic, then you all should be able to get married. If not both, the MAN has to be a confirmed Catholic and you have to promise to raise your children Catholic.

[@SweetThing]

@@MarkelBeverley - I thought only one of the two of the couple had to be Catholic, not just the Man. I've never heard that only the man had to be a confirmed Catholic. That doesn't make sense.

[@MarkelBeverley]

@@SweetThing Both do *not* have to be Catholic because they as still a man and a woman as designed by God. However, since the man is the priest of the home or leader of the home, he must be Catholic for them to marry and they have to agree to raise the kids Catholic. It is still highly advised to marry within your faith. *Now, I am going off of what I was taught in the East (Syriac Church). Also, I was actually told this by a Priest of the Latin Rite Years ago it is possible it has changed*

[@HardestTargett]

We got married in a Christian church but the Catholic Church we visited last Sunday said we are fornicating until we are married in a Catholic Church but I was baptized catholic. Christian is mentioned in the Bible several times but catholic isn’t mentioned once.

[@HardestTargett]

Another that is extremely wierd is that most Catholics in Philippines do not know what Christian means. It’s in the Bible. More than one Catholic there has asked me if I believe in Jesus or read the Bible. They literally never heard of the word Christian!! They only know the word Catholic

[@Harrisonr8688]

Marriage is a covenant which is formed by vows and nothing else. Canonical form did not even exist as a requirement for the vast majority of the catholic church's existence. One of the reasons it started was due to clandestine marriages. That is a moot issue today but they still use it as a loophole just like all of the other annulment loopholes they have created to give people a backdoor way out of a marriage without calling it a divorce. God does not care more about technicalities like the location of a wedding or who was there than he cares about the actual vows and the families and children who are abused by annulments. If it was a first marriage for both of you, then it is valid.

[@rh10033]

This rule makes no sense.

[@CPATuttle]

Thank you #marriage

[@cdmcintyre1854]

The comments that I read some are definitely a solid reason in my mind NOT to be Catholic, also the 10 Commandments are not suggestions and it distinctly says the 7th Day is the Sabbath of the Lord your God. Which day is Sunday? Which day is Saturday? Who changed the Sabbath of God to the sabbath of the Catholic faith? Answer: the Catholic Church in the year 336 AD changed the “Solumnity” from the Seventh Day to the First day. SO the Sabbath of God is Saturday, the sabbath of the Pope is Sunday. History check to see if I lie!

[@1nsaneviper2]

Yes, the Catholic Church has the Authority…. The Gregorian calendar that you use to this day was thanks to the Catholic church. So whether you like it or not it or not, you submit to the Catholic Church.

[@mr.e8432]

Dang! You caught us! I guess I’ll have to change to Protestant now, shucks… 😕

[@felipeelbrujosanchez1257]

Hi father,I'm a bit confused,I hear you say that you need 2 witnesses and a priest or decon and in the church for it to be valid ,now I also heard that if you were married in a protestant church it is also valid you Just need to be baptized,is this true?

[@StMaryCatholicChurchHuntley]

If you or your spouse were baptized Catholic then you would need to marry before a priest or deacon and two witnesses in a Catholic Church. If both parties are not Catholic, then any way you marry (in a Protestant church, before a judge, etc.) and the marriage would be presumed to be valid.

[@rh10033]

​@@StMaryCatholicChurchHuntleyThat is extremely confusing. What is the reasoning behind this? What if someone was baptized into the Roman Catholic Church as an infant, but was never catechized or confirmed.

[@Wgaither1]

@@rh10033There is no reasoning behind this.

[@Cryosmind]

Annulment are not biblical

[@mitchmaverick7491]

Why not just follow God’s Word, also known as the Bible?

[@CriminalJusticeExpert1]

That's too easy. JESUS said His yoke is easy and His burden is light. They would rather give you hard yoke and heavy burdens 😢

[@Wgaither1]

@@CriminalJusticeExpert1lol

[@alfredmartinez4341]

Just more reason why Catholicism is a false religion preaching, "another Gospel," other than the gospel found in the Bible. Jesus lived a perfect life, died a sinners death, resurrected from the dead, and is coming back for His own. Saved through faith alone by grace alone and not through works of sacraments.

[@HardestTargett]

Faith with out works is nothing.

[@beatricepulido]

In order to get the fullness of the one true faith which is the Catholic Church a person needs to get ask the Holy Spirit to help. All books are contained in the Catholic Bible. So if your Bible is missing books you have only partial truth.

[@Jfiurr88]

This is one of the reasons why I am leaving the Catholic Church 🫢😟

[@beatricepulido]

A real Catholic does not leave Jesus in the Eucharist. I no other faith will you find the true Body, blood, soul, and divinity. Get to know your faith. After this short life there is an eternal life.

[@rh10033]

​@@beatricepulidoExcept for the Orthodox and Anglican churches....although I'm sure you'd say just the Orthodox also do...