Differences Between Korean and American Social Manners | Get Real Ep. #45 Highlight

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[@elisamarie2063]

okay!

[@rachelmay674]

peniel is also from the midwest and they’re hella friendly and polite in the midwest. peniel gives off major midwesterner vibes.

[@jennysmith1431]

Yea I live in the Midwest and if we did the things we do here in Korea they would for sure think we're weird. It's actually interesting because when I would have interactions with people that live here, we'd look at each other and smile and say hello. But with people from other continents(Asia or Africa for example), they don't even make eye contact or attempt conversation first. Very interesting cultural differences.

[@establishx97]

I’m pretty sure he’s from Chicago LOL so he is Midwest

[@rachelmay674]

@@establishx97 i know... i’m saying that he gives off those vibes even though he’s not currently in the midwest.

[@antwiwaa9172]

@@jennysmith1431 The example you gave is not exactly true in Africa. Starting a convo? Eye contact? At least not in the parts of Africa I know

[@jennysmith1431]

@@antwiwaa9172 Oh I've never been so I wouldn't know from that perspective. I'm talking about when they come to America. Like during my college days it was alot of people like that.

[@oracion_3734]

In India if your mothers see each other on the road, they can speak for 3 hours even if their houses are close by.

[@rushpink9318]

this applies for fathers too. and god, you have to just stand there until they are done asking every minute detail of the neighbourhood.

[@alexandraurreamosquera5029]

I can relate to this so much even if i not from india but My latina mother!!!! OMG 🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈 she can stay in one place forever!!!!

[@nuvas3242]

Yup and it's the same even if Indian families move to other countries.

[@deepali9384]

Hahahaha so true

[@nottheordinarytype2797]

Moroccan moms can relate too

[@esverker7018]

Moving abroad, I found that the hardest thing to be aware of was definitely body language. Because you do it automatically. I remember watching a clip of Stray Kids saying that Bang Chan makes random cute gestures like bunny ears. And I realized that they had no idea he was doing air quotes.

[@v.v.9.9.]

No fucking wayyy 😭😭😭😭💀 bunny ears???

[@me9981]

Omg what? Why didn't he explain that to them? That's so funny 😂😂😂 hilarious

[@Sky-ht6tv]

Adjdnsuhdbi I thought they were joking an knew the entire time 🤡

[@Laylayyy1011]

Omg where do I find a video of it pls ?

[@gimmeasalad]

That's hilarious!

[@ddzgdt]

peniel: you're the type of people when the waiter or waitress is like oh enjoy your meal, you're like yeah you too! I FEEL CALLED OUT 😩

[@CheerUp2]

Not in a restaurant but I remember one time I was shopping in a store and I finished paying and the lady was like "Thanks for shopping with us!" and I was like "You too!" and then I realized what I said and then ran out of the store lololol

[@Dowoon_is_a_drum]

I can only imagine how many awkward situations I'd be in if I ever went to Korea. As as latina I'm used to say hi to every person I meet, call them "vecino" even if they're stangers, and have random conversations with people I just met in the bus, a queue, while waiting to pay for my groceries etc.

[@danieldeleon45]

Exactly! and at least here in Guatemala, we are used to overcrowded public transportation and we even laugh about it when you look into the eyes of some stranger and you start to have a small chat with them jajaja (ps. nice drum)

[@alexandraurreamosquera5029]

Hahahaha same i'm from Colombia and I used to Say hi to everyone, even thought i don't know them or hold the door for someone hahaha i think it will be hard and people would look at me weird but that's why we as latinos make friends easily i guess hahaha 🥴🥴

[@almariaghern1876]

Same girl same

[@ireneonly]

Exactly in latin america you cant be introverted ahahaha everyone is like.... que te pasa? Dale un besito a las tias!!!!

[@taruchi4991]

Trueee, you always have to greet your neighbors bc if you don't you're gonna be seen as rude lmaooo

[@alissad.8793]

When I lived in Korea, I told all my Korean friends that where I come from, you have to look each other in the eyes when you clink the glasses before drinking, otherwise you'll have seven years of bad sex...and suddenly everyone started looking me in the eyes during the cheers lmao

[@GundamShinobi00]

😂😂 I’m gonna have to use that

[@ninarunne1827]

Wait, are you from Germany? :D

[@ninarunne1827]

Okay, looking through other comments in this section I learned: This is a pretty widespread saying 😂 Still curious where you are from tho :)

[@alissad.8793]

@@ninarunne1827 switzerland but the german-speaking part😉

[@sammygurl637]

Peniel shaking his head when the Drinking culture got brought up.. lol

[@KathleenFeliciano]

That was literally me tho. He was a lot more civil or reserved in his reaction. I scoffed and rolled my eyes. xD

[@v.v.9.9.]

@@KathleenFeliciano as somebody who doesn't drink and despises excessive alcohol consumption AND peer pressuring others to do the same... I too rolled my eyes.

[@KathleenFeliciano]

@@v.v.9.9. are you me? Are we the same person? *insert Spiderman pointing at spiderman meme* 😂

[@v.v.9.9.]

@@KathleenFeliciano omg yes bestie we are twins 😂💗💗 I feel like it's kinda hard to find ppl like us, especially being a young adult. I would be considered "boring", but honestly nobody can force me to do something that I'm not comfortable with. I'm my own person, I don't have to be like everybody else.

[@KathleenFeliciano]

@@v.v.9.9. literally, and it's not like I don't drink bc of some trauma. I just think it's stupid, puts people in more vulnerable positions, and honestly just smells/taste like a**. Regardless, when people try to tell me to drink for fun, I'm like you can't have fun without alcohol? You must be some boring person then. xD All jokes aside, I don't mind when others drink, too much. Like you said, it's the peer pressure and lack of self-control.

[@adhilaaaf3334]

Peniel's story about "first time came to korea" always hilarious sometimes he sounds so lost but sometimes he sounds so happy because has a lot of free pass:"D

[@pollyesterpocket]

BM’s theory about the relation between space and the amount of communication sort of makes sense, but it doesn’t apply to every densely packed city/country. I’m from NYC, and although ppl usually stay in their bubble, it’s not uncommon to say hi or hello to someone in a shop or the elevator, nor is it strange to hold the door open for a stranger. In fact, New Yorkers would get pissed if you slammed the door right in their face lol

[@riyabiya4]

i was thinking about NYC too! we come off as unfriendly (even the nyc suburbs) to other Americans because we won't always say hi or smile as easily to people but we still do it here and there and definitely keep doors open etc

[@anaaraujo3941]

I think him theory make sense but culture influence a lot too

[@planetmarsofficial]

I think that might be because its still a part of the larger us culture, so bc most of the country is more spread out that culture would still exist in more compact cities. Like, in a dense country they'll still have rural areas with the same general cultural norms and behavior as in the cities to a certain extent

[@frecast567]

i was waiting for ashley to say something about that

[@Jen_Z_]

Snoop dog and psy on thumbnail got me 🤣😂😭

[@odwxyz]

"I'm extroverted with my friends, but with strangers I'm just like eeeeee." Pretty much me

[@michellec6273]

I’m introverted, so this might seem weird, but those short moments of small talk and saying hi when I go out actually make me happy even though I’m nervous, because it makes me feel connected to people and remember that there’s a lot of nice peeps out there. Maybe I just feel that way because I hardly go outside, but I like it.

[@lullabyali]

Yeah, even though I am awkward af, I like those moments.

[@yappaccino888]

in South Africa , it’s completely normal to talk to strangers as if they are your close friends you’ve known for years. i cannot imagine the awkward situations i’d be in it i ever went to Korea lol

[@ofentsemusi4422]

Hey my fellow South African and yeh thats true

[@abeedahfarjan]

fellow south african 😁 definitely that's completely normal here

[@allanafreitas8491]

In Brazil too

[@sandakubisa3492]

Also a South African. It would be sorta weird not being able to complain about prices with strangers whilst queuing

[@jadereacts5338]

I was just thinking this. Also the drinking habits... I'll get myself into all kinds of kak situations over there😂

[@getrealwithsara8602]

is it just me who wonders what peniel's dongsaengs on kingdom talk to him about

[@ginaverso]

You're definitely not the only one 🤔😊

[@liliveliz4153]

Knowing Mnet, they don't talk 🤷‍♀️

[@ginaverso]

@@liliveliz4153 at least they did the sports competition, maybe they talked a little bit there

[@getrealwithsara8602]

@@ginaverso hopefully i mean we can see them cheering each other on but I wanna see funnier and awkward moments lol like in rtk

[@liliveliz4153]

@Cece if they don't they can be blacklisted off any Mnet show . . .

[@huangrenjunism]

i’m a really shy person, but i also tend to nod, smile, hold doors, or do any other basic greeting to strangers just out of politeness i guess?? so i can’t tell if i would love or dislike being in korea LOL

[@roses7659]

My friend did a study abroad in Korea a few years ago. She said she would see people on the streets and be polite to say hi or smile but they never did it back and she felt offended. She didn't know why that was and now it makes sense after this video haha. I guess Koreans are not super friendly unless you know them personally? But Peniel's stories were pretty much true...in America just being kind and curtious is a part of our culture and it must feel strange to not be acknowledge that way in Korea haha.

[@munalisaaa8560]

I feel like a big part of why they ignore people is because of the cults. There are so much crazy cult people that will try to recruit you on the streets in Korea so ig they just ignore everyone lol

[@Brit15102]

I’m from the south and you can’t avoid small talk especially in a small town. You see everyone and their mama in the store 😅

[@t.michelle8252]

BRUH! I HATE going to the store with my grandparents because they both worked for the town so they know EVERYBODY lol. One time I went with my grandpa and he talked to this man for like an hour told him my whole life story and everything and then after he left he was like oh yeah that’s the mayor. I was like WHAT? 😭😭

[@heathergleiser]

Lmao, true! Like I got my second vaccine dose on Tuesday and one of the nurses didn’t say hi to me, she just went “you work at[store I help manage], you’ve checked me out before!” so there I was having to make small talk while getting the shot. 😂

[@t.michelle8252]

@@heathergleiser omg the same thing happened to me when I got my second shot the lady was like “are you related to so and so?” And I was like yeah that’s my grandpa. She was like Hey I’m your cousin! and then stuck me with the needle😂😂

[@heathergleiser]

@@t.michelle8252 😂😂

[@sanvipatra1691]

yeah it is new zealand where the houses are like 5 min apart. its a very beautiful country.

[@sanvipatra1691]

@Emma Scrivener ohh ok !

[@Berry-rb2rx]

I really want to live in New Zealand

[@reinagrace4556]

@@Berry-rb2rx It’s beautiful and safe here it’s just buying a house is super expensive it’s ridiculous 😭

[@Berry-rb2rx]

@@reinagrace4556 I will sell my kidney 😁😁😂😂 and buy the house

[@emmasmith1392]

BM is so analytical about everything, I love it.

[@life_withandy]

I’m from New Zealand in Korea. 😂 I held a door open at a convenience store for someone too and I got the same reaction Peniel did 😂 I’m still getting used to the differences especially if I make eye contact with someone! If you live in the suburbs or rural New Zealand, people would usually say hi and talk briefly but in the CBD of a city they wouldn’t.

[@andreaeli]

I'm from Latin América and I'm super shy like extremely shy but even when I'm like this I have no problem with "small talk" I guess in my country is such a normal thing to do that I just play along without feeling awkward, but I understand it can be uncomfortable for other people to do it.

[@anaaraujo3941]

Same

[@dudaljkk]

in Brazil everyone talks informally with everyone and this is completely normal,we only talk formally with police and judges or with teachers sometimes...Drink is the same,we don’t have rules like in Korea :)

[@xXJAng3lXxx]

I'm so shy of strangers, Korea sounds like the perfect place to visit lol

[@sylvanus2554]

My introverted self related to Ashley so much, I do not like small talk and I’m pretty bad at it. I do my best to avoid eye contact unless I’m super comfortable with that person or if I have a hard time hearing them

[@Laylayyy1011]

I’m from New Zealand lol Hi! I just want to speak on what BM said about us. So in NZ we’re quiet diverse with cultures and some of the main cultures here are from the Pacific Islands eg. Maori (NZ indigenous culture) Samoa 🇼🇸 ,Tonga 🇹🇴etc. In those cultures they value community & Families. So they’ve grown up to be friendly, kind and to be inclusive even with strangers. How that relates to what BM said is that if we see someone we know then yes convos can take up to 20mins because it’s nice to check in with them to see how life is etc. If we don’t know them we do a lot of what you guys call ‘small talk’ or head nods / eye brow raises or smile to say Hi if our eyes meet. In NZ and especially those cultures I mentioned before everyone knows everyone, even if you live on the other end of the country. We are all well connected over here. Also NZ culture is laidback and friendlier than others - We’re built different lmao. I couldn’t image being in a society where it’s considered weird to do those gestures or start up convos with strangers. I guess we’re blessed. Come over sometime you’ll love it here 🇳🇿 ps. Any Kiwi can add on in the comments - Chur lol

[@leastselfawarepotassium]

Kiaora to that.

[@chuxbp]

Hi! I just want to say NZ is one of my dream destinations. Great place with great people.

[@darkrayc]

Kia Ora to another brother/sister! In the bigger cities (as in Auckland, Christchurch and Wellington), door to door can be like other busy cities in the world). We dont all live in the rural areas. But the fact that strangers or neighbours can chat after meeting on the streets, thats defos us. I used to chat with strangers walking on the same path, towards the same direction, or find a friend and catch up with them till we had to go.

[@mahuny27]

Kia Ora! From Rotorua 🇳🇿 wow I never thought we have a crowd from NZ watching Get Real 😻

[@fridaxmomo4968]

Peniel will be like: elder guy: hey pour me a drink peniel: mm ok.. *pours drink and get some glasses out of nowhere* SHOT SHOT SHOT YOU CAN DO IT SHOT SHOT

[@skylar9098]

I think bm is right about the space thing. in the southern part of the u.s.--even in the cities--everything's bigger and more spaced out. and for that, I think it's much more friendly, saying hi to passerbys is extremely normal, and conversations b/w strangers is also normal. when I lived in MA and visited cities up north, everyone is relatively to themselves.

[@skylar9098]

also: when I visited my friends out west (where everything is also less compact and spaced out) everyone was relatively friendly and much more apt to speak to strangers than what I encountered up north in cities like boston, new york, and even D.C.

[@veryclaro]

Valid point, on space being a factor, BM! When you're surrounded by more people, you tend to want to keep as much quiet and space for yourself, that's maybe why people in Korea choose to mind their own business and that's not a bad thing. Can be an example of 'negative politeness', which is common in (east) Asian countries. Basically the concept of being respectful/polite is to hold back, vs in other cultures (e.g. America) -- to be polite is to be explicit about your intent to be polite (greeting people, doing certain gestures, aka 'positive politeness'). Warmth is felt through someone's expression of it, not by withholding and the need to express inclusion is stronger. Giving people their own space to be alone may seem like a bad thing because it may give the impression that they’re being excluded.

[@thirteentolive]

When Peniel shared his story about not receiving a "thanks" when he opened the door for someone, it made me think about the time when I was in South Korea. As a French person I'm used to greet everyone when I enter a store / say thank you and good bye systematically after I buy something because in France, if you don't do those things you're considered impolite. One day, one of my Korean friends asked me "Why do you always say "thank you, good bye" to salespersons in stores ?" and I was really taken aback, I didn't know what to say lmao He explained that in Korea you could just grab your things and go, and I realized after that a lot of Korean ppl would do that, especially in convenience stores

[@kordlino8796]

I get the feeling that the drinking culture in Korea is much more advanced and almost like a ritual. And then there's Germany where you scream to each other's faces before drinking a whole litre of beer with the age of 16... And I think both is beautiful

[@ashira5918]

I think I like tht better

[@rosepetal0208]

Even just different places in America are so different. I moved from a city in the Southeast to a city in the Northeast and in the South people are much more likely to casually interact with each other (like Peniel was saying about saying hi with eye contact) but then in the place I moved to it's much more like "why are you talking to me?"

[@AstarionWifey]

Seattle definitely shares the same “don’t talk to me” vibes of Korea

[@fatimakaoukab2385]

HERE in morocco even if the country is not so big but we treat each other like brothers sisters , u could say hi to ppl even if u don't actually know them .

[@anushakulkarni5177]

8:35 drinking culture in korea is very interesting. I think drinking while turning away is maybe the sign of respect you give to your elders on the table I guess. Wish we could drink freely in India too.

[@ojaswdk944]

You cannot drink openly in India. People with whom you can drink openly are your friends. So there are very few manners you need to follow which are actually fun while drinking. If your parents know and you can drink with them is very rare case. Also socially we have so mixed habits. I think take American and European habits and and mix them with Asian habits and there you go those makes our Indian habits.

[@anushakulkarni5177]

@@ojaswdk944 trueeee

[@LOVER_LINK]

my korean/japanese friend described the culture as, polite/kind but not friendly and america as friendly but not polite/kind

[@me9981]

That's really interesting. I'm from Europe and have quite a few japanese friends and profesors and all of them are really polite, kind AND FRIENDLY...but when I traveled to Japan I've realised that this description of them as polite and kind but kinda not friendly (i dont like to generalise but let's do it here) could be true. Don't know anything about US though...

[@BlueMeaney49]

Perhaps it's THEIR version of what they consider polite/kind in their culture. There are polite/kind people in every culture, just as there are rude ones. I had to work with a Japanese man on occasion years ago...most incredibly rude, nasty man I've ever met. His replacement though was the most kind-hearted, gentle soul.

[@osamelogomel9337]

OMG i can relate to ashley "please don't talk to me please don't talk to me"

[@capa3048]

In my country they say if you don't look the other person in the eyes when saying "cheers" you are going to have bad sex for the next 3 years.. I always thought that was a bit extreme but some of my friends take it as a given and even get a little upset if I don't look them in the eyes

[@doriannepontez9757]

😅😅😅😅 wow, this is gold. Which country are you from?

[@capa3048]

@@doriannepontez9757 Germany (as far as i know the sex part is typical for the north where I am from)

[@bt6ixworld986]

typical Germany :D (I'm from Germany too)

[@Laylayyy1011]

I don’t think that human interaction is ‘ yearned ‘ for here in New Zealand. If anything we’re just a really tight knit country where community is valued and we are more open to communicating with each-others whether we know each-other or not. Not saying Hi / smiling / doing a head nod or a eyebrow raise to someone if your eyes meet is pretty rude or you’ll come off snobbish / stuck up lol

[@sm0rses]

Aww no more pH-1 feature, but still loving the og3

[@stayhoodie7860]

In Central Asia we say hi to strangers if our eyes meet but we do that in case those people are like our neighbors or relatives and we don’t remember them. So when I came to Korea I only greeted like employees at places I went to and that was a big relief. I feel like Korea is perfect for introverts, provided they have some social circle for support. Cause it’s kinda hard to make friends if you don’t know anyone

[@m.o4936]

I'm a Muslim Arab. we also have the respect culture but without specifics in naming and gestures like Korea. here are a few of our prophet's sayings about these topics: "A man asked the Messenger of Allah (May peace be upon him): When aspect of Islam is best? He replied: that you should provide food and greet both those you know and those you do not know." Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: "He is not one of us who does not show mercy to younger ones and does not acknowledge the honor due to our elders".

[@madoreszb1]

drinking cultures around the world are so interesting to me because they are so different everywhere. In Germany we look into each others eyes when we cheer and the legal drinking age for beer & wine is 16 however teenagers often start drinking at like age 13-14 :O

[@capa3048]

Honestly I feel so weird look others in the eyes *struggles in German*

[@genesprouts]

Dang 16?? That’s so young I’m 18 and I still need to wait 3 years to drink but also I’m not interested in drinking so no rush.

[@madoreszb1]

@@genesprouts yeah it's really normalized for teenagers to go partying and drinking at such a young age all over europe i think, it's really interesting that it's different for other cultures haha

[@angelinam0370]

@@madoreszb1 I think it's also very normalized here to drink at such a young age because for e.g. in villages there is nothing to do there, the only events are Kirmes (idk what the English translation is). So it's kind of a hobby.

[@AmyAmbos]

👀 in France 🇫🇷 yes you look in the eyes of the person you do the cheers with but then when you drink you stop looking 🤣. It’s like bad luck if you don’t

[@durvashibhatt8995]

I don't think it's about space, I think it's just culture. In india even tho our population is high and everyone lives quite close to each other but if we said hello to a complete stranger it will be weird just like korea. Unless you r living in the same society and sometimes in trains

[@aditiyadav918]

That's what Matt said...he said places with high density tend to not greet each and everyone around them unless you know them( like Korea, India) whereas in paces that are less crowded people greet almost everyone... So ig yeah it's a space thing... I think you misunderstood a little, Don't know if I could get my point through😅 And well yeah, I could be wrong😅

[@durvashibhatt8995]

@@aditiyadav918 ohh yaa right I did misunderstand a little 😅 tho what peniel said might also be true that since America has larger land the population might also be higher. Like LA and NY where they grew up it's pretty crowded

[@aditiyadav918]

@@durvashibhatt8995 Haan actually...what peniel said can be correct as well

[@amiraayachi5721]

A couple of days go I was babysitting some kids and their mom wished me good luck for your exams and I said oh thank you and u too 😭🤡

[@wenawena709]

Sungjae just addressing Peniel as 'Peniel', kinda (rarely with Hyung) and then I recently saw again in my newsfeed the Master in the House episode clip of Sungjae calling Peniel and he has to use formal language. 🤣 You get a hint this hierarchy is not their thing..

[@suna_rintarouweneedmemorie4639]

pls peniel talking abt greeting random ppl is so relatable! like where i come from it's natural to see ppl in the street and greet them like "hello" or "good morning/evening/afternoon/ect." but now i moved and ppl just give me weird stares when i say "hello" or something to them as if I'm some kinda creep or something 😂😭✋🏻 so i stopped greeting ppl and now when i go visit home it became natural for me to not greet ppl and ppl think im rude-💀😭

[@yoongilovingxicana5586]

bm's theory is sound. especially if ur from california (minus sf) cause yeah we have a lot of people, but we have even more space, so people rarely have to be close to eachother. i go to starbucks in north hollywood every day & the chances of someone being at the door at the same time with me is soooo rare that of course i hold the door open. but if the city was always crowded & people were always right behind u or right in front... yeah... holding a door open multiple times a day for strangers would get old fast lol

[@dementedchris]

I say hi to everyone I meet on the trail because they might be the last person to see me in case I get eaten by a bear 😅

[@DomoLovesNina]

i love how inquisitive BM is about everything hahaha i never really think about that stuff but now he’s got me thinking 🤔

[@nuvas3242]

Funny how this was the first thing I saw after going out on a walk in my american neighborhood and being socially awkward about what distance I should wave and say hello to other random pple walking.

[@nj123mk]

idk, i am from Europe and here even if we live in apartments, we do small talks, we also talk with strangers.. kinda warmhearted. when we drink we do chears looking into eyes, its like some sort of respect. when i was in Korea, my friends were older than me and i was sitting in the middle so either way i look there was someone older than me so at the end i turned my back to every one and drank with my back facing the table😅🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@skippykipper101]

I went to Korea a couple years ago and felt like people were very cold there because they wouldn't make eye contact or respond if I said hello while passing them. I wish I saw this video before then because now it all makes sense! They weren't cold, it just isn't culturally normative to say hi and act friendly to strangers!

[@yayorabulan]

Americans saying hi to everyone is also a little strange here in the Philippines. But most Filipinos look high up on Americans, so we feel great when they greet us.

[@elzamonbebe1612]

As someone from New Zealand we do say hey to everyone or good morning/ good afternoon but we won't have full length conversations with them! Maybe sometimes might just say a few passing words like enjoy the weather or have a nice rest of your day but nothing crazy long.

[@sammygurl637]

ASHLEY HAIR COLOR THOU ♡_♡

[@queenofkwangya5334]

I plan on visiting Korea some day and I know I'm going to STRUGGLE because in South Africa it's so normal to greet people you don't know and be polite lol, even if it's just a nod when you walk past someone on the street. Something as simple as thanking the driver when you get off the bus. I'd feel awful NOT doing that because that's how I was raised.

[@melikayahaghi5399]

Oh I moved to Texas a few years ago and they’re all about small talks and getting into your business and that made my introverted ass uncomfortable for the longest time but I got used to it 🤣

[@klo1717]

Haha, when I first went to Korea, I said "hi" to everyone I made eye contact with the on streets. LOL! It was like a one month later that it clicked why people were always giving me weird looks. I was such an unintentional creep. LOL!! It was such a hard habit to stop though. My bad!

[@linaha3902]

I didn't know that peniel don't drink.. Cuz I don't drink too and people look at me like I'm from another planet.. It's so cool that people are doing their own thing by choosing doing things differently than others.. Plz be respectful when Ppl tells you they don't do that particular thing even tho it's "common" in your opinion.. I admire peniel even more now cuz he's not effected by anyone's telling him otherwise..

[@acciosharpie4441]

peniel is a babie 😭💙

[@miniryou6904]

Korea's anti-social would fit my ass perfectly. lmao

[@paco100x]

Does it seem like the Korean culture is moving away from being so formal? I'm not Korean but I wonder if it's an older generation thing or if its still going strong. Also, Ashley's hair color looks good 👍

[@sonhuynh943]

Still going strong imo. Korean is very difficult to learn becuz it has many degrees of formality. You can't drop formality if the person doesn't allow you to. You have to use the right formality in the specific situation. And many more things to notice if you wanna have any proper conversation with native Korean. As a Asian myself, I can't find any other Asian country that has higher level of formality system than Korea XD.

[@summerladner180]

Cool. I like the respect mindfulness. It’s going down here in states.

[@almariaghern1876]

@@summerladner180 yeah but I feel it's kinda too much(?) Idk, like the example they give about Korean drinking culture, I feel like I would have an headache because I have to learn all that 😅

[@GundamShinobi00]

Depends. When I visited for a couple months, everyone was super informal with me (which I like). That being said, I’m not Korean.

[@mmjjnn0]

@@sonhuynh943 level of language formality also happened in indonesia but only if you speak with local language. The way you speak to your self, your friend, your parent, your parent's friend, or even your friend's parent have a different level of formality and it soooo difficult 😅

[@marlynrodri689]

I’m from Puerto Rico and in the Island like 85% of the people are very outgoing, friendly, is super normal to speak to like everyone even without knowing the person and it doesn’t matter the age, you can hangout and drink like around a lots of people and dance and say hi and is so normal, but is about the culture, so I think is important to search and educate yourself before going to others countries because you can be awkward and maybe get in trouble because of culture differences

[@mimiandy1683]

If a production decides to make a reality TV show, in which several Koreans are placed in an American Southern town for several months… I would watch it.

[@darlinchris1303]

In South Africa we have a thing where you have to make eye contact before taking a shot otherwise you get bad sex for 10 years. I don’t know why or how this started but it’s a thing 😂

[@tanita6234]

Being from latin America is really something else, even tho we joke ALL the time (sometimes is not a joke lol) with wanting to leave, still I don't think I will EVER be as comfortable as I am with my culture if I go somewhere else, is soo warm, nice, funny and happy even in the hardest times, meeting someone and kiss them, having conversations like you have known them forever, being able to make friends surprisedly fast, being able to talk with strangers on the streets about the weather or how much we hate our government, hugging, heating, laughing, dancing, everything is just, you get it when you live here, i will always be grateful for being born in such a culture, even if Im obligated to leave someday, I woul choose being born in Argentina a hundred times.

[@RMe0t7]

I am from New Zealand and yes we are a friendly people in terms of greet with a smile or grin or even a hello and how’s your day, just small talk or no talk, I won’t say we stop and chat to strangers for 20 mins actually to do that must mean there is an obvious curiosity toward each other or a genuine friendliness or even desire to know more, it must be a mutual reaction or strong curiosity

[@Amanda-xx3fx]

the one small talk thing i had to get used to was people greeting you with "how are you?" i'm grew up in an asian household in a predominantly asian community so i didn't have a lot of practice when it came to small talk. it took me so long to realize that (usually) people aren't genuinely interested in how you are doing, but it can be used as a jumping off point to more small talk.

[@LaceyLonon]

Wooow... I just realized how polite people are in America LIKE I KNEW CUZ I LIVE HERE but dang it may be seen as weird in other places like they said

[@zarat6218]

New York is similar, everyone ignore the other person

[@khadheejaazad8411]

Ashley is such a mood

[@kaleni_r]

I live in New Zealand 😂😆😂 the story BM has about New Zealand. I can't with the 5mins apart 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@popseulgi]

ASHLEY U LOOK SO GOOD!! THE HAIRR

[@BunchOfRandomness]

bm is from the westcoast where people are more casually relaxed and hippy, peniel is from the suburb of midwest where its all abt being polite and friendly to the dot. i just love hearing his korean culture shock and first time stories and how he gets away with it because he’s the kid from america, a gyupo.. my favorite was when he attended highschool in korea. the nametag and all.. i know it comes with the idol thing but it must be hard to adjust with all the 360 difference in culture no matter how korean they are. Glad they found each other though

[@applepie8527]

When drinking alcool🍻, to cheer while doing eyes contact is really common in belgium🇧🇪 👀〰️👀 (if not "bad luck happens"..) but if it's not with close friends, I feel so uncomfortable when I have to do that..🤷‍♀️

[@coraliensb]

eyy belgium squad !!

[@applepie8527]

@@coraliensb coucou👐👐

[@AniMin82]

Oh hello fellow Belgians 🙋‍♀️😊

[@applepie8527]

@@AniMin82 salut/hallo!yayy the belgium squad is getting bigger🙆‍♀️

[@SoleS26]

I'm from New Zealand and yes we do sometimes talk to rendom people like we know them for years. We are just friendly people.

[@angellynn3938]

In Malaysia we call elderly man/woman aunty uncle..😄 even if we don't really know them/related to them.

[@stayforever9332]

In India some people, give drinks to 13-14 y/o boys sometime, I don’t know if other Indians do this but my family did that to my uncles when they were younger, they didn’t give that much, just a sip. Also if woman drink, people don’t like that in Indian culture

[@BusraLilah]

Ive never been to Korea yet, however I feel like Korea is more sociable and expressive than the other countries. I might be wrong, I don't know. In Australia, in regional towns people here are more laid back and people can be very independent whilst in the cities. Over 90% of us live so close to the coasts.

[@charikwon3234]

Wow this topic is really interesting. Now anticipating the full episode 😊

[@selenadeleroza2053]

Ya true in New Zealand we are five minutes apart but we don’t have 20 min convos but we do acknowledge each other’s existence and say hi we also gift each other on like public holidays like my fam is Muslim so for eid we give some nice gifts to our neighbors in our street n they do the same on like Diwali or Christmas or the Jewish holiday it’s a nice vibe ☺️

[@beto10520]

I love peniel so much

[@juliasantana4926]

in Brazil is SO DIFFERENT you have to say hi to everyone otherwise you're seen as disrespectful, specially in workplaces or schools, you should say hi to all the employees and students, or at least do a nod/little smile and it's also very common to do small talk everywhere: lines, public transportation, waiting rooms... you just do, and it can last like hours and then you don't ever see them again and if we meet someone we know in the street, we not only spend an hour talking, but we invite them to our house to eat anyways

[@emems6620]

I would be so awkward lol In Italy, if they are not creeps I like to let someone sit or chat at the stop or on the bus , I’m really sociable and I like to smile at ppl + if there is good weather we would speak on the streets too

[@barleigh234]

Such a great point about how space is different here in the US. In America, the level of friendliness ranges so drastically between the big cities and the country. In small towns, you nod at everyone you pass, you’re expected to small talk, and strangers are overly polite even when having conflicts (with a “bless your heart” actually means “f you” kind of sarcasm). I grew up in the Midwest where people literally say “yeah no” when they mean “no” 😂 In contrast, urban areas like New York are notorious for being straight-talking, dog eat dog worlds where people are stereotypically grumpy and unhelpful, pointedly ignoring tourists who ask for directions and stuff lol

[@joonscrab137]

Me as north African I know I would suffer if I went to Korea, we're used to say hi to ppl and talk to neighborhoods for hours

[@RhythmAddictedState]

In France we're supposed to look into each other's eyes as we raise our glasses, but it's always scared me even though I'm French lol

[@miniryou6904]

I also thought people in Korea said hello if you accidentally meet eyes because everyone always bows and all of that to everyone (I have seen on shows.) but I guess that's good they don't do it if they don't know you bc I'm introverted and I know I might come across as rude since I never say "hello" in my country. my country is pretty similar to America so yeah. I can really relate to Ashly here also I'm so shy so that also adds to me being even more introverted OTL

[@thatsvickiIRL]

Think the face away thing (KR) has to do with respect, usually wine is associated with older folks or your boss etc so naturally(without thinking) you do it out of respect 😊

[@LiveLoveErika]

cant wait for this episode! i also look forward to get real episodes

[@vanessascarin]

Her hair thing is so cool

[@tazzii3020]

New Zealand cities are not like that lol. My neighbours are about 10meters away and I've never had a conversations with them. Our rural areas are a bit different. Small town syndrome. Everyone knoes everyone.

[@RMe0t7]

Interesting topics you guys, I’ve always been fascinated in the Korean culture and one actually learns much of it through the dramas but I have to say it seems all the different do’s and don’t that is practiced within the Korean culture must have explanations to them like why? Who made these rules? And how long has it been a practice and are they actual social barriers

[@metroglode1305]

OMGGGG THAT SOOOO HAPPENS HERE IN NEW ZEALAND!!!🤣🤣🤣 is that not normal around the world?😱 it doesn’t always happen but most of the time people literally stop whether on the sidewalk or in the supermarkets to have a full on conversation😂

[@metroglode1305]

NZ also has a lost of different culture so it depends but it’s also apart of our culture to not only acknowledge people around you but have a somewhat meaningful convo

[@ginaverso]

Ashley Choi, you look ✨fabolous ✨ wearing that sweater with that hairstyle. 💖

[@partypascall1467]

In New Zealand, if you live rural areas their can be a big gap between you and your neighbours so convocations are long but mostly happen in the closest town. You never go out walking because distances are to far and you are probably going to get something, groceries, animal food etc In more densely populated areas like cities it's just the same as America is being described. You do stop and have a quick convo to people you do know though

[@kalyn319]

LMAO I always way stuff like that to service people! Like after getting a haircut/color and leaving the gal said enjoy the new cut/color and I told her 'you too' just like at restaurants when the servers say enjoy your meal.... lol

[@rocacore]

drinking culture is so weird for me? Like as a latina or maybr just my family we all drink normally? Like as if we were drinking a non alcoholic beverage, maybe its just that usually the firsy time you drink with your family everyone usually its like _"Oh my god they drink with us, they are of age now!"_ and that's all

[@charlotteensor]

😂😂😂 That's very small town NZ. Although admittedly, even in the city it's generally polite/friendly to greet people on the street. I did feel rude when I had to say no to a conversation with an acquaintance on the street cos I was in a rush. Small town NZ is definitely more of the full conversation thing, but probably because everyone knows everyone.