DISCIPLINE - The D Word! | Ellie and Jared Podcast 004

[@avy8907]

“Wise people learn from experience. Super wise people learn from other people’s experience.” Yes!! I totally agree!

[@wanfatimah9199]

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[@dayabfhhnara4362]

W3ee and the kids

[@carolkranawetter4044]

I wouldn't be "listening" to your podcast unless it was in this format.

[@heathersmithson3782]

Carol Kranawetter same, I only watch on KZbin 😊

[@natalieheidgerken]

I am loving these podcasts! I was never grounded because my mom always said “If I am mad at you, I don’t want you stuck in the house with me.” 😂 I am sure this is only one reason for not grounding but it always cracked me up. You guys are such great parents!

[@chrissagen8066]

I totally agree with you Ellie about grounding - totally take care of it that moment and be done - life is too short 💖

[@coloradolefty]

I love how you guys talked about making sure you praise your kids. I have been making a really big effort to tell my son when I am proud of him and why and I've noticed it's started working because he has now started to tell ME that he's proud of me lol. It's so dang cute. He just lights up when I make sure to single him out and tell him how proud I am of how well behaved he was at a party or at the store for example.

[@micheleelliott8256]

I am way older than you both but I really enjoyed hearing your thoughts. You gave a lot to think about. I enjoyed hearing what you both learned from your parents growing up. Ellie, I adore your parents, especially your mom. Don't get me wrong, I love my mother and I am grateful for the influence my mom has had and still has in my life. I don't mean this to sound disrespectful to my mom at all but your mom is the kind of "older" woman that I would love to walk alongside me in life as an encourager/mentor. She seems so genuine and precious and so full of wisdom. Ellie and Jared, you both are doing a great job with your family. You both have learned from great parents! ❤

[@Karmacalifornia67]

Love this for new parents guidelines you have and let them adjust to what fits and works for their family.

[@krystlerodriguez2407]

This was my first podcast I ever heard in my life and I loved this! Especially this topic! My husband and I don't have any kids but I have nephews that are under 10 and o definitely learned a thing of two! You both are amazing parents and definitely look up to you and your family. Family as in your siblings and parents. Can't wait to get the cookbook! God bless!

[@randijohnson5774]

It's such a sensitive subject to discuss. I enjoy that you guys go in depth and I fully agree with communication. I was never grounded or spanked and I think that's what really helped us grow up to be the way we are. My mom would sit us down and communicate why it was that way. I feel like our children should never be afraid of us, but more use us to guide them.

[@AphroditeD]

Thank you Ellie and Jared for this podcast! Although I disagree with a lot of the ways you were disciplined as children, I still find your views interesting. I especially love what your dad did Ellie when all of you would be there when one of you was in trouble. In my opinion, taking a deep breath and removing yourself from the situation for a minute for example when your kids do not listen is probably the best thing to do. Because as Jared said, you cannot be rational when you're upset. I am totally against swearing, spanking or using any other form of violence as a disciplinary method. But I know that parenting is hard and that disciplining your kids is even harder.

[@elizabritton4039]

That beautiful painting and awesome positive vibes are motivation that I need. Thankyou.

[@KGmusicministry]

If my daughter is having a hard time gaining emotional control, I send her to het room to "read and calm down." She gets to look through her books and relax in her own space. It really does help her calm down.

[@bellabrooksmay5612]

I have three girls 6,2, & new (born on june 1st 2018) and I have been waiting for this video forever 😍 --- thank you.

[@morganeroos-carreira9972]

i should listen to this podcast with a notebook. I love the way Ellie's mom parented in so many ways. She is a great teacher for you (Ellie).

[@KalynJewel]

I love these podcasts! I listen and then watch when you post them. I love your take on discipline and parenting in general. I think everyone takes things from their childhood and changes some parts and keep others. I have a very similar take to you both, except I never considered not grounding my kids someday when they are older. I got grounded a handful of times but I actually really liked your view on it. Made me re think or think at all about it I guess. Thank you!

[@samanthao9870]

I would love if you guys did a podcast about your faith and that whole aspect of your lives! Really enjoying this podcast!

[@elizabritton4039]

I know you don't want to show screenshots of the inside of the book. Because we could see the recipes. But can we see a list of all of the recipes please.

[@abbigailneuharth9150]

Yes! I want to know atleast the types of recipes I would be getting. Because I am NOT paying for things like those Hawaiian Haystacks that Bonnie showed on her channel.

[@elizabritton4039]

Abbigail Neuharth , I know they have a lot of good ones. I just want to see the list.

[@theresearnesen8852]

I would love it if you guys talked a bit about your religion. In sweden where i live mormons are very rare and I would love it if you could explain a bit about it and how you apply it into your daily lives. What does it mean to you, do you guys have cetrain "rules" you live by? All I know is when my cousin got married to a mormon man her mother (who wasnt mormon) couldnt be a part of the ceremony in the church.

[@kalic2128]

I want a podcast with Joel!!! Thumbs up if u guys want it 2

[@SAPPENIN993]

thinking corners are a great technique for me and my little one. Mainly used when theres back talk or when they just need to calm down. We hug a lot too, i think that's important. Also one major thing, my son went through a phase of saying 'you're stinky' which is normal for a 3 year old, but saying it to his senior elders is a big no no out of respect, so I taught him to say 'you're beautiful' and i personally think thats moulded his character into a caring individual.

[@ayssahayes1333]

I just love u guys so much you are wonderful parents and will def be implementing this strategies when I become a parent for the first time. I really like how you explain to your kids what they did wrong instead of yelling and hitting them and making them stay in their rooms. I just love u guys

[@leighnock2948]

Loved this!! You guys are a natural at this. Also, I ordered my cookbook!! Didn't get in on the first pre-order, but that's ok. Something to look forward to!! Blessings.

[@jeenajoan]

Thank you. I love this. It's so helpful. I would love for you to stick to these parenting topics. You guys are doing a great job. I am older than you are but still I consider you my rolemodels when it comes to family and parenting. I dont have any kids yet, but I work with kids.

[@NinaYourBusiness_89]

Love these so much!! Also really love your hat Ellie! ♥️ I really enjoy your method of parenting, I try to be this way as well because of how I was raised. Communication is so important even for kids and I feel like a lot of parents don’t understand that or some feel as though they shouldn’t have to explain to their children. Which is sad because children are good at understanding if you can communicate with them properly.

[@Taylorj9817]

I use to get beat with a stick. Which it was painful and if I cried I got hit again. One time it was 27 times😒 I wish I was kidding. Anyway I’m going to learn from my mother and not do that for my future children. I’m not having kids for at least 6 years, at least that’s what I want but this information is really helpful and I never thought of some of this stuff. I just hope I’m half the parents they are. I’m really learning a lot.

[@hannahduignan6897]

My sister and I used to get grounded or we would get a slap from a wooden spoon ( the Irish moms answer to discipline), which looking back was funny because when you saw the wooden spoon come out you knew you were in bother, but it did put manners on us so it was effective!!

[@kitfels2143]

Hannah Duignan I also used to get slapped with the wooden spoon and the belt, still have the spoon to this date

[@CandTsmama]

We used to get the wooden spoon, vaccum cleaner pipe, fish slice. The joys of being a New Zealand kid in the 80s. All it taught me was to not get caught. And my brother has been in and out of trouble with the law since he was a kid, so definitely didn't work on us.

[@stephaniemoore7889]

I love watching your podcasts

[@lynnettapierce1741]

You might need to reevaluate bedtime if the kids are still wide awake 2 hours after they go to bed. Not just what time they go to bed, but their routine before bed. If it really important to you that they continue to go to bed at 7:30, maybe allow them to play in their room until 8 or 8:30 and then they to go to bed and have to stay in bed.

[@pinkchic1315]

My quiet time is used to listen to your podcast 😉

[@lexusrichardson890]

ELLIE KEEPS MAKING ME YAWN!!! lol

[@Paulina-vj7fl]

Wow parenting is really very different depending on what culture/country you live in. I live in Sweden and here spanking or putting tabasco on a Childs tongue would be considerd crazy , very interesting.

[@alainat1719]

I love listening to you guys on Apple Podcasts! But this is my first time watching it and it’s enjoyable to listen 2 ways ❤️ regardless I love y’all!

[@SnowLilies]

The confidence and synergy you guys have makes parenting seem a little less intimidating, I'm over here taking notes lol

[@_Nat_A_]

Your disciple theory is very similar to our families. Our number one rule was no spanking, and have never felt the inclination. We did our best each day, and still do.

[@bellabrooksmay5612]

I normally don't yawn during your videos but thanks ellie, I caught yawn from you like 16 times.

[@lillyalford2537]

One time my aunt caught me kissing my cousin and she was very upset because we were 5 years old and both girls. She told my mom and my mom took me outside and asked me why and where I learned that. And I said I learned it on tv from my grandparents and then I didn’t even know why I did it or that it was even wrong. But now I am definitely not attracted to females and this podcast just made me think of that story. Me and my aunt still kind of have an awkward relationship. Now I am 13 and am very interested in podcasts and love your channel😘

[@jennifermosher3053]

It is hard when you don't know why you are in trouble. That was the worst for me too. Resolution and forgiveness are important to communicate.

[@chrissagen8066]

I also think it's important that kids learn to entertain themselves for a little time - a very important skill for later in life - thanks for sharing 💖

[@michaelaphillips4555]

Thank you Ellie and Jared for this podcast that you have posted. I don't believe in the whole grounding thing either. I would say I would do agree with how you do things, unfortunately I don't have any living children but when I plan to have more hopefully are able to take home a healthy baby. when that time of disciplining comes I would most definitely try your way and pray it works for me. I'm definitely taking notes so thank you so much.

[@ilovetennis1691]

what do you do to keep yourself level headed when disciplining your kids? i struggle with this at times

[@mrsparrish10]

Allison Milles I agree in the moment when you’ve told them 5 times don’t do something it’s hard not to snap

[@carynpriestap7056]

AWWWWWW TOMMY IS SO SWEET

[@pnmdsz6]

My son is only 6 months old, so we're not at the discipline stage yet. But but as you've said you do, my husband and I are always discussing how we would handle different scenarios. Growing up my siblings and I were never grounded but if we were mean to one another we have to do what my mom referred to as humble days. Basically if I was mean to my brother, I would have to do all of my chores and his for a day. ...it was very effective for a while, and then it ended in all of us telling on each other far more than necessary in a constant effort to get out of doing our own chores for a day! Lol

[@MyBeautifulChaos620]

I have been so frustrated with my almost 3 year old because he just doesnt listen sometimes. It's mainly the fact he throws things when he gets angry. We have tried getting on his level, we have tried time out, we have tried taking things away, we have tried ignoring, but nothing works. We have given him grace because I had our daughter 1 month ago and know that's a big change but we just cant have him throwing things.

[@idkimjusthere2]

I love the podcasts!! I tune in EVERY time! ♥

[@charlienorris12502]

I liked the song at the beginning 😁

[@brittanyvidal4648]

During the summer my 3 and 5 year olds would BEG for quiet time so that was amazing for this Momma😂❤

[@brittanyknight3422]

Woah!! Are y’all going to do more podcasts?! I love listening to y’all!

[@MammaOVlogs]

Yes, no ones likes to discipline . loved the video, great advice

[@Nansbbgrand]

I did-I pre-ordered it! I can’t wait for my recipe book to get here! 👍❤️🤗

[@lynnheim3806]

Guilty by association is the worst😇

[@mariaberdon2757]

My dad had the snap. If we heard the snap that meant you better stop what you are doing right then. No questions asked.

[@Bugsy7322]

Mine too or the look 😒 lol 😋

[@torov7044]

I really love and enjoy listen/watching you guys.

[@annah9029]

I so love Ellie's hat!

[@shawnajensen7595]

Dang! I wish you were around when we were raising our children! Seriously. I do.

[@taniamckerrow5820]

Love your podcasts..looking forward to the next one! You're doing a fantastic job raising Jackson and Calvin Tommy will grow to be a sweet boy just like his big brothers. 😘

[@CathAngel92]

You are really lucky to have each other to count on. Wish I would find someone like that for myself!... Love you guys! Kisses

[@danischannel6276]

Love this guys!!! More podcasts!!!

[@ilovetennis1691]

loving your podcasts❤️

[@heidiholom8086]

So glad the cookbook is so popular can’t wait to be able to order mine !

[@HeatherW72]

Ellie, I am the same way. Telling me to Goose Frabba (sp) sends me through the roof

[@avy8907]

My husband and I have tried to ground our kids and it doesn’t seem to be working for us. My oldest thinks that the next day he isn’t grounded anymore. So it’s stressful for both of us and it kind of drives us crazy. So I need new methods.

[@cly2fan]

My husband and I definitely realized growing up that there are things that our parents did that we don’t do with our kids. We have an 8 year old and a 6 year old and disciple is hard but it’s so important. Our kids both have huge attitudes and one day my son blurted out of anger to his sister that he hated her. My husband and I both feel that hate is like a swear word and I put a bar of soap in my sons mouth. He has never done it again.

[@jaebird789]

You put an actual poison in your baby's mouth? A poison that states on its packaging 'not for human consumption' and 'Consult medical professionals if consumed'? He will always remember the day that you forced a chemical into his body against his will. Trust me.

[@cly2fan]

Jae Bird relax it was non toxic organic soap I Want to teach him a lesson not kill him

[@crystallawmaster8508]

While I'm against soap in the mout you should both know that most soaps are toxic, a better approach would be hot sauce or some other food your kid dislikes.

[@CandTsmama]

Interesting. To me hate is an emotion rather than a swear word. Did he say why he hates her? Kids can be extreme and OTT at times but I think they should be allowed to express how they are feeling

[@malyndaann8633]

You guys are awesome parents! Age doesn't necessarily matter. You're doing an amazing job! 👍 Malynda 🤗

[@-nellie-m3711]

Hey Jarod, I just thought I’d pop over here and ask Why the comments are disabled on yours and Ellie’s channel, I Love watching the Both Of You but noticed I can’t comment? Big Fan from Queensland Australia 🇦🇺🤔🤔🤗🤗🤗

[@CathAngel92]

Oh and you both are very lucky to have such sweet kids cause my babygirl does not listen to anything I say... She knows what to do but she just does not want to do it and I think part of that is because she knows that she always has my mom to be the grandma that allows her to do whatever and there is nothing I can really do cause we live with her and she is always excusing her... Its so frustating to see my own mom ignoring my requests and always do or give her or excusing her of everything when I am trying to educate and disciplin her... :( you really have no idea the luck you have for having the family you do, from parents and sis/bros to each other and your kids... Love watching you guys...keep on inspiring me :) Kisses

[@shereeellis3324]

Have a good day

[@heymomadonna9504]

New Subscriber love your podcast.

[@lovey4681]

Tommy is so precious I'm so glad u guys percerveered( however u spell that lol) after all the hard times to have him in your life 💓💓💓 also love hearing your guys opinions on parenting

[@katelynnrazo6953]

I love your videos ❤️❤️

[@caseycarlino10]

Jared looks like Jordan Speith with the polo and matching hat 😂

[@ericamccalister4769]

Why can I not find any new podcasts? Did you not put them on KZbin?

[@michaelkim733]

Jared did you remove the jackson's snow reaction "where did it go? i don't know maybe right there!" video? that clip was so adorable that i watch it sometimes but i cant find it anymor...e:(

[@laurenmaxey2508]

I enjoyed your podcast today :) Have you ever heard of Danny Silk’s book “Loving Your Kids on Purpose”? So good!!!

[@downapound]

ya'll!! When are we going to get the honeymoon story?? You mentioned it in the first or second podcast! we're waiting! ;)

[@sxynatty1989]

Jared I need you!!!!!! What is the quote you say as I want to steel it??? I’ll keep your name by it though 🤣🤣 I want the quote where you talk about the trials and tribulations xx

[@caroline9973]

Ellie!!!!! Your hat is ADORABLE!!!! 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

[@noumeamanue]

Love it! Great content great advices!

[@juliannewood4204]

Hi guys!!! So excited to order the cookbook!! Will it be available on AmazonPrime?!? I do like to save on that S&H!

[@mydailyreward2090]

Ellie you seem half asleep! Poor thing.

[@courtneymoreau4695]

Ellie I LOVE your hat! where did you get it! I have this thing with yellow being my color and love lemons and the patterns with them! Love you guys from Maine!

[@emilyellison3035]

I actually never get in trouble and I’m kind of the opposite of you guys. I am the oldest and my sibling is always the one in trouble.

[@oliviavanarkel3941]

Amen!!!!!!

[@tiffanysmith1181]

What would your advice be on step dads and moms disagreeing on certain discipline actions? If the mom thinks things should be done one way, but then the step dad does it differently.

[@carynpriestap7056]

Ellie your hair is Pretty

[@147Heart]

Love your podcasts !

[@tracyworby4620]

Start early and be consistent! If you start when they are 10 or something, it will take way longer to accomplish. They won’t want to change and will put up a bigger fight to get what they want. It will be hell on both of you. Also if you say you’re gonna give them a time out/spank/whatever- do it! Stand by your word! If you don’t, they will know it and they will learn that they can get away with things, so they don’t have to listen. If they know you will follow through with your threat, they will be way more apt to tread lightly and listen. If you discipline at home, they will listen in public. If you don’t discipline at home, but try to while you are out of the house, the kids know you won’t do anything about it, so they won’t listen. Then all hell breaks loose. BE THEIR PARENT - NOT THEIR FRIEND!!

[@heidiboffitto5526]

Love this

[@TruckingFamilyLife]

Ordered my cookbook for the second round!!!

[@mermaidinthesea2]

You can definitely make ASMR with those microphones 😂😂😂😂😂.... Seriously I'd love it....

[@justshani8950]

If we live in cache valley could I not pay for shipping on the cookbook?

[@veronicaarvelo9801]

Food for thought - do you think the downside of explaining every command gives them the room to argue back/give a counter argument to your reason for a command? Do you think their’s ultimately a point when your children should just obey out of respect for your authority as parents?

[@mariahgomez5800]

I love you guys a lot

[@MammaOVlogs]

We never grounded, don't believe in it, it doesn't work and never will just take care of it then and don't say wait til your did gets home

[@vanessavaneyk5029]

Woohoo! I got my preordered book before they sold out!

[@carynpriestap7056]

How loves E +j

[@KristasVlogs]

I want to see/hear a podcast on what your swear words are! Or what you shouldn't say/can say!

[@heidiholom8086]

I don’t like grounding either . I agree with not liking The no tv for a week thing.

[@bookworldtraveler30]

I can't find you on Google podcasts!

[@kristineanne4634]

I'm Filipino -- I got hit with all types of objects LOL!

[@laurenjost7084]

what are you drinking it looks please let me know thank you?