Alain de Botton: Introspection, defence mechanisms, and ghosts | Happy Place Podcast

[@aimeeegan2623]

I do not think I need to listen to another podcast in my lifetime after this- he has covered everything!!!

[@realbobbyaxel]

thats an understatement

[@najmnozili3012]

Totally agree

[@irisdanagher]

I'm in awe at his intelligence

[@Pii1968]

😅

[@Ben_______x]

Could you all confirm that you stopped as predicted?

[@ConnieBach]

Alain is the best philosopher in this modern times. ❤❤

[@ElizabethChee-rj7bn]

Very introspective guy. I always enjoy what he has to say. 😊

[@Mushroom321-]

Yes!!😮😮🎉🎉

[@c-yum]

Only about 10 minutes in, and I already want to express my appreciation for the host's wonderful questions along with her clear sense of engagement and appreciation for the conversation.

[@clarahopkins5182]

I could listen to this man forever. So soothing. Coffee & Alain is the perfect combination 😊

[@bioanu]

1:22 "Terrified people breed terrified children.." Alain de Botton is also an excellent English speaker for me. In addition to the expressed ideas that I write down, I put aside a lot of new words and the gain is double. Thank you very much, Alain!

[@karengomez3143]

Hearing this conversation has been amazing in some many levels. To me learning English is not only because job opportunities but a true whole journey, greetings from Mexico ✨🌼

[@katehodsdon6187]

The volume of insight and compassionate wisdom shared by both Ferne and Alain was staggering ❤ this is a really generous video because it oozes reassurance about what makes us perfectly imperfect.

[@nawwarali3014]

Genius .. the best philosopher in our time .. just can't get bored from listeninng to you.. grateful that I had the chance to discover such a brilliant mind like yours❤

[@amandajephson9964]

Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS) acknowledges the different parts in each of us and teaches how to recognise them and heal the Self.

[@AnnaSzabo]

My favorite topic, yes 🙌

[@kathleenbrady9916]

I love IFS...has really helped me

[@JussaraPadilha-j5v]

Love listening to Alain ~ recently discovered him . This speaking to the body Marie Manucheri , a healer and a nurse , teaches the art of healing ourselves by talking to our bodies, our organs. She has cured many people by this method alone , talking to people’s organs and asking what it needs (!) …we are moving in this direction… hurray to hear from Alain … you are stepping into new territory 🤗 it takes a very open mind to go there ( besides brilliance)

[@katarzynalindner594]

"There is not enough love"- The very true and spot on statement and the reason of all the suffering in this world.

[@zhuzhong74]

Or there’s too much hurt

[@wizzyletsgetbusy6878]

The comment about funerals is completely true my husband died. I was completely devastated but didn't cry. I now know why.

[@skippy7208]

So sorry for your loss 🙏

[@dragon6414]

Brilliant insights from Alain about self compassion, and the brilliance of coping strategies developed in childhood.

[@TheGinglymus]

Alain de botton, showing that psychoanalysis is not outdated nonsense.

[@Morale_Booster]

This was an amazing interview!!! You both seem to be connected and on the same page. And Fearne your questions and balance of your own anecdotes added so much. Thank you! I'll be listening to more of your interviews

[@OrdnanceTV]

Alain is so genuine and purely authentic that literally any 'interviewer', as it were, feels performative and fake.

[@mariadelmardospasos]

This was excellent, thank you! You are a GREAT interviewer!!

[@julie5668]

I wish Alain could counsel me - his voice and manner alone are so soothing, but his intellect is immense. Tennesse Williams wrote: We all live in a house on fire.

[@stuartc4023]

What a wonderful conversation. Deeply generous and thoughtful dialogue about the human condition. I appreciate the curiosity in how we sometimes respond in the way we do, where it might come from and the commitment to sidestep judgement and fixing with compassion and love.

[@sashacrabb6284]

What a fascinating exploration with Alain . Brilliantly summed up Fearne ❤❤

[@mariabuckley1749]

I loved this conversation, thank you both ❤

[@Songbirdoflove]

Very useful and well conducted. So, thank you.

[@PritiAnand1BSG]

Brilliant! Listening to almost all of Alain's videos 😊

[@katarzynalindner594]

Talks of dr Gabor Mate with his son are an example of such transgenerational talk. I envy them in a way...I recommend on YT.

[@TheJesterretseJ]

Wonderful conversation ❤ Thank you for sharing.

[@emilyzena7070]

Love de Botton. I feel, as well as being obviously incredibly intelligent, he is a genuinely compassionate person and on a 'mission' to help people.

[@kathleenhargest418]

Really enjoyed this interview - so insightful. Also appreciate how Fearne always gives her guests the time & space to answer questions fully without interrupting them. Makes for easy listening. Thank you 🙏🏻

[@kerstinsjö]

Thank you, so intressting.

[@jeraldbaxter3532]

At around the 34 minute mark, they talk about being able to share our pain, our negativity with others; earlier the fact that the world is filled with negativity is stated. At first this seems contradictory, but I believe that it is a question of how much we focus, and then dwell, on the negative. To present a simplistic analogy: it's one thing to draw a toxin out of our body and then dispose of it, and another thing to save the toxin to "play with" or even swallow, all over again. In other words, are we venting for relief, or are we venting to get sympathy, or even worse, because we have become a tape player set on a loop. We all know at least one person who never has anything positive or happy to say; chances are we know several, or,, even worse, we are that person.

[@liammoloney7097]

Brilliant

[@dorothydolan3813]

Epic 💜

[@alexcoyg3281]

Чудесный философ❤

[@AnnaSzabo]

и психолог ❤

[@EdieArt77]

Dearest Fearne, i absolutely loved this interview!! Thank you! I am an artist and animator and would LOVE to animate 2 or 3 minutes from this video. I wanted to ask for your permission first :) I'd post it on to my yt channel and send out to my mailing list. The purpose just spreading some of his amazing wisdom. ✨ thank you again for what you do!

[@toto-dh9dw]

Quite so Alan quite so...once to experience this and understand then become successful

[@andrewcbartlett]

When you have nothing left all you have is hope. I have been there.

[@yagmurpak5244]

i watched the whole thing twice 🥲

[@familyguyfanboy2]

There is fear that Love isnt enough to save our species

[@foop9]

Tragically it can only go so far, sometimes it does wonders but it's tricky and unstable

[@b.t2020]

Hearing something like life is pain doesn't make me laugh and knowing others find life meaningless at the end so we shouldn't take it so seriously doesn't make me relieved it makes me even more sad because now i feel confirmed and sad for them too. I wish it was the other way around as it seems to be for so many in the comments.

[@dmgsoultogetherness6667]

super cute in that jumper...❤

[@meekaart]

❤❤❤

[@akhusal]

I don't think you need to explore the past. You can't change it anyway. The past no longer exists so why worry about something that's not real? Concentrate on now, because that is where life is happening.

[@Leila-ie3ms]

That works well to a point but if you are acting unconsciously in the now you can’t change things and be free to respond to the now without the knowledge and awareness of the past

[@evadebruijn]

To consciously leave the past behind is different than disregarding the past and how it shaped you. Choosing not to look too deep into certain thoughts and feelings one has does not make them disappear, on the contrary. ✌️

[@orangemango28]

Really enjoyed this but it felt a bit structured / questions scripted and less like a conversation.

[@ajaysyangden8254]

What happened to your left eye? I'm worried about you Alan.

[@semrana1986]

Alain is such a guy, Aristotle would have referred to... 😂🙏

[@celebratelife8436]

"Even mass murderer doesn't do it on purpose"... really? I'm surprised about that statement, is that a joke?

[@wizzyletsgetbusy6878]

Context....he said 'if looked at from sufficient distance'.

[@nourali6312]

He said: if you look at it with sufficient distance .

[@celebratelife8436]

How does "Looking at it from sufficient distance'' change the context of the statement? So if looked at from a sufficient distance a mass murderer doesn't do it on purpose? is that what you think? @@wizzyletsgetbusy6878

[@Alnivol666]

It is not for everybody to understand a statement such as this. Some people have really limited intellectual capacity...like yourself.

[@akhusal]

If you were accidentally swapped at birth and grew up in Gaza, you could easily grow up to be a terrorist. Every baby is innocent, until culture and circumstances have their way.

[@markdatheist9179]

The only thing missing in this guys life.... is to shave those few hairs in the side of his head

[@evadebruijn]

With what gained? Looking like all the other balding men?

[@foop9]

No, to make him no longer look like he's balding ..

[@Sdween]

Appearance is not his proffession. Probably not even a hobby or an interest. And it does not need to be. The fact that you think it should is a clear reflection of you and the world you exist in.

[@alexacarenati]

Please, not another enabler who defends abstract parents making assumptions about their abstract intentions! Poor parents, nobody ever defends them.... Come on baby, grow up.....

[@foop9]

I think I know what you're getting at. I condemn Alain for seeming to be so sure that he's right, while speaking very abstractly and even sometimes subtly contradicting his own narratives..

[@Alnivol666]

This is an one hour podcast. Not sure what your expectations are but it seems like they are very unrealistic. Each case has to be dealt with at an individual level. There is nothing wrong in talking about abstractions in this context because you can't address any individual case. You want that, go see a therapist personally. You want a case study, read case studies.

[@foop9]

On top of watching the school of life for several years, I've seen almost all of his videos where he incorporates these sorts of narratives, as well as videos where he speaks alongside other commentators like esther perel (who I believe to be more credible), and am familiar with his writing. Nothing ive noticed would suggest a deeper comprehension (or interest) of life than what Alain expresses in these breif interviews, and that's the point. He has not enhanced or worked on any of his own theories for the entirety of his career-which speaks volumes. I dont see his work as much more than a brand and even brands evolve with time. The philosophical community will lose nothing when he's gone

[@Alnivol666]

@@foop9 what exactly would be a deeper comprehension of life exactly? You seem to have certain expectations which are quite subjective in nature and somehow you want Alain to cater to them for some reason. Seems like a you problem if I am being honest. Have no idea what you mean to say with Esther Perel is more credible. Credible in what sense? What exact standard are you using when you pass judgement? Where is your research to be found exactly? I think you misunderstand Alain's intent with his work. He is not writing for the academics in philosophy. He is writing for the layman who wishes to have philosophical ideas presented to them in ways that are easy to grasp.

[@elizabethk3238]

It's very disrespectful to turn in page corners. It's quite okay to write in your book, but 'dog-earing' pages is not okay

[@skippy7208]

Lol 😂 are you serious? She can do what she pleases with her own property, as can you!!

[@elizabethk3238]

@@skippy7208 my point about respecting a book is obviously beyond your scope...

[@foop9]

@@elizabethk3238 getting use out of anything inevitably ends in a certain level of wear and tear. People are not immoral for using their personal property in a way that suits them. For example, you have every right to make nit-picky comments under a video on the device you paid for, even though no one asked for them ...

[@skippy7208]

@@elizabethk3238 please elaborate 🙏

[@skippy7208]

@@elizabethk3238 it must be! Please elaborate 🙏