disliking yourself has a function

[@Seeking_Myself]

Aw, Tanja. You are spot on with all of this. I recognise it all. I have all of this and for all the reasons you state. In addition, my eating disorder is part of my picture. My body, the way it looks, keeps men away from me, and so keeps me safe. This is hard, hard to deal with and there is a part of me wants to be back to who I was so that I don't have to be physically repulsive in order to feel safe.

[@TanjaWindegger]

💛 this is very very common, you are certainly not alone with this. it can be painful or emotional to look at all this closely and how it affects your current experience... but once you see it clearly it opens a gap for you to choose differently or be guided by different motives/goals moving forward

[@Seeking_Myself]

@@TanjaWindegger thank you, Tanja. Please keep sharing your thoughts and expertise. It helps so many of us 💜

[@ashleytheseeker8480]

I believed subconsciously that being fat, overweight would keep me safe. Now that im working on my trauma ive lost 5lbs without going to the gym. I still have work to do but it was hard to have ppl understand the safety aspect of being overweight does for our psyche.

[@TanjaWindegger]

@@ashleytheseeker8480 so true! the safety aspect must be addressed, perhaps even prior if not along side (my opinion 💛

[@michalmalek]

That touched me on a deep level (gently). Thank you!

[@TanjaWindegger]

🦋 beautiful

[@rebeccastruth999]

Wow! Timely video. I'm very happy you popped up today. Your energy is beautiful 🙏 I feel all of these feelings. Struggle to feel self compassion. Everyone says, "Just love yourself," but I don't know how to feel those feelings for myself. This runs deeper than we realise. Thank you, beautiful lady 😘

[@TanjaWindegger]

🌻🥰 beautiful. thank you for your kind words

[@rebeccastruth999]

@@TanjaWindegger welcome 🙏

[@tuxedoneko9837]

I really needed to hear this today, ty

[@TanjaWindegger]

perfect 🌻

[@paulasynjohnson]

So many layers of defence. It's like I'm gorging myself on the lasagne equivalent of humble pie.

[@TanjaWindegger]

yes, and holding it with gentle kindness 💛

[@333_Tarot]

To have patience with oneself is to have self-love 🌹

[@TanjaWindegger]

love it! thanks for sharing! 💛🦋

[@MrSimonj1970]

Brilliant, thanks Tanja!

[@TanjaWindegger]

🌞💛

[@caradonnelly7335]

i have so much self loathing yet still remain the same. i try to keep my sins at a dull roar. it's like i hate myself but not enough, i love myself but not enough.. to make the leap and change.

[@TanjaWindegger]

loving yourself AND or while staying the same, can feel like the most rebeleous thing to do