Divorce and "Putting Away" (Not the same thing!)

A demonstration that "putting away" and divorce are not the same thing.

[@supergirl10ism]

Alright teach the truth! So glad minister and Pastors are going back and looking at the scripture in detail. Praise GOD!!!

[@girlmom2379]

Can you explain Romans 7:2 and 1 Corinthians 7 where it states the wife is bound to her husband as long as he liveth, and if she marries another man she shall be called an adulteress? That seems to be saying husband and wife are bound until death. Death is the only thing that breaks the marriage bond, not divorce.

[@jeffbargerbiblestudies8799]

Thank you for your question about Romans 7:2. One must consider Deuteronomy 24: 1-2 when interpreting this verse in Romans. An Israelite man could divorce his wife. This was not God's perfect will, but He allowed it "because of the hardness of men's hearts." This provision was given to protect unloved women. A husband couldn't just "put away" his wife and take another woman. If he wasn't going to love and care for his wife, he had to end the marriage by giving her a certificate of divorce. She, then, was free to marry another man. A cultural element was also involved in Romans 7:2. Paul addressed Jews, "those who know the law." In Jewish culture of that time, a man could divorce a wife, but a wife couldn't divorce her husband. Hope this helps. I apologize for my tardy response.

[@DouglasNicholson-ff6ep]

​@@jeffbargerbiblestudies8799My studies of the KJV, I don't see that God permits the women to put away her husband even still. Would God permit "the weaker vessels, to take such authority over her husband. My wife committed adultery & forcibly, even illegally pushed truth the divorce, by forging my signature on papers And if you're wondering, no I didn't cheat, and she was my one and only sexual partner..my wife. I'm genuinely asking if we she anywhere in the new covenant, that Christ allows her to do the putting away AND remarrying.

[@alexanderkapsiotis8050]

@@DouglasNicholson-ff6ep She certainly sinned and, if she is not in covenant with God, she has the same deal coming for her. You, however, are free to marry whoever you want, except your former wife.

[@Logic807]

You are correct. Till death do us apart. Marriage is a covenant, not a contract. Covenant means promise. Not agreement. If divorce, problem is no remarriage. I am the bad guy, serial adulterer, young girls (models). I have money, time . Destroying my family. My wife heard no divorce from God. She Sufferered quite a long time. Long story, zap, No earthly person spoke to me. I know God is HOLY, and I know the fear of God. God speaks. Being legalistic is to strain and find the little things to satisfy your own lust (intepreting it wrongly)I have never really checked the Bible about Divorce. That came later when I checked the Bible after I already came back to my family for some time (why would they even trust mw after what i repeatedly did), just to settle this question examining what Jesus said. One reason is to check up Pastors and teachers (their fruits) To my shock, it was clear, no divorce. And if divorce, no remarriage. Paul affirm it. Not to be legalistic, check it yourself and ask God about your situation. Make sure if you are the counselor, do not make the person sin. Go to God. It is in plain language what Jesus said, read for yourself, don't listen to Preachers. Isnt Jesus living? Go to God. Moses permitted divorce that is in this matter, not a commandment. Whatever Jesus says are commandments. Keep that in mind. His commandments are matters of a righteous heart. We are to be led by the Spirit. That means if you go to God, he will lead you. Make sure you repent of all your known sins, not remorse, do what is necessary to hear God. Understand, there are unseen things at work which are evil.

[@thewatcher7728]

"2 Some Pharisees came to test him. They asked, “Can a husband divorce his wife?” 3 Jesus answered them, “What command did Moses give you?” 4 They said, “Moses allowed a man to give his wife a written notice to divorce her.” 5 Jesus said to them, “He wrote this command for you **because you're heartless. 6 But God made them male and female in the beginning, at creation. 7 That's why a man will leave his father and mother and will remain united with his wife, 8 and the two will be one. So they are no longer two but one. 9 Therefore, *don't let anyone separate* what God has joined together.” 10 When they were in a house, the disciples asked him about this. 11 He answered them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another woman is committing adultery. 12 If a wife divorces her husband and marries another man, she is committing adultery.” Mark 10:2-12 (GW) So all must stop deceiving people into believing divorce & and adulterous remarriages are fine with God, they aren't. "The unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived neither fornicators, nor idolaters,** nor adulterers** nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, 10 Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God". 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 (KJV)

[@dcruz7930]

I was looking for this comment! Remarriage while your first spouse is still living is a sin...don't listen to what people think but by what the Bible says, God is not the author of confusion. Lean not to thine own understanding. This is serious, your salvation is at stake.

[@shalalala868]

Every marriage wasn't joined together by God. If you divorce on Biblical grounds you can remarry. Putting away isn't the same as divorce as well. Putting away is tantamount to separation. You are still LEGALLY married therefore yes, you are committing adultery if you remarry while separated.

[@adoradomingo3092]

I love the statement by Jesus that “ from the beginning it was not so.” To me this means to today it is not so, it is so because of the hardness of heart of the partners to submit to God

[@adoradomingo3092]

Thank you for clarity

[@coryabouaf7713]

Praise God. I stayed married in an impossible marriage for 34 years until I came to the same conclusion that you did regarding putting away versus divorce. No thank you for teaching on this. I have forwarded this to several people well two so far.

[@danawaldrop4930]

Thank you for this truth! So many women (men too) refuse to go to church because of this. No condemnation in Christ but there sure is condemnation in some churches. That's the devil right there - clear as a bell! God is fair and just. He is NOT fair and just to only those who make the right choice in a mate the first time. How often does this happen? This false doctrine is a trap!

[@danawaldrop4930]

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[@jeffbargerbiblestudies8799]

One cannot understand Bible teaching about divorce and remarriage apart from applying the concept of God's forgiveness. How do I want God to forgive my sins when I confess them, partially or completely? Is there such a thing as partial forgiveness? 1 John 1:9 is wonderfully clear.

[@queenonmasworld]

A great gospel music minister in my country, suffered domestic abuse for many years and was later murd*rd by her husband @nwachukwu this year because she couldn't leave him "God hate divorce "syndrome, may God help us all

[@philologustate4464]

The sad part is the people who have hard heart positions themselves as bishops elders and pastors in the churches

[@toughbiblepassages9082]

17:28 “the woman can then go and she can remarry.” if you apply contrapositive analysis to deuteronomy 24, you’ll see that that is not true. A woman cannot remarry if she is the guilty party of a divorce, she is bound by law to seek reconciliation to her husband and never touch another man (this is consistent with Paul and Jesus, and it fits together if you use contrapositive analysis)

[@shalalala868]

You are right. And add to that, there has to be a Biblical reason for divorce.

[@philologustate4464]

The scriptures says Jesus recognized the woman at the well relationship with a man who she slept with as her husband and did not condemned them or even mention marriage

[@JesseChasteen]

The word for numeral one in the Greek is heis. The word used translated into one wife is mia. Why wouldn't God use the numeral one there if he meant one woman kind of man?

[@jeffbargerbiblestudies8799]

mias is the genitive feminine singular form of eis (masculine gender) and grammatically corresponds to gunaikos, woman, wife.

[@JesseChasteen]

@@jeffbargerbiblestudies8799 yes but it's also translated many other things other than one in the bible and there are instances of heis showing up before women also

[@philologustate4464]

People who embrace divorce are hard hearted they don't want to forgive but want to be forgiven. Jesus said if you don't forgive one another, neither will your heavenly father forgive you

[@shalalala868]

This isn't always the case. I got married under duress (crazy side showed up hours before "I do" and said he'd take his life if I postponed or canceled), he LIED blatantly and by omission to trick me into marriage, and became increasingly abusive after marriage (would NEVER have married him otherwise), and he ALMOST KILLED ME. I literally FLED FOR MY LIFE! There's absolutely nothing hard about my heart as I am sooo happy to be free of the mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual abuse that I harbor NO ILL FEELINGS. My freedom was the best gift! He is a sick sick man who refuses to get the spiritual and mental help needed. Refused to do marital counseling despite my loving, desperate pleas. Hid at least 3 mental illnesses prior to marriage. Presumably stopped taking meds after we married. Was a sexual deviant with addictions hidden. Was a covert narc, fully active in the church/ministry with only "saved" friends, and presented himself as holy yet he abused me, children, and animals (confessed a few days before I left). Wanted the title of husband, without the responsibilities. There was NO REDEMPTION here. I tried for A LONG TIME and he told me our marriage wasn't important and neither were my feelings. Complete 180 from the kind, seemingly godly man who did Bible studies with me, and fellowshipped and worshipped the Lord with me during courting. I never recommend divorce by default, but judge not, lest you be judged.

[@DouglasNicholson-ff6ep]

They're hard hearted.... IF it's for any reason EXCEPT fornication/adultery. Let's not call Christ hateful in Matthew 19:9 KJV only Read John 20:23 KJV only? Forgiveness is a personal thing for self peace with God. It has nothing to do with the other spouse resolving the martial covenant. Two different things. Forgiving personally, and remitting sins on God's behalf, are two very different things as well. Some commit adultery, then by the same spirit that seduced them to commit adultery..... .... turn around and accuse their spouse of being unforgiving if he simply recognizes the cheater resolved their marital covenant. I have an idea... DON'T CHEAT EVER!.... Via the "divine power" over ever doing wickedly, given every true convert, in Christ. Get (TRULY) Saved...accept the penalty for your sin Leviticus 26:40-42 KJV.

[@alexanderkapsiotis8050]

The Almighty embraced divorce. Then I saw that for all the causes for which backsliding Israel had committed adultery, I had put her away and given her a certificate of divorce; yet her treacherous sister Judah did not fear, but went and played the harlot also. Jeremiah 3:8 The Almighty is also a polygynist, having mutiple wives: Ezekiel 23 1 The word of the Lord came again unto me, saying, 2 Son of man, there were two women, the daughters of one mother: 3 And they committed whoredoms in Egypt; they committed whoredoms in their youth: there were their breasts pressed, and there they bruised the teats of their virginity. 4 And the names of them were Aholah the elder, and Aholibah her sister: and they were mine, and they bare sons and daughters. Thus were their names; Samaria is Aholah, and Jerusalem Aholibah.

[@jeffbargerbiblestudies8799]

In Matthew 5:32 we see the benefit of a knowledge and application of Bible language to interpretation. In the KJV the word "put away" ("whosoever shall put away his wife") is the same verb translated "divorced" (though the form is different). In both cases the word should be translated "put away." Additionally, one must harmonize the Lord's teaching with Deuteronomy 24:1-2. If, for whatever reason, a man refused to love his wife, he could not simply "put her away." He was required to give her a certificate of divorce. This legal paperwork terminated a marriage. The divorced woman was then free to marry another man. In God's eyes her new marriage was valid. We must strive to become and remain consistent in our theology. Many do not and, consequently, are not.

[@carolinenjema7225]

Justification 😒

[@danielsedgebeer598]

I think the closing statement of Mary someone else when there is no biblical grounds for divorce especially a woman forcing a divorce for irreconcilable differences due to falling out of love or some other lame excuse is not a correct teaching on the covenant marriage he expects from his children.

[@jillanderson3037]

Please read Exodus 22:16. Fornication is when a woman marries a man who didn't take her virginity. Thank you!

[@philipbuckley759]

Mike Winger has a teaching, on this....once again twisting the text to get a different conclusion, that the text presents...

[@danawaldrop4930]

I wish you would spell the Hebrew and Greek words for us! Thank you!

[@jeffbargerbiblestudies8799]

My apologies for this tardy response. The Hebrew words are keriythuwth (divorce) and shalach (put, or send away); the NT Greek words are apostasion (divorce) and apoluo (put, or send away). There is an excellent article, Divorce, the Law and Jesus, written by Walter L. Callison. You should be able to find it online. Thank you for watching and commenting! JB

[@danawaldrop4930]

@@jeffbargerbiblestudies8799 Thank you so much - this is most helpful! I also found this video which makes it all very clear. kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y2W0emaAecirhdU

[@dorothyswanson6671]

God forgives our sins after repentance and repentance is turning away from your adulterous remarriage.

[@christchurchottawa]

@@dorothyswanson6671The Lord rebukes you