Do All Bisexual People Think The Same?

[@katebarlowmusic]

I CAN BE BI AND CONFUSED!!!

[@daddyleon]

underrated

[@Harry-fk5of]

For real

[@Superbatmanbro]

I'm very confused as a gay man,I'm sorry If I miss Led anyone. I found I was gay at the end of November but I still support my bisexual brothers and sisters.

[@Bhbefos]

Mhm cook sis

[@Marazhmm11]

Spittin facts

[@KpopLover1013]

Not the "we have that at home" 😂😂

[@TiagkoMLB]

Hahaha 😂

[@merry2882]

I feel like he had a point though, as a female idk why the other females got so triggered at his opinion...

[@sulagreen5792]

That was really funny! And I think it's true. I get what he's saying. Cheating with the same sex when you are in a het relationship isn't the same as cheating with the opposite sex, and it doesn't diminish same sex relationships.

[@jc8198]

@@merry2882because it trivializes homosexual relationships. Gay people aren’t just a sidepiece for sexual gratification….we’re people. Saying “cheating with a same sex partner isn’t as serious” is another way of saying gay partners aren’t serious-they mean nothing to me but sex. The dude also said at the beginning “but it’s so fun” when the guy in the red said he wouldn’t like to lead gay people on to thinking they could be something serious. It’s clear that guy along with a lot of other bisexual people don’t value gay partners

[@jc8198]

@@sulagreen5792but it does….

[@t.bryan9384]

Oh man beeing Bi is such a roller coaster! I’m sitting here agreeing with some, disagreeing with others and having my own answers to those questions 🤦🏾‍♂️😂

[@Harry-fk5of]

Right? I've spent a lot of time wishing I was just one thing so I don't have to navigate this confusion

[@Superbatmanbro]

bro I feel you, it is rough how my feeling women was very much there in my childhood, but slowly my feeling towards men have kicked into high gear.

[@Emberelle420]

Same!

[@imacloud]

That's just being human. Sh!ts already confusing as is. I'd say the extra bi layer complexity is mostly due to societal expectations, labels, and infrastructure (i.e. marriage).

[@drewadler236]

Same!

[@phDST1913]

It's the fact that some of them don't treat same-sex relationships as genuine relationships or should I say, 'serious, long-term' relationships. That's something internal and a bit hypocritical, IMO.

[@humps678]

Heteronormativity can really fuck with people's heads.

[@jamie032300]

Yeah, I get that they feel how they feel, but it really doesn't sit right with me.

[@Scar-jg4bn]

And that's why I won't date bi men. They all just use gay men on the down low and date women for serious relationships. Bi women do the same thing.

[@playdoug12]

Some bisexuals are not biromantic, and thats ok.

[@Scar-jg4bn]

@@playdoug12 but using gay people for fun on the side and stringing them along isn't ok and that's what people have a problem with. Give it whatever cute label you want, but it's degrading and homophobic.

[@danielepetrucci5274]

"Gay men don't let you be both" This is so true. I met a lot of gay people not keen on accepting bisexuality

[@shoelacedonkey]

There's a few gay bars where I'm stared right back out the door if they find out I'm bi. To a lot of gay men I was just a confused straight guy who liked to mess with their world & might steal their men.

[@Rage_Harder_Then_Relax]

@@shoelacedonkey Now we can see why with some of the questionable statements made especially from these so called bi sexual men in the video. No wonder gay people want nothing to do with bi people when it comes to intimate relationships.

[@G.D.G.]

The first question is your answer WHY that happens. You never know which bi person your dating that after years of being together can pull out the "im heteroromantic actually" and then dump you the next day. Ive had it done to me 3 times. My last bi gf I dated for 2 years only for her to say "i could never be long term with a women, bye", married and settled down with a guy in 6 months. Will NEVER date a bi girl ever again because of that. The other two didnt get married but never posted and kept me basically like a situationship, but once they were with men they were loud and public about it. You bisexuals treats gays/lesbians like experiments. A fun short time with a deadline. Dont ask why we dont date yall - ask among yourself how you treat us and youll know.

[@zidane8452]

Because it's the same thing

[@HyperPolygotStuff]

I’m bi and I agree but I kinda think they do that as a little bit of a self protection measure

[@purplecouch4767]

Their talking about all the people they’ve dated meanwhile I’m still just Bi myself lol.

[@82Catfish]

lol nice

[@charmedlibra927]

Good one!😂

[@23lemons]

Hhahaha same here 😂

[@wildmaximilian]

Bi dad jokes

[@lindahardwicke8658]

Hi "all bi myself", I'm dad!

[@LycorisWebb]

As a bi person I struggle a lot sometimes with feeling like I’m ACTUALLY bi because I’ve been dating a man for 8 years and at the moment I’m in a mood where I objectively prefer men. But I have dated women, I’ve been attracted to women, and I’ve had big chunks of time where I preferred women both romantically and sexually. I think we just need to stop trying to define what makes an “actual” bisexual person and take people at their word when they say they’re bi.

[@saraosorio7165]

Yeah like, people dont understand like in full 2023 that being bisexual is loving or feeling atraction mostly to men AND woman, and thats it, you are not confused, you are not right or wrong, its just you being you, and people always want us confused, like they want to make us doubt ourselves sometimes, telling us like '' well you only date man''or ''you only date woman'' or like well DECIDE and its like no, I can be attracted to both and thats fine, in the end it doesnt matter who I end up with, because that doesnt define me as a person, and thats it :)

[@graceosullivan1367]

Love is a spectrum. I'm certain that my cycle affects what gender I'm more attracted to and when. It's CRAZY.

[@uniq7455]

Lesbian lady here, do you as a bi lady find women sexually attractive? If so then you are bi (or pan). Or do you think you're bi? If so then you're bi. I think people all over the spectrum assume bi folk want to be poly. That's bs.

[@PyramidTom]

I read people calling it the bi-cycle, sometimes you feel more atracted to one gender, then other, then both... its just change without logic. The cycle can change between weeks, months or last years.

[@ZeeDiFreak0608]

Agreed girly. Very well said. Been with my man going on 5 years but I’ve also been with women in between that time and since I was in middle school I’ve dated girls 🤷🏽‍♀️ I like what I like when I like it 😆

[@moony647]

So much internalized biphobia here, my heart aches for them 💔 the man in the graphic tee was right, miscommunication is the biggest problem in most relationships. If folks were more honest with themselves and their partners it would be better all around.

[@AnnaGrace603]

Can you elaborate where you See internalized biphobia? Im curious 😊

[@timerab749]

@@AnnaGrace603 Probably referring to the guy that said he would only date women.

[@shoelacedonkey]

Besides the dude in the red shirt and some perhaps insecure or confused statements I've seen very little internalized biphobia in this video. Must've missed all of it.

[@JoeStanek-vu7rl]

​@@timerab749my wife is bisexual but will only be in a committed relationship with a man.

[@wkdgrneyes]

@@JoeStanek-vu7rlMost bisexual women are like that. Loving men but only liking women. It’s definitely a turn off for lesbians.

[@JaviontaviousIII]

I like how they weren’t arguing and just listened to each other’s opinions

[@deleted_handle]

why would they arguee????

[@JaviontaviousIII]

@@deleted_handle Because in these type videos they argue from the ones I’ve seen

[@SmileBaby143]

I had bad experiences when dating bi men in the past as a gay man who was wanting something serious, most of my experiences has been “you’re hot and there’s nothing wrong with you, you’re great, but I wanna be with a woman when I think of anything serious.” So needless to say I avoided dating bi men for a while. Ironically tho my now husband is bisexual and he’s everything I ever could ask for. Of course we are only monogamous and I did let him know that’s what I needed and that I respect him being bisexual but that I would never be a woman and that he needed to be sure he would be okay with only being with me ( a man ) until death or (hopefully never) until we are separated. I won’t lie and say it didn’t make me a little insecure at first but like they said, you have to respect your partner and just respect the rules y’all have set up for y’all’s relationship in order for it to be healthy and the line of communication open.

[@luxurypetscz]

I'm a bit worried about dating a bi woman because since puberty I was convinced I was bi and very recently I realized I'm actually probably lesbian (or at least homoromantic). So when I see a bi girl on a dating app or something I just feel like she hasn't figured it out yet and what happens if she realizes she's actually straight? I realize it's very self centered of me to think like that but I can't help myself yet. I get incredibly insecure around bi women. So I bow down to you for being brave enough to give a bi man a chance, especially since it worked out

[@swampmonsta87]

I see you’re point to this. It wasn’t until recently I discovered I was bi, before I was fully gay but I would often realize I couldn’t have a romantic connection with guys and it’s more so just fun to be with a guy but it’s never long lasting

[@ecmonkey13]

Currently dating a bi man for 6 years now. Never thought it'd last this long because early on he said he only wanted sex. I personally think Bi and pansexual men are HOT

[@filounora8085]

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[@artaquino6388]

​@@swampmonsta87how you thought you were gay if you prefer women? Isn't this internalized homophobia?

[@mariettamay]

her face at "with a woman I feel like I'm in control" 7:00

[@sulagreen5792]

Except it's literally true. Men are bigger than women, it naturally lends itself for men to be in control in sexual situations. That's why het sex is more dangerous for women than for men. Is it not socially acceptable to state this blatant truth?

[@4xcleo]

and she’s right

[@mariettamay]

@@4xcleo fr

[@tenlvr]

i visibly cringed at that lol

[@bymitteiy]

Made the same face.

[@mindofzena8447]

When the girl said do people still view you as bisexual if youre a bisexual woman who married a man. As a bisexual woman who is married to a man..people assume im straight. My mom thinks im not longer bisexual and thats absolutely NOT the case, of course, im still very much attracted to women just as much as im attracted to men. Actually im more attracted to women than men but i fell head over hills in love with my husband and i wouldnt have it any other way!

[@jojoco9840]

Girl all you bi women claim you’re more attracted to women but some how y’all always end up with men 😂

[@ryzeup5654]

how are u “more attracted to women” but married & committed the rest of your life to a man? u bi women have got to stop with the cappp

[@prettynobody]

@@ryzeup5654 she literally just said it, she fell head over heels for one man. That doesn’t mean she isn’t more attracted to majority women over men. The biphobia in your comment is ridiculous. It’s not capping being attracted to men and women and people who identify as neither or fluid when we are literally bisexual. Check your biphobia.

[@Hanayaaa]

@@ryzeup5654y’all just choose to be tone deaf

[@justaturky2890]

@@prettynobody that makes no sense. I hate how these bi females lie to themselves

[@TsahayluFa]

Some of these folks need therapy. Watching the well adjusted folks react to the others is hilarious to me. But I respect everyone for keeping the discussion 100.

[@conlon4332]

I really liked that about this though. Showing real people with real problems in a very candid way. In a lot of these everyone is trying so hard to be politically correct, either that or they're really problematic and don't care. I liked that some of the things they said were a little problematic, but overall they still seemed like really nice people, plus they were willing to admit they might be wrong and that was really refreshing to see.

[@jayjellobean]

"I don't wanna waste guys time" "It's so fun though"

[@10mimu]

I thought he was so handsome until that

[@ELP1125]

🚩🚩🚩

[@TheWebgecko]

“We have that at home” took me out 😭😭😭

[@candicewatson5508]

Not the penis at home argument 😂😂😂

[@megancurtis9502]

I think people forget you can be bisexual, but hetero or homoromantic. It’s fine to want to have sex with one gender and only date others, but you have to be upfront about it. That guy who’s dating men but only wants to marry a woman makes me cringe a little. Hopefully he’s being upfront that he doesn’t want anything serious.

[@Scar-jg4bn]

He uses gay men and only dates women just like most bi guys. They love claiming to be an oppressed minority as part of the LGBT, but they're often just closet cases that use gay guys.

[@laughingdolphin8448]

I think most people have never heard the terms like hetero- or homo-romantic generally.

[@megancurtis9502]

@@laughingdolphin8448 yeah for sure, but you can know what it is without knowing the terminology

[@hege7086]

He literally said he wouldn’t lead the guy on because that would be irresponsible (1:23 min into the video).

[@laughingdolphin8448]

@@megancurtis9502 They have for sure never heard of the very concept of these words either.

[@gramps2matt]

As a 66-year-old BI guy, currently in the process of coming out, there is so much here I relate to. Particularly the cheating question. I was married for 20 years and sure I looked and had temptation but it's all about commitment. Simple rule, when you are in a relationship you stay with that person. If the relationship fails, then and only then can you explore another partner. I've also found a degree of confusion to some I have come out to on what being BI is. "But you're really Gay, right?" Ah no, I'm attracted to BOTH men and women. I am BISEXUAL. So how do I make a decision on a partner? Well prepare for a tad more confusion, ultimately, it's the personality of the person that wins me over so I am also PANSEXUAL! Mind blown. LOL If I have one criticism on this video it would be the age of the participants. Referring to the question on fitting in with the Gay community, I see a lot of ageism. Being isolated by my peers who are younger. So older BIs should have been part of this. We are here and just as queer. Our views are equally of value.

[@emilykaniaris8989]

I'm bi and pan too! Haha

[@lucas-prado]

​@@emilykaniaris8989Bi and pan are the same thing. What defines the two terms is the time in which they were coined. Bi is stuck in an old idea just as gay was once understood as men who wanted to act like women, and lesbians as women who wanted to act like men. However, these concepts have evolved, but bi has not. Then they invented pan to define that he could be interested in anyone; which is not real. No one is interested in anyone, we all have our own terms of physical and mental attraction. To say that personality is what conquers is being obvious because it happens to everyone.

[@emilykaniaris8989]

@@lucas-prado thats not how I experience or define being pan but okay. Pan for me, is my perception of how I lol at someone, as a person, not thinking or literally caring about their gender. Just attracted to them as is. Bi for me includes my perception of gender and lack their of included in my attraction. Bi is not outdated its always included everyone. Pan is (for me) like a microlabel that fits sometimes. Sexaulity is fluid and complex 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@asddewijklc]

@@lucas-pradoPan is attraction to all genders or idgaf about gender, bi is 2 or more genders

[@cheyennemathis8578]

@@emilykaniaris8989being bi and being pan are two different things although pan isn’t as well known so I understand why people use them interchangeably. To me being pansexual means u are attracted to someone regardless of their gender identity, this includes transgenders, nonbinary, gender-fluid, etc. Bisexual is limiting it to masculine presenting men and feminine presenting women. So technically ur not both but I get the sentiment. I once told someone I was pan and they asked me to describe it and I simply said “being attracted to everyone” (looking back I now know that was a horrible response) later on she told people that I like to have orgies and have sex with anyone who wants it. I was shocked that was the conclusion she came to but it just shows how little people actually understand the term and we should be better about who we explain it so society could be more understanding

[@i.t.t.]

8:48 not surprised by this because of how they answered the other questions. But also surprised NGL. Biphobia coming from our own community I find more hurtful than from bigotted ignorant queerphobes.

[@br6735]

It’s even more hurtful when is a bi woman who sees you as gay for being a bi guy, It’s so stupidly hypocritical and sadly a thing

[@Imetwurld_]

@@br6735 I think its down to anal sex .I don't know though but that's the way I see it. Sex between men is just almost too intimate. As a straight woman I can date a bi man but it must be someone that I know his more attracted to women plus this might come off somehow but I really don't think bi people need to come out when they are in a romantic relationship with the opposite sex .. Its add nothing.

[@i.t.t.]

@@br6735 haven't encountered this yet but how bizarre. It's like adding salt to injury 😕

[@leorafilms.]

THIS. at this point homophobia from straight people just bores me. like get over yourself. but homophobia/biphobia from other queer people? that shit sucks dude.

[@Valentino016]

​@@leorafilms.yes and they are also very transphobic

[@ShaniceN]

I appreciate all of their honesty. At the end of the day, these people don't represent ALL bisexuals. As a bisexual woman, I just felt to type that.

[@editsbybee7337]

Yeah personally their responses well some of them, was shocking but hey we all have different opinions and feelings..

[@Xiwsice]

I really empathize with the guy with blue shirt. People really expect us to act in one way or another or try to confuse us by telling us we're just curious or finding ourselves over and over. Society can be somteimes so tiring and I dont need to be acting straight or gay to fulfill your expectations. They really brought some light to this topic cause most people are soooo wrong

[@DarkVeghetta]

He was insightful, but I also don't personally share that viewpoint/issue. I've known I was bisexual since the minute I realized some men are sexually attractive to me (in my late teens, I'm 37 now) and that was that. What others think about it is entirely a different matter and I can't say I give much of a toss either, at least in most cases. In some cases I do care, because they're people I care about and so I want them to understand me (not even accept, just understand), but the general population can think whatever the hell it wants to think and I'm not going to lose any sleep over it.

[@obsessivefanboy]

I dress very casually like he does and am not very stereotypically "gay" either so I very much relate to that lol

[@darthobsidian]

Same here, that dude was extremely relatable! Especially the part about wishing you were either just gay or straight. That would make life so much easier for me.

[@eduardocarvalho2517]

Some gays can relate to this too. Perceived as "not gay enough" by some people

[@dakotac180]

Blue shirt was really helping red shirt, red shirt needs to just accept who he is, it's okay to want a stable relationship with any gender if you know that's your person. Lots of Bi people also fall along the omni and demi sexual vibes too I notice, we love a deep connection but really don't care if it's a man or woman. Also be honest if you just want to be poly, don't waste monogamous folks time.

[@artaquino6388]

Both are problematic

[@musikbox1983]

​@@artaquino6388 Both are human, and humans are flawed. If someone did a deep dive into your brain and was able to find out everything you have ever thought, felt, done, or said, you could be judged just as harshly as anyone you deem problematic.

[@Scar-jg4bn]

​@@artaquino6388 yup, they're both awful like 99% of bisexual men.

[@ackerjawaka1966]

I don't know what you would class me as because my ideal partner would be boxing Helena but deaf, dumb and blind ⚡

[@vogelvogeltje]

@@artaquino6388 blue shirt is cute and human. He’s allowed to grow.

[@BlackStarASMR]

As a gay man, when I am in love with a man, I want the relationship to be monogamous and I would never cheat on him.

[@lindsey7951]

Right why is that so hard to get nowadays...

[@drewveflin2842]

The side eye at 7:02 PERFECTLY MATCHED my reaction to what that dude said

[@sulagreen5792]

Why? What about what he said is incorrect? I feel like most women engage in a collective delusion about the difference in strength between men and women and what that means for our intimate interactions with them.

[@drewveflin2842]

@@sulagreen5792your mom

[@dmtygmyt7635]

@@sulagreen5792its just a weird thing to say brug

[@cowboymice]

fr 😅

[@Lunairium]

You’re taking what he said out of context. He very obviously meant you’re more in control of your boundaries when you have size advantage and he’s expressing fear of being graped by a man. It’s a valid fear.

[@ChrisCap732]

As a Bi Male I feel more attraction towards women than men. I feel like theres a fine line that I always draw about my attraction towards men and my attraction towards women, I would get aroused by Masculine Men and Masculine Women. Theres something about Masculinity that makes me aroused. I only date Bisexual or Bicurious men and women because I feel like I can find compatibilty with them. Ive been told that im just confused, im going against god because he said that men and women were designed for eachother sexually. I feel like im not committing any crime or hurting anyone, im just living my life like im supposed to. Im so glad that the Bisexual and Bicurious community are finally being represented.

[@Superbatmanbro]

I'm also a Bi man who likes masculine traits in women and men.

[@ChrisCap732]

@@Superbatmanbro welcome to the club. Let's be friends

[@itmekai]

I'm a bi dude.. I think I like men more , but ofc I still do have standards , I won't date just about every man I saw 😂 when it comes to woman , there's a specific type that I'm looking for. So, dating guys is a lot easier I think cuz my types are everywhere 😂

[@PyramidTom]

Same. But because of I am atracted to masculinity I thought my preference lean to men.

[@luismenezes8261]

​@@ChrisCap732I know how you feel. I'm also a bisexual male and I do prefer masculine men, which is quite hard to find since many bisexual men from where I live are somewhat effeminate or act just plain gay. However, when it comes to women, I do like in between. Not too feminine or too tomboyish. I mean, she may wear a skirt or dress, but it doesn't have to be pink or with flowers design or wear too much makeup.

[@anthonyd9844]

I'm glad you included that last bit where they discussed cheating and being bi, it really does just come down to the person; anyone is capable of cheating. As a bi my biggest challenge is prejudice i experience with gay men and straight women. there's still a lot of misinformation out there about bisexuality. I hope more people learn treat us as individuals and not a hive mind. we don't all think / act or have the same values

[@camsmovingsketchbook8402]

"Men are like fast food and women are a nice salad." Me; a gay guy: Fine, I like Wendy's anyway! 😤 😂😂😂

[@artaquino6388]

That's so effed up, if a guy says this to me it would be over

[@An-kw3ec]

These people are more female attraction leaning, straight women already admit to not be that much into men either way. It feels only we gays are truly into men.

[@reoij]

Don't settle for that bullshit.

[@Hanayaaa]

As a young closeted bisexual who came to seek maybe a little bit if relation, I’m genuinely sad I couldn’t.

[@purpleblues1675]

You don’t relate to being torn between straight and queer communities? Not knowing where you belong or if each community will accept you as you are or instead try and box u in?

[@jorieshouse]

I mean I related to everything and lived all the participants vibes as well so...?

[@Hanayaaa]

@ I think that’s you who related to everything and not me.

[@florentinenice9146]

Fellow bisexual here. You do not have to relate. Some of these were even biphobic.

[@TygerTyger911]

It's about time! I didn't think I was ever going to see a bisexual episode from this channel. I can't wait for the next one...

[@way9883]

3:33 "you still like football, right?" that's honestly kind of hilarious 😂

[@jillsarah7356]

I love Bisexual representation!! Would love to see more!

[@burburchacha]

12:13 "Men are most likely to cheat" SPOT ON!!!

[@MocaUniverse]

This was so chaotic 😂😂 When I was first starting to mingle with other bisexuals I discovered that not everyone liked both genders equally.. ppl had their preferences on who they would have sex with and who they would date based on gender. This honestly blew my lil mind cuz I was like "So you're a girl who just wants to fuck other girls, not date them seriously?? But you would seriously date a man?? Idk that sounds a bit shitty to me and like you're leading women on. Also sounds like comphet in a way". I've grown a lot from that initial thought lol and have developed my own preferences to where I'm not exactly 50/50 myself anymore. I think that as a bisexual person it's important to figure out your preferences and be up front about them, if you know you don't want to seriously date one gender then let them know that instead of stringing them along. It's okay to have your preferences but it is not okay to let others be casualties because you didn't convey them. Also still very much believe that a lot of bisexual folks deal with comphet lol, but that's their own personal journey. Interesting video!

[@nehalilisays]

I had to google what "comphet" means. At first I thought it stands for "competitive heterosexual" 😂

[@TheLakeMorgan]

As a lesbian I have learned a lot today while watching this video, I have had a lot of experience and emotions towards bisexual individuals myself. I am currently in a relationship with a pansexual woman, and while pansexuality and bisexuality is different, I do sometimes get the same insecurity for both, and this is something I have worked on. While I do have this little fear in the back of my head where my brain tries to tell me my gf will leave me for a man, I trust her and I have worked to quite that little voice in my head, the only reason it doesn’t fully go away is because I have OCD and it’s now more just a compulsive thought that I can’t really stop, but I have learned to ignore. Secondly, funny enough even though I have this compulsion, I as a nonbinary lesbian have always felt safer and seen as more valid with a pan or bi partner than another lesbian partner, but that has only been my experience so far. I also wanted to speak on a thing or two, some of the individuals seem to perhaps be bisexual, but heteroromantic. I am not absolutely sure to be honest. I don’t know how it feels to have emotions or sexual feelings towards more than one so gender, so I am not exactly sure how that works. All in all I just hope everyone in this video ends up finding a loving partner and relationship that feels their needs, open or closed. Honestly as long as you are having true open communication with your partner or the people you are dating, then enjoy and have fun :3

[@Emma-wm9jg]

thanks for sharing :)

[@dewilew2137]

I really hate the first few videos I watched on this channel, but I’ve gotta give credit where credit is due. I’ve never felt more seen than when watching this video. So thank you for this.

[@Selfemployedmildautisticperfor]

Same it's very nice A good example of that is lesbian VERSUS gay they are the same thing it's just lesbuan is only women identifying

[@WHALEx3]

12:53 Man really pulled a "we got McDonalds at home" 🤣

[@jamisonfawkes8537]

as a bisexual woman, i think i’d actually like to date another bi person. be committed, but allow for some openness if someone wants to bone the opposite sex of their partner every so often. as long as everyone is safe and happy.

[@Rage_Harder_Then_Relax]

True. Cheaters should stick together.

[@aaazzz8324]

@@Rage_Harder_Then_Relaxits not cheating if they agreed about the boundaries before hand.

[@KinkShamer]

@@Rage_Harder_Then_RelaxCRYING

[@tigerlillypearse8831]

It's so nice to hear people who express what I feel but couldn't articulate.

[@macabreromance]

12:50 “we have that at home.” 😂😂😂

[@suzaninha_y]

i think that, in the cheating question, they were talking mostly about themselves or people they met individually, to cheat it is the person's character not being bisexual

[@arthZur]

yes i agree so much with that, like they always think if ur dating a bi person u have more chances to get cheated on, i always strongly disagree with that, it's not about sexuality its about the person

[@taylorbaysinger]

I have met so few fellow bis/pans that I had no idea the low-key longing to be with a different gender or sex than the one you're in a relationship with was so prevalent. I am an AFAB NB in a committed married relationship with a man and am no cheater, so the fact that I frequently dream and fantasize about (imaginary) women and trans folks surprises me, and even made me wonder a few years ago if maybe I'm actually a lesbian in denial. And looking back on past relationships, I would usually flip-flop between men and women with each relationship or hookup. So glad I stumbled upon this video and now know this is fairly common!

[@mentholcrystals]

does your husband know about this

[@taylorbaysinger]

@@mentholcrystals Yep, he's all good, thanks for checking 😄

[@sadem1045]

I really appreciated the lack of arguments within this group. There were a few cringey moments, but when you compare this video to a number of Jubilee's Spectrum and Middle Ground videos....................this was like a breath of fresh air!

[@doubled4678]

This is what happens when bi people pay too much attention to the gender and not the person. As someone who is bi I understand that every person is different, when it becomes girls vs guys it diminishes the actual person. When people ask me a girl vs guy questions i always answer with what action/personality/features I like and then relate it to how they show up in both genders rather than stereotyping both genders. Instead of saying who has better sex, explain what sex you like and how that affects who you tend to sleep with more.

[@ThatsMyUsborneBook]

This was a fascinating conversation. Especially the last few minutes.

[@Harry-fk5of]

Not objectifying but based on this vid the energy coming from both Jasymin and Dequiante make them equally attractive to me. Love Jasymin's facial expressions to everyone's slightly problematic statements haha

[@marieap6945]

Good lord, a lot of problematic statements/generalizations here

[@playdoug12]

Can you please list an example

[@atheneamndz1200]

@@playdoug12all bisexual people yearn for the gender they’re not with… like what? also that cheating with a woman as a woman is not as hurtful/important

[@jambacon9]

​@@atheneamndz1200 yeah, and the fetishization of wlw from the dude in the blue...

[@DarkVeghetta]

'Oh no, people have different opinions than my own or those of the people around me. How horrible!'

[@Martin-ju8zj]

@@jambacon9 dude in blue has many problems but let me just keep quiet

[@SJNL11279]

Maybe this is an unpopular opinion BUT DO NOT SAY YOURE GAY OR ALLOW SOMEONE TO THINK YOUR GAY WHEN YOU ARE BI.

[@ebonyblack4563]

I label as Bi because my responses to fem vs masc people is very different. I'm also Ace&Aro Spectrum, and it explained so much.

[@Taritariwee]

I find the bisexual people are more likely to cheat question a bit annoying. Because that's the question i always encounter when i tell people i'm bi. The thing about being bi is it opens up the pool. If i have decided to commit with that person, man or woman. I'll commit to them. Cheating happens regardless of the orientation. It is on that person not the orientation.

[@LinnersC]

I agree. like there are billions of people in this world, while there are technically more options for bi people there are honestly tonnes of options for anyone of any sexuality. If you make a commitment you make a commitment

[@lindsey7951]

​​@@LinnersCdid you just say there are as many options for gay men as bi men looking for women? Where do you live...Narnia.

[@ricardosanelias9600]

WHO I AM, IS NOT DETERMINED BY WHO I'M WITH. #bisexuality

[@megancurtis9502]

I feel like if bi people were up front with their preferences, there would be less biphobia from inside the community especially. If you don’t see yourself marrying one gender you have to be up front about that. So many people get hurt by people not sharing their preferences and then assume things like “all bi people are either straight or gay and they’re just experimenting” or “all bi people won’t be satisfied with just one gender”. I know this sounds like victim blaming, but I’m just saying I think we could be better about sharing things so that we’re not perceived in a bad way Edit: I feel I should add I’m not talking about if you’re confused and figure out what you want later. I’m just saying if you know what you want and you’re not being honest about it

[@cernunnos123]

Megan, I'm really sorry for you were hurt like that. I can assure you, this is a matter of person, not orientation. I really wish you find the right person!

[@artaquino6388]

​@@cernunnos123 shes right tho, its internalized biphobia

[@megancurtis9502]

@@artaquino6388 wait, do you mean that I have internalized biphobia?

[@editsbybee7337]

@@megancurtis9502I think they mean the people in this video, like their thought process is … interesting

[@G.D.G.]

As someone that stoped dating bi women FOREVER because of the cheating and "i cant see myself in a long term relationship with a women" after 2 years of dating... Yes, bi women at least are not honest about this. I think this happenes because they are aware that noone will date them. Its borderline lying.

[@rublna3619]

loved the conversation, thanks for the video

[@albarainbow]

Girl on 11:20 I feel you sooo much! I have been falling for people (girls mostly) that are not into me and, when trying to hook up with men, they end up liking me more than I do them and eventually I move away from them bc currently I just want a wife :(

[@joshuarobinson898]

“I saw you behind the coats”😭😭😭

[@rileytenhagen4113]

2 minutes in and I already feel so validated

[@katebarlowmusic]

I love that Brian joins in on the convo, Jubilee could never

[@fjdoucet1465]

The thing about bi-sexuality is that it's a misleading term. People think that it means you're equally attracted to both, but a lot are more gay or more straight, etc.

[@FocalPointElisa]

Fluidity...yes.

[@marinad6943]

and preferences can also change, for some time you're more attracted to women, then to men, then equally, and it can last weeks, months or even years

[@ncjxbshj]

I don't like when people call it "more straight/gay", tbh, because those sexualities are by definition exclusive. I'm never gay or straight, I can lean more towards women or men. But I never experience the world in the way a straight or gay person would, I don't know what it's like to never have been attracted to men/women at all. It might sound like hair splitting, but if we don't want people to think we "turned straight" after marrying someone of the same sex, we need to be careful when we are trying to explain experiences that non-bi people don't have.

[@gaesimp__]

1:22 I feel so bad for him. People need to realise that you can be BISEXUAL but not have to BIROMANTIC, just bc you're bi, doesn't mean you're romantically attracted to both genders, there is split attraction

[@lalalalala-b2t]

Ohh, thank you! I am from very homophobic country. I am identifying me as a bisexual. But I don't know about it maybe 50%. I have a lot of questions about my orientation, because one disgusting man was faping (?) me, when I was 10

[@gaesimp__]

@lalalalala-b2t that's awful, I'm sorry that happened to you. I'm sorry that your country hasn't opened up more either, and I hope it does soon. You should look into the bisexual spectrum if you're able too and biromantic spectrum too, it can be really helpful (it's also called the split attraction model)

[@jamsandwish]

thank u

[@lemonade_penguin]

this is such a quotable video... "Some bisexual people.... they yearn" 13:45

[@nordichana]

"I can be bi and confused" got me XD

[@_leivo]

it's not cheating or being monogamous, there are other options and those options can and should be consensual and work as much as any other

[@lumiao1685]

Interesting what the blue shirt man said about casual sex. Maybe it's the power of familiarity but I'm a bi woman and I'm pretty comfortable hooking up with a man even if we barely talked but I feel so weird and uncomfortable even kissing a woman I don't know. I'm thinking I'm very demisexual with women and not as much with men.

[@blaircomptons148]

Maybe you still have internalized homophobia?

[@lumiao1685]

@@blaircomptons148 quite possibly.

[@keenh1075]

I need a whole show/documentary (and to be casted)! This was captivating. I relate a lot to boy in blue and oddly enough he was the one I was eyeing before the video started

[@DEEANNA88]

The guy is blue is hot

[@DarkVeghetta]

He is fairly cute and was the most well spoken. Though, I do enjoy the JoJo posing guy and especially the black influencer girl - she was the standout for me.

[@calebrene13]

FINALLY SOMEONE SAID THAT

[@mooncookies7803]

and problematic

[@kopecll3]

and straight

[@Nadsow]

Damn, I love being bisexual.

[@kaitlyncarey3269]

Guy in the red needs a hug!!!!

[@toocooltobecruel]

6:55 that guy just summed up what women go through when dating men: being taken advantage of and not feeling in control.

[@jsomebody2289]

I find these fascinating and good job getting a variety of people on this spectrum.

[@luckycharm6440]

Gray shirt is toooo fine 😭😭

[@WHALEx3]

ikr

[@КудряшовДаниил-э9с]

RIGHT? I was thinking that from the beginning (plus I relate to his experience)

[@jessilovely]

Omg thanks for the representation!! So happy to see bi people and what they have to say ❤

[@jinxesinshadows1994]

“We have that at home” I love him lmfao

[@conlon4332]

I wish they'd asked the reverse question of the first one, would you date someone of the opposite sex? I would have been really interested in their answers. I also think it shows a bias of the part on the people writing the questions that they only asked that question one way around and not the other.

[@katebarlowmusic]

as a bisexual, i fucking love all of you

[@JasmynCarter]

Love you more

[@Rage_Harder_Then_Relax]

That's why bi people can't be trusted. They "love" everybody!

[@MadArtLang]

Who you want to have sex with vs. Who you want to date casually, exlusively & seriously, marry monogamously, polyamorously etc. It varies, it can change, it can be circumstantial or fixed.

[@jorieshouse]

I absolutely loved this video, thanks for sharing

[@Skywohka]

The woman in the intro saying men are easy so she sleeps with them is so perplexing and telling of modern dating. I don't know how she thinks that makes her any less easy than the person she's sleeping with? What a way to throw yourself onto a pedestal inappropriately, like it's just very disrespectful to the people she's sleeping with and she seems to believe that they're the ones getting rewarded by sleeping with her. Very interesting take from her. Same woman had to think for a second before going to the "strongly disagree" section when asked if they like men more than women. So much radiating shame from her in the fact that she likes men at all.

[@bendemare5270]

Looks like somebody recognise themselves of the " Men are so easy ' pattern, hm ?

[@danieljessekaplan7034]

Regardless she’s not wrong haha

[@Skywohka]

@@bendemare5270 Nop

[@Skywohka]

@@danieljessekaplan7034 Well, she is, and it’s disrespectful to the guys who aren’t easy. If you wanna be easy as a guy, go do it. Plenty of men value themselves though, as do women. Plenty of easy women as well. Generally p mixed for all genders lmao. Easy women for easy men, and difficult women for difficult men. People who value themselves end up with people who value themselves. It’s just that simple. Do you really think the men who actually value themselves and their bodies/time are going around sleeping with easy girls? No, they are focusing on themselves and finding an actual relationship. They go on dates with people before sleeping with them. They cut someone off before sleeping with them. This is what mature adults do. People like this person in the video and people like you think that the world is forged around the type of lives that you live, and the way that you see the world, when, in reality, there’s a whole silent demographic of people who are not even involved in hook up culture because they value themselves, inherently, and their representation is overshadowed because they are quiet. They just mind their own business. So no, not all men are like that at all. A lot of men really value themselves and their bodies and their time.

[@CynthiaNotG]

True. But when you ask generic silly questions, can’t expect the answers to be winners.

[@ncjxbshj]

"My type is women who don't like me back" ouch. That hit close to home. I've NEVER felt any reciprocation from the women I liked. It's a special kind of pain when you were lucjy enough to develop feelings for a girl who also likes women only to realize she's as good as straight when it comes to you.

[@Unan1mouz]

This is such an interesting topic! I like hearing their different POVs. Thank you for the video. I relate to the black guy in red a lot as a bi person. I'm attracted to both genders, but I think because of my religious beliefs, I do want to settle down with a woman someday... But I am open to the idea of being sexual with men. Just that I don't see myself in a long-term gay relationship.

[@blaircomptons148]

You do know that there’s also a lot of hurdle and struggles in opposite-sex relationships too I also love how you used religion to justify against same-sex relationships. Tale as old as time

[@Unan1mouz]

@@blaircomptons148 And so? That's just MY personal belief. I dont impose it on others :) You are free to live your life however you want...

[@blaircomptons148]

⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠@@Unan1mouz And feel free to live your life too. Nothing wrong with religion, as long as you don’t use it to judge against other people or justify your bigotry or hatred. If what you’re saying is “being in an opposite-sex relationship will make me better than all same-sex couples” which sounds like it is, you’re just an idiotic homophobe who doesn’t believe that other LGBTs should have the same right as you You being anti-gay also invalidates other bisexuals who are in same-sex relationships

[@artaquino6388]

Just dont lead men on

[@jl_nwestie]

I just hope that if they are not being honest with themselves, then they don't hurt any of their partners and waste their time. Time that could be spent on someone who knows who they want.

[@mynamewhatis7254]

As a bi person I found the perfect man. He's also bi and we love each other very much and are monogamous no question. We are in a straight relationship, but sometimes I feel like we're in a gay relationship and sometimes I feel like we're in a lesbian relationship and sometimes I feel like we're in a straight relationship. We both have a wide range of personality and enjoy each other's range of behavior and mostly we enjoy each other's company and our minds put together. I am truly blessed.

[@nipunkumar161]

nice

[@user-ls1bw2uw1j]

Sounds wonderful! Relationship goals

[@Nofarsh]

"I have a type, and that's girls that don't like me back" Everything she said here..Damnnn it hit close 😆😢

[@DrKennyWang]

Love all these guys, they all seem like they would be my friends

[@actxce9220]

Dude in the blue shirt is so real 😂"its so fun though" "we have that at home"

[@moha8287]

I wanna hug the blonde girl.. i just wanna hug her and i feel like that would be enough to understand everything about her she’s so shy and baby gurl 🥺

[@byebyecitybyebye]

y'all so much of this makes me thankful that I'm poly and demi/aro, so much drama avoided

[@DoubleBlack2.0]

All of them struggling so much with every decision is ✨peak✨ bisexual culture. It’s just who we are!! 😂

[@alexandrajones-ss6rf]

I feel like a bunch of those people are polyamorous but not accepting it and equating those feelings to bisexuality but they aren’t mutually exclusive, when the tall guy was confused when they all said they crave the other in a relationship, I was like yes speak up, if you’re monogamous and with the right person you just crave that person

[@Thomazo17]

While it's not really LGBT related, I think a video with Neurotypicals/Neurodivergents would be very interesting

[@NonnofYobiznes]

It's quite admirable and even respectful the way they actually have clear boundries and understandings of what a man and a woman are.

[@lucy.vonahlften]

Dude with the bliss tshirt is the vibe 🤌🏻

[@SuperHappyNotMerry]

i totally understand that feeling of never being able to trust yourself and sort of seesawing from thinking you're gay to thinking you're straight. definitely wouldn't chose to be monosexual tho, I love being bi too much but I can understand why some bi people would want the solidity of being monosexual

[@slenderman-tz6tm]

It’s sad to see a lot of them not treat same sex relationship more seriously.

[@leot1864]

Exactly. I feel like some of them just use same sex people just for fun and nothing else.

[@daryalysenka2088]

OMG excuse me sir with a little bit ginger hair I have exactly the same top and I always have put it on a white shirt but you showed me a different world! I love how you wear it thank you for a new outfit idea :>

[@sangria-margarita]

6:50-7:02 What the fuck?? 😬 "With a man I might get taken advantage of, but with a woman I feel more in control"

[@littleleafyleaf]

I think he means that if the woman was to turn on him, he’d be able to protect himself as opposed to another full grown man coming at him

[@annem7119]

I think at some point we all struggle with our bisexuality one way or another, im bi and I’m in a long term relationship with a man and monogamous, so sometimes you feel like because of that you’re no longer bisexual but obviously it’s not how it works

[@wkdgrneyes]

Men usually win.

[@billibambi]

as a bisexual girl i'd literally rather choke on a cattail than be in an open relationship xD i don't judge others for it, whatever makes people happy, if all are consenting is great

[@bvn1313]

i feel like they kinda misunderstood the guy in the blue at the end, he already said he's still confused whilst also being bi and i think it's pretty common for bi people to feel like it's worse for your partner to hook up with one gender or the other, especially if one of you is not fully settled in your sexuality. it seemed like an insecurity thing 😅🩷

[@kaylaturner5551]

My bisexuality is so complicated. It’s like I would love to date a woman but I would have to be more masculine but when I’m with a man my mind goes into feminine mode. It’s hard to switch because when I am with a man my look is femme but if my sole searching was for a woman I would make sure I looked masc and acted masc which I hardly have any good masc clothes let alone pics ☠️

[@Astrapionte]

I love my fellow bi KINGS!!

[@artaquino6388]

They didn't do well here...

[@javantenova]

That “sneakily link” comment is HELLA triggering…lol HELL NAH!!😂🚩🚩🚩

[@Ray03595]

Enjoyable cast, but some of them should hear themselves w/ the misandrist comments. Lets not treat anyone like they're just a pound of flesh...

[@TheKatarinaGiselle]

Humans are humans, their honesty and how they feel should be respected. Otherwise this wouldn't be interesting to even watch.

[@Anahi1991]

@@TheKatarinaGiselleHe gave his opinion. Hes allowed to.

[@TheKatarinaGiselle]

@@Anahi1991 I never said he couldn't 😂 I gave my opinion just like he did. It's called starting a conversation. You can either join, but no need to come at somebody just because their opinion differs.

[@KPopFanUltimate]

lets not treat misandry like it has any relevance in the patriarchy lol

[@MiguelitoD770]

@@KPopFanUltimateNo such thing. If society was so pro men, this comment wouldn’t have bothered you.