Do Boy, Tim Chantarangsu, Amber Diamond, Sydney Castillo! | Social Anxiety | Funny Advice EP 4

[@londonsdone]

"we think too far into the future and that gives us anxiety. And sometimes we look too far into the past and that gives us depression" -Doboy 2022

[@KimberlyEvrAftr]

OMG this!!!!

[@TarotNHeal]

That was profound AF

[@emj970]

That’s a Buddhist teaching 💯🧘‍♀️✨

[@kinglibra912]

This was a great segment, sometimes you don't know you have an issues until you hear someone else's symptoms

[@r.e.m9994]

Man I’m happy u guys are taking about mental health thank you guys for your vulnerability and keepin it 100

[@shonyarmstrong4801]

Doboy!!! The one verse is gonna change a lot of perspectives for people with anxiety and depression. Thank you!!

[@VeeBabyyyyyy]

Yes! Already jotted it in my memory bank for relief if I’m ever having an episode! “Thinking about the future can build anxiety, dwelling on the past can build depression.” 🙌🏽

[@jayriv]

I freaking love this show! Wish it was a bit longer. Sydney be everywhere now👏🏼

[@dwight6508]

Finally.. Syd is hilarious !

[@OaklandMind]

The only time I ever had a panic attack where my body literally seized up, I was crying, and my breath was hard to catch… Was from excruciating pain from menstrual cramps. It was incredulous to me. I couldn’t believe it was happening and I just thought this can’t be a panic attack? But it was. Thankfully my downstairs neighbor was home because I couldn’t even make it to the fourth floor. He called my mother for me and she talk to me down. Because I couldn’t even open my hands. So happy to see DoBoy on as of recent. Cyn this is my new favorite show!

[@Alinguito]

Happy Tim mentioned how “mental health” is taken w Asians bc it’s spot on. As a whole, we really don’t care. I told my pops in HS i had anxiety attacks before every wrestling & football game. He legit laughed & would say “i came to America w 100$ in my pocket not knowing English, no job, and a wife & kid. You’ll be okay” my mom was the same way, even now. At the time, it hated hearing that. I bottled it up but did my role. But now that I’m 30, looking back i appreciate it. Bc my stresses were nothing compared to his, also our opportunities as well. So to anyone reading this whose parents said what my pops said, they are right (at least in my case). Also exercise along with REAL Self-Talk is thee best. I always feel better after doing both.

[@queenandi6279]

Tim said “knock on wood” and ALL the black people looked for some wood 🤣🤣🤣🥰 I love us lol

[@DEFIANTDIGITAL]

😂

[@tonytowns6160]

These shows just keep getting better and better and better. This is next level.

[@DEFIANTDIGITAL]

🔥

[@xaviersmith957]

This helped me. Do Boy. Do Boy words helped me.

[@KimberlyEvrAftr]

Cried a few times just bc what y'all talmbout is so relatable and allows me and others to connect so much with y'all... This shows us that y'all ain't perfect and are just as fucked up as we are... Yall real ASF and I love y'all for it... ✌️❤️❤️❤️

[@DEFIANTDIGITAL]

🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽❤️

[@KimberlyEvrAftr]

@@DEFIANTDIGITAL knowing we all aren't alone is one of the best feelings 🙏✌️❤️

[@SkoolboyKen]

Thank y’all for covering this topic, social anxiety is something I struggled with my whole life. I got to the point where I fell into a depression. I get clouded with thoughts to the point where I could zone out mid conversation and not realize it. Or I could be shivering internally when talking to someone and have to occupy my body with doing something like twiddling with my fingers or something. Im getting better now that I recognize my symptoms. It’s just something you have to be patient with. Can’t be too hard on yourself getting discouraged that you are still dealing with it. I like to remind myself that the only perfect entity to ever walk the earth took 33 years to complete his mission before he could return to God’s right hand.

[@DEFIANTDIGITAL]

🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽❤️

[@_Tree]

As an 80s baby, Im glad that I didn't live as a teenager during this time. There has to be more social anxiety affecting this generation, especially with social media sites

[@fl7978]

Same. I wouldn't have made it.

[@_Tree]

@@fl7978 I feel you on that!!! I don't know how they do it

[@hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii5]

i’m glad i was right in the cusp, as soon as i was in middle school, social media became mainstream and it was bad but it wasn’t as bad as it is now, 01 baby here !

[@amyrose9700]

Do'Boy I'm proud of you. Your advice is very telling about how far you have come through your struggles.

[@cynthialuciette]

🏆🏆🏆

[@Luvvy8484]

My tip is writing. Keeping a memory log, a diary, a journal, whatever you want to call it, just keep something to write thoughts in. Writing definitely helps and can be an aide for those of us who don't connect with people. I write to myself all the time. Like I will write as if I'm having a conversation with an actual friend and by the time I'm done only God knows what I've written down lol. And I just do that anytime I feel that I need to decompress. I have a therapist but I don't tell her everything. I utilize my therapist as a way to clarify things and help me with my triggers. I'm Learning how to stop leaning on my defense mechanisms, I'm trying to get that little child inside some room to finally grow up. Trying to repair the nervous system, which is where trauma sits. This is why I've taken a liking to Reiki healing and chakra healing as well. Chakra cleansing and meditation does help a lot. I keep frequency music playing all day and night and those vibrations and sounds truly do help. The one thing I haven't mastered is social anxiety. I avoid being social at all costs, I have not mastered that and I'm nowhere near comfortable, because each time I try,the world shows me why I stay to myself, I'm like Sydney..I'm in the house 😂. As soon as my hand hits the doorknob I'm anxious. I hate sweating and the gassy stomach, omg 😩 I will be sweating at odd times, I used to think it was because I was fat, nah bruh that's that anxiety. The one thing I'm supposed to like in this world gives me anxiety.. people. Anxiety is like being held hostage but yet you're completely fine and capable of walking away but your mind has made you think that you're going down and that you need to get into flight mode and find the nearest escape, so that's what you do. You want to escape quickly because your mind has already determined that everything wrong is about to happen. I missed a whole doctor's appointment last week because of anxiety. I made it up today and had anxiety the whole day, it went away once I came back through my door. I also prayed the whole day and asked God to guide me. He be knowing I'm a wreck 😂 I know he be like you're only going to the store,chill out. Because I get anxiety going to the store, I get anxiety on walks, and I love walking, but when I see someone coming my way or I see it's people standing where I have to walk past I get nervous. I took the long way around to my house just to avoid a group of people at the corner of my street. I genuinely don't trust people and I've been through so much so a lot of scenarios play out in my head constantly. I worry a lot But writing/or art therapy helps. Like a paint and sip but without the sip. I have tons of adult coloring books I use diamond arts and when I'm doing these projects I meditate. Remember that everyone meditates differently. Prayer is considered meditation, as meditation is actually in the Bible. I hope all those that might be battling anxiety take something positive away from this podcast. I'm happy that I'm receiving the help I need and I hope others step up for themselves too. Let's dismantle these stigmas and labels. Let's educate one another.

[@kinglibra912]

I'm disappointed Doboy didn't say "New Nickname alert!" 😩

[@equilabrada]

Lmao it’s Tim saying “I just tell the Uber driver I’m going to sleep.” for me..….. I thought I was the only one.😭bro gets it.🤣

[@DEFIANTDIGITAL]

😂

[@thevenusofmars]

I love the level of vulnerability everyone had in this episode. I'm so glad more people in our communities are speaking up about these things.

[@Mattfromthaeast]

This was fantastic we’ll done. Cynthia is an excellent host 👏🏾👏🏾

[@cynthialuciette]

Appreciate that💚💜

[@ThatKeeVoice]

She really is.

[@jayz570]

That line about the future and past from Doboy really hit home for me for some reason. Didn’t even know I needed to hear it but thanks bro. Everybody was amazing. It’s always great seeing everyone together talking about some real ish!!

[@cynthialuciette]

Staying in the moment and not getting anxious about the future or depressed about the past is SO IMPORTANT for our mental health! BREATHE AND ENJOY THE MOMENTS !

[@IdHopeNot]

Teddy would b proud of doboy's maturity

[@mahoganyh.7755]

This has been my fave episode so far! Each episode that drops keeps getting better

[@sandmanx5203]

Doboy that part about looking into the future and feeling anxiety and looking at the past causes depression, truly hit. Thank you for that, seriously. I’ve been doing both

[@AngeloGiles]

Another great episode, love that y'all talk about something different every time.

[@JJ_Hamilton]

That’s crazy that doboy brought up his fear of his yorkie being attacked by a pit bc that literally happened to me a couple weeks ago my dog and I were attacked and unfortunately I lost her

[@chriscali2976]

Sorry for your loss

[@JJ_Hamilton]

Thanks

[@MsTaLaiah]

Wow that’s so sad. I hope you start to feel better.

[@elijahwilson1360]

Gah damn Do! I'm picking up those gems 👊🏽

[@you_can_call_me_T]

They skated past what Amber said, but she was right about weed being a motivation killer for some people and I wish that was talked about more. Nobody talks about the other side of marijuana. Some people smoke every day with no problem. But for some, smoking regularly puts you in a place of just taking care of your necessary obligations and bumming out the rest of the time. Barely getting by at work, neglecting relationships, not exercising, not pushing or bettering yourself in any way. I believe people who struggle with depression are more likely to have that response to it. The weed helps numb the sadness, loneliness, etc. But it doesn't actually treat the side effects of depression (sadness, withdrawal and isolation, lack of motivation). It's just makes you feel okay with ignoring them.

[@OrganicAlumination]

I hear you but that sounds like indica

[@offbeatttt_]

Love this!!! I do something similar to Sydney when I have a panic attack. If I can get a piece of ice, I’ll hold it in my mouth. And it triggers your brain to pay attention to the cold sensation instead of anxiety!😊😊

[@naomiluxe0]

I felt that hard Cynthia about the parent thing. I be feeling that way about everyone I care about but mostly my parents

[@cj10109]

Wow would’ve never known Sydney suffered from anxiety! He seems so confident 😢❤ good to see Doboy and Tim on here! OG’s

[@MMTBenzo]

I'm happy conversations on mental health amongst minorities are on the up and up. Mental health as a whole actually. Everyone deserves to have happiness. Thanks for the perspective y'all!! 🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@VeeBabyyyyyy]

This is a very healthy and relieving convo, especially if you’ve experienced long term anxiety 💛 Thanks y’all for being open and candid.

[@alterrockgirl24]

Been waiting for another one to drop. Thank you for the quality content 🙏

[@thefunfamilychannel6470]

Wow came here for Tim and stayed for the whole group .. this video is hilarious 😂😂😂😂

[@dianam9311]

Such an important topic! AMAZING EPISODE

[@andrebelfon6738]

👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿 Well done. This is needed. Lets break that stigma!!

[@dwrod24]

Always did stand up… I’m 44 years old from PGH Pa. I loved the stage… married early 2 kids by 22 and Stand up was like a side hustle… open up for comics as they come through.. hit a few shows in Ohio and then I’m back to work on Monday. I was in the National Guard and got deployed to Iraq ( twice) 2005-2006 and 2008-2009 after Iraq 2005 I came back with SO MUCH MATERIAL I was killing the stage …. Best I ever was. After 2009 the shit that I seen, came home to a cheating wife, here I am thinking everyone is rooting for me and I come home to thinking…. Damn they all knew and they were laughing at me. From 2010 until like 2012 my confidence was fucked up and I could not figure out what to do…. So fast forward Turea came to PGH and my man was like this will be a good show for you to do… I did the show and my set was TRASH!! Not boo you off stage trash but definitely nothing to talk about and from there I was in my head heavy… ended up getting remarried and she had to eat all the crazy shit I dealt with in Iraq … finally got help at the VA because I was suicidal…. The complete opposite of what people knew me to be… not to tute my own horn but I was NICE!! I even performed for my peers while I was in Iraq ( Richard Pryor tattoo) on my Forearm I was part of that COMMUNITY and then I wasn’t… and that shot hurt. The VA had me on 250mg of Zoloft, 10mg of Ambien, and 2 other medications to keep me from flipping the fuck out… not a way I wanted to live at all. I watched a documentary on Netflix called UNPRESCRIBED maybe 5 months ago… it’s about Iraq/Afghanistan soldiers coming back from war and not knowing how to deal with shit… so they started killing themselves or taking All this medication same shit I was taking that took me away from who I was… the documentary was about Medical Cannabis and how these soldiers were able to get off of all this Mind Numbing shit and start going outside with their kids and doing shit. I’m proud to say I’m off of all that shit… I got my little weed pen that I use before bed, my mind is clear, no open mics yet, but a Nigga is writing again ( damn I got tears in eyes typing this) . I watch y’all and I’m like I use to be that… but I’m still that and I will hit the stage soon. Mental health is the realest shit EVER… because there is no way to escape it…everywhere you try to go… there you are. I am extremely grateful for your honesty and I fucks with y’all for this… Jerry Wilson aka J- DUBB 2xiraqvet out of PGH PA

[@missJD227]

🙏🏾 you keep on writing

[@lorenzojonesjr8701]

Fam that setback n life experience goin to be the greatest comeback ever salute keep writing cause when you hit that stage they not going be ready for them jokes 🙂😂🤣😂🤣

[@Kamikit]

Excellent conversation, this transparency is much needed. Whew I feel Cynthia on the parents thing, crazy anxious about it as a only child.

[@calebtheviceroy]

🔥 episode y'all. Keep 'em comin'! Pause...

[@MzTrueBlue]

This was great. The transparency is much needed

[@Be2Bless]

Wim Hof Method will really help like the cold water methed Sydney mentions at the beginning!

[@BeautifulBrownskinnedlondonlux]

This was a great episode The DoBoy line was amazing about the Future…… and past.

[@livvlivetv7662]

DoBoy Better Be Sippin That Water!

[@TarotNHeal]

Omg this was awesome! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🤎🤎🤎

[@dwight6508]

Great episode. More content with Syd👏

[@conflicc5505]

Cyn hit it on the head for me when I started recognizing that other people are nervous or anxious in the moment also, it helped me relax luckily I picked up on it as a kid in school when you walk into a class everyone looks at you and I would put my head down and kinda slink into my desk and I'd be a nervous wreck the whole period then one day i walked in and in that moment I stopped and looked at everyone in the class and everyone put they're head down or looked away and in that moment I realized they're nervous just like me and my anxiety instantly went away

[@shadowscarnage]

I'm glad you guys went into length talking about your own struggles and how you dealt with it.

[@elitewhite25]

I loved this episode! Thank y’all for talking about this!!

[@deucemaxwell]

Great Episode Keep this series going

[@TopRopeZeus]

Solid episode. Good information 💎

[@DEFIANTDIGITAL]

💎💎💎

[@ThatKeeVoice]

Great episode! This was amazingly helpful. Thanks, guys, for your transparency. Sometimes,transparency is the best “advice” you can give.

[@cynthialuciette]

🏆💚💜 I’m happy everyone opened up! It was a fun episode to film!

[@michelleh.3326]

This was great, so glad you all were vulnerable and transparent. Loved it ❤

[@lwaziqamata4532]

This was such a wholsome episode. Thank you for speaking on this ❤

[@NoGhostJustAShell]

really liked this episode! loved everyone's honesty. imo it sounds like tim is just an introvert lol

[@josephperkins1523]

This was very good and useful for me and people around me. I love funny advice and defiant digital so far. Creative and hilarious and helpful

[@ceegalamatias5575]

Exposure therapy (talking to people more on purpose) worked the best for me. Making it a point to constantly talk to people makes it easier and it becomes second nature to converse more comfortably. The more I stay inside my house and isolate, I regress horribly. I stutter and say my sentences jumbled and backwards the more I stay to myself. I also tell myself I’m excited when I get anxious. To try to trick myself into getting hyped in a positive way. I also tell myself, no one gives a fuck about whatever I’m doing because everyone is wrapped up in their own worlds. We all get nervous and no one has their shit together completely. All these thoughts and keeping a good sense of humor help me. I just hate turning red and sweating so much when I talk to new people. Idk how to work on that besides carrying a rag to dry my face 🤷🏽‍♀️ 😭

[@SpicyOriginal]

Great episode yall.

[@ron121mill]

I glad I seen this, thank you guys for talking about this 💯💯

[@MimiW333]

I needed to see this. Bless you all and thank you.

[@QUADacityLyfe]

Yea. I love Sydney and Tim.

[@lifewithashley1498]

Tim is so chill!! I love him so much!! Anything be does I click so fast!!

[@kennymcclendon]

Might be my favorite episode 🔥🔥🔥

[@DEFIANTDIGITAL]

🔥

[@teebaye]

Thank you for this!! Your vulnerability is strength ❤

[@NashonLee]

Thank y’all for sharing and keeping it 💯

[@amoni.k6632]

I really liked this episode

[@Dreamlandroad88]

great and necessary conversation. This is great platform and great group to speak on this topic. Shows the family connection

[@urloudandwrong]

great idea, cynthia:) love to hear how diff ppl handle their issues. gotta have a variety of tools when managing mental health

[@breadlee5951]

Keep this going cyn. I fucks with this.

[@JM619CA]

This show found its legs. Best Episode To Date. 🫡

[@kraightondavis6587]

Yes! Do this more!!!!!

[@cjfresh8811]

I missed doboy man love his energy and the advice he gives keep striving bro! This episode was everything

[@elisciachristie6984]

It's good that you guys are talking about these issues. Keep it up. A lot of us have to understand some of these pressures that are put on those that put their self out there to the public. Much love to y'all

[@CamaroThings]

YES!!!

[@pandadragon863]

Man I really appreciate this! 💪🏾

[@TheTodd46]

YOO!!! I love this! Please keep this up

[@deborahterrell4679]

This was a great episode, speaking on mental health in a funny way to possibly reach some you wouldn't

[@MzSweetzTalk]

Tim 💯💯💎💎 Sydney ❤️🙌 "We spend too much time worrying about the future, which gives us anxiety. We spend too much time looking in the past. Which makes us depressed." -Doboy 💎💎💯💯

[@MsTaLaiah]

I look like an entire bum when I’m depressed. Love that they all know how to rise above at least on the outside 🌟

[@farenzeks437]

Cyn is a good host, she knows when to kinda cut ppl off & reads the room well, all that. Lookin good af while she at it 😅 this ep was great, all spoke on real shit, liking this show

[@ny2768]

Amazing discussion 👏 ❤️

[@DEFIANTDIGITAL]

❤‍🔥

[@diorpaint4112]

Make these longer yall plz!!

[@hunja1000]

We need more content like this!

[@NeimanMarkiss]

This was Oscar worthy material 🙌🏾

[@G1376LOVE]

Fantastic episode. Very happy to hear this discussion

[@JoFlirt]

This was an awesome episode and a great show. I'm hoping one day I can be a guest on this show. This is an amazing platform

[@mariesmith1150]

This show is sooo good! Cyn is 🔥

[@goddessofmind6082]

This was helpful all around. A lot of helpful tips was shared. It can be applied to social and personal!! Great talk 🤎🤎🧡🤎💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾

[@cynthialuciette]

Yaaay! Glad you enjoyed it and it helped! 💜💚💜

[@thehoneydeev]

For the lady talking about her dreams coming through, please pray over your dream life.

[@anthonyjacksonjr4812]

Great points guys. Thanks. 💪🏾

[@tljbeme]

Great episode guys

[@EvolvingMama_]

👏🏾 mental health is wealth 🧠🙏🏾

[@DEFIANTDIGITAL]

💯

[@marlonbraxton5178]

Great show I'm so glad you guys touched on this topic I so needed this

[@BIgD03]

This is definitely me! That grounding is something I'm still learning but it's very important.

[@cynthialuciette]

It helps me ALOT!!!

[@BIgD03]

@@cynthialuciette it would help me also. It's only been a couple of months since I've learned how to the stay in the moment. Normally, I would be a little nervous and start sweating in a room/meeting because my mind starts wandering.

[@Dbestskills]

Depression meds also help with anxiety. There are long term and short term drugs. These did also take months to really start working (the long term ones) so if you are going to take them, you must take them as prescribed.

[@officiallistengreatmuzik]

I really enjoyed this episode and this is well needed for many of us.

[@LykeDuhh11]

As a licensed professional, I'll say you can take antidepressants for a period of time only. It does not mean you will be on the for the rest of your life. You can experience side effects if you just stop taking them. Most providers/prescribers will help you titrate off of them with monitoring if you decide you want to discontinue them.

[@BboyMobster]

I love hearing the true shit. Also the behind the scene shit.

[@SilverSkywalker]

Great conversation!!

[@DEFIANTDIGITAL]

🔥

[@SilverSkywalker]

@@DEFIANTDIGITAL Y'all keep up the great content! From this to Cancel Court, I'm loving these shows!!💯💯

[@foes7032]

I listen to Jhene Aiko’s Trigger Protect Mantra to calm my anxiety and meditate to when I’m feeling anxious or stressed.

[@Luvvy8484]

That does it every time for me too. Mantra's and Frequency music, those sounds really do bring peace.

[@wavyjuicehq]

wooooo! here for you Tim !!