Do I fear death as a hospice nurse?

[@NurseHadley]

Thank you so much for watching this video! I was recently interviewed by The New York Times! If you'd like to read that interview and learn a bit more about me, check it out here: www.nytimes.com/interactive/2023/10/22/magazine/hadley-vlahos-interview.html If you have any questions for me as a hospice nurse, please leave them in the comments and they could be in my next video! If you liked this video, you'll love my book The In-Between, you can learn more about it here: nursehadley.com/book

[@laura9435]

I have my BSN and I’ve had to stop working due to Long Covid and POTS. I went into Hypovolemic Shock (later found out it was due the under treatment of POTS and ischemic colitis). When I was being coded in the ER I had an out of body experience. I had been transported by ambulance and was alone, but as they were running the code, my Dad (who unexpectedly died 5 years prior) was standing next to my body. He didn’t say anything, I just remember watching everyone work on me, and he was just by my side. I came to in the ICU but can’t help but think my Dad didn’t want me to be alone and knew I was alone and knew it wasn’t my time yet. I’m still pretty sick, but believe we do have loved ones watching over us.

[@glorytorussia90]

🤗😘😘😘😘😘

[@ETH.games.]

So I a Christian and I believe in an after life but not all people go to heaven because since we are sinners we can't be with God so that I why Jesus died on the cross to pay for are sins so we can be with God and loved ones in heaven

[@KatieeGloria]

So sad!!!! I'm in Australia and I can't get your book!!!!

[@laura9435]

@@KatieeGloria Do you have Audible? You can listen to it there! It’s an amazing book!

[@fabulousflatfashionwithtis1806]

Im 38 with cancer and heading into hospice this week. Your videos have made me less scared and i now 100% believe i am getting signs from the afterlife coming through faster.

[@ClaraOneill1967]

Please read or ask a person to read John 3:16 to you. God bless you

[@Kaleidescope66]

Much love to you. I wish you a peaceful journey ❤

[@kathysheeran6589]

May all the angels and those who comfort you be near🙏❤️

[@basharalsaeed2738]

God bless you

[@alisaonorato9175]

You are Love and light✨ hugs

[@winonabannon8556]

My mother lived over 2 hours from me, so I wasn't aware of her decline in health until I went to visit my parents. He color wasn't good and her nose was turning purple. I insisted that she go to the doctor right away. They diagnosed her as having Emphysema, congestive heart failure and low blood pressure. She had been a smoker but had quit. My father retired from his job to take care of her. Then a couple of months after he retired, he suddenly lost about 30 pounds in a month and he wasn't trying to lose weight. It turned out that he had lung cancer. Thankfully, there were 5 of us siblings, so we divided up the days to take care of them. Along with my amazing sister-in-laws, we pretty much had it covered. My sweetest memories in my life about my parents was this time when they were both ill. At first they were not totally bedridden. We had a lot of family dinners during this time, because it was between Thanksgiving and Christmas. They would sit at our huge dinning room table next to each other, holding hand, instead of at opposite ends of the table, like they had our whole lives. After the blessing of the food prayer, my mom and dad would kiss, several times. We would joke about it, saying "Get a room!" It was easy to see how much they loved each other. The Hospice nurses became a part of our family. My father called his main hospice nurse, My little Tina. He just loved her. She brought him so much joy in his last days. He became much more sick then my mother, and was going pretty fast. My dad had been the manager of a very large construction company. He kept telling us to make sure that the employees were doing this, and doing that. We kept telling him not to worry, that we would make sure that we called them to make sure that they knew to follow his instructions. That would calm him down. We had him in a hospital bed in the living room and my mother in their bedroom. That was because my father kept getting up, trying to take care of my mother. One afternoon, he was sleeping and I was close by reading a book. He woke up with a start, gasping for air. I rushed to him and asked him if he was alright. He said he had the most wonderful dream. He said he was going to this bright light and it was the most wonderful, loving feeling he had ever experienced. He said, he was no longer afraid to die. This gave me great comfort, and still does. We knew his time was near, but he went on for a couple of weeks. Our hospice nurse told us that for some reason he wasn't passing on. He had a very strong personality and we knew he was very worried about my mother. They had my mother go over to him in her wheel chair and tell him how much she loved him and that it was ok for him to go and she would be joining him soon. That night he died. My dad was only 68. He died a week before Father's day. My mother died one year later, one week before Mother's day. Thank you for letting me share my story, and thank you for all you do to give comfort and education to the families that have loved one who are going through this. Your advice is greatly appreciated.

[@PattiGreene-en8dl]

Your story made me think of my dad's passing. He had been sick for months. I sat vigil for 4 days once he became unconscious and unresponsive. I thought I was telling him it was ok to go. But I wasn't. I told him it was ok for him to go, if he wanted to. Of course he didn't because he knew deep down I didn't want him to go. On the 4th day, his best friend - who visited every morning from 7am to noon, told him "It's ok to go." I joked that it was because a man told him, not a woman. But I realize his friend definitively let him know. He died 2 hours later. Thank you for sharing your story and helping me realize this.

[@ai1een876]

This was really meaningful to read.

[@rolltide9173]

Beautiful story. Thanks for sharing

[@berrylishysglam149]

THIS was a beautiful story, thanks so much for sharing

[@DAJ2000]

Thank you for sharing your story.

[@thomaswictor1751]

After my father died of cancer in 2013--died in terror, by the way--he appeared behind my right shoulder as I sat at my desk after the call. I didn't see him standing there, but I smelled his Old Spice aftershave, when he hadn't worn since he got sick. I also didn't turn around. There was no need to look, because I knew it was him. My mother was also terrified of death, but after SHE died of cancer, she left behind a wooden clothespin doll. It literally fell out of the empty air and landed in my brother's hand. I saw it happen. There's no need to be afraid. We all survive death.

[@pommiebears]

I remember smelling my grandad too. He would wear brylcream in his hair. And, I remember smelling it quite a few times in the year after he passed. Then, I had a really vivid dream. He was standing there, looking incredibly well, and I ran to him. I hugged him and he hugged me, and I said “you’re not really here, are you?” And I woke up. Nothing since, and that was 20 years ago at least.

[@helencheadle5285]

Our loved ones in spirit do their best to reassure us that they are still around, you are so lucky to be sensitive enough to have picked up these lovely messages from them, as too often we get wrapped up in our own grief to notice they are trying to get our attention like this. I firmly believe that THERE IS NO DEATH! A but like a catterpillar turning into a crysallis and then into a butterfly, is my analogy of death….we no longer need our broken, deformed damaged bodies, so leave them behind to change into something different, like a butterfly…I’m sorry if this sounds bizarre, but I don’t know how else to explain. My father always used to cut a large armful of lilac from around his garden to give to me on my birthday in July, but he had been passed 15yrs, when I was driving home one wintry evening in December when my entire car was filled with the lovely perfume of lilac..my other passengers smelt it, then as fast as it had come it vanished… my dad. He’s done the same since with his favourite pipe tobacco, st Bruno, but in my home, and again others have noticed. It’s so comforting. More recently I lost my 39yr old son to aggressive cancer, and he has been around me. A great lover of aftershave, which my husband never uses, I get clouds of it around me at different times, as well as feeling him touch my hand. I am so very grateful, and now I’m in my early 70’s with disabilities, I will not be at all afraid of transitioning when my time comes as I know my son will be there to greet me, or may even come to get me! Lastly, there is a very comforting prayer/reading that some of you may get comfort from, it’s by “Henry Scott Holland called ‘Death is Nothing at all’” I do hope it helps . Love and light to you all! 🙋‍♀️🙏🦋

[@Adulting_Autistic]

​@@pommiebearsLucid dream? Or he really stopped in to say hey? The latter is my guess. All my dreams where my Dad does a pop in, I always feel it's real in the moment. I think I have had 2 lucid dreams in my 54 years and they were both in the last year. I truly believe your Dad stopped in for a hug. 🩵💚🩵💚

[@danielabeckham7397]

With all my heart I hope you’re right. You have a beautiful story and I’m glad your family got these moments. ❤

[@naoedouard4422]

I hope you have a good day, know that JESUS died for you and loves you so very much!

[@JudithWilder-e5b]

When my mother was in hospice, I was visiting her just about every day. One day she told us our father had come and styled her hair. This did not surprise me because I had awakened in the night to see him standing in my doorway. He had been dead for more than a decade. I felt a sense of peace. Mom died about four months later. When she died, I was able to call both of my brothers, who live very far away, so they could be the last voices she heard. Thank you for all the things you do.

[@khaleyy]

My grandma had dementia for a few years before going on hospice. Ultimately my dad decided that as a family we would all take turns caring for her, as she always took care of us. That way she could pass away peacefully in the home she raised her children and grandchildren. I was 17 at the time when she really started to deteriorate physically. She stopped having the feeling of hunger, so she was pretty weak at this time. Although her mind came back, she remembered who I was again. I would tuck my grandma into bed every night and we would talk and pray together. I hadn’t been able to talk to her in so long before this. So I never wanted to miss a moment with her. One night I mentioned to her that I wanted her to give me a sign when she passed if I was a sleep. She agreed. A few more weeks go by and at this point she can barely hold a conversation. She was getting so weak at this point. Then one night as I was tucking her in she pulled me in and told me how much she loved me. Then she said “Khaley, we are women of god. If you get pregnant we don’t believe in abortion.” I then told her I wasn’t pregnant. She said “I know, but I need you to know that abortion isn’t the answer.” The day before she passed she wanted to go to her chair in the living room. Growing up she always slept there and I slept on the couch. That night I had a dream that people were standing over her crying because she passed. it was as if I was in her body. It’s like she wanted to be close to me one last night before she had to say goodbye. She passed away in June 2011 I had gotten pregnant November 2011 I was still 17 at this time. Still to this day I think she saw something before she passed. She had never talked to me about sex stuff before. I’m not sure if I’m reaching on all of this. I’ve told people close to me and they look at me as if I’m crazy. Also.. I caught my dad one late night talking on the phone about wanting me to get an abortion. I freaked out on him as I didn’t approve who he was talking to about my situation. He hadn’t even talked to me about having an abortion. So that night we had that conversation, I told him what grandma had said and he just started crying. He never said anything else about it. He knew those were words from her. As we weren’t super religious or anything. Believe but not go to church very often type. Sorry for the long comment, thank you if you read this in its entirety.

[@Kayellen658]

You aren't reaching. She knew. How is that youngster now? ❤️❤️❤️

[@handynothandsome261]

You aren’t “reaching” at all. Our Heavenly Father is most concerned with how people come into this life, and how we leave it. He is most concerned that His children are born to families ready to receive them, and that their mother and father will teach their children of Him. Everything else we do in this life is academic, and for us to learn and experience what we need for the next one…

[@shinjuinoue6600]

I hope you had the baby and you are happy ❤❤❤

[@petersnelling9047]

My sister Susan was a hospice nurse for many years. She died of complications from MS at age 64. We spoke many times of her experiences with people dying and her firm belief in an afterlife. I believe she lived as long as she did to spare me the pain of losing her but she was not afraid of dying. Our mother died when I was 5 and she was 7. We were inseparable and I so hope to see both again.

[@kristiedarling4888]

I can 100% assure you that you will see them again. I know this because back in 2017, I was in a horrible car accident, and I was clinically dead for 11 minutes. All I'll say is there is absolutely no reason to be scared of death. It was the most beautiful experience of my life. So, no worries. I know you'll be together someday.

[@somebody732-s2h]

I was a student nurse working on the AIDS unit at Hopkins and a patient I was close to asked me one afternoon if I was going to be at work the next day. By chance I would be working the morning shift rather than my usual afternoon shift. When I went to see him the next morning, he told me the angels had come for him during the night but he wasn't ready. I went and told my head nurse and she said being with him was my assignment for the day. We sat and read the psalms (he called them the "palms"❤) and talked. All his caregivers were coming by to see him, knowing he was close to dying. After a couple of hours, he told me to go down and have lunch. I told him I didn't want to leave him but he insisted. 5 minutes after I left, he passed. I think he didn't want to frighten me with his dying. I love him to this day and that was over 30 years ago..... Being with the dying and their families is such sacred space.

[@arlettedumais5776]

My sister and I were always by my dad's side in the hospital. One day two of our very close cousins were visiting. My dad said he needed to rest and told us to go for coffee. Reluctantly, we agreed, but asked the nurse to call if he needed us. We never made it to the cafeteria. On our way down, she called that he had passed. My sister was devastated that he was alone at that critical time. But I understood that he was protecting us and he did it intentionally, knowing that our closest cousins were there to help us when we needed it most. We ran back up and when I walked in the door of his room he was surrounded by nurses who lovingly held his hands. One was stroking his head. I had to smile because my dad always appreciated the ladies. "Way to go Dad!"

[@somebody732-s2h]

@@arlettedumais5776 I am sorry for your loss.... " Way to go Dad!" - I love it!

[@judithjones3372]

A few months ago, my mother, who has been dead for several years, started coming to me just before I woke. It was not like a dream, more like a presence. Once I jumped up an started for the kitchen because I thought she was cooking breakfast. This went on for about two weeks. I have a lot of health problems and I even told my husband that I thought I was going to die soon. My deceased father came to her before she died and told her he would be back to get her. What I now believe she was doing was preparing me. My beloved brother was suddenly told that he had 3 weeks to live. The day I found out the news, my mother quit visiting me. I told my brother and his family that Mother would come to take him home. After 3 weeks and two days , my sister-in-law called to say mama came for your brother at 1 am. Later, his son recounted how their dog went crazy about two hours , right at the time my brother was obviously dying. He tore at the door to his room, barked wildly, and whined terribly. When his master drew his last breath, the dog was suddenly fine. I will always believe that dog sensed my mother there waiting to take my brother home.

[@staceyAface]

Omg. Chills. Thanks for sharing your story with us. ❤

[@mrsmarple2655]

Don't be afraid of anything. We Orthodox Christians pray for our departed relatives, friends. It's only a dream. Their spirits in another dimension and they cannot come to your house. However it is very important to pray for their soul. Rest in peace her soul 🕊️🕊️🕊️

[@Kitten_Inchaos]

​@@mrsmarple2655Please don't invalidate others experiences just because you believe in something else. It wasn't a dream, they clearly said it wasn't. There is more than enough proof that spirits come back to visit or guide loved ones into the afterlife, if you can't accept the proof then that's fine. But don't go around invalidating people's truth.

[@ruckboger]

This happened to me as well with my Mom. I woke up at 2:30 am for no reason but knowing I had to see her and drove down to the SNF. The nurses were pretty surprised I just showed up in the middle of the night. Shortly after getting there my Mom opened her eyes and looked at me, looked next to me, leaned her head back and closed her eyes, Then let out the longest breath I've ever heard in my life. She passed at 3 am while I was holding onto her.

[@GIguy]

My 88 year old dad is in hospice with only days left….I was with him yesterday, and was silently sobbing, when I swear to god I could suddenly feeling the presence of my grandmother and grandfather who’ve been gone for decades. Out of nowhere, I felt their love, and could smell old spice after shave, and rose perfume, their distinctive scents. I suddenly stopped crying, and for then first time in weeks, felt comforted, as dad opened his eyes and smiled for the first time in weeks.he specifically said “mom, dad!” Then proceeded to have a conversation with them! It only lasted a few minutes, but was astonishing to witness, and feel! I’m still heartbroken, but at least I know he won’t be alone, that there is life beyond. It was NOT a hallucination, it really happened. The nurses told me it happens all the time.

[@fleurpayne3620]

now i feel an intense urge to gather a distinctive smell so when i die my children and friends would know it was me visiting 😊

[@psmith9789]

What did he talk about with his parents?

[@linsfisher5448]

I love this. My great grandad had a similar experience while mum was with him. She told me never to be scared of death and I've found this a huge relief ❤

[@margeozor9562]

that happened to my Mom and my girlfriend...my pastor said the dead come to prepare them for the transition..so great to know..

[@jackielowrey3032]

You’re the second person to say they smelled old spice …

[@jonabriggs8829]

I have Pancreatic Cancer, end stage, on Hospice and I just found you on here, you are amazing, and I will watch every video of your's I see !!

[@DancingInSeptember.]

God bless you Jona ❤️ I'm praying for you

[@thesilenceisdeafening]

I prqy for a peaceful, painfree transition. A glorious and blessed one, where all your loved ones who had gone before come to meet you and take you the rest of the way❤

[@connienimmo8999]

Sending you love and peace

[@bygraceonly182]

May Jesus give you peace❤

[@JudyCerda]

I wish you peace and recovery.

[@julithompson8891]

Thank you for this. My mom taught me without a doubt there is more. When she was 90 she broke 2 hips. She was on her way for 3 weeks..we thought. Last rites the whole thing. We gathered with her then she quietly asked why my neice was crying. She said its ok. My dad was there ( passed for 30 years) and told her not time yet. She was on parralell bars the next day. 4 years later she was in a home and decided it was getting time to go. She wouldnt eat and we respected her wishes. We had 2 months with her and it was just a beautiful ending. The last day she told me about seeing my dad and talking to him as well as my brother in law who had just passed . She didnt kniw he was gone as he was in anither country and no one had told her. It really was a beautiful ending..if you can say that. Next day she blessed me with the most amazing sunset ever. Sunsets were our thing. ❤❤

[@andytrinh8438]

I am a caregiver I take care of a dementia patient and she talks to her deceased husband every night before bed elderly is amazing

[@lindsaynic]

My cousin had brain cancer when she was 5. She had radiation and chemo, and though she was disabled as a result (this was the 70s and radiation tech wasn’t as targeted) she went another 30 years before the cancer came back. She went into the hospital about 9 months after my mom passed from cancer. The last day I visited her, she was in a coma. My aunt, who is an RN, told me the day before my cousin had seen our grandpa (who died 7 years before) and my mom, and they had come to get her. It comforted me to know my mom and grandpa are coming to get us when it’s our time. I miss them both so much.

[@jovra7640]

My mom died from leukemia, she was shy of her 85th birthday, she was in a hospice hospital, great nurses. I have a nephew name Tony, when she was near her death she said she saw Tony, i said Tony isn’t here, she then said, no your brother Tony. I asked her if she saw anyone else, she then said she saw my dad and he wanted to dance. I told her if you want to dance with dad then go. Give dad and Tony a big hug for me. A couple of days later after I went back home, she passed. I hope she is dancing and she gave my dad and brother a hug for me. Thank you 😊

[@MadHatterDJ-]

I’m home caring for my 86 year old mother at the moment, full time. She has heart failure and cognitive decline. Hearing your story made me smile. My Dad died in his 40’s (the age I am now) I was 6 years old at the time, he had cancer. My mum never remarried. It’s nice to think he will be there to welcome her when her time comes.

[@KG-kl9gc]

I cared for my mom in my home for almost 7 years. She passed with me by her side. She too became bed bound and had severe dementia. I understand the stress and I pray for strength and comfort for you.

[@MadHatterDJ-]

@@KG-kl9gc I’m so sorry for your loss. Thank you 🙏

[@erininal9955]

It is a bittersweet responsibility. She was there when you came into the world and you will be there for her transition. You will not suffer with regret or wonder if you could do more. You are doing everything you can. I'm praying for you and your mother to have peace.❤

[@MadHatterDJ-]

@@erininal9955 Thank you.

[@cinderbella9391]

Dear lady, I took care of my mom till she died of heart failure. It is a horrific way to see your love one go. I watched her team come in to disengage her difibulator, she had no clue what was happening and I felt so guilty allowing this. Her last breathe....I can't say more. Her husband my step-dad was mad I turned off her dominator. He did not understand her heart was dying and the difinulator would just cause her pain. I watched my step-dad dye of kidney failure and it was a far more pleasant death. Bless him God and her. I still suffer guilt and am not sure how to heal. I call hospice and told them my mom felt stiff and they thought this normal for her process. I sick trying ro change my mom and she cried that it hurt. Help

[@LorraineMatteo]

My mother and I visited my Grandmother (we called her Nana, Who was my mother's mom) she was in a nursing home for Alzheimers. She was at the stage of not eating as well as she could no longer communicate verbally. The nurses told my mother there was still time before my Nana would pass and we could come back the following weekend to visit.. On the way home from our visit to the nursing home my mother said she wanted to visit again the following weekend. I agreed. My Nana and I were very close as we have always enjoyed eachother company. We had many laughs with eachother thru the years. I would sleep over her house so we could have alone girl time together as I has older brothers and needed a break away from them. She was always so funny and the many things she would say or do made my mother and I just laugh and we always had so much fun together. We always had such a great relationship together. That night after my mother and I visiting the nursing home. I was so sad seeing my Nana I get my 2 young children dinner and later put them to bed. I went to sleep myself and dreamed my Mana came to me in my dream. She didnt say anything, but but her face had a sence of urgency on it. When I woke that morning I called my mother and told her we needed to go again today to see Nana. She was a bit puzzled and said we just saw her yesterday and the nurse said we have time before she passes. I told her the dream I had and so we got ready and left to visit Nana again. I told my brother about my dream and he met us at the mursinghome as well. When we got there the nurse said Nana did not do well late last night and that the nurses were going to call us today to come in today. My mother, my brother and I were there at my Nana's bedside for an hour and then she passed. About 30 minutes after she passed I felt and could smelled her scent pass by me. My mother was so grateful to me that she was able to see her mother before she passed. Everyone has their own unique scent which is on them , their home and car. I could always tell from childhood which baked goods my mother baked from the ones my Nana baked. I could always tell if my Nana visited my home while I was at school. My mother thought it was uncanny how I could tell. I just think it was because I loved her so much as we were do much alike. We had a special connection and bond. Just like I have with my mother. We all miss and love Nana do much. To keep our sadness at bay we always remember her and laugh at the things she would say and do. She still lives in our hearts and souls Thank you for the opportunity to talk about a wonderful person who has touched so many lives for the better and is very much missed. Lorraine Matteo

[@jerryrogers9236]

You are a good person. I'm very old and don't believe I have much time here but I've had a NDE 13 years ago and we don't ever die. I've been to heaven and it's so wonderful your Nana is in the best place that could ever be. Take care.

[@arcanondrum6543]

I agree with you about the scent and while you mentioned baked goods, I'm referring to people themselves. I had the pleasure of dating 2 women who both smelled incredibly special to me. I hope that I never again see the pig who birthed me (look at that, it's in writing) but I hope that I get another chance at a life where I am helped instead of held back. I've sort of lost that sense of smell ability but it would be nice to find that in someone that I marry.

[@tofly4wifi898]

So beautiful thank you I’m crying

[@csunedchic]

I was in an abusive marriage. I didn’t get to talk with my mother in law and for many years she only had her son's story about my leaving him. When she died, I said prayers and cried asking for her spirit to know the truth and how much i loved her. Her spirit visited me in a dream and hugged me. I felt her love and cried tears of happiness she sought me out before leaving for heaven.

[@robincrow6436]

❤

[@thesilenceisdeafening]

❤️‍🔥💕💞

[@ai1een876]

Wow…I’m sure that really was her soul coming to you to let you know she understood now and loves you.

[@csunedchic]

@ai1een876 blood is thicker than water

[@beverlycole5342]

MIL, Not blood​@@csunedchic

[@tracyhernandez4312]

Shortly before my grandpa passed, he told his wife “ two men came for me on horseback and they wanted to take me with them. They were relatives. His wife asked what he wanted to do. He told her he was so tired. She said if they come again, go with them.He died soon after and his wife said he looked happy

[@chrisurschel6832]

We lost my dad in 2001 and he had hospice at home to the end. I saw the care he received by nurses and aides. A year and half after his passing I took his job at a long-term care facility as maintenance director. I took the job but also found that I could help the residents and families in those terrifying times at end of life. I convinced the administration to create a Hospice Suite. My experience with my dad helped many residents and families. Sometimes it was talking them through what was coming or just sitting with them holding their hand while they cried. It's just having compassion and caring. I was told several times that I got the family member through that time and on a couple times I was an angel. I got back so much from my time in that job.

[@themadwomanskitchen9732]

OMG! Thank you, thank you, thank you! God used your story about Miss Sue to explain what happened to me when my husband Tim died of AIDS when he was 31 and I was 24. He was in the hospital and I had been caring for him at home and I was exhausted. So I went home after spending a few hours with him (he was sleeping the whole time) and he died later that evening. Thankfully my pastor felt led to visit him. So Tim told him to tell me that he loved me and then asked for permission to go home to Heaven. It's now so clear why Tim waited until I left because he knew I couldn't handle it, that I was NOT ready for him to die. Seeing him die with my own eyes would have destroyed me and I know Tim loved me too much to do that because he knew he was and still is my prince 😟😢☹️. But at least the last thing I did for Tim before I left was massage him and give him Communion and unless the Lord returns first, Tim will be there for me during my last days until he brings me home to Heaven. Thank you, again!

[@szigtema]

Thank you for sharing this

[@vikkiledgard8483]

I don't understand. If 'Jesus' was there to 'protect' someone, why did Tim get AIDS in the first place? I'm genuinely curious 🤔 ♥️♥️♥️

[@themadwomanskitchen9732]

@@vikkiledgard8483 Tim suffered from depression and suicidal tendencies, and even though he didn't try to kill himself outright, he engaged in risk taking behavior, which resulted in him becoming HIV positive, which at the time was actually relieved to hear because he was so depressed. However, once we met and he felt he had a reason to live, Tim felt great regret over his choices and remarkably, he lived over seven years after his diagnosis which was amazing considering there were no drugs for HIV when Tim was diagnosed.

[@kassandraidrisova4596]

Amen

[@Gwaycee]

​@@vikkiledgard8483 Because God has given us the power of choice.

[@michaelbrent4430]

Hadley, I don’t read. At all. I purchased your book, it just came today, and I’m nearly halfway through it. My partner recently passed in my arms. Your book gives me that confirmation that I’ve been needing, but also the purpose to always do good and be good to others. Thank you, truly.

[@Mr_D555]

My mom was in the ER during her final hours and I was saying goodby, our eyes locked and the clarity was stunning as if we were looking into each other's soles. I will never forget that.

[@AmyMiller-wl4dq]

Fellow hospice nurse here. I work in an 8 bed inpatient unit Absolutely loved your book! Took it to work, and my coworkers read it as well. It's now in our family lounge for families to enjoy. I have only been a hospice nurse a little over a year, but I have experienced the same coincidences again and again, just like you. I have learned so much by watching your videos. You have helped me become a better nurse to my patients and families. Looking forward to your next video!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@Marynicole830]

It’s so nice you share the book with families that probably need to hear these stories. That is a true kind act. Thank you. I’ve experienced a lot of loss in my life. I’ve had my dad die at 39, my papaw died 2 years ago ( he and my mamaw raised me so he was like a dad to me) and my mom died a few months ago. A best friend from high school of my husband and I died a couple years ago and so did another friend from elementary school that I had recently got close to. All this happened in a 3 year span. All unexpected. My papaw just fell over and passed when he was just getting up to go to the bathroom and we found my mom after taking my mamaw home to her, mamaw stayed with us since she just had a mastectomy. Mom had only been home alone for 6 days and apparently passed the day mamaw left. She was 49. We don’t know what Happened to her or papaw. I wish I could believe like you that there is something else. I’m so scared of the same happening to me but I don’t have any experiences as evidence and it’s hard to just believe others with something like this. Not out of mistrust but the fear is just so severe. I miss them deeply and hope they are there with me when my time comes.

[@nattylite9220]

⁠@@Marynicole830I had three friends pass within the last year, I feel your pain and I’m so sorry for your losses 🤍

[@vikkiledgard8483]

​@@Marynicole830I recently had the opportunity to read through a good many of Hospice Nurse Penny's comments attached to a video about strange/unaccountable events during the active dying phase. There were something like 80k comments. Obviously, I didn't read all of them; that would've been impossible lol, but I read A LOT! Apart from the odd 1 or 2, the majority of the comments were descriptions of what had happened to others in these situations. And the comments were all extremely similar, obviously, just with different details. It's my wholehearted belief that these people were speaking the truth, and that makes me realise, there's no arguing with the majority of 80,000 people. They're just describing facts. And that comforts me because I know that 80k people can't all be making things up! ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@janvannewkirk4446]

Unfortunately, I also witnessed an older woman passing away. She was screaming and yelling that "they were hurting her and tearing at her flesh." Very scary experience for me😢

[@robincrow6436]

​@@janvannewkirk4446 How awful for you to witness her distress while unable to provide comfort. I hope it didn't last long. Did anyone explain the possible physical reasons for her experience? You deserve to know. End-of-life conditions can cause hypoxia, myopathy, neuropathy, hallucinations or delirium. Also, please know that once her spirit left her body she had no more physical sensation to interfere with her complete relief and freedom from pain or delirium. I believe in a loving, divine purpose for all earthly sorrow and suffering. None of us escape it. In the end our God will make everything all right according to how we learn, by his help, in our struggles to choose for ourselves what truly matters. He is a God of Love who wants us to enjoy all that he has and every aspect of eternal life that he does, if we remain humble and willing. He promises to dry every tear as we seek his comfort. With him our peace is always possible regardless of opposition, injustice, and weakness. ❤❤❤ to you and hope in all things!

[@maggiebaxter610]

Your book is amazing Hadley and changed my way of thinking; I’ve gifted a copy to several people. I always believed (& was taught) we’d be reunited with loved ones. My mother was a widow for (one month shy of) 54 years and I hope my dad and brother were there to greet her when she passed. She made darn sure that none of her children were with her when the time came (Mom became a widow at 39 with 7 children to raise!). Her “baby” sister, who is 81, and one of her best friends were with her. She went into the hospital on 03/01/24, was taken care of by the palliative team and passed away the following day, 03/02/24, her 93rd birthday. You all do such important work; bless you all!

[@HopeyDopey143]

I was once a Hospice Nurse and it was my most favorite phase of my 43 years of nursing! Hospice and Alzheimers my favorite! God Bless you for what you have done and continue to do!! The world needs more people like you!!!

[@patriciaalt9737]

Thank you so much, My Mom is on hospice care now. Yall are amazing people. God bless you always. You are an Angel on earth.

[@ivyedan7183]

I was deaf and locked in a dark closet by my dad...my mom was a nurse and worked so hard...it makes me terrified because to me death is the loss of senses..to me it is the closest...I do try so hard to get threw that..thank you nurse Hadley...you help take the terror away

[@penneynadalini216]

So sorry that happened to you.

[@sealin01]

i’m so sorry that happened. you deserve peace 🤍

[@ivyedan7183]

Thank you all so much..

[@vikkiledgard8483]

Yeah, that's some 'dad' you had 😢 Sounds similar to mine. BUT, I got peace from it, in the end. Because, my father saw something when he was dying, and it terrified him. So I think he was heading for retribution for all the bad he'd done (not just to me) in his life. Death is not the end. I truly believed it was, but it's not. 😊♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@sherjay8172]

Know it was not ur fault as well I am so very sorry for u .. But U have proven to be strong.... Congratulations & CONTINUE 🎉

[@valerievalle5207]

I'm a hospice RN. I cried all the way through the book. It was so heartfelt, and it really helped me to connect to my patients.

[@aidenrushing9841]

I've watched your videos for awhile. I have a lot of health issues and have almost died, like, 8 times. I used to be scared of death because of my religious upbringing. I thought no matter how well I lived I'd somehow end up in the "bad place". Then seeing death in the military, dealing with my own health issues, etc. I started realizing that every time I almost died I had been at peace. My loved ones have always said that my sense of humor and profound optimism were always present (I, unsurprisingly, don't remember large chunks of those experiences). TLDR I've made peace with my own mortality. I'm not sure what I think about the afterlife, but I know I'll be at peace and my loved ones will see those parts of me that I'm so proud of in my personality. Knowing that, the only part that scares me is dying in pain, but even that isn't really a big fear. Because several of the times I almost died I was in a lot of pain (according to doctors) but I don't recall any of that. It's wild, for sure! Anyway, thank you so much for your videos. I know my body isn't going to last me into my 80s. I find a lot of comfort in knowing that my body will probably tell me when it's getting close and that my medical conditions are followed closely, so it probably won't be a surprise. And also super grateful that the VA will provide hospice when that time comes. (Sorry this is so long. I just really appreciate you so very much. So, so much.)

[@pinkdollangel]

❤❤❤❤I hope you’re okay today

[@Elizabethselby]

I'm 53. I've seen people close to me pass, but I am still a little afraid of death. I love your channel and hope when it's my time I have someone as comforting as you to help. I think I'd be less afraid.

[@thebumblebeemovie3514]

I can understand the fear (we all can), but one thing I do know is that even if all else is gone, you are not ever alone. There is a Savior that loves you so deeply that He faced the very same death we all fear for you. The blessing from God is that we don’t have to be afraid of death because Jesus already went through it for us and conquered it. By His wounds we are healed, and by His blood we are alive even if we die. I do believe God will bring someone like this woman into your life to help you have comfort and peace, but whatever happens, you’ll never be alone in this ❤ God bless you Mrs. Elizabeth

[@KhalidAlghamdi-cu5pd]

May allah guide you

[@notashroom]

I'll be 53 before Christmas, and in the past year or so I was led to find the tremendous number of accounts people have for their people seeing loved ones waiting to take them home on their last days and the incredible stories of children with past life memories, some of people who have been identified and usually ordinary sorts like soldiers or young mothers not Cleopatra or Napoleon. When I put those with my own near-death "going into the light" experience, I'm at peace with it. Not that I expect it soon, but I'm not afraid now. I hope you find what enables you to find peace.

[@amberyoung4425]

I love your videos! You are so sweet ☺️ I have always believed in an afterlife, especially after I died drowning in the river- I got a tiny glimpse of heaven and a large group of people I love were waiting for me- I then got sent back being told it wasn't my time. This happened over 20 years ago and I'll never forget it

[@pinkdollangel]

I’ve heard of so many other people that experienced the same situation or similar. It never happened to me but I think if so many people experienced it it’s not a dream it’s real

[@Nobodies-ghost]

I met a 75 year old man on Facebook through another friend in 2016, after I had a bilateral PE. He was about my dad's age at the time and we texted funny memes and health issues daily. Since I'm a lot younger he basically gave me advice all the time (we even have the same last name and he grew up where my dad did!). Anyway, he never told me he had cancer in one lung until he moved in with his niece in another state. 24 hours after hospice brought the bed, I got a call that he passed. My dad passed 4 months later. Since then, I have been seriously signaled whenever I'm about to make a bad choice. There's definitely an afterlife.

[@notsparks]

I have been as close to dying as any person still here to talk about it. I was clinically dead for several minutes. When I was 28, I started having some health issues that weren't terribly concerning to a 28 year old because I was young and was going to live forever. I would joke, though, that I wouldn't make it past 30. At 30, I was in the ER several times because I had severe abdominal pain. They gave me pain meds and sent me home, and I would be back in a few weeks. Finally 2 months after my 30th birthday they said we're admitting you. I was there a month. Went home and back after 6 days I was so weak. Admitted again and my hospitalist came around and said very pointedly that I was going to die in that bed because they didn't know what was wrong. I told my better half that I was going to fight with everything I had to prove the doctor wrong. I continued to get worse until they decided I needed my spleen removed. Problem was that I had multi-organ failure and was "circling the drain" and no surgeon wanted that risk. Found one who convinced a team of anesthesiologists to get in and operate. I had no ability to make speak and have it make any sense, but the night before surgery, I woke up at about 2am panicking and the doctor came and was shocked I was coherent. She ordered some adivan and sat with me until it kicked in and I fell asleep. Next memory was waking up in surgery and getting up off the table to see everything going on. I was able to tell them what they were talking about and what music was playing. But saw them trying to resuscitate me on the table. I left and saw a woman I didn't know, who was the only person I saw when I left the operating room. She was very kind and walked with me as I went to try to find my family. She walked with me to my hospital room and told me I had a choice to stay and wait or I could go with her. Nothing else about where or how long I would wait. I chose to wait and she left. I lived what felt like an entire lifetime sitting alone waiting in that room until I decided I had waited enough. At that moment I was suddenly back in my body and pulling at the ventilator tube which was stopped quickly by my better half and I was restrained by my nurse. My blood pressure had plummeted, and my heart stopped at the time I saw them trying to resuscitate me. It took 9 minutes to get me back. They were going to declare me dead and end efforts but just as they were going to stop they got a pulse. They had no idea if I would be able to breathe or have normal functioning so left me intubated for several days with minimal improvement as my family were deciding whether to withdraw support at which time I quite suddenly put my hand up to try and extubate myself and they knew I was going to be OK. 11 months in an ICU and a year in a nursing home but I am still here. I don't know who the woman was but I know that if I went with her I wouldn't be here today, and 42 years old. I don't fear death and actually am quite at peace with my mortality.I am grateful to be here every day and live my life like every day is a blessing

[@xmaindaimiex]

Such an amazing story. And one day you will know exactly who she is. Whether that happens on this side of life or the other no one can say. She was definitely someone of importance to your life and I'm sure ot will make complete sense when you realize who she is.

[@goaskmymom1350]

WOW!!! So happy you're alive and sorry for what you went through! Could she have been your guardian angel? Shalom 🙏

[@DorisMoss-bt8we]

Wow that is so amazing 🤩 and nothing but a miracle you made a miraculous progress God isn’t finished with you yet he needs you to speak and spread love ❤️ and the joy of life and for people to know not to be afraid of death death from this world means living in peace with the Lord Jesus Christ in his kingdom thanks 🙏 for sharing ❤

[@cindikiser8282]

I had a neighbor who lost her brother and his son in an accident driving home. Years later when her Mother was diagnosed with cancer in August and in the hospital dying in November told my friend her son and grandson were in her room talking to her. This was 7 days before she passed. The son told her not to worry as she smiled. My friend watching and talking to her mother those last days felt her mother was happy to go with her son. I've never forgotten her story.

[@lorettaj6995]

After my Mom died, I heard her voice tell me "live each day as a blessing". Your words reminded me of that. ❤

[@randallshuck2976]

I was taught at age 5 not to fear death by my favorite grandmother. She passed away very peacefully. I don't worry about my mortality. I am not in a rush but I am not afraid either. Oddly, everyone in my life, since my early years, has asked me to sit with them when they were in their last stages. Many remarked that their other friends and family were afraid to be with them, but since I wasn't it was a comfort to them. I'm glad you can be there with them when they need you.

[@angelsmith9421]

No worries, ❤ death is just another journey.

[@mrsmarple2655]

​@@angelsmith9421💯 agree 🙏💖🕊️

[@shellyk200]

When mom died 8 years ago i was by her side the night before she died and she told me all of her family and friends who had passed on was all coming to see her and she was reaching for the ceiling and talk away to them and told them she would see them tomorrow afternoon,i just stood there watching as she talked to them one by one saying ,their names. I could not believe what i was witnessing,but i just knew it was for real,she kept asking me,do you see and hear them? I told her i could not then she said, but you will someday when it is your time to join all of us,that is when i knew there was life after death and i am no longer afraid to die,because my mother was so happy and at peace and true to her word she left to be with her loved ones on the other side of life the next afternoon very peacefully. I miss her so much even after 8 years,but i just know i will see her again someday,when it is my time to join all of them.❤😊🙏

[@sandymosley9550]

My mother passed after less than 48 hours in the hospital. We knew she had dementia but she never shared that she had heart disease. She walked in on her own and was in a coma type state in a few hours. My sister, brother, nephew and I sat around her bed and talked about our childhood for about 5 hours before her heart finally gave out. As we stood outside the hospital a bit later a giant white moth appeared. It circled around us a few times. My brother put his hand out and it landed on his hand taking up his entire palm, it left him and flew to the waist of my blouse. My sister pulled on my shirt thinking it would get stuck and it flew over and landed on her shoulder. It left her and flew right over my nephew’s head and flew off. I have no doubt my mom was trying to tell us she was okay.

[@wolfgamingnetwork3542]

Im 20 years old and im completely healthy but my biggest fear is whats after death Your channel and videos actually help me with my fear and each story i see you post about gives me more and more hope that there is something after death

[@Yvonne_Grammen]

Please read the Bible there is a heaven and hell. The only way to heaven is to have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ.

[@Maridesk-diaries]

Your the best Hadley. I kept getting scared of dying or people around me dying and after deep diving into death I found you and I am no longer scared or having terrible dreams about dying.

[@billfranklin5064]

Thank you, you are very special. I am not in any medical skills. I am on the other side, my Heart has stopped several times in different years. The ER staff got me back. My last time, I was in for a heart attack, I died and they got me back. My heart stopped more times during surgery and kept going to bring me back. I remember everything from my time out of my body. When they had me in icu recovery, I was so mad they got me back. I didn’t want to leave that place. I don’t know where I was but I was aware of every detail. Really worked hard on my mind and even went to therapy, along with all my Doctors. I know what is in the next life or the next being. I don’t know everything or have all the answers, only what I remember from my time. I have made peace with knowing, I’ve told everyone who would listen. I’m in no rush to cross but I’m not scared. I’ve started watching your videos and clips, very comforting knowing others believe. Thank you

[@katieminns9778]

I literally had never believed in an afterlife until the day my grandad died. He was in hospital for a “small” illness and the night before I kept saying to my fiancé “something’s wrong. This is bad. Something is going to happen.” I was woken by a phone call the next day at 8am to be told that he was dying. We rushed to go and see him and he died about five minutes after I arrived. Fate got me there to say goodbye. He looked round at us all just moments before he passed and after he’d passed, I just saw him kinda…breathe? But it wasn’t a breath. It’s so strange, I can’t explain it. Something left his body and I just know it did and I don’t know how I know it. I never would’ve believed any of this before he passed by something changed that day. And after I couldn’t shake the feeling he was still there

[@Sneaux65]

We had the most caring nurse for my mother in law, and I’m forever thankful for her talking us through everything. Even after my mother in law said hi to her last great grand daughter via FaceTime, she hung on in silence until 11:30pm of January 1,2022. She said hi to my youngest granddaughter who is now 3 1/2 years old. We all miss my mother in law so much, me especially because I took care of her in my house for almost 6 years before it became to much for me to handle. Thank you so much for being a part of people’s lives even if it’s for a little while.♥️♥️♥️

[@Foxton4712]

My grandpa, he is eating less and sleeping a lot more, loosing weight rapidly, and getting weaker by the day. This helped a lot.

[@pinkdollangel]

I hope you’re okay ❤

[@ChaplainChristineMercy]

Thank you for all you do! I’ve worked as a bereavement counselor and vigil minister for many years and I’m a police chaplain. I died in 1989 following meningitis. I was dead for 10 minutes and went to heaven before returning. If you’d like to talk to me, I’m here for you.

[@superbwater78]

That makes me feel good to hear Sue say that. I love and believe in Jesus more than anything but I struggle with anxiety and when I think of death I get worried. So, to hear her express that made me feel better.

[@barbararyan8691]

Thank you for your amazing stories. As I'm getting older, I find that I'm afraid of dying. Through you, I'm finding that I will not be afraid when my time comes knowing in my heart, that my late husband who is the love of my life will be there to help me through. I can't thank you enough.

[@CHRISGIFFORD_OFFICAL]

Thanks to God almighty

[@rensca972]

I’ve struggled with thanataphobia since I was 7 and I can go a month obsessing over death day in and day out, my death and others deaths. It has terrified me my entire life, so seeing peoples perspectives helps me overcome some of my worries for a short time.

[@Maggie-we3er]

You might want to consider trying exposure therapy with a licensed mental health professional.

[@xKarenWalkerx]

You were not alive for the millions of years this universe has existed. Make the bet of your life and celebrate every day, age gracefully and enjoy every stage of life and you will not see it as what you think it is now and will even look forward to a place where there is no pain, fear or doubt or earthly restraints...

[@pinkdollangel]

@@xKarenWalkerxthank you

[@BMass83]

Hadley, my Grandmother just passed and we had to do Hospice care for a short time. I can’t tell you how valuable your videos were during this time and even the years leading up to her death. Navigating the end of life situations is so daunting but knowing a lot of what would happen and being able to prepare myself and my family saved us so much stress and heartache. Thank you for sharing your ginormous heart and vast breath of information with us. It truly is so comforting and helpful. ❤❤

[@Al-pg3mo]

A friend of mine sent me your book after we talked about it on a camping trip. I opened your book on a flight from NC to CA. I couldn't stop reading and finished it in the 4 1/2 hours of the flight. You not only have an amazing gift for telling your patients stories, but through your book, I think you provided hope in an often hopeless world.

[@brianrapson9]

As a 32 year Veteran LEO from Canada and new subscriber I want to thank you so much. GOD BLESS ALL MY BROTHERS & SISTERS🙏🙏🙏

[@gravityprint]

My Dad, Mom, mother in law and Grandmother all either saw or were talking to dead relatives just days prior to the end. Too many to consider a coincidence. I too believe there is something after death. What it is, I guess I will have to wait my turn to find out. Hug your loved ones before they are gone. It could be awhile before you see them again. 😮

[@devonalr72]

Hadley, I appreciate everything you do! The book and your videos really helped me out when my husband was on hospice. My husband being born hearing then later losing his hearing due to spinal meningitis then watching your video and reading your book about the gentleman having severe hearing loss then getting it back towards the end really helped me. I believe he got some of his hearing back towards the end because as soon as me and the hospice nurse told him we love him within a few minutes he passed away. Thank you again for everything Hadley you really helped me thru this whole process ❤️🤟🏻

[@ItsMe-cg6th]

Hadley first off, you are amazing. I am so grateful you came across my fyp. A little over 2 years ago I lost my husband to a tragic accident while he was working. He was young and awaiting his first son. He died 3 weeks to the day our son was born. I never gave a lot of thought to the afterlife but have been thinking about it a lot after he died. Your stories have added hope to my faith. Thank you.

[@chijako7990]

My sister has stories from working in a care center. Every care center I've been in has always had a type of sacred spirit in it, and it's not until realizing that just about everyone who works around the dying having stories like this, combined with my own religious beliefs, that I think I realized why: They're all being visited by their deceased, or "graduated," loved ones. I remember when my grandpa was on hospice. It was strange to visit him because he couldn't do or say much so I didn't really know what to do and that felt awkward, but the feeling in my grandparents home was like that, and it was like that the day he died too. It felt like I was in a sacred space.

[@PK-ls2lv]

Thank you for doing what you do. My Mom was in hospice and passed 3 months ago. We were so grateful for hospice and the memory care aides, truly angels. I love your videos and read your book. Congratulations on being a best seller! Thank you for sharing your experiences.

[@transcendence8888]

Your videos always make me cry, mostly happy tears. Who knew the thought of death could be transformed to something so peaceful.❤❤❤

[@TheUnkus]

Your stories are so interesting. In the past 3 years, I lost both of my parents. I grieved for my dad, and was relieved over my mom. I've always had an understanding that birth is a terminal illness, and I'm not afraid of it happening. Anyway, thank you. You have a new subscriber, and I bought your book.

[@BeccaReevesXX]

I didn't hear her mention that her book is also on Audible. I wanted so badly to read the book but didn't have time. I pre-purchased it on audible and listened to it on my drive to and from work everyday. I was seriously disappointed when I got to the end because it was the end of the book and there were no more stories to listen to. The book was amazing and its read by Hadley herself. I highly recommend it especially if you liked this video. It did not disappoint!

[@williamnicks2148]

You and I aren't so different. I'm a pastoral candidate in the Methodist church. Palliative care is part of my job too no matter what form of ministry I'm in. Your stories inspire me.

[@Marynicole830]

Do you have any stories yourself? I’m reeling after losing most of my family and friends in the last three to 4 years and my dad before that. They were all unexpected and except for my papaw all under 50 with most under 30. Death is so hard and terrifying to me. I don’t deal with loss well at all.

[@TheBeanHome]

@@Marynicole830for those who trust in Christ we know that there is life after death. We have a hope of an eternity with our creator and loved ones who have been saved. John 11:25-26. "Jesus said to her, 'I am the resurrection and the life. Those who believe in me, even though they die, will live, and everyone who lives and believes in me will never die.'

[@vikkiledgard8483]

​​@@Marynicole830actually, there's life after death, regardless of whether you 'believe' or not. We all have a soul, and it isn't governed by an "all seeing all knowing omnipotent being." I believe it is governed by how one lives ones life. How christian (yes, SMALL 'c') you are in life. Have you been kind, loving, caring, giving, generous natured, and charitable of your soul? If the answer is 'yes' to these sorts of things, you will be welcomed by whatever is out there. I DON'T think you have to accept anything or 'confess' ANYTHING to be welcomed by ?the light? (Whatever you want to call it!) Rest easy, live a good life and everything will be fine. I don't believe souls are for sale like that! 🙂 ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@isabelmorgan9941]

Dear hospice nurse Hadley I feel you are a beautiful woman inside and out. We many times can be the angel that comes to a human life in the beginning, as a pediatric, teenager, early adulthood, elderly and so on including when we get old or when we are sick with no hope except your nurse,our loved ones, faith, prayer and hope. I would love to read your book. I congratulate you because I believe that what you are doing is very special. You are perhaps the last person the patient in hospice hears, sees, gets the much needed “it’s okay, you can move on,your love ones are going to be fine; They will understand that it was your time to go” I can’t wait to get the book and read the stories you have been so gracious to share with us. It gives my heart happiness to know that my loved ones that had passed don’t do it alone, and the loved ones come to get them. May the Lord continue blessing you and your family. May he continue giving you strength and Love and the right words to say to the beautiful lives you happen to encounter in their last stage in life.

[@grumpyoldlady_rants]

I’ve always believed there is “something” after death but I had a experience after my mother passed away that erased any doubt I might have had.

[@serenawiththelonglastname9468]

I knew Taylor, he was a great kid. His family is still making such amazing leaps to protect kids in this area playing football and other sports with gear and education on the impact of certain hits. “Don’t quit, never give up “ Fly high buddy🕊️

[@thesilenceisdeafening]

Again, another hello from my dad it seems. Taylor was his last name. Gone 2 years today, and it seems from every angle the messages of love keep coming.

[@virginiakey7137]

Your book is so wonderful❤️. I have told all my friends about your book. I will be 80 in December & my friends are older than I am. Your book helps with everything that death brings.❤

[@byunbaekhyun4010]

80 is such a wonderful age.

[@debbiewilliams8107]

Hi Hadley, I helped care for my father who primarily had end stage renal disease which involved dialysis prior to a successful transplant. Then we found out he had congenital aortic stenosis which entailed a valve replacement then later mitral stenosis from rheumatic fever he had as a child. This of course caused severe pulmonary hypertension which no matter what we did including a trach to get him off the vent, he succumbed to sepsis from his PICC line. His last words were he was scared. I assured him there was nothing to be afraid of. It just a knowing I have. It’s unexplainable. I’ve been a RN for 39 years. My background clinically is peds primarily in NICU. I’ve cared for many families that have experienced infant loss. I picture each child as an angel God used in accordance with his will. I know he is in charge. Now the last 12 years I’ve dealt with my own health issues including a blood cancer. Its been important to me to let my daughter know I’m not afraid. When ot’s God’s time for me to go, I’ll go peacefully. His purpose for my life will have been accomplished. It gives me peace to have this viewpoint now as i once too questioned a lot including if there is an afterlife. Congratulations on all your successes. I started a guide for those of us thrown into the healthcare chaos not knowing what we didn’t know. I need to finish it. You’ve inspired me. Thank you for sharing! And caring!!

[@robinb49]

I wish you could create a 2nd book, curating the experiences of fellow hospice nurses. I am sure they have had unique situations which would also make wonderful stories.

[@TreesieParadisArt]

After having both my parents and grand parents experience the love and comfort that comes from Hospice, I want to personally THANK YOU for all that you do! People don’t realize just how much hospice helps the entire family and not just the actual patient! I do have a question though, when I lost my parents, the Hospice nurses opened a window and said, it was supposed to be so their souls could leave the room. Do you do this? Have you heard of it and if so, what’s your thoughts on it? My husband and I were recently on a trip and although your book had arrived a week prior, I purposely didn’t open it until we got on the plane! I read it twice during that trip and will actually read it a third time. It’s so beautifully written and inspiring!

[@lindalor9284]

My mom felt really hot while she was dying, so I opened the window a little (it was April). I later heard the story about opening a window when someone dies and was glad that I had inadvertently done the right thing.

[@LovinglfDesigns]

There are a lot of accounts of NDEs (near death experiences) on KZbin and they comfort a lot of people. If you listen to a few you'll hear a common thread that the soul is not impeded by barriers like walls, does and windows and is able to easily travel through them.

[@susanest]

I have only heard that idea to open a window for the soul once and it was in a movie set long ago, in England, I believe. 🤗

[@ThatGirl.865]

I have assisted in the care of grandparents and both parents on hospice. Both Mom and Dad waited to pass until we were in another room. It was endearing, but heartbreaking at the same time. As painful as the journey was, I would do it a million times again. Thank you for the informative videos! ❤❤❤❤

[@piggieria]

I wasnt there, but my sister said my grandpa waited until after my dad and niece (who was 13yrs old) had left his bed side before he passed. They wouldn't have been able to handle being there at that moment.

[@NothingNevermind-90]

Your book was amazing. I could not put it down. My grandmother passed a year after my dad and I was there while she was passing away. I was also with my dad when he took his last breath. She was talking to my dad before she passed away. At the time I thought she wasn’t making any sense because she did have dementia but now I know he was there to get her. She said he was at the end of her bed. Since I’ve seen your videos and read your book I started bawling knowing not only is my grandma ok but my dad is too. I’m not afraid anymore about death. Thank you.

[@Vanessa4x1]

I wish there were more nurses like you !!! My mom was at a nursing home , the last 6 months of her life . While there were some nice nurses , the majority weren't . My mom had ALS, I think some nurses didn't bother to find out about this disease . It was very though to her my mom at a nursing home , it is one of the biggest regrets of my life !!

[@jude7321]

Mine too I've always felt like I didn't do enough. I'm so sad.

[@sarahsouthard3269]

I am an oncology nurse, I have been for 17 years.. There are many times we cannot get our patients home in time for hospice. Or the pain is too great and the decision is made to remain inpatient on comfort care. Reading your book reminds me of so many patients. It’s not just the patient, but it’s the family that you are supporting and consoling as well. I actually had just read about Ms Sue. 💔 I can feel your love and compassion through your words, both written and when you speak about them. You are an inspiration to many, those who fear hospice and the afterlife, but also to nurses who care for those transitioning. Please continue your encouraging words. ❤

[@audrawajda7005]

I'm not sure if this is an odd thing to say, but having an angelic beauty as a hospice nurse is probably very comforting.

[@shannonsullivan9423]

My Mamaw had a hospice nurse that you remind me of. I cannot say enough thank yous to you amazing humans for for making her life so much happier in her last few hours. Ms. Shelly listened to her tell stories for hours and hours. With her advice I was able to lay in bed with her a few days before she passed since I was going to be out of state. Ms. Shelly knew she didn’t have long.? Ms Shelly was there with her and able to be strong enough to bear the burden of telling my Mom and being with her to the end. I have no clue how you do it. ❤

[@R.Rathborne]

I absolutely love your stories! I will definitely check out your book. I'm so glad you are talking about all these things. As a firefighter/EMT, I have witnessed people being visited by loved ones before they passed. I would try to let them know to prepare for their loved ones' death.❤

[@lizabethpawlyk1300]

I am a retired RN and I volunteer at a non profit Hospice home. I appreciated this video. My husband passed away july 2023. He was on Hospice for the last seven days of his life. I am so grateful for the Hospice experience. My only regret is not having discovered hospice nursing while I was still practicing. I am looking forward to when he comes to get me.

[@meghanstorey361]

I’m going to be buying your book as soon as I can! I lost my mother and grandmother very suddenly (separate occasions) and ever since I have been terrified that death is the end. It’s gotten so bad that I have multiple panic attacks a day and can’t sleep at night. Even though I’m only 30, and should have at least a few years left (hopefully) I am so glad you have shared this with the world.

[@roblox_bestie]

I have severe death anxiety and this makes me feel hopeful in an afterlife

[@grocker5382]

As kid my mom would touch my toes to check up on me as i sleep(to make sure i was alive ,thats what she told me later in life) and a bit after she passed ,i felt something touch my toes and it woke me up .another time i heard her cough .. its been 3yrs now since she passed, but in the beginning of her passing i felt her leave ..as i drove down to her ,i was balling my eyes out while driving . I got a voice in my head to slow down and a calm feeling came over me and i slowed down .it was a weird comfortable feeling .. now my dad has stage 4 lung cancer 😢 and i dont want to lose another parent 😔

[@thesilenceisdeafening]

I am sorry about your mom passing, my condolences, and I am sorry about your dad being so ill. The best thing you can do for yourself and for him from here on out is appreciate every moment you and he have left to be together. Recall old memories. Build new ones. Make each and every moment count. Do all you can for him, and then do some more. Live each and every day with him to the fullest. Laugh, and cry. Talk seriously. Talk rubbish. Live for the moment, look to the moment. And not the time beyond when he is already gone. Do not look to that time. That time is coming. That is later. Live in the here and the now. Do that and you will have no regrets later regarding your dad's remaining time on earth. Trust me. I know. My siblings and I lived in the here and now. We never looked to the next moment. We cared about now. What was happening now. What our dad was doing, being, saying, now. Glioblastoma Multiforme. (I hope I've spelled it correctly?) That is what our dad was diagnosed with end of August of 2021. A tumour a bit larger than a tennis ball was found lodged in his brain after an MRI was done. No wonder he was so confused. I wasn't, though. One of my sisters suspected altzheimer's or dementia. I called it, said it was a brain tumour. I had a nightmare over 20 years ago where I had dreamed that my dad would die of some type of injury or assault to his brain. That assault to the brain in my nightmare? It was the exact place where they found the tumour. And I didn't tell my sibs. Only my husband (who was forced to slap me, because even after awakening I was still screaming, still caught up in the throes of the nightmare) and my father's best friend and daughter knew. My father anyway had just seemed to me to be larger than life, and it would have to be something larger than life that would take him down. I was right. Didn't make me feel any better, though, but my father's words stay with me. That he would rather it was something like this that took him quickly, than having a long drawn-out illness. He wanted to go quietly, suddenly, in his sleep. But he also said that at least this way none of us would have had to be traumatised by a phone call that he had died, and we were unprepared for his passing. So he was (strangely) happy that I was right. 24th November 2021 he was gone. 2 years today. And to be honest with you my sibs and I have no regrets concerning our last months with our dad. We lived it with him. Each and every moment. So live in the moment. It is the moments that count the most. All the best to you❤

[@grocker5382]

@missingmyheartbella4205 thanks ,sorry for your loss . We spent last night (Thanksgiving) with him and you can tell he wasn't him self and we go home which is a 2 and half-hour away. I get a text at 330 am from my sis and he was taken to the icu. Now we wait for the CT scan to see if it has gotten worse .. rn it's just a waiting game .. big hugs to you and who ever else who has to or will go thru this pain ..

[@Pancakes4Tohka]

I just bought your book today. I’m so excited to read it. I’ve always been afraid of death and your channel has already brought me a lot of comfort, and I know this book will bring me the rest I need. I’m only 17 and the thought of death haunts me. You are just what I need so my life can be lived without that nagging fear. Thank you so much Hadley. Thank you for giving me what I had no idea I needed or how to get it

[@pinkdollangel]

I feel the same way I hope you’re doing okay today and taking care of yourself

[@killerrockguitar1845]

dear you are very yuong got more then 80 years to go 🙂

[@SR71GIRL]

My husband & I recently had the honor of sitting with a friend, and his family, that was on hospice. We got to be there for 9 days with him & his amazing family. Helping to comfort him & supporting the family was a true gift. We love you P.W.T.. You were an amazing father, brother, husband & friend. R.I.P. buddy. SO HAPPY that you are no longer in pain. 🙏❤️🙏

[@Lanny-io9bi]

I've met a few hospice nurses and they are nothing short of saints! They do amazing work in really tough and sad situations.. what they do for the patients is amazing

[@lindawatson3356]

You are so compassionate for your patients. I purchased several copies of your book for Christmas gifts.

[@michelleheegaard]

My mom is currently in hospice. She probably only has a few weeks left. I'm so glad I watched a bunch of hospice-related videoes like this before she ended up there. It prepared me for the entire process and I imagine it would have been very confusing and scary, if I hadn't. You're doing great work making these videoes and posting them

[@ze-fire-us]

It's great to hear your story. Gives me hope after questioning a lot from the recent loss of my mother who also had copd. Thank you!

[@tomcarol169]

God Bless You!!! my experience with hospice was a very positive thing. The nurses came to my wife's funeral. God Bless hospice Nurses!!!

[@vallang4832]

You are the most wonderful sweetest person. I am trying not to be afraid of dying. Hopefully watching your videos will help me. Because I truly believe. Thank you!

[@craigsurette3438]

I have a friend who has been a hospice CNA and an ICU tech. He describes all of the same things that you describe happening when caring for the dying One day he described what he does as "Holding the door for dead people and being there when these people dont have anyone else" and sees the whole thing as deeply sacred, Thankyou for what you do

[@elizabethconley4996]

OOHHH I can't wait to read your book on the plane!!!

[@NurseHadley]

Yay thank you! I hope you enjoy it. :)

[@MARKEJ67]

Hadley I'd also like to thank you for the excellent advise in one of your videos. After our Christmas Eve dinner I took my mom back to her assisted living apartment. I then spent 15 minutes telling her how great she and my dad were. (He died in 2007) Now I have done this from time to time in my life. We joked that our parents were Ward and June "Cleaver from the "The Beaver" I realized I had not said anything to her in a few years. I had the best parents and I told her several stories why I thought so. I told her how she prepared me and made me a better person. I remembered you saying everyone does this at the funeral, but not while they are alive. My mom told me that that was the best Christmas Surprise she'd ever had. Thanks Merry Christmas

[@terrysmith8881]

Do you ever have patients who die mean? My Mom was not a loving person and the last days of her life she said horrible things to me. She’s now been gone 10 years and I still struggle daily with the pain of her words.

[@roksannastephens4375]

I'm so sorry honey

[@christinesmith7838]

I wish you could be everywhere at once. You do an incredible, tough job with care and so much compassion. After my Mom died, there were so many weird ‘coincidences’ that I also believe in the after life. Thank you so much for all you do.

[@mitziekennedy]

When my Grandfather passed he was at home in hospice. We were all around him telling him it was okay to go. He had been in a lot of pain. He had stopped taking his diabetes medication and wasn't eating anymore so we knew it was time. When he passed it was amazing because he looked 18 again!! All the wrinkles were gone all the sickness was gone and he looked happy and healthy again 😮. It was the most comforting feeling for my Grandmother and my parents who were all there. It brought great peace to all of us. He had suffered in pain for so long. We all knew he was at peace now. I wish it was like that for everyone. I unfortunately was there when my Grandmother passed. I had just had spinal surgery. I'm so so afraid of death after seeing my Grandfather pass. I did work as an EMT for a few years and I've witnessed a few people pass and it is never easy to see someone pass away. I do think there is something else beyond this world and we will see our loved ones again ❤❤.

[@LuciiiV]

I saw this with my husbands grandfather. His grandfather was also diabetic. He stopped all meds & looked healthy, better, even had a glowing complexion. Really confused me. I thought, now how is this possible & wondered if the meds made him look so sick. Then he died, looking ten times healthier than I’d ever seen him. Really weird situation. 🤷🏻‍♀️Loved that man though, he was super cool & in the end he chose when he was leaving. Said he was tired of being in a sick body. He was a boss that way. I have the utmost respect for him to this day.

[@mitziekennedy]

@@LuciiiV That's amazing that he looked better. My Grandpa didn't get any better or look better until after he died. He stopped all his meds cuz he was done & wanted to die. We all agreed with him cuz he had suffered so much. It was so hard to let him go. I was the last person he talked to. He told me he loved me. I will treasure that forever ❤️.

[@TinaSpencer-mr1cp]

@NurseHadley, I just finished reading your book, cover to cover. I even read the acknowledgements, which I NEVER do. I literally couldn’t put it down. It is so well written. You had me smiling AND crying. To others who may see my comment, please read Nurse Hadley’s book, “The In-Between.” You will be inspired and moved.

[@alyssaphillips1412]

I found you when I had first decided I was leaving my first nursing job. You have made me realize that hospice is my next step in my journey (hopefully soon). You have made me realize how wonderful the process can be and I can’t wait to see what my future holds in this new adventure.

[@lisav2932]

My grandmother was on hospice with COPD and passed away on 11/03/2023. We had her funeral services today. About 4 days before she passed away, she was lying in her hospital bed at her home, facing the TV. I was standing beside her holding her hand. She looked at me and asked “when did he get here?”. At first I thought she was talking about someone on TV but as I turned to follow her gaze, her eyes were not on the TV but just to the right of it and she looking at the foot of her bed. I don’t know if she saw my grandpa, her father, or even an angel; but I am convinced it was not just the morphine making her hallucinate and that a loved one had come to give her peace and to take her home (she was terrified of feeling like she was suffocating as she died). Thank you for your videos and your incredible insight. Although I work in healthcare, I rarely see patients in their final days. You have given me so much peace and comfort knowing that what we experienced was normal and made it less frightening. You are an angel among us. Much love.

[@Kendra.Cook.]

A nonprofit hospice house! FANTASTIC!!! All the best to you, Nurse Hadley!

[@gypsyqueen3806]

Your book is AMAZING!!!! I’ve read about 3/4ths of it and don’t ever want it to end!!! You’re a very gifted writer and an angel in the flesh!!! I’ve been laughing and crying all the way through it so far!! My husband asked me if I’m okay at least 4 times in the last few days!! I keep telling him these are happy tears!! Thank you so much for sharing all of your incredible stories!!! I’ve taken care of 6 family and loved ones at the end of their lives with the help of hospice by my side! I’m the one my family always calls anytime anyone is at the end of their lives and needs care. I’ve never met a more loving, tender, understanding, compassionate, and merciful bunch of professionals than I’ve met through hospice!! I highly recommend everyone utilize hospice when it’s your time, keep your loved ones at home where they’re safe and comfortable and let them pass where they’re feeling loved and at peace!! You’ll never regret it!! Thanks again Hadley!! You’re truly beautiful inside and out!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@yvonnecarothers3310]

Thank you nurse Hadley for all you do. I also lost my husband of 20 years ( unexpectedly) 6 months ago. I am not " currently" I'll. But sometimes I REALLY! Dout my belief's . I feel like a horrible person douting. I mean, where' s my faith? Anyway. Thank you for sharing with us all! You really do help others more then you know. God bless you

[@rf4341]

Your channel help me to deal with death. I feel my time is near and my fear is gone. Thank you.

[@montgpaula]

Just purchased your book today at my local Barnes and Noble. So excited to read the thrilling stories it holds. I’m so glad you now live with the living hope that Christ has given to us, the hope in knowing that once this life ends the real living begins!

[@bellsina7150]

I really enjoyed listening to this. Thank you so much! You're not only had a calling as a nurse, you also had a calling to comfort others who aren't in hospice with your words and kindness towards others. It's s pretty amazing what the human spirit can do through us as human beings in this human existence. To communicate something so far beyond what we really are is a gift. My grandma told me there is more to us than meets the eye, it is the human soul.