Do I Really Need That Certainty To Relax??

[@travisfragale9340]

Rob, you are the man. I have made BIG, life-changing decisions and am surrendering (letting it be/being rational) to all those 'what ifs' that accompany such big decisions. I realize that it's not weak or bad or wrong or 'not good to not know' whether I made the 'right' decision. There are consequences in everything. And it's freeing to realize I don't need to nor will I ever have it all figured out. It's freeing each time I remember how I don't need to have it all figured out because nobody ever can nor will. I guess I am seeing what true unconditional self-love and acceptance is when I let go of trying to control which way I am supposed to go; what path I am supposed to take, and simply just take the path that I am on and learn as I go. Thanks for what you do.

[@chlover908]

Please cover fear of being depressed and fear of suicide and fear of being stuck in panic... i cannot tolerate it without making it bigger. Thank you!

[@Zenshade]

Doing any better? I’ve been struggling for 7 months.

[@jelenatisma4215]

love your videos really helping me with my recovery process! trying not to create a compulsion/reassurance by listening to them all day!

[@Libre517]

Brilliant, succinct explanation. Very helpful.

[@broadbandtogod]

I had to re view this video a couple of times to really get the message. I wrote a long a** post disagreeing with most of what you said, which is deleted. I use another "language" and would of presented the topic very differently, but even for a dumbdumb as me, I get what you're trying to say. Love that you are helping people and dare to talk with boldness and honesty, both are rare and highly valued. Thank you.

[@OCDRecovery]

Being a bit blunt is a key part of this channel 😉 Compassionate but telling it how it is.

[@olivep7920]

Good topic. Thanks Rob.

[@BlondeVagabond28]

Thanks, Rob. Looking forward to the longer video you mentioned on this topic as well. One thing I would be curious to know about is why the feeling of impending doom sticks around no matter how much our rational mind tells us it is irrational or wants us to let go and move on.

[@OCDRecovery]

Because you don’t believe it yet & don’t want it there.

[@Zenshade]

@@OCDRecovery I have been stuck with exactly this since having Covid OCT 2021 and I believe getting mortality and “this is my one life” anxiety/depression from it. I had some low dose antidepressants help for a bit here and there, but it always comes back. I especially feel anxious in the morning with some nausea for usually a few hours. The intensity has been lower overall, but it’s mostly 24/7 feeling of dread, fear, hopelessness, “I enjoy nothing”, “everything is pointless”. Finally realizing I think it’s OCD anxiety (thanks to your videos) involving fear of mortality, change, and desire for certainty and control after getting scared. I have a 4 year old and feel fear of giving him a good life and “doing it right” etc Any tips to move forward? I wish I could do some sessions with you - you seem to have an amazing understanding!

[@project-ogarage784]

Can you make a video on how often we should be doing exposures? That’s something I’m working on but don’t know how often I should be doing them.

[@mrl1593]

What happened to the instagram account?

[@OCDRecovery]

Ocdrecoverycom

[@bohditreementalhealth572]

Why u blkin me... ur an expert... ppl pay u a lot of money.. so clarify what im wrong about

[@lessismorefitness6789]

at 3:15 you contradict yourself regarding the issue of certainty. You made the statement: "..because that's how life is" .. you've just exhibited certainty in that very statement. Absolute certainty is necessary but it can only be achieved via acceptance and trust, because we don't have the tools for absolute certainty.. we must therefor submit and believe in and trust The Only One who does have those "tools".. The One that is All-good, All-knowing, The Excessively-Loving, and that's Allah. How can we be certain about Allah? I would argue it is as self-evident as the statement you made: ".. because that's how life is". There are self-evident truths and axioms that all humans build upon irrespective of religion, such as the law of causality for example, so this is not a special pleading for God. It's simply a reality. So rejoice, submit to and accept and love Allah, and you will find certainty, you will find peace.

[@gemmabonney6603]

“Submit to and accept and love Allah, and you will find peace.” - have you ever met anyone with religious OCD? I don’t think they would agree with you.

[@irish_deconstruction]

No, Rob did not contradict himself. He should probably define what he means by certainty a bit better though, as there is absolute certainty which IS an illusion and reasonable certainty which ISN'T an illusion, but he has not contradicted himself as he is not absolutely certain that thats how life works, as he is not absolutely certain about anything. Your turtles all the way down, gotcha, rhetorical question of 'are you absolutely certain that you cannot be absolutely certain?' Is absurdity of the highest calibre.