Do I Sound Gay to You? | Sam Cushing

[@tylerhayes9557]

Ive always thought his voice made him even more attractive.

[@tannimitchell]

Absolutely!!!

[@kumardaryanani8613]

I totally agree with you

[@stormlord620]

same

[@samuelsam523]

That's right

[@cineusstanleyy925]

Tyler Hayes same here

[@samcushing]

No need to answer the question btw (it's rhetorical)! Just meant to be an exploration on the topic and hopefully shed some light on the stigmas. love you guys.

[@miladibrahim2421]

Your voice is not feminine at all. It's more manly, and you're amazing.

[@courtney4234]

While rhetorical, this is a true stigma. Who really cares tbh? We are all ourselves and we should just express our individuality and if someone has a problem, then they need to figure some things out. You and your voice are amazing and I appreciate this video. It really does bring light to this situation.

[@PhillipsHaus]

Sam Cushing you sound beautiful!...that’s how you sound! We all love you! Much love!❤️

[@jrontiveros1]

Sam Cushing there is actually a documentary from 2014 called “Do I sound Gay?” Quite interesting how people are so quick to judge based on the sound of your voice, such a social stigma.

[@samcushing]

jrontiveros1 oooo I’m going to watch that! I should have before making this video

[@kakoi8017176414]

A voice doesn’t determine who a person is, character does.

[@bastianl9163]

Voice is part of the character, but I get where you are going for.

[@dxncerr1233]

Not necessarily

[@adityapal8367]

Exactly! I agree with you @Marcello Ballado

[@ohno1631]

That doesn’t really exist in society today they tend to label a lot of thhints

[@corneil1932]

Well, not 100%.

[@jamesduncan1424]

As a person outside America. He just sounds like an American to me 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@lunaticchild7892]

Hectic 😭

[@AnthonyM-iy7ek]

I understand. I was like you before I lived in North America and could tell the difference. He definitely sounds... distinctive of a certain variety... and thats not bad at all. We cant all be the same.

[@Kam7777]

He sounds like typical American, speaking through nose... but I love it 🥰

[@lafunk1978]

Naaa he still sounds like a gay American

[@jamesduncan1424]

@@lafunk1978 I can’t hear it 🧏🏻

[@baihao5748]

Sam's voice is actually pretty masculine. It's his intonation or inflection that's a bit gay.

[@donaldwhite1749]

@Travelling Tortilla being gay, yes. Gay voice, no.

[@Dreamcatcher-1962]

I think it is more mannerisms that determine and sometimes the voice but not always the voice..like over exaggerated movements with hands and eyes etc.

[@raphaeldububuchim6983]

This exists because when you leave the straight world you stop caring about how you sound to other people and you just express yourself

[@donaldwhite1749]

@@raphaeldububuchim6983 when you leave the straight world, where do you go? To an island full of gays to become Brian’s, from Family Guy, cousin?

[@marybell2002]

Agreed...I just think people adopt the style of speaking they're exposed to. I've noticed straight guys in big cities also "sound gay" but a gay guy in the army will probably sound super masculine.

[@ThanhMaiOFFICIAL]

We as a society need to stop putting a negative connotation on the word “gay” and look down someone if they are different. It’s 2020, let’s move forward not backwards 🙌💯

[@tannimitchell]

I personally love the word gay. It's one of my favorite!

[@ThanhMaiOFFICIAL]

Tanni N that’s the positivity we need 🙌

[@patcola7335]

People are regressing and not progressing. Methusela lived to be 969 years old. People think we are living longer today ? Lol. I never saw a group of people who are so in their own heads and psychoanalyze everything they are and try to convince the population at large how "backward" they are. SMH. Such an unhealthy obsession with self.

[@live4today390]

I agree with you 100% Sad thing is I've been saying it since 1983. Stay strong, stay positive. It's a long road forward. ❤️✌️🙂

[@kunalahuja1236]

Gay gay gay gay..

[@cathydrumobich9045]

People use "gay" when they mean "effeminate."

[@skurinski]

which is stupid cause many gay people are NOT effeminate

[@THEE.apples]

@@skurinski yea but A LOT are, which is where the stereotype came from.

[@gayeagleberkut4775]

@@skurinski I never understand people like you. Look at statistics on average. Gay are fem af compared your straight pal. Why do you deny, it is reasonable to make this correlation.

[@Implosion-Gaming]

@@gayeagleberkut4775 But many, including myself, are not. So yes it is pretty stupid to say. Just use the word "feminine ".

[@gayeagleberkut4775]

@@Implosion-Gamingstraights vary too. But take an average. There is no point in pretending

[@carterphillips3333]

When he said "the most exhausting thing to be in life is inauthentic," that hit different.

[@laceylouloulou]

That hit home here.

[@Portrait-in-Black]

Your voice is that rare in-betweener. You sound neither straight nor gay. That's why you get both positive and negative comments regarding your voice as people can't define you.

[@NickeyONickes]

Agreed. His voice could be gay or straight. He's unusually hard to categorize.

[@cristian.9857]

I had never seen these traits being embraced by fellow gay people and it's super cool that you guys are doing that! I feel like within gay culture there is this obsession where anything that is closer to the more prestigious "straight standard" is more desirable and better.

[@NeverEndingNick]

I don't think it matters tbh. And you're extremely beautiful so who cares??

[@samcushing]

Great answer! it doesn't matter :)

[@joelleitner1577]

@@samcushing I joel think that you are great man love you very much anyway and i Dont care how you talk

[@Narniabusiness1]

For someone who is extremely cute and likeable personality it doesn't really matter. U be u

[@willhernandez2325]

I agree

[@Athanasios12]

I respect your opinion but allow me to say that beauty by itself it's nothing and so ephemeral. 😋

[@joemorgan5256]

Sam I think you have one of the sexiest voices I have ever heard it doesn't really matter what anybody else thinks if you are happy with your voice which I do believe that you are because you're an excellent singer a great spokesperson go with it and use your influence and your popularity to help any and all younger gay straight bi curious whatever people who ever would potentially need it

[@ericrcerrillos]

Everyone’s voice is beautiful. Instead of worrying about how one speaks, we all should put more energy into spreading positivity, love and peace with one another.

[@jayzlking4730]

Question he is gay or not?

[@kennyx2702]

Needed to hear this rn 💞

[@johnmetzdorf6121]

There is a documentary on Netflix called “Do I Sound Gay?” I really enjoyed it. Some of the stuff that you talk about in this video are touched on in the documentary!

[@joeyortega3206]

Period love. She said "standards who? "Being Basic why?" Forget making other people happy, because they will always find flaws. Just make yourself happy.

[@alexmartinez9440]

Thank you for acknowledging "gay" voice. I chose not to speak for a while because of my own gay voice that really struck me down from an outgoing individual to a more secluded person but I'm getting back there slowly .

[@bryanperez6381]

Why does this matter? Its 2020 guys, c'mon. We've got to be better than this...

[@yanirabeltran6335]

PREACH🔥🍑

[@luckydudex3765]

It doesn't matter, in a sense that you shouldn't disrespect someone for it, but it does matter when it comes to attraction. For some people, it's not attractive

[@bryanperez6381]

luckydude x I agree that everyone has the right to like or dislike his voice. My issue stems from the descriptor term “gay” for a voice. No one would say someone sounds “too straight”. I think what people mean when they dislike a voice they describe as “too gay”, they potentially are displeased with the nasal quality of their voice. Perhaps it’s a vocal fry? Maybe their voice is too high pitched? All of which are better suited descriptors for someone’s displeasure of his voice instead of using the term gay as a negative. we need to get better at finding proper descriptors to communicate our opinions and educate ourselves as to why describing something as “too gay” when we mean negative is hurtful to individuals as well as the LGBT+ community as a whole.

[@luckydudex3765]

@@bryanperez6381 Yes, I know where you are coming from. You pretty much summed it up on what people mean when they refer to a voice as gay (vocal fry, high pitched, feminine etc...). A gay voice is thay stereotypical voice that you can tell a person is gay. Personally, I don't mind because I get where people are coming from when they use the word "gay" to describe a voice. Many gay men, do sound like that, compared to straight men. I am also one of the people who find the term "straight acting" OK as well, because, again, I know where they are coming from when they use that term. Even though not all straight men act the same.

[@prophetmadonna3744]

well it is a valid thing. lets not be hypocrites!

[@theblackdeath4398]

I mean, your voice is different. It's silky, it's smooth, it's beautiful. Most people are too hoarse, or too soft, or too strong, but yours is just right. Just the way your personality is. You shouldn't respond to these people because they are demonstrating they have power over you. You are putting yourself under their influence. Don't respond. Don't listen. In time, they will go away. Instead of following them, let them follow you.

[@brownboikyle]

I feel like you're helping a lot of people by being so vulnerable, Sam. You're definitely helping me be more confident in who I am! This video has inspired me to really focus on being myself today and not changing anything for anyone 🤍

[@gpslibra]

First time viewer. 65 yo gay man here. I had to “butch it up” in grade and high school in order to avoid the bullies. Those were the 60’s and early 70’s. I hated having to be hyper-vigilant every waking moment but it was literal survival for me in the Midwest. I succeeded in avoiding being accused of being gay or being bashed. When I came out at 21, I threw that closet door open and have been my authentic self ever since. Your voice is beautiful and sexy as it is. Thank you for your inspiring video.

[@jaquaviousharris8656]

Sam I don’t care how you sound. You’re the most beautiful man there is just because you’re YOU. You’re still giving me life up to this day as we speak. ❤️

[@JefferriAndrews]

JaQuavious Harris Hey best friend!

[@A-ID-A-M]

You have a DEEP voice with a lot of vocal fry, but a "gay" inflection. Its interesting, because to me it just makes you sound more youthful. Your voice could honestly go either way. I think its a nice voice overall. Lol this was way overly thought out.

[@GlynRobinson]

Sam Cushing could never be “less than”! I love your intellect, Sam!

[@TommyLellan]

It’s definitely something that’s nice to see talked about candidly. I don’t have a gay sounding voice and I often wonder why, when all my gay friends do. It’s interesting, hey!

[@jeffwatkins352]

You hit it on the head. You don't think about your voice. You don't choose it if you're honest, and even then not until you're way past the age when your voice developed into what it is. Me, I don't like my voice as it sounds in recordings, which is what others hear in regular conversation. Yet, in my current job as a phone service rep, people frequently compliment me on it, urging me to do radio. So who knows. From this video, it sounds like you've come to terms with yours which BTW is as charming as everything else about you.

[@ecsciguy79]

Gay Voice: It definitely has something to do with the letter S

[@notme8652]

Yeah Sssss makes it gay

[@joshboston2323]

Hahaha right! It also has to do with ending many sentences with a question mark.

[@motox2416]

@@joshboston2323 that's upspeak. It's a voice affectation associated with millennial young girls. Just like the vocal fry.

[@alfredoofc7090]

Yesss

[@phus2001]

Not quite!

[@andygrontkowski5447]

You can talk to me with that "gay" voice anytime! I would say sonorous, resonant, and don't tone down the charisma Sam.

[@lucamancuso9273]

In Italy we have different dialects and accents, depending on where you live. For example, in Venice (north Italy) people speaks with high pitched voice because of its accent, which leads to a certain inflection. But if you go in Naples (south Italy) the dialect and the accent lead to have a lower pitched voice. Those are just different ways of speaking, and have nothing to do with sexuality. Don’t worry and don’t give too much importance to your voice, it’s your charscteristic. You’re just an amazing guy. Fuck haters💖😘✌️

[@db7073]

Same in Spain, we can totally relate hahaha

[@lucapeccini4448]

Esatto hahahahahah, dude that voice is just so attractive, dont even care.

[@MursAlison]

My dad is from Naples and I can totally confirm that.

[@GUITARTIME2024]

I went to Italy and i could tell the hotel reception was gay, and he was speaking Italian. The "gay sound" is found in many languages.

[@enricochestri]

Verissimo!

[@davefredrickson9320]

I love listening to you! You always seem so genuine to me. Keep up the good work! Keep telling us you love us! That makes me feel good! ❤

[@bsubhajit]

You are just perfect bro, at first i didn't had the slightest thought of you being gay in your gesture or voice.

[@Indianaguy72]

I dislike stereotypes but not all gay guys sound "gay." Look up Mike Pucillo. He was a gay wrestler from Ohio and he sounds as "guyish" as they come.

[@BigBadJerryRogers]

I don't sound gay at all. My voice is deep and intimidating to some people. It's probably one of those things that kept me from getting beat up as a kid. But because a lot of people don't think I am gay I have probably missed out on a lot of gay people trying to get to know me because they don't pick up on obviously gay vibes.

[@dansteyn3102]

I came out to my parents and they didn’t believe me they said “you don’t sound gay”😂😂

[@Ariana-nw2oh]

@Dan Steyn hahahahahahaha 😂

[@Hi-bm2gu]

im so happy someone is actually talking about this in a video

[@drewchurchill3025]

“The most exhaustive thing to be in life is inauthentic” I’ve spent so much of my life trying to control the image I portray that I’m not even sure who I am anymore. I’ve always been afraid of having gay inflections. Even after coming out, and working hard to accept myself, my voice has been something I’ve continued to try and control. I’m going to work on find my voice, my literal voice. Thanks for calling me out on that.

[@kpwill69]

Just be you! Whether it's your voice, your personality, your charisma- it's your uniqueness that people notice and gravitate to!! Thanks for doing this video and allowing yourself to be so vulnerable too :-)

[@michielrampaart9565]

I like his voice, it's very warm. and his laugh is even better, very attractive

[@XtinaP123]

Sam seems to be a kind hearted young man. That should mean more than what his voice sounds like.

[@kmann627]

I’m a 59 year old gay African-American man. I have never been told I sound gay, but I have been told you don’t sound black. 🤷🏽‍♂️🤷🏽‍♂️🤷🏽‍♂️

[@z_ed]

Same, it's like what the fuck 😐

[@MrJuly1990ish]

Feel you on that one kmann!

[@lennoxbonnie5210]

I've been told I sound like a gay black man... I'm a white bisexual man

[@Gym_rat-ep4cj]

That’s me too.

[@berkeleybenje]

I’m not black but I’ve been told I sound black! Sometimes I’m told I sound like a black woman. 😂 I take that as a compliment.

[@tycaptain2009]

This was absolutely amazing Sam. I too struggled with being made fun of for my voice, but like you said it's not something that we can control. Your comment about it not being something we wake up and put it on really resonated with me, we need to own who we are. This was an uplifting video and I can't wait for the next one in this series. Thank you for living your truth and helping pave a way for more people to live their truths! Keep up the great work and you have an amazing voice ;)

[@popsyturvee5112]

I was super conscious about my voice. So much so that I would not put up a video of me talking because I didn’t want to hear my own gay voice and I didn’t want people to hear it in social media. So thank you for this Sam.

[@jessemeyer3628]

I was told i needed to man up my voice in order to visit friends in jamaica. Never told i sound gay but now i cant help but feeling self conscious about it. Thanks for this

[@itseasyasabcc]

Dont let these haters get their way, being gay is a privilege that many don't understand.

[@harvey1965]

So very very true.

[@berkeleybenje]

self-loathing is behind hateful/shaming comments. Period.

[@dave9624]

Absolutely. The deeper your hate for others, the deeper your dislike of yourself

[@gibsonmitchell]

period

[@robertcarter6963]

Actually, your voice conjures in my mind as someone who is articulate and well-read in their endeavours. Someone who is extremely intelligent and worldly in their views of the world. Your voice is part of your identity so who cares if it sounds gay or not!

[@diavalmoon]

It does sound gay but thats not a bad thing and you r gay so it shouldn't matter

[@saschah2071]

What I definately like about that Video is, the end. Because at the beginning it seem's like it's "just about your" voice but how a voice sounds is just a little prick of a huge wall. I think nobody has any right to judge anyone for being thereselves. This world would be more beautiful if we would stop hurting other people. Even if it's "just" because of how a voice sounds to you. Stop it! Nobody wants to here your hate ! Thank you Sam for being yourself and for using the voice you have given for something good, even if some people might don't like the sound of it. I'll Support you! :)

[@sebastianlachance4124]

“Stand firm in your true authentic self, and watch happiness unfold.” - My Boss

[@tomcullen5294]

as a gay man myself who has always hated my voice, its all about the "s" sound... nature or nurture its been there since I was in early years, way before I knew what gay was

[@whonoms]

You just hit the nail on the head. This is exactly it - the s sound, but also before I knew what gay was, or knew that I was myself gay.

[@Forlfir]

Can't you change it though? I never pronounced things "the gay way" but in my language we have 2 ways of pronouncing the s at the end of words (sh or s) and through my life I've used one or the other as my accent changed and I moved around the country lol).

[@tomcullen5294]

@@Forlfir sh and s sounds are quite distinct. I'm also learning norwegian with has kj and sj sounds which are sort of a hard sh and a sh that is more towards s but my s is a gay s.

[@tomcullen5294]

@Louisbb thats more of a th. in my head its a slight whistle in the ss. a bit like when we teach kids to make a snake sound //hiss//. its not effeminate as I'm getting older I'm embracing it and I think its part of our superpower

[@jiminbtsforever7044]

@Louisbb You know feminine gays are more visible than masculine gays because of their behavior. as a masculine gay they are purely masculine and not made while feminine gays can't be masculine even though he tries it still looks feminine. Masculine gays are more able to hide their true identity and that's good luck because they are unpredictable by society and sadly feminine gays experience more sorrow and suffering because they are seen. this is the truth that people must know.

[@4081kieran]

I'm so glad you're talking about this. I think it's an added toxicity that isn't talked about as much. I too have a serious case of gay voice. Although I have learned to accept and embrace it. It is still an identifying marker of being gay to be discriminated against (more often within our own community)

[@anthonyboarman3833]

Yes there are gay men who are turned off by effeminate men. I think it is a lot of internalized homophobia. They probably bullied gay men in school.

[@JeffRebornNow]

@@anthonyboarman3833 Everything in our culture devalues women, you know? It's a horror of sounding feminine, as though you are somewhat less than if you do. We have a phallic-centric culture, where brutish, desensitized, testosterone-driven, neanderthalish masculinity is worshiped. Hence the accolades given to professional athletes who can barely speak.

[@yellowcircle1709]

Sam, there’s a documentary on Hulu called “Do I Sound Gay?” Definitely worth a watch!

[@christydolan6449]

Matthew A Thanks for the info - I’ll check it out 😃

[@avesraggiana]

Oh, the maker of that film? He definitely sounds gay! I love on of the descriptive phrases he came up with - “braying ninnies”!

[@elleryprescott]

Absolutely! It’s such a great documentary

[@majot511]

I really like your voice 😁 I wouldn’t say you sound “gay” like gay people can sound like whatever I think.

[@andyplummer6982]

Very true the comment in the video that a gay voice tends to copy a female figure in your formative years. It's not only about whether you develop a high- or a low-pitched voice but more about the intonation, the way you relate a story, how much you say and how quickly you talk. I like the idea of being yourself including when using your voice, but it's also important to work on some bad habits and do some changes, especially if you realise your voice reflects some of the insecurities you were growing up with as a young gay person. Good topic and video, thank you.

[@matts1392]

I watched a documentary on this a couple years ago. I think it was literally called "Do I Sound Gay?". Also, you might be interested in looking up Deborah Tannen's work. She's a linguistic anthropologist and sociolinguist who focuses on language and sex/gender, and also wrote a couple books for the general public that are less academic. I don't know if she has done any work on LGBT sociolinguistics but I imagine some others have. I would also be interested in some research on the experience of trans people finding their voice post-transition.

[@dougjeter2951]

Only a jealous person would ever make a comment about your voice. So take it as a compliment

[@mgcoulter1877]

I personally like your voice no matter what anyone thinks it sounds like❤

[@MichaelKumashie]

I face a lot of discriminations from people because of my voice. Most of these people say well your voice sounds feminine... Try speaking like a man...I always feel terrible but realizing there are people who have this so called "vocal fry" thing, I am very much comfortable in my own skin right now. I love your voice by the way, Sam. I'm about involving myself in body building because you inspire me in that direction a lot...Love you.

[@Jaylowen29]

Thanks for this discussion. I've always hated my own speaking voice because it's a bit "gay". I'm glad that we're finally in a (slightly) more evolved place at this point in time. It struck me that you said, "Should I be ashamed of that?" I guess I always have been, but no... No you should not!!!

[@troywhelan726]

Awww - Doesn’t everyone sound Gay? Sam is a Stud! 👍😃

[@richardbrandeis4879]

Hysterical Sam. The only one who should care is you, everything else is secondary. We're all unique in some way, but as I've said before, you couldn't ask for a better package as a human being, then you. Keep on keeping Sam....:)

[@jaynice2208]

not to even be weird, but omg i love your voice! it fits you so well, it’s so cute too. people’s voices do NOT and should not have to fit the body type of their body! i think your voice is sooo much better and hotter lol, again not weird haha but rather than a deep masculine voice to fit your body. honestly, they are jealous of your uniqueness and diversity 😍 and you were so positive about this, i’m so impressed

[@hercmang2882]

I totally agree!

[@luisdavidchamorrogutierrez1800]

Jay Nice this is so exiting, I think that we answered to Sam's question really similarly. And I totally agree with you!😋🌟✨😌

[@jaynice2208]

HercMan G thank you!!

[@jaynice2208]

Luis David Chamorro Gutiérrez yay that makes me so happy!

[@russelllawrence3584]

We adapt to the environment we are in. Like actors, we take on the characteristics of the person we want to be and are comfortable with. That can change based on location and circumstances. You may be touchy-feely with your family in your personal life, but maintain a respectful distance at work. If you are an accommodating person, this is being true to yourself.

[@twilightdistortion]

In love with his voice. Could listen to him talk all day 😍

[@daviddavid2758]

ikr he's soo cutee and his voice too 😭😭

[@MaxMustermann-hd7oe]

Not at all. You should hear mine 😄 Everyone thinks I'm a woman on the phone.

[@sinfulpriest8659]

Same but I get all the best loot in Apex so idfc. 😂

[@megabrief]

Same only when i speak English 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@nandarafiansyah7270]

The story of my life as well. When they call me over the phone, I don't even bother to correcting them anymore. Just played along with it 🤣

[@Jazz12176]

Same same. Usually it doesn’t bother me unless the person on the other side persists to speak to the Mr, not me. ugh

[@user-qw3zj6up7t]

I feEeel you 😂😂😂

[@gayeagleberkut4775]

I think he forces himself to sound deeper. Seems natural because of the habit but his voice flies when he is more comfortable.

[@gayeagleberkut4775]

@Juan Rodrigo his voice flies exactly when he doesnt control it

[@gayeagleberkut4775]

@Juan Rodrigo humans are blessed with human intuition and I believe mine. He is faking the deep voice

[@luisignasiorodriguez4316]

Your voice is one of the most beautiful voices I have ever heard 😍😍😍😍😍😍

[@manhphuoctran7510]

Be strong and don't care anything others talk about you. There are thousands of bad words that people throw at you everyday and you just need to smile at them.

[@jrkirby1]

Just saw this!! Fantastic and informative video! I’ve always struggled with my “gay voice”. You’re right; we just need to be our authentic selves. Thanks Sam!!

[@cycleguy417]

Who cares? You are YOU, a wonderful you. Don’t be like others Be YOU

[@tannimitchell]

Sam, I think the tone of your voice is extremely deep and manly. What makes it gay is the way you speak sometimes. For example how you say 'I'll see you next time' in the end, no straight would say it with that pronunciation. But I totally agree that you should stay true to yourself and in 2020 it's sexxyyy to sound gay, i love it!! 💜❤️💜

[@huh7270]

KEENG LOUIE thank you for your opinion no one asked for.

[@tannimitchell]

Ok, I thought he asked for opinions according to the title of the video. My bad if I got that wrong. I adore his voice as much as anybody else does Btw, I'm not straight, I'm bi, not that it matters.

[@huh7270]

KEENG LOUIE stfu

[@huh7270]

Tanni N it’s ok just u shared your opinion and i only said that to someone else who has no respect for straights even if u were one.

[@tannimitchell]

@KEENG LOUIE We should all respect other humans, no matter if they are gay, straight, bi, trans, verse or whatever.

[@kper5592]

What is it? It's almost impossible to articulate, but it's one of those "you'll know it when you see (hear) it". Is it bad? No, it just is.

[@garrettpuchalski4197]

No your voice is super cute !!! Sidenote tho true about not being "anti-fem" but also have experienced so much intense rudeness from "fem" guys for not being into typical gay things so in general just respect !!

[@dudleyhall5217]

Good conversation between you and your friend. I think sometimes the way we sound depends on where we’re from versus whether your gay or not. Even in the US, people from different states sound different. Sam, we love you the way you are. So, don’t change that. Keep up the good work. Btw, your friend seems like a really nice guy.

[@JordanChristopher2]

You should check out the documentary "Do I Sound Gay"" It's a really interesting Doc with more of the history of the "gay voice" and the gay character in media.

[@MidgleyRoss]

Jordan Mauldin where can one watch this?

[@JordanChristopher2]

@@MidgleyRoss it's on Hulu

[@maxfischer5962]

Gay voice is fine, it lacks confidence because everything sounds like a question rather than a statement, but it also is friendlier. I'd suggest editing the word like. That should happen with age.

[@adriansutton6880]

You don't sound gay, you sound Californian (or what I think a Californian sounds like)

[@HollywoodF1]

No to the part that's not in parentheses, and yes to the part that is. Sincerely, California

[@motox2416]

Specifically like a valley girl.

[@artemisgide5100]

Ashley Roberts I grew up in LA and he sounds like everyone here.

[@artemisgide5100]

@Ashley Roberts If your definition of Cali dude is surfer dude, then no. But he def sounds like a lot of the guys from LA, hence, like someone from California.

[@HenriqueAOliveiras]

It is soothing see you talking about these subjects so openly! Proud of you!

[@jgnmtz]

Beautifully said Sam. This thought provoking video really caught me. The voice we grow into is a natural part of us. What you will always find is people will project whatever their own insecurities are. That makes for a good time to converse about it. I have Diva voice myself! You and our pal made this fun. So glad I can still relate to the young people even though I went through the people attacking my voice back in the 70's. Have fun with it. make your weakness your strength.

[@darthnox4914]

You don’t sound gay, as the way people define the term “gay voice”. People find it feminine, which is totally okay to have a feminine voice. My voice is not soft but the way I talk is more feminine compare to a straight guy even though I’m not aware of it. It took time for me to be comfortable with how I sound. I feel like a man, and I like men, how I sound is kinda out of conscious and I’m okay with it cause It’s a part of my personality.

[@DarkMorguet]

Ok, as a Spaniard I cannot help to giggle in an “awww” mode each time he says something in Spanish 😍 But seriously though, I have a high pitched voice, and I guess that I normally speak in a “expressive/passionate” way. I know that as long as I’m being natural I don’t have to be ashamed in any way of how I speak and who I am, but I guess there’s a need to be accepted and liked by the rest of the society and... as it’s been said, in certain situations you tame yourself to make yourself more agreeable to the common taste. Anyway, the point is to know that there’s nothing to be ashamed of and, for heaven’s sake, it’s stupid that in 2020 we still have to be labelled in some way because of a construction of the gender roles 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@JanitaShowaars]

Sam: “Do I sound gay to you?” Me: “does it matter? 😂 “

[@garyc.4545]

I found Sam’s workout videos and I fell in love with them since.

[@jamesjuarez1252]

No matter the sound of your voice - I LOVE that you always use your voice for the best of intention. Saying that one has a "gay voice" is just another label, a type, a stereotype - you get the picture. Personally, to me... your voice has beautiful masculine tones with clarity in your speech and great enunciation. What matters most to me is that you are one of my role models, a man that I look up too. Thank you for sharing your experiences with us. I look forward to sharing my story with you and hope to communicate our adventures soon. Take care my friend.

[@BlackLlight07]

Ha! The voice definitely has that gay aura. Is not about how deep-pitch the voice is, but the enunciation/ intonation. The intonation kinda identical to Tyler Oakley, IMHO.

[@rcpd18]

Yeah, many have that kind of voice we say: “oh yeah he’s gay” . I personally find voice very hot when it’s very masculine... sorry 😅😔🤷🏻‍♂️

[@ainako1010]

8:00 Sam: We cant help the way we sound Me 1 month on anime: "Omae wa mou shindeiru"

[@lunaticchild7892]

K. O. 😭

[@RaneirPollard]

Great job with this discussion. Very well done.

[@binausblu]

Sam’s looks, voice & whole persona is attractive to me.

[@tgoddard1988]

When it comes to accents (and there is a gay accent 😂) it’s all about the way you pronounce vowels, both pitch and longevity, I’ve found that guys who are more feminine tend to pronounce their vowels at a higher pitch to the general tone of their voice and elongate the sound, guys who have an accent that does this naturally then tend to go even higher on the vowels and elongate the sound more. I’ve found this a pretty good tell for whether a guy is gay or not. Most people I meet don’t know I’m gay until I tell them I am, it’s funny whenever I start a new job and after a month or so it comes up that I’m engaged and they as about “her” and I’m just like, “yeah, it’s he” 😂😂 I also have a pretty good gaydar tbh as well, my last job there was this super masc guy who I crushed on so hard, while I was talking to another gay guy who I worked with I mentioned that I found the masc guy super hot my friend agreed but said he had a Long term Gf, I didn’t say anything because I don’t feel anyone has the right to try and out someone they “think” is gay, but I was certain he was. Anyway after a few months the masc guy left the company, broke up with his Gf and then started posting pics online of himself with a Bf! I did message him eventually just to say hi and ask how things were going and we got onto the subject of the Bf (I steered it in that direction) and he was said he had known for a while but was to scared to come out because he was worried people would treat him differently, after he broke up with his Gf he wanted to come out but he wanted to leave the company we were working for and start a new job as an out guy so people would know him as him and not as someone else.

[@johnferradino]

Dang. That kinda stinks that guy had to leave the company just to get a bf. I'd be kicking myself for not just shooting my shot with him while I had the chance.

[@butchzamora]

Yes, your voice gives you away. But it doesn't matter. Everybody has their own distinct uniqueness that makes them who they are.

[@phus2001]

Is the voice or the timber and expression? His voice is not gay,

[@sirens4562]

Why do people care about these stupid things anyways. People have personalities and certain behaviors that separate them from others and that’s what makes them beautiful. I personally love when people are different from the rest. It would be boring if everyone sounded the same. Just think of it as a dialect thats imprinted on you to fit in! The same with people with deep voices they can just change it and make it even deeper when they wanna impress someone or make it lighter when their more comfortable with someone. Anyone can do it! It’s our human nature! It’s sad people judge someone’s character by the way their voice sounds when people’s voices fluctuate every second of the day it’s just a sound to communicate.😇

[@bengmelea8646]

So a friend sent me link to one of your floor exercise videos for me to try during lockdown. I had never seen or heard of you before but as soon as you opened your mouth I KNEW! ;-) . Subscribed!

[@adrianedil3032]

your voice is soooo attractive man you have no idea

[@ChrisPBacon-ok7ir]

There is such a thing as a "gay accent." I hear just small hints of it in your voice and it's sexy.

[@renanbaltazar]

To me it’s suuuuuuper attractive when the guys “sound gay” or more feminine or whatever, it’s very homophobic people complain about it, it’s a sign misogyny inside gay community, same misogyny that kill us in the streets. Your voice sound very very sexy, it suits you perfectly, It’s charismatic. 😉❤️💪🏻

[@FreeBitch99]

@Roman King mmmhh well yeah that's misoginy, sexism, heteronormativity or whatever you wanna call it.

[@mediterraneanmapping9657]

@@FreeBitch99 I think you just heard the word misogyny and try to use it in a sentence without spelling it correctly

[@Venus.Y]

I'm a girl I like feminine guys so it's a blessing

[@strombeck1979]

You're totally cute! And your voice is perfect! There's no gay way, there's only our way. And you're beautiful even more when you smile... 🤗😃

[@gazpi76]

What a lovely video. It's so worth it. They say in my country. "Duelale a quien le duela. It means: "It really doesn't matter who gets hurt "for the way we are. We are who we are. There must be something within the ones that hate us that remind them of who they are too. I can't thank you enough for such beautiful video

[@abhijitbanerjee1742]

It's ridiculous at this day and age to hate on how someone speaks, several factors affect our tone and pitch and society can stop deciding what is ok. Because preferences do differ. Sam's voice is clear enough to understand and it's really nice. Sticking a label to everything is not ok.

[@robbyf5402]

Let’s just say your voice is unique who cares lol

[@anthonyamato1]

People who don’t like your voice are those who eat pineapple on pizza; get rid of them 😂

[@thepebblescorner9507]

I agree, they should leave the chat 🤣🤣🤣 the difference in taste is too much

[@neige_lotus]

I like pineapple on a pizza but I like his voice! What do I do 😂😂

[@thepebblescorner9507]

@@neige_lotus You're a strange one my friend 🤣🤣

[@robsmith2647]

@@neige_lotus same

[@Germantownrunner]

Who's to say what "sounds" gay or straight? There's no way to ever determine it. However, you do exhibit "vocal frying" aspects to your voice which is in an affectation (we all have our own.) I'm sure that a vocal expert can explain this further. Sound gay? No. Vocal fryer? Yes. Regardless, you be you.

[@John-ph8rq]

Isn't it fascinating how different our tastes as Human Beings can be.....I FREAKING love the sound of his voice, the inflections, and delivery!!!

[@Andre_Souza500]

I agree... Authenticity is the coolest thing. Not trying to sound more masculine or feminine is what really is attractive... great video 🥰