Steve Ward ("Tough Love") says looks matter more than anything, but Nicole Murphy ("Hollywood Exes") disagrees.
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@aliyae2310 жыл бұрын
I feel like men are brought onto this show only so they can be ridiculed. You have to give someone a chance to speak before you boo them! I totally agree with him. Looks do matter but he didn't say it was the be all and end all of a relationship- these women aren't really listening to what he's saying!!
@ZYaKnoe24910 жыл бұрын
I agree, if the man who comes on the show isn't kissing ass, he gets boo'ed
@nightlight39905 жыл бұрын
So proud of women like you mam, I salute you 💪 more power to women like you, Equality for all
@emiliasvensson612510 жыл бұрын
I totally agree with Steve on this one. I whole heartedly think you approach someone because of your attraction to that person but you stay for the personality.
@fightfannerd20784 жыл бұрын
indeed thats how most relationships & most couples like 85% of them tend to match each other in looks
@hurlentropy68663 жыл бұрын
@@fightfannerd2078 Yes, it eventually tends to level out.
@agentsmith85683 жыл бұрын
Exactly 💯
@penwrites60063 жыл бұрын
Absolutely
@provrr10 жыл бұрын
This guy is just real, and some people can't take it .
@SirBrucie5 жыл бұрын
exactly
@NoName-mm6gh4 жыл бұрын
@Logan Heckathorn Nicole works day and night to keep fit
@therac27704 жыл бұрын
hang in there steve, you are 100% on point, these reactions you got are either dumb or hyprocritical ....
@armarelder72603 жыл бұрын
Women cant take the truth.
@missmimi68173 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@defiantlypinki11078 жыл бұрын
I agree with the man. Your personality isn't written on your face, but it is one of the first things people see. You don't have to be one or the other; be a double threat. Look amazing and have an amazing personality to back it up.
@jessicaarmy-animegirl94546 жыл бұрын
MissSweatpants I same
@user-iw7cq4dr3e4 жыл бұрын
You do relize that you can't just look amazing if you want to. It's mostly genetic.
@user-iw7cq4dr3e4 жыл бұрын
@She Rolls It's not great but it's the truth. Looks are mostly determined by your facial bone structure. You can't Change that unless you use plastic surgery.
@user-iw7cq4dr3e4 жыл бұрын
@A.J Yeah that's bs. At Most you could say that good looking people tend to be a little more narcisisstic.
@NoName-mm6gh4 жыл бұрын
How can you see a personality? 😂
@sbkpilot110 жыл бұрын
I agree with the guy. In my anecdotal experience with dating both women and men place a good amount of emphasis on physical attraction. Most women in the audience are just trying to be politically correct and not seem superficial.
@haitamboussanya81046 жыл бұрын
sbkpilot11 11
@beautifulsoul12399 жыл бұрын
These woman are delusional. The guy is being truthful.
@notwerkinginthishouse86344 жыл бұрын
@@fauxpaux5239 ? beauty is not about looks ... and everyone is beautiful, just some people give up to show it and desperate for others to approve them
@rodw.90504 жыл бұрын
Vivianna Low you must be unattractive
@fauxpaux52394 жыл бұрын
@@rodw.9050 ofc that goes without saying or not why would I have that point of view?
@fauxpaux52394 жыл бұрын
@@rodw.9050 And so this is one of the many reasons why society 's standard of beauty has caused so many pyschological problems for people e.g. eating disorders ,body dysmorphia and whatever so just stop with using the word unattractive or ugly. And it really irks me that there are such men existing trying to bring down women's looks just because they do not meet society 's beauty standards.Using words like "ew she looks disgusting ,she is unattractive " SUCH MEN NEEDS TO BE GONE FOR GOOD. MEN are disgusting if they act in such a way or maybe to defend themselves they will just say they are being honest af with stupid excuses just to support their reasons for saying their claims. We women dont need to meet society 's expectations to be considered as beautiful.
@notwerkinginthishouse86344 жыл бұрын
@@rodw.9050 and u figured it out by her one comment?
@dorcas7068 жыл бұрын
ok if looks don't matter ,how come evry woman in the audience is wearing makeup?
@trailerkeller67605 жыл бұрын
Dorcas Kafula thank you 🙏🏻 for proving the point.
@Alkole6664 жыл бұрын
I know cause apparently they do it for themselves cause they do that when they are home alone just so they feel good
@kristinewashington42423 жыл бұрын
That’s so true. Looks does matter...
@ericrood41003 жыл бұрын
Very good point. Joe Rogan came up with an awesome analogy. You have this car. It is free. But it starts out pretty plain. You have the choice to turn it into something amazing. The sky is the limit. You can beef up the tires, tune up the engine, give it awesome exhaust, paint job, etc... The only catch is that it requires effort. If you, decide to make the engine baddass, then why not have the outside clean, looking polished. You'd take pride in it, and take care of everything together. You aren't going to have the car look and sound incredible, but have the upholstery smell like piss and sweat. Everything is connected. Everything works together. This amazing car is going to cruise with other amazing cars. But if you don't put much effort into your car, you will cruise around with other car owners who also haven't put forth much effort.
@notwerkinginthishouse86343 жыл бұрын
@@trailerkeller6760 how is a point proven? That sounds ridiculous
@SinfulSnickers10 жыл бұрын
I agree with him to a certain extent. Let's face it.. Looks do play a part. But you cannot love someone based on good looks alone because personality goes a long way.
@williamwykoff20446 жыл бұрын
Kartika Jasini looks natter first tho
@rjbatz26236 жыл бұрын
I dated a girl for a month through online dating she looked no where near as good as she did in her pics, but her personality was awesome but It didn't last long because she could sense I wasn't really physically attracted to her. Even though I was kind, I never told her I wasn't I lied. Personality does make you more attarctive but let's face it nobody wants to hear that personality sugar coat crap where " your goodlooking now", cause let's face it if you don't legitimately feel like your physically attractive enough to your partner for at least something you feel like crap, and I felt horrible ik she was hurt and that ripped me.
@rgchrono5 жыл бұрын
"Looks" still is the major thing that gets someone to notice someone else. Of course, there will be a time when you find a person attractive based on who they are, happened to me with my current gf. I could find other women way more attractive than my gf, but since I've had a harder time attracting women in the past. I pretty much had to curve my preferences in women attractiveness and give my gf a "chance." True, that if the looks are there, but if the person's character sucks it makes it a lot easier to break up with them. BUT! when the looks are not there, but the person has a great character. Breaking up with them is totally difficult, and one begins to connect more with the ok looking partner on a deeper level. Happens with me. Personality does go a long way, but it is the person's looks that get someone notice in the first place.
@kujas5 жыл бұрын
he's not saying "love" only what "attracts" and looks is the biggest factor.
@theuglybeing46734 жыл бұрын
Kartika Jasini np not for me only for you shallow ass people out there
@Rose_16-1238 жыл бұрын
I'm a woman and I totally agree with the man. Humans are shallow creatures, maybe men are a bit more sometimes, but either way, looks are what first attract you to a person on some level. Every woman in that audience was either lying to themselves or just everyone else. And to Bethenny talking about this man with all of this confidence coming up to a woman and catching her attention- what made that "confident" man want to go talk to that woman?? Her looks.
@SirBrucie5 жыл бұрын
''men are a bit more sometimes'' bull fucking shit.
@wiseman41604 жыл бұрын
It's rare I see a thin women or a little overweight women holding hands with an very overweight or obese man. It's not rare to see these same women with overweight man or healthy normal weight. Women giving men a hard time for something they also do almost as often. I could see if he said he doesn't date overweight women, then all the hate he gets on the show might make sense. Men and women usually don't marry someone that has a very big weight difference from each other. Back in 1950s when women were less independent it was not rare for a women that's normal healthy weight or a little overweight to marry a man that's obese. Nowadays it's not rare for an overweight man to marry a women that's not overweight and is normal healthy weight.
@mileovereducation70853 жыл бұрын
Have you heard about a term called maturity?
@hurlentropy68663 жыл бұрын
Women get to chose the highest quality mate. It is clear women have a much higher bar to induce physical attraction relative to a man..This is why men approach women at such a high frequency after the advent of cosmetics. At the same token, women swipe right to very few men on dating apps..Once physical attraction is skewed upward, the demand increases. .Since women have a plethora of options, it makes sense to raise the lower bar (weed out the lower quality) rather than lower the upper bar (not natural). If there exists a pool of men with equivalent personal value, it is evident that the most physically attractive mate will be selected if there is NO bias. Also, cheating is running rampant these days....Increasing the number of options raises the probability of cheating when all other factors remain constant. Since there exist more opportunities for reward feedback than previously encountered, there is a higher temptation to follow the wave of euphoria...
@krissmiley75193 жыл бұрын
Why do you think its shallow for a man to want. His woman to be attractive ? Its wired into our very dna as it is with every other mammal on the planet , to say that is shallow is to say that the continued existence of life is a shallow desire , And by the way, no one said that a man does no. Also won't a woman with a great personality , they are not mutually exclusive traits
@ximenakelley8 жыл бұрын
tbh I would be heartbroken if my S.O didn't find me visually appealling and only liked my personality (which is nice and all) but even if I knew looks didnt matter, I'd still feel like a failure.
@Cougarqueen10 жыл бұрын
Omg I'm sorry but I feel sorry for Steve... He goes on the show and he can't even talk
@marcusmelton22956 жыл бұрын
Paula Pinto-Ohlson its mainly the host, she's so quick to say something.
@jennie20able5 жыл бұрын
Lol
@francescamuddaris612110 жыл бұрын
Of course looks matter!
@bishopmaster17068 жыл бұрын
So lets fuck then, we both are good lucking!
@King123-r1u4 жыл бұрын
Looks matter to women to
@lanesansom92094 жыл бұрын
Yeah I'm sorry but if I don't think a girl is pretty I just wont talk to them
@leviackerman-nq9vk4 жыл бұрын
That's the only thing matters
@ericrood41003 жыл бұрын
I guess to each their own. But if someone fails to present themselves attractively, then they can expect to attract someone with the same mindset. If a person decides that he does not need to dress nice or take showers because he has such a "wonderful" personality, then he can expect to attract a woman who is the same way.
@lucretiatucker456010 жыл бұрын
That guy IS ABSOLUTELY RIGHT!!!!!!! Lol I'm a woman but at first ESPECIALLY MEN have to be attracted. They are physically beings much more so than us. It just is!!!!! Women need to get a clue. It is so funny we want to know how men think, then once we hear it we're like NOOO!!!! Yeah right! Get outta here lol
@fauxpaux52394 жыл бұрын
So those who are no up to their standard of good looking will normally be not given a first chance. Think about it ,if a person was good looking but their face was ruined in a car accident ,i bet that person wont be attracted to him or her anymore . One day, if all the good looking people had their face ruined, their boyfriend or girlfriend would break up with them because of the MUCH emphasis on looks ? What a stupid world we live in
@danxikak21154 жыл бұрын
@@fauxpaux5239 exactly.that is on point.
@Yalonda2410 жыл бұрын
hes so right!!
@fraddi6 жыл бұрын
Most of the women in that audience spent like 3 hours on their face and clothes and yet they say looks dont matter.
@King123-r1u4 жыл бұрын
Look matter to women and men who need a ugly partner
@CuteBrunette19929 жыл бұрын
he is so right omg... people are delusional ! its looks first and personality keeps you together
@nightlight39905 жыл бұрын
The guy is right, people get attracted to physical appearance first, then comes after that is the personality
@sarithajagajith65682 жыл бұрын
Yes but that's only attraction. That's not love. Love is when you like the person or soul. Not their looks.
@currycel470 Жыл бұрын
@@sarithajagajith6568 living in fantasy? Do you know there is nothing such as soul?
@Jezabel-in-Hell8 жыл бұрын
LOL at the women in the audience shaking their heads like, oh...nuh uh....my man doesn't like me for my looks. wtf
@ZYaKnoe24910 жыл бұрын
Steve killed that crowded. I knew it was going to one sided as it usually is in all female crowds. The truth hurts, alot of woman just want to hear what they wanna hear and want someone to kiss their ass. People like Steve and Tariq Nasheed tell the truth when it comes to relationships.
@christianorosales10 жыл бұрын
the dude is right
@pokeyourpoke33988 жыл бұрын
Every one is sooo politically correct all the time. But the dude is right. All those women trying to be 'better' than 'normal people'.... Please, I hate people that lie to themselves. It's like those questions; would you lie to the police- or give your life for a friend? NO YOU WOULD NOT!!! But everybody all acting high and mighty..... Haha
@Zakariya035 жыл бұрын
victoria Sunshine pretending the perfection
@callmeb7933 жыл бұрын
Facts
@bettymekonnen22319 жыл бұрын
he is being honest and it is true
@kundaimasunda52937 жыл бұрын
in a way he is telling the truth. sexual attraction in a relationship is important although personality is more important. But look at it this way in order to have a relationship with someone you have to picture yourself being intimate with them
@futurehotchickin200910 жыл бұрын
I HATE to admit it as a woman, but Steve is right....I mean, look at Nicole...she was married to a comedian, so OF COURSE she would say personality (not like Eddy is bad looking), and Nicole has a beautiful personality & everything, but notice that Eddy & her now fiancé are marrying Nicole, and GORGEOUS ass woman WITH personality, not an ugly woman w/ a personality. All in all, BOTH are right....you need BOTH #JustSayin
@Signedthesavvyexpat10 жыл бұрын
Sorry, Steve makes good points. But since he is in a room full of emotional women he comes across as a jerk.
@sweetheart0378 жыл бұрын
The dude was right!! He was talking about what INITIALLY attracts a person to someone. If you've never heard that someone speak, then how can you feel their energy or know about their personality? It IS the looks that initially attracts people. If a not so attractive person is starring at you from across the room, most women are like "Ew", but if a nice looking man stares, they most likely smile back.
@hurlentropy68663 жыл бұрын
Correct. I am the ugly male who often gets a grimacing expression in return every time I make eye contact.
@explosivebest37034 жыл бұрын
FYI women, for men, looks are the MOST important attribute that we look for first. Having a great personality can come later, but looks matter.
@eddiew23254 жыл бұрын
WRONG looks are important but so is physical attractiveness
@VienVie110 жыл бұрын
I totally and unashamedly agree, looks are important, not the end all be all but definitely a factor. Some people's personality just isn't enough for them to escape the 'friend zone'. It doesn't mean your superficial or haven't dated someone you deemed 'not good looking', but at least be honest. Attraction is a personal opinion of what characteristics you find appealing.
@Carissa99Xo10 жыл бұрын
I think people understand the word "matter" differently. Yes, you do approach people you find physically attracted, but you're not going to get interested in them and keep talking to them if they don't have the personality. A guy with good looks with no personality isn't going to make you stay, but a guy with a good personality and just okay looks is a keeper. So in that sense looks are not the thing that matters, even if they play a part in the beginning of the process of getting to know other people.
@rgchrono5 жыл бұрын
Well..technically..to a lot of women "ok" looking may not be enough, to a lot of women just being "cute" is enough. And btw! women tend not to find a lot of guys "cute" enough. On an online dating survey, most women found 85% of men in the site to be unattractive. That is huge! you might say that online surveys do not count? but it is in the online world where both men and women can be honest and answer a survey truthfully. In my experience, being a 6/10 in a woman's eyes is enough for a man to get a date...yet! for a lot of women I came across I wasn't even a 6/10 in their eyes, reason why I was single for a long time. I was nice and a good person to them, but my looks kept me in the "just a friend" zone. In my experience, looks are a major big thing that get woman to notice a man. Character keeps a man inside a woman's personal life, but if the "looks" isn't there then the man is only good enough to keep as a friend, not a "dating option."
@hurlentropy68663 жыл бұрын
You are generally given the benefit of the doubt when physical affinity is strong. It skews the perception of all traits in the positive direction and often negates negative traits. If you reside at the absolute max position on the scale of attraction, negative traits are generally less depreciated relative to someone who resides at the absolute minimum position. The receptivity to personality changes as a function of looks. Therefore, they are NOT mutually exclusive but rather work together to create a positive feedback loop (chemistry).
@jeanalegado33776 жыл бұрын
They’re not even letting him prove his point with them cutting him off
@lajellybeans3 жыл бұрын
I dated a guy who I was not physically attracted to at all, but I really liked his personality and at the time I was desperate for love. It wasn’t worth it...I felt that eventually I’d get attracted to him and would enjoy being intimate with him, but I never did. So I broke up with him 🤷🏻♀️ don’t let anyone guilt trip you into getting in a relationship with someone who you don’t find attractive just because they are nice to you. You NEVER own someone a date. Ever
@edwin52897 жыл бұрын
I always have this argument with my female friends! Because I don't think you look at a person that is unattractive and think "omg he is so ugly!!! But I bet he has a great personality! " that's bullshit!!! If a person is ugly you will judge them by their looks before you judge them by their personality.
@hurlentropy68663 жыл бұрын
Exactly! Tinder is proof of such behavior....They will say "aww, he looks so nice". A week later...."man this guy is an asshole". Clearly, most women are seeking men who yield the most options, which reinforces their behavior..... Personality is an illusion that is distorted by the external expression and ego. Since the gap in attraction is spreading further apart, it will only get worst and more men will be deemed unattractive...
@kujas5 жыл бұрын
steve is right on this most of the women on this show are fakers, even the one who is married for 25 years just confirmed it. When I first met my husband he was "gorgeous" thank god he has a personality to go with it. So essentially she just said she was attracted to him by his appearance.
@rgchrono5 жыл бұрын
WELCOME! to the world of hypocrisy of women's opinions. I once remember that the first teacher's aid I had my first years of teaching, I am a special education teacher, and we were talking about relationships and the hardships of it. I decided to state something I feel is true about women and how they pick their partners, and my belief is that women pick men based on looks and how attractive a particular man is in their eyes. She then tried to debate me and stated how "looks" didn't mattered and how it was about "Confidence." One day she stated how she was happy that her husband was fit and thin. And how it was a very important expectation of hers, a preference, and very important for her in the past that the men she was selecting be thin and slim. Due to her not finding "fat" attractive at all. Talk about hypocrisy? And yet...she would point out how looks didn't mattered and it was all about "confidence" ??? -_- Fucking confusing there! imagine if a man states a thing like that?? He gets attacked and insulted by women....-_-
@SirBrucie5 жыл бұрын
@@rgchrono They will never admit reality until it hits them.
@hurlentropy68663 жыл бұрын
Appreciate the honesty.
@acaciamagee486610 жыл бұрын
I agree a hundred percent with Steve if I'm not attracted to you even a little bit then im not going to walk up to you and try to talk to you on that type of level. Now well looks keep a man no, but they definitely will get one.
@rjbatz26236 жыл бұрын
Acacia Magee respect keeps one, and making a women feel wanted will keep her.
@highgradechub10 жыл бұрын
the first thing ppl see male or female is someones looks.....that's simply what the guy is saying ...if someone has a great personality u would not know until u talk to them.
@tinambok88084 жыл бұрын
I'm just going to say when I see someone good looking I'm instantly attracted if I find out they have a crap personality then I move on but what I mean is that I don't date based only on looks buuuttt they are the first impression and kinds matter
@makeupmina38007 жыл бұрын
I agree with the guy. No one is going to be with someone they don't find attractive. Sure they may not be "attractive" to other people, as long as they are attractive to you, with whatever makes them attractive, their personality, smarts, or whatever. You just can't be with someone who you aren't attracted to. Idc.
@jlprescott72435 жыл бұрын
He is absolutely correct. Cheers!
@caryisme10 жыл бұрын
I do think that personality is so important and becomes a lot more important down the line but the first time you meet someone, you are more than likely going to approach them because you are physically attracted to them. I've always said that looks is what draws you in but personality is what keeps you. You can meet the hottest guy but then that attractiveness goes way down when he speaks because he is a douche. The opposite can also happen. You may not be physically attracted to someone at first but once you get to know them and find out their personality they can start to be good looking in your eyes. It's happened to me where I began to see someone in a different light after I got to know him and know his personality in both of the situations I just described. It is like someone commented below, in a relationship you need both. You need the physical attractiveness in order to have the physical connection a relationship needs but you also need to be in love with their personality for the emotional connection that a relationship also needs
@abigailjimenez21487 жыл бұрын
Men and women want some one visually attractive stop lying.
@kimberlytsan37266 жыл бұрын
I don't think it's shallow to say that you're attracted to somebody's good looks. That's just human nature and we're always going to be attracted to people whose appearance appeals to us...no need to pretend like good looks don't matter. It's only shallow if you judge somebody and treat them based on how they look with no regards to who they actually are.
@undertaker11ism4 жыл бұрын
Kimberly Tsan Everyone judges eachother based on looks so i guess humans are shallow in general
@sarithajagajith65682 жыл бұрын
Yeah but it is only attraction. In love, looks doesn't matter.
@pRINCESSnARUE6 жыл бұрын
Here’s the thing with personality approach is that it will work when people are already familiar with each other. It could be a coworker or friend who you see daily. People that have an established platonic relationship in which personality is the driving force of daily interactions. On the other hand, physical attraction plays a key part when someone is cruising around. Your looking for someone to get your attention. Overall, a relationship based on personality or emphasizes on it usually involve people that already get along despite looks. For most, physical attraction occurs when people are looking for their “fish” you have to pick one that stands out to YOU.
@FloppaTheBased6 ай бұрын
if you're rich, she wants your money if you have great personality, she wants to be your friend if you're attractive, she wants you
@Blodia19904 жыл бұрын
One of my best friend is insanely handsome, dresses fantastically well and looks like a movie star. He can't seem to step outside of his house without women, from all kinds, throwing themselves at his awesome personality that they seem to deduced he possesses without speaking a word.
@hurlentropy68663 жыл бұрын
it's insane because women are attractive to very few men (rate most men as unattractive on a relative scale).....Once a male reaches the upper tier, you notice a majority of women acting way outside the ordinary realm of behavior.
@Sourpatchmel10 жыл бұрын
Can we just talk about how amazing that dress looks on Bethenny!
@poohspaws89767 жыл бұрын
I mean, seriously!!!! She is owning that dress!
@IrishHooligan864 жыл бұрын
No !
@HeeAroo5 жыл бұрын
Looks matter so much, people lie that it doesn't matter to preserve a good image and feel good about themselves.
@SuelyPio8 жыл бұрын
Agree with him. Definitely
@Bgirl29110 жыл бұрын
A lot of hypocrisy here of course personality and confidence are important under the first initial condition that you are attracted to them first other wise they are in the friend zone asap
@annreba10 жыл бұрын
love him - he knows.
@fightfannerd20784 жыл бұрын
for women it's money & personality Looks also help big time it's not the main main thing but yeah good looks help create more healthy kids aka more babies for men it's looks & personality.... mostly looks
@paulbarnes94904 жыл бұрын
Looks will always matter.
@kevinwilson33374 жыл бұрын
Very true , I can’t understand why we’re still debating this in 2020
@angelainyt4 жыл бұрын
Looks do matter! Do not choose your true love based only on their good personality. Because, if you do, you will cheat on them with someone who is easy on the eyes! So therefore, looks are just as important as personality! --You will not fully, completely be in love with someone if you chose them solely for their great personality!
@PrettyInez10 жыл бұрын
I like a guy that's attractive but looks definitely go because if he don't have a personality then you boring and we really have nothing in common..
@ncktyu10 жыл бұрын
Doesn't matter.
@reenageene309 жыл бұрын
nick ty Many teens are that way, but not all, same with adults. Looks are more about taking care of yourself, inside and out. I have met many guys that would not be considered the hottest, but they take care of themselves, inside and out, and that confidence glows and ones feel comfortable around them. My brother is not the hottest, but he does all of the above, and he is always surrounded by gals for his ways are attractive and it is a confident, at ease, natural type of confidence. Real life is not about sex. There are way more important things, and if you focus on the important things, including developing all aspects of yourself and how you treat people, you will attract someone that is real and has depth. How old are you? Are your parents not teaching you to value yourself, and develop your talents and skills and interacting with people on levels that ones are attracted to?
@ncktyu9 жыл бұрын
Reena Geene I don't have the time .
@reenageene309 жыл бұрын
From your other comment, about you wanting to exterminate the human race, you better take the time for you have real serious issues of self hate projecting in very illogical, destructive desire that is very high risk. Your ability to choose how you craft your self, is very deviated.
@archravenineteenseventeen4 жыл бұрын
^ look around you. You will realize he's right
@dubrider4 жыл бұрын
People really think looks don’t matter 😭😭. It’s possible to get the looks and the personality.
@theultranationalist4 жыл бұрын
i agree with the guy 100%. how are you gonna walk up to someone without feeling attracted to them? looks always matter.
@KayNovember263 жыл бұрын
I got fat-fished by a guy! Chatted for a couple of weeks, exchanged pictures etc. Then we met up. He was at least 100 pounds heavier than he claimed to be (old pictures) and completely out of breath walking up a flight of stairs to the restaurant. Just could not so it! No physical attraction from my side. I stated clearly that I needed an active and healthy partner as I thrive on outdoor activities. Why do people set themselves up for disaster?
@Solja8810 жыл бұрын
I'm a plus size woman and I support the guy %100. A person can have great personality, but I wouldn't know until I speak to them, and i'll only speak to you if I like the way you look. You don't have to be George Clooney, just look like you take care of yourself.
@Braselton212 жыл бұрын
1:28 "He was magnificent when I met him" She just proved his point Lol
@shreyamalhotra372410 жыл бұрын
I honestly have never met someone that looks didn't matter at all. Physical attraction is the first instinct that people pay attention to
@ahmedismail69164 жыл бұрын
Pretty Privilege is real. That is NOT to say that looks are everything or that everything can be discarded for looks, but as a matter of fact, looks *DO* matter...and today in the Instagram era where everybody is trying to look beautiful, looks matter more than any time before. Let's face it, the first thing we see about people is their faces, and it's the easiest thing to evaluate. We treat good-looking people better, and we think they're funnier, smarter, kinder, etc. The prettier you're, the higher your chances of getting hired, promoted, paid higher, etc.
@wafiqessop40342 жыл бұрын
fax Look matter so does personality. They are not mutually exclusive.
@penlavits33052 жыл бұрын
A lot of truth in what this man is saying. Guys see looks first, before they can see your personality vice versa for women.
@leelar.30106 жыл бұрын
I am a woman and the guy is right. If a man approaches you or you find someone attractive before you even speak to them it's because he or you SAW something that was attractive. You cannot know someone's personality off the bat. Ladies; has any man ever walked up to you as a first time seeing you and say " hey baby I like your personality". NO! He refers to something he saw..maybe your eyes as they're usually the safest bet or your overall attractiveness....and let's not get it twisted...women like to be complemented on how they look....double standards....
@g.l.shamir26299 жыл бұрын
Steve as always is Right
@user-ib5cs7pt1x6 жыл бұрын
What the guy said was partially true. I mean, what we see first is the physical aspect of a person. You can't see a great personality by sight.
@michellesantos91444 жыл бұрын
These women are only hearing what they want to hear. They are on the defense and not understanding what he is saying. He’s not saying a woman has to be the best looming or a beauty queen, and he is not saying looks are more important than personality. He is saying men approach women they find physically attractive then get to know the personality. If the woman is beautiful on the outside with a bad personality, then her looks don’t matter at that point and he is not interested. I have had men approach me who weren’t all that good looking but their personality made me see them differently and I was attracted to him physically. It is natural to want to be with someone you find physically attracted to. My ex husband chased me for months but I wasn’t physically attracted to him. He wasn’t ugly but his looks didn’t win me over. The more I got to know him the cuter he became. I’ve also met men I’ve been really physically attracted to but their personality made me unnatracted to them.
@eddiew23254 жыл бұрын
im gonna be honest with you Dr Santos. Looks are pretty important but what matters more is physical attractiveness
@IHateEverythingInIife5 жыл бұрын
Yup looks matter and personality
@GGG-hh5jo4 жыл бұрын
Personality is useless crap Please deleted Personality
@aalihte33787 жыл бұрын
one thing i've figured out now that i'm "middle aged" is..duuuude, women are sooo insecure. So much so that we lie to ourselves and each other. I mean you don't have to be a model..not at all. it IS possible for either gender to EVENTUALLY fall for the personality but..presentation comes 1st. An average (lets say true curvy like 15-30 lbs over an "IDEAL" cameron diaz BMI) woman who dresses stylish (not outlandish or trashy), with self confidence and a kind spirit, a sense of humor and positive outlook...will win the dating game 99.9% of the time. Like any guy she wants type of win. Ladies..there's no need to make everything so difficult. be you. love you. take care of you and don't be so self absorbed and accusatory. ............just my 2 cents.
@nmazer4 жыл бұрын
He's honest and they are liars. He's 100 percent right.
@ItsKryptick7 жыл бұрын
They just rip into this poor man
@juanitathompson67528 жыл бұрын
I completely agree with him.
@Hugulubugulu3 жыл бұрын
This is true for majority of people. Personality isnt physical and tangible, so appearance gets to people first
@hoop4ah2310 жыл бұрын
Physical attraction is a make or break for us men.. no questions asked. Women can build an attraction to a man based on his actions/personality/treatment of her.. Steve was basing all interaction between men/women on a bar set-up, but most women have met their husbands through friends, at their job, school, church, etc.. These environments give you time to make up your mind about how they feel about him. Also, I hate how no one ever comes to an agreement on anything on this show! It's like Congress, sheesh lol
@mysticstrikeforce59576 жыл бұрын
Its always looks cause then everyone would be easy to fall in love.
@trailerkeller67605 жыл бұрын
The honest raw hard truth is “Yes looks do matter” I’m sorry people but that’s the way it is. At least for men. I don’t think it goes to much with women as men. But then again I’m a man so I wouldn’t know.
@mvttx98514 жыл бұрын
Valeriy Keller it’s ACTUALLY the complete opposite
@kevinwilson33374 жыл бұрын
MVTT X yep it is. Most guys will settle but women don’t
@johnterry29294 жыл бұрын
The white lady said it herself without even knowing! Looks matter initially
@kevinwilson33374 жыл бұрын
Yep , it’s his looks
@Jazzmynnnn2 жыл бұрын
Lmao the fact that their going back and forth with him is ridiculous. Even animals judge appearance 😂
@michellejolliffe33968 жыл бұрын
I think we all want to believe were the personality people but he's right, looks matter :(
@shaunciequinones50778 жыл бұрын
There's a difference between being good looking and being attractive. Looks are nice and all, but that's not what preserves a relationship in the long run
@hurlentropy68663 жыл бұрын
True, but strong physical affinity gives the benefit of the doubt. It tends to lessen with age. Looks and personality are NOT mutually exclusive---meaning they both work together in tandem to create a positive feedback loop (reward system)
@GSE14803 жыл бұрын
Trust me ...looks is first thing to women then the other stuff will be attractive to them after that..Men always have to live in pain that is the reality off this life
@missmimi68173 жыл бұрын
Looks matter 90% personality is 50%
@stjackso177 жыл бұрын
These ladies are full of it. I have heard many and many stories and seen it time and time again when a chic picks a good looking bad ass over a good guy with a great personality. Good energy and personality equals friend zone. These chicks need to stop lying.
@jaimevama10 жыл бұрын
Look are VERY important. What is wrong is to assume that everybody has the same ideal of beauty. There is someone out there for everybody. I have a friend who only digs bald women.
@Dancediva2405 жыл бұрын
Some bald women are gorgeous.
@YourName7179 жыл бұрын
I've gotta say... I'm a 100% with the guy!
@shot18973 жыл бұрын
I agree with the dude as a teenager in high school it definitely matters for BOTH genders. Guys and girls do care about how attractive someone is, its such an important factor it gives you such an advantage, you sre more likely to get a better love life, get a strong circle of friends and to be respected, unfortunately people are not born with attractive amazing genes, life is depressing being an ugly person :(((
@KayNovember263 жыл бұрын
You can still make the most of what you have! Maybe you have nice hair? Or good skin? Just keep clean, keep in shape and the magic will happen! I'm average looking but stay in good physical shape. I can keep a conversation going, have great General knowledge and know how to crack a joke. Never had any issues. Just hang in there!
@ericrood41003 жыл бұрын
The guy is absolutely correct. Everything is connected. And attraction is not a choice.
@KayNovember263 жыл бұрын
Yes, absolutely agreed! There has to be SOMETHING to a person that attracts another. Not everyone is drop dead gorgeous or sizzling hot BUT you can keep in shape, keep clean and work on your personality. If you look good, you feel good! You gotta have some game...
@NoName-cd3xj3 жыл бұрын
I have a female friend that is really out of the ordinary.She said to me that all people want the truth until the moment you tell them.
@KayNovember263 жыл бұрын
True.
@invader_whoa39196 жыл бұрын
I think all people are just people, they are not ugly they are pretty, I just feel like they are people, love is not based on looks or how *u* look.
@veronicachristopher93215 жыл бұрын
A man who’s rocking the beautiful chick was initially attracted to her physically. The rest fell into place. The man rocking the average or ugly woman, got her out of friendship & fell for the personality. But he wouldn’t have approached her in a bar. Or....there weren’t many options. Women have more, better options. Also the misconception that us hot women don’t have good personalities or brains is ridiculous. A 10 can have the full package. Let men like what they like. Stop forcing everyone to think you’re hot when you’re not. Don’t redefine what is out of political correctness 😉✌🏼🙌🏼 P.S.- hot women actually are far from insecure. Sick of that excuse. Their lives are funner and they see all the attention. We also understand the shit talk (sluts, “eat a burger”, and so on). Our personalities are bigger hence all the attention we receive. Showing skin is actually confidence. Other women just misinterpret it. It takes balls to show so much. Insecurity hides or is loud- there’s no inbetween. #Facts
@soapqueen20087 жыл бұрын
I will say this looks are important but so is the brains
@mimicrybypravesh4 жыл бұрын
Looks are absolutely important (Although there are other factors too). Only the comments in KZbin are honest, Quora sucks.
@kevinwilson33374 жыл бұрын
Agreed
@lenaw.52275 жыл бұрын
I didn't find my ex attractive when we first met. Only after the third time we hung out. It became more after we knew each other better
@lenaw.52275 жыл бұрын
I do think that looks matter though. Just not as much
@hurlentropy68663 жыл бұрын
Attraction is NOT so black and white. A hetero woman would not become infatuated by another feminine looking woman or feminine looking man who displays a manly persona. If a male exhibits sufficient masculine characteristics, then there should be some degree of attraction. It would certainly be greater than the scenario that I outlined. The reward system must be sufficiently receptive, which means a positive feedback loop (interplay between looks AND personality) needs to be intense enough to initiate chemistry. Clearly, you had some attraction but it wasn't on the upper end of your range. Looks and personality are NOT mutually exclusive and should not be treated as separate because they work together to fuel interest... The personality maintains the spark that initially ignited the fire.
@xox1028 жыл бұрын
Energy+confidence will get that person attention but the looks will let the others take further actions. Energy +confidence only will get you be in the friend zone. And also looks depend on individual too. You might find that person ugly as **** but other people might be attracted to that "ugliness"
@tashawilliams80932 жыл бұрын
It's okay to be with someone you find attractive but to me it's what's on the inside and in the brain.
@Lc-gm1og4 жыл бұрын
Remember we are talking about two different sex here most women are attracted to a man personally, sense of humor and financial status those things attract a woman more than a man looks as a matter of fact most women don't care about looks as long as he has at least one of the qualities mentioned above. For men it's different a woman personally can attract a man as Bethenny said you might in a room a meeting or seminar and a woman display some characteristics that impresses you but as a man the physical has to match our taste.
@SachinDabral943 жыл бұрын
All women knew that he was right but no one accepted it.
@AlexLoskutov6665 жыл бұрын
For men, beauty/looks is the most important thing (and that's why the guy says it's the most important thing), men love with their eyes. Women in the video said that personality and confidence is the most important thing, and it is true, because women love with their ears.
@amasion28825 жыл бұрын
Alex Loskutov : Looks matter to women, too. I think the biggest difference is that women are looking for more than looks.
@kevinwilson33374 жыл бұрын
If you don’t pass a woman’s looks threshold it’s over for you .
@hurlentropy68663 жыл бұрын
The perception of confidence is distorted based on the strength of physical affinity. Personality is an illusion....
@mileovereducation70853 жыл бұрын
BEAUTY IS NOT ABOUT LOOKS!!! Honestly however if your immature then problem is with your brain. If your looking for a meaningful relationship then beauty is also a criteria but not the only criteria. Like if I find a boy with good work ethics, good personality, strong morals, spiritual, mature and understanding then I'll groomnap him😅
@RickyRegal.4 жыл бұрын
I mean honeslty in my opinion looks do matter why the hell would you date a women/guy who you don't find attractive, you have to date someone that you are actually attracted to.
@stashar.45358 жыл бұрын
I feel like both are important but Personality and the way a person carries themself and treats you is definitely more important. The guy I was seeing when we first meant and I looked at him up close and in person, I didn't "Picture myself making out with him", I couldn't even visualize that Until I fell for his personality and ways first. I think maybe because he (The guy on stage) is a man and by nature, men are more visual than women that's why he has that perspective. But I agree with the woman in the audience, if looks were most important than there would be zero couples that make it to there 30th, 40th, 50th, and beyond anniversary because looks WILL FADE with time, and when they do you must still have something the person that you are with likes. Therefore the perception that looks are most important is incorrect in my opinion.
@leolee45495 жыл бұрын
Totally agree and very objective.We will all grow older and so called "ugly",and if looks really matter so much,does it mean that all marriage would doom sooner or later?I think beauty has so many dimensions,a wise and reasonable person should know how to appreciate different types of beauty(beauty of heart,brain and intelligence and so on), shallow people only see looks,and their marriage is not going to do well because we are all growing old and 'ugly'
@hurlentropy68663 жыл бұрын
Women are far more receptive to facial features such as eyes, smile, and hair. Men are more receptive to body shape. Men often find a large proportion of women attractive whereas women often find very few men physically appealing. I think looks and personality work together in tandem (NOT mutually exclusive) to create a positive feedback loop (AKA chemistry). Most people associate these as separate attributes. Physical affinity is a catalyst that spurs interest or receptivity to all other traits. Hence, why a hetero woman is not receptive to a feminine looking woman who acts masculine. Personality maintains the fire that was initiated by a spark (initial attraction).
@Mehrunissah9310 жыл бұрын
The BIG part people miss is the word "love." Looks can get my attention or draw me to someone, but that in no way means I love them. I don't think anyone in his or her right mature mind will say they love a person due to their looks. I may love an ugly or average person because he stayed with me while I was in the hospital or always remembers my birthday. Looks don't mean you care about me.
@Dancediva2405 жыл бұрын
I may love an ugly or average person because he stayed with me while I was in the hospital or always remembers my birthday. Is that really love or just gratitude??
@juliet66305 жыл бұрын
why is it okay to say that if you don't have a great personality you're not that attractive, but it's wrong to say that if you're ugly you're not that attractive? you can actually change the way you look by taking care of your body, but what about people who have no confidence, people who suffer from personality disorders, anxiety or depression, why is it okay to say that they are unattractive?
@leelulove2410 жыл бұрын
i was attraction to my childs father because his personality and looks arent everything because it doesnt last