Do Narcissists Know They’re Narcissists? The Truth Revealed!

[@Lultschful]

I've heard it so many times from my father, whenever I'd point out a behavior he has it's "And what about you?" and when I'd tell him the pain he's caused me "Oh you think I'm not suffering too?" He's 78, now and I have zero hope of him changing, as senility is making his behavior even worse. Just waiting for him to die, at this point. As callous as it may sound. He's not happy, anyway, he drew every relative away except me and he's profoundly lonely.

[@DrDanielFox]

It sounds like you’re carrying a heavy burden. It’s tough to watch a loved one struggle and feel trapped in a cycle of pain. Remember to take care of yourself, too.

[@Lultschful]

@@DrDanielFox Tryin'. Thank you, Doc :)

[@joyshipley706]

I think when their behaviour is pointed out to them inside they probably know but will defend or project it back 🥴

[@DrDanielFox]

You bring up a great point! Many people do have an inner awareness of their behavior, but it can be tough for them to accept it openly.

[@joyshipley706]

@@DrDanielFox which once again goes back to the shame, lack of openly doing self awareness and excuse finding to defend their behaviour 🙂‍↕️

[@albwilso9]

They are liars too! I know a guy who was that way, because his parents accepted his lies so much, that he learned in childhood/adolescence that his lies were successful, and he could get away with anything with his lies!!! He saw nothing wrong with his lies!!

[@rkn2800]

My 2 eldest brothers demonstrate lots of narcissism and my mom fostered it. Boundaries don’t exist with her relative to them. She had been their enabler and would never scold them for any reason at all, even when they took her bank card and spent her money, did drugs at home, started fights with people at our home. She would never raise her voice with them, but the rest of us kids (7 of us altogether)? She would get on her Holier-than-thou righteous-indignation soap box, and the ʻhow dare you betray me’ with us. As I got older I let her have it out of resentment over years of that behavior and never let her raise her voice at me or treat me different from them ever again. Even let the 2 have as well. They felt shame for being called out, not for their behavior. So, I think that adult narcissists have enablers around them, such as their mom or others, who foster their bad behavior.

[@Yamikaiba123]

Your metaphors are hilarious and accurate.

[@DrDanielFox]

I'm so glad this video was helpful for you. I wish you well.

[@NightOwlGames]

they know they been playing psychological games since day 1! every day was fake even the good times were just for show to keep you right where they want you they literally plan how to upset you, when you figure out they playing with you and you stop reacting to their bs now you dont care about them your accused of cheating its a never ending battle! they start a fire then complain about the smoke like its someone elses fault giving us the illusion that they dont see their own actions that brings us to this situation dont start a fire if you cant handle the heat!

[@DrDanielFox]

Thank you for sharing your insights!

[@bogdanlazar3278]

Hope you have a nice rest of the day. It's really pleasant seeing you in videos :) Thank you

[@ooolrait]

It so crazy to be able to learn these things for free. Helping out with a like button smash on every video. Thank you, Sir, and greetings from Scandinavia.

[@DrDanielFox]

Thank you for your support! I’m glad you’re finding value in the videos. Greetings to you in Scandinavia!

[@katieg7679]

I think, ironically, acknowledging your own narcissism would show some ego strength and would be a sign that someone is healing from narcissism.

[@rustyshackleford6637]

That's why it's so difficult. That fall from pride will hurt too much for one of these.

[@albwilso9]

It appears to me that narcissists don’t “shed it “ when they grow up, is (at least) that their parents encourage them to be that way, e.g., Their parents tell them “don’t be a sucker”, don’t let people win” , “you are always right” “ people who tell you , you are wrong, are wrong and they are traitors “!!!!

[@shahilagh]

Thank you. I think they have been told. But many don’t care to want to bother about the opinion of people who are affected . Plus humans are great in convincing themselves …..

[@DrDanielFox]

You make a valid point! It's true that many people tend to ignore the opinions of those directly impacted. It's all about raising awareness and encouraging empathy.

[@Max1power]

I mean, some of us pwNPD do.

[@Tempest-cyclone]

Certainly! It may be harder for individuals who struggle with a distorted self-image and tend to subconsciously use denial as a coping mechanism may have a harder time seeing that, but what people forget is that this is a *coping mechanism.* It can be managed and improve with deduction. Everyone is capable of self-awareness, no matter who they are or what they have/don't have. As humans, we are all capable of making our own choices and learning to control our reactions. I do not personally have narcissistic personality disorder, but I have met and lived with someone who does. I know that people like this are capable of empathy. A disorder is something you *have,* not *are.* In that case, what you do with it is up to you. A lot of people seem to overlook that.

[@Max1power]

@@Tempest-cyclone This was a very thoughtful and nuanced response; thank you.

[@Tempest-cyclone]

@@Max1power Of course. 😊

[@trollpenguin6713]

I think i have friend with NPD, but she do acknowledge her flaw, i.e. she said: sorry i am bad at checking DM's

[@samparker2219]

Can I have help please. I’ve had problems my whole life being anti social and violent never went to school been in and out of prison bad relationships. I’m 29 year old male and recently diagnosed with bpd but it was a quick diagnosis. But I have no empathy or remorse for anything I’ve done and I don’t understand people emotions at all somebody could cry in front of me and I don’t care they could even tell me there mother just died and I couldn’t care less I’m very anti social and hate everybody I have no desire to talk to anybody and just want the world to leave me alone. Do I have bpd or a different disorder or do I have bpd and something else ? I’ve done some nasty things in my life and feel nothing no empathy no remorse but the doctor said it’s bpd but from watching videos people with bpd have remorse and guilt I feel no guilt or remorse for anyone or anything bad I’ve ever done I’m facing a court case for violence as we speak and i feel like i have to lie to pretend I care when in reality I couldn’t care at all no remorse. I also seen the psychiatrist today and they said I sound pycopaththic but I’m confused with the bdp diagnosis because I have server mood swings but as I said I have no remorse and I only ever feel anger and hatred towards people

[@DrDanielFox]

It sounds like you’re going through an incredibly tough time, and I encourage you to seek support from a mental health professional who can provide you with the guidance you need. Understanding your feelings and experiences is important, and talking to someone who can help make sense of it all could be really beneficial.

[@noturbo]

i always end up alone so something sure going on

[@ThePiscesNotOnly]

Literally, I have bpd & my brother is the extreme grandiose narcissist. Mother is covert narcissist. One time after going to trip with my family, in a quite complicated circumstances, my mother suddenly "treated me like her golden child" (which she only does that to my brother). It lasted for couple of hours in the plane until I separated from them. Within that time, I felt like the center was ON me. It's like the entire world is spinning around me. My perception/lens immediately shifted involuntarily because my mum projected like I am a queen. (Even though I shd be having bpd and know well about narcissist & bpd and I am hyper aware) . That was the FIRST ever time I feel like this in my entire life. I even felt like my narcissistic brother became small to me. (basically everyone)I remembered feeling my empathy shrinken😑It was like the care for other people is fading. After that, I feel shocked that how immediate and strong of the effect. This experience allows me to understand why my brother become an extreme narcissist. Before that, I don't even have a clue what it really feels like(I knew my mother liked my brother since childhood and could only see that my brother always asks for my mum's help but I never knew that was an entire different experience ). So basically narcissist living in an over cared environment, is involuntarily to change to become one. Seriously. That was quite scary to me. It felt like an entire different world. That's why they don't shed it. They don't even have a chance to do and it is no where similar to teens. The superiority and lens there are different. To describe, it felt like my mother's over caring projection PUSHED my lens to myself. Basically it did felt like a king or queen. Sometimes I am angry at my narcissistic brother.... but when I imagine he didn't ask for it...I feel soo damn sad. I really hope these never happened, my mother is not a narcissist. It really is very devastating. My self doubt and self gaslighting are really hard to dealt with. I am afraid I might be having narcissistic traits. The feeling of over justifying myself and needing somebody to listen to me feels like narcissistic. For example, my ex was a avoidant attachment style. He used to be always neglecting my needs even though I told him millions times. How do I know my reaction is legit or I have narcissistic bias that make me see him that way. Sorry the comment is so long. I really like the sentence "blaming others is not good either because it takes away any kind of efficacy that you need to change" I get used to blaming my family issues as an acknowledgement of the impact of what they did to me (even though that exist) but it seems it takes away my power to build a better situation.

[@Lultschful]

Son of a narcissist, here. The self doubt and self gaslighting... I don't know if I'd call that narcissism. I have that too, and a need for validation. I'm not going to analyze you and maybe I'm missing the mark, but it's likely more a sign of a wounded ego that's been beat up so much by your narcissistic parents that you don't really know who you are anymore, what's your worth,... A part of you craves a normal relationship that validates what's good in you, which you never get from a narcissistic parent. That probably links to how shocked you were at the effect of that brief moment of being treated like a queen felt. You've been craving that your whole life and for a short while, she gave it to you. So naturally it felt great while it lasted. I think the number one thing to do to detach yourself from a narcissist's influence is to really drill it into your mind that expecting them to have a normal relationship with you is never going to happen. I know Dr. Fox here says they can change, but the likelihood of that is cigarette paper-thin. First and foremost, you have to work on getting rid of the distorted self-image they imprinted on you. And accept that they may never give you the unconditional love you've always craved.

[@ThePiscesNotOnly]

@Lultschful thanks, mate...I got a little chill because it seems no one has ever tried to understand me actively and unconditionally... I cried on "a wounded ego that's been beaten up so much by your narcissistic parents that you don't really know who you are anymore, what's your worth"... I don't know how to articulate because that's hitting my heart... I abandoned myself 15 years ago... I have been no contact with my family the past year, and the hardest was getting rid of the distorted self-image ... I have been working on it and making progress... your words woke me up a little bit more indeed....

[@MrMarcoAlvarado]

My German grandfather showed me the places where he fought in WW2, and I saw the American flag in France and that was freedom but freedom was not for me. And I started to keep things for me and to lock them up. I was not difficult in that environment to build up some kind of dreamworld. I delveloped BPD later on... Could I have developed NPD? I think no!

[@celestialstar124]

Being aware plus willing to change can better manage ndp.

[@MelissaR784]

But what creates narrsasist personalities? Could being to hard on a child, expecting perfection or the flip side of being neglected be the cause?

[@Max1power]

In my case, a combination of alternating physical and emotional abuse/neglect and excessive praise for achievements/'bragworthy' characteristics from my parents.

[@chowell1451]

Basically were taught through experiences as a kid that having flaws is a sin, they need to be the best at whatever they’re doing. It’s not only parenting, outside influences also have a great impact on development, that’s y school is mandatory. They should teach this shit to high schoolers

[@taWay21]

No, they don't.

[@OriginalMariAnnaWolf]

Who knows creepypasta origins of Jason the toy maker think that he can be changed even tho creator said no way n got no empathy at all? Who think creator aint informed n Jason can actually change if do it right without triggering him? I wish to know the professionals opinion about it. To research all canon from Krisantyl n see if that man can actually change. His just lonely n want to be noticed as his parents neglected him. Atleast Amelia got him to full fill his dreams no matter his parents opinions. His parents really made him into dangerous perfectionists tho.. as creepypastas be yes yes.. but he got reasons n stuff! I really wanna see hope in ppl even if seem like there is no way..

[@DrDanielFox]

It's fascinating to dive into the complexities of Jason's character! Exploring his background and motivations can definitely shed light on whether change is possible for him. There’s always room for interpretation in storytelling!

[@djcmission]

spinach on my teeth. Paranoid PD.

[@lindaweedmark6025]

Thank you, so interesting

[@DrDanielFox]

I'm so glad this video was helpful for you. I wish you well.

[@ChathamCrows]

Fox sounds medicated.

[@DrDanielFox]

Interesting. I'm not

[@ChathamCrows]

@@DrDanielFox You sounded different than usual. People have assumed I'm high for similar reasons.

[@MelissaR784]

How so? His speech is fine. Articulate. On point.

[@djcmission]

@@DrDanielFox excited? that's what i almost always see from you, Dr, Fox, your enthusiasm. But I am used to talking to therapists. I just intimidated a therapist, much younger than myself. that's not unusual for me. Fortunately my Dr. Martina could tell you what a challenging patient I was. Her therapy is still working years later. I decided the new therapist may not be necessary after one session. I was high, but he did me some good anyway. I told him i was half-baked at the beginning. Honesty always works.

[@rustyshackleford6637]

My mother is a piece of trash

[@CanadianBear47]

cus its old, cus unsure of how to shed it, and its still useful. for abusers. i had a question about the emotion malevolence. why does it narrow. i find mushrooms helps to unnarrow tho why? why do narcissistic ppl wear sun glasses?

[@djcmission]

i use cannabis for my anxiety. oddly it treats my paranoia now too, but that's a chicken or egg problem. using benzodiazepines simultaneously is contraindicated--use only one or the other.

[@CanadianBear47]

@@djcmission i use cannabis as well tho id like to quit honestly and just do magic mushrooms and sober. and nicotine. tho also would like to quit.