Is Your Parent a SECRET Narcissist?

[@heyitsme5469]

You just described my mother to a T. And sadly my father and siblings are completely under her spell and enable all of the traits that you just mentioned. I was always the truth teller and rebelled against her control so she has targeted me and made me the scapegoat. Thankfully I started therapy a few years ago and as a result I have distanced myself from her and a couple of other family members and now her narrative is that she is the victim and I am a horrible person. There's no changing her. It's sad and I'm both angry and grieving the mother I needed but didn't get.

[@DrDanielFox]

I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through this. It's brave of you to recognize the situation and take steps to prioritize your well-being through therapy. Remember, your feelings are valid, and it's okay to grieve the relationship you wish you had.

[@JoleneValdovinos]

I started to go to psychological therapy because I started watching your videos ❤ Now that I am on therapy I am using your videos as a complementary information(Homework) because I like the way you explained something so complex as the human mind and especially the cluster B Personalities behaviors. Thank you so much for all that you do❤ is a life changing for me. I apologize for my grammar English is my 2nd language🙏

[@alchemicalsoul]

I watch these although I have a 19 year old. I have been able to apologize to my son for my behaviors as a mentally ill/personality disordered person. Parents, let your children know that you know. It will alleviate much of their emotional pain.

[@Rocklefebvre]

This is my mother in a nutshell. I wish I could show this to her without "hurting her feelings" and without having to hear her excuses to each point.

[@willemdaffo]

This is my mother to a T. She is so unpleasant to be around that she doesn’t have any friends but expects me and my wife to be her social outlet. I finally had to go no contact and it was the best decision I ever made. It’s been seven years and my life is so much better now. I didn’t understand narcissism then but there’s a lot more content about it now and these kinds of videos help me understand why I had to cut ties with her.

[@brigitte9999]

Most of us couldn’t even speak up let alone speak up for ourselves.

[@jackidezell3401]

Yes and now we over talk because we were never heard. Also, we focus on the negative because otherwise we would have died quite literally. We needed to always cue into threat.

[@zerobenae]

story of my life. It's extremely difficult to constantly try fighting for your own identity without trying to be controlled

[@Katie-v9q1t]

Thank you so much for all your amazing work. Videos like these keep me sane from the manipulation of my NPD mom

[@helahelena75]

This explains so much about my mom. And although it is helpful it also makes me sad for her. Thank you for another eye opening video ❤🙏

[@DrDanielFox]

Glad it was helpful!

[@7w4Term3lon]

This hits very close to home. My mother is a narcissist and my dad is her enabler/covert narcissist. My dad wasn't always like that actually he was more of an alcoholic. I never really noticed it until I was around 16 when I caught her cheating on my dad. That's kind of when I realized you don't have to die to feel like you're in hell. Her sisters, my cousins all think I'm this evil son. My dad for some reason turned into her purse carrier. It took her almost 25 years to apologize for cheating and not even 3 minutes she went back into crazy mode. God knows I try my ass off to not explode but everytime my dad chimes in man. I mean I know what she's doing I'm aware of it. And for the most part I do my best to avoid them but the holiday are around the corner. Any chance you could make a video about the effects of a narcissist mom and her son. I mean a lot of the stuff online is always about moms and daughters. Thanks Doc have a great day

[@DrDanielFox]

I'm really sorry to hear about your struggles. It's tough dealing with family dynamics like that, especially around the holidays. Your experience is important, and I appreciate you sharing it. I'll definitely consider making a video on the effects of a narcissistic mother on her son!

[@Adrolesien]

This is exactly how my mom is

[@karenrancourt6812]

This is so my parents. Thanks for posting this so much

[@DrDanielFox]

You’re welcome

[@roxy7255]

Thank you I have seen people who have been in long term relationships adopt this competitive one up/down way if relating. Most videos just portray the other person as a ‘victim’ unfortunately this unhealthy behaviours are catching and make the exposed non narcissist just as toxic and emotionally immature in some cases.

[@DrDanielFox]

You're absolutely right! It's important to recognize the complexities of relationships and how unhealthy dynamics can affect both parties. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

[@LiftingUrVeil-LUV]

I'm 43 and I moved in with my narcissistic mother cause I'm dealing with cancer and was in really bad shaoe. I've been going through therapy to heal my trauma and have gained more self awareness. I look at my mother and although she has been a big helping in my recovery she tries to be so manipulative with me. Now in 43 and she don't want me leaving out her house after 9 pm which I never go anywhere anyway cause can barely move at times but when the one time I left she complained so much about me being out al night disturbing her sleep . And I stay one night at friends house cause I go so sick and feel asleep that she was made I didn't tell her what time I was coming home. She says she is only like this cause she is concerned since I'm dealing with cancer. I don't even replay to her. I listen to what she says and I keep doing what I'm doing an talk it out at next therapy. But I don't feel shane or guilt because I trust myself that I do respect her house and what I did wasn't anything harmful and it's all about her issues with control

[@rosepepper6386]

Nice fox pillow, Dr. Fox

[@empyrein7720]

Do narcissistic parent stay like this forever ? I don’t want my mom to be like this forever , I want her to continue to be in my life and for us to be able to be happy but it always seems like i have to prepare to never talk to her again because she’s always threatening to leave me

[@katyakaterina5232]

Thank you!

[@fiona_blossoms1170]

I love Dr Fox as well! He’s great 😊 ❤ Stroke the ego like a pussy cat 🐈 😅

[@DrDanielFox]

I'm so glad this video was helpful for you. I wish you well.

[@badeugenecops4741]

It's no secret.

[@MademoiselleCl3]

Crap. I was wondering if my mom wasn't a bit narcissistic.. She's sometimes sweet and empathic, but at the same time when we talk it's all about her, her and her. Sure she's not fully narcissistic, but she got traits for sure

[@d.haskins3840]

Ty ty ty❤❤❤

[@DrDanielFox]

You’re welcome ☺️

[@parastoomojabi6341]

Is the observation the solution to handling such parents? Also, I have some insights that I want to share, coming from the Middle East but have lived in Sweden for some years now, when I compare the cultures I see that covert narcissism traits are more common in my culture than Swedish culture. In my culture, the child must take care of the parents since there is no good care system for it. So the guilt system is actually supposed to provide this care system. Just want to say maybe it is good to look at the bigger picture as well. Sometimes we get too hooked by the signs that forget why things are like this. I'm dealing with lots of guilt because of my culture. You cannot imagine. But labelling covert doesn't help the guilt that much.

[@DrDanielFox]

Thank you for sharing your insights! It's fascinating how cultural differences shape our experiences and perceptions. Understanding the bigger picture can indeed help in navigating complex family dynamics.

[@TerryGuzmanMartinez]

😢😢😞😞

[@DrDanielFox]

I'm so glad this video was helpful for you. I wish you well.

[@TerryGuzmanMartinez]

@DrDanielFox Yes, it is. Thanks a lot.

[@moonwhisperer4804]

Well. This explains me to a T. I am the narcissist. I bet you guys think our life is easy huh ? You wouldn’t even last 1 day in our shoes. Keep crying how your life is miserable because so and so is a narcissist boo hoo. No one cares. Maybe one day you will actually grow up how to handle real pressure.

[@ThiagoSFFranco]

First time I “was in love 😂” with a girl, I had to talk about that to someone, I went for my mother. She: “Oh!… well, it is… aahmmm… it happens, comes and goes, you’ll see…. WHY don’t you talk about with your Father ??? He is your best friend!!! You know…??? 🫥