Do's and Don'ts of Soccer Parenting

[@p0wderhound03]

awesome advice!! As a soccer dad and coach (not for my child) I completely agree with everything you said. i used to be that annoying parent because i didn't know better. It wasn't until i got an amazing coach mentor and took my US Soccer national D license course that i learned these lesson and actually saw the benefits first hand. This is truly the best advice any soccer parent could get to see the best development in their player!!

[@CoachRorySoccer]

Absolutely. Well said!

[@elindenstein]

When I coached U8 one of my players looked up at me and said "My mom said if she was wearing a different pair of shoes she would coach the team because she could do it better than you." That player was a pretty bad teammate around this time and made it clear she thought she was the best on the team and would kick water bottles if I took her out, ever. This was 4v4 and she was 7 years old. We had a talk that season about her behavior and why that was not being a good teammate. She has improved dramatically, but her Mom, has not. Her mom tries to start riling up other parents on the sidelines to revolt and has made it clear that they are done with the team after this fall season is over (U10, her daughter is 8), because we don't win enough, and I cannot wait for these two games to end so that I never have to deal with her again.

[@benwarz]

Anyone who acts like this would make for a terrible coach. It sucks you had to deal with this.

[@whatsleep17]

Great points. I like to tell my parents that they can always talk about things that have already happened (nice pass, good hustle, great try) and avoid telling anyone what they should do (shoot it, boot it, get back).

[@CoachRorySoccer]

100%

[@simonion6950]

Awesome video and some great bits of advice. I’m a U9 coach, and one of my pet peeves is parents telling players what to do. I’m sharing this in my parents WhatsApp group. Thank you

[@CoachRorySoccer]

Thank you!

[@MikeBaas]

you continue to be my hero

[@char3tek]

I missed the coaching deadline this year and I sure wish I would have watched this before the last few games 🤦

[@shakespearo]

Great video, I've been a coach 4 years to my son's team (currently U11s) - in my opinion giving any instructions from the sideline - other than very basic reminders - is at best a waste of effort and at worst totally counter-productive to the child. There's a wonderful Gary Larson cartoon (Blah blah blah Ginger) of a man talking to a dog that encapsulates this perfectly!

[@CoachRorySoccer]

Love it! Yeah I agree. I try to do most of the coaching on dead ball situations.

[@hayesdabney]

Thanks! Found a book called _Happy Feet_ that agrees with most of what you said.

[@CoachRorySoccer]

I’ll have to check it out.

[@Bryan-gr6kn]

I’m honestly dealing with an issue where a parent is hurting the experience of the entire team. The girls are young so they’re just learning the fundamentals of the game and this parent only cares about his daughter getting the ball. She went from being part of the team to stealing the ball from her own teammates. Its made it so the other girls aren’t really enjoying playing.

[@CoachRorySoccer]

Oh man. If it’s hurting the team hopefully you can have a conversation with the parent.

[@deetahenry-smith9796]

Great advice. Thanks Coach.

[@CoachRorySoccer]

You bet!

[@coachbjorn]

Just shared your video with the 2400 parents in our club. Thanks Rory.

[@CoachRorySoccer]

Fantastic!

[@ronjamdio86]

Thank you for this advice, I'm a coach and some of these things have happened to me. I'm going to share this on our soccer page so parents and coaches can see it.

[@CoachRorySoccer]

Fantastic! Thanks.

[@bobbycrosby9765]

My wife is definitely a sideline coacher. Now how to subtly break her of the habit. Lol.

[@CoachRorySoccer]

Will be best thing for your player.

[@iainhughes8110]

Lesson number one: This sport is called FOOTBALL!!

[@CoachRorySoccer]

🤷🏻‍♂️

[@mbkincaid1]

this video needs 6m views, not 6k

[@CoachRorySoccer]

Thank you!