do soulmates really exist?

[@JESSIESGIRL]

do you believe in soulmates? 💌

[@IzzyOnTheMove]

Not to be a downer but the concept of soulmates used to be so strong and attractive to me (I'm a hopeless romantic)... until I got into all those toxic relationships. Now I see it more as a man made, constructed, codependent concept. You hope to find a person that it will click with, that you're compatible and will treat you with respect and will be hot and attractive. I'm still looking for that, I am not settling. But I am also never going to be with someone who doesn't treat me well but I am attracted to. i think "soul mates" is strong words. In life you meet people that you get along well more than others, and those can be friends or lovers or teachers. There's just an affinity. Believe me, I am the biggest person who wants t believe in the fairytale but I am also unwilling to go through hell again. So to me that concept is a bit dangerous. To think there is only one person in the world for you and you need to find them sounds like a prison. What if you pick the wrong one? Now what? I think you can have more than one "soul mate" and not all in a romantic way.

[@IzzyOnTheMove]

Sidenote I'm commenting as I'm watching lol maybe I should wait until the end of the video. Story is intriguing so far.

[@IzzyOnTheMove]

Also, the financial implications of getting married are HUGE. So if you work, own a house and are independent, be very informed about that. I am never getting legally married again, but a spiritual ceremony has as much meaning in my opinion. An abusive, cheating or just malintentioned spouse could just wipe you out financially. i was lucky that didn't happen to me but it could have. We don't want to think about that when we're in love but it can come and bite you later.

[@Olivesurfsmith]

I LOVE YOU JESSIE!!! This is a beautiful story! 💕

[@JESSIESGIRL]

thank you olive 🥹💌 love you!!!

[@IzzyOnTheMove]

It's OK to be alone. Never settle! I married the wrong person lol. There are way worse things than being alone.

[@JESSIESGIRL]

that’s true! everyone’s story is so different which is what is amazing :) I’m just sharing my story!

[@IzzyOnTheMove]

"He knew me more than I know myself" "Once I get married that's it" these are red flags. ⛳ No one knows you more than you know yourself. And you always have the right to leave. What if it became abusive? I'm not a religious person and I think that can cloud someone's judgment also... no disrespect... I hope you made the right choice, but the decisions we make in our 20s can be misguided.... it's never too late to correct course later. Hope all the best for you ❤