Do Therapists Encourage Estrangement? (Concern) Part 11 | Ep.151

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[@LessaMeieam]

I am the parent who is estranged. When my third son estranged I wanted to commit myself because I knew it was me as the issue. I found by God’s grace a trauma trained therapist with a week long in patient type event. It is there I learned what I brought into the relationships that caused the break down. I continue to go to trauma therapy after that week. I am a different person now that I know what I did to hurt my children. I have also learned that I cannot hold all the blame. I also learned forgiveness for myself, those who brought trauma in my life, and those who I have hurt and they left. It has been 4 years and I am a different person because of it all. I miss my sons, my grandchildren, and my daughter in laws. I do believe that many lay people think they understand trauma, estrangement, narcissistic, gas lighting, and toxic mean but the truth is lay people use it for their gain. I am guilty of it myself. I think trauma healing is the best for families because it focuses on the person and understanding why they do what they do instead of looking at others because they push their trauma buttons.

[@youtubemariemorinestrangement]

I agree. Healing from trauma is extremely important. I’m so glad you wrote. It takes a lot of courage to heal. Keep moving toward acceptance and self compassion.

[@MonicaFuentes1]

Therapists in individual therapy may be encouraging estrangement according to Dr.Joshua Coleman in his article "When Therapists Encourage Family Cutoffs...Are We Helping or Harming?"

[@youtubemariemorinestrangement]

Yes, Monica, this can happen. I think its important to note, while it is best for therapist to not tell someone to do something, the option is presented for a reason. Imagine a client who is in a relationship where there is maltreatment that has and continues to harm the client. The client is extremely distressed and as is typical has difficulty setting boundaries for themselves to be safe. In this type of case, discussing options such as cutting off, provides the option for the client to make a decision to remove themselves from a relationship in which they are being harmed. I believe we need to understand that the actions inside a therapy relationship is not black and white.

[@SteveJones379]

Thank you Morin. I very much appreciate your content and look forward to new video notifications from you. ☮

[@youtubemariemorinestrangement]

My pleasure! Thank you for writing.