Do You Have To Send Money To Your Filipino Wife’s Family?

[@ArleneLIWS]

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[@gogrowgrace6468]

I agree esp on setting limits. Never send beyond your means kay maglisud jud ta ana pagpadayon. Great video arl!

[@ArleneLIWS]

Thank you, Gracey! ❤️

[@Georgian.A-Music]

I don't give her family money, we both work,and we both contribute to ourselves. She distanced herself from her toxic family

[@ArleneLIWS]

I totally understand her. All the best to both of you. Merry Christmas!!!🎄🎁

[@MumofCJandAria]

I’m glad you have found your niche sis. Keep it up! Love the yellow top so pretty it suits you. I agree to everything you said xx

[@ArleneLIWS]

Thank you, sis! Yellow looks good on Morena skin.

[@kalingaptata7598]

You support if they have emergency because very difficult to find money ...

[@kajuta240]

There will always be an emergency. They got along before you and will continue to do so without your wallet. Break that one time and the flood gates will open.

[@lindseysummers5351]

Let me share a couple of stories when it comes to Filipinos and money. This is not at all an indictment against ALL Filipinos but it demonstrates what I mean, and these come from my own experience. A good friend of mine's parents paid for the whole family to take a vacation to the PI one year. Because both his parents are from there and still speak the language, he could have passed for a well-to-do native if he didn't talk. They were out one day and a young boy figured out he was an American. He asked my friend to spare a few pesos, to which he obliged. Next thing you know, he was surrounded by people with their hands out. He was pretty scared, and the family was genuinely scared for him. Not sure how that scenario ended, but he learned to be discreet after that. When I was a college student, I began corresponding with a Filipina and we had talked about "maybe" meeting in person with that possibly leading to her coming here to the States. We wrote and talked on the phone as much as we could. Video chatting was very limited back then, and I don't believe she had a computer to be able to use email. The whole thing, as it turned out, was a big setup. She was telling me stories about trying to support her mother and her brother by working the only job available to her, in a fast food restaurant. Okay, interesting. Then she dropped the bomb: She wanted to open her own pool hall but had no money to be able to afford it. But, I could send her the money she needed, right?!? Sorry, I was a college student at the time. I had a little bit of money but not nearly enough to help someone open a business. You could feel the air being let out of the balloon, because her tone immediately changed. As soon as we finished our conversation, I hung up the phone and never heard from her again. No phone calls, letters, nothing. The entire thing was a ruse. She didn't care about me. She just wanted to use me to get money and to escape a life of poverty. Look, not everyone is like this, but there ARE people like this in the World, with less than honorable intentions. Protect yourself. If you find someone trying to use you as a bank or even an ATM, like the lady said, you owe them nothing. Don't be afraid to walk away. Find someone with whom you can have a deep connection, who will appreciate what you have to offer. Trust me, she will be worth it. And if she's on the level and you can afford it, you can see about a small stipend for her parents or maybe a sibling. Nothing wrong with that, if that's what you would want to do for your own family.

[@ArleneLIWS]

Sad but this is the reality. So everyone must be very careful and vigilant when communicating with someone online. We were not stereo typed as “gold-diggers” for now reason. Really sad but that’s the fault of some Filipinos. About the first story, I have somewhat similar experience with my American husband. When he visited me and we went island hopping, some vendors are trying to charge him more that the usual price of the goods. My husband was excited to buy them but I had to stop him because what they were doing is unacceptable and shameful. I don’t know want it to perpetuate. Beware of establishments/people who put different price tags (Local price & Tourist price) for their goods.

[@lindseysummers5351]

@Arlene LiWS Yes!! A dear friend of mine married into that family, and they paid for his plane ticket for that trip. His father is from the PI and his mother is American. That is exactly the way vendors treated him, charging two and three times for their goods that they would charge for locals. His in laws helped him out in those situations so he didn't continue to get fleeced. And I appreciate your understanding in my commentary. I hate thinking I am stereotyping or badmouthing a whole group of people. I married in to a Filipino family (my FIL is from the PI but my spouse is American), and I have other family members from the PI. Filipinos are such wonderful people, very warm, always smiling, and full of life. Some of the food is great but some...I can do without. And, y'all definitely know how to throw a party!! But, like you said, some folks don't act in the best of intentions.

[@einnayula3821]

I like the way you speak🥰

[@ArleneLIWS]

Thank you! ♥️

[@IntentionalMom]

Nice topic, big like sis. Nakakatuwa na nakakatulong tayo sa ating pamilya sa Pinas. Pero kung wala dapat wag ka guilty.

[@davidtesler1198]

Just enough to help elderly parents. I wouldn't give any loser brothers that sit and drink anything including the sweat off my butt. I definitely wouldn't ever loan money to any Filipino because you will never see it come back. I do love the culture because it is a mix of people like the USA.

[@ArleneLIWS]

Spot-on! Thanks for watching my video, David!

[@kajuta240]

What if said free loader brother loafs around all day next to the parents and is by proxy provided shelter and 3 meals a day out of the allowance meant for them?

[@davidtesler1198]

@@kajuta240 Sounds like a parenting problem and is not the responsibility of a real man to support him. Yes unfortunately most men there have no desire to do anything but wreck females lives and play macho. The Philippines is a perfect example of a stagnated culture

[@antoniogutierrezjr7471]

When your. Married it’s out money your marriage is now the priority make sure your house is in order first then communicate with one another a agreement I too have a heart to helps ones parents but not in-laws who are young and healthy 🙏

[@edwelndiobel1567]

Living in the US is awesome isnt it?! Clean, abundant SAFE food, clean running water, safe, stable, jobs, electricity that stays ON! . I truly never knew life could be so amazing!

[@ArleneLIWS]

Absolutely! I love the quality of life here in US. What State are you from?

[@jcmixadventure2117]

Watching here sending my support ✅✅👍

[@michelleberry9357]

Some things transcend cultures and countries ... people from everywhere love to help their families. I'm so happy you are in a position to help yours. Having a partner that is on board (with agreed upon boundaries!!) is crucial! You are so well spoken.

[@ArleneLIWS]

Thank you, sister! 🥰

[@coffeebotography]

I never knew how fortunate I was in USA until I dated Mexican, Vietnamese, and Filipina. I will never resent supporting my fiancée’s family. 😊😊😊

[@ArleneLIWS]

Bless your heart!

[@antoniogutierrezjr7471]

Give what you can gif will bless u my dad is from Mexico he helped his relative but when he married he stopped and my mom was from USA but she is of Mexican. Decent but her parents where here and her sibling was here also depends on situation

[@ChrisBestoca]

Why not if we are overflowing right? At the end of the day, we have a plan to help the needy and that means sharing is caring.

[@ChrisBestoca]

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[@GlaryinEurope]

This is a very sensitive topic for ofw however it runs in our blood to share..

[@markjeanlifeinusa9594]

👍🏻.. theres always something to learn watching ur videos sis

[@ArleneLIWS]

Thank you, sis! ♥️

[@thorventura1868]

New Subscriber Kaluha. Kumusta na dha?

[@ArleneLIWS]

Hello kuluha! Salamat sa suporta. ❤️ Menyo nata ni Meah. Hehehe. Pero ikaw unang nahalin 😂. Okay lang mi dre kaluha. Pahibaw nya ug masuroy ka dre. Kitakits puhon!

[@paulfranklin3073]

Frank & to the point - Dealing with this right now, and will obviously make or break us!

[@davidtesler1198]

Good video young lady,,,hello from Wisconsin.

[@ArleneLIWS]

Thank you! ❤️

[@crispycrunchycooking]

like 11 very very nice dear......💞💕

[@ToniPerriVlog777]

If they are in need yes sis, but sometimes may mga abusadong kapamilya din so ingat pa din sa mga ganun.

[@ambassadoroffaith1018]

Great job sis

[@markhepworth-taylor9278]

1 Timothy 5:8 KJV But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel. The bible is clear the reliability for the father/ husband to provide for there own family's.

[@ambassadoroffaith1018]

Daming tanung sis

[@magstv2333]

a little bit for emergency purposes only,,only,, the rest is they have to work for their daily living ,just like we did to our family..., etc

[@ambassadoroffaith1018]

Salamat sa Insight

[@ambassadoroffaith1018]

I click this sis

[@garyhicks2696]

What is it that the foreigner is a single person and he should give to multiple people it seems to me like he’s taking care of their daughter and the multiple people should be helping them not him helping their whole entire family nieces nephews aunts that’s Ludacris

[@smithahnne3319]

Host tamsak

[@IntentionalMom]

Like na like ko ang yellow top mo. Bagay sa iyo.

[@ArleneLIWS]

Salamat, sis! ❤️

[@mikewright9637]

Why are Foreigner expected to give anything?

[@ArleneLIWS]

Hi Mike! Thanks for your question. I made a video reply. kzbin.info/www/bejne/bWe6lH19hch4hNksi=fRZ9LRMvKATgwRwt Let me know what you think!

[@antoniogutierrezjr7471]

Wow ur hubby is blessed I can tell you are a Christian ? Soo am I

[@ArleneLIWS]

Thanks! Yes we are Christians.

[@cixuanzheng7125]

Your videos are all very intelligent. I like to watch every video of yours. I have a question about this money issue. Of course, every man wants true love, and true love should not be contingent upon money, but true love usually happens between people of similar age. When Americans go to Philippine, they typically want much younger age, often 30 years younger. How likely do you think that true love can happen between couples 30 years apart? If it is extremely rare, then an old American guy may have to spend 20 years to search for such a true love. He may not find one before lying in grave yard. On the other hand, he can definitely find a Filipina of similar age, but such a woman is typically a single mom who has several pre-existing children, and perhaps many pre-existi8ng grandchildren. The guy will still have to pay for these pre-existing children and grandchildren. Perhaps he will have to pay a lot more money to such a woman than to a truly single young girl. In short, I find it very difficult for an old guy to escape the money trap. If any one has a success story, please let us know.

[@ArleneLIWS]

Your concern is really valid. But it’s not impossible to find someone that’s 30 years younger than you and has no pre-existing kids. One of my very good friends is a testament to this. She was 24 when she met her husband who was 30+ years older than her. They now have 2 kids and have been happily married for almost 10 years. I have released a new video about mitigating the risk of divorce rape. Please check it out if you have time. Thank you for watching my videos!

[@cixuanzheng7125]

@@ArleneLIWS I like to hear such a good story. Is the current husband the biological father of the two kids? Does she have pre-existing kids? To be honest, I don't like to raise other man's kid.

[@ArleneLIWS]

Yes the husband is the biological father of the two kids and she has no pre-existing kids. She has never been married prior to meeting her Western husband. And I don’t blame you for not wanting to raise “other man’s orgasm” as my husband puts it. Maybe I can help you find your Filipina. Let me know your preference and I’ll check with my single friends if they’d be interested to get to know you. I really hope you will find a good woman. Do not settle for less!

[@cixuanzheng7125]

@@ArleneLIWS thank you so much for your kind offer. Yes, I am very interested in your female friends. Please note that I don't send money to any one I have never seen face to face. A girl like yourself (a professional single girl) would be a perfect choice.

[@roshnikasafar164]

ماشاءاللہ تبارک اللہ

[@likemyfreedom9899]

yeaaaaa Wa State!

[@merlyelizaga7161]

It depends if the purpose is productive then it is yes to me. But if its only for waldas and asa purpose my answer is no... Of course my parents will always be YES! (',)&

[@ArleneLIWS]

Sakto gyud te kai wala raba ni nato gipamunit ra ang kwarta. 😄

[@craigalcock6868]

You need more clothes. Just one dress

[@hilarioushaun7774]

You have to help your wife family because their your family also we have to help each other