Do You Love Them Or Just Attached?

So, you caught feelings for someone. But you don't know if you're truly in love with them or just attached. Ever caught yourself wondering about your feelings? Well, you're not alone.
We're here to help you figure it out. We're reveal the real deal behind emotions and how to tell if it's love or just a clingy vibe.
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#relationship #love #dating #attachment
Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Editor: Rida Batool
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Amanda Silvera ( / amandasilvera )
Animator: Krisha Que / @macchiusmoriatostudios07
KZbin Manager: Cindy Cheong
References:
Hatfield, E., & Rapson, R. (1993). Love and attachment processes. Handbook of emotions, 595-604. In M. Lewis & J. M. Haviland (Eds.), The Guilford Press.
Hatvany, O. (2016). The Effects of Criticism on Relationships. PsychCentral. Retrieved from psychcentral.com/lib/the-effects-of-criticism-on-relationships#1
Wonderlin, K. [@kelseywonderlin]. (n.d.). Posts [Instagram profile]. Retrieved January 09, 2023, from h kelseywonderlin.
Whitfield, C. L. (1993). Boundaries and relationships: Knowing, protecting and enjoying the self. Health Communications, Inc.
Carrico, B. (2021). What Is Emotional Invalidation? PsychCentral. Retrieved from psychcentral.com/health/reasons-you-and-others-invalidate-your-emotional-experience
Sosnoski, K. & Currin-Sheehan, K. (2022). Differences Between Love and Attachment. PsychCentral. Retrieved from psychcentral.com/health/attachment-vs-love#unhealthy-attachment

[@Psych2go]

Do you think you're attached or in love with them? Watch this video to watch which one you are in. This video might help you next. Watch next: 5 Differences Between Falling In Love and a Crush kzbin.info/www/bejne/mKfXmXili8uJh8U

[@Psych2go]

We hear you, some are single too! This video might help you. Watch this next: You're Not Broken, The Dating World Is kzbin.info/www/bejne/pn-ue5p6btdmfZY

[@Psych2go]

Thank you for watching! We hope this helps you :)

[@ErbyZeferino]

Thanks psych2go, this helped me alot know I know whats is the diffrence of love and being attached as always thanks😊👍👌

[@niasiamack9333]

Love is beautiful

[@setsers1]

I've been watching for 3 years. Wish I saw this channel sooner.

[@Ericat257]

Love. Is. NOT. an. Emotion. That is where people go very wrong. Emotions come and go, but when you actually love it's so much more. It's steadfast and deeper.

[@nath_takahashi]

Does love can be classified as a desire?

[@Ericat257]

@@nath_takahashi no. Desire can tie in with love but it's it's own thing

[@OdysseyHome-Gaming]

Wonder if love is a mood then. 🤔

[@Ericat257]

@@OdysseyHome-Gaming no. Moods are based on emotions.

[@FreestyleIceSkate]

Love is a decision.

[@youngking1822]

1. Coping with conflict 2. Consistency 3. A feeling of safety 4. Healthy boundaries 5. Validating needs 6. Added Value

[@LegendaryChubs]

You dropped this 👑

[@ORProductionss]

Here you go 👑

[@ArgzeroYT]

All of these are just contributors to forms of safety

[@anna15412]

These are skills everyone needs to learn. You may love without these skills and be hurt but it does not mean you don't love.

[@ArgzeroYT]

@@anna15412 You can only be "loved" if you are made to feel safe. You can only "give love" if you are able to enable the safety of another. If you can do neither, love is not a part of your experiences.

[@zachscully]

“Healthy love should add value and meaning to your life. … Healthy love…gives us a feeling of being understood, and accepted, feeling safe and secure, as well as a strong sense of belonging, and a significant improvement in our overall wellbeing.”

[@DocSnipes]

Yes, you are right. Healthy love is characterized by mutual respect, trust, and support between partners. It involves open communication, emotional safety, and the ability to maintain individuality within the relationship. In a healthy relationship, both partners feel valued and understood, and there is a balance of give and take.

[@nrs6485]

I just realized I'm toxic now

[@IamAl3ks]

I don’t like how coincidentally personal these videos have been getting lately 😂

[@Psych2go]

We can read your mind

[@IamAl3ks]

@@Psych2go I feel honoured in a way lol

[@Impulse1226]

Skyline

[@joelwilliams7914]

😂😂😂

[@Ghjjft68u]

Ikr I just got out of a 6 year relationship

[@kiraelizdeleon6643]

Explains my last relationship with my ex; with me being the person who didn't care as much as I thought. Unhealthy attachments growing up led me to hurt a person who never deserved it

[@jeffwhite1334]

Dude I came to the comments to write the exact same thing. I felt terrible leaving my wife of 4 years (together 8 total). I cared for her - I didn’t want to hurt her, I want her to be happy, but I was in the relationship due to attachment, not love. I felt no spark of excitement when trying to plan birthdays, gifts, dates with her. She didn’t deserve it, and I should have realized it much much sooner. You’re not a bad person. Learn from your mistake, free yourself of the guilt, so you can keep living and find someone you do love and want to make happy.

[@diecastnorbz]

These are reactions that a Fearful-Avoidant would have and I’m sure your exes were on the Anxious-Preoccupied part of the four relationship styles. I fall into Anxious Preoccupied and am in the middle of breaking up with my Ex Girlfriend who happens to be Fearful Avoidant, and she’s doing a lot in therapy to get to the core of her trauma. It could be your trauma responses that is keeping you distant, pushing you away from those you say you love. I know that’s the way it feels for me, so this video came along just when I needed it!

[@killerddn9392]

Same here bro. At the few final months together, i felt no spark, just doing all the things couples do with no effort put into it. Neglecting her emotions and needs.

[@brennam954]

@@killerddn9392 That's the thing with you avoidants. You only chase sparks. You're emotionally unavailable and invest nothing to build the relationship on an emotional level, so then you get "bored". Same cycle over and over.

[@killerddn9392]

@@brennam954 maybe so. Now come to think about it, i completly neglected all her emotions, needs to share, etc. i found it annoying when she wanted to talk and share about the day. All day long, the only messages btw us were "love you, good night", and i'm not even sure it was "love". On my side, i didnt share anything with her, convincing myself that i focused on my career for our own shake. -.+ It was just my excuse-.+

[@GerlachReacts]

I was attached to my ex-wife. I was able to see that she did not add value to my life but had a hard time leaving because I didn’t think anyone else would love me. I’m alone and struggling now, but that is better for both of us than if I had stayed.

[@Ghjjft68u]

I was also attached to my ex husband. Nice to see a different perspective from an opposite gender

[@trumanmortillaro7396]

Stay strong, you’ll get through it! There are people you don’t even know that are pulling for you

[@melaniewipprecht2103]

Learn to love yourself, enjoy time with yourself. Then you will be able to find a healthy relationship. I too was attached to my ex. 15 years of emotional abuse. I am in a much better place. You can be too.

[@Norfolk440]

In the same boat right now. Day 3 of a broken marriage. But this video really helped show me what I was dealing with. Sadly, we have a child in the middle. I’m sad but I know it’s already healthier without that person to try to satisfy.

[@Ghjjft68u]

@@Norfolk440 stay strong

[@A55a551n]

Timestamps 1). Coping with conflict 1:03 2). Consistency 1:35 3). A feeling of safety 2:11 4). Healthy boundaries 2:53 5). Validating needs 3:29 6). Added value 4:15 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

[@cynicalsapience2949]

❤ thanks

[@muhammadsaifal9901]

Thanks❣️

[@brain_respect_and_freedom]

Love is something given freely with nothing wanted in return. Love is unconditional it does not disappear because of one misunderstanding or a few arguments. Love is kind, love is honest, love is. Attachment on the other hand is an intense suffocating feeling mistaken for love. Attachment does not trust easily, It’s controlling. When you become attached to someone anxiety grows and the fear of losing them sets in which stops you from living in the moment and enjoying each other. Instead of loving each other time is spent on pointless arguments mainly caused by insecurities.

[@beniladelle9119]

well said

[@peteruzomba]

This your explanation has described my current relationship. What do I do?!

[@narayani1505]

Love is. ❤

[@HEINDEZU]

This saved me

[@tuftela]

Attachment doesn't mean any of those things. Attachment can be simplified to loyalty and staying with someone at their side. Whether it's beneficial or detrimental is a different matter.

[@MaNiMaBaLLa]

Coping with conflict is the biggest thing… She would constantly just cold shoulder & withdraw affection. I needed this.

[@taijini6312]

@@mr.Kumar-jn9foomg same with me

[@storminorman315]

I'm 25 years old and have never been in a relationship. I just met someone about a month ago and everything clicked so quickly. I keep having nervous thoughts though that my love for them was built somewhat on my prior loneliness and wanting to find a partner... but I think this video was the final thing I needed to make me confident it isn't. They check every box you presented. I've never felt more safe, validated, cared for, or comfortable being myself with anyone, and every day, all of these feelings only get stronger

[@christinewc6008]

Dear stranger, that’s so cute! Happy for you🎉

[@spiritualantiseptic]

That's just the honeymoon phase. Enjoy it while it lasts.

[@mayazepeda]

I’m 24 years old and I have a similar situation. This is the longest relationship I’ve ever been in a year and four months but recently I’ve been having doubt Because I got into the relationship so quickly, (1 month of talking) and I thought I was doing it because I was lonely and low-key desperate, but that person checks off every box that I had and I pretty much had really high standards and surprisingly they checked off a lot of those boxes. But I am more comfortable being myself around him, and I feel cared for and validated, even though sometimes I have anxious thoughts. I grew up with a toxic family and only ever seen toxic relationships so right now I’m at the stage where I’m recognizing.

[@TimToGim]

@@mayazepeda Omg thats lovely, yes getting into a relationship with past trauma is hard. All you have to do is take a step back and look at what the relationship has bought you and how much you've grown. Also I feel this is worth a mention but these doubts you are having only stem from you, it is always up to you how to control them and if you want to, talk about them with your partner. So happy for you keep going, there will be ups and downs in life but have faith in yourself and each other.

[@mattheahanse57]

What is love? Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. (Bible, ‭1 Corinthians 13:4-7)

[@oranmusafy2418]

Literally my relationship I had with my ex until now. Crazy how it describes the attachment I had for him and the toxic behaviors my ex had towards me. Was blinded from what I thought was love ended with me being the attached one.

[@Andy-Bengali]

This video made me realize neither I ever truly loved anyone nor anyone ever truly loved me.

[@maria-vz1ls]

same and it hurts tbh…

[@indirayovitasari]

Or... you should love yourself first?

[@pinkyfingerhehe]

so true.. god bless

[@LupitaMartinez63018]

I have a healthy relatiomship!!!! This made me worry a lot since we started dating in high school (now we're married) I always felt like we just depended on each other too emotionally, because of how our parents were. But, it turns out we're normal. We do have our fights and all, but wow we're actually normal. 😂❤❤❤❤❤ thank you for the video!

[@Psych2go]

Thank you for watching! Loved your story!

[@IceESole]

What's "normal" 💁🏽‍♂️

[@LupitaMartinez63018]

@@IceESole normal to us means, respecting eachother (not checking each other's phone, social media, calling/texting every 5 min we leave the house) you shouldn't feel like your suffocating with your partner, or that you have to fake your personality. We have older couple friends, and based on their experiences we're on the right track to a long healthy relationship.

[@IceESole]

@@LupitaMartinez63018 🙌🏽🙏🏽🥰..I agree with you..

[@alliwrites6739]

i strive for my relationship to be like this

[@breadcubeboi8849]

"or you feel that you don't have any better options" ouch that's true

[@anasiaj4569]

I noticed that I do some of the things wrong like criticize and disregard his dreams and I have noticed that I am becoming controlling and that is not the person that I want to be. There are things that he does wrong, but I do wrong to we definitely care for each other. We talked and we set boundaries so hopefully we can fix our relationship. I want to be better and he wants to be better so we are working together to make it work.

[@xmonimor]

I felt deeply related to this comment because I noticed the same thing on me and the worst part is that I really never realized until now. Even when I talked to my partner recognizing my mistakes he’s having second thoughts. I’m happy that you both were able to talk and try again . Give yourself a second chance to do things in a more constructive way 💖 it’s not easy recognizing this, you’re strong!

[@anasiaj4569]

@@xmonimor thank you so much 💕it sucks because my partner has those thoughts too but he wants to be here for me and our baby on the way, I know I push too much and worry I just don’t want anything bad to happen. I know he’s just trying to be a man that loves, protects and provides for me and he works hard. I worry about getting hurt so I push him away, I feel like everyone else prettier than I could ever imagine no matter how many positive things he tells me. This is my 3rd relationship in my entire life and the way I feel for him is completely different. But I didn’t know I carried such behaviors with me and such insecurities. We start counseling this week and I hope we fix things🥺💕

[@anasiaj4569]

@@xmonimor I hope you and your partner work things out it can be so hard to get rid of all these bad thoughts or behaviors we had no clue about, you both deserve happiness and a healthy relationship especially a healthy relationship with yourself. I wish nothing but the best for you!! And I hope you have a life full of love and happiness 💕

[@Sannetje2004]

I really feel with you and I kinda have the same problem, I feel so bad about it. Is there any way that we can talk more about this? I would like to share our situations and maybe help each other and find some recognition. Kind regards, Sanne

[@xmonimor]

@@Sannetje2004I’d like to! Sharing thoughts is something good 💕 if you want we can share email or whatever you prefer

[@reyvincentaclan3057]

Now I know I'm not in the right relationship 🙂

[@Procraftbrother]

😭 I’m really upset that I never knew this… I’m always doing what I can to help her, and make her feel better even when she feels self doubt… unfortunately, she told me just last night that she doesn’t want to date anyone anymore… and that broke me… she knows I love her… and I’ve been single for my entire life (minus 2 months of a “meh” relationship)… all I want is to love a woman, and be loved by her as well…

[@annnika5361]

i'm really sorry for you. you sound like a genuine guy and i'm sure you will find someone :) you deserve to be loved too!

[@brennam954]

She sounds emotionally unavailable and immature. Don't waste your efforts on someone who can't give back what you give. You will find someone who deserves you.

[@Procraftbrother]

@@annnika5361 thx

[@Acid_Ash]

For what felt like forever I was with someone who checked all these boxes. But I stayed because I thought if I loved her enough that would soften her up and make her nicer. Until I realized that it’s not my job to fix an abuser and I deserve better. She was dragging my mental health down so I finally managed to leave. Took a lot of work in therapy but I could see the old me. I dated around but nobody wanted someone meaningful or lifelong. I kept trying until it became too hard. I gave up and thought maybe my ex was the best I could get. For years, 5 to be exact I thought I’d be alone for life. So I stuck to making friends and that was nice but my other half was missing. Until I met someone new that was one of my only healthy relationships. I finally feel whole. Even if it took a few years. My point being if your with an abuser or got the courage to leave them, you’ve been healing yourself and dating around with what feels like forever; Don’t give up on love. Clichés can be true and you will wind up finding someone who cares about you and treats you how you need. You’ve got this ❤

[@Burntcooki12]

😞 congrats my friend

[@Acid_Ash]

@@Burntcooki12 You’ll get to that point too, I believe in you and anyone who needs to hear it ☺️

[@mgracey3928]

Seeing this made me realize that I should really let my ex to enjoy what he have rn. The relationship that they have is just like this and I just can’t accept it since ofc I still love him. As an avoidant, I can’t give that validation and security. Giving myself another perception lke this made me wish them both love and happiness.

[@-anonymousgranny-7260]

I told my crush I loved them about 2 weeks ago now and they rejected me. Although that wasn’t my favoured outcome, we’ve still remained friends. This is best case scenario. I’d rather be rejected and keep a friend than be rejected and lose that friend

[@AT-pw9dx]

That's mature!

[@SMSCovers]

I'm glad for you, but if I may give you an advice, be sure to respect the other person's limits. I unfortunately had to reject someone who said they loved me, but I wanted to stay friends. But they've disrespected my limits so much and so frequently that with time I ended up blocking them everywhere I could cause I couldn't stand the situation anymore.

[@user-qi8cp7hq5l]

If you like them, it's very hard to " unlike" them especially if he/she wants to stay friends. That's why some people don't want to stay friends with ex-crushes. My advice to people who got rejected is, focus on yourself for several weeks / months and then focus on someone else.

[@Zapdos97]

​@@user-qi8cp7hq5lI'm currently going through this. I'm in love with her. She knows and has always been sweet and mature about it. She's not ready to be in a relationship, but even if she was, there's another guy she'd be with. I love her. I just don't want to be in love with her. Ugh.

[@thunderblossom8114]

I’ve been going through a decline in my relationship. I care for him a lot. Been trying to figure out what’s going on. I just…. don’t make the time for just us anymore. We used to sit in the parking lot of my old workplace literally all night just talking or listening to music and just being…. and since I’ve moved in…. it’s just gone…..

[@kujo62]

What is love? Baby, don't hurt me.

[@crayolasheep8061]

Was looking for this, thank you!

[@Psych2go]

I can't unhear that now...

[@ronnyjahdiel9649]

I thought that technically being attached to someone meant that you loved that person... I don't know, like aren't you attached to your friends? Don't you love your friends?

[@dexteradams6515]

This has made me very sad cause I realize that I lack all these things in a relationship where I'm really attached to a friend.

[@unrealmemories1351]

I feel this. Definitely applies to more than just romance.

[@BladeValant546]

I really want these studies and kinds of videos that take neurodivergence into account. Because, oftentimes times the way for example myself being on the spectrum. I am often pretty straightforward and really should take myself at face value. Not to mention on how to provide proper safety especially when it comes to talking about goals, failures, and what not. I always felt these studies are very much specifically about two neurotypicals and advice that works for them. However, the way someone with ADHD or ASD see and interprets the world can be very different.

[@Yashuop]

I will do 1 Pushup for every like i get on this comment 💪🏻

[@SoapiiBFDI]

Bro is a bot 💀🧊‼️ - ice cube

[@garethedwards5799]

No you won’t? The only way to prove it is through recommendeds

[@I-have-homework-to-do]

bro is still getting likes no matter what

[@SoapiiBFDI]

@@I-have-homework-to-do because the likes are botted

[@coolkid3538]

Are you in every video?

[@DAHUKEY]

I feel attacked by the title

[@Psych2go]

Oh no!! Why?

[@alysemyers4230]

I'm at the beginning of a new relationship and i found this video super helpful, thank you! I have dated around a bit and had one previous relationship several years before this new one, so i was making a lot of comparisons to my experience and struggling to know if things are going well, especially since there's a lot of discourse on the internet about good and bad relationships. Im glad to see that we're doing things right, and while im not always infatuated by him, I feel a sense of safety and care for him.

[@flamegamer3424]

I needed to see this. This made me understand more about the difference between in love and attachment. Thank you.

[@sanatani_girl01]

Why wasn't this video there when I needed it the most? I really learnt the hard way that what I thought was my 'first love' was just this-unhealthy obsession; and the person who I thought was the love of my life was clever enough to lure me into this act of 'love' only to ruin my self esteem and question everything about me. Not a day went when I could go about my everyday life without clinging on to him only to feel the validation and security that I never got. As a result I only got worse in everything I was good at and I literally went insane to the extent of having suicidal thoughts every other day. I stayed with him only because I thought if I lost him there would be no one else who'll ever love me again. In the end I dumped him for my own good and it's been more than a year since, and I don't have a single regret about having done so. This video brought back all the memories of those 6 months that I was with that man and I hope every person who's going through something similar finds this video and comes out of the trap set up by some evil predators roaming around freely in our society.

[@SS19-17]

Now, make a video on how to detach from attachment

[@Vent...988]

This is so what i needed rn thank you ❤

[@Psych2go]

Hope this video helps you!

[@Vent...988]

I just rememberd that my ex dosent even like me.... 😓

[@lovelumity]

​@@Vent...988Aww I'm sorry for you

[@user-xo6sg6bv1n]

Why do u care ?​@@Vent...988

[@chromaticdragon]

Thank you for another amazing video. My last visit home, between deployments, felt a lot like this... there was always criticism and I could never do anything right. There was always criticism and it was rarely favorable criticism. My wife has been my center of focus and our kids have been points of focus for me over the last 20 years... but it's all gone now. I feel it's my fault because I had to travel overseas for work to make ends meet and they grew up with out me... now I'm not a part of their lives. It hurts...

[@thrill102]

Going to therapy would be helpful 🙂

[@toni6135]

Bless you. I hope it works all out for you. You deserve it.

[@ReiYuuka]

Your timing is perfect 🙏🏻😓 Thank you very much!

[@rejinal3005]

This cheered me up, im plagued with doubt and honestly was scared what the video will show of my relationship, but the points show my bf is the best, he truly cares for me as i do for him :D

[@picklefingers1502]

Ive been dating my bf for 1 year (yay!) But hes so sweet and caring, but im distant and scared. Ive been in many relationships that havent ended well but with my bf now, im so dead to feelinga that i just sigh whenever he talks to me, i also have BPD, i love him so so much and hes so cool but im scared for our future.

[@ianian2773]

Tjis video was convenient haha. Currently dealing with trying to make the right decision on whether I should go back to a person who I've been on and off with for a while...but for some reason I can't let it go. I want to let it go, but I'm scared of not having them around anymore.

[@belle7591]

Much needed this kind of vid for a long time. Thank you Psych2go!!❤

[@a_tom339]

I need this right now to bring clarity to the kind of relationship I have.

[@TimToGim]

This video is really good. It made me better understand what I want and need out of a relationship. I was recently broken up with because I wasn't growing as my own person. My ex was my main focal point but while focusing on her I forgot about what I need, this has sent me into a downward spiral and before I crashed she decided to exit my life. While I am not in a good place at the moment and heart broken I also realised that I need to see a professional and build something for myself before allowing someone else into my life. I am wanting to focus on emotional and financial stability. Once I have done that and explored my emotions to the fullest, only then will I want someone else into my life.

[@diecastnorbz]

Love this one! Think you’ve shed some light on my situation! Thanks! 😊 🙏🏽

[@FilleDesSoucoupesVolantes]

I'm just attached. So is he. Been together 15 years. It's been this way the last 4 years. He cancels plans. Never goes out with me just to punish me. I've never been more lonely.

[@CaZyBuNnY]

I really like how easy to understand these videos always are. great job! actually this video reassured me that I actually AM in a healthy relationship. I didn't have doubts per se but I do tend to be a little naive at times and overlook things.

[@iforgorr]

Just saw this on my yt recommendation, really needed this.

[@sabrinamaesee7405]

This video really put into words how I was feeling. Something was off and now I know those were signs of unhealthy attachment. Hope this helps me move on!

[@DaniRiversRoads]

This is beautiful, thank you ❤️🙏

[@TaraHower]

❤😢 for the first time, I definitely feel this and it’s so peaceful. I want nothing less than this for the rest of my life.

[@missdoreen4290]

this is such an eye-opener ✍️ , thank you Psych2Go 🙏

[@ChiChi-ni4pw]

Took time for me to understand these things until now. Thank you ✨

[@hayeonkim7838]

Thanks for meaningful and valuable video as always ❤❤❤

[@Psych2go]

Thank you for commenting!!

[@Taylornthebois]

My partner makes me feel safe, its only been 5 months and I've never smiled so much til i met him:)

[@cyrus72707]

0:01 Baby don’t hurt me… don’t hurt me no mo…

[@pardus3049]

Sometimes we know there are better options for us but we still want who we want.

[@thrill102]

Therapy helps figure out the “why” usually it can be something from your past causing you to have attachment to certain people.

[@pardus3049]

@@thrill102 Yes that was it. And even if one resolves that attachment source it doesn't mean they can't actually still like/love the individual from a healthier state of being and perspective. It can even strengthen the love for the person you had the attachment to because you love yourself more and first.

[@justynak5870]

How I should understand that? Say something more? ​@@pardus3049

[@paavaniap4534]

You are putting in a lot of effort to motivate aspirants....Good job!.....👏

[@irinadumitru9088]

Excellent video! I hope that ppl can identify where everyone stands!

[@kevyready2194]

Relationships or love are such a mystery. It honestly feels like people need to be in a relationship because it's an accommodation and a supposed safe haven for a person. Like if someone sees their ex get into a relationship, then they feel the need to be into one because they feel vulnerable. Perphaps they see their ex know their worth, moved on, realized they are more fish in the sea-- and that other person fewls jealous, exposed and tries hastily get into a new relationship they try to recreate the lovey dovey feelings they had with their ex then get attached. Honestly it's kinda frustrating to see this happen to your friends and family. I've seen this happened. Two friends of mine dated for a year and it seemed they were soul mates but I guess they didn't know the ropes of being in a relationship because well... it was their first time being in one. Years passed by and one of them got into a relationship then that other person seemed to panicked because she moved one and so on. It was like who could outdo each other and try to have the most fun and be the most happy without each other. To this day they looked hurt and honestly miserable when going on and off the dating market

[@AJones-rh7sq]

This is beautiful I've been watching these videos for years it really does Hot different with the insight

[@ankushrajsinghdeo6308]

The timing can't be more perfect

[@usz7553]

I LIVE YOU

[@Psych2go]

THANK YOU FOR LIVING US!

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[@mswr3351]

We should feel safe in relationships to share our feelings .. emotional safety is most important

[@jsm33t]

the bgm of these videos are so calming 🫶💯

[@sandra8991]

Thank you so much 🌸 very helpful

[@Christ_Focusedd]

This is soooooooooo good!!

[@joytiston9769]

Thank you for this. I'm enlightened indeed. Perhaps I just feel sympathetic towards the person I'm with today. Or perhaps it's just all attachments. I'll consider it.

[@bookenjoyer3970]

This is my favourite animation style of late ❤

[@joselonguenda4291]

So insightful 👏👏👏👏

[@Saaki_Sakie]

Wow, wonderful. Tnx ! Still watching

[@maquelinemyojo3999]

Thanks Psych2Go! Even if I´ve never really been in a romantic relationship, this still helped me evaluate my platonic and familial ones which all in all clarified some thoughts for me ^^ So yeah thank youu 🥰

[@varshasrivastava492]

Sometimes my relationship with my partner (8-years relationship) turns into Emotional invalidation scenario because life has been particularly difficult for him recently. He belittles trouble I go through in my life , but then I have to explain why he is being wrong and he understands. Final word - don’t give up on a relationship without talking through your issues

[@dianarapi6159]

Awesome video!!

[@shiyasharma7371]

I loved the video. We often misunderstand attachment as love and the video tells us how we can understand the terms well.

[@rushabhjain8598]

Quite true

[@whitneykinser3149]

Never will I ever think of love the same way.

[@dnugget924]

I was in an unhealthy relationship but didn't know it at the time! I experienced a majority of these even though the person I was with seemed like a "nice guy" to everyone

[@adia990]

I just got into a new relationship last week after one year of being single so I definitely needed this refresher!! Thank you ❤

[@Psych2go]

Omgosh! Congratulations! We have a lot of relationship videos on this channel. Free feel to watch them! It will help you improve your relationship and communication even better!

[@Goofy_Clown]

I think I’m just attached and I’m just terrible at saying goodbye

[@moniqueuu8777]

I knew it wasn't love, but didn't know how to define what I felt: now I know it was just an attachment.

[@GhoulSlayer-iv5cy]

Thank you ❤️ it made me see things clearer I had just went threw a break up ...let this person move in ...tell her everything...all the red flags ..I'd try to listen..but I'd miss two words and if I was directed to what I needed to do I'd freak out and forget...than I'm being yelled at being told I never listen..or care when I drop a negative situation

[@GhoulSlayer-iv5cy]

I'm autistic..and selfless.....I put people ahead of my own ... feelings.... I tend to drop situations that are negative..if it's (a first thought )thing or situation that holds old bagged I will.( Forgive and forget) People don't see things the same way in surtin situations.....but familiar settings in situations I've been threw ...are the reason I can drop it 👏

[@GhoulSlayer-iv5cy]

I hope these are read👀 ...I'm being open About it .... because I've always liked watching phyctogo I love the truth.and facts And learning...

[@SJinspiration777]

Beautiful video ❤

[@thealivechick1377]

Ive been your subscriber for a year and honestly im so greatful for this channel 💗💗💗

[@Psych2go]

We're so grateful to have you here! Which topics are you current favorites at the moment?

[@thealivechick1377]

@Psych2go 100% the ones ab attachment and relationships

[@vanillawafflecookie]

This really helped a lot thank you!❤❤❤

[@Psych2go]

Glad it helped! Thanks for commenting and watching! 💕

[@jeffwhite1334]

My therapist has done a great job helping me understand my divorce and why I wanted it, but this video was a great reminder to me of some of the feelings (or lack thereof) that led me to realize I wasn’t in love and probably hadn’t been. I’ve struggled with the guilt, but this video helped remind me of some of the reasons why my divorce was justified. I still wish I had realized it much sooner, but better late than never.

[@jadwigakorabchrzanowska1635]

I think what we are talking about in this video, is an emotion towards the other person. I believe LOVE IS NOT THE EMOTION. Why? When we say we love somebody we should ask ourselves are we willing to sacrifice everything for them. If not, we do not love them. Love should be something very deep, selfless. Love is a will not a feeling. Feelings come and go. Desiring everything good for the other person stays. Also, good love is someting that feeds us with happiness that even if we don't get anything in return, we are still happy to be a good person for the others.

[@artbeau1234]

Yup, I definitely love her haha. Thank you for the video!

[@victoriaani250]

Is possible to mistake love? I don’t think so :) I love the description of love here!

[@jadentorres7322]

She is the absolute love of my life Its still good to learn some things about how complex love is and how it can be mistaken though

[@jdprettynails]

I’m starting to wonder if healthy relationships actually exist. I thought I was in a healthy relationship for 22 years but…..nope. Now I’m alone, lonelier and needier than ever

[@lunaspearitz1948]

Your relationship with someone else can only be as healthy as the relationship you have with yourself

[@klcg.6078]

I was kind of scared going into this video because this is my first relationship and i didn’t want to jinx myself, but turns out he’s the perfect man for me. I just hope im the same for him!

[@MySkinnydip]

It wasn’t the earth moving love I thought it would be. But I definitely was more attached.

[@DarkVeghetta]

I have two main issues with the 'signs' presented (points 1 & 2) and one observation (point 3): 1) Power imbalances are NOT inherently bad for a relationship. Arguably, it could be the opposite, since most women show a strong preference for capable & socially powerful men (thus, leading to attachment and lust, which both are linked to love). _Abuse_ of a power imbalance is the problem, not the dynamic itself. Furthermore, stating that power imbalances are a sign of an 'unhealthy love' is not only insulting to the vast majority of couples that have ever existed and that do exist, outside of the West in the past 100 years or so, it's also an arrogant assertion that dictates a specific dynamic, regardless of how the people involved feel about it. Case and point, traditional relationships typically have a power imbalance and have fostered love for hundreds of thousands of years and still do outside of the West. Likewise, BDSM relationships thrive on such power imbalances - so much so that you literally can't have a BDSM relationship without it. The problem is the _abuse of power,_ not the power itself. 2) Criticism, used thoughtfully, is healthy within a romantic relationship. Ideally, it should be handled with care for the other person's feelings, though this might not always be feasible in reality and the degree of discomfort evoked matters quite a bit. Criticism within a relationship is, essentially, an incompatibility that is strong enough to require verbalization or change - one or either party might have to change their views on the matter as a result, or learn to ignore said issue. For example, if your partner doesn't bathe for weeks on end and this bothers you and even affects your attraction towards them, it is _not_ unhealthy to gently encourage them to take a bath and, if the problem persists or is outright ignored, discuss the issue openly (as _gently_ as possible, if your partner is sensitive towards criticism, though some don't mind being told bluntly), and work towards a solution amenable to both parties. We always judge each other, all the time - you're literally doing it now while reading this - it's normal and healthy, as long as it's not used as a cudgel. Use criticism sparingly and with care - it can be a double-edged sword, but it is a vital tool in any relationship. Ideally, a relationship should bring out the best in us, even if that requires change. Compromises will likely occur and your partner will judge you. As long as they do so with a loving heart, there is no problem. Certainly, compatibility would suggest that most issues should have been pre-selected for before the relationship started, but some incompatibilities will always exist (and can even develop during the relationship); these need to be navigated somehow. Yet again, it is the _abuse_ of this vital mechanism (i.e. abusive criticism / belittling / shaming) that leads to an unhealthy relationship, not the mechanism of criticism itself. 3) While I agree that emotional invalidation is an unpleasant experience, I do want to add that some people simply have a very hard time empathizing - it might just not be something they're good at. Ideally, find out how your partner handles this and if you can accept it or not prior to a romantic relationship forming, because empathy is not easily learned and might even never change.

[@AT-pw9dx]

Wow! Love the nuance inbyour thinking!!!! Can you expand on the empathy point please?

[@grungegirl4250]

Really thought I loved this guy, he hurt me not physically but he controlled what i did and left me silent treatment if I talked to other people. He would make me block people. So much worse stuff continued and I still loved him after he broke up with me. I watched this and realised, It wasnt love what he had, he used me for my body and I was just attached. Thankyou for this.

[@user-vm8kd2ut4h]

I felt the same way. It’s been a month already since he broke up with me. Still it hurts me so deeply.

[@grungegirl4250]

@@user-vm8kd2ut4h hey, Hope your ok. Ive been doing better now and my advice is focus on your self. I know thats what everyone says and at first i didnt take peoples advice, but try it. Hope you feel better xx

[@JesusLightsYourPath]

I think I'm in love but I'm scared. He already said he loves me. I told him I'm not ready yet and he understands. We can be honest about anything with one another.

[@owenthebowen7128]

This helped alot

[@Psych2go]

Thank you for watching and supporting our work!

[@eternitysade17]

Right now my lover and I aren’t on talking terms. I’m stubborn but I can most definitely relate to being on the opposing side of healthy in some areas. We both unintentionally hurt each other at times but I know it’s love. It might even be a bit of attachment. But when you know you know. I’ll do anything I can to cherish him. ❤

[@redheadbelle]

4:59 ❤ i’m all in for healthy love.

[@kd_ss]

What stood out to me most is thought this video was when she pinpointed the act of just being in each other’s presence, and not really feeling any sort of buzz. That explains so much of my last relationship, and maybe the rest. Sometimes, though, I start to feel like I’m, not unworthy, but incapable of falling in _real_ love, and it’s sort of scary because I can only feel okay with being alone for so long.. What I also am aware of though, I’m barely 17 yet, so there’s much time ahead of me. Manifesting I find the girl that I deserve and vice versa ❤

[@Saaki_Sakie]

Yes relatable n helpful, tnq

[@dragodragon9031]

Its exactly true with my ex wife: A need of atachement, but after 15 year we devorced and I understand that it was not love, in was dependecy. I am alone now. I feal lonely but its better for both of us. Its verry hard to accept the truth, but once you accepted and keep going its much more simple to continue your life... Good luck eveerybody to find your soul mate !

[@Lusitania_memes]

The "What is love" at the beginning made me say "Baby don't hurt me"