Signs You're Falling In Love, But You Don't Even Know

Love has a sneaky way of creeping into our lives when we least expect it. Sometimes, the signs that we're falling in love are subtle, and we might not even realize it until it's right there in front of us.
In this video, we explore the telltale signs that you're falling in love, even if you haven't fully acknowledged it yet. Relationships and dating can be confusing, so here are a few unmistakable signs of falling in love.
#love #relationship #dating
Writer: Onnie
Script Editor: Kelly Soong
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera ( / amandasilvera )
Animator: Zuzia
KZbin Manager: Cindy Cheong

[@Psych2go]

How's everyone doing so far?

[@合合合合合合合合合合]

hanging in there...

[@OPenultimoterrariano]

Good!

[@gamechannelminecraft6583]

Hello everyone, good viewing🐼

[@MilaMoonStar]

So early!!!

[@valennt.1]

Great!! 🥳

[@kentucky_ken]

So early that the timestamp commenters are still not here.

[@XRaine_.Mistx3]

Real

[@noobzito2]

Mine is way too big😅

[@lolabear3230]

Who's still hear in 2024 💖💖💖

[@noobzito2]

@@lolabear3230 me

[@Psych2go]

So fast!

[@theambitiousduck]

welcome back to "am i in love or do i have a terrible platonic crush?"

[@ngtiffany5769]

Same! 😭 I have so many signs mentioned here with a new friend for over half a year now. I think I might just have a terrible platonic crush 😅

[@Kurumisama]

Ouch...

[@Thesaneman334]

Same

[@nayumichan_desu]

this is me for the past years of questioning my feelings. ._.

[@leeexploreeatenjoy4730]

Hahaha same here 😂

[@kendall9036]

oh these videos have been SPECIFIC lately 😭

[@valennt.1]

for realll 😭😭

[@wildfyah]

Very.

[@impossiblyirreverent]

BRO REAL im like this cannot be real anymore what 😭

[@proXevo]

Very very very relatable💀

[@BrokenSoulConfession]

The algorithm tracks your search and view history

[@noobzito2]

Timestamp! -0:39 Their voice makes you smile for no reason -0:54 You always wait for their texts -1:02 You are intensly curious about them -1:21 You feel safe around them -1:42 You can't stop talking about them -1:54 It feels super easy -2:10 You act in their interest -2:22 You don't feel anxious about getting hurt -2:32 You feel their pain -2:44 Your outlook on life looks more positive -2:59 literally everything reminds you of them -3:15 You want to do things you've already done again -3:35 You value thei opinions about future plans -3:49 You feel adventurous! -4:04 You are more affectionate -4:20 You can see their quirks and look past them -4:46 You wnat to show them all your favourite things -4:58 You feel more love for others -5:15 Their scent draws a magnet -5:32 You feel like a better person -6:08 When an ex pops back into your life -6:33 Every love song reminds you of them Dam thats a lot xd (22)

[@Redheadbelle]

❤

[@sakonan4883]

I’m surprised by how many, too.

[@noobzito2]

@@sakonan4883 yup😅 at least I made one (even though I think it doesn't help)

[@LastEarBender]

Thank you!!

[@SunshineSushix]

You just saved me 6:45 minutes

[@gamechannelminecraft6583]

"Congrats to everyone Who is early and who found this comment.. 🐼🐧😊

[@Lizzypalm]

Thank you☝️🤓

[@Faith_saves7]

Thank you ❤ Jesus Christ loves you so unconditionally

[@paper_gurly]

thanks :>

[@Kukiiiii-]

Ty

[@grawman67]

Why would your comment be more special than any other where we're lucky?

[@neofulcrum5013]

I still remember the time I first fell in love: it’s a growing warmth. You start picturing the things you’d wanna do with that crush (hang out, hold hands, kiss, hug). That person almost always on your mind. Wish I could feel that again and have someone to ease that loneliness.

[@avengerboy2171]

Then look for friends, talk to new people, socialize in some way.

[@oliverdk7594]

That there is something I can never experience. Im incapable to form deep connections with others. The worse part is that I do have strong Empathy, so it just hurts to know I’ll never have that.

[@avengerboy2171]

@@oliverdk7594 That isn't true, you just haven't currently met anyone who you've been able to have that connection with. Keep pushing, I know it's hard but that is something all of us go through. It took me time before I was able to climb out of that depression and went on to form strong connections with others, don't lose hope.

[@Martin-ld6uo]

Yea, falling in love is the worst, because they either don't like you back or already are in a relationship

[@oliverdk7594]

@@avengerboy2171 Not seeing that happening when im an Aromantic, its a matter of fact, I already faced reality and accepted that. Having friends is the closest I can get to Love or a deep connection. Just not deep enough to call it a relationship, ever. It’s a sad truth but again I don’t know if I would call it that, dont feel like im missing out alot and besides, Its not that bad.

[@yensteel]

For me, the biggest sign was that i want her to be happy. If she's happy, I'm happy. Empathy, an emotional connection was "my" key. The girl lost interest in me, and we seperated. It hurt a lot, but when I saw her with another man happy, I felt surprisingly grateful that she is in good hands. As long as she's happy, I am too. Love should be selfless, but it's rare.

[@fridagylterud9491]

You’re a good man for being happy for her even though she’s with another man☺️👌

[@yensteel]

@@fridagylterud9491 Aw, thanks! ^ ^

[@JustaNobody-j8x]

Meanwhile, my imaginary love life is more fulfilling than my real one.

[@warped_view]

real

[@valerioharvey7289]

no real life relationships are like those in movies.

[@kushclarkkent6669]

The art on this channel is so CUTE!😭

[@Psych2go]

Thank you for the love and support! This means a lot to our animation team!

[@JustDilasX]

@@Psych2goi love your channel! And the artist is very talented!

[@simplereally.]

"Knock, knock." "Who’s there?" "Pauline." "Pauline, who?" "I’m Pauline, in love with you"

[@Ilive4soccer]

Have you tried that out?

[@animefan4050]

BYE i like falling inlove with someone but I LIKE IM IN DENIAL but i dont know I'm just being delusional? Im so confused

[@BreadRinger]

The greatest sign of falling in love is to become so synchronized that your partner's emotions genuinely affect your own.

[@xp7955]

"Falling in love is like a messy, beautiful mix of emotions..." Got me cryin

[@jonaichi_09]

Just don't put them on a pedestal ... That will affect you badly, and the other person probably doesn't want to be put on a pedestal like that either. Relax and have fun. And if you're wondering to ask them out or not, do it. You might regret it if someone else takes that opportunity from you.

[@niharikamishra1786]

I just wanted to say that I have been subscribed to this channel for over 2 years and it has helped me a lot.Thank you so much Phych2Go❤

[@Psych2go]

Wow, 2 years! That's incredible, thank YOU for being a part of the Psych2Go community for so long. I'm so happy to hear the channel has been helpful for you. Here's to many more years of exploring psychology together!

[@A55a551n]

Timestamps 1). Their voice makes you smile for no reason 0:38 2). You always wait for their texts 0:53 3). You are intensly curious about them 1:02 4). You feel safe around them 1:20 5). You can't stop talking about them 1:41 6). It feels supper easy 1:54 7). You act in their best interest 2:09 8). You don't feel anxious about getting hurt 2:20 9). You feel their pain 2:33 10). Your outlook on life becomes more positive 2:43 11). Literally everything reminds you of them 2:58 12). You want to do things you've already done again 3:14 13). You value their opinions about future plans 3:35 14). You feel adventurous 3:49 15). You are affectionate 4:03 16). You can see their quirks and look past them 4:19 17). You want to show them all of your favourite things 4:45 18). You feel more love for others 4:56 19). Their scent draws a magnet 5:15 20). You feel like a better person 5:31 21). When an ex pops back into your life 6:07 22). Every love song reminds you of them 6:31 Hope this helps you out. Hope this helps you out. Sorry this is so late. And today is my birthday too. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

[@goldensparkle]

TYSM 😊😊😊 Happy Birthday ❤❤❤ 🎉🎉🎉

[@wyy.a]

TYYY and happy birthday !!! ❤

[@A55a551n]

@@goldensparkle thank you

[@A55a551n]

@@wyy.a thank you

[@hassanhazrat3615]

Sorry I'm late. Happy birthday. Hope it was an amazing day for you ☺

[@coachclaudiawith_hope]

Yes, it took me 42 years to fall in love with a great friendship and it’s going on five years. Even communicating when there are disagreements become better with time. I believe the fear of being hurt may still happen. There are no guarantees❤

[@abynevermore5542]

I needed that Tnx❤

[@Justanov]

I don't know why do I watch these when I'm dead single.

[@davids2096]

Falling in love can be the scariest thing ever, and also give you the greatest sensation of elation and bliss! It's a paradox like most things in life it seems! Sometimes it's hard to know what's right and what's comfortable! That's my 2 cents! Take care!

[@skiadrum99]

Hey peeps. I may not have found so somebody yet, but I'm sure y'all can. Don't give up hope and neither will I!

[@coco_gamerCastle]

Thanks Man! It really Brings my hopes Up atleast a little bit more! :D

[@PlasmaWolf6890]

Thanks a lot😊 It’s nice to see positive people in the world😊

[@Yui_Xio_Kaz]

I was trying to hide the fact I'm in love, but now I know I was lying to myself

[@thanhmaile1938]

why is this so RELATABLE?!?😱😱😱

[@eyeballmaster610]

About half of them also think you. You are one of the reasons I didn't kill myself. You made me see the good in things I used to think were bad. And your videos made me cry with joy when I was sad on some days.

[@lunamoon3240]

Thank you so much, i realised my feelings and have a Boyfriend now.

[@B1uenty]

Yo guys I need help. This girl recently called me “not bad looking” and “I feel like a lot of people have had a crush on you” and I just realized she has been pretty physical with me, always playfully slapping my arm and recently touched me in a comforting way. She also constantly hangs out with me and can get pretty close to me. Pls help me T-T

[@mikerosoft2179]

if your're interested in her express it, if not then don't but maybe ask her if she is interested in you & try to have conversation about it.

[@nunahovy]

She might have platonic feelings towards you, and just consider you pretty, or she does like you. The only way for you to know is to ask her what she feels whitout compromising her if she just wants to be friends.

[@B1uenty]

Thanks, I really appreciate it

[@PlasmaWolf6890]

Oh shoot I just realized someone else does something similar to me

[@thejtown1]

ask her out dumbass

[@mkei1989]

Feels somehow illegal to be this early.

[@Psych2go]

So fast! Thanks for being here early with us!

[@mkei1989]

My pleasure! 🤗✨

[@dwyer1964]

Omg, I feel many of these with my friend. She's perfect.

[@nnajilight8008]

Damn I just asked her out over text and boom I got this notification 😂

[@Psych2go]

talk about the timing!! Did you find this video resonate with you? :D

[@coco_gamerCastle]

What did she say?

[@nova_nite9586]

👀

[@harsharajirkar7053]

Yes, I'm in love. & we are in relationship (a fucked up). We had breakups. We had patch ups. Twist is that she doesn't even know about this. It's only me, stuck in this loop.

[@Blissfulvoid26]

I’m literally over here head over heels so someone and this video pops up. This channel is getting too specific.

[@chzekeburkes812]

okay but why do ya always drop a video that correlates to what’s going on in my life 😂 love this channel 💯

[@Psych2go]

Haha, that's creepy...ly good timing! Maybe you're just manifesting awesome content, or maybe we have psychic... Either way, I'm glad you love the channel!

[@chzekeburkes812]

@@Psych2go for sure keep making content 💯 more life to you , the team , and everybody’s loved ones thank you guys for helping me figure things out 🙏🏿

[@deshawnwilliams7556]

I was just having a debate with myself over this 😭. And this helps so much

[@PlasmaWolf6890]

Same. Emotions at confusing

[@seasonsofsunoo]

0:55 Waaaah is that typo intentional? I couldn’t help it but I still love you my most fave youtube channel. Am I in love?

[@stargazerskingdom1901]

Gosh this video is making me smile involuntarily... And yeah many of the signs explained do match with my feelings when I fell in love with a guy during high school...

[@Raven-Rose_Goth584]

I wish I had gf but unfortunately her mother too controlling I feel like she likes me but have not seeing her at all most people cheat or blackmail using for money

[@wildfyah]

Am I really though? I haven't really been there with him physically since August last year but we've stayed in touch. I know i have feelings for him but can't say it's love or not

[@ethereal_taytay]

as an aroace person i love watching these for my writing

[@nanamishita9048]

I think I'm aromantic, I have felt most of them with my friends. Can you do a video about the difference of romantic love and platonic love?

[@PersonCuber]

I do want to see this actually

[@deadrat2003]

me too T-T once I thought I had feelings for a girl but I just found her attractive and cool

[@XRaine_.Mistx3]

Ok now that you uploaded time go head to bed 😴😴

[@lightningleopard8877]

A girl and I were doing pretty much all of these, I was starting to fall for her and I could tell she was falling for me. Then one morning she threw it all away, I’m still grieving 🥺😢😭

[@coco_gamerCastle]

Thats sad man, I Hope You find someone else or she Falls for you again.

[@RT65CB-SWL]

Same here. She blames me. 😢💔

[@PersonCuber]

Dang bro, I feel for you, you got more courage than I do, I'm terrified of something like that happening to me at least for now

[@rooksmoore1918]

Oop, i got 100% i am COOKED (and ill enjoy it)❤❤

[@melancholicburger804]

nahh, i can't even make eye contact lmao

[@PlasmaWolf6890]

Thanks so much😊 Whenever I’m feeling kinda down or feeling confused about my emotions, i just come to this channel. There’s always the video I need😊 (which is kinda creepy, but nice)

[@caleband1413]

I don't know if I'm aroace or not

[@phoenixthegreat2917]

So, I’m in 4th grade at a private school, and the school year is over. There’s this 6th grader that we would both share secrets with, and he has a crush on my sister. Now that the school year is over, I find myself daydreaming about him and the year, and I’m really starting to miss him. But, my birthday’s coming up soon, and I’m gonna invite him. But I don’t have the courage to tell him how I feel. I’m very good socially, with everyone really. But I just really miss him and keep texting him. I hope he comes.

[@dinospino6534]

I think I have a crush on my best friend....😅 This is literally me.

[@lucalonghi4496]

Hey psy, In the last video I asked for a video about autism, please bro, thank you 🙂

[@ue_evo]

Being honest i can't relate with this video byt yeah it nay help identify a person who us in love. I moved on from love because it's a fairy tale thingy nothing else.

[@icetea44]

ice tea44 made 100 like 😅

[@Onyx-k5t]

Your voice is very sweet and relaxing 🙃🙂

[@longhairddingus6970]

This quelled a lot of my worries with my own love life, Thank you!!

[@chisaten]

0:36 Why does this say the video has 15 signals that you are falling in love, but the time stamps have 22? A typo.

[@HollyBrayford]

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[@call911ok]

I like this voice over person better, thank you ^_^

[@gamechannelminecraft6583]

As always I love your videos🐼

[@Lumoz_]

As always you're using a panda emoji

[@Astrial_Rose12]

Out for a date on Monday, root for me y'all

[@its_dave67]

how was it

[@PersonCuber]

Good luck and have fun

[@crystaldance5731]

Oh my gosh I have churning in my stomach and butterflies so cute ❤️😊

[@sincopesosan1468]

6:47 Every single thing you mentioned in the video…

[@FactsFullinspiration]

Perfect timing, this is my first time being in correct timing i' ve had my relationship and friendship break up problems 💔😭

[@tigerx36]

When she walks in every time our circle of friends get together I'm one of the first she greets. And it just gets me every time. Just hearing her when we talk and crack jokes feels that much better. Feels like they're curious about me. I'm hoping she feels safe around me. We both think about each other quite a bit. We've both been hurt and feels like I can ease hers somehow. We talk about what we might do over the summer. I'm a bit more adventurous because of it. Her quirks? Her silly laugh, how she parts her hair, how she even leaned in a bit close. Not sure I'm ready to show my favorite things just yet. Haven't had any ex so no worries there.

[@Lizzypalm]

All✅ Good or bad?

[@Redheadbelle]

Good! ✅

[@Dominate25]

Came so early and don’t even know what to say

[@aetu35]

i couldve really used this video last year lmao

[@Moxxie_The_I.M.P]

Hey Psych2Go! There is a mistake at 0:54 because "Their" Is spelt wrong, you spelt it "Thei" just wanted to make sure you know!

[@Psych2go]

Oh no! Thanks for letting us know :(

[@DidiPlay_O-O]

Shit…..

[@mercedesblackett9636]

i love your videos ,

[@Kayeyuhh]

THIS FEELING IS WEIRDD BLEUGH

[@Lara.Laranja01]

FIRST❤❤❤

[@Angry_Jetpack]

I went through all but one of these a few months ago. She ended up blocking me and having a girlfriend without telling me, and that wasn’t fun to go through. But eh, life happens. It definitely hurt (and still kinda does), but there’s really nothing I can do about it. All I can say is that I wish she was honest from the start. I hope I’ll go through that cycle again at some point. My past relationship and this recent experience definitely set me back a LONG way, but I’m only 17. I still have a lot of life left.

[@Lizzypalm]

Bro this came at the most perfect time, I love the girl voice❤️🤍

[@Muichiro-Tokito-IRL]

How do all of them apply to me ;-;

[@jonilang]

Sadly it will never happen

[@Random_Gamer-sh6pf]

Guilty as charged, on all fronts. Damn, I'm hopeless 😅

[@Redheadbelle]

Made my day!! 💗💗 super happy!! 🙂🙂

[@khristianhornbaker1347]

A lot, thank you for your wisdom and support. 😊

[@draviren6311]

About 16/22 of these apply to me and one of my friends that I once had a huge crush on, but I'm learning to just be happy with our friendship. I don't think he has any feelings for me and that's okay, even if I really am falling for him. I think that proves I really do love him, I just want him to be happy. I don't really mind if that's with me or not but I would be happy if it was!

[@ancalagon7772]

I think 13 of those were accurate. 😂 Man. That’s rough.

[@meowchi.i]

E

[@Somethingiguess-tj6xo]

Makes me feel like something is wrong with me when I have never had a crush on someone (and/or liked someone), but desperately want to.

[@DavidJackson-r5c]

Lol. I just said this to myself!! I do know it's beyond amazing to even feel like WE DO. and saying that. We got alot of attn goin on and it's because two really. Really smart really 🔥 HOT GOOD LOOKING PEOPLE ARE REALLY HITTING IT OFF BIG TIME..AND ITS GREAT TO EVEN EXPERIENCE THIS..THE THING IS..THE MAIN THING IS..THERES SOO MUCH MORE TO COME

[@Danielovesrock247]

Talked to someone for the first time and I feel 100% safe and comfortable around him and we sing, laugh, smile and joke together. I’ve only talked to him for one day and the day I started to talk to him I started to have a crush. How comfortable and safe I feel around him is like I’ve known him most of my life and I get the vibe he feels the same. HE ASKED FOR MY SOCIALS AFTER SCHOOL THAT DAY. It’s now Saturday and I talked to him yesterday and I can’t stop thinking about him and I’m pretty sure he’s gay that gives me a higher chance of actually dating him. (I wrote this comment before I started to watch the video and I’m 1:44 in the video and every thing she said is what’s going on) OMGG 3:50 that let he did to me, he actually listens to me too

[@Danielovesrock247]

The second time thing was actually 3:46

[@Danielovesrock247]

I woke up at 3am and as soon as I was properly awake I humming “Havana oh nana half of my heart” cause me, him and two of my other friends were singing it together. I was sitting next to him while singing it

[@June-hc5hm]

there's this sweet, and nice, and very respectful boy who i found out likes me... and we had just became friends, even though we were in the same class since a year. He confessed he liked me from day one, when i transferred to their school. And i find the things he does, in my presence very cute. I smile when i think about him, i repeatedly check my phone, if he texted me. I don't always feel it, but my heart does occasionally skip a beat. But i rejected him. I respect his feelings, but i'm still in school, and only 15. So studying and art is my most important priority. But if i was older, i think i would have said yes... i would have been willing to try it out, because he's so nice, and extremely sweet, and cute.. I rejected him, but i think i've started to like him back.. what the heck do i do?

[@4_bfbfan]

Yayyyyy!!! I was looking for a long time for a video like this:’3

[@Mayaluv]

NAUR I CANT BE FALLING IBLOVE WOH THEM

[@mostinterestingcritter._.]

I'm first:D you dropped a pin can I have it?

[@majohladky3249]

Goddamnit! I'm in love... I met a girl 4,5 years ago. First few weeks I thought I just fell in love with her because she is so gorgeous looking. But as time passed I just couldn't get her out of my head. The more I got to know her the more I liked her... I expressed my feelings to her but she had someone at the time and I was working abroad and so i did try to "close the door"(in a scorpio fashion i tried to move on😅). 3years we were not in contact. I honestly thought she would be doing good, getting married or she be having kids by now... But few weeks ago we met again. She ended the relationship 2months ago and since the moment I met her again every color is 10x more vibrant😂😅... So I'm asking you for help Psych2go team! What would be the optimal "dating" strategy?( I do what to be a friend to her so that she gets to know me better and thats the healthiest way to progress to anything more serious. I'm a deep deep water). What would be a good interval for asking her out? Once a month?. Thx😊

[@Runwithmewillya]

"A worn dagger, rusted with blood but will still get the job done, who knows maybe it's been waiting for you"

[@Psych2go]

An interesting companion. Perhaps it has a story to tell, or a destiny to fulfill. Is it waiting for you to claim it, or are you the one it's been waiting for?

[@crystaldance5731]

Impeccable timing cute video thankyou ❤️😊

[@katlyngod3705]

This is why I think i might be in love (but I’m still not sure, help) I have tried getting closer to one of my friend’s friend (Hanna). And one day our class was watching a movie, I was in my normal seat but then I looked around to see Hanna sitting alone because her/my friend had moved to get a better view and suddenly I wanted to try to get a bit closer to her without her noticing, and it worked. But then I stopped paying attention to the movie and just started talking to her about random stuff like cats and how James is a stupid name (sorry everyone named James) Fast forward to today and I’m trying to plan a trip for me and my friends (and Hanna). And for some reason, it feels more important if Hanna could come than just everyone else but Hanna. I need an opinion!!!!

[@SkKs-e3s]

Dude I wait for my god brother text. But I don’t take love TAHST MUCH I just think it nice to wait

[@thesound1175]

Why do i feel? Why does the heard physically go brr bro?! I thought that was just some cringe anime trope. This is so dumb 😑

[@Fizzy_faizaan]

Me: Virgin forever ♾️🥳. I've never had a conversation with a girl outside in my life, (17 Years) I'm just like an NPC that answers the question I'm asked. it's very rare that happens though because they choose to ask someone else better looking than me 😐.

[@DaDMonDCB]

I hate this. XD I have someone who triggers every single one of these. Sadly just best friends. Mind, we'll be living together soon, and they don't mind my feelings... it could be worse.

[@DavidJackson-r5c]

Hey .I hope your having a great day..your always on my mind. I wonder how your doin and stuff like that. Things can get a lil sideways at times but it don't matter.. everything is gonna be alright. ❤

[@Ivannnnnnn-v3v]

A girl is asking me to go out but she post other boys in her social media. What should I do? To add she is my classmate and actually we’re doing good. She treat me food onetime and she sometimes ask me to go with her to get or buy something. Also we already hangout 2times the 1 time was in a pool hall and the second time was me and only her we talked about our school happenings(because we already graduated) then we just ride around the city and I also noticed that if we talk she smile and laugh even if I didn’t understand a thing. Do you think she liked me? Or am I delusional? I need helppp and adviceeeedddeee

[@allylambert8470]

I wish I could fall in love. But as isolated as I am that’s just not gonna happen😓 I keep my head buried in romance comic stories as an attempt to fill the void, but honestly I don’t know if it makes things better or worse😞😓

[@mekana-kv8qq]

I knew him before I dont want to like him he is the popular guy in our school but I just can't because I cant myself understand what I feel about him I shouldn't be love.

[@P3PP3R_S]

I don't know for sure if I'm in love. I want to kiss her and be with her but I don't want to make anything sexual, she's my best friend and I don't want to ruin anything in case she doesn't feel the same. I also don't feel physically attracted to her since she's "unattractive"

[@gutman7062]

After giving emotional trauma for few humans i guess, girls and men, i become totally alone, but now there could appear new apportunity, and i even have some resemblances with this video, but there is only thing i cant understand - did i become parasit and only thing i want is people around me suffer, or im too tired of being alone and finally become ready to change myself in good direction? Im not joking i cant understand, gentelmen help