Doctor Explains The BIOLOGICAL PROBLEM With Arranged Marriage In India

[@DrPal]

Thank you for all the love & support to our family. We are blessed 🙏🙏

[@sudarmathikajandran8922]

Hi Dr Pal I love watching your videos because they're both funny and insightful. Seeing this side of you, Doc, was a pleasant surprise. Thanks for sharing. Sending lots of love to you and your wife.

[@thikthik3629]

Sir neenga verum pala illa puti palla

[@bow-bow7083]

Love from Tirupur sundari😂❤

[@sreelakshmisreekumar2015]

Glad to see you here Dr. Your subscriber❤

[@NoName-lx7bd]

Thank you for sharing the personal story. My heart was aching when you paused and grieving for the lost babies. I pray for your healing and your wife's healing. You are one good soul doctor. God bless you.

[@dipu12341]

Thats why there was a gotra system in sanatan dharma .. never marry in same gotra.

[@rutajit2000]

The gotra system is patrilineal, meaning the daughter's children are not the same gotra as the maternal grandfather. This is the issue Dr. Pal was referring to, he and his wife are actually closely related but would not be of the same gotra.

[@gnaneshwarrao174]

Did someone tell you that is why we have Gotra system? Or did you come to that conclusion by yourself? I wish it is that easy to generalize the problem and solution.

[@akhilmvs387]

@@rutajit2000 even then also, cousin marriages are prohibited, south does follow in certain remote locations rather than the norm. But not all communities. Gotra maybe patrilinear, but these all factorsmust be taken into consideration.

[@dollysingh727]

True

[@saicharaniitkgp]

You are right dipu but people not only see the gotra of the person they are marrying we also look into their mother's paternal side gotra so we avoid the chances of these things happening

[@throughmyview8411]

Huge respect for him because way he said “we” had seven miscarriages and when “we” got pregnant, is something to be appreciated in him as a man.

[@krish21456]

thum log idar bhi aagaye kya 🤦‍♀. Whats the big deal even if he said her instead of we? Do you really think he would be an abusive father/husband? Such narrow minded people trying to find faults with everything.

[@AlexanderIsDead]

​@@krish21456 Well said, buddy. These mindless emotional fools are everywhere. The sensible and rational world as we know it ended long ago.

[@heroshe7786]

Here we means our community or like country not like some non sense of men can be pregnent. Just clearing it because it's not uncommon of having some rich kids with mental issues while understanding about the comman sense.

[@throughmyview8411]

@@krish21456 Makes a lot of difference to a wife whose husband supports her in her time of losing an unborn child. I had two miscarriages and you can’t even imagine how much I was targeted by my MIL and there was practically no emotion support.

[@slimshady8168]

Cringe

[@sjp3765]

Now that is a real man right there, see that break and crackle in the voice when he starts speaking about his wife, that is where painful memories overwhelm you. That pause his him fighting those memories and in the end he said "people should know". He choose greater good that himself.

[@ttaushu]

A note to TRS. It's not arrange marriage that is an issue. It is marrying in your own family. Nowhere did he say arrange marriage. I think if you marry in totally unrelated families, you should be fine.

[@shashankmish]

I think the reason that mostly "arranged marriage" has this issue is because people mostly tend to ask their distant relatives whether they know someone who is gonna be compatible for a marriage and overall if you see there is a high probability that they belong to the same community. This can happen in love marriages too but the chances may be lower

[@indieboy1033]

Most important comment here.👋

[@akashtn6682]

Clickbait hai bhai

[@song-mk6dz]

Exactly😊

[@SR-mv2mf]

It’s for click bait

[@bhavyasethi8247]

7 miscarriages🥺🥺 can't believe the pain faced by the both of you

[@vijayrangarajanramakrishna318]

Ikr😢😢

[@GURJARumeshkasana]

Thank god we in North have a better gotra system

[@ankansenapati3600]

​@@GURJARumeshkasanaabye saale gotra Mai 7-8 generation same hoga ancister

[@GURJARumeshkasana]

@takumiusui6667 yes bhai ...that's why I said better gotra system

[@expertunknown5063]

​@@GURJARumeshkasanayes, Northern part gotra system is best

[@kumaranvv3555]

Never thought this man had very hard time in his past, Appreciate his efforts

[@annamaangel6488]

I'm sorry I never knew Dr.pal was hiding so much pain behind his comedy and smile. Can't believe what your wife had gone through. So sorry for your loss. The pain always stays.

[@realSamarthT]

What ?

[@kgarodiya]

​@@realSamarthT 7 miscarriages is no joke, and that too one after 6 months is insane

[@realSamarthT]

@@kgarodiya omg May Shri Hari bless that lady

[@sao_rav]

Dr. Pal is one of a kind of doctor in India. I respect his thought process and his way of educating people and young minds of this world.

[@deepakbhuyan2467]

he lives in America !!!

[@themilkywaygaming7453]

Yeah California

[@deeptasuresh4434]

He’s not in India

[@kirus4701]

From tamil nadu , in US

[@debaprasad9379]

He is American

[@HarshitaDeshpande]

Felt the deep sense of pain Dr Pal and his wife went through when he was describing about the baby. My respect for him as increased even more for the kind of work he is doing for the benefit of society. Hats off Dr. Pal.

[@sai9209]

Now finally I understand the reason for asking or rather knowing the past 7 generations in our Telugu speaking states. It is commonly said to check the 7 generations of the boy's family and the same for the girl's side of the family. Intra family marriages are quite common still in Andhra Pradesh if not throughout South India, this video has been an eye opener for me at the right time, thanks to both ranveer and Dr.pal.

[@thejaswitharajesh]

Throughout South India...still there are people who are going for it

[@indranidutta1945]

This skipping of 7 generations in sanatana communities for choosing partners is perhaps a reflection of the most scientific temperament of our rishis and munis.

[@gokulvrindavan1858]

It's true. I'm working in andhra pradesh im from karnataka. I noticed congenital and many birth defects in new born as well as many grown up.... it's quite high in andhra than in karnataka.

[@preetijogi28]

It's also common in Tamil nadu, Karnataka and Kerala😢

[@gokulvrindavan1858]

@@preetijogi28 not that much. People in karnataka now aware of the consequences and avoid marriage within family

[@alphabetagammahahaha]

Immense respect!!! To publicly discuss such a personal loss, for no personal interest whatsoever, requires huge courage. Hats off to this person. Everyone has a dark phase, but to 'not give up' is the key. Thanks Dr Pal for sharing, so that it becomes someone else's survival guide in their tough times.❤

[@kavyashree7104]

Its really true, In south india blood relation marriage is very common, even educated also doing same mistake because of parents emotional blackmail. Now younger generation are suffering from genetical problems. Plz don't do such mistake.

[@usnasi4439]

In Kerala I personally haven't seen/know of anyone getting married to their relatives in the past 30 years, I see it s common in TN though till now.

[@JustMe54328]

It’s declining rapidly in southern Karnataka, thanks to education.

[@Anand2024]

5:02 I like the way how he dealt with this pain by reaseaching to know where he went wrong Brilliant Sir 👏👏 People often get vulnerable under stress and sad moments and loose their logic and rationale congratulations sir for going through these moments strong 💯💯💯💯

[@HumansOfUPSC-ri1nu]

So much respect to Dr Pal ❤

[@kalaivanig1883]

Dr Pal has always conveyed his medical points with a big sense of humour. First time seeing Dr Pal ,becoming to emotional & struggling to speak. Yet, was so nice that he shared his difficult times with us. Also, a great step to educate people on a very important issue to be taken care of. Dr Pal, doctor has blessed you with a beautiful child. Enjoy.....

[@sumee5628]

The thing with arranged marriages in India is people look for a partner from the same caste, community, gotra etc. This has a higher chance of a problem.The further away you go from people related to u, the better the chances of healthy babies. So marrying from a completely different caste and state should be encouraged.

[@MovieMatrix_11]

Not possible for everyone

[@Bhakt-TheDevotee]

You are wrong about Gotra. People look for different Gotra because if you share same Gotra then you are siblings. Half knowledge is dangerous.

[@sphansel3257]

ur name literally implies who you are @@Bhakt-TheDevotee

[@Anshul25]

Completely wrong first priority is gotra must be not same , caste and community is secondary

[@ayuship2022]

First south indian to accept this amazing doctor

[@keerthiadimulam9319]

So probably you haven't met many other south indians with the same mind set. He's not the first

[@Maratha382]

Definitely not the first.

[@akshayganesh4144]

I am a South Indian and I suffered from epilepsy during childhood even I accepted this problem of my society years ago because I have noticed these kind of disorders have been increasing in our family all because their parents were cross cousins. I was right when I read a research paper written by a Bulgarian NGO which studied on qalachi community which came with same conclusion

[@DurveshSawant-he4we]

The topics discussed in these channel are so different and knowledge than other channels

[@xclabbergaming6298]

True❤

[@seemsaw3503]

❤

[@Bharatverse308]

But people still troll him

[@DurveshSawant-he4we]

@@Bharatverse308 the are C

[@anuragsargam4360]

More respect to DR pal for opening up on such a personal thing

[@MysticEagle-ex8wu]

I agree with Dr. Pal. It still exists very much in the Nagarathar (Chettiar) community which incidentally Dr. Pal also comes from in TN. I come from that community too, no matter how much we tell elders, they are blinded by caste and marrying into the community. The genetic diseases are very rampant and I know a lot of relatives like that. It is said that all the Nagarathars originated from 7 people who escaped flood in Kaveripoompattinam and settled in Karaikudi. It cannot be hard to connect the dots for the elders who still make it impossible to marry outside the community.

[@Sathish_12]

Whole world has this mythology story where 7 sages or people came and re-established civilizations after the flood

[@sachinkhale7513]

I studied at CECRI in Karaikudi in the 90 s. Most people are staying and working outside India in Malaysia, Indonesia and Thailand. Huge mansions of Chettiar community made of pure teakwood. Allagappa University in Karaikudi I think inaugurated by PM Nehru then.Would love to visit again sometime in the future. Beautiful area covered by forests.

[@kdjoshi726]

That story sounds very similar to gotra system. Gotras being named after the saptarshis (7 rishis) & there are us, their descendents

[@mamatapandey6073]

omg the immense pain his wife must have gone through both physical and mental 😥🙏

[@Sarahwilliams567]

Oh my god i didn't know dr pal had gone through a lot, may good bless him and keep him away from problems!

[@aimanzahid6167]

As a genetic counsellor, I can say that marrying in relation (called consanguinity) might increase your risk of having children affected with certain kind of genetic disorders that have not yet been observed in your family due to expression of "disease causing" genes that were suppressed by other normal genes. There are certain ethnic groups where certain types of genetic disorders are more prevalent as compared to the general population. However, as human beings living in a society with emotions, it can be difficult to restrict or choose your life partner based on their genetic makeup. With advancements in genetic testing which is more readily available now, options of Carrier screening is suggested to such couples before marriage or before planning for pregnancy, which detects presence of any common genetic changes that might cause development of serious genetic disorders in their progeny.

[@XYZ88723]

Medical test before marriage where the bride and groom must undergo must be made compulsory.

[@aimanzahid6167]

@@XYZ88723 it should be mandatory for common disorders like thalassemia and spinal muscular atrophy in high-risk population

[@lsuvarna4077]

If wife and husband have a genetic problem can we overcome it by using any medication

[@user-lehsun-le-garib]

​@@lsuvarna4077I think we can Change/Cut/Modify gene from Embryo but it's not approved maybe a decade down the line We would be able to do that

[@aimanzahid6167]

@@lsuvarna4077 hi, the answer to your question isn't that simple since the treatment/medications depends upon what genetic problem does the couple have. Every genetic disorder follows a different mechanism of passing from one generation to another which is known as 'inheritance pattern'. Not all disorders can be cured, but can be managed (again depending upon the type of genetic disease you're talking about).

[@mr.objective6936]

A Syrian Catholic community, known as Knanaya, started off with about 35 families who moved to Kerala from Syria around year 345 A.D. Today, there maybe hundreds of thousands of them, all in-breeding to preserve a supposed heritage that wasn’t even recorded until year 1600. Genetic problems are frequent in that community and abortion is usually requested when they know the fetus has problems.

[@JitinMisra]

That is interesting , is it considered a bad to marry outside of religion or kanyana community ? I knew some kanyana girls, they sure do like ti drink lol

[@er.nitish7052]

Christians destroying Indian culture specially in Kerala

[@mathai5456]

Knanaya are not just catholic. There is an orthodox faction as well. I come from the community and number of any genetic disorder is no more than any other community as far as I have witnessed in the community.

[@haritham1060]

Kananaya is not only catholic they are also orthodox fraction

[@anniethomas9178]

Knanaya culture is similar to Parsi community, if one marries outside their community they are considered out of the community and won’t be considered as Knanayans

[@animetsystudio9841]

Now I understand even though I'm Buddhist, my mum is ok with love marriage. And personally I'm very picky in choosing people in my life, so arrange marriage is nightmare for me. God has given me brains to find my ideal type especially our personality should match and we must've vibe. Otherwise Idc being single for lifetime.

[@rahuldeshmukh5440]

In Marathas also the custom is there to marry sagga mama's daughter ,, they were putting preassure on my elder brother to do it but we fought against it... the girl we considered as our dear sister since childhood how can my brother or even any other brother of hers can think of marrying her... we should stop all this bullshit traditions ,, infact everyone should marry intrascaste and inter religion also.

[@aGiibb]

Yes my mother also thinks that it's okay to marry her brother's daughter. Me and my brother always oppose her for this thought.

[@nohandleforme511]

You took right decision

[@santoshpatil9354]

We have always seen Dr smiling and with great sense of humour... First time seeing him emotional... Respect for you sir...

[@kumudadv2787]

I had 4 miscarriage, immune reasons pointed but there is no clarity. We went through all tests, but no use. Post 1st miscarriage i studied head to toe but couldn't get any solution out of it. I can completely relate to you dr. Thanks for showing up your natural emotions. I wish i could find out someday or have a healthy pregnancy n kid of mine.

[@archanabhadauria1507]

The pause that he took while speaking about his loss is so familiar to me. You can’t get over such things. May God give their strength to those who suffer this. Iam really sorry for them. Hope it never happens to anyone. 😢

[@darshdarsh886]

My respect for Dr. Pal just increased 10 folds watching this video ❤

[@inspiritingmindset]

There is also this blood disorder called "Thalassaemia" major which is caused by faulty genes that a child inherits from their parents. You inherit one set gene from your mother and one from your father. That is why in India, i believe it is more important to get yourself tested for Thalassaemia before matching your Kundli. Because even now after so much of advanced technology, people and specifically some Gynaecologist here are still unaware of this blood disorder. So someone who has already gone through so much of hardships in life has to alert people and request them to please get yourself tested before getting married. Thanks for sharing this video, you are doing a wonderful job. 🙏

[@anonymousop6406]

Kundli means some religious practice right.. That's some non existing thing

[@inspiritingmindset]

If two people come forward to unite despite all odds and challenges, then kundli matching hardly makes any sense, but it's important to match a kundli for biological compatibility to avoid any genetic disorders/ complications. 🙏

[@anonymousop6406]

@@inspiritingmindset how can a educated person talk about kundli and all.. Where are we heading as a nation..

[@kdjoshi726]

@@inspiritingmindset bruh if you want to check biological compatibility then do the actual test, don't match kundli. Use some common sense yaar

[@inspiritingmindset]

@@kdjoshi726 i dont know if you're aware of the "Nadi dosh" read the comment again i mentioned to match the kundli for biological reasons, it helps assess the health compatibility of both the people. And last but not the least, in india people still believe and match the kundli's of their children before marriage and eventually it's all our personal preferences. 🙏 jai shree krishna

[@rutajit2000]

Dr. Niraj Rai mentioned the Vaisya and the Palar communities in South India, not the TamBrahm community. Consanguine marriages are not as common in the TamBrahm community though it does happen. In the Vaisya and Palar communities as well it is less common nowadays. It used to happen primarily for protecting and consolidating generational wealth.

[@mr.objective6936]

Beautiful 1970’s actress Parveen Babi might have got issues from her Pashtun Babi clan in-breeding with each other in Gujarat to preserve their heritage. She had to quit the film industry in her prime possibly because of those issues. Also, Syrian Catholics (Christian), known as knanaya community, started off with only about 35 families who moved to Kerala in year 345 AD. from Syria. Now there may be hundreds of thousands of them in-breeding within the same gene pool to preserve their supposed “heritage ”., which wasn’t even monitored until the year 1600. Genetic problems are high among children in that community.

[@srijachakraborty8099]

And Dr.rai didn't speak a word about Bengalees being inbred😢

[@user_proton]

Exactly! @beerbiceps please watch your own videos before stating something from it yaar 🤦

[@ruhikapoor2181]

It used to be common among tambrahms also.. please don't lie.. bro.. i have myself seen so many tambrahms marrying their own maternal uncle's daughter/son and paternal aunts daughter/son.. But now they dont do it..

[@VinodKumar-oh9du]

Bottomline...marrying within the same caste amounts to incest

[@surojitsengupta]

Bengalis are strict followers of the Gotra system, while some small exceptions exist. Largely, people following the practice of arranged marriages, always check on the gotra before committing.

[@mverick5444]

Bengalis are quite liberal and marry intercaste as well

[@harshagrawal1056]

We marwadis also follow the gotra system strictly

[@mverick5444]

@@harshagrawal1056 yes but not intercaste

[@goofyguy6954]

@@harshagrawal1056 Didn't he mentioned agrawal's who marry in their community only.

[@harshagrawal1056]

@@goofyguy6954 but we marry into different gotras. You can be from the same community or caste but gotra should be different

[@pnaikalpa]

Even in Gujrati we see seven generation and don't marry in the family having blood relation We do have gotra system Our ancestors are most brilliant and wise who created Gotra😊

[@parikshithegde7477]

Just having different gotra doesn't resolve the issue of genetics. According to gotra, Dr Pal's father marrying his sister's daughter is correct since they'd be from different gotras, assuming his brother in law is from a different gotra. It's more about not sharing the same gene for as long as possible.

[@shubhikapant5385]

​@@parikshithegde7477not really it's different in south n north in north mostly cannot marry cousins at all different people with same gotra only allowed.

[@sanjanagupta4044]

In North we don't marry within same gotra. Be it from paternal or maternal. Every family has two roots, we call it mul. Before any marriage alliance we talk about muls fr both maternal and paternal sides, if any of the mul is same we don't proceed further talks about marriage.

[@aravindchandroo]

Even in the south we have the gotra system where when we marry the cross cousin we don’t share the same gotra. Muslim communities marry parallel cousins though.

[@goofyguy6954]

@@sanjanagupta4044 Whats mul? Can you please educate me on this.

[@supersetia]

Great insight about genetic overlap and how to avoid it and nice to see that our ancestors were already practicing it.

[@shravanacharyaofficial]

can't even imagine the amount of pain this man and his wife have been through 🥺 huge respect for such a strong mindset. 🙏🏻

[@anootoshsarkar686]

That's why I Love watching Dr. Pal Manickyam, he is truly a Genuine man...❤ His blogs

[@AnjaliVerma-bx6os]

Dr pal is great ❤ Thanks to Ranveer for calling him on podcast

[@jainamssj]

This man is something... It's not easy to talk about personal conception on a public podcast.. more power to you dr. Pal.. and yeah I'm your subscriber as well.. From way before i subscribed to ranveer

[@shubhadaotari425]

It's very true. My husband and I had twins, and both were abnormal. Despite neither of us having any health issues, we endeavored to find the root cause of our children's problems. We discovered that we are distant relatives, sharing the same great-great-great-grandmother. This connection spans approximately three generations back, and no one in the intervening generations had experienced the same issue. Unfortunately, our children did, and both of them are no longer alive.

[@Naniirowadesuka]

look at the pain he is going through, dr. manikkam pal thanks for sharing this

[@deepalazarus2399]

These kind of marriages within the family are still prevalent in many states of India. Hope this video can go viral to educate the seniors who are responsible for this.

[@geethashetty7690]

Wow what a range ,did Ranveer really get Dr Pal on his show ? 👏 👏

[@mverick5444]

Finally he did something correct. Late but nonetheless welcome.

[@PKSD2019]

Yes. There is a community of vaishyas..they have lost a gene which responds to anesthesia. Doctors in my region ( andhra ) specifically ask the caste...to know if anesthesia works on him or not. Its bcoz of too much in breeding within caste. In many cases of arranged marriage, parents often try to find potential brides among close relatives. In my own family, i have seen multiple cases where partners shared a common ancestor some 3-4 generations back. Gotra system is actually very scientific. It prevents recessive disorders. But u get gotra only from father...but genes from both father and mother. If intra caste marriages happen for few more hundred years, younger generation will have to face lot of health issues. There must be genetic diversity. 2 healthy distinct genetics create a healthy, stronger, resilient child. In puranas we happen to see people marrying outside their community. And they produced offsprings of exceptional knowledge or strength.

[@Optimistic_aspirant]

Never knew the doctor who educates his audience through his comical videos has gone through such tough situations in his life😢

[@DEFENDER1932]

This information is hell of a useful thing..Many people will be helped if published in NCERT books 📚

[@Nilakshi23]

First of all Thanks to Ranveer for bringing Dr Paul into your show, and this discussion was absolutely to the point and we are speechless.

[@ArthurJamesReal]

After Hearing this my belief for Gotra in Our Culture has increases

[@malathicotelingam9235]

Even totally unrelated marriages like mine turned out that we had a genetic probability of having Thallasemia Major child who is dependent on blood transfusion every 3rd week all their life and costly iron chelation treatment every day.

[@kidoman7988]

Dr Pal is awesome. I love his videos which are full of energy, positivity and messages delivered via jokes. Today i learnt about this side of his life and my respect for him only grows

[@ಭಾರತೀಶ]

Marrying in the same community and close blood relative may lead to miscarriages, specially challenged children, children with severe genetical diseases.. I have few relatives who are facing these problems.. Marrying in the same community, which are not related is an excellent choice..

[@kesharservices4732]

Lekin jaat paat khtm honeka naam hi nahi le rha 😢

[@ಭಾರತೀಶ]

@@kesharservices4732 Apna apna jaat sambhalna sabke liye behtar hoga..

[@T.Ragnarok12977]

same varna and gotra me problem hai same jati me nhi

[@kesharservices4732]

@@ಭಾರತೀಶ kese reference dijiye jaat kya hai ?? Jaat Jesi koi chiz hamare dharam me hai hi nahi agar aap jaante ho to reference dijiye...

[@kesharservices4732]

@@T.Ragnarok12977 jaat kya hai ? Hamare dharam me to iska ullekh nahi hai aap dikha dijiye kidhar hai reference dijiye ye sab angrezo ki den hai ..

[@SuccessRedefined_1]

In Vedic Astrology, this study has been present since long while match-making for marriage. That checkpoint is called "Naadi-Dosha" where the male and female both should NOT belong to the same Naadi meaning they should not be having similar ancestral lineage root (OR Gotra). This is to avoid issues while having off-spring where the strong common features and weak common features of their genes might get multiplied and can create health issues in child.

[@catchcs]

That’s why we check Gotra and verify seven generations to make sure no birth defects during marriage proposal. When people stopped following Gotra then we run into these issues. This is how our people prevented mixup

[@iiTzKaran_YT]

The mental gymnastics involved in Gotra is stupid, just get your genetics checked now

[@saketkumar4972]

​@@iiTzKaran_YT😂😂, i would like to know more about this gotra system people are talking about

[@Advaita007]

A note to TRS - not knowing the genome can happen in any marriage not just arrange marriage . On the contrary arrange marriage ensures we marry outside our gotra minimising the risk of having deformities and within the caste maximizing the benifits of strengths within the caste .

[@arshjordan5455]

This isn't arranged marriage issue rather a regional cultural issue. In my region we don't marry in same Gotra let alone marrying in family.

[@maanyapathak3460]

Really dr.pal is an amazing man and so much courage he has, to tell his story to educate and aware the audience...More power to you😊

[@Anand2024]

2:30 O my god I am sorry Sir you had to go through a lot of pain May God 🙏🙏 help you survive this pain

[@Iamlucifeerrr]

That's in my community we have gotra system, we usually marry a marwadi partner only but different gotra is mandatory, maybe beacuse of this reason.

[@ravaladitya6782]

Agarwal caste has same genetic issue which is most prevalent.

[@akshayganesh4144]

I am from South Indian Brahmin community from Karnataka we often marry inside the community. In fact, this has led to many genetic and neurological disorders in kids and elderly who are suffering with epilepsy, autism ( kids ) and dementia, Alzheimer’s and parkinson among the elderly

[@goofyguy6954]

Don't you guys follow Gotra system in south?

[@adghat7819]

@@goofyguy6954 Gotra system is not accurate, because it in 7 generations everyone will be related.

[@JustMe54328]

I’m from Karnataka too and this generation of Brahmins are actually considering marrying outside the sub-caste which is a good thing. For eg - a sanketi person married a hubli madhva girl through an arranged marriage. My best friend is havyaka n she married a Karanth. So this generation is quite aware of genetic problems. And yes, inter-caste weddings do happen but in case of self-selected match, not much via arranged marriage.

[@anushkasane8845]

That's why gotra concept in your family is introduced..if the both girl and boy have same gotra they can't marry each other..because they are said to be blood related..that's how in hinduism, inbreeding is avoided but checking for gotra beforehand is considered as a shame in communities.

[@radhikapasricha1949]

It's not a shame everwhere I must tell you. In my fam, areas, community that's noth the case at all.

[@anonymousanonymous7208]

Ya but that’s not enough…marrying in same community leads to lot of similar genes.

[@gabbar51ngh]

Gotra only considers patrilineal lineage.

[@shrikanyaghatak]

Bengalis don't marry within same gotra. Bengalis are the only community where marrying outside the state and country is welcomed.

[@ITAngelYT]

They do. Muslims Bengalis in West Bengal and Bangladesh do it all the time.

[@Together.we.grow.better]

​@@ITAngelYT how u can say this? I guess you are Bengali Muslim or Bangladeshi. 😮

[@ITAngelYT]

@@Together.we.grow.better Common sense? Hello? Indian Muslims marry their cousins all the time. In South India, an uncle even can marry a niece (Hindu marriage).

[@Together.we.grow.better]

​@@ITAngelYT then why to say to Bengalis 😂 then? Even ranveer wasn't confirmed.

[@ITAngelYT]

@@Together.we.grow.better Cause you commented saying "Bengalis don't marry within same gotra" which is FALSE.

[@mcorilla]

Dr Pal has a good heart to share this with others so we’ll be informed about how this happens.

[@boawo]

I liked your message ranveer. I always looked at any suffering from my life as part of karma, but i will look at it as you said- hopefully someone else will not have to go through it.

[@kavithachidambaranathan5870]

Eye opening conversation u and dr.pal... simply great... thank u dr.pal for better understanding for not get marriage in same genetics...which makes this issues for next generation...

[@CricketDosth]

Marrying a Foreigner should solve Everything here✌

[@InfoPanel7902]

In arranged marraiges in Hinduism 'gotra' is checked of both the families to get rid of this problem

[@21.diyamajumdar2]

This is really so tough, when a still birth at that stage or advanced happens, for the whole family. U need to be real brave to speak about it!

[@mentiaier9708]

Dr pal we really appreciate you sharing your experiences for the better understanding of this topic

[@suhassachdeva1107]

Note: This has nothing to do about arrange marriages it’s about consanguinity which is marrying within same family…. In fact arrange marriages are somewhat safe coz families tend to consider the family background relation first(gotra).

[@XFactorDN]

My family comes from Karnataka and i personally know people who have married their cousins ( not first cousins) Father's sister's children or mother's brother's children. One of my cousins married her mother's cousin which in india means her husband is her mama too.

[@itn0687]

Marrying a sister's daughter is quiet common in Tamil nadu. I have my college friend whose elder sister married her uncle. We may feel weird, but even as a child the girl and her uncle are constantly fed by family to be future husband and wife

[@drhouse392]

Marriages were arranged with utmost care in previous times But now only lust and greed overpowers and creates problems!!!

[@manjunathnarayanaswamy3360]

Very good explanation by Dr. Thats the reason our ancestors follows check 7 generation on either side do check gotras, if same gotra of boys not matching with paternal and maternal side of girl , definitely the issues will not be arise, due to many unforseen conditions leads to marriage with in families which leads to this kind of issues

[@amritashaw3786]

So basically South Indian communities can marry their Mama’s children including Mama(mother’s brother)and Buya’s ( father’s sisters)children including Buya just to make sure generational wealth stays within their families. Slags bhe*cd are best suited for them. But thanks to Pal sir who admitted the mistake and warned to all those people involved in this custom to avoid this practice. Please correct Ranvir sir Bengalis and almost no communities from northern states of India practice this custom while choosing alliance for marriages. Thanks

[@Shri]

No you are wrong. That is not an issue. Those are different Gotras. Learn about Gotras. This is not the same as inbreeding. In inbreeding you marry within the same Gotra and have genetic defects.

[@amritashaw3786]

You named it Gotra or whatever, here the point is marrying your immediate family members like your father sister children or mother‘s brother children should be avoided at all costs to save from genetic diseases for generations to come. Don’t confuse yourself and people with mere word replacement. Let people know the evil practices some people still follow.

[@amritashaw3786]

Even people from different Gotras carrying same genetics especially in close family relationships as I mentioned earlier. Consanguine marriage specifically speaking marriages with cousins ( mother’s brother children and father’s sister children) attracts complex genetic deformations that lead to incurable abnormalities for generations. Please note it’s not to shame anyone but to spread awareness to stop this practices. So hilarious looking at the reason behind this marriage is to safeguard wealth within same families.

[@elsa2885]

​@@Shri inbreeding is caused bcoz of blood relation ur mama daughter is a blood relative to you . Ur bua son is blood relative to you . Bcoz ur mother and mama have same blood in them . Check gotra from both side .

[@agnimitram340]

​@@amritashaw3786yes someone said it. It's to contain the wealth within the same clan. The business community in the north(Agarwal's, Gupta's) has higher endogamy compared to other castes/communities. This can lead to severe genetic problems.

[@balam7594]

Applause To Dr.Pal & Ranveer of course.... Right Questions & Responded rightly as a doctor & youtuber

[@TECHSPERT__]

Never in, even in my dreams, I thought behind this smile and energetic presentation there are lots of pain you suffering... Love you bro dr.pal

[@Anurag_2.0]

I think that's why we have a tradition of 'Gotra' system(you can't marry a person of the same Gotra).

[@anup.3293]

Bullshit man... they are also from same region or area

[@Dragonfly108]

Good god...who cud have thought ..behind all that humour...such a challenging personal past. Whoa. Saying it again we shud cherish this channel more.

[@suvarnasoundararajan3224]

In our community,we have 39 kulas,girl/boy belonging to the same kula are considered brother-sister because several generations ago, their great-grandfathers were brothers.This is a well established practice in our community.we have kuladeivam temples for these 39 kulas,the girl & her children take on the kula of her husband.this prevents inbreeding this has been going on for atleast 2000 years.

[@shobhitanand945]

Very informative vedio, I am myself witness many kids during my rural posting,(I was posted in rural village of south delhi Primary health centre )and feel sad about them, when ever I asked them "apki shaadi ristedari main hui hai "(are you married in your close realtives or (cusion )in same community )the answer was always yes.Genes are important aspect... Hope we will have pre marital councelling services in our country, one day so that we can teach our masses... Shaadi se phele kundali ke sath sath medical & genetic report bhi milani chaiye 😅😅.... Hum same caste /religion /community toh match kar ke social compatibility toh check kar lete hai, ab humme blood sample se medical compatibility bhi check karani chaiye... Genes bhi aur diseases bhi... Like HIV, VDRL, HbAsg...etc....Desh ke Yuvao ko payar ke liye(Shaadi ) ke liye khoon dena (blood sample ) chaiye 😅😅.

[@ARSchannel_Vedic_astrology]

Really a great interview with Doctor Pal . Thank you Ranveer. ❤ from Tamilnadu.

[@PKSD2019]

Our ancestors were really scientific related to this. There are references in puranas where distinct, healthy people gave birth to stronger,more resilient kids. They followed gotra. Not caste. Caste came later and it became soo rigid. Marriages in ancient India were based on varna and gotra...and not caste. They checked genetics through gotra ( 7 generation...bcoz after 7 generations , its affect will be almost 0 - concept of inbreeding depression and gene frequency ) They checked mutual compatibility by varna ( it was based on gunas, nature, temperament ). Now we are idiots who are marrying within families, within caste ( most irrelevant thing in this era ), and we frown upon people who truly love each other and are completely genetically distinct. Actually they deserve to get married happily, but society condemns that.

[@priyanshi01356]

True

[@Loveandlight428]

Very true

[@poojasingare3412]

Agree with you...each word of what u wrote is 100 true..but now adays caste system has become so rigid n strong in India...on seeing this video...I am happy that I got married into a different caste totally...n it is an arrange marriage ...but still hv to hear from my mother in law about being from different caste.... But somewhere down in my heart ..I feel happy 😊

[@ramakantdwivedi5899]

In my side of state (I'm a Hindu) Marriages happen making sure both the people don't have the same gotra which is basically origin family. So if you're from different gotra, it's least possible that you have the same gene.

[@gardening-ft6ku]

Lol😂!! The same goes for himdu south indian marriages which i originate from same as dr pal! If my fathers sister marries someone else its technically considered she moves to a different gothra and the child is considered different gothra! So how is gothra helping here?????

[@AshishSawant-mt5bv]

Dr. Pal kept everyone happy during Covid pandemic with his unusual sense of humour.

[@SENAPATIENTERTAINMENT]

We Bengalis don't marry within the same community that much, I have listened to the previous podcast about that but don't think he mentioned Bengalis in his list

[@Dorara2]

Is it?...my Bf is a Bengali...idk kya hoga

[@rosanilebron1566]

Very interesting topic! Genetics is fascinating for me. I think if only we knew our own genetics in depth, we could make better decisions regarding our overall physical and mental health. Nature knows it better than us, and that "filter" is there, for the human race to be balanced and stronger. I feel we know so little about so many things...

[@MINEWISE]

i loved this mans cheerful ness, he is very much cheerful indeed. loved his energy

[@harishsharma172]

7 big losses & still his laugh is so bright Positivity 👏🏻👏🏻

[@namrata891]

He is so brave for sharing this and god bless the deceased child ❤❤❤

[@drvren030]

That's why we should never carry blind customs and superstitions passed down from our parents generations, and put them on a pedestal. We should also do our own research and think about whether the practice is sensible or not. Such consanguine marriages happen because they believe that it's okay for their daughter to marry uncle, or for related communities with connected in laws to marry their children. Just because that person knows your family well and has seen you grow up, that doesn't mean they're right for you as a life partner.

[@loveshell007]

If someone has seen you grow up, they are probably too old for you 😂

[@sumeetshan]

Thats why there is a concept of Nadi, Gotra compatibility . There were different parameters that were looked into in earlier days but now with advancements we know that was not rubbish.

[@smartcitybhubaneswarodisha1743]

Never expected Dr.pal to be here 😂😂😂

[@Priya24-n1z]

Arrange marriage is not the issue but the issue is marrying in your own family is. because the only difference between love marriage and arrange marriage is that love marriage is someone you have find for yourself and arrange marriage is someone arranged by your family... So arrange marriage is not the problem it's a person's choice rather the person want to do arrange or love marriage but marrying in your own family is complicated like marrying to your second cousin etc

[@saketarora]

I don’t even know this guy, but so proud of him!

[@missfit6027]

🙏🏼🙏🏼 for sharing! Totally empathize with Dr Pal and his wife for they must have gone through! ❤

[@Kitty-u7h]

Great courage Dr Palani. God bless you n your family

[@BadePapa24]

People discount Indian traditions as outdated but the gotra system coupled with arranged marriage was setup to prevent this very problem. Not to say that only the gotra system should be used but it should not be discounted. Use the modern genetic compatibility test as well and as other commenter pointed do check for RH and thalassemia factors.

[@eunoia_mon]

Dr.Pal thankyou for speaking about this issue. My mother and father belong to same community and they were not aware that are close relatives many generations ago. My elder brother and my two younger brother are mental retarded . I lost one of my younger brother when he was 9 months old. We were not able to find anything clearly about this through many genetic test.

[@aakashuikey778]

That's why we have gotra system uski vahjase humari family me same blood related marriages nhi hoti. Incredible. ❤