3 ways narcissists DESTROY your physical health I Dr Ramani

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[@willm1376]

Zero contact with the narcissists in my life and I'm finally sleeping, my anxiety is more manageable, and I'm overall better than I've ever been. Cutting toxic (abusive) people out of my life has been the best thing I've done for myself. I encourage everyone (if they can) to do the same.

[@2flyabove]

Agreed. I had the same experience as you. Go no contact.

[@dennisrobinson8008]

Eventually the "anxiety" will go to zero, confidence will go up. Stress will decrease greatly. Peace increases greatly. Your ability to focus goes up. Live a life that you can love now. That comes from adding in the people places and things that you like and enjoy.

[@scarlettclark1939]

Willm, Good for you! I'm doing the same and I am already showing improvement in my health: physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. I wish I had done this year's ago. Best wishes to you.

[@wendyhannan2454]

I totally agree, they’ll do you in.

[@vivo-sn7wm]

Help how you do this

[@itsjustme5030]

Absolutely nailed it about the exhaustion. It's almost at a soul level, and no amount of sleep makes it better.

[@andhisband]

You can sleep?

[@Kite_the_KWITERIPOFF]

So true! It’s not a lack of sleep.

[@louise6834]

It is on a soul level. That's what they are after.

[@wendyadams2758]

This is so true!!

[@stephenkarla7113]

@@louise6834 Exactly

[@mahabubj-405]

You won't believe it, but I got cancer as a result of being in a narcissistic relationship for 9 long years... Soon after I finally walked out, I was diagnosed with stage 2 cancer in the lymph nodes... After checking my genes reports and other cancer tests, Doc concluded that it's most probably due to extreme stress in my life.... 😢😢... Yes I believe narcissistic abuse can also cause cancer!!

[@ebonytrotter2983]

I believe it! And I hope you have a successful recovery and a long happy life.

[@saradigota7201]

Same. My mom got cancer cuz of her toxic marriage to my narc dad. ill never forget that. It is my trust issue now to be traumatised, never wanting any narc near me anywhere. Narcs are cancerious.

[@mahabubj-405]

@@saradigota7201 totally understand.

[@VanessaMallia]

I believe you!

[@mahabubj-405]

@@saradigota7201 yes absolutely

[@pamelaself5030]

I suffered for 37 years, terrible stress, depression, anxiety, I lost myself, became catatonic at one point. So thankful to be free, the Father saved me.

[@dianashriver7356]

Amen was also saved

[@pauline6005]

I ended an narcissistic relationship 3 weeks ago there are days I feel I've had a break through and I'm finally happy again. Then tonight, I feel like ripping his head off. Screaming shouting. I feel angry, mad, and negative. I feel like unblocking him, giving him a piece of my mind and messaging them women to watch out. But then I know that will do no good. I know my anxiety and panic attacks have calmed down some what, but I'm still irritated and sometimes I can't stop twitching

[@pamelaself5030]

@@pauline6005 Bless your heart I'm so sorry, I've been free now for almost ten years, but some of it seems like it was yesterday. It will get better with time and prayer, be patient with yourself and know the Father loves you .

[@donnamauro5117]

Me too

[@pauline6005]

@pamelaself5030 thank you so much. I get days were im angry at everything and everyone. And some days feel so low and lonely. I know I'll get there its just a lot harder this time. Because I went back to him earlier this year to help him with his loss. I guess I were used

[@bethiversen]

Wow. 5 years of Dr visits - mental breakdowns, thyroid issues, anxiety, depression, brain fog, heart palpitations, vision issues - and this is the FIRST time narcissism is mentioned 😔 I'm so sorry I allowed myself to suffer for so long 💗

[@normatobin962]

Yea, narcissism CAN do all that! I am so sorry you experienced all of that, but remember your body and mind are really a miracle and CAN heal! Prayers for you!

[@melodyal3357]

I fell your words here... Same same!!!

[@vixensiren248]

I'm experiencing these from work💔I'm scared I'm going to end up in the hospital

[@wheathusk2499]

Same

[@wheathusk2499]

I got married in 2018 by 2019 I had gained 30 lbs and had a bunch of chronic illnesses diabetes at the age of 29 hormones all out of whack no doctor is able to tell me what happened. Taking medication n it's not working!

[@WaterNymphie]

I have suffered from depression, anxiety, insomnia, nightmares, panic attacks, and chronic colitis nervosa. And gastritis. When I went to my doctor, he said it was due to intense stress. I went to my psychologist and she said I was in a dysfunctional family system, and that I needed to leave if I wanted to get any better. I thought back on a month where my parents were both gone and I had zero anxiety and zero intestinal issues. Then when they returned all of the illnesses returned with them. Health is wealth. Sometimes going your own way is the cure.

[@florite007]

It’s all true but it’s also true that if you were eating a plant based balanced diet like dr Robert Morse teaches you would not have such serious issues. I experienced it first hand as a child when we were on macrobiotic: we had a pedo abusing us, our father was a narc but not s pedo and my mom also had her form of narcissism and enabler act and we lived in a place owned by clinical and violent insane people so the stress levels were to the roof and yet when we were eating right we had an incredible peace! The problem most people are so brainwashed by new age subscience aka pharma poop care, that they don’t realize non veganism is yet another serious stressor and since food is the most used self regulating drug is impossible for most abused people to change unless u use eft techniques and they are free and easy to learn! Guess why nobody shares this? They make tons of money from keeping y’all slaves to all of this.

[@WaterNymphie]

@@florite007 Thank you for sharing your perspective. You gave fair points. Personally, I have ditched a lot of processed foods to address my health. Veganism didn't work for me individually, however. As for Big Pharma, I can concur with you on them having people codependent on pharmaceutical drugs but ignoring people's poor diets. Commercial food is making a lot of people sick.

[@hipsonsogbo]

This is very useful to hear. I have been keeping my family at a distance as a coping mechanism. Recently I allowed my parents to visit, all my meets have been on the basis of how I can heal. Mother is a covert narcissist and many other things her lies run really deep. Allowing her to visit will allow her to buy some time as the last thing she wants is for people to know. She will tell everyone she visited to appear like a good person. My oldest brother also a narcissist he developed MS and has been disabled for years ironically he has turned on family now. I remember thinking years ago ignore it and let it implode it has taken over a decade for some lies to surface it’s a slow process. Knowing what I know now I would have told myself to carry on the path I was on of completely cutting these people off. It extends out into all your relationships. My conclusion is they get pleasure out of making you lonely as you being lonely allows them to have power over you, without even talking to you, they are getting pleasure knowing you are restricted, the more they can put in your way the better, this allows control without needing contact. The lies are important to make you doubt your ability to cut everyone off and rebuild on your own. To make you look like you are the strange one, selfish one, I wish I figured this part out earlier, it would have allowed me to just walk away with conviction years ago.

[@ednahchirchir1924]

True

[@marisalicciardi2164]

Sounds similar to my situation.

[@wellnesswithriks]

Autoimmune disease, IBS, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, adrenal fatigue, Muscle Pain and weakness, headaches and migraines, inability to focus, anxiety, depression, brain fog, heart palpitations, and paranoia. For me, somatic experiencing helped me get out of fight or flight so that I could begin healing 💜

[@kristycook6041]

Somatic experiences?

[@jasonwimberly5636]

Feeling negative emotions as physical symptoms (somatic)

[@jasonwimberly5636]

I know. They’re like a virus that infects all your body systems and turns systems that should work FOR you, into working against you. Run, don’t regret. Look at is finally getting free, finally being able to be safe, finally being able to be happy and know you mee the right decision because health is not something that could persist around those types of people who are committed to injuring your welfare.

[@firebellymel5557]

I don’t understand what you mean

[@katyjenkins236]

@@firebellymel5557 Look it up online.....

[@user-wd5qw2sr4d]

I didn't realize my spouse had narcissistic personality disorder until I started researching it deeply the last year. I met him when I was 22, divorced him at 53, and now I'm 66. I was an RN and worked in hospitals where the stress is huge. Everything you say is true. I began to destroy myself. Now I have systemic and discoid lupus. I am on the road to recovery. I am taking care of myself but I steer clear of relationships. There are so many narcissistic people out there. My own sister. I know now why she was so dysfunctional as a child and young adult. Thank you for educating me. I feel more sane now.

[@bobbiedangette7649]

Your story resonates with me. Married at 21, now 52 and after a deep dive into vulnerable narcissists I realize the position I am truly in as well as the root cause of my both physical and mental health, or lack thereof

[@CR_1609]

Your's is kinda inspiring, I'm separated abt year or two but my kids are with spouse. Missing them immensely. I'm coming to life after decade+ of existence.

[@cynthiaroper3127]

Severe hair loss, insomnia, constipation are a few of the illnesses I suffered. Divorced him after 44+ years. Now I have no medical issues! Thank you Dr. Ramani. Education is vital for us to heal from the disordered individuals in our world!

[@Stardusted1]

My eyelashes fell out

[@roslyncerro1263]

Glad you are free.

[@bcbro142]

My eyebrows fell out I started to get alapesha

[@bcbro142]

So glad you're feeling better and you're free of these toxic people

[@BlazeIsBOSS]

Same here. hair loss. Weight gain. Stress and lack of sleep. Shut myself away from the world.

[@sarabellum._.]

Hey, I just wanted someone out there to know that the longer you are out of the chaos, the better you feel, and you will recover. You got this 👍I did it. You can, too.

[@radiodude4282]

Thank you for the encouragement

[@eleanorrae7378]

True and realise you will always want to go back because it's your family and you love them but be careful, be prepared, it will happen all over again and again and again.

[@KK-ri2gu]

Wow you have been blessed 🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤ you did an excellent job no more drama 👍👍👍

[@C4rYB34R]

thank you for this message @sarabellum3351 I took personal inspiration from it.

[@stephenkarla7113]

I had an elderly land surveyor tell me years ago that sometimes the cemetery has to grow to fix a problem. I'd guess he'd seen alot of greed with narcissistic families. He was so on point and a Godsend for what I had to endure later in life. So painful and heartbreaking.

[@jamieseiple]

I was married to an abusive narcissist for 20 years. It did destroy my health because I stayed in it for so long. My advice is get out before it's too late. It WILL kill you.

[@wissn2112]

Same. She would talk bad about me to others. No real communication at solving anything. Negative everything. Nagging controlling script flipper deflection blame shifter projectionist. With name calling. Years of this triggered colon to stage 4 liver cancer. She still runs her mouth creating stress. Doesn't learn anything.

[@bbukiyo]

Yes! So true

[@rori9742]

i really want to cry watching this. i wish i had a different life

[@BluebirdKbres]

😢I feel you.

[@rori9742]

@@BluebirdKbres sending a hug

[@AnemicRoyaltyRX]

Sending good vibes and love. ❤ I am in your shoes right now too. You're not alone.

[@rori9742]

@@AnemicRoyaltyRX sending a lot of love, i pray everything improves

[@AnemicRoyaltyRX]

@@rori9742 same to you. I wish you the very best. Pay attention to how your daily life is affected and mood. Maybe keep a journal and jog down a few thoughts on what made it good or bad...if you're having more bad than good, as I've been, then .. it's hard but you gotta put yourself first. 🙏 Me too. Plus I have kids and they aren't comfortable with the narc in my life so I have to make a decision and soon.

[@firebird189]

After 32 years I packed up my car, took the doggie, and left. Thank you for the many videos that gave me the understanding and strength to leave. Little by little I am reclaiming my physical, emotional, and spiritual health. (I have a wonderful trauma therapist.) Love to all of us in this community and especially to you Dr. Ramani.

[@christinacatalano]

Sending good energy and love to you and your pup. Find your life!❤

[@ranadebnath6739]

God bless you ❤

[@christinacatalano]

@@janasmith2463 my reaction toward abuse got me in trouble. The problem is the lack of resources one has to moderate their minds, and it’s often unprovable. Hopefully the growing awareness of how this affects an individual and their livelihood will eventually find a place in legalities.

[@brendacottrell9787]

I am So happy you got out,I have been in one for many years,I don't know how or where to get help at.God Bless You.

[@maggietrek69]

You are describing me only it was 33 yrs. Three months out and I’m slowly feeling changes in my body.

[@marieelisafournier]

This really hits home. I grew up in a family of narcissists and narcissistic enablers. I wasn't allowed to express sadness, anger, or any so-called "negative" emotions. Yet I was constantly being criticized, belittled, and ignored when trying to set healthy boundaries. I had to put their needs first and I certainly wasn't taught how to take care of myself. I'm in my late 20s now, and I'm still learning. Sending loving thoughts to all victims of narcissistic abuse. And thank you, Dr Ramani, for all the great content!

[@johenderson3742]

I also was not taught how to take care of myself. Dr, is this deliberate of parents so they can criticise or do they just not care?

[@nomadic_orthodox]

Felt like reading my own life story. I hope you got away from them. I couldn't and am still in hell.

[@marieelisafournier]

@@nomadic_orthodox I'm really sorry to hear we have similar life stories. I lived overseas for a few years (where I didn't know anyone), and I'd say this time away helped me gain perspective. I still don't enjoy the company of toxic people, but dealing with them has become a lot easier over time. A few other things have also helped me on my healing journey: meditation, therapy, yoga, spending time in nature and with like-minded people, and self-help books (such as e.g., Toxic Parents by Susan Forward, or Mothers who can't love by the same author). Wishing you all the very best on your healing journey!

[@johncollier3175]

You sound like a lovely person. Good for you f

[@eatandchat7887]

I can't recommend Irene Lyon enough for this. She has many videos on youtube. She speaks of emotional disregulation and the immune system.

[@gailmcbride785]

36 yrs of anxiety attacks, chronic pain, headaches. Left him, was separated for 4 and half yrs. Finally got my divorce. It has been hell on earth but I have come through the storm. I feel so much better now and have peace. Everything you are saying is so true. You remind me of my doctor. She is a God send and so are you!

[@Beachnut81]

Hell on earth is so true, but I'm so happy to hear that you and hopefully I will be able to find peace

[@user-qk8eh6gd4e]

Final attempt to make things right: acceptance. Things got worse and my body said "NO MORE"! I could not walk I was so weak. NO CONTACT. I was in bed for a month. Friends walked my dog and brought me food. I was so tired long before I collapsed. Your videos have been a Godsend. They pinpoint each day how I am healing, and why all of this happened. Thank you so much

[@indyd9322]

Hope you are doing better. These toxic relationships can really drain you.

[@leahg3926]

YES! I'd call the consulting nurse about my alarming symptoms. She'd send an ambulance... after 2 or 3 times, the EMTs and I figured out what I needed was a divorce.

[@michelelewis5666]

A divorce helped me too! 😂

[@cynthiaroper3127]

Divorce was the cure for me after 44+ years. I feel so bad for people that are unable to get out!

[@ButterflyMcCoy]

HAHAHAAHAH!!! OMG, not funny, yet hysterical! And extremely helpful too. Oh dear! Glad you're ok.

[@arlettasloan6453]

That's both sad and amusing! When we got divorced, I knew my husband would still be in my life and I could see a long, dark, unejoyable journey to death, because we had children together. However, he said he didn't want children, he wanted to go live with his brother and work with him, so we had an agreement in place that he would sign away his parental rights but he would be allowed to come visit when he wanted to. That way, I could call the police and expect a response, for a change of pace, if he kept them; and he wouldn't have to pay child support when he had no money. So, fine. Then, suddenly that changed and he decided not to move and it was obvious someone had influenced him. I thought he was the biggest problem in my life. He wasn't. It was someone blood-related to me that kept influencing him and also influencing an in-law to use her influence on him, too. Wow! I'm glad for you that a divorce worked for you. No one deserves to live like this!

[@enjoyingmyvodka1013]

😂 I’m sorry for laughing but it reminds me of what happened to me

[@holleysonya]

The ex Narc told me I was “No Fun” , “Boring” and “Always down “!! As I went from amazing fun leo supermodel to an ill person recovering from a transplant -who he’d help make sick from years of emotional abuse and stress !!! So happy I am 4 years no contact and I’m back in fashion, looking fabulous- healing and loving myself with amazing boundaries and gratitude!!!

[@nmc1859]

Good news !! 🤗💖

[@Houseitch]

Success!

[@holleysonya]

@@nmc1859 thanks dear!

[@holleysonya]

@@Houseitch yesss!!

[@MS-bs8dd]

So happy for you !!!

[@RunRabbitRunFast]

After 30+ years of living with a very difficult person, I am literally this person. I have every illness and disorder that has been described. My mind was basically disordered, confused and spinning in uncontrollable circles. In the end my body collapsed and I didn’t know who I was. Finally after being maltreated, gaslighted, manipulated and abused in every way and my daughter talking through my situation, we finally got him out of the house. After 48hours I was able to breathe and that has been my guiding light ever since. My husband, I believe, wanted me to die or at the very least was terrified he would catch what I was dealing with. My message is to get out and never look back. I was always hoping he would change but he never would.

[@blanketeyblank5309]

Intestinal issues,insomnia, depression, anger, anxiety, alopecia, seizures. Most severe symptoms went away when the narcissist left. (8-5-2022). There ARE. people who tell you to take care of yourself. Many thanks to you for being one of them. I appreciate you and all you give to people in need.

[@LeaMarlene111]

Absolutely, I’ve experienced insomnia, migraines,asthma, anxiety and I believe I also developed cancer in my body because my immune system was so depleted at the time. 💯 cancer free now that’s when I finally started taking care of myself. I’m a survivor of cancer and narc abuse. Sending love to everyone experiencing narcissistic abuse. ❤

[@neilcampbell1763]

Not dissimilar to my own experience, no doubt in my mind that I developed a tumour as a result of being in such an antagonistic and cruel relationship. Glad to hear you too have the opportunity to live a new, more powerful and meaningful life! 💪🏻

[@LeaMarlene111]

PS- Thank you Dr. Ramani for another very important video. I really appreciate all you do and share.

[@LeaMarlene111]

@@neilcampbell1763 oh boy no fun at all. I’m sorry to hear you got a tumor. Sending you tons of good healing energy. Thank you for you kind response.

[@bcbro142]

So sorry to hear that I also started to feel like I was developing cancer and yes a 100% it causes immune deficiency problems and constant hormone shifts so glad you're cancer free and a survivor God-bless

[@neilcampbell1763]

@@LeaMarlene111 thank you Lea. I do however have a completely new view on life, it's opened my heart and mind, to the point where I genuinely feel it's the best thing that could ever have happened to me. It's changed me in a way I could never have imagined. I'm ready to put something back into the world.

[@mrs.m840]

My health was destroyed by narcissists and their abuse. My immune system was destroyed. I couldn't sleep. I don't see them anymore and never want to see them again. I am working hard to restore my health.

[@JJ-mh4xd]

Me too I experienced this first hand

[@galnoemizsuzsanna4380]

First hand experience we should take it seriously mental emotinal financial spiritual breakdown just like living in hell with this kind of person so scaring

[@kimberlylovellette5117]

Me too. If I never see him or hear his voice before the day I die, it will be a day too soon. I believe there is a special place for people like narcissist I dealt with...they don't serve ice there. 😈

[@arlettasloan6453]

Ooh .. the dream of not seeing them anymore! I'm happy for you. My dearest wish is to change my name and start over again somewhere else.

[@victoriaandreevna2658]

😢😢 I know what you are talking about

[@beverlyadams7205]

For years, I thought I had chronic fatigue syndrome. What I had was a narcissistic daughter that I lived with. I’ve been no contact with her for eight months. After watching videos every day for that eight months, I am recovering and finding out who I am after an entire life of abuse. Your work is brilliant, Dr. Ramani. You may not play the flute, but you are a virtuoso at helping us heal from narcissistic people.

[@cellosong]

Narc abuse pushed me into depression. I sought therapy and came out of the depression pretty quickly once I had someone to talk to. I saw my golden child brother go into chronic illness over time and my scapegoated sister die at the age of 36 from the stress of narc abuse from our covert narc mother. Fortunately, I went no contact with all my family of origin by age 36. I still have to consciously prioritize my own needs and health because no one else genuinely cares about me. I have learned to accept that and carry on. You have to be strong to heal from narc abuse. I have a few close friends who care about me, but I still basically have learned to rely on myself to protect myself from further abuse. I assert myself, set attainable goals and accomplish things I care about.

[@lajirafa481]

I had nausea, vomiting, and diarrhea so bad I could barely eat. After six years of abuse I developed two autoimmune diseases. I ended up fleeing to another state with nothing but my suitcase, but I’m finally free and feel so much better in every way!

[@rismoody3906]

Did you take any health products to get rid of

[@normatobin962]

So completely comforted that you were able to get away! You had an Angel! Prayers for your protection Always and that God will bring healing!!❤

[@lajirafa481]

@@rismoody3906 no. Just getting out of the high stress situation was helpful. I also am making dietary changes to help with the autoimmune diseases.

[@lajirafa481]

@@normatobin962 thank you. I wake up every day grateful to be free and at peace.

[@johndean958]

I am so proud for you.

[@ellek1215]

I was in a narcissistic relationship for 3 years and in that time I experienced fatigue, headaches, brain fog, hair loss, stomachaches, constant nausea & vomiting, as well as bowel issues. I lost so much weight that I was wearing children's clothing. I looked terrible and felt even worse. Doctors even began to suspect that I had cancer. However, every test came back negative and no actual medical condition could be found. Turns out it was my relationship that was killing me. Once I finally left, all of these issues disappeared. ALL of them.

[@rhoda1946]

Thank you!

[@josh1800]

It's interesting you said the doctors couldn't find anything. I recently was having some health issues similar to what you describe and found myself in a narcissistic friendship/relationship which seemed to amplify those problems. Literally would get so bad I'd start shivering uncontrollably sometimes and also had a issue I dealt with in my childhood come back. It sucks because even after leaving that situation, it's gotten better but not completely. Never thought someone could have such a impact on your health.

[@attractarattigan3574]

Me too

[@jannatkhan8011]

Right now I am just in your shoes, I am facing all that which you have faced. I hear you.

[@nikkicanada7668]

Wow that’s real

[@shannonsnowwhite2301]

My first colonoscopy showed stage 1 cancer. I asked the Doctor how long it took to develop the stage 1 cancer and she told me 10 years. It hit me. I had been with my husband for 10 years. Everything came to a head when I came home from the hospital. I woke up in the morning and told my husband how hard the past 10 years of my life had been with him. He moved out and I’ve been on my path to wellness in healing! He was exhausting. He kept me in a state of ‘limbo’ never feeling grounded by my own two feet. He brought about chaos and confusion. I cried for many years in sadness. Suffering for years. I continue to this day to do things to reduce the inflammation that was boiling inside of me. I feel so much better today. Don’t waste another minute of your energy and time. Preserve yourself at all cost. Consider yourself an endangered species and make like a tree and leave. ❤

[@Amy-tg8sp]

Weight gain and anger. Was dealing with two narcissists. One friend and one family member. The friend used me as a therapist and my cousin tried to rewrite our family history making her the eternal victim. Used to get a bunch of junk food and stay in the bedroom. Spent a lot of time in therapy but after going no contact life has improved tremendously. It still hurts a bit but the freedom I feel is comforting.

[@blancafarrow1312]

I was married for 41 years. Oh Boy did I get sick!i was close to a nervous break down. I ended up being diagnosed with Fibromyalgia. When I needed him to be understanding and be on board for me to retire 63. After working 45 years. He refused to be on board. Needless to say I got a Divorce. I got help and got better. I never even missed him for even a second. Im happy for the first time in my life. Thank YOU DR RAMANI for all your advice.

[@elizabethbowie9753]

I would've been "married," for 51 yrs by now !!! My ex did the typical narc ex thing. All of a sudden, he went jogging. All of a sudden, he went to ceramics classes. All of a sudden, he took the kids to church, when he Never went to church with us, for 11 1/2 yrs. !!!! He copied me, to make himself look good... I was victimized for 11 1/2 yrs. But since I initiated the divorce, he was the victim, & I was the bad guy. 🤷🤷🤷🙄🙄🙄. Oh well. That's how they are. Torment their own wife, then act like her to get everyone else's sympathy!!!

[@theresamathes1804]

Blanca- you are the only other person I have seen that was married even longer than my 37 years! If you are ever wanting to connect, I would like that. We have come out the other side! -Theresa

[@marthaLT4883]

You go, girl, it's awesome that you broke away!

[@sandrameza1644]

I wonder if you could get alimony for making you sick?

[@marthaLT4883]

@Sandra Meza You can sometimes get additional support consideration for being chronically ill, but there are formulas in place, at least in some states, which are meant to ensure both parties have an equal chance at a fiscally supported life. If you're prepared to spend the money to fight for more than the formulas recommend and can afford the fees for the battle, then you might see compensation.

[@SusanStriepe]

My mother is extremely narcissistic and manipulative and vindictive. My siblings share similar attributes. I have had breast cancer and am on remission, but I am dealing with leukemia. I am a forgiver, but have decided to stay away from my family of origin for my own peace of mind and health. Thank you Dr. Ramani for helping me see what has been going on in my life and seeing it for what it is.

[@yuu_miran]

Please stay strong you are amazing for surviving this hell.

[@Charmainecharmainecharmaine]

Sending you healing prayers. You are so strong 🧡💛❤️

[@kiralevenson1706]

I am surrounded by narcissism in my family, too. Sending love.

[@selinameier6177]

You are a very smart and strong lady to be dealing with so much. I deeply hope that you will heal from all that's causing you to suffer and that some happiness will come in to your life.

[@gforce9596]

I am a forgiver too - but we can also forgive from a distance 😁 I hope you're having a good day

[@thepaintedpoppies1010]

Decades of anxiety, depression, nausea, panic and anxiety attacks, lack of appetite, insomnia, nightmares, disrupted sleep, tension headaches and migraines that would last for days .... All have improved or disappeared since going NC. Before I just had antidepressants thrown at me for 25 years and was told I just had a weak stomach. Nope. Trauma responses. Now I am free, off medication, healing and with people who genuinely love me and whom I can love in a healthy way. The road is long but I am moving in the right direction.

[@karlaj4641]

I have been suffering with Multiple Sclerosis since I was 22 (52) now and my 82 year old mother sat in my living room and said I ignored your disease because it upset me. Great! Ignored my pleas for positivity over the years. She told me your father never loved you and he wanted a boy. I have no contact whatsoever with her. I am much happier. I also lost my only sibling, my sister who was my best friend and her two babies. Her 17 moth old boy and 3 yer old girl in a head on collision with an 18 wheeler. I have no one now...newly separated. I have a lot of work ahead of me, but I am going to achieve it.

[@janetkrem503]

Yes, definitely. I came to my senses after 40 years and kicked him out. I dropped 25kgs in weight effortlessly and my knee arthritis disappeared! Five years later I feel about 20 years younger and am loving my new life.

[@AliciaD6949]

I developed autoimmune & ended up on disability. Since my divorce I have been improving. It’s simply amazing. ✨

[@Jettypilelegs]

Same! People are very surprised by how much better I am, including me! 😂

[@elizabethalexander6528]

Having a peaceful home to wake up in has been a process and so wonderful. Sleeping well alone is another. eating will. Being around these relationship makes me sick just remembering it. Bless us all.

[@sweetgeorgia70]

❤❤❤

[@robinchilds7492]

I never had health issues until I met the narcissist. After being in a relationship with him for 4 years it started to take it's toll. As soon as he noticed this he ended the relationship.

[@teresascott310]

Panic attacks, PTSD, anxiety, automatic immune system dysfunction ..Hashimoto's disease, muscle tension, throwing up, diarrhea, Brain Fog, irrational thinking, Confusion, overthinking, could not function on a daily basis nor make sound decisions, depression, separation anxiety...all of it was exhausting!!! I literally some days could not get out of bed. I quiet my job after 20 years as a teacher because I was in ICU for 2 days in hospital a total of 6 days because of my thyroid. The Doctor told me I WAS ON THE DOORSTEP OF DEATH. After my hospital stay I knew I had to love me and my kids more than my love/fear for him. And that's when I started making my exit plan and got out about 2 months ago.. I feel so much better and my 2 children are thriving...but still have a ways to go. Thank you so much Dr. Ramani you are my saving grace!! 😊

[@Janeou8589]

I’ll never forget the first night I left my narcissist husband - Best sleep I had-like a major exhale. When I woke up the next day, that’s when I realized how unhealthy Staying with him was and each day thereafter, I saw increased energy, less brain fog, and peace. 21 years later, I am so happy now.

[@anne-vl7qf]

You can breathe 🧘‍♀️

[@katjongeward7155]

I went on a vacation alone, and slept 12 hours the first night!! 11 hours the 2nd night. 8 to 9 after that. I needed REST. and get away from him!

[@marciachambers3150]

I had a skin rash on my stomach that looked like ringworm. I went to a dermatologist that said it was brought on by stress...he told me to "lose" my husband ( the narcissist)...I did! That was 45yrs ago. it was the best advice ever😉

[@gymerica]

Oh my. I have the same rash. A massage therapist told me it was stress related. I'm pretty sure my hubby is a narc.

[@cc1k435]

​@@gymerica If you're thinking it, you might as well say you KNOW he is. Same here, btw.

[@rohinibodhale1399]

I had a ringworm which got so serious that it became a big wound.. yet my narcissistic husband didn't care a bit...

[@rismoody3906]

How do you get rid of the stomach issues from the emotional abuse?

[@biondna7984]

24 years married to a worsening narcissist. With all the drama he had to generate, I spent half my time with chronic stomach aches: that's where my stress goes.

[@ohhmyyken]

I developed stomach ulcers in my narcissistic relationship. Only 3 weeks broken up and I’m glowing ❤

[@Nushka23]

Me too!

[@jackiegerarde9938]

Toxic boss. My therapist and doctors flat out told me I needed to quit but it took me 4 years. It started with insomnia. I eventually had chronic fatigue, depression, irritable bowel, extreme muscle pain, mouth infections, heart palpitations. I had been a very healthy optimistic person. I became worn down over time. Once I realized how sick I was I was too fatigued to do anything about it. But I still had my therapist. I worked through my anger and I slowly made changes. I quiet quit and never let a mean comment go without a reply. Like tennis. I didn't fight but I started to use my voice. Sometimes I mumbled to myself and it helped! Then I finally quit. Omg I feel so lucky. My energy is back and all pain gone. I feel like myself again. Family narcs are sometimes not easy to leave. But please people. Quit those narc bosses.

[@melisentiapheiffer3034]

I took massive amounts of fat-soluble vitamin C to help me cope with narcissist abuse. I had to take some vitamin c every time he would come home to help me cope with severe stress.

[@souledout3239]

@Jackie Gerarde thank you for sharing. Much needed and confirms what I need to do.

[@spcmcpants]

I just want to say great job! I admire all your hard work, and you surely deserve the change.

[@jackiegerarde9938]

@Souled Out I have to be candid here and say what is probably obvious. I stayed for the money at first. And I was obsessed with my 401k. My teeth and gums have been perfect my whole life. I stopped brushing regularly because I probably thought they would always be perfect. Uh no. I worked over 70 hrs a week and enjoyed my job until my boss turned on me after the initial honeymoon period. So I need to get some gum surgery now. My dentist said I don't but it's the only way to fix the problem so I want it so I can move on. My boss was so bad that I could have filed charges. I'm former paralegal so I know the law. He is an accountant. I can still file but why. To get settlement money? That's what would happen because omg the evidence I have. But nope. My health and my freedom. I think of George Straight's song Give It Away. Great song! Wife doesn't want anything except freedom. I was an office wife. They get control of us. I got so sick. And then I got really angry and that was my spark. If we can just get up from the floor we can take our lives back. I didn't go to another job because I was too sick. So I used savings. Money didn't matter at all. I needed a break. Get a plan and get out. You can do it. We all deserve to be free.

[@melisentiapheiffer3034]

@@jackiegerarde9938 Best advice, ever.

[@rllght]

Headache, rising blood pressure and severe depression are the "gifts" I got from enduring narcissistic abuse for years.

[@victoriaandreevna2658]

After all these hellish experiences I would like to say to my body, “Please forgive me.”

[@blackberrykay6773]

Yes i am trying to get my strength back…I got sick..but I survived

[@realhealing7802]

I was so sick as a child growing up in a narcissistic family system. Now it all makes sense to me. Being in a narcissistic relationship will make you sick! These people can destroy your physical and mental health. No contact was my only option. Save yourself!

[@miriamb.3078]

Burn out/fatigue, depression, PTSD, anxiety and immense self doubt is what I was left with after years of abuse. I even remember having a small heart attack once and of course the narcissist minimized the abuse and said it was impossible. I healed thru NARP (Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program)

[@MsShannaK]

I’m So sorry. And I hope you’re breathing a bit easier these days. Remember they’re never going to have any empathy or sympathy for your ailments or genuinely validate you in any way but your feelings are valid and real to me and a lot of other folks. Take good care of yourself with no guilt. You deserve to feel good. Sending gentle heart hugs.💖 your feelings matter and are important 😘

[@elizabethbowie9753]

When I was 30, & newly divorced, our family went to group counceling. I'd mention how his verbal abuse was becoming physical abuse, so I left. Then my ex said, in 11 yrs, I only hit her 4 times. She acts like I did that every day. But the councelor said, ONE Time, is Too much. You don't do that to your wife !! That's when I woke up to that part of our situation. 💗💗💗

[@kellyleighread807]

Minimize my feelings. Runs in the family.

[@reesedaniel5835]

@@kellyleighread807 Same here. I was always told I was "too sensitive"......yet the entire family was expected to walk on eggshells to keep from angering narc mother. It's obvious who the "too sensitive" one really was...😏

[@kellyleighread807]

That's scary. The behavior patterns are such that they are not capable of understanding. Are you doing better now? Are you safe?

[@SkyCloud-do1iv]

The worst part of being adopted by a narcissist and being raised by her and with a narcissistic brother is that until I realized they were evil, I kept choosing those kinds of men. I greatly appreciate your videos and information. It’s so freeing and healing knowing the truth. The body and mind is capable of healing once it is allowed and given the chance.

[@greenap98]

my mental health,physical health suffered being together with that narcissist for 8 long years.he's not human.

[@imjustapril]

I can definitely say YES. After my divorce, I've lost 139lbs. I was married for 13yrs & I feel so much healthier now. Thank you for your compassion, Dr. Ramani ❤

[@selinameier6177]

That's wonderful!

[@HoneyBadgerxo]

It's true.I was at my absolute worst and lowest. Absolute Misery.

[@theoriginal7727]

God bless you friend! So glad you survived and got out of it. These creatures should be illegal.

[@jasonwimberly5636]

Congratulations breaking that cycle and getting free!

[@Jettypilelegs]

Fantastic!

[@nicole5819]

I had such bad fatigue I thought I was dying, but you are correct, when I finally left my energy came back, it validates that it wasn’t all in your head.

[@Shinningstar41978]

Exact same experience

[@not2longnow]

🎯

[@reesedaniel5835]

@@kollettevan9746 I got so weak and fatigued after being around one of these narcs for only 6 months that I fainted cold, landed on a hard wood floor and hit my head on a wall heater at the home of a friend just a couple weeks after going no contact with the narc. It had literally sucked out 2/3rds of my life force/essence. Just like a vampire. And I used the term "it" intentionally. These things are not human.

[@honourgardiner902]

@Nicole, Same here! Just realising it's the relationship I'm in! Difficult to make the break due to further stress if you leave.😔 Well done for leaving!!👍

[@lucianaioanasoare8905]

Fear of rage makes you hide all your pain to the point that you become resistant to pain...

[@JM-kj7ek]

Yes I did indeed get sick. I had a very healthy lifestyle by means or working out 3-4 times a week, pescatarian diet and a positive attitude towards life. After 5 years of marriage to this person, surprisingly I was diagnosed with breast cancer because I was always stressed and in flight or fight mode. . . I was being mistreated throughout my illness until I finally left while still in treatment and went no contact. Now cancer free and narc free through the grace of GOD!!!

[@nicholecornes1915]

What a AWSOME testimony!!!!! Praise Jesus!

[@Bike4Life231]

"Don't wait until after you get sick for the narcissist to step up..." I can't tell you how many times when I got sick, or when my entire body was fighting against me with hormone imbalances (i really truly think this was mostly due to the constant stress) that the narc would complain that i wasn't pulling my weight. I would be in bed with body aches, a temp and the flu and he would ask me when I was going to feel better so i could take the dog for a walk, or start helping with the kids again. He was ANNOYED that I was sick. He did not offer to help me in any way, our even say anything halfways encouraging. It got to the point where when i got sick, i just wouldn't say anything and try my best to keep going, because the punishment of his complaining just made me feel worse. These people are predators. They are not human. They are pure evil through and through.

[@kristianlove710]

I'm going through the same thing. But I live with his mom (who is also a narcissist) and our two sons (6,9) I also just went through stage 4 cancer not to long ago and they still treat me exactly like what you said. I have no family that's still around. So I am trapped. God please help me 🙏

[@deborahuetz1832]

?om is 97 and the worst narc i haveseen. She pushed my brother to suicide. I a? Sure. She wiii outlive me. I sleep so much.

[@cherrybacon3319]

I was once throwing up onto a bucket and couldn't move my head and he complained that his tea wasn't done.

[@gemmagalang6634]

I experienced this when I was still with the narc . I’m always sore even though I did not do anything that is exhausting.

[@ElizabethSotiria]

When I finally found the strength to walk away from the narcissist, the most draining and destructive relationship of my life, I literally slept for 10 days straight 😅 Never been more exhausted, mentally and emotionally and physically, than that period. Everything was so much clearer when I “woke up” after that crash, I genuinely believe I was under a spell because I was so miserable yet I couldn’t get away. Until I did ❤ Even looking back at photos I looked so unwell, I don’t recognise myself.

[@melisentiapheiffer3034]

Narcissistic personalities are wizards / witches for the reason that they use dark psychology to manipulate you.

[@chocomintlicious]

It was hard for a long time. Now that we've walked away, it feels relieving, isn't it?

[@anamartafaial1916]

Yahhhh happend to me too… over 16 years….. lately, no recognize me anymore. They Suck your soul, your essência, intil nothing rest at all.

[@chazbickel4518]

Smiling for you. ; )

[@arlettasloan6453]

The big narccisist in my life actually used to call me and demand to know why I don't do something about my health if it's true I'm really physically ill. Then, tell about all they were doing to help someone else recover their health and how I should do it for myself. Even though the person they were talking about had more money, transportation and mobility thanI did and couldn't do it on their own. I didn't know they were so much of the cause, but I knew even back then that they sure were no help in recovery!

[@nancycastro6135]

Yes being married to a narcissist is exhausting. I end up in the hospital many times. I got anxiety and stomach issues. And sometimes they can’t find anything; but now I can deal with it better thank you to all your lectures great information you are a light in the darkness with all your videos.

[@truthjunkie63]

This comment section is life. Thanks so much for stating what you went through.

[@kimberlylehman125]

My narcissist whipped me from age 4-15. After that it was devaluing or silent treatment. I was a cutter, had bulimia and was promiscuous most of my life. I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis at age 45. Most of my life I prayed to God to take me to heaven in my sleep. I'm 56 now and went no contact 9 months ago and I feel free. Thank you Dr. Ramini.. You've been a huge part of my healing journey. GOD BLESS YOU.

[@rturney6376]

GOD BLESS YOU!! I relate. Totally get it 😢

[@rismoody3906]

How do you get rid of the stomach issues from the emotional abuse?

[@Violet_Lotus_]

do you mean your father whipped you? How awful! I'm glad you are free from that.

[@asleighchauncey8751]

@@rismoody3906 I always getting nausea and vomiting issues and intense panick attacks from my complex ptsd coming from my covert malignant narcissist mothers emotional and verbal abuse.

[@rismoody3906]

@@asleighchauncey8751 what helped? And I’m sorry

[@SandraJoPo]

I've said this a few times on various channels, but I'm going to repeat myself, and I hope it gets through to everyone to get out of a narcissistic relationship. I was shot at point blank range in the temple 4 weeks ago by my husband. Because I was trying to actively ignore him, the bullet (9mm) came out on the other side's cheek, by my mouth. I have my jaw wired, as my jaw was shattered into more than a dozen pieces. I also have severed nerves thru my chin, mouth and cheek area. Lost a majority of my teeth and am sporting a gross scar on my cheek, but I'm writing this, so I consider myself to be extremely lucky. That is what it has taken to go no contact and end relationship. Over the last 15 years, I have experienced several odd ailments, but just figured it was due to getting older (I'm in my early 40's). Find a safe way out, tell as many people as you can, but get away. Dr. Ramani, I wish I had started watching the channel years ago instead of months ago, but I don't think I would've left anyway, due to trauma bonding. Please keep putting out this great and informative content. ❤️

[@deehen9844]

Sandra, you missed one thing to your full recovery and that is you stated that you are lucky. There is no such things as luck. Whether or not you know and believe in GOD the Father of Jesus, it his HE who has spared your life. He showed you mercy. Turn to him because there will be more opportunities in your life to get involved with a Narc regardless, of your sexual preference or if it is a friend, employer, church people, and or family members including, church to if you have them. Give GOD the 🙏 praise and glory for your added days on earth. Seek him while maybe found then call upon him while he is near so, that you maybe worthy to escape the wrath of God that is to come upon the earth in the times to come. I am glad you made it out. I understand what you have experienced. Peace!✌

[@deannaaston4687]

I'm glad you survived. I hope you continue in your healing and enjoy your life. God bless you

[@pam6243]

Thank you for sharing your story. Thank God you survived. Prayers for your healing and recovery.

[@_space_squirrel]

I’m happy you made it sis 😢 do not ever go back

[@dalidzucheredi2495]

Oh my gosh! It's so sad. This is painful to read. Save yourself

[@danielamondschein]

This clarified a few things for me. Actually ALL narcissists I was ever in contact with NEVER cared about my wellbeing - unless ofc there was an audience.

[@corneltessendorf8054]

Ooh yes. The audience.

[@Darla813]

You are making a lot of sense, I do feel very stiff and tense around my abuser. What helps me tremendously is the gray rock technique. I show completely no interest, If I need to respond I do the "ok dear, whatever you think" and leave the room. I'm lucky at least to have my own room I can go to. ONCE I started to understand narcissistic personality disorder it has become a bit easier to deal with this person. Thanks again Dr. Ramani. You are a lifesaver for me. ❤

[@BluebirdKbres]

Yes, Gray Rocking is my big go-to as well! It seems to work the fastest when you really need them to stop bothering you. It's amazing how much it helps.

[@BluebirdKbres]

I agree that it's important to have a room of your own to physically shut the door when needed.

[@MeghanCullen]

I grew up with a narcissistic parent, was in a relationship with a narcissist and had some narcissist friendships as well. I now have endometriosis, fibromyalgia, POTS syndrome, chronic migraine’s, IBS & chronic fatigue syndrome. I also struggle with PTSD, OCD and severe anxiety disorder. After cutting out the narcissists in my life my chronic illnesses and pain got a lot more manageable. Im 27 years old and started getting sick at 14. Narcissists can definitely make you ill.

[@vladquebec]

I was in a similar situation and I'm so sorry to read what you have right now. I hope your health will improve.

[@crisl9079]

I understand as I have/ had some of them too. I’m sorry & you have my empathy. I wish you all the best.

[@fireofevender5515]

Have you tried EMDR? It helped me heal & much of the pain drained from my soul. I still have to be careful not to let my narcissistic Mom & sister anywhere near me or my children. Through 2+ years of bi-monthly EMDR therapy, I gained the strength and the voice to stand firm no matter what. God bless you.

[@MeghanCullen]

@@fireofevender5515 Thanks for the message! Yes ive been doing weekly EMDR for quite some time now and its very helpful for sure. Sending you all the best as well!

[@jimpanse1638]

Get 10000 iu vitamin D in the morning and eat enough red meat and organs like liver. I had fibromialgia symptoms as well because i was vegan. Try different supplements there is a lot of information out there just look at the right places not mainstream media. They are trying to keep you sick.

[@__WhatIsGoingOn__]

Years of narcissistic abuse: rheumatoid arthritis, chronic pain, fatigue, cancer twice. Overweight, always sick 😪😪

[@LeoGang89]

I had heart palpitations at work waiting for the Narc's text, because I never knew where I stood with this person. I remeber the day I felt free of stress and realized I was free. I didn't realize I had so much stress living to please this person.

[@michelelands4103]

Yes, it's true they make you sick. I think it's the hopelessness you feel in the relationship and the feeling of being trapped because they are vicious with no boundaries and won't leave you alone even if you leave them alone. They are like a leech trying to suck your life dry of everything that makes it a good life, friends, family, character assisgnation, your belief system, confidence and more.

[@surayalalloo8667]

Leech is the correct word. They suck the life out of everything

[@jenydennise]

Leech 💯

[@Twinmama143]

This is right on point ❤

[@shauntellewana6130]

My fatigue and illness and depression was described as me being lazy…… that was awesome to hear…..

[@honeyand_sunshine]

On the flip side, when a narcissist uses trips to the ER and health scares to manipulate you, then actually makes it harder when you’re sick or have an injury by ignoring you or ‘taking care of you’ in a really toxic way. It makes health care one of your triggers, so healing is a loooooot more difficult.

[@user-ng7hz7ow6s]

I was married for 55 years to a narcissist, but didn’t realize it until seeing your videos, Dr. Ramani. He never had empathy or even sympathy when I was sick. I could go on and on. He died three years ago. Now I know

[@vanessak.2353]

My entire pregnancy I was alone, especially when I got the flu. In fact, we got in an argument over him not caring for me and he threw something at me and then left me for 3 weeks. He came back and then I just left him last week with our daughter. It's too much.

[@rcomyns4664]

Goid for you for getting yourself and your daughter away from him! I raised two kids alone, but it was better for all of us.

[@Violet_Lotus_]

What a jerk! Way to be a good husband! (not). How old is your daughter? She will benefit greatly by not being raised by him. I hope he has no access to her.

[@wheathusk2499]

These people have zero ability for empathy n its all about them n their feelings that get hurt so easily but not a word about how thy mk u feel. In their mind u deserve it. Its best to be away u can't make sense of things. They have no ability for genuine compassion n peace.

[@surlif]

Chronic pain is part of my life along with brain fog, IBS, and UTI's. Also, since I have been married to the narc for so long, I went through periods of such deep depression and brain fog, that I did not brush and floss my teeth properly. (My self care suffered that much.) I also went through a period of turning to sweets for comfort. The narcissist would tell me there was no money for regular visits to the dentist. I am PAYING for that now. Next week I am having to have SEVEN teeth extracted!

[@kathytrawick3554]

I remember the event which caused severe rheumatoid arthritis where I couldn't walk a few months after the event in 1983. I'm still very ill with it today having to receive an infusion of Orencia once a month for $7,000. Thank goodness I have great insurance to pay for it

[@judimunro9279]

I’m so sorry! It sucks that it’s a gift that keeps giving. :(

[@deborahcox-walker2761]

My symptom: spending my 20s and 30s feeling like I was in my 80s and 90s - literally too exhausted to move, in constant pain from aching joints (and I had been an athletic healthy teen)...walking around like a 'zombie' according to family and ex-friends...

[@lindabell6954]

You end up with a tired body and soul. Working on balance and self care has benefits. The support and education here with Dr. Ramani makes it possible to manage the long term effects. Much gratitude to all who share and encourage each other here.

[@Jaileneejj0121]

Couldn’t have said it better

[@BigTroubleD]

Yes a tired body and soul is so accurate. Also my mind is always cloudy and I find it hard to focus. I’m 29 but I look 40 and I feel like I’m 80…

[@bujarsalja6661]

i felt same... getting better slowly..

[@jillr759]

I don’t feel alive anymore.

[@ginajam6439]

Yes, it WEARS you DOWN. physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

[@hinrichwrage3004]

I got belly fat from all the stress by obsessively trying to correct myself to get the relation working. It was CLEARLY the beginning of chronic illness. To listen to you is like Christmas; everywhere a light is popping up. Thank you for bringing this light into my life! Soooo comfortable and pleasant to listen to you, fantastic!

[@twovirginiacats3753]

The opposite happened to me. At one point I got so thin that my doctor told me if I lost one more pound I was going into the hospital.

[@magicmoonart]

I did the same thing when I had to become mums carer I'm naturally more lazy and mum expected me to now do everything and clean a whole mansion so I've had to force myself to do things I hate doing and alter myself dramatically to go with mum's ocd

[@Ann-kp3qu]

Amen 🙏 I agree totally !!!!

[@SaritWorld]

​@@twovirginiacats3753 Same happened to me.

[@mm-gp9ot]

Same. I don't really eat a ton, and my belly fat has ballooned over time. All the stress just got to me over the years. I've been trying various supplements and so far trying to lower cortisol has shown some promise. I take ashwagandha and magnesium. When I was hardcore Keto, I did totally lose my belly fat in about 6 months time. But I got off the diet and it came back. Maybe I should just get back to keto. Idk.

[@jeenujoy4982]

I never had acne when I was a teenager.. my skin was crystal clear.. then the acne started when I was in college.. still i am struggling with severe acne.. finally i realized that its the stress nothing else😩

[@robertakerr655]

I didn't have any health issues at all until my 2nd marriage. During the 17 years we were together, I have developed: migraines, high blood pressure, type 2 diabetes, vitamin deficiencies (B6, B12, Calcium, Iron), bad good cholesterol, high triglycerides, almost zero immune system, fibromyalgia, degenerative osteoarthritis, my knees are bone on bone, multi-level facet arthropathy, metabolic syndrome, adult onset eczema, SHINGLES when I was 43, depression, anxiety, cPTSD, agoraphobia, tachycardia, arrhythmia and a bunch more I'm probably forgetting! He divorced me for another woman in 2022...but it turned out to be a blessing in disguise. I am so much happier and am working on trying to get my health together...mentally & physically. It's been hard and will be harder once I lose my medical coverage, but thank GOD you are online to listen to!

[@Victoriana883]

My mother could be a poster child for narcissists. I spent my life feeling sorry for her and trying to make it up to her that she had a dysfunctional childhood, as if I had anything to do with it. My mother cut me off about a year and a half ago (I was a failure in feeding her ego because I would not glorify her; how fortunate for me), and honestly, I have not felt physically or mentally better in decades. I have endometriosis, fibromyalgia, depression, anxiety, arthritis… and I had become accustomed to my body hurting all over, everyday. Now I go weeks without needing to take anything for pain and I actually have glimpses of joy. The difference is incredible!

[@michellebeishline4657]

Yes, I say "My soul is tired." I am taking care of me now. Long overdo. Love you Dr. Ramani! You are a Godsend to so many and the beauty of just you as a person shines through and is a gift as well.

[@marinadahlstrm6755]

Pain in the body from stress and guilt, not very social right now

[@sandylevan5647]

Mental exhaustion, physical ways like neck stiffness, bad sleep, not laughing as much, and emotional: sad for no apparent reason, my adhd has REALLY been triggered, more trouble focusing and just not meeting goals....I am laying the ground work to change this in the very near future...🙏

[@janemariesterrett3899]

There is a great book called " The body keep score" so much of this really does remain in our body. Love this video and her creating so much awareness on this matter.

[@Lee-qd1yw]

I have it. It's so true

[@elaineanderson2989]

This sounds interesting I will check it out. Thank-u

[@lisamichaels1269]

I got bells palsy, huge Weight gain, horrible insomnia, depression and rage. You are on point!!!!! I thought I was losing my mind literally and physically I thought I had something very wrong with me.

[@charlotteottley1417]

When my relationship with a narcissist was finally over after 3 years, I lost 2 stone in 2 months from feeling so anxious that I felt constantly nauseous and lost my appetite. I developed disordered eating and my mental health is still deeply affected today, 6 years later. By the time I realised I’d been a victim of a narcissist, my life had been changed in ways I never could have imagined. Sending love to all those healing ❤

[@Superkidartist]

Chronic sinus infections, severe eczema, anxiety, depression, insomnia. This is back when I didn’t have any idea what was going on because I had never been exposed to a person with this type of disorder and had no name for it. Wish I had these videos 10 years ago!

[@beekinder6953]

I too wish they were available years ago, 40 years in my case. But hey, we've got them now! Thank God, the Universe and Dr Ramani.

[@jengable4888]

Right !!

[@lunenfeld51]

Severe eczema here too.

[@mm-gp9ot]

Sorry you suffered for so long. Maybe the next generations will have better info than we did. I too would have benefitted so much from seeing these types of videos 10 or 20 years ago. But hey better late than never, right.

[@machinagirl]

Severe depression and anxiety. Upset stomach and migraines.

[@ludonnabraymiller6366]

Omg! This is so true people !!! I’ve lived it. Years of living with a narc. 37 yrs. The last ten years were unbearable, the stress and anxiety were over whelming. I ended up having a heart attack. This is when everything became clear and I started researching narcissism. I still stayed for five more years! I left two years ago because things were so out of control. It’s the best decision I ever made in my entire life

[@tinakelly668]

I appreciate your journey 😢

[@MS-bs8dd]

You are hear to tell about it. There are all levels of leaving and recovery. Congratulations ❤

[@wendyhannan2454]

Well done, I’m glad your happy now 🙏

[@Arrowflyer2]

I was abused from my family in the family business. I went to renew my pilot physical and couldn’t past because my heart was going down. Having a pilot license saved my live. Not to long after that I quit the family business and got another job. Best thing I ever did to myself. I don’t talk to my family anymore.

[@antonyhunt1375]

Narcissistic abuse left me physically & mentally sick, unable to function properly. I’d worked hard all my life & had been successful in building a home for me & my family & travelling the world together on wonderful holidays. Due to the horrific abuse & discard I went downhill, unable to work, exercise or socialise.. I was alienated from my children, lost my home & everything I’d worked 40 years + for. It’s been horrific

[@clairellerton7134]

Insomnia, chronic headaches, eating disorders, tummy troubles, chronic tonsillitis, body hurting all the time, chronic fatigue syndrome, brain fog. It goes on and on. Overcome most of it now but still working on the rest. It literally drains you. Especially if you’ve suffered all your life from narcissistic people. The body and mind can only take so much. I also believe when you finally wake up to narcissism and walk away you end up so tired and drained as your body can finally breathe to a certain extent and everything suddenly hits you. ❤

[@tiffcat1100]

Yes, definitely leads to illness. My mother died in her 60s while her now-elderly narcissistic husband (my father) has lived on for another quarter of a century (and counting), still just as full of charm, hate, rage, prejudices, accusations, delusions, manipulations, lack of accountability or honesty as ever, with irritation or blaming over anything less than perfect health (himself excepted, naturally). You don’t know who you are when you are in close contact with a narcissist, nor what you think or feel. You aren’t allowed to & they certainly don’t allow you the time or money to discover this. Keep strong Dr R! 🥰

[@indig9362]

I had IBS growing up and well into adulthood. I realized the further I got from my family the less of an issue it became. I overcame that, but recently became homeless (working full-time as an educator but the housing market is crazy) and ended up back with my mother. A few years ago I was diagnosed with neuropathy, fibromyalgia, and chronic fatigue and it’s a really big struggle every day being back in this toxic environment. The good news is I’m starting school in September to become an educational psychologist, and in three years I will be doing work that I love that will also mean financial independence. I definitely get triggered/sick sometimes still living here, but it means everything that there is light at the end of the tunnel!

[@Ravjot-pd7ly]

I m having headaches , muscle aches , balming my self , self guilt , started taking anti anxiety pills

[@kellimayer3613]

Great message. I walked away from the narcissist person in my life and experienced peace. Nobody, but nobody is worth my peace, joy and health.

[@Nanukie]

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[@magicmoonart]

I wish I could leave but I've got no money no job and she won't let me get a job. She's started insisting I use my money for all her expensive stuff now so the money I've saved up is now going to be used

[@lynzzzseekinggodsgrace4635]

That is so sad.

[@lurlinesmithhylton5290]

32 years...16 of marriage...with muscle cramps inflammation...lack of sleep..constant thinking...feeling fatigue...helplessness... worried...feel down. ..didn't know why ...what r who...going to the Doctor always...praying n then the feeling comes back...but guess what..I found out who it was...my husband ...it was so subtle...I think he is a covert narcissist...poisonous black mamba snake...kind n sweet to strangers n cruel to us in the home....but God is good

[@duanemcclure8324]

Amen to that, "Mah Lady"! I'm a male on the other side of this coin and, lemme tell ya..it ain't any better over here either! Men might be "brutish" but women are devious! I always had to stay 6 steps ahead of her so I could "flank" her and cut her off at the pass. It's SO tiring..on both sides. There wasn't a day that went by that she didn't say: "I'm tired"..all the time, no matter how much sleep she got. At first, I was very concerned about something being wrong with her health. Strange..

[@laurastein8222]

I started drinking to give myself a quick fix from the anxiety and ptsd of walking on eggshells and waiting for the next bomb to drop. I realized I needed to change course when I was waking up and drinking rum and whatever for breakfast. Seriously, though, have gone from 3-5 drinks a day down to 2-3 a week. I’m still working on myself but doing so much better. 😊

[@kerrydwyer1879]

Well done!❤

[@laurastein8222]

@@kerrydwyer1879 thank you so much!

[@gforce9596]

Be nice to yourself, not just other people 😄 I get the feeling that you had a tendency to treat other people better than yourself - sending all strong vibes, and hope you're doing well today. If you're not doing so well, "we" the internet are here to listen

[@constance4065]

EXCELLENT video on this topic!! Here’s what happened to me. I went from a healthy woman to having to be on Disability after having a relationship with a Narcissist for 13 yrs.

[@user-gx5zm5vn5l]

Yes I got high blood pressure because of him. Constant abuse for 17 years until I got free. Now I’m trusting God as he heals my life.

[@bobmathieson987]

The impact of narcissistic abuse on me as a child by a grandiose mother and a malignant father was a constant existential threat. My fathers' unregulated rage coupled with my mothers' indifference over my suffering during childhood resulted in multiple symptoms leading to the collapse of many developmental attributes and the ability to trust adults and engage in social interactions. Those fifteen years have taken me fifty years to unravel and understand the dynamics of narcissistic abuse. I survived and can link almost all of my physical and mental problems to that family of origin. I am alone in the world but not lonely. Such is life.

[@johenderson3742]

Me too.

[@hipsonsogbo]

Thanks for sharing reading these posts resonates. Makes me realise this is a real thing and others have experienced it. No one I know has reached out or understood so reading that others have the same conclusions really helps.

[@RxS100]

❤

[@peterwinzeler2935]

YES! I felt like they were sucking me of life.....Financially,Physically,Mentally,Emotionally,Spiritually

[@cottonflannigan3671]

Same here

[@dblack8141]

Ive spoken with people whi have increased thier finances, friends, and all desirable things yet still claim to be at a loss. They are called evil people

[@neveragain733]

It has been a year since i posted. I have physically recovered quite a bit, but i still have moodswings. The full body pain hasnt returned. Now im due for all my medical tests. I have eaten healthy, no drinking or drugs, always tried to stay healthy. After all that i pray im ok.

[@sakthic8866]

When i close my eyes and listen I can figure out one person in my life and also doubt another

[@rpatterson823]

Anxiety, depression, weight gain, fatigue, diabetes, hypertension and uterine issues ending in hysterectomy. It took nearly 30 years to realize that I was the only one with all these illnesses while his health wasn’t affected at all. I was carrying all the burdens.

[@kathrynhayes1799]

Weight gain, blood pressure elevation, inability to sleep, hyper-reactive reaction time, overwhelming tiredness, cholesterol elevation,feelings of loneliness. Ways to combat: get out among other people, listen to music, exercise, find a church you like,and talk to God a lot!, and finally, plan for and get out ASAP. Been there in three separate circumstances- wise to it now,but took a lifetime to recognize and learn. Your vid’s a life line!♥️

[@LadyLuvsNatr]

The churches are a playground for the Narc. They are just as bad as online dating sites. I actually think it's worse. Wolves in sheeps clothing, hiding under the name of "God".

[@beekinder6953]

I hope you get free soon Kathryn. A happy healthy life awaits us.

[@jengable4888]

I agree and anyone who can afford to leave, must keep their exit strategy close to the vest/chest ...so to speak.