Does Gender Dysphoria Improve? | 6 Years Post 1st Stage Phalloplasty - Comparisons Before and After

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Additional resources: 📘My Phalloplasty Memoir: bit.ly/32SDYWM 🍆Phallo reveal videos: bit.ly/3QbV6xX

[@killerbee4229]

Thanks Finn, I've felt the exact same way about getting phalloplasty and it's so good to hear that someone else was the same. I've contemplated it for years and years, at first I definitely didn't want it (based on myths and misinformation) and after time, I've slowly realized there's a lot of aspects that I'm not okay with, and that I do need it. When i first figured that out, i felt invalid for not instantly being completely sure about it, but hearing others experience the same as me has helped me sooooo much. I'm set for the beginning of 2025 for stage 1, and I'm both super excited and super scared! 😅 Thank you for sharing your journey, it's been a HUGE help and has helped me figure things out, surgeons and doctors can only tell you so much, they don't know the phycological and personal parts of the journey, so thank you. Wish me luck!

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Thank you for this wonderful comment, this is exactly why I share so openly. So many people feel their need for surgery is somehow invalidated if they have doubts and hesitations, but I actually think this is normal! Who ever wants surgery? Its painful and comes with complications and risks, we want the outcome, but not the surgery, its just unfortunate we have to have the surgery to get the outcome! So yes, having these concerns I think makes you a much wiser and prepared person when it comes to surgery, as you know what's ahead, and you are prepared for it, rather than just skipping into it thinking everything is hunky dory! I'm so pleased you have managed to work through everything and have a plan ahead, how exciting! Dont forget nerves are normal too! I'm not sure if you know, but I have a website with a ton of extra info, and a phalloplasty book too. Ill link it here, and if you every need any extra info or whatever, do please give me a shout! finlaygames.com/my-books/

[@scoobi216]

I'm in the middle of my phalloplasty and having some complications (with the Urethra of course). This video has really helped me in for one knowing that I'm not alone in my feelings and also, just motivation that this is temporary and it does get better. Thank you!

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Bless you my friend. The urethral complications are the worst, but yesd, to get to the other side is amazing. Once everything is working, all of that is forgotten and replaced with joy! I hope you get some relief soon my friend

[@DRockTransMan]

As a guy in the middle of the phalloplasty journey, with the complications and all, I can’t tell you how much I appreciate your videos. I need to see guys on the other side of this to know it will all come together in the end, thank you

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Bless you bud. It's why I share and I'm glad these vids help. Had my fair share of complications, which is pretty common, but yep they do eventually get resolved. Hang on in and if l can ever help please do message!

[@DRockTransMan]

Thanks Finn! I just ordered your book, looking forward to reading it.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

@@DRockTransMan oh fabulous, thank you! I hope it's helpful!

[@kavitadeva]

Hi Finn. Great video. When I listen to what Dysphoria was like for you and all the in's and outs of getting to where you are today, I realize how desperately you NEEDED to have all the surgeries etc to reveal the man you truly are. How Transphobes can say it's a Trans Agenda and it is not A real condition pisses me off. No one would go through all the pain and emotional upheaval just because it's trendy. You are a brave person. Now you are congruent. Body mind Soul and Spirit. I am thrilled for you.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Bless your hart my dear friend, that means the absolute world to me. Yes, this is exactly why I share because folks often do not understand the pain we have to go to, simply to stop being in pain! It has all been so very worth it, to be where I am now and so at peace, experiencing more joy than I ever thought possible with my body!

[@Shadowhunter420]

That's absolutely wild it's been six whole years!it definitely doesn't feel like it's been that long.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Unbelievable isnt it@

[@youngneo7589]

man you have no idea how much i needed this . how much i needed to hear this huge dysphoria before and between the surgerys is temporary . i'm really thankful for this video and all you've said . it really made me feel beter 💙

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Im so glad this made you feel better! Yes the dysphoria is temporary, the relief to have most of it gone, and more going every day, is amazimg!

[@KingRevvi]

Thanks for this update. Very relatable… I can’t overstate how much I appreciate it. I previously imagined other men who get phalloplasty are so dysphoric that they can barely shower & panic about it daily. I don’t think I feel that way, but I guess I do randomly/impulsively curse out loud while bathing… I convinced myself for over half my current lifetime that bottom surgery was impossible & ignored the thought… but It is no longer out of reach & I have a lot to think about.

[@WhoamI-su7pg]

Good for you, man. I’m terrified of phalloplasty surgery. I am not scared of top surgery. Can’t wait to get it. So happy it worked out for you.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

I can understand the fear, I felt the same until I realised at lot of my fears came from misinformation, this is why I shared my story. If you are interested in finding out more, I have a book! finlaygames.com/my-books/

[@mercurious6699]

Well done, kudos to your courage and resilience

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Thanks my friend!

[@TheDentrassi]

Thankyou so much for talking about this. I want to give you a hug and cry. I dont think I want lower surgery but also... want it.

[@TheDentrassi]

I should probably read your book

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Oh bless you! I do completely understand, that pretty much sums up how l felt before surgery!

[@Moosh207]

I'm glad you gave yourself this gift of a beautiful life. You have such a big heart. If you were born with a body that reflected your gender from the beginning, I think your heart would be just as big. If someone is a lovely person then they just are, no matter what's going on around them. I discovered your journey in early 2013 when you were baby Finn and pre everything, and throughout the changes over the years the things that have remained constant and continue to grow strength to strength is your curiosity for life and people, and your heart and the compassion you have to help people. I've read your book and it's a beautiful story of your development and growth into manhood. Will you be releasing other books either through a publisher or self publish?

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

You know what? That is exactly how I feel! Yes, being trans is frequently challenging and often distressing, but I love the person it has made me become and I love the work that I do today, because of these experiences. Baby Finn has come a long way and I am so honoured that you have seen the entire evolution! New books are on the cards......and there will be more news coming soon! But...you are a member and you already have some super secret inside information on this 😉😜

[@lisaschneider7493]

“To just be you. Pain-free.” I’m so happy for you, Finn! 💚

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Ah lovely, thank you! Pain free is heaven!

[@kellybestall4422]

Well done i truly cannot wait for allnof this im in the total depths of despair right now because im being ignored by the gender clinic my gp is trying his upmost to get them to answer him because yep im that desperate iv been self administering t my ftm friend was panicking as i said il get it online i dont care cannot afford to have thoughts again of doing something silly again( i attempted suicide twice in my 20s) as i have a daughter now..and unfortunately iv been without t for about 3wks now and i know about it no energy angry all the time depressed horrible thoughts not wanting my partner near me and my menopause symptoms have returned i had a hysto 3yrs ago for medical reasons i I dunno im 39 now and its so damn hard :'( in tears every night again..but your vids and you give me hope and to see the man you are is amazing im so so pleased for you finn

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

My dear friend l am reaching through the screen to give you the biggest hug . Gender services are in crisis and this is having such an awful impact on our community. I can understand why you are self meddling, but please take care of yourself, make sure to get your blood tested if you can,just to keep an eye on things so you are safe. Remember that you will get there in the end and when you do all this wait and pain will melt away and feel.luke a distant dream. I'm so.pleased my videos give you hope because there is much hope to be had. Much love to you

[@satunbreeze]

I havent even finished the video yet but thank you so much for making this video. It is SO hard to find information on this, to the point where I feel like at this point I just have to make a consultation with every surgeon possible to figure out what to do

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Im so glad this was helpful. Finding info about lower surgery is hard, which is why I share so openly on here, and in my book. I have a website too with more info if its useful. You can message me there too. finlaygames.com

[@satunbreeze]

@@FinnTheInfinncible thank you!

[@yaelgilles4114]

Thank you Finn for being so honest...

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Thank you so much for your kind appreciation 😊😊

[@Echothreads]

Congratulations mate, I’m genuinely really happy for you but also so jealous! 😅 You look like you’re experiencing joy I can only dream of but you so deserve it and have worked so hard to get where you are. I only hope to one day be were you are now! Just know this random stranger on the internet is really proud of you!!

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Bless your heart! There are no random strangers, just friends we havent met yet! Thank you, yet the joy is almost too painful to bare its so new and intense! Its wonderful! I hope my sharing helps you to have something to hang on to because there is an amazing future ahead!

[@jam-yh3bl]

hearing you talk about gender euphoria is so great!! definitely more motivated to pursue transition now

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

I'm so happy to be able to give you hope. It's a tough journey but such a worthwhile rewarding one where there absolutely is relief from the pain of gender dysphoria and gender euphoria can exist. I wish you all the luck in the world with your journey 💕

[@helenlawson8426]

Your not trans if at some point you don't talk about peeing... it's in the law or something. :) x Yours is an amazing story, I kind of knew what was involved in surgery in the opposite direction only now realising how little I knew. The part about realising only after the surgery was over just how much dysphoria there was buried away hit home for me. In my case I really wanted the surgery no doubts what so ever, only I was in no way ready for the emotional ride on the other side as my body kind of clicked into place. Again like you I had issues that needed more surgery although in my case it dealt a blow to depth and scaring in an awkward spot... I had to hide a lot of hurt after years of preparation... it was just bad luck that's all. As I must talk about peeing then I have to mention the childish moment of euphoria that first made me go yep! that's how it should be... I was unbandaged for the first time, still very swollen, and not only was there nothing there, which was fantastic, but I also farted and my flaps (Labia) vibrated... laughed like a child for ages. Yes that was the intellectual height of my transition. :) On bladder anxiety I can completely get that, I was operated on as a baby down below and have spent my life thinking about where the nearest loo is when ever travelling. Oddly enough never realised I should have been able to clear out my wee from the shaft with a muscle action as I never had that ability which explains why it always seemed easier for other people, learn something new every day. :) xx

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Oh thats so true! We ALL have a bathroom struggle and story! I loved the story you shared! I can picture your grin! I have had many a similar moment. One of which was my first bath...and discovering my willy floated!!! The joy in these theings eh!! That bladder anxiety is awful. Even talking about it makes my body react! Its still really only disappearing from my life, but long journies, especially on public transport, can often still spark off the worry! What a journey we have! Thank you so much for watching, for your lovely comment, and for sharing so personally with me!

[@helenlawson8426]

@@FinnTheInfinncible Thankfully we had Toad in the Hole for supper last night or that image you just put in my head would have put me off my food. :D x

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

@@helenlawson8426 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@danielutzon4870]

Your videos are such an amazing resource for young trans men who want phallopasty, you are so joyfull and informative

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Thank you so much my friend!

[@dmitrinikolasfanourakis4213]

Just came across your first video of stage 1 phallo surgery and wow! How has time flown?!? I’m so amazed

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Hasn't it just! Its Finncredible!!

[@lizstubbs2969]

So happy for you finn you have come through this with such determination and positivity truly amazing ❤❤

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Thank you Liz! 💕

[@Jesse_Buckley]

Hi there, I've got another kind of question. The tattoo on your donor arm, is this one done by a special kind of tattoo artist? Like a medical tattoo artist? Of a special scar tattoo artist? I'm five years post-op but my scar is still so fragile. I have multiple tattoos, but I really can't imagine that it would be possible to cover up my scar with a tattoo. I think it will bleed a lot and that the ink won't attach to my skin. What is your experience with covering up your scar? Thanks in advance.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Hello my friend. My tattoo was done by a tattoo artist who has experience with tattooing scarred and grafted skin. Whether yu can have your arm tatooed, all depends on the quality of the skin on your graft. I wrote a blog about this recently which goes into much more detail you can find it here 👉finlaygames.com/tattooing-skin-graft-scars-after-phalloplasty-surgery/

[@jamieboy1965]

Thanks Finn wonderful video. Did you have electrolysis on your arm?

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Thanks my friend! I had laser hair removal. I have a vid somewhere.....

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Here you go! kzbin.info/www/bejne/qXfTgpZ8Ys2VpMU

[@jamieboy1965]

@@FinnTheInfinncible thanks Finn

[@pmbluemoon]

I get a big smile on my face when I see you've put out another video! 😃😁😊🥰 Happy 6 years Finn Jr.!!! 🥳🎉✨🎊🎆 "With a side of cheese." 🧀 Love Lamby hiding back under there... (It's become a fun little game in my mind, "Where and what is he up to in this video?" I love it!) 16:20 Just another odd question for you: Have you ever asked Chris what the differences between you are in terms of feelings of pleasure (where you felt it, how intense and such? Or is that in your book and I can just find out so you don't have to answer if you don't want to in the comments?) I haven't had a chance to read your book yet, but it's on my "next" shelf! I was surprised at myself, once I transitioned (no lower surgery yet), that I've known all along that if I did full lower surgery that I would identify as/be a gay man. This is such a turn of events for me that I never expected, but, in a way, also knew way back in my mind. So far my partner is still on the fence about staying with me, but if I delve into getting lower surgery, I think our relationship would be over as a couple, and just be friends. It's tough going through all of this. I still thank you from the bottom of my heart that I found your channel and that you are willing to be so candid and genuine for those of us out there with the same type of journey! Have a great day Finn, and thank you again! 🐑🥰👏

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Haha! He needs to have his own book, Wheres Lamby! That is a really good point about asking Chris about how we each experience pleasure, I have asked some questions, but never really in a compare kind of way. I will ask him ahead of making my next sensation video! I cant wait to hear what you think about my book! Sexuality changing is a surprise, never in a million years did I think I would go back to men! Life is full of surprises. Transitioning is so hard when we are in a relationship, some survive it, others dont and that is really tough to manage. My heart goes out to you my friend and I am glad my videos can give you some comfort. Much love to you!

[@tinkerbellsfairydust165]

What a great story you have to tell, consider public speaking, such bravery.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Thanks very much! I do.public speaking for work 😁

[@nicholasporteous8758]

Finn sending my love 💓 this video was great and glad your pain free and feeling like you are who your ment to be mate honest so happy for you. Xoxoxo

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

What a lovely thing to say, thank you so much!

[@lizstubbs2969]

Staffordshire uni have gender free toilets with,cubicles for everyone (no urinals)

[@sheilasantos6618]

How to have mustache and beard? I took my testosterone for almost 3 years but until now I don't have hair on my face.

[@JulesBeehive]

This video is very touching ♥️

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Ah Thank you!

[@colapeppy2816]

This is true for me.. i clearly hate having breasts.. but i didn't care that much about what's between my legs.

[@eddyingjackson3701]

Where's that video about sensation and intimacy!! Haha been waiting

[@Angel-rg8sl]

You are marvelous!

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Ah you are lovely!

[@stuff1784]

Do you identify as a gay man or bisexual or pansexual?

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

When pushed to chose, I identify as a gay man because I am male and I am attracted to men. However, I think I see myself more as generally queer because none of these labels truly fit and are so problematic!

[@3XPrince]

Tbh this all sounds quite disturbing for someone who isn’t trans

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

I can understand that. To someone who isn't trans, surgery looks terrifying. But, As trans people, the pain, the scars, the recovery, is all worth it for the outcome which is better mental health, happiness and ability to live our lives as the people we are.

[@LiftedBuddha]

@@FinnTheInfinncible Why does the suicide rate not decrease after surgery then?

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

@@LiftedBuddha not sure where you are getting your stats from as that's not true. But, a reason for continued poor mental health post transition, is because of the awful transphobia we face, comments like these for example. Dealing with nasty people day in and day out takes its toll. If we were left alone to get on with our lives, our mental health would improve. Help us out by getting properly informed and reflecting on how it might feel to live in the shoes of a transgender person.

[@LiftedBuddha]

@@FinnTheInfinncible How is my comment transphobic? I believe that surgery doesn't help due to the overwhelming evidence it's not the best course of treatment, and more research needs to be done.

[@eastcoastenergy]

@@LiftedBuddha homophobic and transphobic terms (which no on actually is - dysphoria is pitiful, not scary) are used when someone loses an argument. This woman is a common narcissist, looking for views and trying to be a dude. Real men don't behave this way.

[@lizstubbs2969]

Sorry I laughed when you said it was hard, couldn't help it, no offence meant but 😂😂

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

😜😜😜

[@lizstubbs2969]

@@FinnTheInfinncible 😂😂❤

[@brucedonnelly5209]

dude i can't watch your video when you say super triggering comments that remind me of how people infantilize my body parts by saying " it is weird that my parts are only 6 and two years old " It massively creeps me out with that smile on your face. like do you really need to do that? Can you have some sensibility, discretion and respect for those of us with abuse and trauma?

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

I'm sorry it upsets you, it was never my intention, I just try to bring humour into a topic that people often find difficult to talk about.

[@dontreadthisplease2416]

If you're triggered that easily, maybe you should just avoid the internet all together.

[@raxxcoin9937]

🥹Emotional finn🤌🏽

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Thank you