Does Islam instruct men to beat women?

[@lilyrosesoul0077]

My mum has been abused by my dad since the start of their marriage - beatings, slapping and kicking. One muslim teacher( a pious muslim man) told my mum to accept this since this was her way to Jannah. The muslim teacher was furious when i told him - nothing in islam condones domestic violence To him - the ideal muslim woman accepts everything a muslim man tells her. So even today - many muslim men abuse women and use Islam as an excuse. I hope that women like my mother and me ( because I too have been abused by my dad) will have justice on Judgement Day. There are many muslim ladies like us that live in muslim societies who know abuse is going on - but due to cultural factors we are trapped and the so called muslim leaders are helping the abusers and not the abused.

[@dragonayre-00]

Tbh with you, there's a lot of people who claimed to devoted be Muslim, Christian etc, abused the scriptures. They use it to fulfil what they want. I hope Allah will grant your mother Paradise for her patience.

[@notreallyacartoon1078]

I hope it'll get better and i hope Allah will bless you with a pious husband that'll treat you better. I have seen my father beat my step mother and have heard of him beating my mother and what scares me is that one day if my husband will hurt me my father whom i'm supposed to relay on when i need anything will support that abuse

[@soulseeker9422]

May you and your mum get Paradise and unlimited happiness for your patience.💙

[@AC-mp7cx]

why do women always choose abusive men

[@MeowMeow-vw1fr]

islam instructs this though.

[@emoticonfeliz2129]

This makes me think that all muslim women should be educated and fully aware of their islamic rights before entering a marriage, since I live in a country were mysoginy is norm, I would love to show all my sister in Islam that they aren't obligated to endure physical nor any type of abuse.

[@KamrulHasan-ck7ys]

mysogyny? how?

[@emoticonfeliz2129]

@@KamrulHasan-ck7ys A society where we ask too much from women and very little from men, where a man is allowed to lift skirts around the whole neighborhood and commit zina freely and then ask for virgins in marriage, while a woman who held hands with an unrelated man once is seen as an adultress and unfit for marriage. Where men are only required to have a job and no one cares if they spend the rest of their day at cafes looking at women passerby and neglecting their wives and children, while their women are required to stay at home and only think about their husbands and children. Where men are not seen as guilty when they rape women, but the raped women are seen with scrutiny and told that they were being provocative rather than treated as victims, among many other examples I could go forever on.

[@ahmadaliyud9656]

Exactly

[@ahmadaliyud9656]

@@KamrulHasan-ck7ys “Aisha(R.A) reported that Allah (S.W.T) messenger prophet Muhammad (S.A.W), May Allah bless him, never beat anyone with his hand, neither a woman nor a servant, but only, in the case when he had been fighting in the cause of Allah (S.W.T)…”(Sahih Muslim, Hadith 4296) The meaning of the above is he never hit anyone no matter who it was except in war against the enemy (and that was between men). The Prophet (S.A.W) said: “The best among you is the one who is best towards his wife” Hadith-Muslim, 3466 It is reported that Ali (R.A) has said “Get your daughters married to those who are fearing Allah(S.W.T) if they love them they will honour them and if they dislike at least they won’t oppress them they will send them home in one piece”. Those people who are going around saying the Quran allows a man to beat a woman they don’t know what they are talking about the Quran says that when as a last result the woman is not listening and DF one’s not want to look at you and you are talking to her you may draw her attention by tapping her that is the term it does necessarily mean to go out and beat and thumb. If that was the case we would have read so many hadeeth of the sahabah having done that (R.A) they didn’t do that if you read the hadeeth they used the siwak ( a small stick that is used in cleaning teeth compared to the baseball bats we are using today) which was only used to draw the attention of the women that was how they understood wadribhuna. So why should we try and say no the Quran doesn’t have that verse when we go speak to those modernists and those people who are trying to delete verses of the Quran. Don’t deny it say the understanding is the understanding of the sahabah and also over and above that a woman who has been bashed you have the right to apply to the ulama to the bodies in the ulama authorities in the Muslim countries in the court and that marriage will be nullified on those grounds if it was permissible how could it be nullified. Let’s understand the Shari’ah there’s no loopholes in Islam in addition there is nothing barbaric in this shariah. That is the law of Allah (S.W.T).

[@akirine2298]

Salam~ There are people don't believe in the truth, they rather believe in what they want to And so, the non-believers want to believe in some misinterpretation of the Islamic teachings in order to sully the religion, to present Islam in a negative way. Arabic is an old and comprehensive language, 1 word can have many meanings depending on the context, the preposition coming with it,... According to a research, the phrase "idribohunna" (root: daraba) has around 30 different meanings (such as: to give example, to present, to set forth, to leave, to shun, to hit, to tap, to cover,...) And most verses in the Quran where this root "daraba" appears, the meaning tends to be "to give example", "to present",... There are verses in the Quran talking about hitting (satan and enemies), the word "hitting" used there was not root "daraba", it was something completely different. "Idribuhunna" could mean "to tap" (with a siwak (toothbrush)), like to catch her attention to the discussion, to let her know that this argument is important, we need to solve it. If "idribuhunna" here was meant as "to shun", it is also reasonable. Because the previous lines said "leave them in bed", so doesn't it sound smooth when it is put like this "admonish them, leave them in bed and shun them." So in general, "daraba" is one of the Arabic words that have multiple meanings, root "daraba" is not usually be understood as "to hit", "to beat", there is other words for that. Root "daraba" here in Quran 4:34 rather means "to tap", as many scholars said, symbolic action: just to let your wife knows that you are upset, this is getting out of hand, our marriage is at risk. Most importantly, read the whole verse and you see, this "tap" is put at the last action to take if the previous 2 ways doesn't work. "Admonish" and "leave her in bed", sleeping separately from your partner is actually really painful inside, if the wife is ok with that, then it could mean that their relationship is really at risk. To support my explanation that "idribuhunna" should not mean to beat, here are some hadiths, quotes and narrations mentioning that the Prophet doesn't encourage beating your wife. "“I (Muaviyah b. Haidah) said, “O Apostle of God! What is my duty to my wife?” He said, “That you give her to eat as you eat yourself, and clothe her as you clothe yourself; and do not slap her in the face nor abuse her, nor separate yourself from her in displeasure.” The Quran clearly says, “Live with your wives in a good manner. If you dislike them in any manner, it may be that you dislike something in which Allah has placed much good for you” (Quran, 4:19). So, God commands man to be good to his wife even if he dislikes her. Allah says, "Among His signs is that He created for you spouses from among yourselves, in order to have tranquility and contentment with each other. He places in your heart love and care towards your spouses. In this, there are signs for people who think." (30:21)" "And if you fear dissension between the two, send an arbitrator from his people and an arbitrator from her people. If they both desire reconciliation, Allah will cause it between them. Indeed, Allah is ever Knowing and Acquainted [with all things]." ( Surah Nisa- 4:35) (Would you beat your wife and then tell her parents: "I beat up your daughter. Could to ask her to reconcile with me?" Because this is the next step in the Quran.) As for the Messenger of Allah (sws), he said, "Could any of you beat your wife as he would a slave, and then lie with her in the evening?" (Bukhari and Muslim). There are other traditions in Abu Da'ud, Nasa'i, Ibn Majah, Ahmad bin Hanbal and others, to the effect that he forbade the beating of any woman, saying: "Never beat God's handmaidens." So all these quotes and information I gave, isn't that they focus on reconciliation? If a man was permitted to beat his wife to death, why would he also be suggested to reconcile with her? And another point is that, right in the beginning of verse 34 (surah Al-Nisa). "...Men are the protectors of women...". Should a protector beat the one who was to be protected? You hire a security guard and is he allowed to beat you? (Unless you are doing some harm to yourself and he needs to give you a tap to waken you, to bring you back to your normal state of mind, right?) The Quran also mentioned in other verses that "live with them (your wives) with kindness" (4:19) and "do not retain them to harm them" (2:231). If God has told you repeatedly to treat your wives with kindness and not to harm them, he would allow you to beat her? Additionally, the word "Nushuz" which is generally translated as "opposition" has another meaning which can be translated as degrees of disloyalty ranging from flirtation to sexual liaison. If we study 4:34 carefully we will find a clue that leads us to translate that word as "flirting or cheating" or "extramarital affair" (Any word or words that reflect the range of disloyalty in marriage). So Nushuz is not "disobedience" like many people think, the 3 methods of "admonish, leave in bed, tap them" is only used when the women commit nushuz. And nushuz is not like when your wife forget to do chores, or she break a flower vase,... not like that. Nushuz is wrongful act regarding loyalty, in simple words, nushuz is about cheating in a relationship. Let's say if religions and all weren't there, then when a wife cheat on her husband, and her husband find out, their could have been a murder. But Islam tells you to first talk with your wife about it, then leave the bed (this is like giving each other some space, and if the wife is regretful, she would come back to her husband), and then further discussion and a tap. These 3 steps are sufficient to prevent the violence out of anger, to prevent domestic violence, to prevent serious conflicts. I hope my explanation is easy to understand to you, these are what I have learnt after doing quite some research on Surah Al-Nisa 4:34. I also struggled understanding this verse right, and Alhamdulillah, I think I cleared my way now and Islam, the Quran totally doesn't allow beating women, instead it teaches us to maintain the peaceful state and focus on reconciliation. And Allah knows best. May Allah guides all of us. Ameen Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah wa barakaltu

[@detective01holmes10]

Thank you for the explanation. I now understand more about this topic. It is absurd that people think Islam allow men to hit their wives on such mundane reasons, when one of the husband's responsibility is to guide her and protect her from any harm, including Hellfire. There is a reason why Allah command the advice and separate bed first, which my teacher explained that it is to calm down the husband and when there is no other way beside hit her (or tap her in your explanation) to make her understand the severity of her wrongness, he would be able to confront her calmly and avoid abuse caused by anger. Husband's role is to protect his wife, and hitting his wife until black and blue is not an action of protection, as you explained. Jazakallahu khair.

[@akirine2298]

I'm glad my report helps you 😊

[@rayeve3225]

this is great, but why isn’t there anything for women who are afraid that their husbands are cheating? what would a women do in that situation and why isn’t it mentioned as same as for men

[@akirine2298]

I would just say you should read the whole Quran, you cannot define Islam with just a verse. Islam is a whole big ocean and what we humans (even the best scholars) know is just a drop of water. There are 3 degrees of reading the Quran, most people read it on its surface, they understand basic meaning of the words, the sentences. Some people read the deeper meaning and comprehend it more profoundly. And rarely someone can read it in a divine level. Here I share some quotes relating to adultery you might find useful inshaAllah: "And come not near unto adultery. Lo! It is an abomination and an evil way" (Al-Isra 17:32) "They (your wives) are your garments and you their garments. You protect each other and guard each other’s chastity” (2:187). "And if a woman fears from her husband contempt or evasion, there is no sin upon them if they make terms of settlement between them - and settlement is best. And present in [human] souls is stinginess. But if you do good and fear Allah - then indeed Allah is ever, with what you do, Acquainted. (4:128) "But if they separate [by divorce], Allah will enrich each [of them] from His abundance. And ever is Allah Encompassing and Wise." (4:130)

[@rayeve3225]

Akirine Akirine i know the quran im muslim from and my whole family too, i dont know why these instructions for leaving the bed and taping aren’t given to women too when there is fear of adultery !!

[@capenterjojo3373]

Um a Buddhist and its soo good to learn the misconceptions we have towards the Islam and learn about it. I have so many Muslim friends who I find no difference at all. Some are way closer. Knowing about the religion is so important so I can prevent being offensive mistakenly.

[@neildanta5219]

@@moonbrush5 yes what should we do is to keep our faith in our own born religion.

[@Cat-zk9dg]

@@moonbrush5 what does it have to do with Afganistan?

[@siamkhan470]

@@gardeniaa89 He isn't even a muslim, that's most likely an indian hindu... 😂 thank you for affirming your brain is a joke

[@SweetChilly0410]

This is the reason I Vowed to learn Arabic... I have read different versions of translation and always felt that the meaning was off... Alhamdulillah once you try to learn arabic the meaning is clearer

[@preciousafolabi8197]

yes,definately,a person needs a good level of understanding to interpret islam

[@preciousafolabi8197]

@Benjamin Ornelas Are you Arabic and it is a light resort which involves a light tap

[@hamzaakhtar9980]

@Benjamin Ornelas bruh did you watch the video

[@salut4396]

@Benjamin Ornelas Haah you’re so ignorant it’s actually funny

[@mr.kaplan7840]

@@hanzalaomar3234 Nobody is misinterpreting, literally scholarly work is on this. Don't be ignorant.

[@mariamoriyomi8887]

Masha'Allah, jazakallah khairan for explaining this myth. May Allah SWT make us merciful in all our relationships and help us to never cherry pick when reading the Quran. Allahumma Ameen Ya Rabbal Alameen

[@muslimproudtobe]

@The Rod Under islam hitting your slave is a a sin and you have to manumit them: I came to Ibn 'Umar as he had granted freedom to a stave. He (the narrator further) said: He took hold of a wood or something like it from the earth and said: It (freedom of a slave) has not the reward evert equal to it, but the fact that I heard Allah's Messenger (way peace be upon him) say: He who slaps his slave or beats him, the expiation for it is that he should set him free. sunnahcom/muslim/27/46

[@DiamondMind]

So then why didn’t Allah simply say in the Quran, “express your discontent with your wife without hitting her.” That simple rephrasing alone would of made things a lot more clear and without all this needless physical abuse that Muslim women have endured over the past 1400 years.

[@Ibrahim.l20]

@@something-fj7oi mashallah the prophet didnt hit his wife so we shouldnt either

[@ZM-et7zt]

Study Arabic and then you'll understand, every word is extremely precise and the whole Quran is perfectly composed of literary miracles. We are told to understand the Quran through the practice of the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him and its commonly known he never hit a woman, child or slave. So it shouldnt even be a consideration of people tbh. A person who abuses those in his power is called an oppressor which is the worst of people in Islam. People who want to do whatever they want will find ways to malign the religion to justify their actions and they'll behave like that no matter what is said to them.

[@janahabib9785]

I came here because I heard an Atheist talking about how we don’t have equality in Islam and recited this verse, astfghfullah Satan Started waswas in my brain but ellhumdllah I searched and found your video. I genuinely can’t thank you enough for this simple beautiful video. جزاكم الله كل خير اللهم آمين

[@anjummariyah3503]

Allhamdulillah! Yaqeen Institute is doing a alot to burst the myths of Islam. I discovered myself spiritually listening to your lectures. There was a time when my parents used to ask me to offer Salah and now is the time i Pray without being told and also ask my younger cousins to pray aswell. I do not wear Hijab but i am convincing my self evryday to wear it In shah allah

[@samiam4984]

May Allah make it easier for you to put it on and keep it on for His sake, Ameen

[@anjummariyah3503]

@@samiam4984 In shah allah

[@muslimproudtobe]

@The Rod Islam does not allow a slave to be beaten I came to Ibn 'Umar as he had granted freedom to a stave. He (the narrator further) said: He took hold of a wood or something like it from the earth and said: It (freedom of a slave) has not the reward evert equal to it, but the fact that I heard Allah's Messenger (way peace be upon him) say: He who slaps his slave or beats him, the expiation for it is that he should set him free. sunnahcom/muslim/27/46

[@muslimproudtobe]

Firstly you dont understand how hadiths work hadith they are valid unless they are daif (weak) and munkar (fabricated) and sahih muslim is from the kuttub al sittah ( Six highly regarded hadith books). The hadith is not a contradiction the prophet is not saying beat your slave it seems arabs back then would beat there wives in such a way that it would be the same way they would to there slaves.

[@muslimproudtobe]

@The Rod It seems your not understanding the hadith does say to you go beat your slave girl lol and the hadoth I gave you forbids it and tells you to free them if you do.

[@ashafernandez3852]

Thanks you for this I really appreciate 😭

[@هدي-ه8ظ]

@@hanzalaomar3234 lies.

[@IbrahimKhan-gv6cw]

The explanation to this has been given by Dr.Mustafa Khattab in his translation of the Qur'an. It states, 'Disciplining one’s wife gently is the final resort. The earliest commentators understood that this was to be light enough not to leave a mark, should be done with nothing bigger than a tooth stick, and should not be on the face. Prophet Muḥammad (ﷺ) said to his companions “Do not beat the female servants of Allah.” He said that honourable husbands do not beat their wives, and he himself never hit a woman or a servant. If a woman feels her husband is ill-behaved, then she can get help from her guardian or seek divorce'. Before this, the verse translation of 4:34 in the Qur'an by Dr.Mustafa Khattab mentions, 'Men are the caretakers of women, as men have been provisioned by Allah over women and tasked with supporting them financially. And righteous women are devoutly obedient and, when alone, protective of what Allah has entrusted them with.1 And if you sense ill-conduct from your women, advise them ˹first˺, ˹if they persist,˺ do not share their beds, ˹but if they still persist,˺ then discipline them ˹gently˺.2 But if they change their ways, do not be unjust to them. Surely Allah is Most High, All-Great.' This verse doesn't mean that the husband has any right at all to be oppressive on his wife! Rather, the husband will be ill-mannered and rude to do such a thing. He should take care of his wife and treat her preciously as a human being. Not as an object that he uses for his desires only or for his control and work. But that the husband should take the wife as his partner and companion in this world and in the Akhirah.

[@coffeyplaysgames]

@@hanzalaomar3234 you have no education about Islam go watch dr zakir Naik then you'll know

[@anandsai9378]

*YES...TERRORISTS DIDN'T COMMIT VIOLENCE IN 9/11, THEY JUST EXPRESSED THAT THEY ARE UPSET WITH THE US* ....nice covering.... pmbnuh

[@NatureLover-uj7cb]

@@هدي-ه8ظ you are the liar here! You know it...

[@muhakijera8023]

can't wait for part two!!! JAZAKALLA

[@koza3350]

Sunan Ibn Majah 1984 It was narrated that 'Aishah said: "The Messenger of Allah never beat any of his servants, or wives, and his hand never hit anything." حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو بَكْرِ بْنُ أَبِي شَيْبَةَ، حَدَّثَنَا وَكِيعٌ، عَنْ هِشَامِ بْنِ عُرْوَةَ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، قَالَتْ مَا ضَرَبَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ـ صلى الله عليه وسلم ـ خَادِمًا لَهُ وَلاَ امْرَأَةً وَلاَ ضَرَبَ بِيَدِهِ شَيْئًا ‏.‏

[@aliceus3315]

Short answer: no Long answer: nah

[@Siska0Robert]

Longer answer: Although none of actual teachings of Muhammad support it, many religions which sprung from his legacy do interpret his words that way. Which is an issue that Muslims (and *especially* Muslim women) should be concerned about.

[@goatlandia8457]

Can women go out in public freely in every Muslim country? I want the long and short answer

[@alparslantaptk5471]

@@goatlandia8457 yes

[@alparslantaptk5471]

@@Siska0Robert Quran4/34 is explained by Quran 33/28 Quran 33/28 : say to your wives: "If you are seeking this worldly life and its vanities, then come, I will make a provision for you and release you in an amicable manner." It doesnt say come, i will beat you And this verb "daraba", (which is used in Nisa 34)has this kind of means in The Quran Mostly it uses like : " Allah gives an example..." Word of Giving uses with daraba In Quran 43:5 Shall We turn away the Reminder from you, because you are a transgressing people? Words of Turning away uses with daraba You see this word has this kind of means in the Quran ,so why should i think like beating

[@alparslantaptk5471]

@@hanzalaomar3234 in the context, leaving and turning away are more logical than the other meaning. But paternalist people want to think like that. If you read nisa 35 , you will see a couple which divorce. And Allah shows them some solves. So, this chapter is about leaving couple not beating woman. Prophat Muhammad ( pbuh) never beat, you can't see it in the prophet's biography (siyar). Furthermore other chapters of Quran dont support beating.This is a big wickedness. The Quran says give them her gifts and leave them with a beauty.

[@Panda-24]

I hate it when non-muslims inhale whatever the media lets out. They read a part of the Qur'an and judge us because what they see on the surface. Also ignoring that we follow the Sunnah of the Prophet too. InshaAllah those who are willing to open their minds to the truth, may Allah guide them. But those who keep it shut, then woe on to them.

[@VoyceBillionaire]

So if after taking all those precautions and steps to make my wife understand the last step is to tap her and let her know? Again? Did I just not do that 3 times? The ending of the verse MUST mean HIT because they would have used the same language as the sentence before and not changed the words and meaning.

[@VoyceBillionaire]

@@kurdweeb599 then why change the language instead of saying the same thing again? Why is Allah purposely trying to be confusing by changing how he says something he just said a moment ago? Does he not know that his words will cause confusion among the people and cause many innocent women and children to get murdered and abused in the Middle East? Allah didn’t foresee any confusion or problems his perfect and complete Quran would create?

[@garryslater3834]

@@kurdweeb599 you have to look at the translation from clear quran, ibn khattabs tafseer. In that this word translates into 'discipline lightly' as the last resort.which means you can express the displeasure. So, we have to review our understandings. Early muslim scholars translated as hit using the male dominant cultural influence. So we have to look at the correct translation. So you cannot hit a women, a women can even get a divorce for that.

[@garryslater3834]

@@kurdweeb599 not ibn katheer i was quoting mustafa khathab from clear quran.

[@garryslater3834]

@@kurdweeb599 I think mostly some controversial things in islamic culture comes from hadiths. Eg÷ Apostasy, Women not getting education, stoning, Male dominance and niqab. All these things are based on hadiths which are not even mentioned in quran. So the modern interepeters are just moving closer to quran rather than glorifying controversial hadiths. So we must give priority for the gods words which is quran than man written hadiths which some are compiled after 300 years after the demise of prophet muhammad. So if there is conflict in both these sources we have to give importance to quran. Even in muslim countries there is a vast spectrum of cultural practices. So mostly it has to do with the geographical location and the culture of the country or ethnicity. So yes we can distinguish between some cultural differences of muslims.

[@gernotching3393]

Simply expressing that you’re upset sounds like a first resort. Who uses simple expressions as last resort?

[@jacobgodde6576]

I know right

[@tisko7188]

It was said by esrly scholars

[@solowars5173]

Prophet Muhammad (May peace be upon him) uses these simple expressions you mentioned. If Islam is concerning you, I suggest you to not look around for the majority/ minority to come to a consensus; Quran does not condone this strategy.

[@jalwahhaneefa2677]

Thats the point, you shouldnt even shout back at your wife if she is upset with you as even back in those days people knew women were more emotional than men therefore you only should be calm and soothe her, but if gets too extreme and you fear rebellion you shall use 'darb'

[@garythesnail7631]

THANK YOU. I'm trying to defend Islam against these uneducated fools who just chuck anything at it. I can't find the true interpretation. Thanks. Learnt something.

[@TheGloriousQuran6236]

*How does this verse even disprove Islam?* I don’t understand why people are making such a big deal out of it honestly.

[@sweetcoffee2458]

@Der Patriot darb doesn't mean abuse. And as a Muslim woman I see nothing wrong with it, so I'd say cope already, we don't care what reputation we have, we believe in what we believe and u believe in what you believe. If I do something very wrong and my husband **lightly** hits me without leaving mark on skin or verbally hurts me, then he's in the right. May Allah guide us all.

[@Mahdi20832]

but we can see this happening in Afghanistan...

[@farhannoor3433]

But like, who decides what's wrong and right? Maybe she does something that's not wrong but wrong according to him(his own faculty understanding). The thing is that this statement refers to women as someone to be corrected. Not listened to or have a conversation with or like anything that normal people would do. 🙄🤷‍♀️

[@farhannoor3433]

@@_Error__ basically everything in Quran is context based. Context is soooo important but people ignore that and go around preaching their own interpretations. The thing about 4 wives- that was said bcz during those times there were wars and stuff and women didn't work and so to help them man was told to take 4 wives - women who are in need (poor or orphans or widowed women). Now men today be like I can have 4 beautiful gorgeous wives just because I want to and enjoy myself and use Islam as an excuse. But there's also certain verses in Quran that disturb me. Like the one where it says you can beat your wives. I want to and will research about this in the future because it's so disturbing I want the truth.

[@sisi6912]

@@_Error__ islam does view men and women equal. they have their own rules and they balance each other out. some are more obvious than others

[@usmanzafar4751]

@@_Error__ To tell you truth...Islam has made men leaders of household and protectors of Women...

[@vaibhav_9475]

Exactly my point

[@eshad.5288]

i m a revert muslim... i m married to a muslim man 3 yrs ago.... my husbands beats me and says "if a woman is crossing her limits then its allowed to hit"... today i came to know its not allowed in any circumstance to hit a woman..

[@mr.kaplan7840]

If he beats you then know he is abusing his power. Get your family involved, take him to court. He cannot physically abuse you. There are many "muslim" men out there. Sister be careful. InshAllah your problems will be gone.

[@ariastrwn7933]

Yup, ur husband wrong

[@فاطمهابراهیمی-ض8ع]

Go to the court or take him to schoolar or psychologist.

[@khaledbouzit2682]

Omgg you did a huuuuge clear and beautiful work. May Allah send you in Jannah !!!

[@coffeyplaysgames]

@Benjamin Ornelas Jesus is not god he's. A prophet o disbeliever!

[@abc8857]

And what is the ruling if men become rebellious to women?

[@فاطمهابراهیمی-ض8ع]

Go to the court of Justice and complaint that man has to go to the jail or.... depending of the crime like hitting committing adultery and...

[@firstnamelastname6976]

A man technically can't be rebellious to women. Qawam used to mean "leader" but now a days its meaning is also water downned and changed to "protector". A person who is below becomes rebellious of a person who is above not the other way around. A person who is above can be cruel or unjust to a person who is below. And if husband does that than woman is advise to make a fair settlement or maybe involve someone of the family to resolve the dispute and finally get separation. Not separation of beds or hitting with a miswak in case of men.

[@hamzakhan-hw8jk]

Divorce the husband

[@baronghede2365]

Simple answer no religion condones abuse, Blessed Be.

[@Arya-df7gq]

Islam does not instruct but it doesn't condemns it

[@bubbub165]

muslim live in nonmuslim countries will say no but muslim that live in islamic majority will say yes

[@mooniestar6692]

I live in emirati and YES THEY DID SAY BEAT ABUSE STRIKE BURY YOUURRR WIVESS!!!!! 😱😱😱😨😨😨😰😰😭😭😭🤬🤬🤬😡😡😠 okay.. Okay the truth is not all Muslim countries say this there's even muslims in Western culture say that aswell so who taught you this?? In my country my teachers and parents say that this ayah refers to light discipline (like tap) (same video you see here) not domestic violence as you read in the translations. English translation can always be inaccurate. Now let's say we have the Bible it says woman should not teach authority over a man and should learn in quietness so do all Christian countries follow these teachings? Absolutely not! Because they're book could have meanings as well and some people may misunderstand it. Just like the Quran. Now instead of your hatred on Islam how about you study it instead without spreading lies on social media calling yourself an exmuslim when you havent even visited in Muslim countries?

[@aleemazeez263]

Islam has really been misinterpreted

[@hellothere1201]

Hmmm salafi scholars don't explain it like this

[@maida4608]

@Alpha Dog YES, TELL EM!!!

[@CommunityUUG]

I truly am happy muslims are reinterpreting your scriptures but I feel this is dishonest. Does it not say beat them with very specific instructions? Like not in the face and not too thick a stick as if that somehow makes it okay? I dont see how that is a mistranslation

[@CommunityUUG]

I recall a story in which Muhammad hits his wife Aisha as well. So if he does it of course other Muslims would imitate.

[@هدي-ه8ظ]

@@CommunityUUG show. Aisha said the prophet never hit a women in his life.

[@mo_7199]

But y'all do realize this was given after Muhammad allowed one of his companions to beat his daughter right?

[@sweetcoffee2458]

Proof? And how did he beat her? Cause beating to educate doesn't equal parental abuse. And yes kids should be punished at times

[@mo_7199]

@@sweetcoffee2458 actually, the girl was married to the companion. and yes, yes it does. beating anyone is abuse. discipline and punishment are 2 different things.

[@garryslater3834]

@@mo_7199 Sister, if any of the hadith stories goes against the quran you should stick with the quran. Because it is gods word and hadiths are things compiled by men after so many years after prophets death. So if the quran does not allow you to hit women and if the hadith say you are allowed then you should choose the quran. Because prophet only followed the quran. Hope that makes sense.

[@mo_7199]

@@garryslater3834 but then if you don't consider the hadith, you're a quranist, and many muslims consider quranists heretics. there's even death sentences for being a quranist in some african countries.

[@garryslater3834]

@@mo_7199 No you are only rejecting hadiths which are going against the values and teachings of quran. And moral values and science. So you are not a quranist. Just a muslim with differences in opinion.

[@horizon6218]

Everything in quran is like a law for humans. This verse simply stated that if there is a rift between u and ur wife, first u should separate ur bed with her as a gesture that u are upset with her and at last when u lose ur control of anger should u should tap her with a stick which is as small as miswaak. It is like a last thing u can do show ur anger not more than that. It came as a law from Lord not to oppress woman but to stop the oppression of women done by men.

[@sonicaffairband]

If it’s so misconstrued as in the example with the “darb” which means to hit (but not meaning to hit it in the larger context) then why have it in the Quran in the first place? It seems like it causes more confusion than anything else.

[@yasirnoor865]

Arabic can be very complicated. That's why as the video pointed out, "the Quran is only to be understood based on the teachings of prophet Mohammed"

[@nikkiminajswig640]

Now please send this to the pakistani government

[@chiraagb]

🤣🤣

[@rafee919]

There are other sources that permit wife beating, like Sunan Ibn Majah 1986, which says (excerpt from the sunnah website): "I was a guest (at the home) of 'Umar one night, and in the middle of the night he went and hit his wife, and I separated them. When he went to bed he said to me: 'O Ash'ath, learn from me something that I heard from the Messenger of Allah" A man should not be asked why he beats his wife, and do not go to sleep until you have prayed the Witr."' And I forgot the third thing."

[@abu.nahiyan]

With around 2 billion Muslims worldwide, if Islam asked men to beat women, this would be a worldwide crisis

[@solowars5173]

May you recite the Islamic law that allows you to crucify people?

[@jaasrahh3479]

I m crying at how beautiful our religion is 😭

[@davidt8087]

Using word gymnastics to make it seem like the quran says something it doesn't say

[@adamyahya4734]

If by “word gymnastics”, you mean various translations of the meaning “ضرب” and commentary from one of the best Sunni commentators in traditional Islam?

[@TheAdventuretrainerRuby]

You know what my biggest problem is with this whole interpreting these verses? Is that a lot of it is ambigious and isn't straight out told. I looked up Quran chapter 4 verse 34 and this is what it says. Tell me how I am "misinterpretating" a verse that is so clear. "Men are the caretakers of women, as men have been provisioned by Allah over women and tasked with supporting them financially. And righteous women are devoutly obedient and, when alone, protective of what Allah has entrusted them with.1 And if you sense ill-conduct from your women, advise them ˹first˺, ˹if they persist,˺ do not share their beds, ˹but if they still persist,˺ then discipline them ˹gently˺.2 But if they change their ways, do not be unjust to them. Surely Allah is Most High, All-Great." This verse only tells me that Men are meant to be the breadwinner and that women are always meant to take care of the house and family. Like if you don't believe me and think I'm spouting nonsense then why are there cases of women being beaten and stoned to death in Islamic countries for disobedience?

[@fluffycake9222]

Tbh the women doesn’t always need to be the house wife the prophets first wife Khadijah was a business women so it doesn’t mean the man should always be the breadwinner the women can work too in Islam

[@hibafathima3473]

This is informative & quite relevant

[@mimzyjinx8142]

No jurist has the authority to overturn the commands of Allah. The verse doesn't stand alone. It is supported by multiple narrators and by the example set by the prophet. The Cairo Declaration of Human Rights is accepted by the UN. It's why Muslims countries will not ban domestic violence or FGM. It's why Erdogan pulled out of the treat to protect women this year promising to use their own laws instead.

[@whatpurpose9178]

‘Umar reported the Prophet as saying, “A man will not be asked about why he beat his wife.” Abu Dawud and Ibn Majah transmitted it.

[@surabenshaban1160]

nushuz in surah nisa aya 34 literally translated to rebellion but it can’t be understood with that meaning becuase it is used later in the surah for a man too (that the woman can be concerned if the husband demonstrates nushuz) they both can’t rebel each other instead many understand the word to mean an act that breaks a marriage

[@adustoyworld4100]

Even symbolic, it pains

[@mr.kaplan7840]

If it pains then he's abusing you, get someone involved as the Quran states.

[@afroade7895]

Which means it shouldn’t exist

[@adustoyworld4100]

@ahmed, my husband is a pure god fearing man. He never even verbally abused me. But , I am not happy with the symbolic procedure that is prescribed

[@StephenCowley001]

When I quote Dawud to a Muslim and he or she doesn't like what it says, e.g when it talks about FGM (Adab 167), they say that it is weak and of no authority compared to Muslim or Bukhari - but here it is OK to quote it as an authority. It seems like a double standard is being applied to get the conclusion you want. Christianity teaches: "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; [...] So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies.[...] Let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband." (Ephesians 5)

[@al7422]

Weak hadiths can be used as supplementary to strong Hadiths. That's hadiths 101. Before you pretend to criticise anything try to inquire about the subject at hand before you make a fool out of yourself.

[@StephenCowley001]

@@al7422 Safiah Chowdhury, the author of the main article, doesn't cite hadiths from Sahih Muslim or Sahih Bukhari and then use Dawud as supplementary though. She doesn't say which version o the Arabic Quran she is using either.

[@yachiro2]

Sombody just convinienlty skipped the beginning of Ephesians 5 ..let me complete it : "Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. " We could also talk about Corinthians 11:5 , "And every woman who prays or prophesies with her head uncovered dishonors her head, for it is just as if her head were shaved. 6If a woman does not cover her head, let her hair be cut off. And if it is shameful for a woman to have her hair cut or shaved off, she should cover her head. A man ought not to cover his head, since he is the image and glory of God; but the woman is the glory of man.…" Talking about double standards...

[@Tayibah2003]

yachiro2 nice one. I was about to quote 1 Corinthians , 11 too! Also, a woman who leaves her husband is considered an adulteress in Christianity, therefore imagine she needs to stay in the relationship even if there is abuse. God also punished women through labour pains for Eve’s disobedience.

[@xell5252]

@Elite JAZAK'ULLAH HU KIARUN, well said

[@bestbest91]

Then you need to explain Sahih Bukhari 5825

[@halkatboy2569]

No true Muslim believer would ever think of beating women, however, I believe whoever is doing that in some regions nowadays, is only because of his country culture, upbringing or surroundings.

[@surabenshaban1160]

also take into consideration the story of prophet ayuub who instead of hitting his wife as he vowed out of anger, god prescribed him to strike her with grass so that it doesn’t hurt while also not breaking his vow, this was described in the quran with the same verb “darb” so darb doesn’t suggest a beating but something like grass making contact with skin

[@Sorel366]

“Last resort” is not in the text. At all.

[@dilanmian7956]

@@amp7930 Yeah.

[@ewwwhat-bh5tw]

It is and I can confirm it. Wanna bet ?

[@asmakhan8580]

I love Yaqeen Institute so much

[@salut4396]

Me too

[@justanotherarmy8607]

The women seem appreciated in their community

[@mohd.ayaandiary4268]

Yes

[@mohd.ayaandiary4268]

@@battlelover666gaming2 brother its not practice that ISLAM introduced it was the practice which was practiced in times of war ISLAM gave the respect to those women too as in those times slave women were used to torture and people used to enjoy torturing women in front of all people ( check the history on torture on women) They were treated worst than animals but in ISLAM you should treat slave women as you treat your wife the difference is just not labeling them as your wife . And the child born out of that slave women has the rights of getting property of his master as the own child of master would get. And many SAHABAS used to free the women slaves and marry them. BROTHER DONT LET SHAITAN CAST DOUBTS IN YOUR MIND ABOUT ISLAM JUST GET YOURSELF EDUCATED. JAZAKALLAH KHAIR MAY ALLAH KEEP YOU ON THE STRAIGHT PATH AND ANSWER ALL YOUR DUAS. JAZAKALLAH KHAIR.....

[@mohd.ayaandiary4268]

@@battlelover666gaming2 and those women get to eat what you eat and wear what you wear.

[@lenar.1691]

Is a woman allowed to go outside alone or does she have to be with a wali or something like that?

[@cyrtanthuselatus3686]

Of course you can go out. You can go and work and study. The mahram system is not a system of imprisonment. It is a system of physical and financial protection. Muslim men should know that they need to protect and support their women. And to be fair to people who don't know, we do sometimes use them to avoid unpleasant situations. Most of the Muslim women I know a very well educated. We are admonished male and female to seek knowledge from the cradle to the grave. And the way things are set up, women can inherit money and earn money so they could be financially independent long before GB allowed women to inherit or get a university degree.

[@muslimproudtobe]

A women does not need a mahram or wali to leave the house the issue is with traveling on a journey longer than three days if she goes without a mahram or a group of women then she is sinful but some scholars say as long as the journey to where she is going is safe then she can solo travel without any restrictions.

[@muslimproudtobe]

@@hanzalaomar3234 Nope there is no hadith or quran verse about that her father and brother have no authority over you.

[@muslimproudtobe]

@@hanzalaomar3234 (I didnt delete it i think it went to spam filter) No there is no hadith about that at all there is one about married women need to ask there husbands permission to leave the house only and she can leave the house without him and for a unmarried women there is no restrictions like that into the religion which don't exist and say its the final say of things when its not.

[@muslimproudtobe]

@@hanzalaomar3234 Lol what are you on about afghanistan is a failed sate while saudi has reversed these laws and that verse 4:34 says protector not maintainer and that only applies to marriage lol

[@emrahkarakus6065]

"Men shall carefully protect and maintain women because Allah has granted each (party) some superior characteristics over the other (party), and because they (men) spend out of their possessions (to maintain their families). Thus righteous women are obedient (to Allah) and guard themselves in the absence of witnesses in return for Allah’s protection. As for women whose nushooz/leaving you fear, give them advice/say kind words to them, and leave them alone in the bed, and darb them/let them dwell (there). Then if they willingly obey/listen to you, do not seek another way against them. Allah is Exalted, Great.” (an-Nisā 4:34)” “(O believers!) If you fear a split between the spouses, send an arbitrator from his family and an arbitrator from her family. If they both desire reconciliation, Allah will cause it between them. Allah is all-knowing and He is all-aware about the true nature of everything.” (An-Nisā 4:35)

[@m_o_n480]

Assalamualaikum! Can someone give me the link of the article? The link in description box doesn't work🥺 May Allah swt grant you the best of both worlds ❣️

[@Islam-gy9lj]

Beautifully explained Alhamdililah

[@lifechoices6643]

For enlightened views about proper interpretation of the Koran i personally consult the works of scholar Adis Duderija.He has had a youtube channel called Adis Duderija youtube channel,which gives well researched material

[@salhimouhamad6664]

We Dont Beat Up Are Wifes

[@rem7502]

Don’t tamper with allah’s word by adding to scripture. They never wrote “as a last resort”

[@uzbabo]

Surah An Nisa verse 34

[@insha3694]

Thank You for this video. Very informative and need of the hour.

[@natashatherevert972]

But the Quran states many times that it is clear and plain in language in meaning. That is the literal instruction of Allah. We are to disregard that in favor of Hadith? Doesn’t make sense.

[@aleemazeez263]

I knew it! I simply knew it!

[@ruddin93]

Qur'an 4:34 is there to prohibit the husband from committing crime of passion in cases of his wife's continuous infidelity I.e when the husband caught her sleeping in bed with another man. It is there to protect women against violence. The husband would naturally burst out of anger, so this verse is there to limit this to just a strike (the arabic phrase indicates only ONCE in this situation - not resulting to continuous beating and violence). The term "strike" in English is even ambiguous. I can strike a child but doesn't necessarily mean I hurt the child physically. It could just mean a physical contact intended not to hurt the child, but to gain their attention for wrongdoing. The verse begins instructing the husband that they are the caretakers over women - NOT that they have authority over women. Therefore, the context for "strike" in here is not intended to hurt the wife, but rather it is intended to gain their attention and show your feelings to them. This is ONLY in cases of infidelity and NOT a norm.

[@Nora-ze3wv]

I like the last sentence. It’s only in case of infidelity not the norm.

[@mawas6801]

Correct me if am wrong, so "durb" means, not to hit but "symbolically" hit? huh

[@garryslater3834]

No it is a symbolic expression of displeasure.According to ibn khattabs tafseer in clear quran this word is translated into discipline lightly. So husband is allowed to express displeasure only as the last resort if the wife is rebellious. So, it does not say about hitting the wife. It is the early islamic scholars who understood this word as beat them lightly because of the male dominant culture in a war tone society. If any husband hit a women it is against the quran so a wife can get a divorce for that.

[@mawas6801]

@@_Error__ 😒

[@suespazzion]

The word durb is kinda misleading...plus a lot of Muslim families,men do hit women(sometimes even multiple times)

[@TeymurKhan571]

Daraba also means shun

[@damsykl]

Arabic itself is a difficult language to understand and words have more than 1 meaning

[@mcdonaldssprite8563]

@@Smithpolly Just because arabic is a complex language doesn’t mean that the Quran isn’t “perfect”. that’s why tafsir (interpretation) matters.

[@solowars5173]

@@Smithpolly you say this but have you actually read the Quran in full?

[@solowars5173]

@@Smithpolly there’s more than 200 million Arabic speakers in the world. Kindly asking, why should the Quran fix its signs and revelations to fit the desires of the majority?

[@solowars5173]

@@SmithpollyI agree it’s a important issue you mentioned. Quran is interpreted in 10s of languages in full, English being one of them. I will gladly link you a trusted source of the Quran, in the language you’re comfortable reading it in if you wish?

[@solowars5173]

@@Smithpolly a big part of Islam is the scholarly research and reviews which Allah approves of. “O you who believe! Obey Allaah, and obey the Messenger, and (also obey) all those in authority [the scholars and the rulers] amongst you…” [the first part of the Verse quoted: 4:59]. Theres a lot of other verses that approve the words of the scholars in the Quran. You should try reading it!

[@nathanb2831]

Thank you Islam, very cool!

[@W.A.L.L.E.E]

yes it might not be telling to hit a women sill people do thts life ..many of those do not know..... i have experienced it in my colony too. but whoever does please share this video.

[@Выничегоневидели]

Yaqeen Institute never heard about a country called Saudi Arabia eh...

[@fluffycake9222]

The whole country doesn’t represent Islam

[@selinasaidumarova06]

Why there are other interpretations that allow it. Someone explain

[@Derpaherpa123]

Soooo it depends on the interpretation is what I got from this

[@anonymanonym4590]

Not really. Because muslims follow quran and sunnah. Sunnah is the way our Prophet mohammed pbuh Used to live. And he has never hit or hurt a women. He even said the best upon you is he who treats his wife the best. So that means its not allowed to Hit women

[@Derpaherpa123]

@@anonymanonym4590 So no then ultimately. A muslim man may not beat his wife?

[@anonymanonym4590]

@@Derpaherpa123 he should never beat his wife. A Muslim in General is not allowed to hurt anybody not even an animal

[@mr.kaplan7840]

@@Derpaherpa123 No also the Quran also says men to be best to their wives, the problem is that the word darb in arabic being translated to English is very vague. The words like "beat" "hit" or even "discipline" gives people the automatic notion that its domestic violence.

[@aswitnessedbythelenses963]

We have to live the way Allah ﷻ wants us to live, to please him and for a beautiful Akhirah no matter how many self made ideals of western world it may break. Our purpose of life is to please Allah ﷻ not dying for mere applause of some feminist!

[@muslimproudtobe]

@The Rod Under islam hitting your slave is a a sin and you have to manumit them: I came to Ibn 'Umar as he had granted freedom to a stave. He (the narrator further) said: He took hold of a wood or something like it from the earth and said: It (freedom of a slave) has not the reward evert equal to it, but the fact that I heard Allah's Messenger (way peace be upon him) say: He who slaps his slave or beats him, the expiation for it is that he should set him free. sunnahcom/muslim/27/46

[@crazyduck7040]

@@muslimproudtobe your a slave for worshiping a human we worship a God not a human

[@muslimproudtobe]

@@crazyduck7040 a god whi died and was also the father and son at the same time lol

[@sameerjaan683]

But if wife give bad words or abuse his parents and beat her mother in law then what husband should do? Shall not he hit his wife???

[@salut4396]

No. He should call the police.

[@strawberrybun325]

he should first educate her, but if she does it again you should advise her, if she does it the 3rd time you are allowed to do that

[@The84nino]

Wrong read passages before and after !

[@alfiaansari3096]

Please make such videos more and more

[@YasmineAsaadd]

والله هموت من الضحك ع الناس ف الكومنتات الي بتقول اضرب ليها مليون معني ف العربي حرفيا ده التفسير الوحيد هنا انو اضربوهن و مفيش اي طريقه تانيه تتفسر بيها

[@afhassan]

الكلمة فعلا ليها اكثر من معنى بس المعنى الصح هنا هو الضرب الغير مبرح زي ما الرسول قال، حاجه زي خبطه خفيفة على الايد او الكتف والله اعلم.

[@YasmineAsaadd]

@@afhassan ماهي اضرب في الاخر ماهي عنف في الاخر ماهي مش هتحل المشكله٠ ولا هتخليها تسمع الكلام ولا ربنا ميعرفش ان ده يزيد القسوه وعلي فكره ضرب غير مبرح دي اجتهاد علماء النص موجود قدامك و الست مش عيل صغير عشان يتقال كلام زي ده

[@afhassan]

@@YasmineAsaadd اولا الاصل في تعاليم القرآن والرسول هي اللطف واللين في التعامل مع كل الناس وخاصة الاهل، اما الضرب الغير مؤذي فهو استثناء مش الاصل في التعامل بين الازواج، ولو هنتكلم عن الضرب اللي ممكن يسبب اذى فده محرم من غير كلام ومستحيل تلاقي اي عالم محترم يقول الضرب العنيف المؤذي مسموح. الرسول حدد الضرب بأنه الغير مبرح بالنص : قال النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم: لكم عليهن أن لا يوطئن فرشكم أحدا تكرهونه، فإن فعلن ذلك، فاضربوهن ضربا غير مبرح. رواه مسلم الاهم هو سبب الضرب وهل هو اول خيار اصلا، لو قرأتي الآية ربنا بيوصف النساء الصالحات ب"قانتات حافظات للغيب بما حفظ الله" وعكسهم الناشز والقول الاصح في معنى النشوز من وجهة نظري هو عكس وصف الصالحات، يعني خيانة الزوج، فلو الزوج خاف الزوجة تكون انحرفت بالشكل ده بسبب حجات لاحظها، القرآن يرشده لنصحها اولا والخيار الثاني هجرها في الفراش والاخير الضرب الغير مبرح لو كان هيخليها تحس باهمية المشكلة اللي بتحصل مش عقاب ليها. الموضوع مش اي مشكلة تحصل يخبطها كف ده هبل مش دين، ده استثناء لحالات خاصة زي تشريع الطلاق، اغلب الناس مش المفروض يحتاجوا للطلاق اصلا، وفي النهاية قدوتنا الرسول زي ما في الحديث لم يضرب شيئا قط: حديث عائشة -رضى الله عنها- قالت: ما ضرب رسول الله ﷺ شيئاً قطُّ بيده، ولا امرأةً، ولا خادماً، إلا أن يجاهد في سبيل الله، وما نيل منه شيء قطُّ فينتقم من صاحبه إلا أن يُنتهك شيء من محارم الله، فينتقم لله تعالى. رواه مسلم

[@UserName-tk2oi]

@@afhassan و ماذا تفعل الزوجة في المقابل عندما يخونها الزوج ؟ هل تضربه ضرب غير مبرح ؟

[@dilanmian7956]

Are you guys Arab Atheists? Arab Christians?

[@3dniaseerat522]

This channel is great. May Allah swt reward you.

[@meowmeow9831]

lmaooo stop bending it. ''darb'' means to beat. It has even came into Turkish language centuries ago, and the meaning of ''darb, darp etmek'' is giving a very very very good beating, it means to assault.

[@andypham6335]

As a husband, you CANNOT strike the face of your wife, nor can you cause her pain, nor can you leave a mark. If a Muslim husband ever did domestically abuse his wife, he is transgressing against God and violating the rights of his wife!

[@strawberrybun325]

@Zakituio Zaki in a lot of hadiths and verses in the quran

[@strawberrybun325]

@Zakituio Zaki you can search hadiths where it tells you to be kind, kind to you wife kind to anyone and quran verses

[@strawberrybun325]

@Zakituio Zaki and a lot of Muslim scholars say if you would hit someone you shouldn't hit them hard or leave any scars and marks

[@drLIZ-bs5ei]

Thanks thanks thanks, may Allah reward u I am a new muslin and this verse in one of that more angusted me, any no one before could explain me well, some even said that the husband can beating his wife, i was so sad, now i am so happy, Alhamdulillah

[@eshad.5288]

i m a revert too... and i thought same thing that husband can beat wife if she uses foul language against him... but this video cleared everything...

[@AN-lm6bs]

Great video, thanks. Is there a translation not declaring “hit/beat”, rather using darb in the aforementioned context?

[@muslim-g1x]

No it does not. Many Muslims translate the word “idribuhunna” (which is the command for m of “daraba”) as “beat them”. But that is not the right meaning of the word. The verse says: [4:34] Men are the maintainers of women by means of what God has favored some over the others, and through what they spend of their money. The righteous women accept this willingly and they guard the secrets as God has guarded it. As for the women from whom you fear ‘nushuz' (disloyalty), you shall advise them, desert them in bed and ‘idribuhunna' (separate from them). If they obey you, you are not to seek further action against them. God is Most High, Great. Verse 4:34 talks about what to do in the case of a woman's “nushuz” towards their husbands, which many people commonly translate as rebellion or disobedience. But if it were so, then this implies the man is in charge in the relationship. However, verse 4:128 talks about a husband's “nushuz” towards his wife. This implies the woman is in power. If one sex is supposed to have power over the other, then both cannot be doing the disobedience or rebellion. However, the only other meaning for this word is disloyalty, and that is the meaning that makes more sense in this situation. Bearing this in mind, we must look at the multiple meanings for the word “daraba” in the Quran and see what fits: The meanings for “daraba” as found in the Quran: To go out or travel (3:156, 4:101), strike or beat (2:60-61, 3:112, 47:4), to present an example (43:57, 30:28, 13:17), to withdraw or separate (43:5), to seal or cover (18:11), to draw over (24:31), to attribute (43:17), to establish (57:13). Verse 4:34 talks about what happens in the case of a wife’s disloyalty towards her husband. The only two that would fit and make sense semantically in this case would be to beat them, or to separate from them. But aggression is forbidden in 2:190 and 5:87, so beating is cancelled, therefore it cannot mean to beat them. We are told to have mercy towards our spouses (30:21) and to live with the wives in kindness (4:19). Beating for disloyalty is neither kind nor having mercy. So no, wife-beating is not allowed in the Quran, nor in verse 4:34.

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[@tbhat10]

Sahih al-Bukhari 2858 Narrated Abdullah binUmar: I heard the Prophet (ty) saying. "Evil omen is in three things: The horse, the woman and the house." The Messenger of Allaah ﷺ said: ‘When a man calls his wife to his bed and she refuses, and he went to sleep angry with her, the angels will curse her until morning.’” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 3065; Muslim, 1436)

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explains a lot

[@zubaidasmith4551]

As salamu alaikum wr wb my dear Sisters in Islam. We must remember that Allah tells us of Lut (as) and his promise to whip his wife for her disobedience. First, what was her disobedience? That during the trials of our dear Prophet Lut (as) his illness, his loss of wealth, his loss of family. His (as) wife told him to curse Allah. Ahdubillah! Curse Allah!!!!!! Now with that being said. Lut (as) swore to whip her after Allah restored everything and more to him (as). And Allah commanded him to fulfill his promise. So he took a blade of grass and whipped her 100 times. Alhamdullilah A BLADE OF GRASS!!! And this my dear sisters was a Prophet (as). One who, if anyone , had the right to beat his wife for disobeying Allah. And since Allah (swt) put this event in HIS word we are to reflect upon it. The severity of the situation, his health, his wealth, his family gone. And the severity of what his wife instructed him to do. Our Last and Final Prophet (saw) understood the depth of this and this is why he (saw) NEVER struck his wives! Alhamdullilah How could anyone be beaten for less???? And of course the men of this Ummah fail to read this or acknowledge it. IF a wife is at the point of demanding you to curse Allah then by all means strike her with a blade of grass and live as the Prophets (as) lived. BUT if your wife is doing anything less then this, then fear Allah and live as the Last Prophet (saw) and NEVER strike your wife. Now the Prophet (saw) did tell his wives that if they wanted the things of this dunya he would gladly set them free. But if they wanted the next life he would stay married to them. NOW why don't our men look at those Ayahs and the Sunnah from them and live by those examples?????? And what does Allah say about those who disobey HIM and HIS Messenger (saw) ? May Allah guide us to correct understanding which is the straight path. Amin Amin Amin

[@JubairIbnOmarHamza]

The Prophet pbuh himself suggested hitting as a disciplinary method during his farewell hajj. So, to say the Prophet pbuh didn't hit his wives only means one thing which is his wives were not disobedient enough to receive hitting as punishment.

[@JubairIbnOmarHamza]

You don't need the example of Prophet Lut(AS) for this, all you need is the verse 4: 34 which *explains* when you can hit you wives.

[@betteryou188]

Salam, I think you mean Prophet Ayub (AS)

[@sorkenyo]

@@JubairIbnOmarHamza ever heard about the time aisha was accused of adultery, and the prophet stayed away from her for a while? also the word "daraba" is used many times in the quran, and one of its meanings is "to separate"

[@JubairIbnOmarHamza]

@@sorkenyo Nope, it means strike or hit. Ever heard of the Prophet pbuh explaining the verse 4: 34 in a hadith? It's sure as hell not "separate".

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[@muslimproudtobe]

@@hanzalaomar3234 Your gonna spread you lie's here to?

[@muslimproudtobe]

@@hanzalaomar3234 You misunderstand basic things and yaqeen didn't even say that simply watch the video agian properly and read there article displayed in there description box.

[@ibnmianal-buna3176]

@@hanzalaomar3234 Who’s slandering who?

[@ibnmianal-buna3176]

@@hanzalaomar3234 Yeah Yaqeen kinda lies here lol, they seem to have an issue with that, and this is coming from a Muslim. Go to the video by Islamic Defense called “Apostate Prophet Domestic Abuse Theory”. It’s like an hour long but it’s far more honest about this topic than Yaqeen.

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[@Aisanthiem]

Quran 4:34 As for women of whom you fear rebellion, admonish them, and remain apart from them in beds, and beat them

[@natashatherevert972]

Volume 8 / Book 82 / Hadith Number 828 Narrated by 'Aisha Abu Bakr came to towards me and struck me violently with his fist and said, "You have detained the people because of your necklace." But I remained motionless as if I was dead lest I should awake Allah's Apostle although that hit was very painful.

[@lightningMcqueen5]

Abubakar is the father of Aisha

[@sanadar3206]

@@Yung-Bubble aren't you proving her/his point that hurting a women is allowed in Islam ?

[@zoya.331]

@@Yung-Bubble bruh you are just proving his point is right.

[@shreyas-mq4yd]

Yes they should.

[@muhammadmustafa16777]

A man should do the same thing that mehwish did with danish in Mere Pass Tum ho

[@joshuahjfarquharm.3269]

Can me as a wife have more wives?

[@koza3350]

A woman has her abilities and a man has abilities

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Nanamilleda?

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