Doing The Work VS Overthinking

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[@rugyjoy]

“Forgetfulness goes hand in hand with lack of presence.” Thank you so much for this! Wow

[@kerik6265]

Mind blowing truth!!!

[@Eric-tj3tg]

In fact, if one isn't present, it's not really forgetting, we missed the content in the 1st place, as we were not present. Cannot forget that which one wasn't "exposed" to.

[@johnmcmullen6038]

I enjoy hiking in the mountains. I often find myself bounding along on the trail lost in thought unable to enjoy the wilderness. I created a new discipline. When I find myself lost in thought, I stop in my tracks, take several deep breaths and look around, smell the air, listen to the wind in the trees, the birds and turn around in my tracks looking up and down, all around. Then I take a moment and go macro, and focus on something small, then look deeper and study a plant, an insect or pattern on a rock. Its a very powerful way to train yourself to get into the moment.

[@sherececocco]

Hey! I use this same method. Be well. I have even thanked the bugs and plants for their service. I even joined an ant for a walk once. I got distracted after about 15mins and we had only gone about 3 feet. It just kinda wasn't really going anywhere.

[@natashataylor3615]

I find it so hard to stop the overthinking! I know how important it is to be 'conscious' and be in the present moment, but I can't seem to stop the idea that the overthinking is going to protect me as it helps me prepare for all eventualities.

[@ladyfae4797]

@ Natasha Taylor. OMG I SO GET YOU!

[@luckycharm1212]

Of course we do that to prevent vulnerability. I am terrified of feeling my emotions or caught off guard in public. In fact it's humiliating for me. This very fear fuels my overthinking and makes it difficult for me to connect with others authentically. Sometimes I feel like I am fine with emotions in public and I don't care what others think. But it's a vicious cycle.

[@natashataylor3615]

@@luckycharm1212 yes, I find I overthink to make sure I do the right thing, or make the right choice or just be prepared so that I don't get hurt. 🤦‍♀️

[@rhythm2238]

@@luckycharm1212 yeahhh i relate with you especially the connecting part..i hardly trust anyone to build a relationship.

[@mammadingo9165]

Sorry I know it's hard no amount of rehearsing tragedy makes you ready for it .

[@originalone8986]

It’s easy for me to become conscious when by myself but when I’m dealing with situation where things are confrontational and triggering I automatically become unconscious and begin to feel reactive

[@rhythm2238]

same...exact same thing happens with me..maybe cos we have been attuned to stress from an early age that our sub-conscious mind feels safe to return to that state of "spaceship" as nicole calls it. I too become reactive not knowing what i am feeling in my body.

[@blondefisk]

The compassion, grace, and realness of using tge word 'ABILITY'

[@icidaimon5670]

I have been wondering this myself. I think I’m doing the work when sometimes all I do is get stuck in my head… Thank you 🙏🏽💛

[@suchetanamukherjee3925]

I have forgotten most of my childhood good memories and the good memories of my adult life.. most of the bad memories are there to remember..earlier I didn't have any explanation for that to myself. I used to think I am weird and the odd one out because everybody I knew remembered small details of childhood or high school days.. watching your videos and posts I am aware now why it happens to me.. thanks a lot for the explanation.

[@marthamdiaz5837]

Me too!! I'm glad I'm not the only one. Thank you Dr. Nicole for your time, insight and guidance 🙏

[@suchetanamukherjee3925]

@@marthamdiaz5837 yes! It feels so comforting to know that there are many people like me around the world!

[@DrRebeccaHeiss]

Our thoughts are the only thing we truly have control over. It is so important to be conscious and take control of our thoughts so that we can avoid overthinking and not living fully. GREAT video, thanks for sharing!

[@chancepoulos4183]

This one is huge!! Thank you. I’ve honestly mistaken overthinking for consciousness at times when I’m analyzing myself, my thoughts, and my behaviors. It feels so productive but in the end still keeps me detached from the present moment. I also didn’t realize I was practicing consciousness when doing that attention redirect (I find myself almost constantly lost in thought so it’s quite necessary for me to yank myself out when things need to get done, also heavilyy relate to the forgetfulness), but that’s some good motivation to keep practicing it right there knowing that I’m cultivating consciousness!! Thanks Dr. Nicole, much love ❤️

[@ellekay852]

Critical video. Wow. This is really what it’s all about. Thank you so much for this

[@shirley0151]

I watched this 6 minute video twice. Because I'm over thinking. The second time I only got distracted once. Wow! Thank you Nicole. It is 100 % correct when I am over thinking. I'm feeling. I'm making those stories , making me feel sad, angry ... Playing them over and over. I should say this... I should have done that ... I bet they did this or think that ! I am setting an alarm for the next 7 days. Thank you 🙏

[@misbeltz]

Now I'm wondering if my forgetfulness is actually a lack of consciousness. This is great to hear! Now I can start making progress.

[@user-lf3em7zg3w]

you totally called me out when you said to redirect attention to this video haha as i was lost in thoughts at that exact moment

[@jesam3031]

Thank you for making this video

[@suchetanamukherjee3925]

You are doing a phenomenal job.. thank you for all the videos,posts and podcasts..

[@piapurificacion6527]

Thank you. I have been "over-thinking" the past and what could be in the future that I end up being reactive with the emotions that comes with these thoughts. Which in turn leads me to neglect the present moment. I then forget to check in with my emotion and other's emotions. I am still very new to learning in this self healing journey. Thank you. I'm so glad I found you.

[@FaithFashionFinances]

This was one of those topics that when I read the video title I immediately thought ... Wow.... I never considered this but it would be great to learn to be able to distinguish the two. Awesome video!

[@lucia.marginean]

Thank you so much for making this video and all the other materials! They've been very helpful for me. 🙏❤

[@alisonclifton6539]

Thank you Nicole so very much to you and your team for the book and all the videos you post. Never in human history have we needed your help like we do now. I've read your book but feel i need to be reading it continually to get the full benefit. Thank you again so very much for your time, effort and care you give to us all worldwide.

[@hanle8743]

Wow thank you so much Dr. Nicole. This is just what I needed to hear, right place, right time 🙏🏽🙏🏽 I’ve been pretty frustrated with myself lately about how forgetful I’ve been recently. I get really disappointed when I can’t remember stuff my family or friends told me about. Overthinking has definitely led me to the deep end of being on my own spaceship. Thanks for bringing me back down!! It’ll be a work in progress but it started with you! 🙏🏽💚✨ Many blessings to you, Dr. Nicole!

[@bethanybriggs111]

This was wonderul 😍 thank you so much!!

[@amyj.4992]

I love ADHD, all I do is shift my attention when my body needs to take over. I'm just hearing more and more, that it's a God given gift. And when I'm interested in what's happening, I hyperfocus. And I have alarms for everything if not a visual schedule to keep me on task. Consciousness is amazing. ADHD is my best friend 🥰 WITHOUT WEAPONIZING IT. That's emotional abuse to myself. Recognizing when I am losing focus, but deciding in that 5sec. Window if I will allow the switch to a new distraction or taking a quick break to remain focused on the task at hand. I don't force me, I guide me.

[@samandujar9569]

Thank you so much!

[@brilynn5819]

Great video. Love this woman!! So inspiring.

[@luisinacerolini6964]

Dr Nicole, I can't thank you enough for the work you're doing. It's really changing my life and im so grateful that you put out these videos for free ❤

[@52ryan52]

Mindful Reminders! Been doing this for a few months now. So eye opening!❤️

[@Yuki92111]

Love this! I am a huge fan of yours , currently going through healing and its difficult cuz sometimes i have so much intrusive thoughts and i feel i can get out of my head and those negative thoughts, but this helped me too!

[@satisfyhelter-skelter4666]

Your insights are just amazing! You, and your videos, have been one of the biggest healing turning points for me, always helping tremendously. Thank U 💚🌞

[@123sruthi]

You read my mind Dr.Nicole 🙏Thank you for sharing this difference with great examples along with practice🙏Love❤️

[@isabelvina]

Love this!!!! This is the video that I just need today .thank you for helping us to doing the work, your wisdom and generosity is something that I want to acknowledge you and thanking you, Nicole. You are a light in my life. Hope you are again in your true self after the hard week you had.. I keep you in mi life and thoughts. Love you

[@mindfulplane1471]

loved this perspective and your videos! Thank you :)

[@yiselaleyva]

I'm just starting this practice. I realized and learned about this earlier today.

[@Amandahugginkizz]

Overthinking almost always causes panic attacks for me but deff makes them worse

[@draterattack]

I needed this SO MUCH today.

[@nehalrathod9]

Thank you so much dr Nicole, After listening to this video I understood many of my patterns come from being unconscious. Thanks a ton🤗

[@carolleveque6977]

Thank you for all that you do, feeling blessed that I’ve discovered you as you’re helping me heal and understand my life. I’ve never really understood consciousness, I struggle with this and am concerned it’s harder for me as I was recently diagnosed with ADD. Would love your opinion with ADD and being conscious 🙏

[@lookwhatsnext]

Thank you! 😊

[@TheAnnegallien]

Merci Nicole for those short videos. Next is about intuition and thinking Taking decisions over intuition rather than taking decisions over fear.

[@marissaguerra08]

Thank you!

[@lisa8990]

I live every day in my emotional world (EGO). I want to be able to refocus my attention on what's happening now. I overthink everything and live in my past.

[@peeledblackpotato]

Thank you so much for these informative videos! I'm in love with your work! ❤️❤️❤️ Could you please discuss dissociation? I think I've been practicing it all my life without knowing it.

[@thecounselor6221]

Very helpful, thank you 🙏🙂

[@iamlove4122]

Thank you

[@Deelitee]

I don’t know how to STICK with this bc I’ve tried and I keep getting looped back into the old thoughts. I wonder if I should do a recovery program but then… I will still have to live it when I leave 😵‍💫 I guess that’s where I need a coach or something… idk. But, I do KNOW how grateful for your voice, Dr. LePera!!!! ❤

[@lalanellie8396]

Fabulous! 😍

[@SuketaPatel]

This was really helpful to me. I lose myself when there is a trigger and a negative feeling like anger arises. I feel truly present when I go river swimming in nature and feel the heat of the sun on my body after the cold swim and this makes me feel alive and present. Thank you 🙏🇨🇦❤️🌈🌎🌺🦋🏄‍♀️

[@katk7946]

I was juuuuust thinking about this last week!! Wondering if my thoughts were me being conscious and aware or ego based/overthinking/analysing!

[@Amberbreanna]

Me realizing I had to watch this 5x because I wasn’t conscious while listening to it the first couple of times and kept overthinking 😅

[@user-qu3xz6lr2z]

the spaceship can be a comforting place i.e when ur zoning out, but overthinking can be hell

[@themetalgardener4960]

What about consciously thinking about the world and ourselves and how we interact with it versus overthinking? Not only examination of our lives, how to make better choices, but also how the world can be a better place or how to advance whatever we are into. Mathematics, philosophy, psychology, social justice, dance, art, anthropology, etc.

[@GillianParkinson]

This is SO helpful, about to set a reminder in my phone! I guess it's better to do a different time of day everyday? not the same time everyday - thank you so very much ❤

[@luckycharm1212]

Hi Nicole... Can you make a video on when to trust my thoughts and feelings and when to not? I get confused with the generalized idea of not to take our thoughts or feelings seriously coz they are not facts. Sometimes my thoughts are helpful but when I avoid them I find myself in huge trouble. Then I beat myself for not listening to my thoughts or feelings.

[@hannekedenhartog9195]

I would like that video too.

[@theresawaveyme4482]

Can you talk about contemplation and how it differs from thinking brain....Like if we are learning new content from your awesome courses, won't their be some internalized thought process which can hopefully lead to integration happening? Thanks so much xoxo

[@mercedesflores464]

I try to stay focused Its seem difficult at times

[@lifeisclimbing]

Is there a kind of future-self journal prompt to use when checking in on our consciousness? It'd be great if someone could share one.

[@nicolefreeman4386]

💓

[@MichaelMcLoughlin98]

what is a ladder box?

[@juliacann892]

I had to watch this video like 3 times, I kept overthinking about something else 🤦‍♀️

[@jannetgarciaball7523]

❤🙌

[@esmieadele8865]

Defo in the ego-mind! But also defo doing the work❤️

[@rosemariefullerton1963]

Do you practice this for so long and then just automatically become present? Is that how it works?

[@madhhviraj4089]

You are goddess💖

[@amyellis1478]

Most of the time I’m able to redirect and/or be much more conscious during the day, but when I’m dealing with an issue that is particularly emotional for me - especially sad ones - I cannot seem to get a handle on it at night & I pretty much end up having a mostly sleepless night. Unfortunately, that then sets me up for a whole cycle of losing control for several days once I’ve lost that night of sleep, my ability to stay present, regardless of how many reminders I set up, simply goes out the window. Any suggestions for dealing with the overthinking at night?

[@latinwriter]

That is because redirecting is not helpful jf you are using it to avoid the feeling. The emotion/feeling must be seen and embrace, in my experience. I am not saying it is easy to do, but it is what I have been seen in my life and practice. Right now all the deep-in core issues I have been releasing MOSTLY in my dreams. It means I am overwheelmed and do not want to deal with them awake. Now I see the pattern and consciously chose to invite to be seen even if I rather redirect my attention. I am working on the right balance so that I wont wake up at 4, 4 or 5am with the heart pulse like crazy and close-up chest bothering my breathing and making me feel anxious or in anguish

[@BeccaChapman]

I listen to guided meditations on KZbin by Micheal Sealy to sleep - started listening 2 years ago when I was having the same problem, completely transformed my life and my sleeping patterns highly recommend trying it out

[@hiimtanner3998]

Allowing myself to think the thought give it space then allow silence. You can’t fight ego with ego, you must give it stillness. So it with shut the fuck up tehe

[@sarameyer867]

I understand consciousness and Ego but I have a question🤔. What is instinct? Is in the consciousness or in the Ego. Thanks. 😀

[@luckycharm1212]

Instincts are subconscious. They are there for our survival. Like our fright flight and fight response. It's there when we find a threat. It's part of the animal brain.

[@zma6779]

This title felt like a personal attack so I guess I have to watch the video now

[@latinwriter]

I feel that redirecting is only useful if you actually deal with the emotion/feeling in presence embracing what it brings. One important part of the work you might be missing (or maybe not but I do not see you talk about and I understand why) is the impact of past live and generational and collective trauma. When we are realeasing fear from our ancestry system all memories from this and perhaps other lives (if you believe that) come up to the surface. Simply redirecting is a great option to avoid to "do the work" of feeling those and releasing without resistance!! What I am talking here is deep unconscious levels, as most of these symptons some of us feel when healing for a long time, as deeper layers are released. I feel that it is more useful to point out the difference between redirecting and avoiding/repressing the uncomfortable. As someone pointed out in the comments at night we night feel at loss if this was done as resistance rather than acceptance of what is. Other point is for those who have as a pattern to continue attached to these old feelings and as such suck them out of others and the enviornment and even collectively. This is more of less my case now so learning to change this pattern of selfabuse to selflove first in order to let go of the distorted ego who wants to save everyone, which we know is not possible, but uncosciously keep repeating and bringing much unnecessary overwhelm

[@madhhviraj4089]

Which fool has dislike this video 😀

[@88888888tiago]

I can't get through the lesbiani bandanna

[@shelby3755]

Aw come on, it ain’t that hard!

[@kingaberlakovich5585]

I overthink and rationalise everything 🫣