Sex God's Way Part 1

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[@kimora7964]

I like how he gently leads the conversation and she gracefully allows him to.

[@feliciabailey5120]

Beautiful humble spirit

[@JaieKeller]

Me too. I love how this dynamic is expressed in each video

[@awsambdaman]

I just found them and they are wise! Beautiful dynamic, I subscribed immediately

[@Justritamich]

The lack of sexual conversations in the church is some of the reason marriages struggle. Sex is for marriage so why wouldn’t Christians discuss it.

[@feliciarobinson2596]

I would like to share my opinion and experience on the question why women are less interested in sex than men. I believe, and I know that one of the biggest reasons that I’ve experienced and have had friends and other people to share is our/women, sexual appetite is connected directly to our heart/emotions. If we feel hurt, offended, or disrespected, in any kind of way, it lessons, our appetite to be with the man that we usually can’t get enough of. Mental emotional and physical pain causes us to say no, not right now or I don’t feel like it.

[@blessedandfavored9242]

I agree with the reason however I would say “why SOME women” because I know a couple of women who have more of a sex drive & always horny more than the man. But like you disclaimed… your experience. But I love your comment cuz it’s so facts to me.

[@andreaponzie2657]

Yes, I also agree with that comment.

[@stephaniezacharias]

Agreed

[@user-GodIsGood777]

Sometimes something medically could be going on with the woman and husbands need to understand that and show compassion.

[@kmccurtis19]

You hit that right on the head Felicia

[@richardwarner2952]

The world needs conversations like this

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

amen!

[@miapoole3]

Definitely

[@blazeworks]

This is very impressive from a Christian perspective.. love it and I shared this with my non believing friends.

[@TheLittlePrayerCafe]

But this conversation needs to be had before you get married because you got a lot of men that are married to females and majority of them are committing adultery, because the female never disclosed that they didn’t give oral or did it in the past, and they didn’t disclose that to their future husband. This is open dialogue and these conversations need to be had during the premarital process. Sex is something that can ultimately break the relationship or make the relationship. This is why premarital counseling is needed. These questions need to be asked in the beginning, and before you go to the altar.. just like the weight gain on a female or male. This conversation needs to be had before you get married if they expect you to stay a certain type of way, work out with them, eat a certain type of way, or live a vegetarian or Presbyterian lifestyle, you should know what type of puddle you’re stepping into before you go to. The altar is all I’m trying to say. A lot of people are getting married to the wrong people because they don’t fully know these people get to know somebody before you get in the bed with them, get to know somebody before you put a ring on them. Females are finding out that men are not providers and they’re ultimately lazy gamers. I’m now seeing people are married and now trying to add people to their marriage. It’s adultery gone wild.

[@876Millz]

I am enthusiastic about this opportunity and am gaining valuable knowledge.

[@cnbri30]

I’m a single woman in her 7th year of abstinence. Watching this conversation between husband and wife is delightful!! It’s nice to see the space they’ve given each other to speak about these matters. It’s giving ‘SAFE’! ❤

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

Proud of you!

[@cnbri30]

@@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha Thank you!

[@blaq7892]

Rechargeable or batteries?

[@tobe2714]

Im in my 7th year, too!! Im so happy

[@wilmamachado8484]

I'm working on 7 years solebent. Amen!🙌❤️‍🔥

[@phendulwazondo5207]

Also, as women, when we are disturbed/ stressed, sex is the last thing to us.

[@_jizl_]

I mentioned to my wife that from my viewpoint it does seem like sex is placed last of all. And yes she too often seems disturbed, stressed, and have a mind full. But I also think she some times fills her own mind w/ things that are stressful and disturbing, but by choice. I tell her the reason I'm sexually motivated bcuz I really just ignore things that are hectic in favor of desiring pleasure to and from her.

[@BarbeeSpeaks]

Yes…it’s the learning your spouses body for me! As an OBGYN, I have spoken to thousands of women with selfish lovers. Sex is less of a chore when it’s enjoyable for all parties involved.

[@susanhaines7358]

Thank you! This is truth!!!! Not all women are just saying no but some women have had enough with bad sex and selfish tit pulling wanna do it men who cannot even be a husband or father in the home

[@hannahskinner9102]

I appreciate this conversation! Being a woman who has been sexually abused I don’t want to feel numb and just think it’s a 15 minute fix I want to be able to understand the beauty of it from Gods perspective so I can heal and when God allows my husband to come along I’m emotionally and mentally ready Thank you! In this generations of sex being a thing you do before marriage this encourages me to wait for the right one

[@blazeworks]

Glad to see mature Christian perspectives on these topics !! What a blessing !!!

[@KimBellefonte-jm7gn]

Praise God

[@carola.richards9405]

This was so beautifully communicated. I agree that sex is important but it is not the foundation of marriage. Thank you! 🔥♥️

[@ChristIsK1ng]

My wife sent me this. You two just gained a new subscriber. Very mature, godly, and honest take on this topic. In me and my wife’s nearly 12 years of marriage, this conversation mirrors the understanding that we’ve come to regarding this topic as well. God bless you two!

[@willarolen7581]

I always asked the Holy Spirit to give me the strength to meet my husband's needs. Also the Holy Spirit told me to use that time to minister to my husband body doing our sexual intimacy time and he would always wake up refreshed and restored for another day. HALLELUYAH!!!

[@AdrienBryantTube]

Tabitha, you shut it down with “I know your body”. I think it is so important to learn each other’s body. And for a few moments I thought y’all needed to turn off the camera and get a room lol. Beautiful conversation. Thank you, divorced 55yr old learning how to pray for a Godly marriage.

[@teday8388]

Women require an emotional synchronization for sex to have value, but men can do it while being emotionally disconnected.

[@klarken7710]

Women can too.

[@anitabritt2006]

This is EXCELLENT teaching concerning sex God's way. The church needs to hear this message, instead of listening to the world's perverted views about sex. You cannot teach effectively what you have not experienced. And it seems like Ken and Tabitha have experienced what they are teaching. I'm 54yrs young, never been married, and have never heard this type of great teaching on sex God's way. My greatest take away is when Ken mentioned @25:55 that his psychologist, who has been married for over 40yrs, said "sex gets better as you add on yrs because it's not just the physical part of sex, it's the intimacy." WOW!!! How many Christian couples have experienced that!?!?

[@miapoole3]

This is powerful and organic and just as straight forward as the Bible like the book of Song of Solomon

[@mamasbaby0399]

I love that Ken said 'The love part of me' gives consideration to the realities of Tabatha's life. This!

[@mamasbaby0399]

This episode made me cheese like i'm the one in y'alls marriage :D

[@MargaretsPearls]

I ABSOLUTELY LOVE y’all’s pure hearts. I LOVE that this was a truly open dialogue. Tabatha acknowledges her true feelings about how the world might view the subject of the woman’s body being her husband’s. I love how Ken always gently takes Tabatha’s concerns to the feet of Jesus. This is Beautiful on so many levels. I LOVE how Ken keeps establishing his tone in God’s Word. Praying Matthew 5:8 on your lives that because of your pure hearts you’ll see God move every day of your lives… in every area of your lives.

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

So happy you are loving the content!

[@vuyiswamasombuka583]

Wow this is so well handled by two matured God fearing couple, the respect you have for each other is on another level, I love how you both listing to each other, that make you shine so bright & complement each other.

[@WhichTheChickenOrTheEgg]

Not him saying she done very well on this scripture 🤣 so transparent I cannot 😅😅😅

[@Chosen82001]

So glad I found this! You never get to hear people following the Lord talking about this. We need to hear conversations like this.

[@josephcharo4299]

Am encouraged by your stories and content. May God help be be patient with my spouse!

[@livingwithdrdenisej]

The husband having authority over his wife’s body needs to be balanced with the husband needing to dwell with his wife according to knowledge; he must lead by understanding his wife intimately in all respects and then there is mutual submission which allows them each to meet and understand each other’s needs.

[@shannelnewton9236]

I’m with you Pastor Ken. I don’t care about the left or the right. Even as a 50 year women of God. I’m doing it the kings way. Thanks for providing content to all, especially single women of the kingdom. Living for God in the waiting, I seek out this type of teaching. I know the powerful truth of being delivered from soul ties.. love you and Tabitha for sharing these powerful truths… to lead and guide.. the Holy Spirit and holiness are the rightful guides. 🔥🙌🏾💃🏽🙋🏽‍♀️

[@La_loving]

I appreciate listening to this discussion in this space- a Christian perspective/community. I needed it. Well done 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼.

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

So glad you’re enjoying it!

[@luuluusolovely]

I love how Ken started to kinda catch his flesh speak about sex then he centered himself and gave scripture.

[@axelito6342]

The Growth ! The maturity ! Whew thank you Jesus

[@Faithfullfertilitytv]

“I want an upwards perspective” Great content!

[@TheReggie35]

Fantastic podcast show today!!

[@willarolen7581]

This was great!!! Thank you!!!👏🏿👏🏾👏🏽👏🏼👏🏻👏 Sex is important, but it's not the foundation of the marriage, but it's the agape love of YAHWEH God.

[@MaleboMoagi]

Ya im overwhelmed by marriage life from just watching this. I want to get married but theres so much to learn

[@kimora7964]

Fresh mints on the night stand! Wow this lady treats her husband like he's brand new...I love it❤

[@axelito6342]

A God centered relationship ! Wow this is so beautiful to see ! This is what God wanted sexuality to be like 🙏🏾

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

🙌🏾❤️

[@miss60kiss]

I looove this!! Our Flesh is not born again I Love that,too many people especially women spiritualize the bedroom matters,I love this so much I just sent this to my fiancé ulala! Our Sex lifetime gonna be lit once we married

[@marinaxortiz2954]

I love that y’all are diving deep into the conversation that people don’t really talk about, but yet we all struggle there.

[@tanishahaughton8977]

Loving you're humility ❤❤❤❤am new here just watching this second podcast with you

[@willarolen7581]

Right!!! I was sexually abused and i grew up thinking that sex was nasty until i went through 20 years of counseling. I know ladies who are still messed up because their too prideful to go get help. One lady ran her husband off because of the physical abuse she saw her mother endure and she is still messed up today, because of her brokenness and sinful pride.

[@jenriquefilms1634]

One of my favorite episodes!!

[@sandrashavers1516]

you don't do what you used to do before marriage, your on your best behavior trying to win the other person over, once you get that person the thrill is gone. than you start living together and you realize things about one another, so on and so forth . God is able, he wants your marriage to work more than we do. ASK GOD TO HELP AND HE WILL. He's helping right now by listening to Ken and Tabatha. thank you guys

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

God is good!! Stay tuned every Thursday. Thank you for watching!

[@yolandasanders6397]

Wow this is good and needed, I have been married 28 years and I agree with you when you say that communication is key because at one time I did not enjoy sex and I had to pray and ask the Lord to help me and now it is Great! Also I think when we as women don't want to have sex with our husband there is a root cause of that mindset, it may be something in our past or it could be that the husband don't satisfy her. That is why transparent communication is so important. Thanks again for sharing this!!👐

[@tastesutton]

You are certainly right. It is not always about, the woman "not feeling like it", but there are underlying reasons that cause a woman not to want to have sex like a lack of intimacy outside the bedroom or unresolved conflict.

[@IamROYALTY_]

This was soooo Lit!!!!! 🔥!!!! I luv the transparency the openness the intellectual content! This is a very rare Topic that needs to be shared in the community of marriages & singleness!!! I am so Glad I was lead to your channel!!! It’s liberating & It’s based on the Foundation of the Word of God!!! 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@alisheabasson2987]

Wow!! This conversation is amazing! Seeing you two come to understand each other real time is such an impactful lesson to see!

[@AllAboutAndrew444]

The gift of marriage has lost its importance so many people would rather have a baby first than her marriage because people think you have to be rich to get married but it’s about gods covenant and blessings 🥺🥺

[@JaieKeller]

Tabatha...thank you. Your story matches mine. Oh my goodness, God answered my prayer right now. Im so grateful. To be continued...

[@earickrayburn1726]

I care about the kingdom of God!!! I agree with Ken, amen bro

[@nescafate]

Just got married to the love of my life 3 weeks ago. And I keep sending your videos to my husband. I’m so grateful I found your channel. I love him even more everyday hearing your words & love & life advice. Thank you unc & auntie!!!

[@lindathompson5131]

A good subject as well for one preparing for marriage.

[@Milvus_In_Excelsis]

1 Corinthian 7 6-7 6 I say this as a concession, not as a command. 7 I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.

[@fitnessmarriagecoaching8710]

Hi we are Demetrie and Karen Palm ! We thoroughly enjoyed the podcast and found it to be great. It's truly special to see couples, like yourselves, who have been married for years and are still actively seeking ways to improve and strengthen your relationship. Thank you for sharing !!

[@feliciabailey5120]

I'm up and enjoying the 2023 biblical teaching between husband and wife

[@crystallatrece3545]

Wow! I’m certain I was led here! Thanks soooo very much for your openness and insight in to the hard conversations. I’ll be ready!!!

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

You're welcome! Thanks for watching!

[@edmundnschrag]

Loving how they keep mirroring Dave and Ashley Willis.

[@JaieKeller]

Oh my goodness, I just got free listening to her... Tabatha, God bless you!

[@tammyikama-obambi7641]

I'm glad you all came across my feed❤. I love this...A Christian Couple with kingdom wisdom & knowledge. Thanks for sharing!❤🤎🖤 #AHolyPerspective

[@willarolen7581]

A lot of women who have experienced sexual abuse at whatever age need to get healed before they get married. A young Pastor told me the woman he married had been sexually abused and when it came to them having intimate time she didn't want to he said. He said it was as if she was an old woman who didn't want to be touched. He also said to me, I'm young and I have needs, so he went outside of the marriage to get his needs met.

[@SaucyZo]

I like this interaction with each other. Great content. Thanks for sharing

[@LexiLu5322]

Love you guys, just started watching and I’ve been bringing these , thank you for this.

[@fremonw78]

This is amazing. Thank you for your openness and honesty. This is so helpful.

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

Glad it was helpful!

[@carlosbolt4497]

This podcast comes from God...keep it up guys🙏🙏

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

Thank you so much for watching ❤️

[@2mammaR]

This was great!!

[@feliciabailey5120]

Yes Lord come on we as women need to understand a man without self control has a disconnect from God and when that happens the enemy can come in

[@WhitakersWay]

Watching from Japan 🇯🇵 just found you guys keep sharing Gods love with the world in all aspects of life ❤

[@angelasantiago7797]

JUST FOUND YALL AND LOVING LOVING LOVING IT 🙌🔥🙌🔥

[@laurahelena9399]

In my case, I don't have that need, and he just expected me to be ready. Then it was straight to the point, done and gone to sleep. 12 years of marriage, I thought I was "damage" yet tried to please his... fantasies... Finally, just couldn't anymore.

[@MyHeart128]

Question how does it work if the woman libido has become very low after having her 2nd child. And on top of that the wife and your husband is constantly arguing and the husband is not meeting the wife needs emotionally and mentally? But the husband continues to only focus on getting sex instead of looking at what has been brought to his attention for the last couple of years on top of the sex drive is low. I agree with you when it come to the Bible. But I have heard some preachers say the man/husband holds that responsibility of wanting the wife to be submissive (including sex) . To where if he is honoring her as the Bible says then it would not be something that the wife should be asked to do. She will automatically have the feeling to give him whatever he wants.

[@tarshapatriz3632]

Oh my gosh I just looooove your podcasts, conversations, it just makes me smile and look forward to what God has coming for me! This is it right here, how God wants us to see marriage! May God continue to cover your ministry sooo needed!🙏🏾💜

[@temekahatcher88]

All your videos have been inspiring blessing and encouraging me❤

[@sheri5460]

May God bless you two ❤🙏🏽 I am a single woman. I divorced my husband many years ago for cheating. It has been 18 years and I have and I am workin on me. Pray he sends my boas …

[@AnneAlwill]

Thank you so much for being real - willingness to talk sex that it is important and normal

[@Shy0524]

Woooow I needed this ! 😢God knew !

[@Faithfullfertilitytv]

Love the nightstand supply tips

[@jaazzh521]

Love your Channel and content. When I seen this topic was I was like let me save this video for closer to marriage and watch it with my future significant other. 🙏🏾😌

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

Love that!

[@lisaburke1347]

God put you two in our lives. We are listening.

[@livelovelaugh731]

At the end of a long day working, coming home cooking cleaning, putting our baby to sleep I’m exhausted and physically can’t. My gas tank is below the E. Although I’m walking my body feels like I’m literally dragging myself to the bed. I can’t. I feel bad. I don’t know how to add sex to the mix.

[@JaieKeller]

Love how he days he dont care about the left or the right but an upward perspective

[@doubletroublephillycheeses1395]

Make sure you guys remind people to hit like as well it makes a difference

[@feliciabailey5120]

Amen if I cant find your information in the word I cant agree this is good ty for starting with word of God because God told us to search the word for yourself

[@DawnEats_]

Thank you for this definitely helps my husband and I God bless you both 🙏🏽💕

[@JaieKeller]

This was the perfect conversation!

[@SandraLopez-f1x]

I wish God can answer my prayer like God did With her she waited just couple of months when she asked for her husband I’ve been asking God since my kids were little I cried all my life for a husband my kids are grown now I’m alone

[@Dana-vq1tk]

Good words!!! You both have a ministry.

[@samuelhugie1839]

I just found you guys, and I’m listening to some important stuff here!!! God bless you, and keep going!!! Bless!! I love you guys!!!!

[@glennpesti6519]

Wonderful I appreciate it. My first time seeing you and I am now subscribed.

[@michaeljoshua2133]

My wife is on the way. Im enjoying this content. Im getting ready haha

[@dianecolson4236]

God bless you T w o, This video the world needs to hear.

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

Thanks for watching! God bless.

[@joymwale9613]

With love from zambia... I'm a keen follower

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

Thank you for tuning in!!

[@santrinalittle9847]

I love this!! Learning a lot so when i get remarried I’ll know what to do!

[@lisaburke1347]

Mutuality is the key here!!

[@bruniegonzalez9123]

I’m so with you Pastor Tabatha… I do the same

[@AllAboutAndrew444]

Really really good points

[@KyaringabiraEvas-ub5yb]

Awwwh, am glad having to know such while am still single❤ from Uganda🎉

[@lifeasraven3589]

I’m so thankful I found you guys on tik tok and finally tuned in!

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

Glad to have you!

[@Saywatnah]

Also, it's not marriage that changes the sex. I've lived with 2 men before(separate times, shaking up. Living in sin in my past) and it still dies after you have the daily routines of work, bills, taking care of the house, etc. What comes easy is occasional sex. Date sex. When i see you sex. Next time we go out sex. Not we live together and are around each other everyday with frustrations, stress, depression, fatigue, not eating as much, exercise, etc that spaces it out until you only think of sex. You don't physically have the energy to get into it and you're just not aroused. Common issue in women because we don't get testosterone build up. Which men don't understand. So it's our job to understand. Key words. It's just pressure really. Not trauma, not medical reasons. Like those are the only reasons that men can use to make it make sense. It can literally be NONE of those things and she's completely healthy and healed. SHE'S JUST NOT A MAN lol i know it seems like I'm fussing but it's not rocket science. Men just don't i get it. So why not teach men tips on how to get their woman in the mood and get her juices flowing. Not tell her to figure it out. It does seem very one sided.

[@ruseenajohnson2103]

Maybe it's in part 2. Let's go see

[@mrs.wilson2275]

This is soo needed!!! I appreciate this ❤

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

So glad you’re enjoying it!!

[@lindathompson5131]

Intentional is good. Thanks. makes one think differently.

[@lindathompson5131]

Thanks again for that nugget.

[@sophiafrancis4881]

Loving these two people

[@Courageousqueen0]

23yrs. Omg beautiful ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@amakarhoda9147]

First time here 💗💗 I'm glad ❤❤ love you both 😍😍

[@SH-zp1hl]

I think some women are less interested in sex than men because for men, it seems that sex is about the "feeling," and for women, sex is about the connection. Also our bodies are different. A man can achieve orgasm pretty much 100% of the times that he has sex. There are some women who have been having sex for YEARS and have never achieved orgasm. It just is the as pleasurable for some women as it is for men.

[@feliciabailey5120]

Yes Lord my husband will and continue to get the business because I dont want the devil creeping in

[@allisonhinds8384]

Quickies are always good guys.