How to Be a Proverbs 31 Woman with Ken and Tabatha Claytor

Get ready to journey with us as we unpack the virtues of the Proverbs 31 woman and illuminate the principles that transcend gender. Promising empowerment, our episode is a must-listen for anyone striving for growth in their spiritual journey, and a deeper understanding of the women in their lives. This is not just for the ladies, gents - this is your chance to glean deep insights into the driving forces of your mothers, sisters, wives, and daughters.
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[@ThisMamasJourneyAt40]

Tabatha…can we (the ladies) get maybe a separate podcast that focuses on being a godly woman/wife/homemaker/business woman etc.? Just food for thought. Blessings to y’all! ❤

[@briancoleman489]

I'm a single Christian man and I want a family to advance God's kingdom here on earth. Hearing your testimony on marriage inspires me to be a great man for my future family

[@syliviasylivita5023]

This reminds me of a video thy have on “lists” it’s always about the other person in the relationship and never about how one aspires to be in the relationship. This is a good one

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

Praying that you will find your spouse! Thanks for watching!

[@user-ho6xz4td3i]

Actually I didn’t know this until I was so broken and was my day of fasting then run into this channel and found my self renewing my life and having thirst for the change to be happy by understanding the man and myself as a woman God created me to be

[@CharCharJars]

So refreshing to hear from a Christian man ❤ thank you for sharing

[@dainapelham6780]

❤

[@corinthiaslaughter6148]

“How do you know God is real?” “Have you seen my wife?” WOW. This whole conversation was wonderful, but that part struck me. Hopefully my future husband will be able to share Ken’s sentiment. God bless y’all! 💓

[@lifewithmahalia]

I kinda screamed 😂

[@checkmae]

I have to be the kind of wife that my husband would be so proud to have. Working on myself first... That's the first step.

[@alieahengs8697]

I teared up on that. Wow.

[@fariwiththefacts7143]

When the student is ready to learn, the teacher will appear. Thank you for appearing for me today ❤️

[@adspluss]

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[@ShaiAzariahsMOM2223]

I view that proverbs 31 woman as the bride of Christ herself, getting up early in the morning providing food for her household( early prayer, reading of the word) all in her house are clothed in scarlet ( the blood of Jesus) the heart of her husband (Christ ) safely trusts in her, she sells linen in the market places( evangelism, witnessing , going after the loss) I see it more from a spiritual perspective. Not saying a woman can’t aspire to be this , I believe like she said we are different things according to the season of life , so don’t feel bad if it’s not who you are all around, we as women have different calls , backgrounds, and strengths. 🙏🏽😁 anywho be blessed

[@_forevergrateful1]

This is such a beautiful perspective.

[@1006woman]

I love this I’m going to keep this in my notes❤

[@giftoj1473]

This is so beautiful

[@ChristsBelovedDaughter]

That’s interesting 🤔

[@Zirhe5]

I love this perspective 💕

[@serite]

I am watching this cos im in a life changing journey of becoming the proverbs 31 woman the Godly woman, thank you.

[@shernacunningham8541]

A Proverbs 31 woman is balanced and knows that the Sovereign God is her source.

[@MSMS-xi9vl]

I came across this video today and I was very inspiring that a beautiful married couple like yourselves and putting this out there I was married widowed then married again for the second time with an abusive spouse. Now I’ve been a single mom for almost 7 years and I’m just praying for Mr. Wright if there is still one out there for me, thank you for giving me hope. Have a blessed day.

[@patricedates8809]

This just gave me life. Yesterday I was reading Proverbs 31 and then the enemy had me questioning if I at 46 with no husband or kids could be that Proverbs 31 woman. It shook me but oh today, I opened You tube to listen to someone else and this was the first video I seen. My God My God!! Oh how he cares for me!!

[@desotohealth]

I'm so glad to have found a real Christian, non celebrity married couple.

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

We're glad to have you here!

[@righteousmasculine]

But they are celebrities in GOD’s eyes they are helping many people with GODLY wisdom. Thank you both I pray your marriage is fruitful and long lasting

[@royalkelley4585]

No fr and they speak on what goes on in day to day life not just what the media puts out

[@mercedesbenz220]

First time hearing these two and WOW! I love the connection they have while being two separate people. By that I mean there’s so much respect for eachother.

[@BiblicalAcumen]

Me and boyfriend watch these podcast together and they have been such a blessing to us. Definitely help us grow in our relationship with the Lord, individually and as a team. God bless you guys always, may the Lord multiply what He pours onto you! We pray this ministry grows according to Gods will 🥰❤️

[@nunii.]

Awe that’s so beautiful, I wish you guys much success!!

[@madelynwright6171]

I am a young Christian woman in college and I strive to be a Proverbs 31 woman who becomes what the Lord calls me to be.

[@amandafewless]

I am excited! I have been married almost 17 years I love hearing from fellow Christian couples!

[@andreag8416]

I absolutely love the idea of a men’s conference for women and a women’s conference for men. I would attend one of those.

[@amyfriess7960]

I love the Proverbs 31 woman and have tried to follow that example my whole adult life and continue even though I am alone. it is only just in the last year that I actually studied this verse. You really need to go to the beginning of Proverbs 31 to understand it completely. It talks about King Lemuel and his mother's instruction to him. First of all, there is really no record of a King Lemuel. The word Lemuel means: Man of God" It is believed that the king is actually King Solomon, and this is his mother Beshea giving him instruction and King Lemuel is his nickname for her son meaning he is a "Man of God". she is explaining to him how important it is he chooses the right woman wisely or he could be ruined. I used to feel unworthy as I felt I could not be this virtuous of a woman, especially in the failed relationship I had in divorce. What I realized when I studied Proverbs 31:10 the woman part cannot start without the first parts of Proverbs 31, It starts with King Lemuel, a "Man of God." I kept picking men who were maybe not a "Man of God", and Proverbs 31 can never work without a King Lemuel. You have to choose a mate that is a "Man of God" It really is a guide for women, but too many women think they can change a man. We must be obedient to the Lord and stay away from the unequally yoked. However, his mother was telling him he also cannot just pick any woman, it must be a virtuous woman, a woman of God, one of high moral character. There is so much more to this, but it starts with two people who need to be equally yoked in the Lord.

[@voltrondefender1174]

You are on the right path! Big question for you, if this is Bathsheba speaking over Solomon, (big if! but also very probable) do you think she is describing and Solomon is later recording a type of ideal woman, or an actual ideal woman? For instance, there is a woman described in scripture that closely fits the description in Prov 31. Hint: In the Masoretic text her book immediately follows Proverbs 31. She also has a special relationship to Solomon, and is the only other woman in scripture described as "Eishet Chayil" translated as woman of noble character but more accurately as a woman of valor... happy studying!

[@ShienaLene]

I think Proverbs 31 should be a bigger conversation in circles of men…even moreso mother’s speaking to their sons and even women speaking at men’s meetings, because Proverbs 31 was written by a mother to her son. We just have a cheat code ☺️

[@melliemel32]

I’m sorry I missed this live. You guys have blessed me so much. It’s not just for married people, but single people too! I’m 48 and still believe the LORD for a spouse. I just joke that I’ll be an “older” wife. 😮🙏🏽✝️

[@coleenoteroceo]

23 years married and Tony and I have had our roles change based on the various seasons we were in. Now I travel more for work than he does and we have had to figure out what works for us. For ex: He does mornings with the kids, I do evenings. He shops and I cook or order👀. I clean and hire maid service to support, He washes clothes, I fold. Like we have a system that works. So I absolutely love Pastor Tab’s comment about how this could look different for every woman but at the core she’s a woman handling her business!

[@Victoriaakunyili]

1:17 i love how she looks at him!

[@EphesiansTwoEight]

I’m a young woman who strives to be like proverbs 31 woman! I was recently saved and this kind of content is so helpful for me. I love how Tabatha was trying to make it more realistic with the modern day culture and Ken kind of brought it back to the more traditional view. I don’t know how to cook but I’m learning! My favorite part of this podcast was when Ken started complaining about the milk 😂 The way Tabatha ultimately submitted to her husband and apologized for not providing or fulfilling her role, that was so powerful!!! I would love more content on this passage or a video on how to be a biblical wife and submit to your husband. 🤍

[@denisehouston7805]

Doing it God's way we can avoid alot 😢. He created us & he knows what's best for his children Liisten to Father.

[@senorasalazar1462]

So happy to have found you guys. Tabitha, I am such a better wife to my hubby after listening to you the first time weeks ago. I have even bumped up our intimacy. Thank you.

[@jaesjournal1497]

I absolutely love this video. As a 22 year old and a young mom I’ve struggled so much maintaining an image that’s acceptable to society but also to God and watching this had made me realize that a virtuous/ Proverbs 21 woman is so much more inspiring and worthwhile. ❤ its gives me something to teach myself and my daughter!

[@Beautybyqueenb]

That’s great to share😊. It proverbs 31:10 going. Not 21😊

[@shenikacook6928]

Surrender to his will and watch your life change!

[@michelletaylorsmotivation3171]

Praise the Lord I’m thankful that I ran across this live or teaching or this replay but I really like what first lady said about how if you don’t know how to cook or you don’t like going to the grocery store that you can get on the app and order some groceries or you can hire somebody to cook even thinking about myself and my busy lifestyle I do clean sometimes but it’s OK if you got a higher somebody to come in and do your general cleaning It’s OK if you have to hire somebody or get somebody to help you with some things even with the kids I believe that it takes a village to raise a child. It’s OK grandma can come in and watch the kids while you get some things done or you know if your kids are small if you gotta get a nap or you gotta study or whatever the case maybe so I think that’s awesome that she said that because at one point time in my life I was feeling lack because I can cook, but I don’t like to Cook and clean all the time that is not the focal point of who I am so what I’ve learned with striving to be proverbs 31 woman is that being a mom being a wife being a entrepreneur being a minister being a teacher all of that you have to find balance and it’s OK to reach out for help to help you do these thingsso thank you Lady for mentioning that

[@SH-im2vw]

I’ve been married 30 years. You are so correct brother, it takes partnership but we also should strive to be better for our household and others, God’s way.

[@nma78112]

I loved this content💐....I am not married yet but I am soon to be in Jesus Name! I am with you Tabitha on sourcing outside help to cater to my family if I am not abe to. As long as I am making sure my family is taken care of. I used to be intimidated by Proverbs 31 but not anyome as I believe we are graced by Our God in many different ways and are constantly being worked on by His hand to just do good. Amen.

[@noluthandomakhoba9853]

Thank you to you both for this conversation. I believe God led me here, and it's what I needed to hear in this season. Side note: I felt Ken was trying to take over the conversation, and not allowing Tabitha to finish a point. Especially as a woman, he should of given her more platform considering the topic at hand.

[@misskissy17]

As women, we often feel criticized in all we do. When you read the Bible and are new to the faith, it can be overwhelming. Sometimes we have history that makes us feel like we will never amount. But through time and growing it can be inspirational. Sometimes we take the Bible so literal when we need to consider it spiritually. As a single mother with now grown children, seek God on who and how He wants you to be. Especially, if you’re feeling overwhelmed.

[@plantbasedgirl5854]

Praise God I found your channel! When it was over, I was like, noooo, not already!! Really enjoyed this and I learned a lot. I always thought striving to be a Proverbs 31 woman was unattainable, but listening to you explain it so well, I now know that I can be like this woman and it is so encouraging! I am a 65 year old woman, and I reconnected with my HS boyfriend from 45 years ago over a year ago and now we are talking marriage!! I need to learn as much as I can about being the kind of wife God wants me to be. I lost my husband 5 years ago and even though I am a Christian, we had quite a rocky marriage and I was not submissive. I am working to change that with God's help. God bless you both and I look forward to watching more of your videos!

[@tiffanypickett8797]

Even as a single woman, this is so inspiring! You both have incredible God-given wisdom, Im thankful to you guys for sharing! I’ve been praying and fasting to be prepared for marriage and motherhood, this will be kept close to my heart. Now i wanna write almost every verse of this passage around my house as reminders and encouragement!!😆❤️✨

[@Shelenamarie]

You all speak so well .I desire to speak the same way in my relationships ❤ I’m a Proverbs 31:10 Woman

[@aaliyahtia2496]

Hi, before 2021 I didn’t know how to cook. And then one day I was like I want a family one day. I want to learn so I can cook for my family. So since 2021 I have been cooking. I watched KZbin video and Pinterest food videos. And keep in mind before hand I was eating out all the time. I didn’t mind eating out. Then one day boom.

[@IamaDesignerOriginal]

Nice!!!!

[@itumelengshiburi4091]

Wow thank you so much for clearifying the scripture in Morden terms. As much as this podcast can be very beneficial to us women I also think men ( particularly men who are married or wanna be married) should watch this podcast. Thank you so much for the wisdom and knowledge. Watching from South Africa 🇿🇦

[@amymcintosh7378]

God Bless you both. You have inspired me to be a virtuous woman. My daughter shared this with me and told me I am a virtuous woman. What a way for me to ring in the New Year 2024!

[@DeQuana]

If I’m gonna be honest with myself, when I first read the verse, there’s a bit of metaphors and stuff that I didn’t understand. Until your wife clarified it I feel more secure and much more better. 🙏🏼

[@LittleinnocentRin1]

I think that book would do well because we are in a lot of poor, black youth areas don’t have mentorship period. But also black young men don’t like to read either. I am having one of the hardest times with my eight-year-old son with him reading he struggles heavily, because, it’s just me. He only sees mom and never dad. His father made a decision to never be there and abandoned his child. We need to really end this heartbreaking cycle of abandoning children. You will never be able to become a proverbs 31 woman if you’re a single mom. The reason why is because your focus is your kids in your household and you’re the leader of your household. This is a good segment, young women, 18 and below, please do not have any children before it time when you are a single mom you don’t have time to be a proverbs 31 woman. All you can do is work, rest, asleep when you’re able. Plus, you have to marry the right man in order for you to become a proverbs 31 woman. If you do not marry the right person, you won’t ever be a proverbs 31 woman either. Be extremely selective of your partner, it is important.

[@Amy-yb4ne]

I'm only 15 mins in and I love this. This is something I aspire to be. Recently our lives got flipped around. We have suffered a lot of trauma (house fire in 2023) and my husband got PTSD and is now unable to work. I am working and doing housework and he cooks every night and takes my son to his therapies, our littlest to daycare etc. We are a team and share it but I feel bad that I'm not the one cooking at night but he says it's on him coz I'm working so I'm grateful but I was feeling like I wasnt being a Christian wife coz I'm not the SAHM now. Id love some wisdom on this.

[@___Wendy___]

Hi Amy, It's not a law for the wife to cook every night, so don't worry about it. You're doing what your family needs you to do the most for this period of time. So I think your doing a great job. Don't be ashamed that your husband helps out at home. You're team

[@stephaniegaines2693]

I love your podcast and I learned something Today. Thank you so much. No I'm not married yet but I'm preparing for my BFF, Husband ❤

[@paigealexaandra]

I love this. I’m a single 30 y/o woman with a desire for family and I feel like God is really showing me the areas that are in need of development for me to be the woman He’s created a vision of me being. My priorities are shifting and I see my habits need to shift with them. This message is right on time and is really fueling that desire to grow into true womanhood. Thank you. ❤

[@marycook1183]

Bless you🙏🏻 I needed this.

[@teenspirit9837]

Blessings for this word! 🙏🏾❤️

[@gettended]

28:48 😂❤ it’s a good spoiled. It’s really lovely and sweet

[@Teenelljb]

This truly blessed me today! 🙌

[@amandagumbo8104]

I recently came across your channel. Love you both. I have never been a podcast person but you 2 are awesome.

[@nono.1921]

I just found you guys today after watching your fasting video and it’s blessed me tremendously. I am back for a second video today and it’s this. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and may God bless you and keep you near his heart.

[@iBvtterfly]

Love this video thank you. Just thrown off on the 4-5 days without milk, he can’t go get milk? Can he not meet her in an area as simple as going to the store and getting the milk? Yet she’s so classy still apologizes and also works like he does. I work a full shift day, provide for everyone in all aspects and would still be expected to do everything? No he can help and get some milk instead of say it’s going on a week.. love the rest of the video, love their patience with each other and gems dropped thank you for the video 🫶🏼

[@CJC-ec6sk]

I was confused too but why he couldn’t just get milk this one time if she always has it locked down.

[@phyllisharris1206]

Great topic!!!! So glad to see you all on KZbin!!!!

[@SURVIVINGTOTHRIVING777]

❤777 JESUS CHRIST PROTECT ME AND MY CHILDREN LORD GOD PLEASE AND THANK YOU IN ADVANCE

[@demetriaslenford4347]

I love this ! ‼️

[@gabrielleholloway1204]

This was my scripture for the week!

[@aidaortiz7219]

“There’s going to be Grace upon me to help me get there.” Beautifully expressed! Thank you for your insight. 🙏🏼

[@lindajohnson2816]

This has blessed me ❤

[@staceymiller3125]

Keep the good work up i enjoy all of it

[@AJ-cy1mm]

I NEEDED THIS! Seriously! I love when she mentioned this chapter is like a highlight reel like Instagram and the Proverbs 31 woman still goes through the motions of daily life!! Truly a word.

[@katherinewanjiku3913]

Such a great Conversation❤❤

[@Ehipopo]

ready for this one!

[@audreygordon7941]

Beautiful encouragement!!

[@willarolen7581]

Congratulations on 24 years! The content is valuable to me! What you're saying is helpful and life changing!

[@shanaeingram541]

I’m so excited to hear you two on this topic 🎉😊

[@jessyjonas4988]

Amen Brethren Thanks for sharing this godly content

[@sipeilu1403]

Thank you for this program. Blessed so much from your videos.

[@michole3380]

So glad my pastor shared your page during one of our marriage ministry meetings.

[@sthompson8873]

Thank you for breaking this down and making it realistic!

[@materialgirlbudgets]

First time watching! And loved every bit of it!

[@Shanelle3309]

This was so wonderful, thank you 🙏🏾🫶🏾✨ God bless you all

[@lenci9524]

Great video. Thank you! GOD Bless both of You!

[@Mariya_ug]

❤❤❤ love love love the message. Taken notes to put to action 👏

[@latitiaezell334]

Love this Message! I’m a first time listener. Thanks y’all !

[@laurac9857]

Wow I really learned alot from this !❤ thanks so much 🙏 my pastors are the best! Miss yall in GNV

[@laridari1201]

Amen!! Thank you both for your amazing work. This really spoke to me. God is so good!!!

[@jaydatwinkle3729]

❤❤❤❤❤❤absolutely beautifully said. I enjoyed every detail said and the energy both of you released. I love your messages😍😍😍🥰

[@latrishagandy1831]

GOD Bless you both, Thanks for sharing.

[@amariiallen]

The way you speak of her is so beautiful! Loved this entire video, thank you ❤

[@jenriquefilms1634]

Love listening to this podcast again 🙏🏽 so much wisdom ❤️

[@user-oy3mk9bx1d]

So blessed.

[@reneruiz5871]

Life changing content from you guys. First time getting to hear these podcasts and was not part of my plans, my wife walks in and we were so blessed by a couple of the podcasts that we subscribed and going forward this is our go to for encouragement, wisdom, and growth tips in our spiritual life’s as leaders of our local church.

[@joyedet4731]

Thank You. It was absolute pleasure listening to this broadcast. God bless you.

[@jackierichardson1875]

Yes I second those conferences, that's a good idea

[@kimberlytate2623]

WOW THIS IS GOOD AND INSPIRING INFORMATION AND I APPRECIATE YOU BOTH🙏✝️❤

[@user-ni5zc2lm5e]

Really enjoy you show God bless you and your family

[@doretha946]

I enjoyed listening

[@Keonahawk24]

I truly love this couple. I’m not even married yet but they’ve helped me so much as an individual and preparing me for marriage. So thank you both for your support and diligence ❤

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

Glad to have you watching!

[@deborahsteele7389]

I am proud to say that I am a pioneer woman and finally a Proverbs 31 Wife.

[@gracechitauro8380]

Good topic!

[@NykiaBenit]

love this

[@bridgeyb]

I am a single woman of God and I have always had that want in my heart to have the qualities of a Prov. 31 woman. Yet I did feel somewhat condemned because it felt like so much work and that when I would try to for example wake up before dawn it would last for a week then I would cave and sleep in. But this has truly blessed me so much because I believe that I have the heart of a servant and long to make meals for my hard working future husband, to take care of my home and to strive to be a Prov. 31 woman! After this I no longer feel condemned but I feel encouraged that in this season of my life is the perfect time to work on myself and to become a Prov. 31 woman! God bless you both thank you so much for this! ❤️😊🙏

[@tisrael882]

Beautifully done! Gave me lots to meditate on and look towards!

[@veronicaphillips6602]

I love your information and encouragement it is a blessing. Keep on teaching it is needed. Thank you for my morning motivation ❤

[@HadleyFaith]

Glad I found this video!! Thank you for blessing us with these❤ subscribing now

[@raquelbetancourt1153]

This podcast is such a blessing to my life. God Bless! ❤

[@razorjazz2906]

This was such a blessing to me thank you both for allowing God to use you. Looking forward to many more episodes

[@fayrenekoroma4544]

The Podcasts have been a Blessing to my life. Thank you for your commitment to reach out to the family of Gid!

[@kassandrasmith4718]

First time I watch your podcast and I already love you ❤ THANK YOU! for this message. Praise God!

[@faithtembo]

Listening to this while cleaning , ❤ The Gospel is so accurate 🙏

[@user-uu2tr1xv3u]

Love you guys, all the way from Brussels, Belgium🇧🇪 🖤💛❤

[@ashleymonay9676]

I was studying proverbs 31 this week so this episode was sooo timely and very helpful!

[@lynnettenzembi6843]

Hey guys! I am new to this channel. I just watched a video yesterday on your channel and I loved it so much! Thank you for allowing God to use you guys to give this wholesome talk for people around the world who need to hear this. I am a young woman, yet to get married, but I am learning a lot and I've subscribed to your channel so that I may learn more from you.

[@khethiwengubo8035]

found you and you bless me, Love all away from South Africa, Cape Town

[@toursbydee]

This was so good. I'm going to give myself grace to correct my mistakes a become a virtuous woman. Your points and discussion were clear and to the point. Very easy to understand. Thank you and you have a new follower from Colombia!