Don't Abandon Yourself By Over Empathizing With Others

[@habitlab]

Very well articulated. Thank you!

[@santisanti8386]

A few years ago I wouldn't understand what you are talking about. I would think "empathy - you have it or you don't". After I cut contact with my narcissistic sibling, and the circle of friends, I just began to realize how much I was conditioned in my behavior patterns, including people pleasing and over empathizing. Conditioned by my own fears. Then I started to realize that people I over empathize with don't empathize with me. And I started to change my view on empathy...Not everyone deserves it to the extent I'm ready to give it. And I deserve it, too. So I really stopped overreacting on other people's problems and overriding my own feelings and needs. I do listen and genuinely empathize with them, but instead of having the need to solve everything for them, I'm just being present. Because that is realistically the most I can do most of the time If I can offer help, I do. But not every time. And I started to notice when I have the need to share and how others perceive it. And many times I come to the wall. Their absence. And that is ok. Now I know to what extent I was alone in some friendships, and I appreciate people who are present for me much more. This video really hit the cord with me. I love that it is an audio. Keep on doing what you're doing, you are really good at it. Upd: Omg, I've just seen that you are a Greek, I love Greece and Greeks.

[@kat.eleftheriou]

I'm so glad this resonated with you and that the topic made sense in the way I was trying to explain it. It's definitely something you have to learn over time, especially as a conditioned people-pleaser!

[@jrtg1990]

You are people as well (thus, please also yourself). 🎯

[@pravinsharma2105]

You were in my watch later playlist from months, never came here. And the day I came, even I found it hard to believe that for this very day the video was in my watch later list. What else can I say in order to show that how helpful it is. ❣️❣️❣️

[@kat.eleftheriou]

I'm so glad to hear that!

[@AdvaS]

Insanely insightful! Thank you so much🌸

[@kat.eleftheriou]

You're welcome!

[@jrtg1990]

This is so heartbreaking. It's so me. 😢

[@kat.eleftheriou]

:(