Its refreshing to see someone discuss real human psychology instead of monkey brain antics haha. Cheers

People around you can stop repeating patterns as well. Stop blaming yourself for other people treating you like garbage & stop tolerating others lying to your face. Don't listen to this nonsense, do whatever is good for you at whatever timeline you need.

While i generally probably agree with all that you are saying i think you could try to be more specific and use more real world examples to avoid ambiguities.

Good stuff, made me reflect on a job I am in the process of taking. Before the pandemic I was working in a warehouse and hated my life, I went to college and now 4 years later I am about to take a workshop job, with an very very long commute... Maybe I believe I am not smart enough to perform in a design job (what I went to college for) It's a hard economy now, at least that's what I am telling myself after no job and 8 months of applying

let's turn to God.Shepherd's Chapel you tube explains the whole Bible God bless.

I just discovered you through this video and WOW. You don't know how much I needed this today! Thank you for posting. May your holiday be wonderful!

Why I left Christianity and considering myself a Traditional Catholic for many years. I am not playing that role anymore. Got Free!! Thank u for this video as it can be applied in So many areas!

So you're basically admitting that all those years of therapy were useless because you keep going back to your old maladaptive behaviors...

As someone who has gone through lots of therapy, been told by therapists that the thing I struggle with they don't know how to approach for lack of experience or it being their personal struggle, have had to piece together information from books and other people, and is working in a master's training program to be a licensed professional counselor, I would like to offer the perspective that helped me the most. Things that I have felt divisive pulling (I felt both pulled to and away from these things, knowing they were not in my best interest) require an unintuitive approach. Shame/badness drives recidivism. The rebellious and subversive feel of this circumstance has a stronger appeal than the feeling of supporting your best self. This is the only reason. It's not that you ARE lacking anything, it that you desire a reason to FEEL the lack. You have never been lacking, and only the perception of lack drives insecure attempts to alleviate the lack, and so the AFFIRMATION of lack must end. The counter-intuitive approach requires acceptance. The next time there is an inevitable pull, you must give yourself full permission to engage AS IF it were the best choice. Take as much pleasure in the choice as if it was for your highest good. You must be completely freed from the allure of the rebellion, subversion, and affirmation of lack because it becomes a self-sustaining feedback loop. When you can learn to take it only as pleasure and not a function of enjoying pain + forbidden pleasure, you are able to really see how little it offers. Just like your video about being in love with the idea of a person and learning the person doesn't match, you must forsake the idea of the compulsion and experience it at face value. I must stress, this is not permission to be reckless. This is permission to fully embrace a choice you were going to make for reasons you don't yet understand in order to fully understand it. You said in a prior video that failures are not failures because you succeed in learning what you don't like. Apply this to the compulsion. This is the reality of shadow work. By taking direct and intentional action in the direction you feel like you are involuntarily heading (by leaning fully and intentionally into the compulsion) you take all of its power away. It is like steering into the spin when driving on ice. You must embrace that which is in the dark in order to actually bring it into the light. Every time the compulsion rises and you give it credit for being "out of alignment", you are looking away; you are keeping enough of it in the shadow to continue to hook you later. To return to alignment, you must steer into the spin temporarily to regain control. I hope this helps.

thank you 🤍

You can tell you have tried this a lot of times 😂 me too. It's deep foundational stuff that we need to become aware of like you say. This year I said goodbye to all the rest leftovers and bits that represented less than I deserve: friendships, job ect. Also potential romantic partner (I kept holding on energetically, really hard to let go... But a very interesting and deep process). Resulting in being alone the whole of 2024 and doing nothing 😂😂😂.... That black tunnel is a test. Let's see what is coming on the other side. Merry Christmas ❤ Great content!

just wanted to say, I really appreciate your videos a lot. stumbled upon your channel randomly some time ago. I find it comforting & encouraging to hear people on the internet who I literally feel like are voicing my thoughts, concerns & problems. oftentimes even when you finally get something, have an idea or start understanding something about the way you think your life should be, you still won't take yourself seriously until someone validates it(feels especially needed in chaos times when you can't make out things clearly or for example feel like you can't make decisions on your own). struggling with self doubt still, but slowly getting better. also just hearing that out there exist people thinking very similarly to me helps me realize I'm not insane for not taking what other people are constantly trying to push onto me. more often than not, trying to go with what alines with you feels like a constant tough fight. thank you for your work♡

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Your exceptional thinking saves me from feeling intellectually alone. ... Exactly, many people cannot see beyond themselves, often because emotional charges keep the person stuck in a specific corner of his mind.

The level of consciousness is like a hybrid language, only those who have common points with this type in the unconscious can intersect with it. ... One cannot read a language from the dictionary of another language.

So what’s the alternative? Do nothing? Setting goals and working towards them is how people feel accomplished in their life. Maybe that “insecurity” is a feeling telling you the life you’re living now isn’t enough. If everyone was satisfied with their lives, we’d still be living in the trees as hunter/gatherers.

I love your channel baby, thank you for your wisdom beautiful women ❤❤

I was with someone whose fantasy killed everything in his life. Destroyed my self esteem as well

I love your videos. You always seem to pop up with wisdom around something I've been dealing with/thinking about so thank you.

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Thank you ❤

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She is beautiful.

I figured it out. I'm an introverted nerd who has ADHD and Autism. Now that I'm aware of it it doesn't cripple me so much when i mess up or say something stupid.

I love this and I am exactly going through this realization.

Who are you and why your in my head lol

You can find small interdental brushes, more efficient and enjoyable than flossing! There are different systems and sizes available, worth a try ;-)

I like this idea, rings true for me. I have undertaken a lot of things from zero, and I realize having that faith in myself will keep me steadfast. thanks

Never thought about the difference.. woah!

Not handle but get. All I can get. The choice is the lesser thing or no thing.

Waiting for Darkness. Why doesn't anybody see, now? Deafened by silence. Why doesn't anybody hear? ~ Ozzy (1986)

When it comes to my code, I'm a professional figure-outer! 😂 When it comes to my life, I'm a professional noob! 😅

I love your message and delivery. I agree that we are on a journey, and the point of life is "figuring it out.t," and I am ok with this. Also just found your podcast

I really needed this today, thanks for posting and making this video!

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A lot of us fear failure because as children, often times, the punishment for failing was violence! This exact thing made me a perfectionist! Only after years of work on myself and therapy, I managed to get over it. But that's not the end of the story at all... A lot of us fear failure because of other people! We might have done the work, and we know that it's not a big deal, but our family or relatives haven't done the work! My family and relatives see me as a failure, as a loser, they don't wanna talk to me, and they're rejecting me outright! All because I don't fit their idea of success! And also, as a programmer, I come across a lot of juniors that are really scared to receive error messages when they're writing code. It breaks my heart, because I already know how traumatized they've must've been as children, to get in the situation that they're absolutely terrified of receiving error messages! Error messages are an essential part of programming! It's really hard for me to make them unlearn that fear, and to make them embrace it instead.

it's funny, that after 2 months me occasionally seeing and liking your videos on TikTok, now KZbin shows you to me,, hehe 🤗

Are you a human design projector? I feel like I’m listening to myself

Hey Kat Elefteriou! I saw your video on KZbin, and it was amazing and I must say you are providing great value to your audience. I was wondering if you need a Video Editor

Amazing ❤❤❤❤

Oh wow. You just made me understand the arc of Victor in Arcane. I thought it was just another lame "we are humans the way we are" kinda speech. Now it makes so much sense.

Oh my lanta that is a rollercoaster of a last name you have there

leave the internet

i recently followed you on substack and i’m glad that you also have a youtube channel. your words have really helped me. thank you, kat!

I like the use of the word practice as well. It’s intentional, specific

Your life is itself a practice; you are practicing living your life.❤🎉 CHEERS🥂

So it's a way to self-sabotage. Definitely interesting.

Thank you! 💜

The nice thing about practice, is that one day you'll realize that you are good at whatever you were practicing! You suddenly realize that you can do it without help, and can remember how to do it automatically! It's a beautiful and empowering feeling!

I struggle with skipping out on what will make me feel best and fulfilled because no one is watching, or feels like moving on without family knowing you're changing