Don't Answer, It’s Useless

In this Valentine's Day episode, to keep ourselves grounded, we're reading letters that famous writers produced to end their tumultous relationships - both amicably and... not quite.
TW: brief mention of s*icide attempt

[@panqueque445]

"She moved to France during the revolution" I guess we all do stupid things every once in a while

[@RicardoMoralesMassin]

My dearest Karolina: I must start my missive with a confession. I did not know you had a podcast and nearly skipped past this video thinking it would not be interesting. I apologize, since I could not have been more wrong. The tea was delicious and piping hot. Speaking as a latino, I relished in this historic chisme. My heart soared and sank; I audibly gasped. It was, as the kids say, a mood. I thank you for these moments of leisure that made my cooking of minced meat and rice so much more enjoyable and fruitful. I will be sure to seek out past and future episodes. Yours in interaction, Ricardo

[@michellenorthrup2059]

**faints in spanish**

[@wherefancytakesme]

That rejection of Ernest Hemmingway, in the words of Randy Feltface, "initiated a lifelong pattern of him rejecting women before they had a chance to reject him."

[@ArwenUndomiel406]

You just put my therapist out of a job.

[@rolom3]

So she made him develop an avoidant attachment style 😩

[@romainsavioz5466]

AND THE PLOT THICKENS

[@SplatterInker]

​​@@rolom3 made him... as if she had any control over his emotions?? Sounds like she was being responsible and calling off a relationship which was getting damn toxic.

[@lenabreijer1311]

She was being abused. She was afraid to tell him how she felt because he got angry and frightened her when she tried.

[@MaggieJaneSimpson]

" i am prettier, you are uGLy" 😂😂 that was so powerful and funny. she must have been fuming when she wrote this

[@SplatterInker]

For context r.e. Shelley... he's saying TO HIS LEGAL WIFE that she has no claim to him or his only because he loves someone else. He's essentially saying I'm your husband, you have to do what I say, and I say stop bothering me and claiming I owe you stuff. Forgetting, of course, that she is IN FACT owed stuff by virtue of being his wife. She could literally sue him for not maintaining her. And playing up one's love and affection was precisely what a woman petitioning her husband to step up did. So he's essentially trying to get out of looking after her and the kids

[@claremiller9979]

Also probably worth noting that Harriet committed suicide. Then Percy, the huge dumbass, drowned at the age of 29. A fitting end to an historical fuckboi if you ask me. Watching all this bullshit unfold no doubt influenced Lady Byron to raise Ada Lovelace to become a mathematician and stay the hell away from poets.

[@lilacfantasy4]

Sounds like the inspo of Victor "deadbeat dad" Frankenstein to me

[@chocobere]

"They both had problems with fidelity" I love that phrasing XD

[@GracieMae493]

That Percy was an absolute shmuck

[@EmissaryofWind]

I'm always there for Percy Shelley slander

[@zainab58]

Gilbert Imlay is summed up in one online article as “once a louse, always a louse.”

[@jamestolson2804]

Thanks! HAPPY VALENTINE DAY - add this to your collection💌💌

thank you so much! 🥰 happy Valentine’s Day!

[@jamestolson2804]

If I was a confident man from the past I would say “can't give you flowers because they would fade and wilt in shame compared to your beauty”@

[@jamestolson2804]

If I was a confident man from the past I would say “can't give you flowers because they would fade and wilt in shame compared to your beauty”😀@

[@babs420th9]

Karolina has a nose for finding these juicy old texts ❤. And we are SEATED! 🤗

[@EmmaCruises]

I’ve been watching the background image for so long while in my dark room, I think it’s burned into my eyelids 😂😂

[@oliviakot7972]

Love this episode! It's funny to see how the techniques used by toxic men haven't changed one bit 🙈 and the letter to Natalie? Savage!

[@maidende8280]

Edith Wharton is a QUEEN.

[@jamestolson2804]

“'Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.” Lord Alfred Tennyson

[@natevans8024]

impetuosity!!! such good words all around! Whenever i'm deep in an 1800s book, i start texting friends in this style. always a hit!

[@darthbee18]

I knew Percy had problems (I empathized with him even just a bit) but damn... his parting letter to Harriet didn't help things 🤦🏽‍♀🙈💀

[@emmelinesprig489]

Amazing point about how access to information is wonderful, but we all have an intuitive sense of justice and compassion. We each decide whether to act justly and compassionately, or not. We’re responsible for the outcomes of our actions, no matter how much or how little information we have.

[@selu1363]

I love this so much and would love to see more of these, especially if the test can be displayed on the screen as you read. It helps me keep on track, especially with my bad hearing!

[@laurapeter3857]

Try turning on the closed captioning. The auto generated text is pretty good and makes it easier to follow along.

[@Anonymous-zw9ud]

WOW! You really are our saviour. I've never thought of something like this before, and it's incredible! YOU are incredible. Thanks a lot. I love you...​@@laurapeter3857

[@hannahbradshaw2186]

Just burned my tongue on this scorching historical tea 🥵🔥😂

[@allenwalker3792]

I'm here for the piping hot tea and I'm loving it

[@_FMK]

In Percy's defence - he was so much under the gun (as a teenager) that to this day Eton refuses to house a bust of him due to his political opinions. It wasnt paranoia. As flawed as Shelley may have been, he was honest - to a fault - and atleast Mary's relationship with him allowed for the degree of freedom & comradary that prompted Mary to have busted out Frankenstein as a seventeen year old. *time & place, Crazy Times. *edit: Shelley wasnt that much older - then died at 32, in Pisa, after a crappy number of years on prescribed laudanum, somewhat loosing it with Byron (who might be a more fitting subject for bummer valentine letters!). Cheers Karolina, I love what you do and what you speak upon - but had to mention this! 😢💐 Not-withstanding, Mary chose that freedom & comraderie of her own accord - and we are all the better for the insights that she brought to Press! Edit upon edit: re. Mary's insights into what we now know as Transhumanism & AI

[@skeinofadifferentcolor2090]

A very happy Valentine's Day to you as well Karolina!! Listening while indulging in a candle lit bath with a glass of rosé prosecco.

[@Bildgesmythe]

The vocabulary back in the day! Now it would be WTF biach

[@kyaroriina2023]

Holy shet! Now “Farewell to Arms” makes sense 😂😂😂😂

[@ThePlut00galaxy]

I missed that you have started a podcast but it was perfect to go through the episodes while cleaning. I needed the motivation, lobe your vids and the love for history❤

[@philurbaniak1811]

👍👍 those are some beautiful letters! Except for Percy, he had the teenyweenypeeny energy 😆

[@carlyblack42]

Love these drama-ridden letters from the past!

[@whimsylore]

Edith Wharton's was especially amazing. 😮

[@neea8807]

Your french isn't bad at all! I understood everything you said, and it's better than how RDJ did as Sherlock Holmes.

[@sava-smth]

Daaamn. Thats some nicely aged tea. You go Mother 🤘

[@Morth1989]

OMG this is perfect ❤❤❤ Podcast that I didn't know I needed but now I will be waiting impatiently for another episode. Thank you Karolina ❤❤❤

[@mickey_san]

Absolutely wonderful tea, thank you for serving ✨

[@jamestolson2804]

Love Hurts Song by Nazareth 1974 "Love hurts, love scars Love wounds and marks Any heart Not tough or strong enough To take a lot of pain"

[@hollyingraham3980]

"Love Hurts" is a song written and composed by the American songwriter Boudleaux Bryant. First recorded by the Everly Brothers in July 1960, the song is most well known in two hit versions by UK artists; by Scottish hard rock band Nazareth in 1974 and by English singer-songwriter Jim Capaldi in 1975.

[@jamestolson2804]

@hollyingraham3980 you know more than I do, didn't research

[@darthbee18]

Happy Valentine's Day to you too Karolina, hope you pass it with heaps of chocolate! 😆 Don't listen to David Bowie's Valentine's Day (...or do, at your own risk 🤪). Have a nice time (with heaps of chocolates, or snacks 😺) to anyone else reading this comment 😹

[@cutehollygolightly]

Thanks! You too!! What a nice comment!❤

[@hannastewart668]

Thank you for making this podcast! 😊 it is so interesting and I’m looking forward to the next one! 💕

[@jamestolson2804]

Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies. Aristotle

[@NeneChan203]

LOOOOOOOOOVE this format so much! I hope it won't stop!

[@anastasialudwika]

Just finished listening to the podcast. Now, that's a perfect theme for this day!😆🤘🏻Girl, you slay! That's cool!

[@jamestolson2804]

Love Is All Around Song by The Troggs 1967

[@madelynbryan5712]

yet another BANGER from karolina, she cannot be stopped

[@edb7121]

Thank you dear Karolina for the perfect Valentine's day episode!

[@lfgifu296]

Happy Valentine all👹👹

[@babs420th9]

And to you! ☕🍰💘👒⚘🥰

[@alazaiswalters3060]

Your French is so good!! 😱😱 Is there anything Karolina can’t do?!?!

[@dishasarmaxd]

you are right people have always been the same and will continue to be the very same

[@mothmallow]

I recently did a series of game boxes about Mary and Percy Shelley's toxic romance. 😅😅

[@tiredgirl1656]

I’m obsessed with this episode

[@indiabilly]

This is brilliant! The perfect mood for today xx

[@reay1864]

im really loving these podcast episodes so far. i really hope you continue them!

[@flowermeerkat6827]

I loved the theme and the letters. Very appropriate for Valentines Day.

[@HaapainenRouske]

Yay another episode! So excited!

[@adrianapeace3601]

omfg a new ep already!? hellll yeah

[@KeilaBevins]

Listening to this doing my valentines day makeup uwu

[@ellierose6]

I hadn't read her letters. I think you should do more literary spots. Loved this.

[@Heothbremel]

These are great and I wish people would still write things like this when they feel that sort of way...

[@snehapradhan5591]

this was so good!! and the Ernest Hemingway one was so so interesting, i never knew that happened!

[@MystearicaClaws]

Yaaaay! Thank you! I just don't"t have time to go to listen on other apps. I add everything to one queueue and let it play

[@smiley32190art]

I love your accent!! Happy to hear it so much

[@jamestolson2804]

Even unrequited love is too

[@jamestolson2804]

love is not about self

[@diamondslashranch]

I enjoyed this very much !

[@DaisyOfDeath]

Love this soooo cool!

[@SandieMitchell]

Daaaaamn, that was magnificent!

[@KathrynHenny]

I love this episode. *After reaching the end of the episode I am further convinced of the merits of journaling to pull out one's feeling and face them more head on. Doesn't really matter how the recipient responded as much as how the writer feels after.

[@jenniferroxy5956]

Oooo this tea is SPICY!!🌶🌶🌶🌶 LOVIN IT!

[@ProfessorChaosKitty]

Wow. Percy Shelley really was a total Bysshe

[@jamestolson2804]

ELVIN BISHOP [ FOOLED AROUND AND FELL IN LOVE ] 1977

[@daxxydog5777]

Nothing changes, same old, same old!

[@bones642]

Yessss perfection

[@rosesrosesroses]

Was not expecting a Natalie Barney mention but I got super excited when she came up!! (Also she didn’t so much have ‘problems with fidelity’ as she wanted to be polyamorous and her lovers had problems with that)

[@thebanditking8502]

YAY NEW TEXTORY EPISODE LETS GOOOOOO

[@anastasialudwika]

Wow, new video! *Podcast

[@New_Wave_Nancy]

I think your French pronunciation was good! (Granted, I'm merely an American who is always working on French so I don't embarrass myself too much on frequent visits to France.)

[@Aisuzuni]

Your French was pretty good ! I didn’t feel like you butchered my language 😊 It was a nice episode to listen to. I can’t wait for the next one

[@solventman8307]

I'd LOVE to see a video in which You explain how You find all these concrete historical sources in the first place

[@frankharr9466]

My favorite so far, I shall refrane from stating the not-so-good role I once played. I was a jerk.

[@marcherwitch9811]

the shelley one is way worse than you realised... it diesn't mean cruel, it's mean as in "mobey grubbing"... he's saying "why are you asking for child support?!? i thought we were friends! but if being my friend isn't good enough i guess i'm out of your life for good!"

[@nyves104]

💜💜💜💜

[@onecrafternoon7046]

I had no idea you had a podcast ??? 😱🤩

[@anastasialudwika]

That's a theme 😂🤘🏻

[@caitthegreat2102]

❤❤❤❤❤

[@dutchhistoricalactingcolle5883]

Shelley's wife drowned herself, he wrote a terrifying poem about her corpse...'The cold earth slept below'...

[@TikoVerhelst]

24:11 it reminds me of a beautifull Dutch song called "Dat wij verschillen van elkaar" with the first two lines (translated to English of course) "We only differ from each other, in those thirty years that distance we always keep us from each other" kzbin.info/www/bejne/eWPMdXRtbceZas0 It sounds cursed but it's beautifull;' "That we are different from each other Ìt's only in those thirty years That distance will continue to separate us You say you don't mind that But look at my graying hair That can't lead to anything anymore You say I'm the first man Who you can truely really love It is written on your face I know what you do see in me But dear child, make no mistake I really don't want to be your father Because this surely doesn't seem like anything? A child of barely eighteen years old You are so sweet, you are so sweet but inexperienced We really don't suit each other That we are different from each other Ìt's only in those thirty years That distance will continue to separate us But the feeling I experience That reveals itself in my gesture Don't let that mislead you You know very well that I like you And that from the very first day I surely would like to tell you That I love you very much And surely wanted to marry you I don't know how to explain it Because this surely doesn't seem like anything? A child of barely eighteen years old You are so sweet, you are so sweet but inexperienced We really don't suit each other There is certainly someone else With less a heart and less a brain Whose youth I certainly do envy That we are different from each other It's in those thirty years That distance will continue to separate us" Is the singer a p3do? I don't think so. It sounds more like a teacher or another authority figure, like a nurse, explaining how big age caps will not lead to anything good. With the "I'd like to marry you" line meaning they would say that, but never actually want that. Or saying "even if all of this is legal, and even if I want it as much as you do, than we still shouldn't do this" which I think is what makes the song and also the letter you read so beautiful. When you love someone so much you have to tell them you don't love them. (love having multiple meanings here)

[@jamestolson2804]

too short - could be a book. I enjoyed it

[@jamestolson2804]

faith, hope, and love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

[@jamestolson2804]

I think many of the letters are not about real love - lasting, heroic, & selfless

[@annimanidolls]

Who would have thought. Tea so old but still so hot.

[@kohakuaiko]

If possible, could you please add chapters to these in the future? Thank you ❤

[@spacecatandthekittens1954]

The audacity of this Bysshe!

[@supernova0302]

❤😊🤗 ✌️

[@mascadadelpantion8018]

I love turn up the fantasy influencers😂

[@f0restangel]

MOTHER POSTED

[@moda78z]

👍👍

[@RubyRollsOfficial]

[February 17, 2024] I didn't know you have a podcast now

[@Eli-rk3lr]

Love that a messy lesbian affair was included ❤❤❤ Also your french prononciation was very good !!

[@nelliebly6616]

❤😮😊

[@kimberlyflanigan]

where do we send the chocolate ?

[@faireduchemin]

❤🍿❤🍿❤🍿

[@pippaseaspirit4415]

Sorry, Karolina, but I’d much rather see you saying this than just hear you. I’m slightly reliant on lip-reading, and I can’t turn the volume up without disturbing others.

[@_liberte]

Try turning on captions? I do it sometimes. Hope this helps

[@daniellecheminant1580]

What I want to know is where did they find these letters?

[@jul.m.2692]

Mary Wollstonecraft didn't believe in or wanted to get married, at least at the time. She was that kind of feminist.

[@Geekyfabulous]

12:46 i need a diagram

[@user-lp2vz7jx7c]

this did not come up in my subscription?